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Why You’re Trash-Ass Trash If You Use Negro Bed Wench As An Insult, Explained

What is a Negro Bed Wench?

Many things! A reliable hotep identifier. An ash magnet, as anyone who says it immediately becomes engulfed in a shroud of ash, like a chimney sweep with sentience. A valuable source of time efficiency, as hearing those three words in succession lets you know you don’t ever have to listen to anything else that person says. And a meaningless and historically inaccurate term conjured out of thin-ass hotep air to make people feel bad. It’s basically hotep Coke Zero.

Wait, what?

Nevermind.

Anyway, you’ll find this “insult” lobbed at Black women who date interracially. And Black women who claim to be feminists. And Black women who watch Scandal. And Black women who get french toast sticks at brunch instead of waffles. And Black women who use lotion. And Black women with first names starting with the letters “B,” “D,” “E,” “J,” “K,” “M,” “S,” “T,” and “Z.” And Black women with first names starting with all the letters I forgot to list. And Black women who possess the audacity to menstruate. The criteria for Negro Bed Wench distinction is pretty arbitrary. If you’re reading this and you happen to be a Black woman, that means (among other things) that you can read. Which might actually qualify you for Negro Bed Wenching.

I see. So, what does Negro Bed Wench even refer to? Why is it an insult?

During slavery, many enslaved Black women were raped by the men who owned them. Sometimes children would be a result of these rapes, leading some people, even today, in two thousand fucking seventeen, to refer to those women as their masters’ mistresses. An act which either minimizes or outright ignores the fact that ownership obviates sexual agency.

Last week, the homie Britni Danielle offered a thorough deconstruction of the egregious imprecision and the violence of referring to these women as mistresses.

From The Washington Post:

Just before the Fourth of July, NBC News ran a feature on the room, setting off a spate of coverage about the dig. Many of these stories described Hemings, the mother of six children with Jefferson, as the former president’s “mistress.” The Inquisitr, the Daily MailAOL and Cox Media Group all used the word (though Cox later updated its wording). So did an NBC News tweet that drew scathing criticism, though its story accurately called her “the enslaved woman who, historians believe, gave birth to six of Jefferson’s children.” The Washington Post also used “mistress” in a headline and a tweet about Hemings’s room in February.

Language like that elides the true nature of their relationship, which is believed to have begun when Hemings, then 14 years old, accompanied Jefferson’s daughter to live with Jefferson, then 44, in Paris. She wasn’t Jefferson’s mistress; she was his property. And he raped her.

Negro Bed Wench is a reference to that; insinuating that 1. these women voluntarily gave themselves to the men who literally owned them and 2. Black women today who happen to date White men and/or possess the temerity to critique patriarchy and hotepity are the metaphysical descendants of those women.

Wait, so the people who use Negro Bed Wench are making glib references to the abject and unspeakable horrors experienced by Black women?

They are.

Do they realize this?

Maybe?

Can you imagine the outcry if a Holocaust-related insult about Jewish women became as ubiquitous as Negro Bed Wench has?

I can’t.

What the fuck is wrong with these people?

I don’t know.

Damon Young

Damon Young is the editor-in-chief of VSB. He is also a columnist for GQ.com And he's working on a book of essays to be published by Ecco (HarperCollins). Damon is busy. He lives in Pittsburgh, and he really likes pancakes. Reach him at damon@verysmartbrothas.com. Or don't. Whatever.

  • BM, President of Fuckery

    I mean its just another example of folks trying to be woke without really criticality engaging and thinking.

    “Argle bargle black female r like yt guy, she r slave becauz yt guy r own slave B 4.”

  • People other than Hotep Pimpington use that term? I saw it floating around on the twitter this morning then @daniecal referred to Roland Martin and Umar Johnson as “The Negro Nathan Lane and the Hotep Alex Jones.” My sides started hurting and I left.

    • ThatJerseyGirl

      Roland Martin as “The Negro Nathan Lane.”
      Time of death: 3:05 PM.

  • Lisss

    No need to make it complicated or give an elaborate response.
    Its simply a term for black men who hate black women.
    That’s it.

    • cysinblack

      Bed wench is very specific and cannot be brushed off as merely hateful like b and h.

      • On the specificity of that term: black women who refuse to sleep with them, I think.

        • SororSalsa

          And refuse to let those men marginalize them for having the audacity to say no to a Hotep feckboy.

    • siante

      & for black men who hate themselves.

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      • Yahmo Bethere

        Let’s not soften the hatred by pretending that they don’t hate us. They DO. They can like themselves plenty fine and just hate you. Black = male.

