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Why “Well-Meaning” White People Like WTAE-TV’s Wendy Bell, The White Privilege Turducken, Are The Worst

Wendy Bell is a lead anchor for WTAE-TV, Pittsburgh’s ABC affiliate. I’ve never met her in person before, but I know many people who have. And she’s generally regarded as a pleasant, kind, and professional woman.

And, like many otherwise pleasant, kind, and professional White people, Wendy Bell is utterly clueless about race, White privilege, and how her privilege contributes to her tone deaf myopia in regards to race. This was made clear earlier this week, when the anchor took to Facebook to share her thoughts about the massacre in Wilkinsburg.

Now, before I continue, I want to note that what I’m doing today isn’t coming from a place of outrage. I am more exhausted and sobered by this than angry or offended. I do not wish for Bell to be fired. Plus, if possessing White privilege and existing unaware of that possession was just cause for termination, the White unemployment rate would be 394%. America has a unique talent for mass producing Wendy Bells like they were sheet metals or hot dog buns. Instead, I’m just using her words to articulate how virulent (and damn annoying) this particular strain of back-pattingly well-meaning Whiteness can be.

***Also, after receiving criticism for her post, Bell edited it. What exists on her Facebook page now is not what was initially published. This piece, however, will reference the original.***

Next to “If I’ve told you once, I’ve told you a thousand times,” I remember my mom most often saying to my sister and me when we were young and constantly fighting, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”

Bell begins her post with a reminder of how grounded and steeped in working class sensibilities she happens to be. Leading with this type of paragraph is a common and relatively harmless linguistic ploy writers often use to communicate their connections to their target audience. It’s saying “I might be a fancy news anchor now, but I’m a soccer mom just like you at heart” without actually saying it.

I’ve really had nothing nice to say these past 11 days and so this page has been quiet. There’s no nice words to write when a coward holding an AK-47 hoses down a family and their friends sharing laughs and a mild evening on a back porch in Wilkinsburg. There’s no kind words when 6 people are murdered. When their children have to hide for cover and then emerge from the frightened shadows to find their mother’s face blown off or their father’s twisted body leaking blood into the dirt from all the bullet holes.

I find it hard to believe that nothing nice worth talking about has happened in the 11 days between the murders and Bell deciding to write about them. But I’ll take her word for it and picture a sad and sullen Wendy Bell at a Starbucks in Sewickley last week — teary-eyed, tense, and teetering on the edge of a panic attack — as a barista asks for her order and she replies “I…just. I…just. I just can’t.

Also, “frightened shadows,” “mother’s face blow off,” and “father’s twisted body leaking blood into the dirt from all the bullet holes” is some Grade A top-notch misery porn.

There’s just been nothing nice to say. And I’ve been dragging around this feeling like a cold I can’t shake that rattles in my chest each time I breathe and makes my temples throb. I don’t want to hurt anymore. I’m tired of hurting.

Not even 100 words in and she’s already making it about herself. Her pain. Her agony. Her anxiety. This isn’t about the murders. It’s about how the murders are making her, well-meaning White lady, feel. And she just can’t take it anymore. All of these feelings. That she feels.

You needn’t be a criminal profiler to draw a mental sketch of the killers who broke so many hearts two weeks ago Wednesday. I will tell you they live within 5 miles of Franklin Avenue and Ardmore Boulevard and have been hiding out since in a home likely much closer to that backyard patio than anyone thinks. They are young black men, likely teens or in their early 20s. They have multiple siblings from multiple fathers and their mothers work multiple jobs. These boys have been in the system before. They’ve grown up there. They know the police. They’ve been arrested. They’ve made the circuit and nothing has scared them enough. Now they are lost. Once you kill a neighbor’s three children, two nieces and her unborn grandson, there’s no coming back. There’s nothing nice to say about that.

There are so many things here to unpack that I don’t where to begin. Instead, I’ll just list some of the things Bell either implies or just outright says here.

1. Although she’s a news anchor, Bell apparently moonlights as Sherlock fucking Holmes.

2. Along with being Sherlock fucking Holmes, she’s Sigmund fucking Freud.

3. Although the police are combing through the entire state looking for the people responsible for this, Wendy Bell says the shooters are just hiding in a closet in an apartment across the street. If any Pittsburgh-area police officers are reading this, why haven’t you looked in the closets across the street? If Wendy “Sherlock fucking Holmes” Bell can solve this crime, why can’t you?

4.  Maybe we don’t know who killed these people. But we do know their mommas are some broke Black hoes. If you round up all the broke Black hoes in Wilkinsburg — all the women with multiple jobs and multiple baby daddies — you’ll find the people who did this.

There are so many layers and layers and layers to Bell’s abject obliviousness to how racist this is; all made clear by the fact that she thought it was fine to print it. She’s practically a White privilege lasagna caught in the throat of a White privilege turducken.

But there is HOPE. And Joe and I caught a glimpse of it Saturday night. A young, African American teen hustling like nobody’s business at a restaurant we took the boys to over at the Southside Works. This child stacked heavy glass glasses 10 high and carried three teetering towers of them in one hand with plates piled high in the other. He wiped off the tables. Tended to the chairs. Got down on his hands and knees to pick up the scraps that had fallen to the floor. And he did all this with a rhythm and a step that gushed positivity. He moved like a dancer with a satisfied smile on his face. And I couldn’t take my eyes off him. He’s going to Make It.

Oh boy. This paragraph is so perfect — so emblematically, contextually, problematically, and specifically Privileged Ass White American — that I want to kiss it. I want to take it out for a nice seafood dinner and never call it again. I would drink this paragraph’s daddy’s bathwater. With a straw.

Seriously, read this scribbled-on-some-toilet-paper-at-a-Hallmark-factory-bathroom bullshit again. And think about the state of mind that allows someone to juxtapose that awful tragedy with a night at the Cheesecake Factory. As if there’s any connection between the two besides the race of the server and the race of the victims. And, I don’t know, the fact that they’re both made out of space dust.

Also, let’s take a moment to think about this poor server boy. Who was probably just trying to do his job while wondering why this weird White woman kept smiling at him all night long. But, if he happens to read this, he now knows that that weird White woman pictured him as some post-racial savior fantasy melange of Sammy Davis Jr., Stepin Fetchit, and Calvin from the McDonald’s commercials.

When Joe paid the bill, I asked to see the manager. He came over to our table apprehensively and I told him that that young man was the best thing his restaurant had going. The manager beamed and agreed that his young employee was special. As the boys and we put on our coats and started walking out — I saw the manager put his arm around that child’s shoulder and pat him on the back in congratulation. It will be some time before I forget the smile that beamed across that young worker’s face — or the look in his eyes as we caught each other’s gaze. I wonder how long it had been since someone told him he was special.

If that Black boy wouldn’t have met that back-pattingly well-meaning White lady, he might have ended up a murderer with a broke-ass Black mom hiding in a closet in the same house he just murdered eight people in. Now, though, he has a future. A bright future. A future so bright it’s practically White. All due to Wendy Bell. Who needs Walker, Texas Ranger when Pittsburgh has Wendy Bell, Professional White Woman?

There’s someone in your life today — a stranger you’re going to come across — who could really use that. A hand up. A warm word. Encouragement. Direction. Kindness. A Chance. We can’t change what’s already happened, but we can be a part of what’s on the way. Speak up. Reach out. Dare to Care. Give part of You to someone else. That, my friends, can change someone’s course. And then — just maybe THEN — I’ll start feeling again like there’s something nice to say.

Naturally, Bell ends her screed — which, again, began with the death of devastation of numerous families — by making it about herself, again. If we ever want Wendy Bell to feel good enough to bless the world with her delicious thoughts, we Must Be Better. We Have to Be Kind to Each other. We each Have the Power to Change the World, but Only if We Randomly capitalize words In our Sentences. Then, and only Then, will Wendy Bell open her beautiful White mouth and Bless us with what escapes From It.

Damon Young

Damon Young is the editor-in-chief of VSB. He is also a columnist for GQ.com and EBONY Magazine. And a founding editor for 1839. And he's working on a book of essays to be published by Ecco (HarperCollins). Damon is busy. He lives in Pittsburgh, and he really likes pancakes. Reach him at damon@verysmartbrothas.com. Or don't. Whatever.

  • Bravo

  • AquaTeamV3

    Her FB post was the written version of a backhanded compliment. “See this young man here, he’s not like all of those other fatherless black men out there committing crimes!” She literally hit the waiter with the:

    https://youtu.be/z3r8KN17wP0

    • And he called him, “son” to top things off. Looks like something the Blue Marvel would’ve had to deal with once unmasked.

      • AquaTeamV3

        Man, the Blue Marvel storyline was amazing. I love it when comics tackle issues like racism in such a brilliant way like that.

        • It really was. I loved how they played both sides: Black folks were like we’ve finally got a black savior, white folks were “Oh sh*t!” and JFK was like “Thank’s but could you please go away because America is to infantile to deal with you.”

    • Multi-Hundredaire

      I literally just watched this ep on Netflix 3 weeks ago like, “The fk?”

  • Geoffrey

    It’s the white privilege manifesto we’ve all been waiting for.

  • This was fantastic. Bell perfectly displays the disconnect that white privilege creates when white-laden mainstream media tries to tackle issues within a racial context. And on individual level I’ve noticed that white people (even with the best-intentions) CONTINUE to decenter/recenter issues that are not about them! It’s to be expected from racist bigots, but so much of it actually comes from white liberal ‘allies’ who swear they aren’t racist…

    • De’Jhan Burns

      The most frustrating thing about this is the fact that even when we try to explain to white liberals exactly where they got us fuqqed up at, they close their ears and refuse to attempt seeing things from a different perspective…

      • Blueberry01

        Yup, because that would force them to admit to themselves that they’ve been racist – or at the very least prejudice – against minorities.

        Not everyone can live with the truth.

    • Julian Green

      I’ve found that Bell is an example of a particular type of liberal white person. When they do and say things like this it’s because even though they may not be “racist” per say, they’ve still internalized all of the stereotypes associated with Black people. The thing is, while they’re progressive enough to know that not ALL Black people fit the stereotype, they’ll still assume that “certain types” of Black people will.

      • jolly

        THIS “The thing is, while they’re progressive enough to know that not ALL Black people fit the stereotype, they’ll still assume that “certain types” of Black people will.”

