recently, a former f-buddy lazily platonic friend of the champ’s told me that the dude she’s currently dating referred to himself as her boyfriend for the first time. after i had a moment of silence for another former team member taking advantage of their free agency clause, this conversation quickly segued into a full-fledged discussion about the complete and utter weirdness of that word, and the fact that despite the complete and utter weirdness, people continue to use it.
“boyfriend” and “girlfriend” are the generic terms most people use to describe an exclusive, non-married significant other, but really, how appropiate is it for a 50 year old divorcee grandmother to refer to the 56 year old plumber she met at a promise-keepers conference in kansas city that’s been laying pipe for the past couple of months as her effing boyfriend? what gives here? why do we continue to use such an inapplicable word with such extreme prejudice? why do i only seemingly care passionately about such inane subjects?
today, at the world famous vsb.com, the champ will discuss the merits and faults of a few of the different terms used for non-married significant others, hopefully eventually finding and agreeing on a term that can eventually replace boyfriend and girlfriend in our general lexicon.
“boyfriend”
–is the common generic term, but the “boy” involved gives it a bit of a juvenile feel. sure “boyfriend” is cool when you’re 14, double dating at dave and busters and fantasizing about a possible extended finger bang in the backseat of a minivan later on, but it just sounds wrong to hear a 35 year old women talking about “boning her boyfriend
***sidenote: unless, of course, said girlfriend is kenya moore, and said boyfriend is the champ, in which case, she could call the champ whatever the hell she pleased***
“girlfriend”
–also a common generic term, but black woman have made it too ambiguous. “girlfriend” could be anything from a man’s mate to a woman’s best friend drunken weekend carpet muncher. we need some unambiguousness. i like that word, unambiguousness. i think “unambiguousness” might even replace “lil champ” as the name for, ummm, “lil champ”.
“mate”
–too vanilla. also, since “mating” is one of the proper ways of saying “f**king” or “boning”, wouldn’t saying “my mate” be the same as saying “my f*ck” or “my bone”? wouldn’t that be a bit presumptious? doesn’t “mate” have a somewhat animalistic connotation? if sarah palin had a kid in the woods, would michelle malkin adopt it?
“manfriend”
–sounds like something my ex fiancee’s mom would say…and she’s 67.
“ladyfriend”
–whenever i hear this term i think about some 45 year old divorced chick named shirley that works at blue cross/blue shield, drives a cavalier with a leopard interior and smokes newports. i actually think that all 45 year old women who still date should just be referred to as “shirleys”
“significant other”
–eh. what if you’re just exclusively dating and sleeping with this cat, but the relationship and the person really aint that significant to you?
“gentleman caller”
–sounds too date-rapey for some reason. whenever i see this i think of a character michael beach would play
the gentleman caller, personified
“partner”
–along with the raindow (a subject that panama wrote about like 8 years ago) gay people ruined this word for everybody else.
“man”
–too possessive. and, even though a 21 year old is technically a man, it sounds terrible to me when any chick younger than 30 refers to the guy she’s seeing as her “man”, to the point that just hearing the hook from nivea’s “dont mess with my man” used to invoke uncontrollable dry heaving
“woman”
–just like “man”, “woman” only works with somebody you’ve had sex with at least 200 times. men that refer to the woman they’re seeing as “my woman” probably are most likely to beat their women or cheat as well. of course, i have absolutely no concrete reason or proof for that determination…its just a hunch.
“my girl”
–this one is actually my favorite. it sounds a bit more intimate than “girlfriend“, and also lets the person know that they’re your n-word as well as the person theyre having monkey sex with. i dont think theres an age cut-off with this one as well. unfortunately…
“my boy”
–doesnt have the same connotation. there is nothing more platonic sounding than a chick refering to a guy she’s seeing as “my boy“. in fact, i have a theory that states that whenever a woman does do that, its a way of hinting that “you know, i’m with him and shit…but if something better came along, i’d drop him quicker than amil”
bf” and “gf”
–great for text, but they both just sound too impersonal. plus, “bf” sounds too close to “bm”, and noone whats to be referred to on a consistent basis with something that sounds a euphemism for sh*tting.
“my lady”
–would work, except for the fact that at least 86 percent of the time, it would be a blatant lie
“wifey”
–the shelf life on using “wifey” in an unironic sense expired in 2001.
“my chick/dude“
—this is a bit too mid-atlantic-ey, which is fine for me, but i like to keep things simple for the southerners. i’m considerate like that.
“my earth/God/goddess/queen/king/power u/spirit/field/galaxy/soulmate/vision”
—shut the f**k up.
ok. i’m stuck. with the exception of “my girl” (which, admittedly, is more lukewarm than t.i.’s verse in “S.L.U.”) none of these terms seem to work. was i wrong? did i forget something? does this sh*t even matter? people of vsb.com, the champ needs his toast your help.
what do you think?
—the champ
fully dead at “sure “boyfriend” is cool when you’re 14, double dating at dave and busters and fantasizing about a possible extended finger bang in the backseat of a minivan later on, but it just sounds wrong to hear a 35 year old women talking about “boning her boyfriend” ”
i agree that boyfriend sounds a little juvenile… but i’ll work with it for now.
maybe you should say it in another language or some sh*t, like “habibi” or “mon petit ami”…. maybe that was retarded. maybe i should stop drinking and posting simultaneously.
“maybe i should stop drinking and posting simultaneously.”
actually, this is a good thing. please continue
You forgot…
My boo…
-I always think of ghetto love when I hear this. Whitney and BOBBAY!!
My Love…
- on some sprung “I wanna lick ur face” and “let me draw you some bath water and massage ur shoulders” googly eyed ish
Till I think of others…
Ninja’s that use “my boo” probably use to also use the patented “f*ck wit ya boy” come on line as well.. off topic….I use to love to walk up to random people and ask them….. .
whassup? F*ck wit ya girl” when I was fresh out of school….always caught ninja’s off gaurd
“.I use to love to walk up to random people and ask them….. whassup? F*ck wit ya girl” when I was fresh out of school….always caught ninja’s off gaurd”
Thats why I heart you Shayd. I’d do stuff like that just for sh*t and giggles too.
what exactly does it mean? im ebonically challenged! i have this same problem with “whats good?”…i mean, i really dont know how to respond to that. im all, “uh…things…i guess”
*ashamed of self*
shatani if anybody asks u:
what’s good?
say: genius khan
they’ll be just as confrused as u are.
“My boo…
-I always think of ghetto love when I hear this. Whitney and BOBBAY!!”
Luvvie, me too…”Boo” is a word people used often down here so it doesn’t hold any special meaning.
I use “boo” for dudes that I’m not quite committed to, but only in referring to them while talking to other people.
“My Love…”
this is one of those that you use to refer to each other, not address other people, like “baby” or “headmaster 17″
LMAO @ “headmaster 17″
“Boo” is for the dude you kick it with, possibly only comes through on the late night, but it’s not serious…and you usually only refer to him as that when talking to your girls.
“headmaster 17?
OMG! who told you?? lol
what i’d like to know is what happened to headmasters 1-16??
you really don’t want to know.
trust me
“My Love…”
this is one of those that you use to refer to each other, not address other people
Some overly-sprung folks use “my love” to introduce one another. Its gross.
My boo…
nope…no way…too close to boo-boo…which is too close to dookie…which is too close to sh1t…which (although some may think they are the sh1t) is never a good look!
I agree my boo makes me think of ghetto love. Same with my shorty.
You also forgot “my baby”. Alot of people say that when referring to their significant other.
I think “my shorty” is horrible. You should only refer to your child as “my shorty” not someone who is grown as heck.
I’m 5ft 11, so being referred to as “my shorty” really makes my day for some reason.
*hangs head in shame*
I just tried to edit and it marked my comment at spam. Crowd goes: “boooooo!”
I was gon add “My Love” on some “I wanna draw your bath water and massage ur shoulders” ish. And write you poetry. Folks like these usually illicit a MEAN side-eye and ice grill and give me cavities.
“I just tried to edit and it marked my comment at spam. Crowd goes: “boooooo!””
lol…its up. btw, don’t boooo the moderation thing…it can hear you
You had me going at the Palin/Malkin quip. I’m still puzzling this out. My theory is that with all the sex scandals rocking the Republican party, McCain figures the best way to get some consistent quality tail during the campaign season is to do it in plain sight. Nobody’s going to question his late night visits to his VPs hotel room.
LOL..yeah the Palkin reference had me dying laughing too. I love timely ish.
“McCain figures the best way to get some consistent quality tail during the campaign season is to do it in plain sight”
mccain probably hasn’t had sex since the 1st season of “frazier”. lol…he don’t want none of sarah barracuda in the sack
you also forgot the chickenhead favorite..”bay” (shortened version of baby) lemme use it in a sentence for you…. Hey Bay, hand me the mote control”… Or Bay, you going to the stow? Gone and get me a Miller highlife”…..
I hate endearments period. Baby, Boo, Baby boo, pumkin, sugar, sweetie, baby, whatever the hoodrat anthem of the moment is (e.g. buss it baby, wifey, shawty, etc)… UGH!!!! Why cant you just introduce a motherf*cker and call them by name? Then if the nosy a$$ person you are introducing them too wants to know what the situation is they will just ask if you are dating, if its serious, etc?
oooooooh I hate the term wifey, damn you R.L. &
Next for popularizing that term in the late 90′s… It is like saying you are good enough to be my wife and then say “Got ya b*tch, they should have never given us ninjas titles!”
LMAO Exactly!!!!
“Got ya b*tch, they should have never given us ninjas titles!”
LOL. Yep, wifey ain’t nothin but an insult at this point.
“Yep, wifey ain’t nothin but an insult at this point.”
seriously?
Seriously.
I’m not understanding how. Its no different then any other slang term, plus it has the positive connotation of intimacy and exclusivity. Not every chick gets the wifey title, in fact only wifey does
thats the point..only wifey gets that title…everyone else is a side jawn (at least in philly) i dont know about the other women, but i certainly dont need to be first in line to be cheated on….wifey is in no way indicative of exclusivity
This argument doesn’t make sense to me. I’m really not trying to be an ass, but whats the difference if you’re wifey, main jawn, girlfriend, fiance, spouse, if I cheat on you? Will you feel better if I buy you shea butter and incense, refer to you as my nubian queen, then start smashing smuts up and down broad street? Will that help you cope with the situation?
“I’m really not trying to be an ass, but whats the difference if you’re wifey, main jawn, girlfriend, fiance, spouse, if I cheat on you? Will you feel better if I buy you shea butter and incense, refer to you as my nubian queen, then start smashing smuts up and down broad street? Will that help you cope with the situation?”
you are trying to be an ass, lol…but i agree with you 100 percent. i guess we’re both asses
yep. I’m 30 years old, either i’m your wife or i’m not. Wifey is for kids.
Say that girl, SAY IT!!!!!!
