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When Being Educated, Rich, and Privileged Doesn’t Stop You From Being Black



I often joke with people that I didn’t know I was poor until I got to college. The reason I say this (we weren’t really poor) is because I remember, way back yonder in 1997 when I graced God’s land of Morehouse College, encountering Black folks who came from means. Not that my family was wanting for much, but we weren’t rich by any stretch of the imagination, and its quite possible there were times when we were just scraping by no matter how “big” the house we lived in was. Living in the South has definite real estate perks, especially back in the early 90s.

Well, when I got to Morehouse, I remember seeing not one, but two cats driving Hummers. I remember seeing dudes with Benzes. There was even a guy who had both a Lincoln Navigator AND a Lincoln Town Car (when Navis first became the thing) and only wore Coogi sweaters. I remember seeing dudes driving Range Rovers. Real talk, its entirely possible that I’d never actually seen a Range Rover until I got to college. It was also in college, sitting in front of Hugh M. Gloster Hall, our administrative building, on a bench right in front of the famous statue of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr, that I remember reading Our Kind of People by Lawrence Otis Graham.

If seeing 19 year old college students driving Hummers informed me I wasn’t rich, this book informed me I didn’t even know what rich and well-to-do were. This book taught me about Jack & Jill, The Boule, Links, Martha’s Vineyard, etc. In essence, I discovered that there was an entire world of Black opulence out there I wasn’t even remotely aware of. Not that I didn’t think that Black folks could have money, I just didnt get the society aspect of it.  My parents both went to HBCUs (my father was retired military so he graduated from Alabama A&M University around the time I graduated from college) and my mother went to Albany State University in Georgia. Neither were part of Greek letter organizations or any other organizations of note. They were and are hard-working middle class Southerners.

But that book and going to Morehouse changed a lot for me. It showed me what Black folks with money looked like. While my immediate crew and I were trying to make our refund checks last all semester (amazing to think you could live off $1,000 for 4 months; college was great), I knew people who were living a privileged life. They were the proverbial Carlton/Carltonita Bankses of the world: rich, entitled, and despite their color, felt shielded from the struggle that many of the rest of us knew too well. This isn’t an indictment at all. In fact, I felt very envious of many of them. In a strange twist of irony, many of those privileged kids spent A LOT of time attempting to prove how down they were. I remember meeting people who grew up in gated-communities in Upper Marlboro, Maryland, or rich enclaves in Atlanta, Georgia, going out of their way to remind everybody that they lived for a year in SE DC or on the West side of Atlanta. Authenticity is still a Black community struggle no matter how far we’ve made it.

But like Carlton Banks ultimately discovered, that privilege and all of the care their parents took to give them the high society access, that false-sense of security can all come crashing down in one fell swoop. As Kanye West said so eloquently on “All Falls Down”: “…even if you in a Benz, you still a nigga in a coupe…”

That line has been echoed for eons by many trying to remind those who have “made it” that no matter how far they think they’ve come, society still views you one way: as a nigger. And unfortunately, society is always too willing to remind us of this fact. This is a hard pill to swallow for some. It’s even harder for those who truly believed that they could stack the deck and/or do everything POSSIBLE via privilege and prosperity to shield their families from this fact. To that end, its not lost on me that this is the story of Lawrence Otis Graham.

In a recent piece for the Princeton Alumni Weekly, he recounts what happened to his son (the son of wealthy, Black people with all of the right degrees and associations and access) who, while at a summer program for the well-to-do, was called a nigger by some men in a car who got close enough to scare him into a bit of a racialized seclusion for the rest of his stay there that summer. His concern wasn’t as much for his own safety (though that was an issue), but concern that if people knew, he’d be “the Black guy.” Oh what a tangled web we weave.

Full disclosure: I’ve been called a nigger before. Openly. In the middle of the day. By folks in a car. In a manner very similar to what happend to Mr. Graham’s son. I, however, am from the South and was made aware of race at a very young age almost as a default. Being called a nigger didn’t scare the shit out of me. It made me angry. We threw rocks at said car. Mr. Graham’s son exhibited the opposite reaction. Why? Because of how he was raised.