        Reminds me of a conversation overheard in the ‘burgh the other day. It was about new housing being put up and the words “section 8” coming out of a white woman’s mouth to allude to who it might attract. Her friend in the party glances over at me because: black… then attempts to carry the conversation somewhere into a mention of “white trash” because: that makes us equal opportunity “class offenders”. The problem is their association as well as my association with section 8 housing is black and I zoned in to catch her slipping with some slightly racist bullshit. Rolled my eyes and walked away to find my zen at yoga.& just like that they have reinforced my own misgivings about these “certain type of white people” despite my own effort to see people as people you remember that these “certain types” won’t and you just want to give up and start seeing them at face value as well. It’s like if you want to have a friend, that’s white be prepared for them to 99% hold these feelings but feel they are not racist. Problematic because if you weren’t their friend, how might they treat you??

    • Gbadebo

      it’s how they’re taught to look at race issues. It’s how history is taught. It’s so deeply ingrained that most of them don’t see what they’re doing wrong until someone points it out for them…and even then they usually don’t get it

      • Jared Knowlton

        This is true. I just went through this as a white person that didn’t get it. I even got really offended at it being pointed out. But my best friend stuck around and continued to point it out and now I’m starting to get it, thankfully.

    • Mochasister

      White people are the original narcissists.

      • Daniela

        Ugh I hate being white! You don’t know me at all or other white people who are not what you see

  • PaddyfotePrincess

    “Tended to the chairs. Got down on his hands and knees to pick up the scraps that had fallen to the floor. And he did all this with a rhythm and a step that gushed positivity. He moved like a dancer with a satisfied smile on his face. And I couldn’t take my eyes off him. He’s going to Make It.”

    D*mn. She sounds “Gone With The Wind-ish.”

    • Cheech

      I thought of Johnny Cash singing about the shoeshine boy in “Get Rhythm.”

      • PaddyfotePrincess

        The tone of that paragraph was on some “Remember when great grandpappy told us about the good old days…” foolishness.

    • Melissa

      That’s exactly what I thought too!! This woman…. I just….what the f*ck does she know about him?! I hope both his parents are surgeons, just to make her look extra foolish. In my entire 34 years of whiteness, I have never, will never….WHAT THE F*CK LADY?!

      • PaddyfotePrincess

        I was thoroughly disgusted by her choice of words.

    • CheGueverraWitBlingOn

      Don’t you see Paddyfote, he’s doing with his natural black rythym..because that supposedly servile position is his natural black state of being in her hierarchy of ‘be happy with your place’ mentality??

  • Thinker

    Excellent!

  • cakes_and_pies

    Lord, she sounds like Leigh Anne Tuoly from the Blind Side and the “Well-meaning White Lady” Miss Millie from “The Color Purple.” Tone Deaf af.

    • Sigma_Since 93

      I have a different take on Leigh Anne; her methods may rub folks the wrong way but she did the one thing Foster Parents are asked to do; protect the child. Leigh Anne would have used her White Privilege and got Mike a cushy job like she would her own son.

      • cakes_and_pies

        She did a video that mirrored the same language as Wendy did. I can’t find the video, but she was proud of a couple of Black boys for doing their job right.

        • Sigma_Since 93

          I can’t speak to it but I do know it’s problematic if she has a different standard for her children vs those children. If she could beam with pride seeing her sons perform the same work then I don’t have any beef. If she tells her sons they can do better all bets are off.

        • miss t-lee

          I remember this.

      • Janelle S

        She found herself in a bit of trouble a year or so ago asking for kudos for not profiling two young men in her business. http://bellejar.ca/2014/12/19/leigh-anne-tuohy-update-one-of-the-teens-responds/

    • Val

      Lol Why did I think of the Blindside all the way through this piece!?

      • cakes_and_pies

        It smacks of White Lady Savior

      • PDL – Cape Girl

        I have yet to see that movie and I can’t stand it. Just ugh

        • Val

          You haven’t missed a thing. I wish I could unsee it.

          • PDL – Cape Girl

            LOLOL…That’s the thing with unseeing. If we could only

        • Mary Burrell

          I got bored I just thought it was horse manure

      • Mary Burrell

        The white savior meme

  • Sigma_Since 93

    I wonder if she says the same thing about that brother or sista in the editing room or is the feel good vibe only reserved for folks not in competition with her.

    • De’Jhan Burns

      This is the TRUTH!!! Wypipo are surely comfortable with your work ethic when you’re on a lower rung on the ladder… They love the idea of black humility and gratefulness/obedience…

      • This needs to be repeated.

        Wypipo are surely comfortable with your work ethic when you’re on a lower rung on the ladder… They love the idea of black humility and gratefulness/obedience..

        • Jaris Cole

          Gives em that plantation nostalgia!

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          • sam01

            I’m a white male. My supervisor is a black woman. She’s smarter and more capable than I am, and a great person. Maybe the best person I’ve ever worked for. I’m the one who’s grateful to get to work for her.

            • Indie Anna

              As you should be :)

              • sam01

                Absolutely. :-) I’ve had good bosses and bad ones, and I know how miserable the bad ones can make life. I hit the jackpot working for her, and I’m grateful for it.

                • r.swartz20@comcast.net

                  Please . Enlighten me lets hear a complete and intelligent response.on insane crime in this counrty. Dont u no life is much better now days. Ten locks on ur home doors .alarms on on cars .larger 911 centers police in schools .ask ur grandparents if they saw any of this .in there day. I think not looks like the dumbing of america.is on full speed ahead.

                  • Mary

                    “I think not looks like the dumbing of america.is on full speed ahead.”

                    The irony. It is so delicious and rich.

                    • r.swartz20@comcast.net

                      Well lets see . If the ashkenazi media power base slap her little hands o my .

                    • Yunzer

                      C’mon – antisemitism is racism too…

                    • r.swartz20@comcast.net

                      Ur right get ur sweat piece .of the madness .enjoy

                    • Hester Prinn

                      do you mean sweet piece?

                    • Mochasister

                      Don’t bother responding to that nonsense. Wypipo hate us but they can’t stay away.

                  • Aaron Sorrels

                    Crime rates are at historic lows, but it just makes for such boring headlines.

                    • G Bailey

                      Not in my town. It’s at a 14 year high.

                    • cyran

                      the correct statement is that it’s at all time lows in affluent places now there’s no middle class and it’s all shifted to lower income areas.

                  • Aaron Sorrels

                    Crime rates are at historic lows, but that doesn’t really sell advertising, now does it?

                • Dijah

                  Thanks for acknowledging your great boss, Sam. You sound like an awesome person. Michael Zellhart is an idiot.

            • Lol

              April fools!

            • G Bailey

              Look up the meaning of: cuckold
              Your photo should be right there beside the definition.

              • Jitterbits

                You are apparently the one who needs to reference the dictionary as your pathetic slight makes no sense within the context.

              • Aaron Sorrels

                No, that’s not what that means at all. Ignorant jackass. How much editing does it take avoid sounding racist?

                • G Bailey

                  Only a jackass would take my comment literally. And that would be you.

                  • Aaron Sorrels

                    Is that why you deleted the comment?

                    • G Bailey

                      I didn’t delete it. It was “removed”. It struck a little too close to the truth. Which is usually what happens when truth meets deceit.

                    • Aaron Sorrels

                      Or maybe because you used the word “cuckold” to refer to a white man willing to defer to a black woman who is his supervisor? That’s not truth, that’s being a bigoted jackass.

                    • G Bailey

                      No, it was the way he sucked up in his eagerness to sacrifice himself on the alter of racial guilt. That’s all. It’s your bigoted mind that jumped to the conclusion that my post was based on the fact that a black woman holds a place of authority over him and not the fact that it was about your everyday run-of-the-mill cuckold behavior of white males in today’s society.

                    • sam01

                      My reply was actually intended to demonstrate that there are white males out there who don’t object to someone of a different ethnicity being in a position of authority. You know why I don’t have a problem with it? Because I’m secure enough with my own talents to acknowledge when someone else has more talent than I do when it comes to administration, and secure enough to not have ethnicity or gender alter how I feel about it. That is not a position of weakness. That is a position of strength.

                      I know the definition of “cuckold.” It’s a man who’s been cheated on in a marriage. Which has nothing to do with how I view my boss, and it means that you are most likely some ignorant, racist turd who thinks that using hyperbolic terms implying some sort of castration constitutes legitimate argumentation. Clue: it doesn’t. It just makes you look stupid, especially when you use the terms completely incorrectly. You know how I reacted to your comment? I laughed at it. With a whole lot of scorn.

                      You obviously think being white and male makes you special. Wrong. It hasn’t, in the least, kept you from being a moronic douchebag who’s so stupid that you buy into the lie that putting others down somehow makes you better. You’re a small-minded, provincial idiot who tries to address his own deep-seated insecurities with racism and sexism. It pretty much makes you a waste of oxygen. My boss, a black woman, is so far superior to you that you might as well be a worm.

                    • G Bailey

                      “I know the definition of “cuckold.” It’s a man who’s been cheated on in a marriage.” Not in this year. Look it up in the urban dictionary. It’s far more concise in today’s vernacular.

                      What it means (figuratively, you idiot) is that you are the typical submissive white male, the kind who wouldn’t dare say anything that might even be considered controversial. You never want to work hard, because it might be misconstrued by blacks as you trying to “prove” something about your white manhood. You never, ever disagree or try to give your input, because that might offend your bosses blackness and gender by having an original thought that is not approved of, or requested by her.

                      I’m not a white male. But being black is supposed to make someone special in your world. Affirmative Action is special treatment for non-whites – meaning you’re less than equal in every way, shape and form – and you know it. And you had better keep it that way if you know what’s good for you.

                      You can take what I said as a put-down if you want, but the truth is that I was simply making an observation of disgust for cuckolds in general.

                    • sam01

                      I couldn’t care less about the urban dictionary. Generally speaking, it’s full of stupid slang that will be outdated in six months. And frankly, I’m glad I’m not familiar with your particular brand of white supremacist drivel.

                      I like my boss and I respect her. She has earned my respect through sheer excellence. The fact that you find that “submissive” and object to it so strongly tells me that you’ve got issues. You don’t know jack about who I am or how I work. I speak up whenever I need to, and she’s secure enough to be willing to listen. That’s a big part of why I like working with her. She treats everyone around her with respect. Sometimes she’ll agree with what I and others say, and sometimes not. But she is always open to hearing them. And race does not enter the equation with her.

                      By the way, Affirmative Action has nothing to do with why she’s there or in charge. She went to a great school, she’s very talented, and she works her tail off. The more you talk, the more readily apparent it is that you’re an underachieving douchecanoe who wants to pin your shortcomings on race.