“yep. I’m 30 years old, either i’m your wife or i’m not. Wifey is for kids”
totally agree. you notice how black men aren’t croonin’/rappin about being “husband-y” (nor would a man let a woman just “throw that title around”), just enjoying the benefits of getting free expendable milk. its not cute.
totally agree. you notice how black men aren’t crooning/rappin about being “husband-y”, just enjoying the benefits of getting free expendable milk. its not cute
I concur.
Buy the cow, iggah.
When you say throw the title around, do you mean titles like “mister/hubby/love of my life/the one” that imply a life long commitment (read: marriage) that women use all the time? Or do you mean titles like “nigga pay my bills/take me out to dinner/keep me in prada and gucci” that women imply all the time? I’m only asking because I’m confused.
“you notice how black men aren’t croonin’/rappin about being “husband-y””
because “husband-y” is too awkward to say. i have heard guys refer to themselves as being “wifed up” though, on numerous occasions, and this does imply exclusivity
“and this does imply exclusivity”
until they get a wifey and a side-jawn!!
Comback scoffs:
[men dont call women wifey with any sincerity for same reason they wouldn't let women call them husbandy] “…just enjoying the benefits of getting free expendable milk. its not cute.”
names aside if the man is “getting free milk?”
what is the woman getting?
what do i owe the woman i’m sleeping with?
i thought it was a mutual decision and a fair exchange. she’s got the same oppurtunities that i do.
cum on choclate drop, holla thefcuk back.
names aside…
GK hopefully you’ll get this before work release lets out..jk..i know you aren’t on work release not with all your replies lookin like a screen play/stage direction…
“names aside if the man is “getting free milk, what is the woman getting?”
a glass menagerie…. pun fully intended for this here post.
“When you say throw the title around, do you mean titles like “mister/hubby/love of my life/the one” that imply a life long commitment (read: marriage) that women use all the time? Or do you mean titles like “nigga pay my bills/take me out to dinner/keep me in prada and gucci” that women imply all the time? I’m only asking because I’m confused.”
why exactly are you confused??? The term wifey has so many negative connotations to women its not even funny. It would be different if Justine Simmons truley emoddied the term wifey, but for now its a jilted Deb Gotti who expired like four or five years ago. Its another whodini trick for men to “play” relationship until his domestic A.D.D. wears thin.
Moreover I don’t throw titles around. To me names are significant, there’s power in the tongue-so you’ll just be “what’s his name” until I have a ring on my finger and the title for husband-y is earned and signed on court documents.
Comeback thanx for your replies. o.k. i get it, u think a mans usage of the term wifey is a mans jedi mindtrick to fool a girl into thinking they are husbandish and wife-ish to keep the milk flowing.
but a glass menagerie huh? lol!
i woudn’t dare collect a wild exotic animal like u for exhibition. shame. lol!
so a woman doesn’t make a mutual decision and have the same oppurtunity for pleasure that the man does? [for sex] it’s like ur doing us a flavor or something and we owe u something. is it less of a fair exchange for women than it is men? …and if so why?
is marriage the be all to end all? the ultimate ideal and realistic paramount for interpersonal relations. the problems and failure rate seem to suggest not. …however marriage does seem to offer benefits financially and otherise for raising childern in some cases. in many cases not.
maybe i would feel different if i felt like i had an expiration date. [for marriage ripeness]
…and if i had an expiration date, to what lengths would i be willing to go to sell a “bill of goods” before said expiration? hmmmmm…
“maybe i would feel different if i felt like i had an expiration date. [for marriage ripeness]”
would you really? I know tons of 30 year old women who could have been married (for bad judgement) at least once. I’m holding up pretty well and so is my reproductive system (my grandma had my father at 45). If I was in a hurry my judgement would be indicative of that.
I’m taking my time, which is why im not falling for the okey “wifey” doke.
Comeback replies:
would you really? [feel diff about the "wifey" conotation and "getting free expendable milk" not being cute]
maybe but probably not. just thinking that it might have had the slightest influence on a woman having that “getting the milk free” disdain and abhoration for men using the word “wifey” with manipulative intent and hidden agenda. …stretch i guess.
Comeback said:
“…just enjoying the benefits of getting free expendable milk. its not cute.”
again i ask:
names aside if the man is “getting free milk?”
what is the woman getting?
what do i owe the woman i’m sleeping with?
i thought it was a mutual decision and a fair exchange. she’s got the same oppurtunities. [in getting "free milk" that i do]
if i’m wrong please explain.
ur statement wreaks of a woman doing a man a flavor by “giving her free expendable milk.” [to a man]
please break it down for me..
“Wifey is for kids.”
Please believe!
I blame Next for that wifey ish as well.
t-lee u and Comeback appear to think that a man shouldn’t use the word wifey to describe someone he is sleeping with unless she is actually and legally his wife. …and i tend to agree with u but for apparently different reasons …and u both seem to think that men are getting “milk for free”
it makes me think that u all believe:
that men date to get coochie.
and
women date to get married and that women have sex to get married.
do tell…
Not all Senor GK.
It’s not that deep, I just don’t like the term wifey. I think it implies more than it is, if a chick is truly “wife material”, she would be your wife and not just some generic azz term for the main chick that you like, or maybe love but you just can’t commit to.
Not every woman’s sole purpose of dating is to get married. I can’t speak for the guys…lol
miss t-lee thanks for clearing that up. even though u weren’t disliking the use of wifey for the reason below…
Panama’s observation that:
men date to get layed and women date to get married i think is still profound. …though not always the case.
somehow i think u may come to realize that this quote has some influence on why u don’t like men using the term wifey. (unless they are married to the woman being refered to)
shout to P who is M.I.A today.
To me, “wifey” is that girl a dude has in the rotation thinking not only that she’s the “one” but the only one. In reality, she’s the one that gives him $ for a haircut and new Tims before he goes out with his other one.
Call me “wifey” and you can forget my phone #. That sh*t ain’t cute.
“To me, “wifey” is that girl a dude has in the rotation thinking not only that she’s the “one” but the only one. In reality, she’s the one that gives him $ for a haircut and new Tims before he goes out with his other one.
Call me “wifey” and you can forget my phone #. That sh*t ain’t cute.”
damn, lol. i always thought that wifey was corny, but i had no idea it had such negative connotations. who knew?
i knew i wasnt the only one who hated when ppl call each other “‘bay…”
Shayd notes:
“Why cant you just introduce a motherf*cker and call them by name?”
my thinking exactly. i refer to people by their name when i can think of it, as it relates to introduction of SI or IO to other people. (mixed company) …although this weekend when i couldn’t think of someones name i looked at them both and said introduce yourselves. heh, heh, heh (inhales) whoooo!
how 1 is introduced has been the source of much cotreversy betwinxt one to the other and other mufucaz. always undue value or lack thereof attached to label/s someone uses to intro a person they are fcuking.
yet another dumb azz consequence of situationships, relationships and the like. …just like titles on jobs, u can call/label me the janitor if i’m doing what i love and being acknowledged and compensated properly.
“as it relates to introduction of [SO] or IO to other people”
You just inspired me, jump offs will now be referred to as ‘Insignifigant Others’, you are a genius (khan)
@ GK~ *winking and blowing you a kiss* “i looked at them both and said introduce yourselves. ”
That right there is my signature move
Hedo baby i had to think quick.
…introduce yourselves.
winks back atya. now dont make me spank u till it stings then rub i till it soothes.
…whoooo!
@ GK~ you know what I like
make sure you leave a hand print so I will think of you when you aren’t around
Lol@ Shayd
“Bay” is soooo southern. I never heard it till I went to school down south.
i enjoy terms of endearment between the two in the couple, but the real world dont need to know (and start wondering why) you call him the things you call him and vice versa…
all those hoodrat terms make me gag. i am no ones wifey…all that usually means is that youre the main chick he cheatin on anyway.
@shatani~i hear you…
I laugh whenever I see one of my best friends with the “WIFEY” (its gold in a brush script diamond encrustes) pendant around her neck that her husband gave her.
I wish a mother frogger would.
SMH!
There’s a GROWN woman somewhere wearing a “wifey” pendant?? I’m ashamed for womankind.
WTF?I laugh whenever I see one of my best friends with the “WIFEY” (its gold in a brush script diamond encrustes) pendant around her neck that her husband gave her.
Does she also wear huge hoop earrings that say sexy or baby girl?
LOL @ Bay….I have an older relative who everyone calls “Bay Ruth”. When I was little I wrote a letter adressed to “Bay Ruth” and my family laughed and informed me that it’s Baby Ruth. And I was thinking,if they hadn’t been so country, maybe I would know that it was “baby”..and furthermore, no 67 year old woman should be called baby anything!
thanks for the laugh shay!
Honey-do.
*shudders*
anything term of endearment that sounds exactly like the name of a particular type of melon probably isn’t gonna fly
lol…tru, well what about my “yes man”?? that wouldn’t be too emasculating would it?
“…. talk slick and I’ll beat ya right, just me and my b*tch”
… yup b*tch works, naw in all seriousness when I am dating someone exclusive I like the intro of this is my lady. It gives the point that you are together and make even evoke an ‘awwwwwwww’….
I wanna b*tch that like to play celo, and craps
Packin gats, in a Coach bag steamin dime bags
LOL
LOL!!!! Or be like Apache with “Gangsta B!tch”, that’s what I want to be called…. “Mom, Dad, this is im my gansgta b!tch, I love her like a motherfugger…”
“gangst b*tch” is a great great song from a great great American.
hell, i even own the whole album.
“…. talk slick and I’ll beat ya right, just me and my b*tch”
I guess if you’re Lil’ Kim and Biggie, this could work.
“Hey everyone this here is the dude that have me calling out his name like there’s no tomorrow, have me making pancakes in the morning wearing his college t-shirt, calling him 4 am in the morning b/c I can’t sleep, and hoping the dude that I will call husband one day if he knows how to act and all” (SMILE….+ awkward silence) soooo….great party you all are having here.
i dunno know what to say for the “title” of the guy; all possible names have been exhausted.
bwahahahahahahaha i think i’m going to start using this
“i dunno know what to say for the “title” of the guy; all possible names have been exhausted.”
how about “spring”?
get it…since you’re sprung?
nevermind. forget i even typed that
you cant un-ring the bell, champ.
“you cant un-ring the bell, champ.”
lol…i guess not
No, no, no. Just…no.
STOP. IT.
“my earth/God/goddess/queen/king/power u/spirit/field/galaxy/soulmate/vision”
—shut the f**k up.
LMAO… I am so feeling this. I blame Erykah badu for that shyt…..
I am too. Call me your “Queen” and I swoooon like a Tweenager at a Clay Aiken concert. Mmhmmm.