        • siante

          I don’t think it’s softening the hatred to identify the “root” issue. A lot of Black men who claim to hate black women struggle daily with hating what they see in the mirror, so they project their own issues onto black women.

    • DASSIT!

    • Mel

      Black women who will not entertain the trifling, immature, selfish behavior they wish to share with you because you should be GRATEFUL, that such a prize is willing to look upon you.

    • nsu1997

      So you’re saying there’s no such thing as a female version of an Uncle Tom?

      • Aria Whitaker

        Of course, but calling them a name associated with Black slave RAPE victims is not accurate or logical.

        • Cool

          Then what should they be called? Some of those women slept with the master willingly to elevate their treatment and status.

          • Aria Whitaker

            How about we don’t call each other names due to who we love? Wacky idea huh?

          • Resplendence

            “Willingly”, though? You think women who were the legal property of white men had the privilege of only doing something because they were “willing” to do it? Do you know anything about slavery at all? Do you understand the concept of consent and what it really means?

          • Aria Whitaker

            How do you know?

        • nsu1997

          Noted…but the term “negro bed wench” doesn’t have anything to do with rape though. A negro bed wench would be someone like Sheba on Django Unchained. It’s a completely voluntary arrangement.

          • Aria Whitaker

            No, Sheba was extremely, EXTREMELY rare. That’s like saying Lions aren’t tan/brown colored animals because there are white albino ones. Exceptions never disprove the rule, and that term was not coined for “Shebas”, but for the women in servitude forced to please their “owners”. Don’t let Hollywood get you twisted. The very large majority were definitely slaves, forced into that “arrangement” …not consenting women in love. How about we all grow tf up and not call any BM or BW names for who they fell in love with? Crazy concept, I know…

            • nsu1997

              We simply disagree on the definition. No big deal. Totally agree with you, I hate that black folks tend to use such nasty divisive terms to refer to one another. No other race does this.

            • Transbutter

              100% AGREED

  • Val

    The saddest and most disgusting thing is some of Sally Hemmings’ Black descendants are actually proud to be descendants of that rapist Thomas Jefferson.

    • BM, President of Fuckery

      Whiteness is the most potent and addictive drug.

    • KMN

      Like that commercial where they have descendants of the signers reading from the DOI like gtfohwtbs

      • Val

        Right! I saw that nonsense. I was like WTF!

        • KMN

          Listen I didn’t know what it was when I first saw it…I just saw a bunch of black folks I thought it was a covert BLM commercial or some ish like that. Then the ending came up and I just looked at that tv and them side eyed like nicca REALLY….alla yall need to quit

      • Brother Mouzone

        And you notice who is placed front and center….a Black woman.

        • KMN

          EXACTLY like why sis why

      • overandout

        …you dont know when the melanin entered the family. I think it sends a good point.

    • Mr. Mooggyy

      Yeah, that’s just crazy all in itself!

    • Theres an ad running on TV right now about this Black guy saying how proud he was after finding out his ancestor was Jefferson. I’m like, “he GOTS to be doing it for the check.”

    • cysinblack

      Because he’s Thomas Jefferson and not some ordinary white man from back in the day.

    • Mary Burrell

      Have you seen that Ancestor.com commercial with the black man looking at Thomas Jefferson portrait saying how he was proud to have Jefferson’s nose? I blank stared at the television.??

    • THIS!!! They need to be suing for reparations..and trauma.. and they were skinning and grinning at the white folks… Biih

    • My family has a reunion named after one of the family rapists. Sadly, there are quite a lot of them. Responsible for new generations. I imagine it is hard for a lot of Black families to figure out what to do/feel/take pride in with these histories. I do feel a fondness for some of my rapist Grandfathers. It seems almost encoded in your DNA to love your family.

      Maybe that’s why I watch so much Law and Order SVU lol? Maybe I am hoping Olivia will help me sort through some of that. What is the correct thing to feel about our rapist Daddies?

      • Val

        Wow, Andrea, I have no idea. I think many of us have had to and are dealing with this though. All I can do is give you a *ehug*.

      • grownandsexy2

        I watch SVU and I don’t remember Olivia having warm feelings for her rapist dad. I don’t believe I could love someone who raped my mom, unless I bonded with/grew to love him before I was made aware of his vile actions. Then I’d be conflicted.

        • Yes. It is particularly confusing to learn that history after forming emotional bonds.

    • grownandsexy2

      I got that impression too, because he’s white. *Sigh* The white family members didn’t seem to share their sentiments.

