Why Compliments Are A Man’s Kryptonite

Adulthood has taught me two indisputable tenets about women

1. Most women possess a ton of unnecessary sh*t.

Some of this sh*t is somewhat practical (layers of expired coupons, Thai cook books, etc), some is understandable (dozens of bottles of overpriced oils and lotions and sh*t all doing the exact same f*cking thing, pictures of Santonio Holmes’ wang, etc), and some is so hilariously frivolous that you start to wonder if they rob Tuesday Mornings in their spare time (pink couch pillows with the names of the entire cast of Grey’s Anatomy monogrammed in Arial Narrow, candles with scents like “depression mahogany” and “Oprah at night,” etc).

2. If you ever happen to be somewhere where your girlfriend is going to meet up with a few of her girlfriends, be prepared to witness an extended period of compliment cunnilingus when they see each other.

Now, it’s possible that all women don’t do this and that the women in my sphere of influence are just a little nicer than most others. But, from a completely anecdotal perspective, it seems like women are completely unable to see each other without devoting the first 10 to 25 minutes of their conversations to complimenting each other about anything.

Yes. Anything. Seriously, it’s really not that far-fetched to overhear some sh*t like “Wow, Jane. Ever since that pitbull bit off your nose, I couldn’t help to notice how pretty your eyes are. I’m so jealous. I’d definitely let a pit bull bite off my nose and eat my nephew if I could have eyes like that!”

Anyway, I’m bringing this up because of a statement Lady Champ made a few days ago. (Actually, it was more of smart-aleck tease than a statement. But, for the sake of the discussion, it’ll stay a statement today.) She made notice of the fact that I have a tendency to turn into a slobbering bastard when a woman other than my mom gives me a compliment, and she followed that by saying that most men are the exact same way.

My initial reaction was to dispute this, but then I remembered that just that day I got all verklempt when I accidentally overheard a Starbucks barista matter-of-factly say “…see, I’d definitely date him. But, black guys like that don’t like me.” to another barista. Never mind the fact that she didn’t actually say it to me, and never mind that I had no idea what a “black guy like me” actually was, she gave me an indirect compliment and I almost choked on my orange juice when hearing it.

Why did this affect me so? Well, the answer comes from that barista. You see, although she complimented me…she didn’t give me the compliment. She didn’t just come out and say “Hey, young black sir, I think you’re attractive and I wouldn’t mind sharing a cinnamon rice cake with you” because, well, women very, very, very rarely give direct compliments to random men.

If fact, not only do men rarely hear compliments from random women, most of us rarely hear compliments from women we’re actually sleeping with.  Seriously, aside from the usual mid-coital kudos (ie: “Your d*ck is on some American Airways sh*t tonight, baby! Damn! You got the magic motherf*ckin touch”), most men reading this can probably count the number of compliments their girlfriend has given them on one hand.

When you combine this with the fact that you’re probably going to see Casey Anthony giving the headline speech at a CYS conference before you see the majority of men freely, easily, and directly complimenting other men, you understand why the compliment is a man’s kryptonite — the one thing that can turn goons to goo and thugs to ticklish teddy bears.

Now, it’s completely understandable why women — most of whom are quick to compliment each other about anything, remember — are reluctant to freely compliment men. Something as innocent as “Hey, you always have the nicest pencils.” could (and probably would) be interpreted by most men as “Hey, I have some space in my vagina that I need for you to fill.

But, maybe that leap is due to the fact that we just aren’t used to hearing them and don’t know how to react when we do. Maybe more experience with receiving them would stop us from automatically thinking “She wants my meatloaf” whenever a woman says something nice to us, and maybe we’d be nicer people. Maybe “more female to male compliments” would = “less crime.” Who knows?

I do know, though, that I’m officially “not allowed” (Ha!) in that Starbucks anymore. Moral of the story, ladies? Be careful. More female to male compliments just might get you cut.

—The Champ

***Speaking of compliments, the homies at Jenesis Magazine ran a pretty complimentary profile of The Champ and VSB on Friday. Check it out if you haven’t already***

  • http://twitter.com/queennaima Naima

    I’m a compliment giver (when its necessary), but I HATE receiving compliments. I think this is because of my social anxiety. “Thank you” sounds so arrogant sometimes. Like you were expecting a compliment and ignore a compliment is just rude. So, I smile and change the subject quickly.

