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Why Do We Care Who Sandra Bullock Adopted?

Sandra Bullock adopts Black Baby

Sandra Bullock cares about black people

Sandra Bullock, the woman who captured America’s heart and sympathy at nearly the exact same time via The Blindside and Jesse James’ wayward peepee has gone and adopted a Black kid from New Orleans.

Yay.

She’s another in the long line of white folks who’ve gone out and copped them a ninja to raise and support.

Yay.

So why is this a story? Seriously. I just peeped a CNN story entitled, “Bullock’s adoption of black baby stirs debate” and frankly I’m puzzled by the “debate.” Why does it even matter to anybody? Shouldn’t we just be glad that a Black baby from America actually got adopted. Most celebs traipse on over to Africa to pick up a kid to make a millionaire. Bullock, a woman with strong ties to New Orleans, has gone and adopted a youngster from the great city. Once again, I’m just happy the child was adopted…at all.

Look, I’m one of those people who feels that white people cannot adequately raise Black children. Not in this country where racial tensions lay latent and then explode out of nowhere for whatever reason. It’s hard for a white person to contextualize for a Black child what it all really means. It just is. This is fact. All the books in the world cannot teach you how to be Black. That’s a cultural experience and education that requires actual experience and education. White people tend to make excuses for other white people’s shortcomings and tell you that “it’s not everybody” and that you should take an individual as just that. They believe that the institutions are intent on justice, blah blah blah (No Ke$ha). Fact is, it’s bull malarkey. But…

…therein lies the quagmire. While I recognize that white people are not equipped (not even my own mother) to raise Black babies, SOMEBODY has to raise them. White parents are better than no parents at all. Especially in America where there are so many unadopted Black children who grow up in a system that is not designed to foster their growth, but their survival.

In a piece appearing on the site Black Voices, writer Lola Adesioye notes that Bullock joins other stars, including Madonna and Angelina Jolie, who have adopted black children. Madonna and Jolie’s children are African and Bullock’s new son, Louis, is from New Orleans, Louisiana.

“As Bullock’s case shows, a white celebrity adopting a black child raises questions as well as suspicions,” Adesioye writes. “Why do they want a black baby as opposed to a white one, when there are also white kids who are up for adoption?”

Why does this raise suspicions though? Seriously, I’m curious. I recognize that it became trendy a few years back to go to Africa and get a kid, and I see how it looks like the nice white people are helping out the darkies, but, suspicious? I’m not suspicious of these individuals intent. Maybe they view it as their way of giving back to those in need. I doubt any of them want a farm full of ninjas to do their work for them. That’s why they’ve hired Latinos already.

The online magazine Clutch, which is aimed at African-American women, asked its readers “Do you think Sandra Bullock is using her new black son to curtail the negative publicity on her husband’s scandalous affairs? Or is Bullock like many adoptive mothers who simply want to give children in need a happy home?”

The responses of commenters ranged from “God bless anyone who wants to adopt” to “Suspicious with the timing.” One person commenting raised the parallel of Bullock’s starring role as a woman whose family opens its home to a disadvantaged black football player in “The Blind Side” to her real-life adoption.

“When I saw the trailer my first thought was ‘not another white savior movie!’ ” wrote a commenter who identified herself as “Margaret.” “But in real life — our kids need homes. I’m glad to see that Sandra Bullock chose to adopt a child from the United States. Too many of our babies are in the system.”

I don’t even view these folks as trying to be white saviors. I view them as rich people with endless cash and realizing that the best way to give back is to REALLY do it by raising a kid. I think in this case, most folks are either over it because it happens so frequently or realize it’s a non-starter (like this CNN forced piece), but it comes up every time we hear about a white person of celebrity adopting a Black child.

So my people, why does anybody even care who these people are adopting? At least they’re adopting…right??

Inquiring minds would like to know.