                      Not a white male? I’ll bet you wear a white hood.

                    • G Bailey

                      There you go again, proving my point. What time do you lick her feet?

                    • sam01

                      I looked you up. Apparently, you’re an avid Trump supporter. Why didn’t you just tell us you are a Trumptard? That means you’re the cognitive version of the slow kid who pees his pants. Sad to see. I actually kind of pity you.

                    • G Bailey

                      Stop trying so hard to defend yourself to a stranger on an anonymous comment thread. It reeks of desperation, which is truly pitiful. But you did prove my point about you, so get over it. You’ll live to defend your weakness to another stranger, on another day.

                    • sam01

                      Suck it, Trumptard. You’ve got nothing of value to say, and I’m not listening.

                    • Aaron Sorrels

                      You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means.

                    • G Bailey

                      Look it up in the urban dictionary (I copied and pasted it and even crossed out the dirty words, and it was still removed). It gives a more graphic explanation of how far certain males will go to stay in their “safe” zones. And you should interpret it figuratively, not literally.

                      And black males can be cuckolds too. So don’t think that it has something to do with race. What it has to do with is weakness. Any other questions?

                    • Aaron Sorrels

                      Wow. Urban dictionary. Going for the truly authoritative citation. While I find it an entertaining source for the definitions of new slang, but for words with centuries of etymology, I prefer Merriam-Webster. Of course I know what the word means and the current popularity of it as a fetish. Obviously you are using it figuratively. Nothing here has anything to do with marital infidelity. “Everyday run-of-the-mill cuckold behavior of white males in today’s society?” What the fuck are you babbling about? You are simply using the current insult du jour because he is willing to admit that he is grateful he works for a competent boss. All we know about his boss is work-related or superficial. So either you object to appreciating working for smart, capable people, or you object to appreciating working for a black woman. So if you’re not being racist, then you’re being sexist. Which is why I called you an ignorant, bigoted jackass in the first place. Ignorant because your only understanding of the word cuckold is tied to the frequency with which it is currently used as a casual insult regardless of its total irrelevance to the situation. Bigoted because you are either being racist, sexist, or both. And a jackass because I needed an appropriate noun for those two adjectives and the shoe fit.

                      “The altar of racial guilt?” It’s an article about race relations. He’s discussing race relations in his life.Your interpretation of his contribution to the discussion is that it could only be posted out of guilt, not because it was relevant. You got something you feel guilty about? To deny that white people abused black people for centuries and that there are still strong residual effects fifty years after the civil right movement is deliberately obtuse. No one is blaming you for the actions of people who died before you were born. We’re just asking you to observe the inherent societal discrepancies. So until you can learn to detach your observations from your perspective and see how different America is for white and black people, shut up and let other people talk. Fucking wypipo. Some of you make the rest of us look really bad, and I’m sick of it.

                    • G Bailey

                      One word for you that you MIGHT comprehend – WEAKLING.

            • Audrey

              :)

            • cyran

              I’ve had two black superiors before. One I really liked, she was super nice, actually a ‘leader’ rather than a boss.

              The other liked to keep reminding me I was white, that I was privileged and that I was a liar and always on drugs, because white people are ALL liars and on drugs. Since at the time I worked with almost all black people, if anything went wrong, he’d come to me to place blame on me… which one time, it was due to a satellite issue so the computers were down, so I did simple pen+paper log and math to ring people up and their taxes while keeping a very accurate inventory sold, and after he found out I did this was all about the white boy f***ing everything up, can’t do my job, and when the boss who was two steps above him came to personally congratulate me for keeping business afloat from their errors with computers, I had to rub it in his face by simply saying “I guess I didn’t f*** it up after all, HUH?” But that didn’t keep him from doing that kind of crap for the remainder of my time there.

              • Boogie

                I wonder if brown people experience that often. HMMMM

                MORON

      • Multi-Hundredaire

        “Wypipo” may be the greatest sh-t, I’ve seen all day.

        • Kas

          I stay learn’n on these comment boards.

          • Audrey

            If this is what you’re learning, then you’re better off learning elsewhere.

        • KitKatCuty84

          “Wypipo” just ruined me for the rest of the work day, LOL.

        • wolfie

          Whoever originated that term is our finest linguist ever.

          • bearbear

            Right, how did I not know about this “Wypipo” thing? I’m in love.

          • John J. Hamilton

            Best “Ebonics” linguist ever !!

          • DumbisBart

            A very *cunning* linguist at that…

        • I first saw “wypipo” on twitter and it was one of the most enlightening terms I’ve seen this year.

          • Sheena Rina DelaCruz

            I can 80% confidently attribute its origins to British Nigerian and Ghanaian twitter. To be read and said in a distinct african aunty/uncle accent ;-)

        • Tracey Jenkins

          All month. ….

          • Michael Cody Pfeiffer

            sounds like an asian dude sayin’ it. “Wypipo aways wanna eksra eggrow, stupid roundeye.” Hahaha.

            • Steve Giardini

              dindu nuffin

            • smh

              This comment is so demeaning and racist. How ironic since this entire article was about how someone’s racist comments were uncalled for.

              • Beingv

                Agreed ?

              • Audrey

                Thank you. You are one of the few people on here that I believe actually has a brain.

              • judethom

                The word racist is used so much it has become meaningless. Meaningless.

                • Slightly misanthropic

                  People use racist and prejudice interchangeably when in fact, they are very different. We all have some form of prejudice. However, racist is much more sinister.

        • Meeee

          freal freal! Just gave me life!

        • Audrey

          You know, you seem to think that all white people “take advantage of blacks” and so on, and for some people, that is surely true. But what makes you think that all white people have the same views? News flash, they don’t. Would you like it if I said, “Oh all black people think this.”? No I don’ think so. You complain that white people are racist when you are just as racist (and maybe more) as the people you’re accusing.

          • judethom

            Amen.

          • redneckforsure

            Yup.

          • Wayne Extendobal Bowman

            Let me get this straight: Since Black people are racist they cannot complain about White people being racist? Did you go to the school where they teach:1) Black people owned slaves too? 2) Black people kill each other everyday, so why are you upset when White police want some of that action? And my favorite 3) Black people were commanders in the Confederate Army in the Civil War who fought to remain enslaved? You should be forced to read your own posts.

            • Audrey

              I would appreciate if you did not put words in my mouth. I never said that black people cannot complain about whites. I am just saying that no one should be racist whether their skin is black, white, or anything else.

              • Kathryn Robyn

                Racism, darlin’, is not the same as prejudice, distaste, or I jes’ don’t like them! But that’s how you’re using it. Racism requires power and privilege added to prejudice. There is no “reverse” racism. The power structure is white; the privileges are white. That’s how it becomes racism. Oh sure, there’s plenty of prejudice, justified anger, sick to death of this s**t from the (and I havta say I loved that wypipo) white people who are clueless AT BEST. I don’t blame any Black person who is too through. I am too, too through with people believing they are white. What is that? It’s nothing. It’s crap.

                • Audrey

                  This is the definition of racism: the belief that all members of each race possess characteristics or abilities specific to that race, especially so as to distinguish it as inferior or superior to another race or races. Notice the words “inferior” and “superior”. This means that racism can in fact work both ways, contrary to your belief. Racism could be a white person looking down on a black person and saying, “All blacks are murderers,” for example, but it could also be a black person looking at a white person and saying, “All whites are privileged and hate blacks.” And yes I know that there are clueless white people in the world, as there are blacks fed up with racism that does in fact exist, but neither side is completely innocent in this.

                  • Kathryn Robyn

                    Audrey, that’s the definition of prejudice, and if it is some dictionary definition of racism, it is not how racism operates in the real world. For someone to be racist, as opposed to prejudiced, they have to be connected to the larger power structure (whiteness as power, as normal, as “real”) and be operating in support of the privileged group (white people, for example, who have been the recipients of 400 years of affirmative action in the form of human bondage, discriminative policies, and a culture of superiority). So yeah, a Black person could be racist against a white person if white people had been kidnapped, separated from our families, forced to work in horrific conditions, and our very freedom made illegal, and if we had been barred from schools, neighborhoods, government benefits, jobs, justice, and education based on our whiteness, and so on. Otherwise, I’d just call it justified anger.

                    • Audrey

                      I understand that what I believe to be racism, you believe to be prejudice, and I completely accept that. I know that every person is entitled to their own opinion. Yet, we will have to agree to disagree on this topic. I am aware that in the past, and even now, there are blacks that have and are being mistreated by racist people, many of whom are white. Yet that does not mean that blacks can say whatever they like about whites now, and it will be considered justified.

                    • Kathryn Robyn

                      Some things are opinions and reasonable people can disagree. When facts are treated like opinions, however, that’s where we get into trouble. You might like to read this book that really opened my eyes as to what racism is and how it works. It’s called “Waking Up White (and Finding Myself in the Story of Race)” by Debby Irving. I highly recommend it and wish all white people would read it. We have so much to learn about experiences that other people have that we do not tend to.

                    • Audrey

                      But I also think, and I’ve noticed this before on this subject, that when someone states their opinion ON a fact, others often take it as them saying that their opinion IS a fact which is not always true. I believe that’s what Wendy Bell did. Of course she didn’t know exactly what the profile of the killers was. If only, am I right? Having those killers on the loose is kind of scary. I think that Bell might have phrased her statement badly, but I know it was not her intention to be racist. However, that book does sound interesting, and I will check it out.

            • Kris Harley

              Here you go… Listen and enjoy! ??

              http://youtu.be/P5eO_kyMYcY

              • Julie Verhoff Pipes

                That was really enlightening. Thanks for sharing.

          • Jessica

            He’s talking about one specific white person though…sooo…

            • Audrey

              The term “wypipo” translates to “white people”, the word “people” being plural. This is first grade English.

      • Rokkitt Man

        You better say that

      • Heaven forbid you get uppity and be their equal or better though. Then it mind as well be armageddon!

        • Shanna

          Exactly! Also, Heaven forbid you be good at anything other then cleaning, singing, dancing, or dribbling a ball.

          • De’Jhan Burns

            Also, heaven forbid you be good at something and make a mistake and not bow your head in shame and submission!!! Not to speak of raising your voice to defend yourself!!! *clutches pearls*

            • JJCommonSense

              Lets not forget that when YOU make a mistake, youve fugged it up for the whole race!