    I never compliment guys. I’ve learned my lesson.

    • sunshyne84

      I hate compliments too especially if they are about my looks. I don’t have much to do with that. I compliment guys I talk to if they’re looking especially nice. *shrugs*

    • OutrageousFlair

      +me…compliments about my looks make me feel uncomfortable, especially if the person keeps going on and on. I know women are supposed to love compliments so when i get them, I also say “thank you” with a smile and move on to the next subject.

    • http://www.styleillusions.com WIP

      I’m also uncomfortable with compliments, but being self-depricating when someone says something nice or acting too shy (like what they said is totally invalid) is probably ruder. I just say “thank you”- whether I agree or not and that’s all the other person is really expecting.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      “I never compliment guys. I’ve learned my lesson.”

      and this is exactly why your city’s overrun by crime

      • http://twitter.com/queennaima Naima

        I am sure there is a way to prove this. However, the last time I told a guy “nice hat” he decided to give me an open mouth kiss…on my face. I am still in recovery. I haven’t gone back to U street since this incident.

        • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

          where were you? The Islander? LOL

          • http://twitter.com/queennaima Naima

            HAHA! No, I was visiting my friend working at Patty Boom Boom. I wasn’t even upstairs in the dancehall, where people do all types of ratchet ish.

          • Qozmic

            First of all…*Dead*… because I know the owners of The Islander. and for reasons of my own that’s hilarious!

            Second..what’s the subtext there. I mean, is there some stigma on The Islander that I don’t know?

            • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

              naw…I’ve just just seen some interesting sh*t at the Islander. lol. it seems like the most “local” spot on U Street for some reason.

      • http://twitter.com/queennaima Naima

        I am sure there is a way to prove this. However, the last time I told a guy “nice hat” he decided to give me an open mouth kiss…on my face. I am still in recovery. I haven’t gone back to U street since this incident.

    • http://twitter.com/SmartFoxGirl SmartFoxGirl

      I had a guy tell me he had feelings for me and I said “Thank you”. Daaaaaamn, that was ice cold. You brought up a good point. I too have a hard time accepting compliments from men. I question the intention of it or sometimes, certain things lose value like “pretty”. What does that mean? N*gga, I’m SMART. lol

      • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

        don’t feel bad. i’ve done this. had a chick call me to meet her out somewhere once and then spill her feelings…all i could muster was “thank you”

        she went her way and i went mine. ain’t seent her since.

      • rnic

        “I question the intention of it or sometimes, certain things lose value like “pretty”.”

        Co-sign this. I have issues with accepting excessive or repeated compliments from people in general within like a 30 second-5 minute time frame. I feel like there’s only so many ways and so many times within that time slot that you can say thank you before it starts sounding a)fake b)presumptuous or c)awkward because you run out of things to say after you say thank you and end up standing there in awkward silence…lol.

        “Something as innocent as “Hey, you always have the nicest pencils.” could (and probably would) be interpreted by most men as “Hey, I have some space in my vagina that I need for you to fill.”

        That pretty much sums it up. Guys take one compliment like women take 2 compliments when we feel our outfit/hair/new shoulder pads/elbow implants warrant 20 instead. Neither gender knows how to act.

        • http://twitter.com/SmartFoxGirl SmartFoxGirl

          TRUTH.COM! You pretty much summed up my reasoning why I’m wary on giving compliments to men. Some men hear what they want to hear and ANYTHING can be perceived as a greenlight to pursue a woman. It’s a slippery slope. Not to get too serious but there are men raping women out here just for smiling at him and making small talk. Women should really be careful when talking to strange men.

  • Dione

    first?

    • nillalatte

      Nope. :P

  • http://satcpsychology.wordpress.com MsVivienne

    So what to do in the meantime when I tell a guy that his haircut looks especially nice and he attempts to immediately hump my leg. Do you know how much dry-cleaning costs?

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      Do you know how much dry-cleaning costs?

      probably less than what it costs you in taxes to house all the criminals who are in jail because they didnt get enough compliments

    • http://twitter.com/SmartFoxGirl SmartFoxGirl

      LMAO!! good point.

    • keisha brown

      LMFAO!