-VSB P aka THE ARSONIST aka TANGLE JIG P aka GIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIRL, HE A 3

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  • http://www.sheliagoss.com/blog Shelia Goss

    I don’t know what the big deal is. I’m glad someone is adopting an American Black child instead of going to other countries. There are plenty of Black kids here who need homes so kudos to Sandra Bullock for adopting a child in need of a loving parent.

    • Mo

      I don’t care nor do I see the big deal. She seems to be one of the few people who understand that in order to adopt outside your race, you need to have people around who can speak to your adopted child’s experience. I don’t know why I feel that way, but I do. So, I say more power to her, God bless her and I’m glad she adopted a kid from the U. S.

      And if any Black person feels that serious/strongly about it, then they need to get their act together and adopt a Black kid of their own. Put up or shut up. End.of.story.

      • LuckBALady

        PREACH.

      • PapiEsq

        I feel you. However, though we can’t know her motives, it just seems like the “in” thing for white celebrities to do to declare their A-list status now. Mama’s lil’ baby is becoming an accessory, tantamount to an Hermes bag or Manolos.

        • DC Jai

          Sandra Bullock has never struck me as the type to do what is ‘trendy’. She is known for helping minorities and this adoption process took place way before Jesse James was caught cheating. I say good for her (regardless of the color of her child) because she needed some happiness in her life.

      • krystal from tx
  • Jennell

    I just so happened to have a conversation about this the other day with some of my white co-workers. What’s interesting is they all said exactly the same thing: “Why adopt a black baby?” Let it be stated that I live in TN and this probably had A LOT to do with the responses. Finally one woman came up with the notion that maybe the appeal of the black baby, particularly the black baby boy, is the idea that maybe they are showing how selfless they are by picking the “bottom on the barrel” and attempting to “save” the child from what would no doubt be a life of poor education, poverty, gang violence, etc. I waited for her to say that she was being sarcastic but she was completely serious….

    I personally don’t mind that she adopted the little boy. It’s none of my damn business. The way I see it, at least she adopted from the USA.

  • Terribke

    FIRST!

    that baby look like lil wayne #ftw

    • IVR in Qatar

      “FIRST!

      that baby look like lil wayne #ftw”

      LMAO! Damn . . . thats f-d up. That baby gonna be PAID like lil wayne. . .more power to him or her.

    • http://lizburr.com Liz

      SMH. All that shade and you ain’t even first!

    • M Gundam

      Let’s talk about that pic of the baby on the magazine. LOL, That kid got the only “do you believe this s*** face”

      • http://lizburr.com Liz

        LOL. You ain’t right. He’s a cutie!

        • http://www.twitter.com/GemoftheOcean Gem of the Ocean

          yes, he’s a cutie!! not as cute as my godson, but a cutie nonetheless

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

      @Terribke, wow, not even second. LOL. so so wrong.

  • I’ll give it a try

    Um, no, I could care less. Given that my own birth mother took off on me and didn’t pop back into my life until I was 14, I say your real parents are those people who love, care, and nuture you and care enough about your well being to see you come out some kind of way (be they black, white, asian, etc).

    If these folks are adopting for the right reasons, I see no problem with it. Just make sure somebody knows how to come their damn hair when they come of age

    • Leila

      “I say your real parents are those people who love, care, and nuture you and care enough about your well being to see you come out some kind of way (be they black, white, asian, etc)”

      I agree completely.

    • SaneN85

      I agree with the nurture over nature aspect of your comment. However, as someone who had a very similar experience with my mother (who reappeared after 11 years), I know that nobody is my parent but her. The simple act of her reappearing and wanting to be a part of my life showed that she cared, and fighting to get us back was just further proof. Then again, I didn’t have any steady adult in my life in those first 11 years, and I might feel differently if I did have a somewhat stable home environment.