              • De’Jhan Burns

                Yes!!! This miatake is how we know that you’re just an affirmative action hire… Tsk Tsk tsk…

                • JJCommonSense

                  And now we dont have to hire any more of you cause we tried and it didnt work out.. yet Allison, who cant read write or count.. she just got a promotion

                  • Mochasister

                    Lol at Allison who can’t read or count. You forgot to mention that although you can run circles around Allison with your hands behind your back you will be expected to train her for the promotion you’re not qualified for.

                    • jolly

                      Let’s not forget what this dynamic does for blacks that might be heaven forbid sharing a professional space and/or capacity. The tension you feel from “well-meaning” fellow blacks in this situation is palpable. Beware of “mentors” that will help you do good but not “better”. Beware of being the “show-off” amongst your limited flock if you try to do “better”.

                    • JJCommonSense

                      Oh stopit! Now your being racist… thats so unfair lol

                    • badphairy

                      YEP!

                    • Clara DeLay

                      And while you are training her, SHE will get a higher performance rating than YOU! GAWD! Wypipo!

                    • Mochasister

                      Mayne, you ain’t said nothing but a word. My mother is a nurse. Years ago she received a bad evaluation from her (white) supervisor. Well, not too long afterwards a new (white) nurse got hired. Do you know that the same supervisor that gave my mother the bad evaluation had the nerve to bring this new nurse into the nursing station and said that my mother would be the one training her. In front of the new nurse my mother refused. She then explained to the new nurse that she didn’t have anything against her but that she thought it would be better if someone else trained her.

                    • Deb

                      That temperament, no doubt, is why your mother didn’t get the promotion.

                    • Mochasister

                      Reading comprehension is not your strong suit. My mother was not up for a promotion. She had received a bad evaluation from her nursing supervisor the week before. Why would you then turn around a week later and ask the very same person who you deemed not up to par train a neophyte? Does that make any sense to you? Wouldn’t you want your new employee to be trained by someone who received an explemary evaluation to do the training? That was my mother’s whole point;plus she didn’t want to be accused of improperly training the new nurse should the new nurse make a mistake. THAT’S why my mother ultimately refused to train the new nurse.

                    • Deb

                      Yeah right, she was just ticked off … The ones that got the good reviews probably didn’t have the time to train. My reading skills are just fine. I’m assuming that your mom knew how to perform her job adequately, she just wasn’t. Get your mom’s chip off your shoulder.

                    • Mochasister

                      You’re doing the very same thing white people accuse Black people of: making excuses. Is it that hard for you to admit that a fellow white was in the wrong? What kind of sense does that make, “The ones that got the good reviews probably didn’t have the time to train.” Put yourself in the neophyte’s position. You’re starting a new job. You SHOULD want to do your job to the best of your ability. I would NOT want someone who received a poor evaluation to train me. I would want someone who received a good evaluation to do my training. Why set your new employee up for failure?! You, the supervisor, are going to get someone who’s got their stuff together to do the training not an employee whom you basically have deemed below par. Stop being deliberately obtuse and think.

                    • Steve Giardini
                    • Beingv

                      Embarrassment. What world does he live in?

                    • Bob Patterson

                      I’m pretty sure Elise from Kansas City would agree with this gentleman. The world she lives in is the inner city. http://media.kmbz.com/a/114405154/dana-and-parks-talk-to-elise.htm

                    • Janelle Doe

                      every.single.time

                    • NiHi

                      You forgot that Allison is dating the boss and since her sexuality is fluid the boss can be male or female.

                    • Mochasister

                      ???????

              • jolly

                Interestingly enough I suspect Wendy’s “mistake” in this situation will be forgiven. Or at least won’t easily harm the earning potential of the next white woman to take her place…how fortunate. (see white privilege)

                • Regis Parker

                  Her mistake wasn’t forgiven. The white boss fired that white woman. Now that she is out of a job with a family to feed we will see how much time she spends on Facebook.

                • cyran

                  Wow, way to place aspects that are unrelated so you can then add another bonus to white privilege! You are a social gymnast.

                  • jolly

                    These aspects you speak of being unrelated actually are very related. Perhaps they aren’t relatable to you but that’s ok. As for this concept of white privilege that you think my sentiments have added a bonus point to… shrugs I can’t relate to this privilege you seem to be lamenting but it certainly sounds like you believe it’s a made up magical unicorn concept and for that, I have no other words but I do suggest you dig deeper into American history and the history of blacks in America (you know how they got to America, how they’ve been able to thrive or the lack thereof) versus claiming it’s all “unrelated”. Assuming of course you’re not already black and living the black American experience. God bless.

                  • Boogie

                    How about you getting on Jolly’s level, you ignoramus.

                    • cyran

                      how about you say something smart and relevant, just like Jolly should have done.

                    • Boogie

                      How about getting your head out of your a$$, you talking suppository.

            • mnyama

              Then you’re arrogant if’n you ain’t shuffling and grinning…

            • cedriclathan

              I’ve been told by my supervisor to “smile more”. Fuck you! I’m tired of making them feel comfortable.

              • NiHi

                I hate women that walk around grinning (for no reason) like they don’t have good sense. And the giggly ones make me want to smack the ever lovin’ shadangles out of them.

                • lkeke35

                  Okay! Shadangles is my new word for today. Gotta find a way to use it in the next 5 hours!

                  • Dan

                    I just started singing, “Mr. Shadangles, dance…” Horrific, yet it set me a-chuckling.

                • Christine

                  Then there are the other people (men) who tell us to “smile” when we aren’t! Women just cannot win.

                • fxd8424

                  Showing all them pearly whites. They look crazy don’t they?

              • Jared Knowlton

                Is that why you’re told to smile more? I’ve been told to smile more all my life. I’ve always been told to smile more in a work place. The reasons are positive, approachable attitudes, as I have always understood it. You could call it a social or evolutionary construct, but either way, smiling has an effect on both ourselves and people around us. I’m sure it also makes people comfortable, since these same social/evolutionary constructs tell us that that person isn’t angry at us when they are smiling. I’m just confused by this, and the comments below about hating women that walk around smiling, looking crazy…. Yes, I’m white. I’m getting that the same words spoken to me won’t mean the same thing inherently because of white privilege. I’m just asking if it’s really all about making them feel comfortable and not at all about being positive at work…?

                • cedriclathan

                  Well, lets put it this way. I’ve never had a person of color tell me to “smile more”. And usually, it’s a white woman (as it is in this case). White women seem to be so threatened by black men they need “signs” to tell them that we’re not hostile. The elevator will open and a white lady jumps and exclaims, “oh, you scared me.” No, you were scared of me. There’s a difference. I did nothing on my part other than being there when the door opened. I’ve had white women grab their purse while I’m walking by, neatly dressed, carring a Haliburton briefcase, wearing a Tumi backpack and a Starbucks metal coffee mug. Which of those things am I gonna drop to rob them? So yea, just trying to be a “regular” human being, minding my own business isn’t enough to comfort them, so, I well past being accomadating.

            • Lagorval

              Preach it!

          • You forgot throwing, catching and stopping a man with the ball. Those are important to White folk. ;-)

            It’s just interesting how you can tell a friend or foe once you become a threat to a White person’s status. Very educational.

            • Kas

              In their defense, they treat any perceived threat regardless of color with extreme prejudice. And they are easily threatened.

              • Beauty In Truth

                But yall still date em though…Sip sip sip.

                • Kas

                  I renounced (cut back?) on white women when I turned 30. BTW: they make the best tea

                  • Beauty In Truth

                    What took so long? Yall always come back dont cha? SMH…Don’t answer that.

                    • marco polo

                      Only as a last resort. Angry black women are a turn off!!!!

                  • Beauty In Truth

                    So you got herpes or nah?

                    • marco polo

                      Check the cdc for black folks and high rates of stds.

                  • Charles Johnson

                    cut back?!? aaaaahahahahah i’m dead.

                  • Michel Bullard

                    Not sure that the teas thing is accurate. From a black tea connoisseur. :)

                    • Kas

                      Acknowledged and you get no argument from me.

                • Bloop

                  • Mochasister

                    Bloop indeed.

                • NicT

                  I mean, you’d have to pry the WW from their cold dead hands if we are being honest.

                  • Beauty In Truth

                    ???

                  • Kas

                    From our hands? My chex education class was definitely not the same as yours.

                • cedriclathan

                  I grew up with them (3rd black family in the neighborhood) so, I was raised by wolves. I swore them off at an early age just for stress relief. My attractions were Latino and Asian because that was the only other color around. I know they’ll turn on you in a heartbeat.

                  • Sierra117

                    ‘They’? As in all white people? Please tell me you won’t/haven’t reproduce(d).

                    • Beauty In Truth

                      Not with one of “yall” apparently, lol SMH.

              • Mochasister

                Why they are so very easily threatened I’ve never understood. Since they’re so superior at everything, an inherently incompetent Negro should be no challenge.

                • Kas

                  When the country was built on screwimg others over, anxiety is the result. Funny thing is they have been checking us so hard, they were slow to realize the Hispanics and Asians are taking over.

                  • r.swartz20@comcast.net

                    Some of us just like to play the game.waiting to make one rat at a time .the victom . O joy to my little heart. God bless have a nice easter

                  • Mochasister

                    According to them they did nothing wrong. It was the times and Manifest Destiny and all that other good stuff. They have done nothing to be ashamed of. That’s why they don’t bother to study their country’s history. It’s so far in the past it’s not worth talking about. Their consciences are as clear as they are.

                    • Kas

                      They doth protest too loudly for their consciences to be clear.

                    • Judichimom2

                      You must be really old because you talk like you was a slave and the white man beat you down… I don’t know no whites who own slaves nowadays do you? I don’t know no black person born today that is born into slavery… Possibly poverty but not slavery… I know lots of white folks and black folks born into poverty, I guess them white ones must be privileged just because they’re white.When I was a little girl I lived in a mostly black neighborhood and they was all kind ppl. One old black lady called me white trash and didn’t allow me in her yard but she was mean to everyone so I didn’t mind her.I’m white, old, handicapped and was born into poverty. but I would never claim to be better than anyone else as long as they was not a thief or child molester.I’m sorry some whites were not nice to you.And I hope some day you will learn not all white ppl are your enemy, some of us are decent pp too.

                    • Mochasister

                      ???????

                    • Jitterbits

                      While poverty does affect all races, it is myopic to claim all races (or even genders) are affected equally. Unfortunately, your comment, while well meaning, oozes the same privilege as this reporter.