  • http://twitter.com/#!/Mailuv7 Mailuv7

    I know for a fact that I own more crap than God himself, smh idk how or why I’ve amassed so much but I still think that I’ll put it to use one day.

    I do my part to lower urban crime all the time but yeah men do often take it as an open invitation.

    • http://www.styleillusions.com WIP

      Hoarders.

  • http://twitter.com/MzNinaSoul NinaFontaine

    HA this is so true and because men get all beside themselves I have stopped doing it. I remember telling me co-worker I liked his cologne one day. He wore it EVERYDAY for like 4 years LOL. Men are hilarious but you gotta love them!

    • http://www.twitter.com I’ll give it a try

      This! Lol

      The same thing happened to me. And not only did he wear it every day, he upped the dosage, like loud enough to choke a horse! From this point forward I keeps me mouth shut.

      • http://twitter.com/MzNinaSoul NinaFontaine

        EXACTLY!

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      I remember telling me co-worker I liked his cologne one day. He wore it EVERYDAY for like 4 years LOL. Men are hilarious but you gotta love them!

      well, good thing you didnt tell him you liked his underwear

      • http://www.styleillusions.com WIP

        Now this really got me laughing this morning.

    • Yonnie 3000

      This was funny but uhhh… are you supposed to change your perfume/cologne on a regular basis? I mean… I have one that I love and that’s what I buy and wear. Is that wrong?

      • http://twitter.com/MzNinaSoul NinaFontaine

        I wouldn’t say its necessarily “wrong” I am a seasonal perfume wearer. I have different scents that I wear in the spring/summer and some in the fall/winter. I even have some just for evening wear. But I do think perfume goes out of style, but people should where what works for them.
        In this scenario he didn’t wear cologne daily but after the compliment he did.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

      that goes both ways too. i told a co-worker once that i thought a particular color combo she had on looked really nice. she hit the ground running with that one. every damn day she rocked the same color combo for like 2 weeks. she must have bought out Forever 21 or something.

      • http://twitter.com/itztrizz617 herbetteroption

        I told this girl she looked nice without her glasses she aint wore em since…i catch her squinting at things from time to time #myfault

  • http://naturallyalise.com/blog/2011/07/13/cover-girl/ Naturally Alise

    Now that you mention it, every time I give a man I am dating a compliment he looks at me in utter disbelief. This always leads to my questions I ask most dudes, “Who are these evil b*tches you are dating?” I guess you figure what you do is the norm, I didn’t realize so many men didn’t get that kind of acknowledgement. Now I see why I got such props for simple observations and basic sweetness. The More You Know and sh*t.

    • WayUPThere

      “The More You Know” *cue the NBC Rainbow from the 80′s and early 90′s

      Now, it’s possible that all women don’t do this and that the women in my sphere of influence are just a little nicer than most others. But, from a completely anecdotal perspective, it seems like women are completely unable to see each other without devoting the first 10 to 25 minutes of their conversations to complimenting each other about anything.

      Well, actually from my experience…you’re dead on. This happens all the time. I’ve even seen it between girls who don’t like each other. Heck, I don’t watch Basketball Wives, but I bet you they even complement each other when they see each other and sh**.

      I think most guys will verify your claim that when a bunch of women get together they tend to compliment each other excessively….excessively being at all, since us menfolk don’t really do the complimenting thing.

      • http://www.styleillusions.com WIP

        they do. I specifically noticed on some show last night (Southern Belles?) and on all the Real Housewives. Like I mentioned below, I don’t know why we do it though. Maybe it’s to disarm each other. Since we often say women are competitive, with friends, complimenting each other says “I’m not competing with you”- maybe?

    • Imperfect

      I’m the same way. Complimenting isn’t the norm?? Before we broke up…I was working on a flip book for my ex of 100 things I loved about him…I’m super corny like that. That and I talk too much. I say whatever is on my mind…so I’m always sayin dumb stuff like “Wow? Your face is perfectly symmetrical! I love it!” or “You have such a cute nose”. Lol

      • YouHadMeAtHello

        I’m like that too….I compliment at random ALL the time & I always say what’s on my mind. I tend to see the beauty in people and this throws men especially off balance. I notice everything from lovely lashes, to the new haircut to a change of cologne to the new tire rims. My female boss hated me for this coz my desk was the HQ for virtually all my male colleagues and superiors. Methinks when one genuinely cares and take the time to comment on the beauty (nature or nurture) and successes of others, people will gravitate towards you. People have enough stress factors in their daily lives, why not help alleviate it even if said alleviation is just 0.02%.