Even though the idea wasn’t fully formed, I somehow assumed that privilege would insulate a person from discrimination. This was years before I would learn of the research by Peggy McIntosh, the Wellesley College professor who coined the phrase “white male privilege,” to describe the inherent advantages one group in our society has over others in terms of freedom from discriminatory stops, profiling and arrests. As a teenager, I didn’t have such a sophisticated view, other than to wish I were privileged enough to escape the bias I encountered.

And that was the goal we had in mind as my wife and I raised our kids. We both had careers in white firms that represented the best in law, banking and consulting; we attended schools and shared dorm rooms with white friends and had strong ties to our community (including my service, for the last 12 years, as chairman of the county police board). I was certain that my Princeton and Harvard Law degrees and economic privilege not only would empower me to navigate the mostly white neighborhoods and institutions that my kids inhabited, but would provide a cocoon to protect them from the bias I had encountered growing up. My wife and I used our knowledge of white upper-class life to envelop our sons and daughter in a social armor that we felt would repel discriminatory attacks. We outfitted them in uniforms that we hoped would help them escape profiling in stores and public areas: pastel-colored, non-hooded sweatshirts; cleanly pressed, belted, non-baggy khaki pants; tightly-laced white tennis sneakers; Top-Sider shoes; conservative blazers; rep ties; closely cropped hair; and no sunglasses. Never any sunglasses.

No overzealous police officer or store owner was going to profile our child as a neighborhood shoplifter. With our son’s flawless diction and deferential demeanor, no neighbor or play date parent would ever worry that he was casing their home or yard. Seeing the unwillingness of taxis to stop for him in our East Side Manhattan neighborhood, and noting how some white women clutched their purses when he walked by or entered an elevator, we came up with even more rules for our three children:

1. Never run while in the view of a police officer or security person unless it is apparent that you are jogging for exercise, because a cynical observer might think you are fleeing a crime or about to assault someone.

2. Carry a small tape recorder in the car, and when you are the driver or passenger (even in the back seat) and the vehicle has been stopped by the police, keep your hands high where they can be seen, and maintain a friendly and nonquestioning demeanor.

3. Always zip your backpack firmly closed or leave it in the car or with the cashier so that you will not be suspected of shoplifting.

4. Never leave a shop without a receipt, no matter how small the purchase, so that you can’t be accused unfairly of theft.

5. If going separate ways after a get-together with friends and you are using taxis, ask your white friend to hail your cab first, so that you will not be left stranded without transportation.

6. When unsure about the proper attire for a play date or party, err on the side of being more formal in your clothing selection.

7. Do not go for pleasure walks in any residential neighborhood after sundown, and never carry any dark-colored or metallic object that could be mistaken as a weapon, even a non-illuminated flashlight.

8. If you must wear a T-shirt to an outdoor play event or on a public street, it should have the name of a respected and recognizable school emblazoned on its front.

9. When entering a small store of any type, immediately make friendly eye contact with the shopkeeper or cashier, smile, and say “good morning” or “good afternoon.”

These are just a few of the humbling rules that my wife and I have enforced to keep our children safer while living integrated lives.

When I first read this article, I felt a profound sense of disbelief that a well-educated Black man could actually think he was able to rise above and cocoon his family from the troubles of this racialized America we live in. Then I just felt sadness that a well-educated Black man would want to. I understand wanting to live in a post-racial world. I understand wishing that race wasn’t a driving force in many of our lives. But race is there and pretending it doesn’t exist doesn’t make it go away. And also, what saddened me most about this list and their rules and this mentality is that it requires a mindstate of going out of your way to make everybody else comfortable at the expense of your own personhood. What kind of way is that to live?

To be fair, I do think their heart was in the right place. I truly do. Everybody wants their kids to live the most wonderful, peaceful, innocent life possible. I can’t fault the man for his intentions. But at some point, its necessary to align your intentions with reality and question if you’re doing more damage than good by trying to avoid the unavoidable.

Taken individually, all of those rules make sense (except for only wearing t-shirts with respected schools on them, that shit is just stupid). But when putting them all together, they are entirely geared towards being as non-threatening as possible in hopes of not being stereotyped or treated like “others.” Or, in other words, being palatable to white people. Hell, without even intending to do so, Graham overly racialized his family by trying to stop everybody from seeing his kids as Black. “My kids aren’t threatening. Don’t view them like other Black people.” How is this helpful?