The queen thing doesn’t do it for me, because all the poets call the women that in my spoken word circles, so it is officially trite in my world.
me either.,,,,,,I would probably cuss his a$$ out.. My queen? Ninja please…Just cause I sport a fro dont mean I am on that weak a$$ pseudo concious, pseudo intellectual bull sh!t … Finish this sentence..123 points I gotta get a cross.. I aint think so ninja..LMAO..I am kidding (except on that Ball and G ref you gotta be down with them to roll with me) but I dont really go for all of that extra deep or extra hood…
Queen makes me heave. And let’s not forget…ain’t every chick a queen and ain’t every negro a king.
“I would probably cuss his a$$ out.. My queen? Ninja please”
i can imagine the following convo taking place:
shay-d-lady’s dude: “hey everyone, i want to introduce you to a very special person, my queen, shay-d-lady”
shay-d-lady: “n*gga!!! shut the f**k up with that bullsh*t!!!!!!!!. what the f**k is wrong with you????”
shay-d-lady’s dude: “my bad. anyway, who wants a waffle?”
LOL you are being funny, but that would probably happen for real. If we are dating and we go some where you introduce me as ‘queen” you are probably being an a$$ because we just had a fight in the car where I got mad and probably called your mother out of her name. so that intro was just a way to piss me off even further….LMAO
(except on that Ball and G ref you gotta be down with them to roll with me)
***daps Shay*** dats why I fux witchu yo!!
Space Age Eva!!!!
AMEN!
I rock a low cut and everyone wants to stick me in the, “weak a$$ pseudo concious, pseudo intellectual bull sh!t ”
I’m ready to slap someone for calling me “Queen”
The queen thing doesn’t do it for me, because all the poets call the women that in my spoken word circles, so it is officially trite in my world.
as a poetess…I concur…dry heave and all…but when a man I am “with” uses it in a completely no-s3xual, admiration heavy context, he could get a pass…
I agree, I guess it depends on the context with any name…
Queen does NUTHIN for me. Nor does Princess, Empress…
In a relationship,I prefer to be introduced by my name. If we are serious, folks will get the hint by the way we are acting towards each other.
In private company I prefer to my guy, if we are exclusive, as my ‘ol’ man”
LOL Blame Erykah, and rest of the late 90′s neo-soul folks.
Plus the 5%’ers…lol
Oh yeah, and Wu-Tang
“Oh yeah, and Wu-Tang”
blasphemy!!!!!!!!
You know I didn’t mean it that way…I loves the WU!!!
lets not forget how much of a contributing factor jim jones is in all this
I’m not going to let this unwarranted Jim Jones bashing go on much longer
Exactly. I don’t think it’s Jim Jones this time. Now Clifton Powell, on the other hand – that nucca’s GUILTY.
God, I hate him so much.
Will slap a ninja that uses the term “queen” in public when referring to me. Save that for private…and use it sparingly please!
DAYUM!! I’mo need yall peoples not to wanna go “Lorraine Bobbitt” on a negro for calling you Queen. There are things that warrant beatdowns, and I just don’t think being called Queen should be one of them.
Hardcore *ss VeeEssBee peoples. lol
I still HEART yall!!
This may be one of my fave posts from you yet sir. I tip my hat, imagine that! (Infinite points for whomever gets that reference!)
You did forget boo! I love that word, it’s so cute to me in a semi-ironic way. Plus, I am pretty sure it is etmologically-derived from “my beaux”, which is a Southern word this Northern girl LOVES.
You also forgot “my lover” (which sounds like it’s just sex) and “my old lady” (which I hear Southern men say from time to time).
I like “gentleman caller” (and Michael Beach, despite the fact that he is shorter than me), but I only use it semi-ironically in reference to having male company (and the gentleman part is often a lie).
If I had a partner, the formal title I’d give him would be “boyfriend”. The pet names would be “my boo” or “my man” and if we was reaaaal serious, I may even call him “my king”. Don’t be hating on me cuz I’m concious. A man who I can do hoodrat stuff with, but would still be worth calling “my king” sounds like a dream right about now.
I really did just catch the Sesame Street reference…. LOL!
And “beaux” is from French originally. But somehow, us Black folks got it and turned it to boo. It lost its original SEGZYNESS.
And anyone referred to as “gentleman caller” is expected to come over with props like a glow in the dark thong with pom pons attached to it and a bow tie.
gentleman caller is what my great, great, great aunt use to call the men that frequented her bordello that she ran from her house…..
Shayd recalls:
“gentleman caller is what my great, great, great aunt use to call the men that frequented her bordello…”
bordello although gramatically and by definition correct is synonymous with ho house.
ur aunt ran a ho/cat house that probably doubled as a shot house. auntie was a pimpstress and the men who frequented her whore house were johns (like in doe, nondescript, the next nicca, NEXT!) gentleman caller my azz…
and i aint mad at auntie.
LOL where you breaking this down for my benefit or others? I know what bordello means and yes my great, great aunt ran a ho house…..
LMAO!
Shayd admits:
“I know what bordello means and yes my great, great aunt ran a ho house…..’
well bordello sounded a lil surface-is-ticated. …like images of women dressed to the nines and a piano being played in the lobby by a man in a suit and all the men coming thru were wearing top hats and gloves. so upstanding.
i just felt like ho house gave a more accurate vision. …wit shots of “bottom shelf liquor” being sold in the kitchen along with budweisers for &2.00. …some nicca named suga-mayne drunk off his azz with a gold toof threatening to kill Eartha Lee cuase she clipped him. well u’ve seen Lackawana Blues…
…whooooo!
but she did my great great aunt ran a bordello from around 1935-late 1950′s….so the image you have in your mind is the exact image I wanted to conjure…..she was very sophisticated. She could “pass” and ran a bordello with women much like herself that was frequented by rich white men…there are rumors that Elvis frequented her establishment when he was in the army, before he made it big
Shayd placing it in that time frame and context gives me the same vision u intended to give. yep i esponge my previous imagery. …but it’s still a ho house.
LOL!
a rose by any other name and all.. LMAO I feel you
“gentleman caller is what my great, great, great aunt use to call the men that frequented her bordello that she ran from her house…..”
by “great, great, great aunt” you mean “i”, right?
And anyone referred to as “gentleman caller” is expected to come over with props like a glow in the dark thong with pom pons attached to it and a bow tie.
bwahahahaha, I know Im new over here but i really think Luvvie needs to be sent to the corner for that. lol
*Sigh* Suga, I am a permanent resident of the corner, so I’m already there lol
“And “beaux” is from French originally. But somehow, us Black folks got it and turned it to boo. It lost its original SEGZYNESS.”
…yeah that’s what some white man wrote in a dictionary, but it’s not the REAL origin of the word boo.
and i don’t even adopt the anti-white sentiment but man…white people are overrated. know your history folks…it’s kind of a big deal.
Ain’t no White man write that in a dictionary, I decided that. But since I am wrong, what is the history of the word boo?
see, has always made me think of boo-boo, like bm, which is just nasty and horrible. I could never get down with that word, i blame my mom LOL
it makes me think of boo-boo like a small cut on a child’s finger…
the word boo just makes me think of–yogi the bear “hey boo boo…let meh get another pick-a-nic basket”
just too cartoon-ish and toddler like…i guess
but i like cartoon so no negative energy towards my animated friends
“the word boo just makes me think of–yogi the bear “hey boo boo…let meh get another pick-a-nic basket”
damn, lol. yogi the bear was racist as hell. bastard
Shoot, weren’t most of our childhood cartoons racist?? Daffy Duck, Mickey Mouse, Tom & Jerry, Bugs Bunny…
*Sigh* I can barely enjoy them anymore.
Old lady in Kenya just means your Mother and Old Man= Daddy so no using that for me
“Daddy” only works when your doing the horizontal polka
“Daddy” only works when your doing the horizontal polka
nah…when used correctly (right context and vocal inflection/cadence) it makes a man stand a little straighter…even when he’s upright and clothed…btu you have to mean it…it’s a term of endearment reserved for a man that makes me feel safe and cared about…you know, like my Daddy…lol…but the “hoodus rattus” has been throwing around all willy nilly causing it to decrease in value…like the word “beautiful” and red roses…nice but overdone!
oh “eff yo” I am going to name my pet snake “EFF YO COUCH!”…so thank you for that inspiration…lol
I just cant do the word Daddy. Im still a kid at heart and thats what I call my real father. Calling a man Daddy at any time, in any position is def a no go.
I kind of like gentleman caller (and have used it once or twice)…its real cute in a Tennessee Williamin-ish kind of way…or a bordello kind of way (as Shay-d-lady pointed out)….there usually aren’t any in betweens.
“A man who I can do hoodrat stuff with”
lol…what exactly is hoodrat stuff? walking out on the bill at denny’s? rocking tims with shorts? thinking long islands are high-end drinks? getting stabbed?
All of the above.
rocking tims with shorts?
saw that this morning on the train…complete with hood tats that look like they were done with a ball point pen, a safety pin and a double A battery…and a wife beater…he would probably do hood rat stuff
slow down…i rock Tims with shorts…and i’ll do it again too.
and i read hella good. i quit doing hoodrat stuff on Sunday.
Tims with shorts is NOT a good look. I mean make up your mind… are you hot or cold? I just want to know are you wearing socks with these Tims and is there not another pair of sneakers or flip flops that match your outfit?
um…whats the battery for???
um…whats the battery for???
I really don’t know, but that is what the studio gangstas at school used to make the MacGyver-esque contraption buzz…not clear on the brand of hood magic that spawned such a notion to begin with…but I am sure Bill Nye the Science Guy is somewhere scowling in disdain at a science fair project gone horribly wrong!
the battery charges the motor which could be a paperclip or coil with a rubber band (dont ask how I know, I just know) and more than hood culture, that is actually prison culture. those items are used in prison to do tats, which are illegal to get done in prison so it has to be done on the low.
LOL and just how did you come by this knowledge, IH?
Tims and shorts, si. (I don’t wear shorts or any other clothes with extra fabric in the middle, but I would rock a mini skirt with some tims with my boo like we was Meth and Mary.)
The other things qualify, but I wouldn’t do them. We might go to Dennys or the Sizzler (they have one in Queens, I seent it!) or the Red Lobster and drank some White Zinfandel, and cuddle up in front of a bootleg copy of the first season of Martin. Roll some trees, etc. And then do some classy ish the next day. I’m versitile.
“my lover” is fun when you draw it out like, my lovaaaaaaah!
Sort of like Carrie in Sex and the City, when she saw a cute pair of shoes she lusted after?
““my lover” is fun when you draw it out like, my lovaaaaaaah!”
In a real Shaggy-esque “Mr. Boombastic” type of way.
Why do you have to have a title anyway? 9 out of 10 times if you remove the title from the sentence in which you are trying to use and swap it with the person’s name it works just fine. The 10th time in most cases in when you are introducing your new chick to an ex and then its like 1 why? and 2 in that sense you need to go overboard anyway and intro in like she is winning an award.. the love of my life, the reason I smile in the morning….Tiffany!!!! and the room goes wild!!!