        But then again, I notice when I’m being complimented by the same person a lot, I get paranoid…”Does he want something?”, “I’m I giving out a vibe that I want compliments?”….then I breathe and tell myself I’m just awesome, other people see it too (giggles!)

      • http://naturallyalise.com/blog/ Naturally Alise

        LOL @ your face is perfectly symmetrical. How about “That line-up makes your eyes pop. Rawr”? No? Oh. -_-

        • Imperfect

          Lol. Try “Your head is perfectly *insert shape here*”

      • http://twitter.com/#!/NewYork2VA NY2VA

        I was working on a flip book for my ex of 100 things I loved about him

        I do corny ish like this too. I will be stealing this for an anniversary gift. This is GOLD!!

  • http://www.southerneccentrik.com Chandra Kamaria

    My mother is a player from way back. When I was growing up, she told me that the first thing you do to win a man over is compliment him. It’s been the secret to my game for the longest. You see, I am one of the women who actually compliment random guys on a regular basis. Yes, most of the time, dudes immediately think I wanna let them get it when I compliment them so I also have to make sure I settle them down before it goes too far.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      “My mother is a player from way back. When I was growing up, she told me that the first thing you do to win a man over is compliment him.”

      this is true. there’s actually a passage in our book about this

    • Come on People

      I do give guys random compliments all the time. Don’t know why, if i like something, i just say it. I guess that is why i am labeled as a flirt, but that is not it at all. I love nice hair cuts. I seem to all ways notice when the guys in my work place get fresh haircuts (that is because I am hair obsessed).

    • http://twitter.com/SmartFoxGirl SmartFoxGirl

      See this is the reason why I have a hard time compliment men. I don’t want to send off the wrong signals like player, thirsty, you can hit this, etc. Unless I’m really comfortable with the guy or he’s a friend.

      • keisha brown

        See this is the reason why I have a hard time compliment men. I don’t want to send off the wrong signals like player, thirsty, you can hit this, etc. Unless I’m really comfortable with the guy or he’s a friend

        ALLADIS.
        A dude I know? Cool. I can (strikethrough) flirt (strikethrough) compliment til the cows come home (where they went…im unsure..but alas)..
        But a stranger? nah.

        Funny enough, giving black WOMEN a compliment is just as hard. Some ladies have been burned back and take compliments from other WOMEN with disdain or worse!

        I’m trying to get better though. It’s easy at things like festivals or something to say, hey cute dress, love your hair etc.. but for some reason…randomly on the train? nah. i dont want to get cut.

        • http://twitter.com/SmartFoxGirl SmartFoxGirl

          Yep! There’s a time and place for everything.

  • BSQUARED86

    I try to give guys compliments when I can b/c I know they don’t get the kind of compliments we women get. We compliment each other so much (and receive compliments from men) that we kind of take it for granted everyone gets that type of recognition and appreciation.

    It’s tricky, though. Telling a man you like his cologne could lead to him thinking you want his scent lingering in your sheets and pillows, lol. So, I’m careful not to toss compliments out all willy-nilly.

    • http://satcpsychology.wordpress.com MsVivienne

      I wonder what the twins willy and nilly did to always become associated with something bad…

      • Cali

        LMAO @ Willy & Nilly twins!!

      • BSQUARED86

        LMAO!

      • keisha brown

        CTFU!

    • AfroPetite

      HA! We’re >>HERE<< on that cologne tip

  • Amarie

    It’s really funny that your post was about compliments. This guy that I’m kind of “talking” to always makes statements that are almost like backwards compliments. For example, I wore a pink razor back shirt grey workout capris and pink and black Nikes when we worked out. And he said, “You almost look too cute to be working out.” He made some other statements about how I was matching before this. It’s like why not just say “You look sexy” or something. Another time after a workout he said I put on a lot of deodorant. And I made him smell my wrist and it turned out to be my perfume. All this irritates me because I know he’s joking but I wish he was more direct.