      As for the post, if more people of means would do what Sandra did and adopt a child in need (regardless of race), then I probably wouldn’t need to ask myself if I would feel differently under different circumstances. I would have experienced those circumstances. So, I believe Sandra did a great thing and doesn’t need to justify it to anyone.

      • Leila

        “I believe Sandra did a great thing and doesn’t need to justify it to anyone”

        I don’t understand why people are criticizing her. It really baffles me that people get criticized over doing a great thing. Adopting in the US or abroad gives a child a home. There’s nothing worse than not feeling wanted or having a family, so if someone can provide that, kudos to them.

  • Peyso

    Good for her! However, I am suspicious of the timing. I really do hope that she honestly wants to raise this child and is not doing it for the publicity b/c that would make her a pretty terrible person.

    I too am tired of the white savior coming to save the black man’s arse. Its just a story that’s tired and old and redundant and addresses white guilt w/o addressing white privilege which causes it.

    • http://www.awesomelyluvvie.com Luvvie

      Her adoption of a baby has been 4 yrs in the making. She’s even HAD him since before the Oscar’s. It has nothing to do w/ her #hosh*t-loving hubby of hers.

    • QueenT

      Peyso, why do you think more celebrity black folks aren’t stepping up and adopting lil black babies/kids? Somebody has to step up and make a home for these kids…I wish I would hear of Oprah, Denzel and other celebs of note, adopting..but, we aren’t doing it…….

      • its2010dammit

        I think a Celebrity black couple should adopt a female white child from Scandinavia and make sure she has blue eyes and blonde hair.

        Can you imagine the outrage?

        • http://www.pinchmycheekie.blogspot.com Cheekie

          “I think a Celebrity black couple should adopt a female white child from Scandinavia and make sure she has blue eyes and blonde hair.

          Can you imagine the outrage?”

          OMG, yes. The world would implode with side-eyes. They would get much more attitude than White celebs. I just recently read an article about a non-celeb Black family adopting a little white girl and the troubles they experienced. Yes, the “Why couldn’t you find a Black kid” question was raised for them, but what really stood out to me was how folks would look at the Black father suspiciously when they’d see him holding the little white girl’s hand…even going so far as going UP to the child and asking, “Are you okay”?. IN FRONT of the parents. O_O

          • http://nianaturally.blogspot.com N.I.A. naturally

            I read that article. It was very telling of how post-racial we really are. It’s much more accepted for a white person to adopt a BOC(baby of color) than a black couple adopting a white or even a non-black baby. Personally, I want anyone who can adequately care for a child financially, emotionally to feel free to adopt any child available. There are enough children to go around.

        • Leila

          Josephine Baker did that back in the 50′s. She adopted over 10 kids from all different backgrounds – black, white, asian, hispanic.

      • a plus

        why do you think more celebrity black folks aren’t stepping up and adopting lil black babies/kids?

        or black people in general. i’m not saying that we all have a duty to adopt black babies, but until more of us step up, then i think it’s fine that some white people want to play “savior” (even though I really don’t see it that way, it is what it is). my mom works for a program that advocates for abused and neglected children. the majority of the children in the system are black, but the majority of the volunteers of her program are white. she has spent the last 20 years trying her hardest to recruit more black volunteers, but to no avail. she’s said that many of the white volunteers that she does have are some of the sweetest and nicest people she’s met, and they’re doing wonderful work for these children. if they’re doing it out of some sort of white guilt, or they want to play savior to some little black babies, so be it, but at least someone’s doing it

        • http://www.twitter.com/GemoftheOcean Gem of the Ocean

          but until more of us step up, then i think it’s fine that some white people want to play “savior” (even though I really don’t see it that way, it is what it is).

          im completely agree!!! id rather a black child suffer cultural identity issues as a result of adoption by white parent(s) than a black child dealing with a whole host of other issues because NO one (black. white or other) else will rescue them from being raised by the state.

          • http://nianaturally.blogspot.com N.I.A. naturally

            complete co-sign.

      • Deviant

        Who says they aren’t?