                    • Sierra117

                      And it is equally as myopic to assume knowledge of how any one person will respond to any given situation, negative or otherwise. I could criticize your use of myopic – e.g., perhaps illustrate the inappropriate placement and/or how ‘narrow-minded’ would’ve returned a higher efficacy amongst your readers – let’s just chalk it up to age and inexperience on your part. Care to illustrate how your reply to @Judichimom2 related. . .I”m ok with a stretch but overly curious to see your attempt to do as such. Same for your, “…oozes the same privilege as this reporter” comment.

                    • Tina Mvo

                      Wypipo here in South Africa share those very sentiments. Le sigh.

                    • Mochasister

                      I can only imagine.

                    • Sierra117

                      Judging a collective whole based on experience with a small percentage of its’ people begs an argument related to your personal. . .and seemingly deeply rooted racists ideologies. I’m white. My family linage has no history related to slaves. Thus I have no guilt and no shame. However, even if that was a historical fact of my family’s linage, I’d still harbor no guilt or shame simply because my parents and I played no part. Thus, again, I owe you nothing but would freely give you the shirt off of my back if you needed it. Red or blue pill? Is it the average non-Black person that’s stoking the flames or is it something bigger, possibly an entity poised to gain from the strife running rampant at present? Think 100 yards ahead and stop focusing on your feet.

                • marco polo

                  Yes and white privilege is a myth. And blacks aren’t a threat at all. But the chip on your shoulders is getting larger.

              • r.swartz20@comcast.net

                Well im glad to see .they took down my secound .post about personal .protection .lmao

          • Michael Adamson

            I just watched a mini celebration for the word “wypipo”and how a new way to misspell a word gave so many people joy. And you are saying that whites don’t like running into intelligence? When was that ever tested tho?

        • cakes_and_pies

          The first Black chairman of the NC GOP party just got punished for overstepping his authority. The had to put him in his place.

          • Kas

            They didn’t want to but it was the principality of the thang (said in Big Worm voice).

          • Sigma_Since 93

            Just to let him know who REALLY had the power.

          • r.swartz20@comcast.net

            Ain’t that some crap . Dont dare upset the white power base.

        • Audrey

          Heaven forbid that you try not to be so racist. *gasp*

      • Beauty In Truth

        And black people love following it! You know how many corporate black folks have just blatantly suggested that I act straight up white as if my own black professional demeanor is not enough. FK that and FK that thought process.

        Melissa Harris Perry up in this, and I will not change my “mannerisms” or act like I am going to high tea every time I interact with a caucasian person, not even necessary.

        • fxd8424

          Ask them how does one act straight up white. It’s a sad day when our own professional black demeanor is not enough.

          • marco polo

            Straight up white means civilized with no nasty victim attitude. I seriously doubt any of you will get it though.

        • CheGueverraWitBlingOn

          100% Co-signature.

          B.I.T…as a supposedly ‘intimidating’ and ‘imposing’ black person in a white work place as well, you know that your very existence there make many of them feel uncomfortable and there’s no mannerism that you could change to make them feel differently.

        • marco polo

          So MHP just canned her career. Her black woman attitude with everything racist including tacos did her zero favors. Good luck in the future You will need it.

        • Steve Giardini
          • Kendon Smith

            #coonlife

      • Veronica Luckett Kirkland

        Gurrrllll, but don’t mess around and be educated, and “well-spoken” while getting paid! They can’t wrap their heads around this at all.

        • fxd8424

          They look at you like you’re some freak of nature.

      • jolly

        Are you Liberian? LMAO

        • De’Jhan Burns

          …I’m regular Black… I dated a Liberian once tho… ?

          • jolly

            I ask because the Liberian accent will f*** up phrases like “white people” creating what you have with “wypipo” and peeps might even suspect we’re speaking a different language when it comes out lol. Kudos my regular Black sister! :)

      • Mary Burrell

        I will write your post comment in my journal in red sharpie.

      • mnyama

        Yep… As long as you’re happily cleaning up scraps off the floor and smiling for the privilege to do so, “yous allllright wit de worl!”

      • Cori Hoston

        Honey Chile….I DONE DIED….DEAD….WYPIPO…HAS KILT ME DEAD
        #MURDERER

      • Jennifer Dyck

        “Wypipo” made me snort into me tea, and I thank you for that.

        The rest of your comment is sobering and needs to be said so much more.

      • Bob Veitch

        Wypipo…. really hmmn racism at its finest

        • Kimberly Collins

          How is it racist?

          BTW, I am a wypipo. I do not find it racist.

          • Kimberly Collins

            I LMAO when I read it. It is going to enter my vocabulary.

            • Me too. I thought it was hilarious. I see it as the reverse of white people (wypipo) using “black people” as a type; as if all black people were carbon copies of each other. People are people. Some are assholes, some aren’t. Race, colour, religion, sexual preference or preferred breakfast cereal ain’t got nothing to do with it.

        • Pi

          Nope, just hilarious.

      • Jaynicia

        “wypipo”

        Seven days late but still…I quit the internet!

      • wypip

        thanks for speaking for all wypipo

        • MsShaynaT

          You’re welcome.

          • Mochasister

            Lawd, have mercy. These trolls are something else.

      • not to mention doing it in rhythm like…a tapdancer

        • Christine

          The “dancer” comment was priceless.

      • dblife

        What if the kid was white? Oops.

    • AquaTeamV3

      I’ve seen this a few times in person, and it’s really eye-opening. The same folks that pat you on the back will get outraged at the idea of a black president.

      Shoot, I had a guy in my dorm get outraged because students at a mostly-black college had better facilities than the PWI we were attending. The whole attitude is really disgusting.

      • Glo

        And the thing is that he could have applied to the mostly-black college if he wanted to, lol.

        • Epsilonicus

          Not only apply but coulda got in. And no one would question if he deserved to go there.

      • Wow. I never thought about that one until you stated it like that “a guy in my dorm get outraged because students at a mostly-black college had better facilities than the PWI we were attending”.
        That is deep.

        • AquaTeamV3

          The worst part of it was overhearing the conversation (I was in another room). Went something like:

          “They ain’t got nuthin’ but [negros], and they got better [ish] than we do!!!”

          Like sheesh, tell us how you really feel. Dude also said that he’d refuse to date a white girl if he knew that she’d been with a black guy in the past, something about her being ‘contaminated’. So you’re fine talking to and hanging out with black folks, just as long as they don’t get better stuff than you, and they don’t touch your women. Got it.

          *facepalms*

          • LadyIbaka

            Contaminated with good D or nah?

            • CheGueverraWitBlingOn

              lol…Good one.

              ‘Contaminated’ with lots of backshots.

          • Man, I had to curve a whole crew because of this. They thought I was fine when I was with a Black girl as co-tokens, but lemme out myself as potential competiton? Man, I don’t know what was worse: the percentage of White chicks who didn’t want to be contaminated by my melanin, the ones that wanted a piece but only on the low or the White dudes who started talking in code. Man…

            • Beauty In Truth

              Why would you care about white girls not wanting your blackness. How about people who look like you and are into you. Ding ding ding.

              Why waste energy on them. Are black males trying to prove a point. Somewhere in hip hop land, a random token black Male would still defend Ms. Wendy as a lovely person regardless of her comments. That’s okay right? Wow.

              • I could give you this long complicated answer, but that would reveal too much. The short answer was that I was on some dumb ish, and flipped the game up on the first opportunity.

                • Beauty In Truth

                  Told us nothing.

                • marco polo

                  No you probably wanted to be with the white girls for all the wrong reasons and they were smarter than you and rejected you.

              • Kas

                I will speak to my own experiences. White women were checking for me when Black women weren’t. Nerdy and nice weren’t pulling the sisters to my yard. We all grow and mature. From my late 20’s on, these same qualities were a lot more appealing to women of color. I agree that there are any number of black men who date white women because they think they are somehow more of a catch. However, don’t paint everyone with the same brush.

                • Epsilonicus

                  From my own experience and the experience of black folks I know who are/have been in interracial relationships, none of them prefer white (or hispanic) people over black folks. They don’t have racial hang ups. I hate the assumption that folks have of people in interracial relationships.

                  • Beauty In Truth

                    Well I assume if there are x amount of attractive females in an area and the man choses to approach only the non black ones. I mean y’all are the chosers at that point.

                  • Beauty In Truth

                    Interesting how you say “hang ups.” Every other race seems to understand the value and benefits of their own traditional culture. But somehow being loyal to that is considered:

                    “a racial hang up” by others. Nothing wrong with embracing and appreciating your own. Other groups sure seem to get this. But that’s just me though. Thanks for sharing.

                • Epsilonicus

                  I also want to add that the most virulently anti-Black women people I know are Black men who date Black women. So the racial make-up of the people you are dating is not a good proxy for whether someone cares about Black women or nah

                • Beauty In Truth

                  So as a nerd you was chasing Amber Rose or Gabby Union? The ?s arise. Nerdy black girls aint never been check-in for the big bad wolf.

                  Not to discredit, but y’all be actin like the girls up in Barnes and Noble vs the twerkathon festival aren’t even options but will go date a crocheting permanently nose stuck in the air or a white fake ghetto black girl (lots of them these days) with a bad attitude and care less just cause she’s white.

                  • Kas

                    You have a tendency to put me in a ya’ll category. I am my own man doing things for my own reasons. You seem to be coming at this topic from a place of anger. It’s not conducive to a productive conversation.

                    • Beauty In Truth

                      It’s not anger. Just making a point. Yall love calling “us” angry. Perhaps since bw can’t have a discourse with you without you making assertions you should un cut back on those chicks. You could’ve just answered the questions. Goodbye.

                    • Kas

                      Let’s try this again. First, my apologies for offending you. Second, take a look at my posts; I don’t make blanket derogatory statements about black women, so it would be nice if I didn’t keep getting thrown into the ya’ll category. However, I feel that your replies to my posts have a bit of an edge to them and are not meant to be good natured jabs. If I’m incorrect, please feel free to correct me. Shorter version of the above, I’m not here trying to have verbal battles.

                    • Beauty In Truth

                      I asked a simple question. About in spite of how most ww act, yall still pursue them. Even if they make comments about bw, or just act outright rude as fk. As if anything goes for ww simply because of the whiteness.

                      Saying you were a “nerd” and there were ZERO black girls interested in you is quite hard to believe. Even Steve urkel was Stephan with a suit and tie. That was my point. I feel as if (some) bm are secretly just not wanting to admit there real reasons for dating out. But it’s okay,no pressure to engage. It’s pretty much always the same answers.