“Why do you have to have a title anyway? 9 out of 10 times if you remove the title from the sentence in which you are trying to use and swap it with the person’s name it works just fine.”
thats what the f*ck I’m saying
^^^^Likes monotomy
It’s not so much a title as much as it is a phrase that gives the relationship between you and said person. Just like you may introduce some cat as, “Hey, this is X, my cousin”, you’re introducing the other person as “Hey, this is Y, my boyfriend”.
It is up to you whether you give the relationship between you and a person when you introduce them to others. However, it is human nature to be curious. It is easy to assume (if I constantly see some guy with another guy friend) that they are friends. If I see some cute girl with another guy friend constantly, it may be good for him to at some point say, “Hey kamakula, this is my girlfriend”.
Otherwise, I might try to hit on her. She tells me, “oh, I’m not available” then tells my boy that I was making moves on her.
If it’s someone you’re just dating, hanging out with, not in a serious relationship with, you can probably just say, “hey, this is X, a friend of mine”. No need to clue people in to info you may not want to share. Of course, this then allows people to hit on said friend and the friend must be left to handle such offers as he/she wishes.
Unless the person is only meeting your circle of friends once and only once, that 9/10 times thing falls apart. You can’t keep showing up with someone and act like they’re just some accessory to whatever you’re wearing. People can accept that a watch is just a watch. No need to tell them you got it from your grandpa seconds before he died. However, you can just keep showing up with some dude and pretend like there’s nothing going on.
-kamakula has spoken
..hehe, here I go…
..* My Boo Love- which means we creep from time to time -we dig each other ,but there is no chance of anything serious, bc you know each others dirt…and we ACT like we JUST frds..
*My Piece-..I think this one speaks for itself…( ” you at home ? you up ? unlock the door…” )
*My Jump off- down for whatever type ish ( moonlighting porno starz…just down for whatever )
*My sponsor- the trick who LOOOVVES to spend money..
*My date- I enjoy ur company- I can be seen in public with you… you can complete and sentence..own formal attire…but nothing else
* Swril- white dude date…*Snowflake- white chick date
* My Baby- someone who got your nose open…u in love- they in like
*My Gal- (I’m from the south) this is used when the guy is trying to look hard in front of boys
*My Lover- a great sex partner you respect ( you change the sheets & light candles and ish for them)
*My women- ownership ( been called this one )- no abuse involved Champ…actually one of the loves of my life…
*My lady- respect and ownership ( been called this one too )- labeled this when introduced to his parents- it was sweet..
*the ONE- .. marriage material…
..these are just a few- BUT what if we just called this person by their name ?? thats a idea..” this is Kareem ” ..period the end….
*My Gal- (I’m from the south) this is used when the guy is trying to look hard in front of boys
I hate this one too.
“My Jump off- down for whatever type ish”
i’m gonna start introducing any woman i happen to be with as my jump-off, just to see the reaction
i’m gonna start introducing any woman i happen to be with as my jump-off, just to see the reaction
LMAO>…..are you sure?
This weekend I introduced somebody as my pimp and literally the person spat out there wine. It was too funny.
“i’m gonna start introducing any woman i happen to be with as my jump-off, just to see the reaction”
Champ, you playing w/ lava. U may end up with a few less teeth and an eye patch.
*My Piece-..I think this one speaks for itself…( ” you at home ? you up ? unlock the door…” )
ok…but this has worked on me…cuz I knew my role… **looks off into distance as flashback sequence begins** ahhh good times!
my piece refers to the 9mm I carry in the car….not sure if I would want to refer to my man that way…..LMAO I just thought about it….He does have that killa…..I am officially adopting it. Yeah me!!
awww, Mr. BAC got a new title now! woohoo!!
Yeah.. I am sure he will appreciate this one much more!!!
“awww, Mr. BAC got a new title now! woohoo!!”
yeah, the new title is a definite upgrade
belle tells (or tolls):
“*My date- I enjoy ur company- I can be seen in public with you… you can complete and sentence..own formal attire…but nothing else”
i can roll with this title if we are out and intros are in order because 9 times out of 10 regardless of our personal relations we are on a date. (then say the persons name or just skip the prefix all together) …that’s all mufucaz need to know typically. we here together. respect.
…and people in and out of relations and situations got too much riding on the label. if you have a formal union then by all means use the label as a prefix (wife, husband, fiancee etc.) in conjunction with the persons name otherwise get over the bull****.
well dang, i aint had a “lover” yet! changin the sheets? shooot….i’ll change em after he leave!
Know what? When I introduce someone who I’m dating/boinking/entertaining at the time to someone, I just introduce them by their name, I don’t put a title on the relationship. If you start off like this, outsiders may place certain titles on you, but none of which you’ve subscribed to. Ambiguity is cool in instances like this and it keeps peeps out of your business (if you want them to be).
On another note, I may flirt with someone I’ve just met as my “new girlfriend” in front of my homies just to let her know that she’s ‘special’ even though I JUST met her. Qualified bytches like preferential treatment. That’s just the flirt in me though.
Anyhow, I opt for the “friend” title. It’s all about how you finesse it. “Friend” always carry a positive connotation when it comes to relationships (read: implies common bond, interest, mutual respect) so shiiidd, friends are cool.
Between you two, you maybe know that “friends” may mean something more than something platonic, but it’s nevertheless, “friends”…how many of us have them…friends…”
Uhh thats some bull.. I mean if we have been dating for a year you would do way better introducing me by name because if you put friend in front of it as Bernie Mac would say.. there would be trouble, trouble….
I know that’s right…calling me friend only later to dissapoint me and you got my goodies
no sirrr…
‘On another note, I may flirt with someone I’ve just met as my “new girlfriend” in front of my homies just to let her know that she’s ’special’ even though I JUST met her. ‘
I do this too, except I introduce dudes to my girls as my future ex-boyfriend. Hell I have even walked up to dudes and told them ‘you know what, you are going to be my future ex-boyfriend, so meet me at the bar so we can discuss it over a drink’
‘Qualified bytches like preferential treatment.’
This statement was funny as hell to me. I think we have a t-shirt right here.
“Hell I have even walked up to dudes and told them ‘you know what, you are going to be my future ex-boyfriend, so meet me at the bar so we can discuss it over a drink”
i bagged someone in an elevator doing that once before
Man Champ. You, your Dad, the elevator & that quick first step. Rofl
I concur Sug:
“Qualified bytches like preferential treatment” is a good t-shirt for women. u won’t catch me in one but for women its fly. (but then the wearer needs to be non-demanding, without the heir of entitlemnt burning the hairs in my nostril for it to be sexy) u ever notice how confident people who don’t have to or feel the need to have a demanding attitude or be sensitive to their desire to command (overcompensate) are the genuine article. people know when greatness is in their presence they dont have to be told or reminded or demanded to acknowledge.
disclaimer: their are circumstances where people have and need to make demands but to be driven by this need most of the time not matching the claim to the circumstances, speaks to insecurity. (like a Napoleon complex)
1 black mans opinion.
btw, Monk i knew the ladies were going to tear u up on this one. i’ve had to many bemoan and decry because the word “friend” didn’t assign enough value to her in my intro. …so i don’t use “friend” in intro’s. proper names sometimes proceeded by “my date such and such”
with women:
“too much is not enough.”
a girl after my own heart! i like to sit and speculate about where things are gonna go wrong. lol
Qualified bytches like preferential treatment.
this is cute and sh1t…along the same lines of…”b1tches love the smiley face”…
**high 5**
Qualified bytches like preferential treatment.
this is cute and sh1t…along the same lines of…”b1tches love the smiley face”…
LMAO wouldnt qualified bytches who love smiley faces be R Kelly territory? I am just saying…
On another note, I may flirt with someone I’ve just met as my “new girlfriend” in front of my homies just to let her know that she’s ’special’ even though I JUST met her. Qualified bytches like preferential treatment. That’s just the flirt in me though.
thats like when i refer to a dude i just met as my “future ex husband” (yeah, im real optimistic like that!)
.
I usually dont deal with dudes past 90 days…I have limits & sh!t. So, i just stick to calling them “friend”.
Once upon a time, I had a “friend” who used to break me off something propah. In that instance, he was referred to as King D!ngal!ng. Not to moms, or people at church, but everybody else knew him as King D!ngal!ng (no real name was needed…in fact, i forgot his real name) and I didnt mind slightly bowing when I said it, either.
“Once upon a time, I had a “friend” who used to break me off something propah. In that instance, he was referred to as King D!ngal!ng. Not to moms, or people at church, but everybody else knew him as King D!ngal!ng (no real name was needed…in fact, i forgot his real name) and I didnt mind slightly bowing when I said it, either.”
you’re not too new for the corner.
***chest bumps suga***
codeames are the bomb! I had:
-”the beast” cuz he was like an animal
-”the weatherman” cuz he could make it rain
-”unicorn” (to be later renamed to “truckrunner”) cuz he made me hallucinate with that headgame…
etcetera. etcetera, etcetera…welcome to the corner…suga…we’ve been waiting for you!
not the unicorn!!! You know you can’t say unicorn in the comments with me around….
LOL…that’s what’s up! I did codenames…we didn’t use real names unless they were “special”.
Ooh, the corner? For lil ol me? I brought my “corner survival pack”, complete with pillow, sleeping bag, a pack of 100 calorie doritos, and a copy of “The Audacity of Hope”.
If ya need me, holla.
In private maybe they’d get the boo, sweet heart, dou-dou dahlin’ (for the Caribbean people/Mighty Sparrow lovers), but otherwise I think they should be referred to by their names.
In terms of introductions he also gets introduced to by his first names. If the person I’m introducing the dou-dou dahlin to is important, they’ll recognize his name, know who he is and not need to hear a title. If they’re not important then they don’t need to know what/who he is to me.
If he’s one of those people who likes titles, he can call me his “girlfriend” or whatever… if I care about him, I won’t correct him:)
“If they’re not important then they don’t need to know what/who he is to me.”
in theory, i feel the same way, but just to be safe, i usually use “girlfriend” in this instance just to make sure i dont have a dry wang that night.
I hate titles with a passion…makes my hooter hurt.
but if I had to choose it would be “dude”.
Another term that I hear tossed around is “mister”
Another term that I hear tossed around is “mister”
For real? Is this the Color Purple? lol
“For real? Is this the Color Purple? lol”
lol
M-I-S-T-E-R – period.
CTFU
missed her period get it rim shot.
**SHOTGUUUUN shoot em for he run now** or if you like **it was a teenage wedding and the old folks wished em well**
That song is freaking hilarious. Reminds me of a 30th anniverssary party I went to a few years back. This was one of the songs they played during a slide show of old photos of the couple.
….
*giggles*
“Another term that I hear tossed around is “mister”
This is country..and I LOATHE it…it sounds so “gone with the wind-ish” and slaveryish.
For the 28th time, you missed the term “My Boo”. I tend to be called that in my current ‘situation’.