One of the points of his article was to discuss white male privilege and how all of these actors in this story truly didn’t understand how their privilege allowed them to ruin the lives of others. The men in the car who called his son a nigger. The school’s response to it (not much). But what I got out of it more than anything was that folks of privilege who are super-educated and have lived the life they don’t want for their kids ultimately think they can ascend a plane higher than others just by virtue of their docile and deferential lifestyle. No sunglasses? Word? The sun is bright sometimes. Only problem is, no matter how many degrees, fancy jobs, clothes, societies, organizations, awards, or Benzes you have…

…until they know who you are, you’re still just a nigger in a coupe. And sometimes you’ll need to wear those sunglasses to drive. Seems like that’s a better lesson to teach your kids AND THEN teach them how to navigate their world.

But I’ve never been rich. And I’ve never been “privileged” in this sense. And I’m also cynical. It’s entirely possibly that you should raise your kids for the world you want, and not the one in which you live.

Then again, you’ll never catch me writing an article about how sad I am that my money didn’t stop somebody from calling my kid a nigger either.

Panama Jackson

Panama Jackson is pretty fly (and gorgeous) for a light guy. He used to ship his frito to Tito in the District, but shipping prices increased so he moved there to save money. He refuses to eat cocaine chicken. When he's not saving humanity with his words or making music with his mouth, you can find him at your mama's mama's house drinking her fine liquors. Most importantly, he believes the children are our future. You can hit him on his hitter at panamadjackson@gmail.com.

  • pls

    my mother was one of those bougie black people that purposely bought a house in the hood so her kids “wouldn’t forget” who we were. Since we were in the south we had a huge two story house with 100 year old wood ($$$), and a back AND front yard. But right across the street was the crack house.

    we NEVER forgot where we came from lool but then again race is so early engraved on your soul growing up in the south.

    i can def identify with not being aware of the “black opulence” that’s out there until later in life.

    • I had no idea “black opulence” was a thing in my little corner of SC until I went to college. It was eye-opening for sure. I saw Graham speak at a conference in Richmond for black kids who attended PWI’s and he was “interesting” to say the least.

  • menajeanmaehightower

    To me, when you’re rich, no mater what racial group you belong to, you will never fully experience nor understand what the middle to lower class folks go through. What does grate my last nerve is how people don’t want to understand, historically, how the black rich truly felt about those blacks of the lower class. Our Kind of People is a good book to see the level that rich blacks went through to separate themselves from the others. If you didn’t look like them, act like them, you would never really be part of them. No matter how hard you tried. They saw niggas.

    • Lisa Harris

      I agree, that book is eye opening. Even during Jim Crow, the elite blacks didn’t experience racism in the same way as middle class and poor blacks. There really wasn’t a great incentive for them to support civil rights movements, even though many did donate money to the cause.

    • LadyIbaka

      You do not need to understand or experience to be cognizant!! I think yu are making too many excuses for them oo.

      • Meridian

        There should always be an awareness of what others have to go through no matter what walk of life you’re from. The thing about affluent black people is that most of them started off poor or from nothing. There isn’t a ton of people born into riches and wealth so it’s always something they earn over time. Majority of them get it I think but once they reach a certain status, they like to insulate themselves to protect themselves from such experiences. I don’t know why you would need to distance yourselves from other black people (unless they’re ppl who weigh you down) or act like you don’t know what they’re experiencing still. If anything, you should be forging a path for them. Also though, lower class and middle class blacks shouldn’t be outcasting people who have something to offer on the journey of the black comeuppance.

  • Graham failed his son. He failed him in the specific arena of giving him the talk that black boys should get when it comes to basically existing in public. His nine point plan is an overreaching response to a horrible incident that happened to his kid. If the incident was Graham’s kid 9-11 then this list is his Patriot Act. It’s a gateway that goes from being overly aware, something which I assumed all black guys are, to being a neurotic mess. Peej, you’re right when you say that this is no way to live life. How can you follow these rules and not become a banal, darker-hued mannequin?

    It doesn’t matter if you’re being raised in and environment similar to Phillip Drummond, Clff Huxtable, or James Evans’ but a kid needs to know of the monsters that are out there. He may never encounter them but he needs to know.

    *Edit* After growing up in deepest darkest SC and still living in state I’ve never been called a “N***er” to my face by a white person.