                    • Kas

                      The WW that I dated were cool and good people. Also they did the pursuing. I can’t answer your question because that hasn’t been my experience. If I may turn the question around, why do you think Black men date WW?

                • DebKII

                  Someone once told me all women want a bad boy when young. Black women don’t see the nerdy black man as a bad boy. White women do, simply because you’re black. Your skin color already makes you the “thug”

              • marco polo

                I don’t blame black men not wanting black women. White women are atleast nice.

            • marco polo

              And you support black women with white men I bet. If not you’re a bigot.

          • The Devil you know

            • marco polo

              Yes you racist pos.smh

          • Mary Burrell

            That reminds me of that scene in the film Rosewood and the poor white folks were angry because the black family had a nice home and a piano.

            • fxd8424

              I’ve seen this play out in real life time and again, with houses, cars. Sometimes it goes beyond anger. If it’s your co-workers, you may lose your job. Folks who were weaned on “Good Times” can’t believe you don’t live in the projects.

              • Mary Burrell

                I had a former boss get angry with a former co worker who’s husband had his own private investigation service and they traveled extensively, the former white boss hated black people who were equal or better than she. But she liked to see blacks bowing and scrapping and cooning.

                • fxd8424

                  I can relate. Ex-boyfriend had his own businesses, rental properties (he vowed never to work for whites), a boat, luxury car, and nice home. One of the vendors who delivered to him saw the boat and car, and stopped making deliveries. Said he shouldn’t be doing better than him. We seem to be the barometer by which they judge themselves. How dare we do better.

                  • Beauty In Truth

                    Sick.

                  • Mary Burrell

                    I work in health care and many medical sales representatives come in and that is a very difficult profession for black people it doesn’t matter how well dressed they are or articulate and it’s especially hard for black women. The doctors won’t see them unless they are surgically altered blondes or white males or young perky Asian girls.

                    • Kas

                      Young perky Asian girls are White men’s kryptonite and catnip all rolled into one.

                    • marco polo

                      I’m white and not attracted to Asian. Definitely not kryptonite.

                    • TOP

                      I have often wondered about that.

                  • CheGueverraWitBlingOn

                    File under #America #whiteprivilege
                    See, E.g., Current state of GOP politics

                    • marco polo

                      White privilege is a myth! And democrats are voting for Trump in many cases and its because of political correctness. That’s the real deal.

                  • Mochasister

                    Sometimes it’s better not to let folks know what you have. I’ve heard stories about white people firing folks because “they made too much money.”

                    • marco polo

                      Please beat a dead horse some more. Blacks are racist period. You need to clear your hearts of hatred.

                    • mhicks

                      That’s a straight-up derivative of Jim Crow philosophy. Makes me wonder if those white people, their parents or their grandparents grew up Jim Crowing other Black people.

                    • Mochasister

                      Either that or those attitudes got passed down like family heirlooms. Many white people seem to resent you when you have something “nice”. It can’t be “nicer” than something a Black person should have. God help you if it’s nicer than something they own. Jewelry, clothes, cars, homes, nice trips. If a Black person (outside of rich athletes or celebrities) has these nice things, said Black person is somehow suspect. I am not rich by any means but I’ve had people comment on purses or shoes of mine.

                    • Clara DeLay

                      Remember what they did to “Black Wall Street!” Wypipo are the reason we can’t have nice things! Seriously, go as far back as you can and see the destruction and devastation THEY have consistently and methodically delivered to us!

                      Even when they pretend to “save/help” us, it comes with a price that we ultimately end up unable to pay and then…they are angry with the entire race all over again…

                    • Mochasister

                      So many examples.

                    • Blueberry01

                      I’ve seen this happen before. It’s sad.

                    • fxd8424

                      Yep, you will find yourself out of a job in a hurry. I know a few folks who are living the good life (luxury homes, cars) who don’t discuss where they live or what they drive at work.

                    • Mochasister

                      Yeah, I’ve known people like that too.

                  • marco polo

                    I think most whites want black people to do better. I personally don’t judge life by the haves and have nots. This is where people get into trouble. If you are all about things you’re not a real person, and money and things don’t make you happy. Being a good person and removing hatred from your heart will make you happy however.

          • Beauty In Truth

            Why do black men act so SURPRISED by white ignorance. Someone break THAT down to me.

            I mean women experience racism as well but bm seem so extra shocked about these things, like: “Come on Man, I thought we were like, buddies? I’m not like those other Blacks!”

            Or that light biracial dude who all of a sudden embraced his black side after being ambushed by police at a hotel after a case of mistaken identity.

            I just don’t get it.

            Too much.

            • Tonedelux

              Almost got caught in that net you threw over all black men. Seriously?

              • Beauty In Truth

                It was a reply to a comment or not the article or its author.

              • marco polo

                What about generalizing all white people. Bigot much?

            • marco polo

              The same reason why whites act surprised over black ignorance you racist hag.

            • stitch

              like sum black people out there trying to escape the reputation of being black that society has constructed over the years, they believe if “I act a certain way and get good grades or a good job do an well for myself in life then I’d be treated as an equal too” Because those black people actually listen to the complaints of white people growing up and they don’t wanna be viewed as that cause they know their better than that, so they do well in life thinking thats the ticket to being “EQUAL” when in reality, white people just say that to keep black people under. So they are understandably shocked and caught off guard when their stopped at a light unjustifiably cause they know they were following the rules and never had a ticket in their lives. Or they’re accused of smoking weed and has never done drugs in their lives, or their accused of being lazy and has one part time job with a full one while running a website for more money on the road to being a homeowner in a short matter of time without singing or dancing or rapping or playing sports. So to them its like if their doing so well….how come their being hassled, and then the revelation hits them hard and I know it hurts them severly cause I’ve witnessed two of these situations in my life. And their sooooo confused. Black males are males…they are not black women so when they hear the stereotypes of black women and the negative stuff about black women , they usually will take it as fact even though they’ve never even encountered one of them cause they weren’t even brought up around black people like that so their more likely to believe the lies that society tells them about their black sisters. And its just sad. Born into a white privileged supremacy nation just to be trapped in a maze of racism so bad that even if your doing well your still considered bad so you get profiled and so tricky and d-m near impossible to get out of because even some of the blacks their around buy into it so they do to.

              • Beauty In Truth

                First of all success and education are not synonymous with being white? Da fk. Every country in the world has schools and a learning system. Africans aren’t mute.

                Black women are more attached to their culture period and always have been.

                White is not better when they treat people rudely and walk around with noses in the air like all of life is a competition and anyone doing better is to be destroyed or imitated (from the Roman fall to now).

                • stitch

                  I never did say “success and education was synonymous with being white” how you came up with that out of my response to you? Is beyond me. Second of all “white is not better” <— never did I say white was better. You need to learn how to read and understand what someone is saying and then respond. Because if you don't? you'll just make yourself look h3lla stupid like now.

                  • Beauty In Truth

                    Actually you did imply all that. My reading comprehension and writing capabilities are just fine thank you :)

                    You may want to learn what paragraph are and practice stying on topic when you write. Thanks.

                    • stitch

                      clearly their not and me implying all of that wasn’t the point. Maybe you should take some classes on finding out the point of a subject or topic being discussed and stay in that lane when responding to someones statement or response. If you do that? I know you’ll go far.

                    • Beauty In Truth

                      Ok, will do boo, will do. (applause)

          • Kas

            So this guy clearly doesn’t date white girls. Like kissing another another girl in college, being with a Black guy is a rite of passage for them . . . or so I’ve heard.

    • Beauty In Truth

      Interesting enough, us black folk ONLY get mad when whites call us out for things, but could care less about how we treat each other. I get the privilege and slight of mouth. But let’s be fking real. We don’t address the issues in the our most impoverished communities. If any of us grew up in these neighborhoods we were constantly dodging bullies and bullets, and hoping not to get jumped just because we talked a different way, or carried ourselves with a little swag and confidence.

      It’s so silly how black people twist and turn at every comment outsiders make about us as if we are in this post racial lala land that allows for interracial dating, potlucks, and azz kissing our way up their corporate latter (We in heah now!) for over half of our lives—but I digress.

      She didn’t state this in the context of BLM (which I would not have felt the same had she done so). But I wish ALL THE LIES of the black community would be busted wide open, because I and many other’s have had to deal with the same bs. Our race isn’t perfect, so I can’t expect us or anygroup to be cumbayhah, because there are killers from all groups. But I will be darned if we keep acting like the kids from the hood terrorizing the k-12 public schools we struggled through (because of the issues mentioned above) is all a lie. Even as a black woman, if I go wondering in Philly or some other grity city it is highly unlikely that I will be just safe and free. TFOHWTBS. The devil is a lie—ONLY on the weekdays!

      And an insight with these inner cities is beef is usually between close proximity blocks. Her stating that the killers live in the neighborhood is NOT FAR OFF! Sure this could be random acts of violence. But the nature and statistics of crime in these urban metro areas is frequently gang related or there is a small degree of seperation between the shooters and the victims (a relative that get’s the family caught up)

      If our culture keeps on with this IDGAF generation and wonder why this nonsense bull keeps happening. Live young die fast! It’s all about me! Trust nobody! Everyone for themselves! How can we expect to get respect and decency from each other if it’s all about fk the world? Makes not a nan narie bit of sense.

      • Val

        Thanks for your comment. It’s always good to have a Black person come along to tell us how terrible we are after a White person says crazy racist stuff about us. Just what we needed. Because we get distracted so easily.

        • Beauty In Truth

          Didn’t ask for your half assessed analysis on my comment. I’m fully black and have live in these communities little miss middle class farse. I don’t need permission to post my thoughts.

        • Beauty In Truth

          I would like to see this block and community of Philly have a city wide protest. Point blank. The police don’t give a darn we have to take ahold of our communities.

        • marco polo

          As if what she said had anything to do with white people. Idiot at best you are.

        • Aye Bee

          Val…girl…don’t feed the trolls. You know BIT comes on here to tell us how uneducated we are and don’t make good decisions in life.

          • Val

            Yeah, I know. Normally I don’t but between the Nixon tapes and that Wendy woman yesterday I just wasn’t in the mood for us to be slandered.

            • Aye Bee

              You should prob stay away from this post today for your own sanity then bc you know the trolls are gonna be trolling and the white tears are gonna be flowing like the Nile.

              • Val

                Lol I’m aight.