I have no problems with it even though it brings to mind that 90s jam that makes u feel like you should be a skate station with pom pom socks.
“I have no problems with it even though it brings to mind that 90s jam that makes u feel like you should be a skate station with pom pom socks.”
i actually didnt completely hate that song, which is surprising, because it fits the m.o. of songs i usually completely hate
And the Ghosttown DJ’s make their first appearance in 10 years via VSB.com.
First Gangsta N.I.P. and now the Ghosttown DJ’s. Next think you know, Groove B. Chill songs are gonna get a shoutout.
Don’t forget Nice & Smooth.
Dont forget them chicks that sang..shawty swing my way…KP and Envy…
I would like to forget that. lol. I neva liked the term shorty. Usually since its yelled out of a moving car or from some ninja trying to sneak up on me saying, psst…hey shorty. The fastest way to ensure you gets none.
I have mixed feelings about shorty. I hate hearing it drawled out the Southern way (“shawwwwty”), unless the guy has a really cute accent. I kinda like the Northern/East Coast “shore-ty”, a la “Shorty, ya man, boo/anytime you need me”. But I’m 5’9, and it seems silly when men who are barely my height or shorter call me that.
iDied…whatchu know about watching The Box like the next vid was gonna feature Jesus?!
TV ain’t the same. Then again, nothing really is.
The Box always makes me think of “The Crossroads”, which ran more than any other video EVER and also B.C. Knocc Out and Dresta’s “Real Compton City G’s”, which lampooned Eazy-E.
Sister Toldja loves the 90′s!
no no no! “Real Compton City Gs” was Eazy-E’s song, lampooning Dr. Dre.
–miss kate, who spent most of her middle school career watching The Box (back when it was called “The Jukebox Network”) while the teachers roamed the halls in search of gossip
If you like that then you’ll love the way I plan on using P.M. Dawn for my next post comment.
I can do this all day
how about the individuals actual name and leave it at that…must there be a label or title? and if people ask..then simply reply….this is(insert random name)! and call it a day
“how about the individuals actual name and leave it at that…must there be a label or title?”
in a perfect world, no.
Being from the south I think it’s my duty to dispell the affection tied to the word “boo.”
Boo derived from jig-a-boo or spook. It’s what whites used to refer to blacks in the South. When a slave owner took a black female to be his own, he used “boo” to signify that he was raping her. Somewhere along the line we (read blacks) adopted the term as an endearment(to lighten its blow i’m assuming), kinda like n*gger….except we altered it a bit to fit our sentiment as well…(i.e. nigga).
We are known for adopting something without thinking about the possible negative connotation associated with it. Thank goodness my grandmother nearly slapped fire out of my mouth the first time she heard me say it ages ago, explaining to me its origin…I haven’t used it since. I’m just saying…maybe we should think and possibly research before we speak. If only we still had grandmothers who passed down the history of our ancestors we wouldn’t be so quick to say and do a lot of things.
…i’m just saying.
**extending congrats today’s early nominee for the daily wet blanket award**
ummm…what’s a wet blanket award.
lol…just the award given to the most unproportionally serious comment of the day
it was 4am in the morning…i was mad that i was up and since that word urks me i felt it was my obligation to spread of information i was privy to as a kid…lol.
in all honesty it was just supposed to be a “did you know” moment.
i know, i know. i’m just joshin wit ya and sh*t
I thought it was a spin-off of the french word “beau”, meaning boyfriend…oh well, guess I was misinformed…
nope…it’s a misconception here in the states. now that may have actually happened in the caribbeans, since a lot of frenchmen settled there, but it’s not where we get the term here in the states.
Boo derived from jig-a-boo or spook. It’s what whites used to refer to blacks in the South. When a slave owner took a black female to be his own, he used “boo” to signify that he was raping her. Somewhere along the line we (read blacks) adopted the term as an endearment(to lighten its blow i’m assuming), kinda like n*gger….except we altered it a bit to fit our sentiment as well…(i.e. nigga).
TEESH…way to “Black Panther” some sh1t up!
sorry, it was just supposed to be an FYI moment…geesh.
I am sorry, can you give me some type of reference for this info? Cause we in the south are also known for saying everything is derived from slavery…..I mean my understanding of the history is that it is derived from the Ghostown Dj
s song…If your game is on give me a call boo……
well since we don’t write most of the history and reference books that info was suprisingly left out. as i stated above my grandmother passed this info on to me, which was told to her by her grandmother.
the problem is that we are raised in a society that is always looking for written documentation and we lend very little credence to spoken word passed down through generations UNLESS it’s not our own. i was blessed to have a grandmother and great grandmother who actually taught their children.
…sorry, but there are a few vague definitions in the urban dictionary.
besides we’re all smart here, we know they called us “jig-a-boo” and “spooks”…so why is this OBVIOUS origin met with opposition.
I’m sorry but spoken word cannot always be taken as “LAW”. Spoken word often needs more people. Often. So yes, we may require written proof, but it is because before we cite something as fact, we’d like to ensure its validity. Not saying your Grandmother’s tale isn’t valid.
they had to get it from somewhere. nothing is new under the sun
except cellophane.
they had to get it from somewhere. nothing is new under the sun
this is true.. what is not true is that everything in the south is derived from the master/slave relationship and black people are just to ignorant to know their history and are using these negative terms unknowingly. Maybe its me.. I was raised in the Islamic faith. I was not Nation but I came in contact with the nation a whole lot and when I say I heard this sentence.. ” Do you know where that XXX comes from?” as a precursor to a “the white man” rant thousands of times? Now sometimes its true and sometimes its not but going forward you have to provide me with some references before I accept it as God’s own truth and start spreading it around. ITs like those emails where they claim some famous person is dead or gay…I mean sometimes you need more than people..you need some facts.
“Now sometimes its true and sometimes its not but going forward you have to provide me with some references before I accept it as God’s own truth and start spreading it around. ITs like those emails where they claim some famous person is dead or gay…I mean sometimes you need more than people..you need some facts”
early nominee for comment of the month
That’s just it…you DON’T have to subscribe to it. And I NEVER stated that everything derived in the South was from the master/slavery…I only pointed out one intance where it was.
I’m not sure why you’re so bothered with it, but then again it’s not my problem. We do need to educate ourselves on our history before socially accepting words and phrases that we don’t have any clue to the origin of. But sweetheart this harsh reality isn’t going to manifest itself in any books until people start caring again.
But since you need proof…google spook + black. Now spooks are ghosts and ghosts go boo. Now google jig-a-boo…again a derogatory term relating to blacks come up. And since black people aren’t the only ones who like to shorten sh*t…we come up with the creation of the word boo.
Some things don’t require a physical reference…only common sense. And when it comes to hate phrases being used during a time when I wasn’t even a thought in my mother’s mind, my grandmother’s words are good as gold.
LOL I am bothered by it because of just what you explain here.. its not knowledge, its not fact, its conjecture, pseudo science and intellect..which if you google pseudoscience you will see it describes this almost perfectly….you are right, somethings dont require anything other than common sense..but when you claim to be dropping “knowledge” unless you are using it as a euphemism for giving head you need to at least have a factual point of reference and not a scooby doo nancy drew hardy boys type of deductive reasoning……That is all I am saying… and all I will say on this subject
“That is all I am saying… and all I will say on this subject”
…thankfully. Especially since my scooby doo nancy drew hardy boys type of deductive reasoning is…uhhh living fact.
But to touch on this psuedoscience thing…wouldn’t it be required that I’m actually posing something scientic based instead of history based? If your great grandmother came to you and shared stories of her youth with you, would you go out and search the interent for a point of reference….good luck finding it.
There is plenty of history that is not written, I think they call this “verbal history” because it is passed down through generations. Does it makes it any less credible because Schulster didn’t copywright that sh*t…I think not. You can call it folklore or a myth or whatever, but since I have direct ancestry that claims this happened in their lifetime who I am to diminish their pain as such.
But hey…to each his own.
“I mean my understanding of the history is that it is derived from the Ghostown Dj
s song…If your game is on give me a call boo……”
lmao! hot mess!
oh snap…i just learned something new today…i knew there was a reason i hate the term boo!
…other than the fact that it just sounds plain ridiculous.
Teacia,
Thank you for giving me a more concrete reason to have a stronger dislike for that ridiculous term, I will be sure to pass the information along the very next time I hear the word used as a term of endearment.
Interesting. I will research that, because I certainly wouldn’t want to keep the word alive if that is, in fact, it’s history.
Please do…and be sure to copy Shad-y-lady…she needs a physical reference to feel satisfied.
LOL apparently so does sister hence the fact that she is researching it and not taking it for fact. She just said it in a nicer way.. I am working on it but sometimes a spade is a spade and bullsh!t is just bullsh!t….
…um not really. she didn’t automatically discount it as lies. she said she would research it further.
i guess what puzzles me is that i mentioned my source was my grandmother, but i suggest you ask a few of the elderly people in your hood. they’re an untapped resource by this generation…or do you rely that heavily on “the google.”
LMAO…really? Since you insist….. now you say it was your grandmother (who would not have experienced it herself unless she is 145 years old) and try to guilt us into believing this fallacy? I explained in detail earlier that my problem was not with this statement itself but in things of this nature that are often spouted as fact when there is not 1 thread of proof to support it. I hate these things because they stem from the premise that we (blacks, African Americans, etc) are ignorant of our past and the degradation and pain that our ancestors experienced. Had you prefaced the original statement by saying that it was something passed down from your grandmother, I would not have commented. You stated it as if it was an unequivocal fact and then in your first defense you said you could google spook and jigga boo and make the connection. I am not going any further nor should you, your game is up, you’ve been bamboozled; led astray;.please let Plymouth rock land on you and this quite one sided “debate”. You know embarrassment is a term. It stems from days when blacks were auctioned off and had to stand often times “bare a$$ed” on the auction block. Hence the term…..I learned that from Great uncle scoop…… but sometimes even with the negative connotation its fitting….
*check the records* i did mention that it was told to me by my grandmother, but “spook” and “jigaboo” and/or “boo” was used well into the 1950′s.
you just felt like fussing, but whatever…you know they say a hit dog will holler.
In all honesty I dont need a reason to dislike the term, I have never liked it. If anything this will only give me an additional reason not to.
Although this makes sense, the word “boo” really does have a tie to the french term “beau” of similar meaning AND similar sound. We cannot just say “boo” came just from the slave master’s use b/c logic says that is is also derived from France.
What do ye think, people? As GK likes to say… “talk black to me…”
Oh yeah and as far as the post goes, the only title I care to use is “husband”…anything else is well…ummm not important.
Teesh reports:
“Oh yeah and as far as the post goes, the only title I care to use is “husband”…anything else is well…ummm not important.”
well i wish u would teach a class to some women i know…
Oh puh-leaze, GK. Like there are sooo many brothas trying to be husbanda. Gimmie a break, ’cause I sure need one.