        It’s just not as big of a story to the mainstream media. I’m sure white celebrities adopt white children all the time and black celebrities do the same. I’m sure there are many affluent but unknown people who adopt children of any and all races. But there’s nothing special about that. It’s not news.

        • http://www.twitter.com/GemoftheOcean Gem of the Ocean

          while i see your point, the fact remains that there are all too many :”real life” stories of black social workers and adoption agency workers that say there just arent many black couples stepping up to adopt any children. so the reality is very likely that black ppl just arent adopting.

          on the flip side, i have heard of many black single women trying to adopt and running into little luck based on a host of barriers that confront them. which is also very sad (altho i understand why single parents arent the most attractive for adoption)

          • Deviant

            I won’t argue numbers but I will assume that those numbers vary with respect to geography and socio-economic conditions.

            And I will point out that there are plenty of black people raising black children that are not their own. Maybe just not on paper…

          • krystal from tx

            @Deviant, right. It would be just plain ignorant to not acknowledge that we as a community have different obligations, values that has been embedded systemically into our lives and do not have the same economic and social freedoms to do what most 2520s have the freedom and the time to do…its not to say that 2520s are better than blacks for taking in little lakeesha though that seems to be the message being conveyed here. and you’re right, besides, after 400 years of playing “mammy” to everyone elses kids with little or no recognition..not being able to take in lakeesha is more than likely a reprecussion of having done so, therefore, I think we could give ourselves a BIT of a break here.

    • krystal from tx

      Peyso. I am indeed suspicious myself..right after her public break up who will FATHER this child? Its the child has gone from one broken home to another. Doesn’t matter if the place has neverland ranch as a backyard, a child without a father is still like a house without a roof..is this an attempt at someone trying to make ‘Art’ imitate life by trying to live out ‘The blindside’? ftw…yeah but errything outside of those thoughts about this=meh.

  • grayse

    from what I understand the adoption process has been underway way before her separation AND the filming of the movie… And to say it raises suspicion is just ridiculous. Black males are the least likely of any child to be adopted and this one now has a great chance at a good life… He may not be raised in a black household, and I’m not saying that he won’t lack anything in terms of his culture, but for some people to make that a more important factor than him having a home outside of the system is crazy. I would think I’d rather have someone not like me take care of me and love me than a system that has a history of neglect and failures.

    I also don’t think white celebrities are doing this as a “trend” as I’ve heard people say. Children are a lifelong responsibility and too much trouble to just get as a “trend”. Like you said- they have the means to do this and this may be their way of “giving back” and giving someone a chance at a good life they otherwise would never have gotten.

    • http://lizburr.com Liz

      I don’t know if I believe she did the adoption independent of the film. Films take years and years to produce, as do adoptions. I could see her reading the script 5 years ago and being influenced in making the adoption move around the same time. Pure coincidence? Maybe. But not likely. Do I think she did it for cool points or anything selfserving? Not at all. Sandy has always been good in my book.

      p.s. grayse where you been? lol. i used to read ur blog back in the day!

      • grayse

        liz!! I’ve been… Ok. Lol. The last few yrs have been rough on me! I did just buy a new domain tho so I may start blogging again :) but I’ve been around! Checking in here periodically :)

        ure right I’m not sure how long ago she read the script, etc but I did read she filed adoption papers about 4 yrs ago AND she’s had the baby 5 mos now and didn’t make a media circus of it- so I’m confident she didn’t do this as a publicity stunt.

        I need to find you on twitter to keep in touch!! (do you have twitter?)

        • http://lizburr.com Liz

          haha yes, I am @calinative on twitter.

          I think this explains why she was so MIA when the JJ sh*t hit the fan. Didn’t see her NOWHERE. Must have been hiding out with her baby, understandably so.