  • BM, President of Fuckery

    What makes a man hotep? Is it like the Venom Symboite where in an attempt to gain a black suit and fight for good, black Parkers only end up hurting those they care about and produce Venom?

    • Val

      Ignorance + insecurity + self-hate = Hotep

      • Darkchloe144

        +ank +africanflagcolors – moisturizer = hotep

        • MakesMeWannaShoopShoopShoop

          Ankh Right someone once called them

        • Val

          Lol

        • Ess da 5’6″

          Not an ankh, tho?! I won’t lie, back in college I did want an ankh tattoo. But this was also the height of the neo soul era (early 2000s, so I feel like it seemed appropriate).

          • Mr. Mooggyy

            Yea that neo soul era had folks walking around with incense, lighting candles and wearing the ankh around your neck! Swaying back and for to the music!

            You are excused!

            • cakes_and_pies

              And reciting terrible poetry in the vein of “Love Jones” and Def Poetry Jam.

          • BrothasKeeper

            We fall down. And that D’angelo video had y’all wimmen sweeping up all the black soap you could find.

            • Ess da 5’6″

              It was a whole thing, BK! D’Angelo. Badu and her head wraps and silver jewelry (I do still like silver jewelry, don’t get me wrong). Bilal. Jilly from Philly.

              Woooo, boy!

          • I actually dated someone who had a big ol’ Ankh POSTER above their bed. Interestingly enough, she didn’t really date Black guys until I showed up. LOL

            • Ess da 5’6″

              So, what did she think she was connecting to with that ankh?

              • MsSula

                The third eye deep inside her legs. Loll.

                • grownandsexy2

                  lol

              • Hmmm. She was Black. I was Black. She had a phatty and was cool as heck. She liked what I was holding. *kanyeshrug*

                I do have a long track record of dating swirlers, including my ex wife. That is something I really have to think about

                • Ess da 5’6″

                  No, I guess I was shining light on my own narrow views lol.

                  I assume the ankh lovers among us (especially in the early 2000s) were very much the “My brotha, my sista. We were the first peoples of the earth.” So I was trying to square my lack of understanding with how she could be a swirler in love with ankhs (and what most folks assume they represent).

                  • The thing is that she had those sorts of tendencies. People are strange. LOL

        • Simms~

          You not right for this. *tears*

      • Mr. Mooggyy

        Plus the look of stank breath and desperation!

      • Ari

        And that’s all there is to it. Hi Val!

        • Val

          Ari! It’s so good to see you! Missed you around here. How are you?

          Bookmark this page and visit us here sometimes: https://valroneposts.tumblr.com/

          Just click on the “‘blank hours ago” link on the bottom right of each post to get to the comments.

          • Ari

            I’m good – buried in work. Plus even being an incognito introvert in these comment sections is draining so I have to retreat every once in a while. How are you? Thanks for the link.

            • Val

              I understand. I’m enjoying summer so far. Please stop by and say hi when you can.

              *eHUG*

      • BrothasKeeper

        Fliers with typos + leather kufis in the summer + affinity for YT sckrippas + rambling 60 minute YouTube tirades – degrees = hotep.

        • Mr. Mooggyy

          But what if you “speak yo speech” and have gorillas as your symbol of “rage”?

          • BrothasKeeper

            Category 5 hotep. Especially if you changed your name from Da’Kwelvin Robinson to Jabari Sankofa Kimana….sorry, DR. Jabari Sankofa Kimana.

    • is this a rhetorical question?

      i’m trying to stick to my new years resolution to not answer rhetorical questions.

    • Hadassah

      You asking a very obvious question.

  • Mr. Mooggyy

    I just don’t understand how folks think all these enslaved women chose to sleep with their slave masters! Like, really ni99a!?

    • MakesMeWannaShoopShoopShoop

      Even if they did, it was was not for the pleasure.

      • grownandsexy2

        It makes me sick to even think of anyone touching me I’m not chexually attracted to. I’d really have to have an out of body experience to get through it.

    • grownandsexy2

      “Sally Hemings (1773-1835) was lady’s maid to Jefferson’s daughters, and also worked as a chambermaid and seamstress. She spent two years in Paris, after accompanying nine-year-old Mary Jefferson across the ocean. According to her son Madison, Sally Hemings began a relationship with Jefferson in Paris and bore him a number of children”

      Revisionist history is real. I wanna throw up every time I read how Sally began a relationship with this predator.

      • Ms.Moon

        She was also his sister in law, Elizabeth Hemings (her mom) had several children one of them Sally to Jefferson’s wife’s father.