Now, Tecia- are you saying a man is simply your friend until he is your husband? I know that husband is the title ultimate, but I need some important steps before we get there.
Yes mam, the I-R-S says that negro is my friend and the gov’ment says I get nothing if he bounces out on me but debt…so a friend it is.
Now i’ll give him fiance once he reaches that point…but the only title that holds any credence in my book is husband…bf, mates, guys, lovers, partners and so forth come and go as they please.
I concur, Ms. Teacia. It’s either husband or friend. All else is…simply nominal. If it weren’t, would there be SOOOO many names for it?
Sister Toldya writes:
“Oh puh-leaze, GK. Like there are sooo many brothas trying to be husbanda. Gimmie a break, ’cause I sure need one.”
hey luv. did u officiate ur sisters wedding yet? do u miss me? do u hate to love me or maybe just closet h8 me? somethings in the heir. i do so love passion.
…whooooo!
naw, i’m not saying “…there are sooo many brothas trying to be husbanda.” i’m saying i know far to many women that are not wives or fiancees that get upset about being introduced as:
my friend so and so. …etc.
…but if they had the attitude that Teesh puts forth (titles unimportant unless married) then they wouldn’t feel slighted or unappreciated, undervalued or that they were being undermined or that the brother had a hidden agenda/meaning.
..yeah titles have only seemed to derail my efforts in the past. i noticed that when my guy and i broke from the titles our relationship flourished, there was less arguing and less unrealistic expectations.
me and mines have recently taken that approach again and so far things are much better b/c of it. it just takes the edge off…besides making him my “boyfriend” isn’t my goal…i’m shooting for that 802K.
Teesh says:
“besides making him my “boyfriend” isn’t my goal…i’m shooting for that 802K.”
802 k is a big rock and certainly something to squirt about however it’s gonna be tougher and tougher to squirt after that.
Teesh i have a feeling that marriage will be proposed to you within the next year. good luck and God bless.
802K…lol, that’s his 401K and my 401K…lol.
I only want a 2.75 carat stone for my finger…but I think you’re right, I’ll be getting mine within the next 365.
LOL. Hi, GK. No, the wedding is next spring. Thank you for highlighting my spelling error.
I just don’t think that a girlfriend should be introduced the same way your college drinking buddy is. Technically, we are both “friends”, but not in the same way! If a man introduces a woman to me as his friend, then I think he is fair game if I want to holler. If we are in a monagamous realtionship, I deserve a title. I’m not one for having the long “we need titles” conversation, but there comes a point in which I think one should naturally start calling their friend their “boyfriend” or “girlfriend”.
Toldya i wasn’t trying to put u out there on ur spelling error just quoting your sentiment. i’m checking for substance not grammar. it’s a time and place for perfect grammar. we all make mistakes.
anyways baby, lady, luv, sweetnes, softness hows about just being introduced by ur name? will that suffice no matter the contet of the relationship?
…or my dear sweet friend “insert name” wether exclusive bf, gf, drinking buddy, fcuk buddy etc.?
what say ye?
YES!!! I agree, just introduce the person by their first name. I’ve learned that this is best. Everyone is my friend until he is my husband! The title makes us women go crazy, for no reason. No matter what title a man gives you or you give yourself, he’s only as faithful as he wants to be. If he wants to be exclusive, he’ll say so…and him calling you his gf/homie/wifey/boo/baby boo doesn’t promise it.
I guess I would call someone my fiance, as the ring glimmered on my finger cause really how could you miss that?
Hip,
You definitely hit the nail on the head! My friend referred to me as his “girlfriend” in private and his “friend” in public. My thought is he had to be my friend to get to this point anyway because any relationship worth having begins with friendship.
Now that we have entered the exclusive zone, I’m quite interested to see how he will introduce me. Going forward, I will simply introduce him by his name. I think once people see us interact, they’ll figure out what our “titles” are.
“Oh yeah and as far as the post goes, the only title I care to use is “husband”…anything else is well…ummm not important.”
agreed!
“my earth/God/goddess/queen/king/power u/spirit/field/galaxy/soulmate/vision”
—shut the f**k up.
HAHAHAHAHA! 4REAAAAAAAL!
Perhaps Dope Fiend could be a new term that could be used.
“Yeah this right here is my dope fiend **insert name**. I fiend for him and he fiends for me. (S)He’s like crack. I took one hit and now I can’t quit him.”
Works for me!
yeah this is pretty annoying…cause what happens when its done, how many dam3n “black holes of the sun” can one person have.
I think I like ‘my guy’, but as far as what I’d like to be called in a relationship to other adults in public…the jury is still out. (and yes, in my book there are pet names/labels/titles for behind closed doors and those that are more acceptable in public). ‘My girl’ has a homie-lover friend quality to it, so it’s not one of my favorites (still, this really depends on who is using the term- that guy that’s just banging you or the guy that’s making love to you). And at this stage in my life, ‘girlfriend’ sounds like we’ve only made it to second base and I need to be home by 10 p.m.
Before my brother proposed to his fiancee he introduced her to his friends and family as ‘my sweetheart’ [cue in: 'awwwwwww'] Now that I think of it, that actually has a nice ring to it… i think we have a winner!
“I think I like ‘my guy’”
with the exception of jim jones, i’m a fan of anything that rhymes.
um…jim jones dont rhyme.
“Before my brother proposed to his fiancee he introduced her to his friends and family as ‘my sweetheart’ [cue in: 'awwwwwww'] Now that I think of it, that actually has a nice ring to it… i think we have a winner!”
Yep, I likes…and I’d probably swoon every time I heard it!
Miss Patt writes:
“Before my brother proposed to his fiancee he introduced her to his friends and family as ‘my sweetheart’ [cue in: 'awwwwwww'] Now that I think of it, that actually has a nice ring to it…”
yeah wife SOUNDS good (a lot of sh*t SOUNDS good) but if the sky diving instructor told me half of the people who jump would not come back alive i don’t think i’d be quick to anyone call me a skydiver.
sweetheart – One who is loved. {wiki, wiki, wiki…}
…but we don’t love them ho’s. Snoop
least not all ofem that we may be out on a date with or sexing etc.
anyways guys thos reminds me of a tv show i watched where a guy introduced a woman as my very dear and sweet friend “inert name”
using adjectives like this followed by the noun friend and then by the pronoun is hard for a woman to argue against but doesn’t overstate or give away the detailed nature of any situation.
this will usually keep ur di*k wet.
heh, heh, heh (inhales) whooooo!
” mate” – all this prefix needs is an “Oy” and a sting ray to F**kn stop your heart-beat.
And don’t be giving random broads you happen to take out for a date titles, sheeeeeiiiit she should be happy she gets to go anywhere in public with you……as a matter of fact, don’t take out your bootycalls/f**k-buddies at all…. that way you never worry about how you going to introduce them. All you need to do is lay-your-pipe-right than give her the money you would’ve been going on a date with and let that girrrl go get her some groceries.
Rick James Beeyaaaitch!!!
“All you need to do is lay-your-pipe-right than give her the money you would’ve been going on a date with and let that girrrl go get her some groceries.”
lol, wow.
All you need to do is lay-your-pipe-right than give her the money you would’ve been going on a date with and let that girrrl go get her some groceries.
I thought that was called HUSBAND!
Isnt it though? Sounds like the appropriate job description for the title.
All you need to do is lay-your-pipe-right than give her the money you would’ve been going on a date with and let that girrrl go get her some groceries.
I thought that was called HUSBAND!
LMAO thats what I call mine!!!
“as a matter of fact, don’t take out your bootycalls/f**k-buddies at all…. that way you never worry about how you going to introduce them.”
that’s how my mind works…
sisanda writes:
“All you need to do is lay-your-pipe-right than give her the money you would’ve been going on a date with and let that girrrl go get her some groceries.”
heh, heh, heh (inhale) whooooo!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wYzM9M9zNZk
“All you need to do is lay-your-pipe-right than give her the money you would’ve been going on a date with and let that girrrl go get her some groceries.”
Boondocks?….lol
I only live and breathe The Boondocks, they’ve intergrated themselves into ma speech and way of think….if it weren’t for Boondocks i wouldn’t know that b*tches love the smiley face…ni99a hush!!! LOL
My mama solved this dilemma years ago by referring to all dudes that my sister or I brought around as “friend”. As in:
Daddy: “Annie, who’s that nappyheaded negro on the couch?”
Mother: “That’s Shawnie’s friend! Please don’t act a fool and embarass us!”
My sister and her dude (and yes I say “dude”…I’m 35 years old and refuse to say “boyfriend”. my “boyfriends” are the gay men that help me stay fabulous) have been together over 10 years and Mother still refers to him as “Rita’s friend”. HILARIOUS!!
The only title I honor is “husband”. All else is irrelevant and/or fair game, depending upon my mood.
“My mama solved this dilemma years ago by referring to all dudes that my sister or I brought around as “friend”.”
this is why we love mama’s. they make things easier and sh*t
Love it!
My mama does the same thing, she told me I was too grown for all those aforementioned titles, they’ll be my friend…
My sister and her dude (and yes I say “dude”…I’m 35 years old and refuse to say “boyfriend”. my “boyfriends” are the gay men that help me stay fabulous) have been together over 10 years and Mother still refers to him as “Rita’s friend”.
They’ve been together or TEN years, and he ain’t became husband yet?? Wowww
Nope, still unmarried after 10 years. She says I’m not allowed to speak on it since I was married, separated and divorced all inside of two years. I tell her and anybody else who has something slick to say about THAT : “It don’t take all day to recognize sunshine…or bullsh!t.”
Boyfriend and Girlfriend works for me. But then again, I ain’t 45…
I like Dave & buster….lol
I think you should have had Boo in that same section with wifey…
but uuummm… so what are we suppose to call that person than champ?
I havent had a BF in so long that when I do nag we one I might just call him all these damn names that you’ve listed…lol
“but uuummm… so what are we suppose to call that person than champ?”
i’m gonna stay with “my girl” until someone convinces me otherwise
It’s funny that this is coming up because I just had to go through this recently with the guy I was seeing. I introduced him to my coworkers by his name and kept it moving, especially since we hadn’t talked exactly about what we were. And then the questions came the next day from good and grown folks about whether or not he was my boyfriend and I was a little thrown so I just said that hadn’t been decided yet.
But when we did discuss it, it was all about how we reference each other to other people. And he’s all, you can call me whatever you want and my thing was, I can’t call you something if that’s not how you see yourself. I guess it all boils down to how you view each other which was what I was trying to get cleared up. I’m not gonna be running around claiming you and you’re thinking something else. And then that’s when it all came out about how he was referring to me to other people which was “his girl” and that all his boys knew we were dating, blah blah, blah and I’m just like, well, could you let me know that?!?