    • http://www.twitter.com/GemoftheOcean Gem of the Ocean

      haha, “giving back while getting black”. yeah, seems reasonable. who can judge her motives anyway?

      now… if she sends the child BACK after awhile talmbout it is defective, well then we have a problem.

    • Sula

      but for some people to make that a more important factor than him having a home outside of the system is crazy.

      Thank you!

  • reader

    Those “suspicious of the timing” should note they started the adoption process 3 or 4yrs ago and she has had the baby for about 5 month now. She just kept it on the low so the baby wouldn’t be thrust into the spotlight. Kudos to her.

  • Ashleyg

    I don’t care. Wish one of them would adopt me and put me through grad school…
    Honestly, I just think that sometimes we blacks just want something to harp about. If rich white people were only adopting white babies, we complain about how many more black babies are in the system and how they deserve a home. Also, does anyone care that Katherine Heigle (sp) adopted an Asian baby?? Nope. Are Asians up in arms about it? I doubt it. Yes I understand the cultural barriers and that noone understands black like black BUT at least they’re trying. So what if they feel like giving Tyshonda a home and trust fund negates every racist thought they’ve ever had and makes them look like a modern mother Teresa swooping in to alleviate some of the pain of our genetically predisposed inferior quality of life (hehehe) and so what Angelina won’t comb Zahara’s hair. The kids have a home, and playrooms the size of most of our apartments.

    Seriously though, it takes a special kind of person to take a strangers child into their home and care for him as her own. God bless her and anybody else- they’re doing something that I don’t see myself equipped to do…

    • Dee

      “and so what Angelina won’t comb Zahara’s hair.”

      based on Shiloh’s hair, I think Angie doesn’t have patience for little girls’ hair, Black or White.

      • http://www.twitter.com/GemoftheOcean Gem of the Ocean

        LOL true indeed

    • Sula

      Seriously though, it takes a special kind of person to take a strangers child into their home and care for him as her own.

      Pretty much…

  • santa monihey

    allow the freedom writers diaries syndrome… Sandra Bullock isn’t trying to save a black kid because of ‘white guilt’. She started this adoption nearly a year ago, WITH her husband. An adoption isn’t an overnight thing (unless your kids from Africa and you make enough to feed the entire continent ten times over).

    An adoption w.in America, esp from a high ‘demand’ area like New Orleans has red tape, procedures and takes too long to be a ‘im single now, i think ill have a kid’ kind of thing. You practically raise the adoption papers before you ever see a kid.

    And I’m not tired of white ‘saviours’, im tired of black whiners. I’m from E. Africa, and all i ever hear are people complaining about the state of Africa… complaining about UN troops and invasive US policies, when their own people are turning into warlords, their children soldiers and their presidents theives.

    I’d rather have a White saviour then a Black devil.

    And shoot… in the state we’re in today, can we really even AFFORD to consider the colour of a person skin when they offer help? Once you’re up shits creek w.o a paddle (unfairly), does it really matter how light skinned your boat is?

    If your willing to complain about white/black adoptions, adopt all the black kids in the world yourself. Otherwise, i feel like its really underhand to knock down the only chance at a mother/child relationship most of these lil bros’ and sis’ have. You’re essentially pointing a finger at an orphan saying “HAH if you havent noticed, your mother cant be half as good as a black mother.” if thats not rubbing salt on a wound… i dunno what is.

    • IVR in Qatar

      “If your willing to complain about white/black adoptions, adopt all the black kids in the world yourself.”

      This is absolutely true . . . Black folks standing around and complaining about stuff but not willing to take any action. Fukkit tell her I need a white mama.

    • Dee

      “And I’m not tired of white ’saviours’, im tired of black whiners.”

      amen.

      • Keisha Brown

        I’m not tired of white ’saviours’, im tired of black whiners

        *patiently waits for the t-shirt.

        • melekaj

          I’m gonna need that in a large please, thanks.

      • Sula

        Let the church say Amen!