    • Remember the dude’s background though, I’m not sure how he could have done right. Call me crazy, but the police aren’t raiding Links parties on the reg. His situation is an unusual one, and I’m not sure how he could have taught them the scoop in a way that a kid would listen to. He could have kept it real Black Panther, and there’s a real chance his son would have thought “gee, that won’t happen to me. Once I call the family lawyer, I’ll be fine!”

      • Graham is in his 50’s and rather intelligent so dude has to have some idea of what being in the field is like. This is a case of keeping his race in a black box and his status out in the open.

        • True…but his son clearly isn’t in the field like that. Regular negroes go “yeah, sure dad!” all of the time. On something like this, I’m not sure how it would get through his head.

        • menajeanmaehightower

          If you haven’t read or even browsed his book, you wouldn’t comprehend where he is coming from. Dude grew up rich and sheltered. Not that his family didn’t experience some things but he was part of the black elite that didn’t associate with those below them. They really felt that they could get away from the hardships of being black and could live in a post race society.

          • I see now what @disqus_jaQFOkPNbv:disqus is talking about. That explains why he came off so effete and over the top during his speaking engagement.

          • LadyIbaka

            This dude grew up in Americuh!! He is EDUCATED, yet dumb to think that his little money would cover his dark skin. When has America EVER been post-racial, like please tell me when?!?!?
            I hate motherphakkas that only associate with their ‘kind’, as if those that are not economically at par with them have nothing to contribute to society other than the supposed roaches and rats running amock in their section 8 houses. *spits on the ground* IDJOTS.

            • menajeanmaehightower

              I agree with you but this is/was their way of thinking. Read the book.

            • I see your point, but that’s how they chose to live. And keeping it real, if you live in the nicest neighborhoods, go to prep schools and “summer” in Martha’s Vineyard, it’s hard to bridge the gap with people that live in the projects. Keeping it real, they would have better served to be around middle class Black folk. They would have had at least education and professions to relate to, while exposing the kids to the bigger picture.

              • That’s one of the things that I like about this country: it’s one of the few countries where you can have a lot of money and still be lower class, since class is a state of mind. Jay-Z is probably 10x richer at least than Mr. Graham, but he doesn’t have the attitude.

                Mr. Graham’s attitude is aristocratic, which can be translated as more focused on status than actual wealth. Like many Aristocrats, it’s about “appearing” noble and deterministically being above others is what life is all about. Reality has a good way of sanitizing false appearances.

            • AAA

              There should be no surprise coming from a man who based on his book review ….
              “Graham stops short of offering an apology for behavior that is hard to characterize as anything other than snobbish (he himself had a nose job when he was 26 so that he would have a less “Negroid” look). But he does bemoan a dwindling interest in tradition, and he suggests that it wasn’t such a bad thing to grow up in the 1960s and ’70s without the “sense of anger and dissatisfaction the rest of black America” expressed in those years.”

          • He grew up rich and sheltered, but still, like, 1 generation from the hood. He should know better. Them kids gotta go to grandma’s in Memphis or something. An HBCU college tour or something.

            • menajeanmaehightower

              Why can’t grandma be in Athens or Houston though?

        • Intelligence based of an illusion, is not intelligence at all.

          Plus, I don’t think sharing this story and putting his son’s business out there like that, actually shows that he knows anything.

      • Sigma_Since 93

        Dude has first hand racism knowledge and didn’t share it with his kids.

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  • Lisa Harris

    Oh, Lawrence Graham. You know, growing up near Washington, DC and in Prince George’s County, Maryland, specifically, I have known about the “black elite.” I’ve also known black people in my family who achieved enough money and status to raise privileged black kids. And I have to say there is a difference between being called a nigger (which happens to all black people at some point, even the POTUS) and facing the kind of racism that actually takes food off your plate or takes your life.

    I am not convinced that the children of the truly privileged (not just folks that have come up a bit) are affected by racism in the same way that the rest of us brown people are. First of all, people of means are not as dependent upon our institutions as the rest of us are. A person with “lineage” will meet the right people and get into any school they choose. There will be businesses and foundations already established for them to work. they will distinguish themselves with service. They will marry people of similar breeding and they will live out their lives removed from the rest of black folks. That doesn’t mean they will only be around white folks, but they will be around black folks like them. It’s a different world.