I feel the same way only I openly mock people (for reasons unbeknowest to them) for continued use of such terms. I refer to the person I regularly see naked by her name. I make no attempts to explain our “thing” to other people. I just let them figure it out. We have had this conversation and I don’t think we have come to a conclusion as to what we refer to each otehr as (for the sake of the other humans that cannot comprehend such things the way we do).
now that I think about it I most times I openly mock people the motivation is unbeknowest to them. I am a hater. I revel in this knowledge. Eff you all.
You forgot the most hated word…”Boo”. Grown people use this word. I want to stone them for using this word to refert to anyone I am currently boinking. Grown a$$ men don’t have boos.
“Grown a$$ men don’t have boos.”
hmmm…this might make the next round of t-shirts
Deev’s turns the phrase:
“Grown a$$ men don’t have boos.”
…or #2′s. we sh*t.
i second the motion for a t-shirt.
…whooooo!
Usher disagrees with you
he is a retard with a blunt skull. I disagree with his hairline
I disagree with his hairline
LOL do you think he sprays it on like Jamie Foxx?
o god thats the worst. I rememebr the first time I went to Philly and I was wonderin how all these dudes in line at the club and full beards and I was strugglin to get a goateee to connect right. My cousin’s cousin (our tour guide and my unoffical cousin) said the young dudes there spray their facial hair in. I was so disgusted by their weakness I didn’t set foot in Philly for 3 years after that.
LMAO yo you’re killing it today
I’m feeling your disdain Devs. I had no idea that the faux hair was accross the board. I have been snubbing my nose @ so many of these sept ridding women cuz of said faux hair (reminds me of my great grandma). I wish I could leave n not come back too, but I’m in a holding pattern. Lots of tdrauma since I got here. I should have known when I saw the red dyed beards on some of these cats.
they still do that? That happened to me in 98. I’m sorry for ya man. btw..who has a fake red beard? I’m glad i didnt see that I may have threw hands at that garbage. I didnt think there was anything worse than black women with blond hair. You have found that point.
Sad thing is it’s these older Muslim cats. They have dyed their beards like a strawbery blond or it looks like they have Georgia Clay well water @ home and it turned their hair reddish orange. Makes em look like their name is McGuilacutty Muhamad (Muslim Lepruhkahns). N the drawn on yeah it’s still going down. I saw Chakah Kahn yesterday n next to me was a dude w/ said beard face liner.
Okay enough is enough, the bashing of my city is getting out of hand here.
I happen to have a red beard (yes I have Indian in my family . . okay not really). but for some odd reason God decided to have me looking like Kwame (the rapper, not the pimp/mayor) did back in 89 . . .all black hair with red streaks. I’ve also been blessed/cursed with a red beard. And I always get asked do I dye my hair. The answer is NO. . .NO NO NO. NO I’m not a Muslim, just because I don’t eat pork and I sometimes rock a beard doesn’t mean I’m a Muslim. This is the sole reason why I try keep my face shaved and my hair cut low. I’m not defending the cats that probably dye their shyt, but I do know a lot of guys that have natural shty like me (no ultra perm)
*end off subject rant*
Eff nun disrespect to the birthplace of neo-soul. N I empathize w/ you on being questioned about how your natural look got to be that way. My dear old Dad’s hair turns red after he has been in the sun for some time (but my Dad is diffrent cuz when he digs on swine [now we already have oily skin] the grease comes out of his pores when he showers). People have questioned my herritage and asked if it’s a process. N the guys I’m talking about are obviously Muslim. In their kufes bennies n the long smock (not sure of the correct name for said garment). These hats don’t cover everything though. So the hair on the head doesn’t match much less the roots are coming out grey black and then these tips are red. It is what it is though I experienced it here. And it is the tdrama that makes me want to get away. This city has been good to me. Where else could I have seen Chaka Kahn, Eric Bennet, Kindred & John Legend all for free. No sneaking in or nothing just walk up to the stage.
Me I ain’t even the man standing next to the Got Dang man that called yo piccalo player a mickey fickey.
i been in philly 5 doggone years and i didnt know that about the beards!! im bout to move now…
Deev’s sneers:
“…I disagree with his hairline. (Ushers’…)
scoffed…
…whooo!
Cole.
U Stupid.
“he is a retard with a blunt skull. I disagree with his hairline”
this made me choke on my steak and shrimp hoagie
aaaahhahahahaaha I love it when Champ’s meals sounds like something you can only get special orderd @ the ‘Ole Dirty Chinese Food Resturant’
& @ the same time I’m mad I wanna try it only I want mine as a chicken cheesesteak w/shrimp. wow this may be even better w/ bacon duck bacon
LMAO! that was brilliant! i also disagree with his hairline
“he is a retard with a blunt skull. I disagree with his hairline”
D, you are my favorte person right now.
“Grown a$$ men don’t have boos.”
Hayle nah…men don’t have boos unless they’re borderline retarded or they aren’t fit for whatever reason to be in a real relationship…
You forgot the one I loathe the most.
“My Broad”
This ish is runnin’ rampant down here in TX. Please kill it, and soon.
I always call “him”, when I have a “him”, my sweetie. Yep, I know it’s old school and my homeboys tell me that I sound like I’m 90, but I don’t care. It works.
“My Broad”
people actually introduce others as this?
Yep.
It’s normally a “chick on the side” kinda term.
“broad”…that’s another term i loathe with a passion. if i use it in relation to someone, it’s NEVER a good thing lol.
Exactly. lol
It always makes me think of that H.A.W.K. song “You Already Know”.
im sayin! its never a good sign when im callin you a broad…
t-lee h8′s the term “broad.”
this reminds me of my weekend.
Tail from a Broad.
soon to be available at Amazon.com and other fine bookstores. …or download to ur kindle.
LOL
Sounds like you had a heulluva weekend.
t-lee yep my weekend was mad interesting. it’s funny being me sometimes. staytuned.
That sounds like a GREAT fireside tale.
Luvvie recognizes:
[Tail from a Broad] “That sounds like a GREAT fireside tale.”
high drama i tell ya, high drama. i’ll get around to it one day.
Exactly…straight up Alastair Cooke and Masterpiece Theatre…lol
I recently had to attend some work functions that I preffered to attend with a date.
when I introduced my date to my superiors and inferiors he was introduced as follows: this is “a friend” **insert name here**
when this said friend was someone I had been giving the business to he was introduced as “my friend”
only those that matter know the difference.
when I was in my long term relationship I actually refered to him as “my (insert name her)” whe I introduced him in public
“when I was in my long term relationship I actually refered to him as “my (insert name her)” whe I introduced him in public”
hmmm. this works…but, only if your serious about the person. it can’t be a term for someone you’re “close-busing”
“when I was in my long term relationship I actually refered to him as “my (insert name her)” whe I introduced him in public”
So you introduced him as “your Antwan”?
Yes My Dorian, I would introduce you as such. But that only happened after year ten of being in said relationship, it came about because My “man” had a common name and other people I knew where dating a guy with the same name so in conversation I would bring him up and refer to him as such, I eventually started calling him that (as if his momma named him so). It was a pet name.
***blows whistle***
IH…I feel you…I use the gubmint name…but for me, co-workers do not rank high int he need-to-know-my-sh1t hierarchy of life…plus, I don’t take “dates” to work sh1t…cuz then they think they are more important than they are…you don’t meet friends, fam, offspring or attend any function where I will see those people again, unless I really dig you when I’m NOT dancing in your mouth…oh wait…what was I saying? ummm…Champ, can I have a piece of toast?
“unless I really dig you when I’m NOT dancing in your mouth”
that is the funniest ish I’ve heard all morning, I hate u Goodeness
whaddafuggevahni99uh!! mouth dancing ROCKS!
whaddafuggevahni99uh!! LMAO so hood with it… which is why you are mouth dancing.. is that the same thing as face riding?
woohooo, I need cold water now.
mouth dancing.. is that the same thing as face riding?
yes Shay-D it is…except there is more back arch/hip roll action with the dancing…lol
LMAO!!!! I am officially off my soap box after reading this one…..You win, I throw in the towel
Goode, during all that time you are spending in the corner…you should write a book.
potential title for Goodeness’ book
“My time in the corner, what got me there and what I did while I was there”
or “The Life & Times of a Mouth Dancer”
“The Life & Times of a Mouth Dancer”
sidenote: this was the original title of supahead’s book, as well as, oddly, the title of ja rule’s autobiography as well.
nah supahead was getting her mouth danced in…stomped up…wo’out now…my joint “got less steps than Britney… That means it ain’t stepped on, dig me?”
“The Life & Times of a Mouth Dancer”
I FUGGIN LOVE IT!!!!
@ Goodeness~ there are only certain co workers that are in the know like that. And you have to be “arm”status to attend functions at work, considering I work for the state and in this small state no telling who you are going to run into at said functions. I usually take my best male friend or someone on that level. I wouldn’t take just anyone.
oh I know YOU know…but I had to offer that caviat for those that don’t understand the direct correspondence between random work dates and bush-hiding-with-leaves-taped-to-edge-up-ness…ya know? lol
loves it! this will now become part of my vocab. i will be sure to reference you if anyone asks…smh.
Someone is going to have to sit me down and explain to me whats wrong with the term wifey. Granted in this sense it shouldn’t be used to generally describe your girl, but if i get a call from my boys like “son what you doing tonight” there is nothing wrong with the response “chillin with wifey”.
“Granted in this sense it shouldn’t be used to generally describe your girl, but if i get a call from my boys like “son what you doing tonight” there is nothing wrong with the response “chillin with wifey””
i wouldnt intro someone as wifey, but i’ve definitely refered to someone as that. also, with guys, admitting that the chick you’re seeing “is wifey now” is kind of a big step.
I don’t love it because the suffix -ey makes it a joke…like you’re wife…but not really…you have wife-esque qualities, but you’re still unofficial…kuh-peesh?
But everything else you said is unofficial as well, until you actually get married, and thats if you even get married. Until then why isn’t my significant woman, whom I live with/see everyday/spend the majority of my time and $$$ on NOT my wifey?
true! I agree! I prefer “given” names!
^^^Prefers monotony
Dorian G. prefers monotony. [in labels]
khan prefers sovereignty, autonomy etc. [in life]
…tell u, what’s in a name?
A: cofusion many times.
don’t anticipate my love.
I don’t know what that means, so umma take it as disrespect.
Dorian, no don’t take what i replied to u as disrespect.
ur monotony had nothing really to do with my sovereignty and autonomy. i was just [off message] reinforcing my own sovreignty and autonomy leanings.
really didn’t have any thing to do with ur comment. you’ll find that whenever i’m inspired i’ll just respond on the post that inspired me wether it had anything or not to do with the comment or subject at hand directly. some people call it crazy.
you said:
“^^^Prefers monotony”
and it just made me want to say:
prefers sovereignty and autonomy as my mantra.
i so despise the term “wifey”…just sounds mad lame. i’d rather a dude NOT refer to me as anything if that’s the best he can come up with…
I’ve used Manfriend, MF for short. Yes mufugga, I called him The MF for short–but only on the blog, though I purposely haven’t written about a MF over there in a while. Aside from that, we have MSO (most significant other). But the thing is, when you go to Thanksgiving at their family’s home, how else is he supposed to introduce me? Girlfriend and boyfriend are words old people understand. Plus, my first name is kinda hard for the elderly to pronounce. Lazy old asses. So when MF/MSO leaves me with the women while all the men go watch sports, they need a way to introduce me to late Aunt Sandra, “This here is Steve’s girlfriend. Ain’t she pretty?”