        • santa monihey

          tshirts eh :D? i have no idea what to say to this so, fosho.

          • Keisha Brown

            loll..
            pretty much when something can be summed up in a line – it deserves to be t-shirted!!

            i’ve grown vsb’s store collevtion 10fold since i started commented. i hope someone is keeping track!!

            (yes, yes.. i know.. track deez..) :D

    • http://www.pinchmycheekie.blogspot.com Cheekie

      “If your willing to complain about white/black adoptions, adopt all the black kids in the world yourself. ”

      I agree with this to an extent. While i feel ya on folks who complain but don’t do anything to change it, I don’t think folks who express criticism are required by default to adopt kids themselves. Maybe THEY know they aren’t qualified and/or can’t afford to adopt, which in actuality, it’s better that they don’t. I love kids but I’m not ready to adopt them. So, if I care enough about kids to express criticism IF what I’m criticizing is true (not saying it is or isn’t in Sandra’s case, but I DO express concern when folks view adopting as a TREND), I think it’s valid to do so even if I’m not adopting children myself. Still, there are other ways to assist children than adopting them yourself.

      • santa monihey

        True.. but the point of the matter is, pointing out how bad a situation is doesn’t do anything but make it worse. We don’t walk past homeless people and say “Man, if only you had a job… you could feed yourself!”. Why write about orphans and say “Doesnt it SUCK that your adoptive mother doesn’t look like you?”

        If you really care about the kids, give them congratulations, pray for them to w.e diety you follow, send donations if you cant adopt, become a big sis/big bro… don’t knock down the only hope they got just cuz it’s not ideal.

        • http://www.pinchmycheekie.blogspot.com Cheekie

          “True.. but the point of the matter is, pointing out how bad a situation is doesn’t do anything but make it worse.”

          You have to identify the problem before you solve it. But, I do agree that ONLY complaining won’t help anything, which I noted in my previous comment.

          • santa monihey

            Great minds think alike = :D

      • krystal from tx

        I think it’s valid to do so even if I’m not adopting children myself. Still, there are other ways to assist children than adopting them yourself.

        ^This hurr. Gone are the days where your teacher would stop by the house for dinner and real heart to heart PTAs. I mean really getting involved with our children and providing them with productive and positive atmospheres for them to thrive in. Instilling pride for who they are and not wishing to be something other than what they are. The money, fame. It fades away. We’re talking about the character of others and how that will play an influential role in the child’s life and what kind of examples are being set for the child. All very reasonable concerns and questions some may easily mistake for ‘complaining’

    • http://www.twitter.com/GemoftheOcean Gem of the Ocean

      I’d rather have a White saviour then a Black devil.

      i feel this sentiment

      • santa monihey

        I wish we could be our own saviours.. but you gotta do the best you can w. what you got. And that doesn’t include negativity.

  • http://victoriainkenya.blogspot.com/ ViK

    I’m happy for Sandra Bullock. I believe that this is legit and not a publicity stunt, since she’s never been very “Hollywood.” I’m happy she adopted a boy, because after looking at Zahara Jolie-Pitts’ hair… *dies inside*

    But why is Louis giving coldest side eye in every picture in the People magazine spread?

    • http://victoriainkenya.blogspot.com/ ViK

      Oops…hit post before I finished my thought. I think it’s tacky when tabloids accuse celebrities of copying someone by adopting a (fill in ethnicity) baby, or adopting a child at all. Katherine Heigl was supposedly copying Angelina Jolie with her Korean daughter – mind you Heigl’s sister was adopted from Korea. A child is a lifetime commitment, not a publicity stunt.

      • http://www.awesomelyluvvie.com Luvvie

        “A child is a lifetime commitment, not a publicity stunt.”

        Unless you’re Madonna.