          • Beauty In Truth

            You can shut up. And I will post my comment again. I have a right to speak the truth as I see it little close minded girls. So petty and typical.

            Call-in big ideas you can’t comprehend just makes you present as ignorant and lacking knowledge.

            • Aye Bee

              I just want you to know your comments tickle me because all of the names you attempt to call others,I picture you as. I most def have no problem understanding you at all which is why I am not angered by your statements and don’t descend to your level and call names to those I know not. Bless your heart and have a blessed day.

              • Beauty In Truth

                Go bake a pie or something. You just love hearing yourself talk. I don’t know you and don’t care about some imaginary internet lady who is obsessed with comments and my opened mind. Reading Rainbow looking self.

                You are why people think women shouldn’t be presidents. Now reply with the typical nonsense as usual. If you need attention in the future they have vibrautors of all sizes for that. I appreciate the lip service but I’m not into oral from women.

                #notmythingjustsayin

                • Aye Bee

                  Again,your comments say so much about you. You,my dear, are the one that loves to hear yourself talk which is why you constantly come on here attempting to insult these strangers you do not know so that you have someone to argue with. If you did not care,you wouldn’t have responded. And here you go again with the insults. Praying for you and all your issues.

                  • Siante

                    “Praying for you and all your issues.”

                    I love this! lol

                  • Beauty In Truth

                    Again you have no life. Lesbian much?

                    • Aye Bee

                      Says the person who is upset with someone they don’t know…and yes,you are upset because you have resorted to insults and name calling since you can’t formulate a better response. As I said earlier,praying for you and ALL of your issues because clearly you have a plethora. Have a blessed day?

                    • Beauty In Truth

                      You are obsessed!

                    • Beauty In Truth

                      Upset. You are an imaginary internet person. You don’t exist.

      • Vanity in Peril

        Thaaaaaaaanks for that.

        • Beauty In Truth

          BS indeed! Grow up in debutantes and the Hamptons much? Where were you raised???? Waiting on the lie.

          • Vanity in Peril

            It’s ok to just say, “I’m not smart enough to not fall for respectabililty politics aka racism” and go on ur merry dumbas3 way, you know. Nobody’s gonna laugh. Much.

            • Beauty In Truth

              Are you talking to yourself? Or your child? Because no one in my circle communicates the way you do, so I don’t recognize the language. Be well dear.. Or should I say-get well?

              • Vanity in Peril

                Ok, lady. James and I are just sitting here in my kitchen looking at ur posts like, “chile, this bish is lost tryna give directions.”

                Sure, Jan. https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/d8251e9149867e9eb7aa232aa252f0cf3f07fb2ec64379b0b8824b3c9a4729d7.jpg

                • Beauty In Truth

                  Go home, your money’s no good here! You internet folks so defensive in your pedagogical internet pseudo-professorship.

                  Nice try.

                  • Vanity in Peril

                    I am home, I’m in my kitchen. Can’t you read?! ;)

                  • Vanity in Peril

                    The ol, “act like it’s the other person that’s being defensive so folks won’t notice the aint shittitude of ur argument” routine. A goodin.

                    • Beauty In Truth

                      It’s not an act my little miscreant. Notice how you keep going when I’ve released you from your cage several times over now.

      • Trill Mickelson

        Look up “anti violence [march/rally/etc.] [insert Baltimore, Chicago, Newark, Detroit, Philly, or other city with a large Black population here]” and let me know whether or not Black people in “our most impoverished communities” are concerned with addressing violence there.

        Bye.

        • Beauty In Truth

          You don’t gotta attempt to “school me” I lived this. And it happens, but not enough. We may protest, but not the way latinos, and other groups get together. It’s takin several police shootings to finally shake us out of our slumber which is good, but not the end of it.

          Thank you for the info though Mr. Mickelson.

          • Betty’s Babygirl

            Many of us take responsibility for where we live or have never lived. IMO it is incumbent upon all of us to help our communities on whatever level we feel comfortable. Just do something positive and tangible. Free yourself from giving zero f u$ks about WP’s opinions. It’s glorious! As the wise saying goes, “If we are not part of the solution we are part of the problem”.

        • marco polo

          Blacks kill each other at unprecedented rates but talking about the white privilege myths made up by an angry white man hating feminist in Massachusetts is what you focus on.Good luck with that.

      • Eh where to begin:

        I don’t know of any group who does not shun any outsider who has an opinion on them. I almost cussed out some people on VSB last year for suggesting that Nigeria be invaded in order to find the missing 300 girls missing due to Bokoharam. A strong feeling towards an image or emotion, doesn’t mean one has an invested interest in the outcome of other people’s lives, and if you’re not invested, it’s much better you just shut-up before you say something stupid. Passion + Ignorance = foolishness, I present you the aforementioned white lady.

        There’s a lot of black folks fighting the fight that don’t make the press or can’t compete with the latest incoherent message from Donald Trump. However, it should be understood that most of those gangstas don’t care much for protests or marches, and in order to get them in check, black folks would have to rely on police…but how is that supposed to work out, when the innocent bystanders in black cities, who stay out of lives of crime, have to be as worried, if not much more so, that some guy in blue is just as likely to put them down as some gangsta?

        When the cops and the criminals control the guns and weapons, and the average black citizen has to ally himself/herself to feel a sense of security, or hopefully dodge and bounce around to stay out of the view or influence of both, what else can we possibly expect, but tarnished neighborhoods?

        • Dougie

          *daps*

      • John Smith

        “Sure this could be random acts of violence. But the nature and
        statistics of crime in these urban metro areas is frequently gang
        related or there is a small degree of separation between the shooters
        and the victims (a relative that gets the family caught up)”
        — No sh*t. If she had had the sense to couch her OPINION in statistics or research that says that this is often the case. If she had the tact to broaden her statements, as if she didn’t “personally” know these statements to be true. The woman was/is lazy for saying it like this. Total lack of sensitivity and nuance I cry FOUL, Wendy.

        • Beauty In Truth

          No sht that she lives in one of the most violent cities in the US and has no right to speak on it.

          She certainly seems pretty darn accurate to me.

          • Vanity in Peril

            You love being wrong. Tee hee

      • AquaTeamV3

        I agree that black on black crime is a huge problem. However, most of us are aware of that as is; we generally don’t need to be reminded of that. The article and comments aren’t focused on that so much as Wendy Bell’s misguided stereotyping and backhanded compliments.

        • marco polo

          White people will never win with black people. For example if you’re white and have black friends and say you do youre racist. But if you don’t have black friends and say you don’t you’re racist. No matter what whites do it will always be shot down by black most people.And blacks don’t like to be reminded of your ills but sure remind whites born in the 1990s of slavery but always leave out the names of black slave owners. You only want to jab the knife but you can’t take it.

          • Dougie

            FOH.

            Want to not be called a racist? Understand race and racism and don’t do or say racist sh*t. This woman is not racist, she just doesn’t understand privilege.

            Why do White people want to win with Black people? Why does anyone want to win with anyone? Want to win? Treat Black folks how you treat everyone else. That’s a start for a win. Don’t bring up examples of slavery, or the anomalies of black slave owners when creating examples of why Blacks should be self reflective. That’s a start for a win. Understand your privilege. That’s a start for a win.

            You should look up Tim Wise on youtube. He’s a nice white man that you should listen to. I think you would enjoy his soothing white voice and learn a bit. Maybe you’ll even feel a bit uncomfortable.

            Good luck.

            • ted

              “Understand your privilege” ? Seriously? Black president for 8 years running now. Could have had another. Why not? Its NOT Ok for whites to bring up slavery, but its OK for YOU to say whites are privileged, which apparently stems from that? And you say “treat black folks how you treat everyone else” I AGREE! Except BLACK folks need to follow the same advice…..because there is a distinct double standard…..Wendy Bell was deeply saddened by the tragedy that she saw and she spoke from her heart…spoke about the facts and the likely scenario given the thousands of other black on black crimes lately….and folks HERE turn her words around to be racist? White people don’t give a damn about “winning”….. any whites who DID are long dead or senile. I see “equal opportunity” mandates, all sorts of news stories about how there aren’t enough black police officers, etc…..well, how about the black community sends their best forward to solve those issues rather than try and legislate this sort of thing? Plenty of black heroes, scientists, doctors, lawyers police men and government leaders out there now….saying otherwise is a slap in the face to THEM. racism works BOTH ways…..sometimes its by thinking someone else is less than you. But in this case, its purporting that you are beneath someone else and using it as an excuse. You are doing your own dis-service by doing so.

              • Dougie

                Couple things:

                first off, your friend marco polo is the one who brought up the term win. I only repeated him. marco polo said white people can’t win, and marco polo brought up slavery. That was marco polo. I was only responding to marco polo on how white people can win. I assumed (and maybe I shouldn’t have) that marco polo was frustrated about how white people can’t win. I gave advice.

                Secondly, it’s great that we have a black president. it’s an amazing accomplishment. But in no way shape or form does it negate white privilege. And to counter that accomplishment with “welp, now it’s equal” is flat out ridiculous and also shows that you don’t understand privilege either. Again, I didn’t bring up slavery, but the enslavement, mistreatment, psychological mindf*cking, family splitting, and all around bad s*it that white people did absolutely did cause tiers of privilege in our country. It takes generations to get over that and have true equality. Our grandmothers drank from different water fountains. That’s real and the mentality still festers. Understanding your own privilege is very important. I’m a man. I have male privilege. I need to understand that so I can try to check it when interacting with women. That’s the only way to try to achieve equality.

                Also, for you to believe that was I said negates the Black heroes in the world is flat out stupid. It’s a stupid assessment and shows you didn’t read my comment with an open mind. Which is ok. But I’d like to invite you to re-read what marco polo said, then re-read what I said. It might open you up to not making another bad assessment, Ted.

                Racism does not work both ways. Racism can only come from the powerful and it’s a social structure enforced on the ones with less power. Black folks can be prejudiced towards Whites, but they cannot be racist. But to respond to your claim – I am beneath nobody in this world. I understand my worth and my value and I don’t give excuses for anything. Just because I want people to understand their own privilege doesn’t mean I’m excusing anything for anyone.

                Essentially, you’re doing a similar thing that ms Wendy did in her facebook post. I’m sure you’re well meaning, but your message, and you trying to teach me about… me… is insulting.

                Good day to you.