    The rest of us depend on public schools where we learn what the system wants us to know, where the police are present so we can start on our criminal records early, we live in neighborhoods that are underserviced and heavily patrolled, we die earlier, we make less money, save less money and even if we do a little bit better than our parents, we never get anywhere CLOSE to the way black elites live. They are our 1%.

    Graham’s shock about his son being called a nigger is unfortunate. He should have known that there are bullies and name callers and haters no matter where you go. But that’s just name calling. Probably from a kid on scholarship. I think the Grahams are still quite insulated from most racism.

  • Nick Peters

    This is News?

    • panamajackson

      Suppose that depends on your definition of news.

      • Nick Peters

        I thought it was universally understood that no matter your level of education, how much money you make, and whatever titles you get you will always be black first…especially to white people who don’t have the money you have, because being white is based around economic superiority over people who aren’t white

        You can’t escape being a nigger

  • Guest

    Good read, Panama. Too many thoughts to share at the moment, but just wanted to let you know this was one of your best. Thanks.

    • panamajackson

      Thank you.

  • Lisa Harris

    As an aside, I do #5 routinely. Taxi drivers still don’t want to stop for black folks. But only at night. I don’t have a problem during the day.

  • No matter where you go, America or elsewhere, most people of the aristocratic mind are always detached from reality.

    The fact that Mr. Graham needed a professor’s research on “White privilege” (I’ve never liked the term, or the concept of a race, class or gender consciousness, but academia is so reeked of it, that even if you disagree with the existence you have to use the syntax) to understand that his children would be discriminated against kind of shows that “school” ? “education”. It also shows that he has never been exposed to what power truly is, and really should have a talk with some British aristocrats to understand what a true education in power is, because simply looking at his son, I can tell he’s a weakling. No one who ever went to a true, legitimate, upper class boarding school, anywhere in the world should look that pathetic and naive, which isn’t his fault, but his father, whose head swole up living in the Matrix.

    I went to an upper class boarding school in Nigeria, and I’m well connected with people who go across the world and do the same, you can recognize such people, almost by a look in their eye, whether they made it big or not is besides the point – their worldview is the same, regardless of their politics, they were purposely trained that way. All boarding schools for the elite are the same, and they’re all founded on the works, principles and philosophies of Francis Galton, who was the founder and creator of Eugenics. There’s other intellectual philosophies that have contributed to what we call elite-private boarding schools like the theory of the elites by Vilfredo Pareto and Gaetano Mosca, but that’s all besides the point and can be talked about elsewhere. A legitimate upper class education is supposed to rob children of any innocence of how reality is as soon as possible; it’s supposed to provide a sharp image and reality unto how power works, how it is protected, how it is kept, and most of all, how to hide it from the masses.

    A kid who is shocked to find out that an irrelevant group of white people called him N*&&er, and who has nothing within himself to react, is proof that his whole life is an illusion, and he is actually far worse off than any poor black person, because he is completely detached from reality. It’s no surprise that among all the races in America, it is the upper middle class blacks who are the only ones who score for higher levels of stress than their poorer counterparts among other race: they are mentally weak and unprepared to deal with reality, thus when it hits, they panic and act like chickens with their heads cut off running home to their overpriced cars and mansions.

    Lol, I mean seriously, you raised your kid to be scared of white police officers? Shop Keepers? Neighborhood watchmen?? And you have the audacity or the delusions of grandeur to believe that you have arrived?!?!?! And then you share this bit of information to the world, when it is something you should be blatantly ashamed of?!?! If you understood anything about power, as you thought you would, you’d simply have told your child that it’s better to die at the hand of a police officer than submit your dignity and nobility. But alas, you thought you had power, Mr. Graham? Like most athletes, who you perhaps think that you are far superior in intellect too, you presumed that money = power smh. No wonder black people are where they are, imagine, this is supposed to be our ideal?! And yeah keep talking about privilege, and the like, keep evading the fact that regardless of what you feel or how high your head in the clouds that you do not have the power that you thought you had, neither did you ever have the temperament or the wisdom to pass it down to the following generation.

    I’m sorry, this is just embarrassing. I’d expect more, but then again what can you do.

    • Freebird

      You nailed this homie. I have no sympathy for this man.

    • scathing, bruh. lol

    • LEE007

      Bravo at this post.

    • h.h.h.

      whatever books you read…i need to read.