  • MakesMeWannaShoopShoopShoop

    My real name starts with a ” S” am I a bed wench?

    • KMN

      yes unfortunately :(

      • MakesMeWannaShoopShoopShoop

        The fact that is it is of Scandanavian origins surely pushes me over the line.

    • well..yeah, sorry.

      if there’s any solace, since i’m a black male, i’m trash

      Right, Twitter?

      • MakesMeWannaShoopShoopShoop

        Lol. A ho perhaps but never trash

        • nah, a black female account said men are trash (and we all know Goddesses are infallible) , simps (ahhh sorry i’m trying to get better) black male accounts cosigned …ergo i am simply trash…guess i take myself out tuesdays and thursdays

          • MakesMeWannaShoopShoopShoop

            STEWPSSSS. Sometimes the days are just too much especially when fauxlosophers and theofauxtians get thrown into the mix

          • cakes_and_pies

            Black male accounts constantly co-signing all of it are trying to “White Knight” and get in them draws.

      • BM, President of Fuckery

        Do dudes really get their feelings hurt by those tweets? I just laugh like when my LGBTQ friends talk trash about straight people.

        • MakesMeWannaShoopShoopShoop

          You will be surprised what super masculine guys get into their feels for.

          • BM, President of Fuckery

            Idk perhaps because being a man is such a small part of my identity I ignore it.

        • hoteps calling black women NBW is bad
          black women calling black men trash, roll off the shoulders

          *jots down in notebook*
          #HHHStopBeingDifficult

        • DizzyLizzyGyal

          A hit dog will holler lol I don’t get upset with things that don’t apply to me so these ashy dudes getting mad are tellin on themselves

    • Ess da 5’6″

      Shiiiddddd. We in the same boat then.

      • MakesMeWannaShoopShoopShoop

        And I have a triple wammy. Second name starts with T and my names all three and surname aint black – very European

        • Ess da 5’6″

          My last name is definitely Anglo. My middle name saves me, I guess lol

    • Simms~

      Same. Welcome to the club I guess.

  • When ypipo get outraged for facts being said like “she was raped” or tweeting the fucking declaration of independence on the 4th of july. My Soul does cartwheels.
    “So did an NBC News tweet that drew scathing criticism, though its story accurately called her “the enslaved woman who, historians believe, gave birth to six of Jefferson’s children.” may the clear tears pour down your clear face.

  • miss t-lee

    Ughhhhh. I hate this term, and the people who use this term.
    Normally followers of a certain person who I shall not name.
    Idiots, the lot of them.

    • HO-tep Pim-ping’-ton!

      • miss t-lee

        I wanna hit dude with a sack of nickels.

    • Brown Rose

      There is the Black guy on youtube….man that guy is possessed. I forgot his name but he reallllllly hates Black women.

      • “There is the Black guy on youtube….man that guy is possessed. I forgot his name but he reallllllly hates Black women”

        This could be 40 different black dudes on Thou Tube.

        • Brown Rose

          I know man..hahahaha. But he was really popular with anything but a Black woman crowd and hoteps. His name escapes me. He is one ugly dude though.

        • miss t-lee

          You bet me too it, Wu…lol

      • miss t-lee

        It’s growing cottage industry.

      • BrothasKeeper

        Tommy Sotomayor?

        • Brown Rose

          THANK YOU. Yes…that guy BK.

          • BrothasKeeper

            Whoever hurt him did a number on him.

            • Brown Rose

              Couldn’t even get through one video. there is something so broken and wrong with him. *yeesh*.

            • My understanding is that his mom beat him like a rented mule as a kid and did some other foul stuff. Plus his baby mom blocked him from seeing his kid. Someone dropped the tea a couple of years back.

        • Deeds

          I remember being in a YouTube rabbit hole of his videos, dude having issues is an understatement.

          • miss t-lee

            The biggest of understatements.

          • grownandsexy2

            I’ve never seen his videos but he sounds mentally ill.

      • grownandsexy2

        I think BM of his ilk really hate their mothers and themselves, but since it’s not acceptable to hate your mother, they focus their hatred on BW.

    • cakes_and_pies

      I call him the Brand Ambassador to Shea Moisture.

      • miss t-lee

        LMAO

    • Coco

      Don’t mess with the “nasheed-hive”, they dragged me for days lol. Funnily enough, his wife is biracial. And he only speaks negatively of WMBW, nothing but praises to BM with WW, until someone is accused of rape.

      • miss t-lee

        You see the jig. It’s out past Jupiter.

  • NoDramaCiCi

    Read only the title and shared this on Facebook! Now I’m back to read it…

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