    • Tx10inch

      He interested in you, trust me. Whether it’s strictly sex or relationship. He’s just not going to put his self out there first. Thus the reason for the backhanded compliments and fake disinterest for fear of head swellage. You’re probably gonna have to make tha first move!

      *rattles tip jar labeled “advice”*

      • http://www.testorshia.blogspot.com Tes

        *drops a five in the tip jar*
        Thats for back advice-age ;)

      • http://twitter.com/SmartFoxGirl SmartFoxGirl

        Truth.com! I notice certain men do that with me, give me back handed compliments. I can almost sniff out the type. They’re usually alphas immature. Why not just say how you (not you) feel? No backhand necessary. I don’t get that at all. To me, it shows insecurity.

        • http://mrweethomas.wordpress.com Mr. Wee Thomas

          None of what you described were backhanded compliments. You are just apparently “talking” to him while you work out. Not really the time or place to call someone sexy. You want those compliments, take him out for drinks at happy hour while you wear something else.

          And not that this is exactly what is happening, but until I’ve either seen a woman in sexy lingerie or some other attire deserving of that compliment, she will not hear those words out of my mouth with respect to gym clothes. Workout sexy is only for women with whom you are already sleeping with, or making an attempt for the one time after workout delight.

          • http://twitter.com/SmartFoxGirl SmartFoxGirl

            Dang, tell em how you really feel. lol I’m assuming this is for Amarie but I want to respectfully disagree with you. Guys do give women compliments at the gym, grocery store, gas station, etc. As a matter of fact, I get more compliments at the gym than the grocery store. It really doesn’t matter the time or the place. Either way, I don’t think the setting was her issue but what he said. Most women are smart enough to read a back handed compliment for what it is. I don’t care if a man said it to me at dinner, it’s not nice and he should do better.

            • http://mrweethomas.wordpress.com Mr. Wee Thomas

              That is my point. There is a difference between the comments you would get if a guy was making an honest approach versus not. “Hey sexy girl” at the gym belongs to the latter.

        • Eddie_Brock

          Isn’t that what they teach in the whole “game” thing? I think it’s called throwing negatives or negs at a woman. You single out the prettiest one in the group and sort of bring her down a peg to show that you’re interested, but not that “interested”. It also shows you have a higher value than she does. I’m 1/2 reading this book and it’s completely soured me on the dating/club thing for good I think.

          • http://twitter.com/SmartFoxGirl SmartFoxGirl

            That chit doesn’t work with me. To each his own. The back handed compliment may get my attention but it doesn’t keep it.

          • furious_styles

            The Neg needs to die. Violently. Does higher value mean she just happens to get your attention because of her makeup and the way her b0obs look?

            I agree about one thing. “The Club” is a wretched hive of scum and villainy. Get at women in everyday life, I say.

          • furious_styles

            @ Eddie- IMHO the Neg needs to die. Violently. Part of the problem is that men make women the queens of their worlds within 5 seconds of meeting them based on their looks…and pursuing them based solely on that. They can smell it. Negging says more about the man doing it and his need to take her down and how he sees his own value relative to hers (Do I have what it takes? Does she think she’s better than me? Let me take her down just in case). I submit that it demonstrates lower value.
            I agree with you, though. “The Club” is a wretched hive of scum and villainy. Better to get at them in everyday life.

      • GirlSixx

        “Thus the reason for the backhanded compliments and fake disinterest for fear of head swellage.”

        I used to hate that ish, but I’m up on that jedi mind game now so I just give a o__O face and KIM.

        “Yeah okay ninja you can downplay your disinterest if you want to” hmph

        • keisha brown

          “for fear of head swellage”

          exactly! i think some dudes throw out compliments to anything with legs, hoping that it sticks for a specific return on investments.

          others are backwards, so not to ‘gas’ up a chicks head.
          but isn’t the WHOLE point of a compliment to boost someone self of steam and make THEM feel good?