      • Lol…there’s a lot of books on elite private schools. 2 that come to mind are:

        1. The Underground History of American Education – John Taylor Gatto
        2. Preparing For Power: America’s Elite Boarding Schools – Peter W. Cookson Jr.

    • LadyIbaka

      Heeeeyyyyy!!!!! :) how you been sweerie (dripping in honey, strawberries and whipped cream because of the realness of your comment)

      • Ah madam I dey oh!

        How body now?!?!

        • LadyIbaka

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    • Did you go to school in Lagos Libre?

      • Nah it was in Osun State.

        • I went to school in Lagos back in the day, same situation as you, expensive private school. Definitely learned a lot.

          • I know…and almost none of it has to do with academics, or dressing well.

            Take for example bullying: I remember back in the day, there were only 2 ways you could deal with it: either you fought, or you had to go make friends with someone who could check the bully. In boarding school friendship is wealth. If you snitched to a teacher, he’d passively punish or reprimand the boy, but nothing major would happen. The consequence is that you would isolate yourself, since in boarding school people are always breaking rules and trust is a form of currency, if people view you as a snitch they don’t want to be around you.

            I didn’t get it back then, but that’s exactly how the real world operates. People are always breaking the law, breaking the rules wherever you work, doing illegal ish against policy. Bosses are screwing their secretaries; people are screwing their way into extra shifts and promotions. Whether you’re working corporate or working at Walmart. Your ability to get by and ahead is determined not so much by how hard you work, but by how much you are willing to gain and maintain the trust of people, to the point that they are willing to invest in you.

            It’s lessons like that that they don’t want children to have in this country, which is why they have such things as Zero Tolerance for bullying in public schools (something that no legitimate private school would ever do). They always want children to believe that they can go to some older person, or someone of a higher class or authority to take care of them and keep them at a stage of innocence. They then go into the world and have no ability to think on their own or deal with crises, since they’ve been denied opportunities to do so for most of their lives and all of a sudden are expected to make adult decisions in a world that isn’t going to give them the luxury to ease in.

            • Sehri Alese

              You are PREACHING in these comments!! You have broken down what my parents call the everybody wins system that has invaded our society.

            • Person

              Hi there, Olashore Alumni! :)

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    • ED

      Well. Damn, I don’t even wanna comment on this article at this point lol.

    • Sehri Alese

      This right here is good news. And to quote Little Red from Into the Woods, nice is different than good. #truthhurts

  • Keisha

    I’ve been called all sorts of things…none of which impacted my life in a negative way. I just learned early that people, in general, tend to be ignorant…on purpose…some more than others.

    I still remember the first time I was racially profiled in a store. I was walking around and felt someone watching me. I quickly spotted the store clerk. I moved and noticed she did too. At this point I was amused. I walked all around the store picking up random things just because and laughed about it later.

    I think he meant well and some of his rules make sense…but as a whole, that’s no way to live…but then again, his son is still alive. So, maybe there was a method to the madness.

  • First of all, very well written post. It’s amazing how few people, Black and White, doesn’t know that there’s this elite world of Black people. Between going to a school and a church that had a few of those types around and having such elite women, um, “like my doggystyle” over the years, I’ve seen the world that Mr. Graham speaks of. I wish there was a way to turn his book into a movie so people would get where he’s coming from, because so few people know the scoop.

    That said, I’m not sure how he could have communicated to his son that his situation was possible. Now, being a regular negro, I know what racism is, though thankfully no one has had the craziness to straight up use the N-word with me. Class doesn’t protect you from racism, but class does impact how you experience it. His son probably knows less about police actions in the hood than even your average White person. It’s hard to explain something about racism when what you know isn’t what he is going to experience.

    Also, we live in an America where a well-off Black family like Lawrence Otis Graham’s is probably better off than, say, some White mechanic’s kid in Iowa or something. Between his education and social networks, he’s never going to wonder where his next meal is coming from. That said, he’s still going to suffer compared to his classmates at the elite prep school he attends. He might not get that inside track to that country club, or he’ll have a harder time getting a date in his circle, or he’ll have to work harder to get financing for some new business idea. While it’s clearly racial, it’s not the same as the brother getting stopped for wearing a hoodie.

    Dude has a good problem to have, because it’s the product of hard work and sacrifices of many generations of Black folk. But it’s a problem.

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