    • Ms. Nicole

      ITA about Sandra being one of the less affected stars out in the ‘Weird. She has always come across to me as just a Texas gal who happens to work in the movies. She seems like the kind of woman you could just chill with and feel comfortable going in her house to help yourself to something to eat once you got to be friends. Just down to Earth woman who is glowing with happiness that she’s finally getting to experience being a Mom, and I bless her everyday for that, because while all these ninjas are bitchin’, I don’t see not one of their asses getting in the line to go through that process. Screw that. If Sandra can love this little boy and give him a good life, then more power to her.

      But on the other hand, I have issues with Black people constantly bitching about Zahara’s hair. Zahara’s hair IS combed. She just doesn’t have 50 million barrettes and doo-dads hanging off her head, jacking up an already delicate hairline. Also, Zahara doesn’t seem like the type who would keep that ish on her head anyway.

      Maybe (and I realize that this is a foreign concept for some Black folk) Brad and Angie want Z to grow up to have a positive self image of herself as an African woman, and for them, that means keeping Z’s hair clean, and then letting it do what it do. Black children do not need to have all that mess on them to look “put together”. I like Z’s lil wash n go fro. Makes her look like a lil girl who has a hella lot of fun and who doesn’t worry about stupid stuff like hair when she can probably barely spell her name yet.

      I think Louis is a beautiful baby and that he’s lucky to have a mom who will love him. And as for the so-called Black experience, not every Black person’s experience is the same, and we are not some conglomeration of oneness who have all had “the Man” keep us down. I’ve always felt that that was just one more excuse for why we as a people don’t rise, and to be honest, it’s the mentality of an oppressed person.

      I sincerely hope that Louis has his own experience.

      • bajanflchick

        “I sincerely hope that Louis has his own experience.”-this sums it all up perfectly though *CHURCH, and might I add, I hope it’s a GREAT one !

      • Deeds

        And as for the so-called Black experience, not every Black person’s experience is the same, and we are not some conglomeration of oneness who have all had “the Man” keep us down.

        This is very true…my black experience can be totally different than yours and folks in my own fam as well.

      • V Renee

        I agree 1000% with your comment about Zahara’s hair. I don’t understand the hoopla about that baby’s hair. It looks fine! Like you said, how is it suppose to look?! It looks healthy, clean AND combed.

      • Sula

        But on the other hand, I have issues with Black people constantly bitching about Zahara’s hair. Zahara’s hair IS combed. She just doesn’t have 50 million barrettes and doo-dads hanging off her head, jacking up an already delicate hairline. Also, Zahara doesn’t seem like the type who would keep that ish on her head anyway.

        Maybe (and I realize that this is a foreign concept for some Black folk) Brad and Angie want Z to grow up to have a positive self image of herself as an African woman, and for them, that means keeping Z’s hair clean, and then letting it do what it do. Black children do not need to have all that mess on them to look “put together”. I like Z’s lil wash n go fro. Makes her look like a lil girl who has a hella lot of fun and who doesn’t worry about stupid stuff like hair when she can probably barely spell her name yet.

        I need this whole paragraph copied and plastered all over the internet. Please and thank you!

        If you want to subject your daughters to a lifelong servitude to how their hair looks, do it. But please do not transfer your hair issues onto a poor little kid and her parents for choosing what they think is BEST for her… When I read those Zahara hair comments I am beyond annoyed. Not every body wants or wishes to work their lives around hair appointments… and some of us are perfectly fine with that. Zahara will be more than ok.

    • http://www.twitter.com/GemoftheOcean Gem of the Ocean

      lmao @ louis’ side eye

    • frank j

      WHO CARES ABOUT SANDRA BULLOCK, SHE GOT HER DIVORCE, HAS A KID. AND APPARENTLY WANTS NOTHING TO DO WITH JESSSE JAMES KIDS. SHE BASICALLY SAYING SCREW YOU, I DON’T NEED YOU. HELL SHE WOULD NOT GIVE A DAMM IF HE KILLED HIMSELF,SHE PROBABLY THROW A PARTY.