      • Amarie

        Thank you for the advice. *drops imaginary $20 in the tip jar*

    • http://www.styleillusions.com WIP

      He might think being more direct will be too aggressive; he’s probably a self-proclaimed nice guy. Men are mind readers. Either enjoy the gentility or you be direct (“how my a$$ look in these capris?”) LOL

      • http://www.styleillusions.com WIP

        Men *aren’t* mind readers.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

      you know what i learned about compliments…you know what? f*ck it…example.

      many moons ago, my girl at the time and i were going she was clearly not happy with any thing she was putting on. i go to check on her (as she was making us late) and i get yelled (amazing the abilities of women), “I LOOK TERRIBLE!”

      me, perplexed, looked at her and was like, “baby, you don’t look terrible in the slightest!”

      her: THANKS. that’s what EVERYGIRL wants to hear, her man say that she JUST doesn’t look terrible.

      lesson learned, even if you’re just undoing the negatvity a woman espoused, never use negative words even if she just gave them to you. lol.

      after being dumbstruck at what i did wrong…i mean, i DID do something wrong, right?…i just chalked it up to being from Mars and realized…just tell her she looks beautiful at all times. no matter what she says.

      “DAMMIT TO HELL MAN, I BROKE A NAIL!!!”
      “that’s okay, baby, you look beautiful.”

      works like a charm.

  • AfroPetite

    I’ve learned that men don’t know how to take compliments at all -____- A simple “you smell nice” quickly get’s turned into some lewd remark about the scent of my lady parts on his face…. (0_o)

    • WayUPThere

      Really tho? What kinda ninja live near you!? And where did this conversation occur?

      • AfroPetite

        At Barnes and Noble (of ALL places). The man in question walked past me and he smelled heavenly so I took the time out to compliment him on whatever it was he was wearing. He decided that this was a #greenlight to inform me that we could ‘scent swap’ whenever I was ready.

        • nillalatte

          Some men just have no manners. My mouth dropped open just reading this. Poor AfroPetite… we gon’ have to get you to a new B&N hotspot where them men actually have manners.

          On second thought, in what part of B&N were you reading? I mean there is a difference between the cooking aisle, self-help books and the adult section. :D LOL wink,wink

          • AfroPetite

            LMAO

            Nillalatte I was definitely in the Religion & Inspiration section when all of this ratchetness took place. Adult Section? Me? I buy all my erotic novels online ;-)

        • WayUPThere

          Ninjas are really on another tip these days.

        • DG

          D@mn, is that how it is now?? Some ninjas are extra with it nowadays…

          You should’ve farted and fanned it in his direction….

          #smellmenow

          • http://twitter.com/#!/AbRock3000aNC9I BmoreCreative

            on some #girlyoubekillingem ish….lol

          • naturalista88

            *Lmao*!!

          • http://twitter.com/SmartFoxGirl SmartFoxGirl

            *falls out chair* bwahahahahahahahahaha!

          • keisha brown

            DEATH by Blizzard

        • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

          “scent swap” is definitely getting added to my lexicon

    • Mo-VSS

      Real talk…I complimented this man in line at a Starbucks and he went into how his last girlfriend said the same thing….how I looked like her….how he wondered if sex would a person who looked the same would be the same o_0 All I said to him was his tie was nice and most men don’t wear pink and I liked it…and that was his response.

      Soooo…unless me and AP live in the same city/region, I think there are more dudes out there than we’d like to believe.

      • AfroPetite

        smh some men just have no couth about them WHATSOEVER.

        • keisha brown

          COUTH!
          YES!!!!
          #wordnerd

      • nillalatte

        *Taking notes* … no complimenting men in a Barnes & Noble and no Starbucks. Where else do I need to avoid? LOL ;)

    • Bunny.

      o.O
      i don’t know why but, the fact it was at Barnes & Noble makes it soo much worse!

      • http://twitter.com/itztrizz617 herbetteroption

        Bookstores have become the place you go where you dont want to meet someone but you hope you accidentally do. Dudes be there waiting for a cute girl to drop her books or something.

        • AfroPetite

          Why didn’t anyone send me this memo?! I thought only well read ninjas frequented the bookstore =(

          • http://twitter.com/itztrizz617 herbetteroption

            for every well read brother theres a ordinary ninja just looking for a well read female

        • MizzCam

          My fam and friends always joke that that’s where I’ll find my soulmate – at Borders [I guess B&N will have to do now since Borders has about 3 actual stores left in existence]. Our eyes will meet over the tops of our respective novels while I sip my latte, and the rest will be history… Ahhh, if I only dare to dream.
          #Iheartnerds