              • pookel

                Slavery was over 150 years ago, but Jim Crow wasn’t. Emmett Till would be 74 years old right now if he hadn’t called a white woman “baby” when he was 14 years old. His murderers never served time. His generation is still alive, and you want to say “white privilege” is about ancient history? That all those centuries of slavery and murder are erased because we’ve had civil rights for a mere 50 years, and a black president for eight?

                I used to think I was as underprivileged as black people because I grew up poor, but my grandparents were college professors, and I grew up with a middle-class education and connections and a family safety net. The black kids I went to school with, whose parents had about the same income as my parents, were often the first generation in their family to finish college. Their great-grandparents had been slaves, their grandparents had been sharecroppers, and their parents were doing pretty well to finish high school in the 1960s south. College was a natural and expected route for me; it wasn’t for them. That’s white privilege. It’s not the only kind of privilege, and it doesn’t mean literally every white person has a better life than every black person, but on average? Yeah, we have a whole shitload of advantages that a whole lot of black people have been screwed out of. To pretend otherwise is to ignore the facts of history.

                • Town

                  Slavery & Jim Crow are ancient history but black people are supposed to be impressed because Bernie Sanders marched 50 years ago with Dr. King.

                  Just sayin’.

                  • imnrgh

                    Bernie didn’t just march — he was dragged off to jail by cops for protesting segregation in Chicago. Check google images for photos.

              • alicia rainville

                Just give up…they bitch about white people who care then bitch about white people who don’t. They just like to bitch about white people in case you haven’t caught on.

              • coffeenocreamer

                That’s funny. I don’t recall her saying you font have to be a criminal profiler when Dylan roof went into that church and killed those people.

      • I understand that you read her post through the lens of your experience, which is understandable. On the other hand, I read her post through the lens of my experience. Just as you stated you grew up in the environment that Wendy Bell alludes to in her post and feel passionately about it, I feel the same of the opposite opinion.

        I too experienced being teased by kids who looked like me about how I talked. However, I have also had numerous teachers, professors, co-workers, managers, random strangers etc. who have used the same language as her post. It was very damaging and took years to overcome.

        • Beauty In Truth

          Black kids were the worst! Girls in general have been petty and bullies but nothing like the ghetto black girls who wanted to start a fight if you looked at them thecwrong way plus the self hating demeaning black guys who love to put us down at an early age! (Gotta start somewhere right)

          We grow up and see reality for what it is. The inner-city and projects have exceptions but nono aint nobody applauding my successes. It’s hate, jealousy, and spite that I could get out and do better. And our people will take each other down quick! “Hate ourselves and love they wealth.” Yes all so true.

          I won’t profess a lie.

          • I’m sorry that you experienced that and happy that you overcame it.

            Sometimes we notice things more when it comes from people who share the same skin color as us, and it can hurt more.

            As mentioned in my prior post, I experienced something similar, but it wasn’t as severe. While it bothered me greatly at the time, I got passed it. However, the coded racist language that Wendy Bell used is something that I experienced daily growing up, and currently.

            Just as the topic of crime and schools within the Black community is important to you, making sure that Black kids enter school and leave feeling empowered, capable, and adequate is important to me.

            People who use the language used by Wendy Bell, feed the narrative that people who walk, talk, dress and work a certain way or enjoy certain activities are the outliers. They praise, promote, or help those that fit their ideals. That can cause resentment from those who aren’t among “the chosen” who may be equally capable but are overlooked because they didn’t fit the ideal.

            • Beauty In Truth

              Don’t be sorry it’s the overwhelming truth for many living in these areas.

      • CheGueverraWitBlingOn

        Again…I understand your vehemence but you are getting caught in the trap where people think that any defense against the racist and privileged generalizations of white people mean that no one gets mad at black folk for similar non-sense and that black folks ONLY get mad at the wrongness of what was said by white people and not any of the ills in our community that are referenced.

        This is just patently not true and missing the point of why people are pissed in the first place.
        1. Black people who say dumb, racist, white privileged shyt get dragged too (See, e.g. Stacey Dash). Sometimes even worse. Damon was relatively nice to this white woman and the clear demonstration of you plantation missus mentality. Black people, if anything, get less of a pass.

        2. Black people care about the social ills and problems (and actively work against them in collective fashion) in their communities, but somehow expecting that these acts alone can change the nature of the psychosis amongst our young people is nonsensical. They are not just an outgrowth of the sickness in ‘our culture’ that is causing these things.

        Furthermore, the reaction from black folk here is not because we think we live in some post-racial ‘lala’ land where we don’t expect white people to act like this, but because it’s another example of the broad system of white supremacy and institutional that is intrinsic in causing the very state of affair in our communities that you seem to be so heavily laying at the feet of the very victims of disenfranchisement.

        • marco polo

          When todays whites are constantly getting bashed by blacks for slavery and white privilege why would any of us even be interested in even a casual hookup.And the idea of white privilege is racist. Look at Americas openess on black on white bashing and then surprised when a white girl says no thanks Ill pass.

        • Beauty In Truth

          1) Actually only black women get dragged. BM say alot of similar things and seem to be praised, and self-celebrated for this divergence from traditional black ideology but that’s a whole nother topic.

          2) Do black people care? The micro aggression and hate from fellow blacks seems to be felt stronger. At least I know white people hate me out of their own self insecurity and inferiority complex. But why do random black people I don’t know seem so passionately disrespectful of my successes and general well being? Even on this blog alone if you post an opposing idea the amount of vitriol (from the black women in particular) is so far and wide, you would’ve thought I was swimming in the fking atlantic.

          I get the anger, I didn’t say the lady was this or that. I’m pretty much neutral because I expect it. But she was not making it all up either (imo)

          • kenyadigit

            Herman Cain, Mr. Gifted hands, Bill Cosby have been called out for the BS that they spew. What black man says things on par with the Stacy Dashes and I’m so raven and don’t get dragged for it?

            Some black people may dislike you because they are people. Just because you have the similar shades of melanin does not mean that they will automatically like or respect you. They could be jealous of you or they just don’t like the way your hair looks.

      • Brian Bullard

        You hit the nail on the head. We don’t like it when someone from another race calls us on our bull shyt but yet and still we keep doing the “crabs in a barrel” with each other. I have been saying that the someone in that house was doing something they shouldn’t have done and it came home to roost. The shooters just didn’t pick a random house. For the most part, when you see a home invasion or shooting, what I just referenced is most likely the case. I have a reasonable expectation of feeling safe in my own house merely because I’m not doing stuff that’s going to have someone want to come to my home and shoot me and mine.

      • marco polo

        You are correct.

    • Mike Green

      there’s black people n the editing room?? 0_o

    • Beauty In Truth

      Interestingly enough, black folks
      ONLY get mad when whites call us out for things but could care less about the
      way we treat each other. Don’t know why this supposed Liberal free thinking
      blog felt the need to delete my open and honest opinion.

      Growing up in these reckless neighborhoods most of us had to dodge bullies and
      bullets on a daily basis. Let’s be real, we may protest, but not the way every
      other group gets together to make a statement. What she stated is based in lots
      of statistical evidence that crimes to often happen not too far from the block.
      (As in a family member get’s his people caught up).

      I wish ALL THE LIES of the black community would be busted wide open because
      I’ve had enough. We care SOOO much about what these people think as if we are
      in some post racial state of bliss that allows for everything from interracial
      dating, to kissing white azz up the corporate ladder for over half of our
      lives. We hate on each other constantly while promoting the IDGAF attitudes
      amongst our communities.

      How can we expect decency from each other when we are constantly acting this way:
      “Live fast, die young! FK the world! I only got me and myself!”

      She
      didn’t say this in the context of BLM (And I would’ve felt differently had she
      done so).

      No sense of community or respect or
      love in these hoods and we are all surprised when some other group highlights
      this. Yes other groups do similar or worse often, but we need to address these
      issues and stop having decades old conversations about the same issues. And
      this is a class issue. All white people know of middle class blacks, she’s
      speaking on the urban rougher areas where it is often a day-to-day struggle
      just to get by without harassment or someone trying to assert their fake
      authority to feel worthwhile. (ghetto dudes and women).

      I heard her slight of mouth and
      SOMEWHAT insensitive comments, but she’s not lying! I can’t walk around in
      philly or any major city as a black female in impoverished hoods freely and NOT
      get cussed out or harassed if I don’t respond the way certain inner city black men
      want. I’ve been called a btch for not rolling down my window to give money
      NUMEROUS times, chased down by grown black men in cars because I wouldn’t stop
      and have conversations. STOP LYING about our communities.

      The bougie blacks don’t help the one’s
      less fortunate. We crab in the barrel and hate on each other so dang hard. When
      we come together and stop pretending otherwise then we can jump on this lady,
      until then the black inner city rough communities can have 8 seats.

      • Sigma_Since 93

        Wow. You said a lot to say a little. Let’s give the folks a cliff notes version:

        Yes there are some potential inconsistencies in how we want other groups to treat us and how we treat ourselves. What you don’t point out is that there are people in those same neighborhoods working to make a positive impact. You don’t mention churches, Boys and Girls Clubs, Divine 9 organizations that mentor and provide a different prospective on how things can be.

        Living fast and dying young is not something that Black people coined. Have you forgotten about James Dean, Janis Joplin, River Phoenix, and Kurt Cobain??? Patron Saint of being about that fast and loose life.

        I’ve always stated that the delivery was sloppy and inconsistent; the underlying message fine. Instead of realizing her blindspot, she doubled down and made things worse.

        • Beauty In Truth

          I said a lot that meant a lot. If people don’t want to hear the truth that’s not my problem. I’m not gonna lie just so white people can think better of us (becaue they flock to these blogs to check us out you know)

          The misogynoir, the violence, the crabs in the barrel, the colorism, the blatant disregard for each other in the deep inner cities.

          It’s quite a mess. Then not even a day later we got articles on Btchs like cardi b. The lies we tell!!!!

  • Lea Thrace

    I FLUCKING CANT.

  • Ess Tee

    1. The photo of her is…I’ll just say, my first impression of her with that haircut was that she looks like she has children with a Black man. Just sayin’.

    2. OMG that paragraph about Jerome*. I imagine ol’ girl had some orchestral music playing in the background as she typed up the Facebook status, and as she reached this portion of her storytelling–about Jerome the buser–the orchestra strings began to swell and the horns section became robust, which then inspired her to do that thing Where You Capitalize Damn Near Every Word to emphasize its Import to Readers.

    I can’t.

    *I don’t know that kid’s name, but I may as well keep with Wendy Lou Who’s stereotyping, yanno.

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