Furthermore, how about just referring to the person by their name?? What’s wrong with me just saying, “Steve and I”. BTW, I no longer date a Steve. Don’t want anyone to stumble upon your page and think, “I’ve been courting Hostess and her ass is locked in with some dude named Steve.”
Save for talking to elderly family, I don’t see this whole title thing as an issue. What matters is that BOTH people agree that they are only seeing, screwing, and annoying the fug out of each other. That’s the real issue–not the actual titles. A lot of people focus on the title because they don’t want to have the ‘Is You Is Or Is You Ain’t MY Baby’ conversation. For women, it’s fear that his ass will be like, “Naw, we’re just kickin’ it.” For men, the fear is that someone else might come along.
women seem to be more title-driven than guys are. i guess its that whole, “as long as i dont refer to you as my gf, theres no exclusivity implied” thing.
Champ observes:
“women seem to be more title-driven than guys are. i guess its that whole, “as long as i dont refer to you as my gf, theres no exclusivity implied” thing.”
advantage Champ!
Oh and I’m wondering how you can call yourself Black and not have included:
Old Lady
Old Man
My Boo
Seriously, I might have to submit your name to the Board of Blackness for review.
Old Lady
Old Man
see, like “ball and chain”, i only think that these are used with married couples, thats why i didnt include them.
and ummm, board of blackness? wasnt this abolished in 1994?
It was but was re-established to fight the rumors that Barack wasn’t Black enough.
i see.
well, submit away then. even though you’re from the d, i aint scared.
bring it.
I’ma go old school and use a term that I only hear men age 50 and up say…
my ball and chain
Dayum, wth kinda girl are you that your man refers to you as the old ball and chain…lol?
“Dayum, wth kinda girl are you that your man refers to you as the old ball and chain…lol?”
whenever i hear this term, i imagine archie and edith bunker for some reason
That sounds about right.
“my earth/God/goddess/queen/king/power u/spirit/field/galaxy/soulmate/vision”
—shut the f**k up.
****dead****
funniest sh1t ever! (hoodrat impression) cuz I be thinking that sh1t when they be all in my face with that sh1t!
but…ummmm…I’m single…so I usually call my latest conquest the “MVP” or “my favorite” or you know…I just use his name…(shrugging)
funniest sh1t ever! (hoodrat impression) cuz I be thinking that sh1t when they be all in my face with that sh1t!
lol…thanks and sh*t
“but…ummmm…I’m single…so I usually call my latest conquest the “MVP” or “my favorite” or you know…I just use his name…(shrugging)”
that’s cute…i might use those in the future when i come off my hiatus…
I just call him my “main jawn” lol
“I just call him my “main jawn” lol”
can he refer to you as his bottom b*tch?
I think she meant jawn like the philly term, not john in the whore industry sense.
thanks Dorian…guess i should have explained that…
I’ll pass on being called a bottom b*tch…no pimpin going on here…
lol…i figured that.
Truth be told though if she did welcome and encourage being a bottom b*tch, to what lengths would the Champ have gone to um…start his stable?
i actually like the term “boo,” but learning where it comes from makes me sad
i like the term “pet man.” i have a penchant for
hulkingly massive otherwise unhumanly lookingquiet guys, so if i ever get a chance to introduce one to the masses, he doesnt say anything, like a dog, or pet rock.Women who like Rick Ross type dudes are always a red flag for me…for multiple obvious reasons.
no hunny, think beef cake, not poundcake… to use a female analogy, theres a huge difference between cherokee and ki-toy johnson, get me? same idea, completely different execution, lmao.
::snicker::
I didn’t know that Rick Ross type dudes were whats hot in the streets until I went to Miami this summer.
Maybe it was just a Miami thing *shrug*
Eeewwww Rick Ross is the patron saint of all things Lard.
Luv u crazy for saying:
“…Rick Ross is the patron saint of all things Lard.”
omg.
sick chick…
what about Fat Joe or Pun or Heavy D or Bonecrusher or anynumber of fat rappers?
what are they the patron saits of?
i want you say:
bless me Tupac for i have sinned.
now sing 10 “Hail Mary’s” and 13 “Shed So Many Tears” [by Pac of course]
..and u will be absolved.
lol…
it used to kill me how white reporters referred to him as two pack. they didn’t want to say the sh*t right. it hurt them all together to have to mention this dude at all.
“i like the term “pet man.” i have a penchant for hulkingly massive otherwise unhumanly looking quiet guys, so if i ever get a chance to introduce one to the masses, he doesnt say anything, like a dog, or pet rock.”
are you sure you’re dating actual human beings?
i like the term “pet man.” i have a penchant for hulkingly massive otherwise unhumanly looking quiet guys, so if i ever get a chance to introduce one to the masses, he doesnt say anything, like a dog, or pet rock.
how Lars and the Real Girl of you! lol
how Lars and the Real Girl of you! lol
Hilarious movie.
This past weekend I introduced ole boy as “This here is ole boy.” He was already mad at me and I didn’t make it any better, but by this point I was mad at him for STILL being mad at me over some dumbness. So after referring to him as ole boy (and he had on his imma beat-a-b!tch face) I changed it to Mr. Ole Boy.
I referred to the ex as babycakes. But not TOO him. If calling him it was like baby or hon or some shit.
Ole Boy
I use this term when I’m talking with my girls and no names are needed…lol
Pretty much. At that time I didn’t wanna even introduce him to anyone, but that might of had me in more trouble than I was already in.
btw The Champ – y’all men sure are sensitive about certain things. blog on that.
I never realized how much I use that, ol’ boy and ol’ girl….
Now I love “ol boy and Ol girl” in reference to anything…Thats right up there with “f*ck wit ya girl” for me…..
gurl…i’ve long used this term for dudes…when they’re in the “in-between” phase…we bangin’, but i’m not sure that i want to take it any further than that. hayle, i STILL refer to one dude as ole boy…even after i’d known him for several years AND though we ain’t kickin’ it no more.
Cheryl recalls:
” I was mad at him for STILL being mad at me over some dumbness. So after referring to him as ole boy (and he had on his imma beat-a-b!tch face) I changed it to Mr. Ole Boy.”
i love how u cleaned it up. Mr. Ole Boy. yaeh i’m sure adding “Mr.” brought the proper amount of respect back to the situation.
heh, heh, heh (inhale) whooooooo!
you might be surprised that it not only did NOT help the situation, it might have possibly made it worse.
he has only grunted at me in the last 48 hours.
Cheryl goes on:
“he has only grunted at me in the last 48 hours.”
that’s good shyt. calling someone a name they don’t like and then facetiously cleaning up by adding “Mr.” when they take offense. …as if. throw some coochie at him when u get tired of his protest that seems to always be the trump card.
and the nicca still aint speaking to ya. (shakes head) he’ll get over it. funny.
…whoooooo!
nah he gonna have to come to me if he wants some of this.
Cheryl promises:
“nah he gonna have to come to me if he wants some of this.”
a war of attrition huh? a war of wills? who will win? nobody perhaps…
By the way that pic of that chick is fly as hell. Like its hate proof, and I should know because I’m a world class hater.
World Class Hater. WOW
I’m only a level 3 Hater (a.k.a. Hatin’ ass Ninja) and I need someone to sponsor me in my students to be a World Class Hater. You think you could help me out on that?
I like to call the person in my life “My Emergency Contact”
Nah son, I’m hating on the fact that you gotta take classes
d weezy speaks:
“I like to call the person in my life “My Emergency Contact”
good 1. funny. …but if u intro a hunny as this she will probably be madd unless u can pull off the joke. …but i likes.
“By the way that pic of that chick is fly as hell. Like its hate proof, and I should know because I’m a world class hater.”
i was gonna just put the pic on the page instead of a link, but i doubt anyone would have actually read the entry after seeing that
He calls me “Mi amor”. To me, it has a sense of distinction and romance. I love it especially when he uses it in general conversation.
*Looking in the fridge*
‘Mi amor, do we have any left over pizza?’
*swoon*
“Mi amor”
ok thats hot. I need for a man to pet name me in another language… Stevie Wonder-ese would work too.
How bout “Can I hit it raw”?
“How bout “Can I hit it raw”?”
if you can find the french, spanish, latin, portuguese, italian, or swahili translation ….umm…id think about it.
My bata-o cru, are you single?
(hint: portuguese)
“My bata-o cru”
this does not look or sound sexay. maybe if you broke it down in Teena “portuguese love”-ese.
Ok then so from here on out women in relationships will be referred to as “batty-o’s” which is actually fitting lol
i am mad that according to babel fish.. there is a portuguese translation for this foolishness.
I say Dude…and I’m southern. I say it so much that my momma uses it:
“So how’s ur Dude?”
“Is that your Dude you’re talking about?”
“Is your Dude okay with you going out with that other boy?”
I must admit though, at 28 I’m not reall big on “boyfriends.” I figure we’re getting married or we’re not. If we ain’t getting married, then I’m a free agent unless or until you decide to propose or agree to do a Kurt Russel/Goldie Hawn (sp?) type deal.
“I must admit though, at 28 I’m not reall big on “boyfriends.” I figure we’re getting married or we’re not. If we ain’t getting married, then I’m a free agent unless or until you decide to propose or agree to do a Kurt Russel/Goldie Hawn (sp?) type deal.”
so, what does free agency entail?
“ladyfriend”
–whenever i hear this term i think about some 45 year old divorced chick named shirley that works at blue cross/blue shield, drives a cavalier with a leopard interior and smokes newports. i actually think that all 45 year old women who still date should just be referred to as “shirleys”
____
see, now when *I* think of the “ladyfriend” it always puts an image in my head of some old smarmy dude tryin to push up on them young honeys…in short, it reminds me of my neighbor. and plus, you do know that if you add “ladies” with a raise of the people’s eyebrow to the end of ANY sentence you can automatically make it sound disgustingly perverted, right? give it a shot, champ (although, i suspect PJ can pull it off better, for some reason!)…you’ll feel all dirty!
“give it a shot, champ (although, i suspect PJ can pull it off better, for some reason!)…you’ll feel all dirty!”
lol…ok. i’ll try this at lunch.
Let’s see, this is one area I’m VERY picky/touchy about. I’ve never liked or used the term sboyfriend or girlfriend, because its juvenile. Honestly, I’m not using any other title than “friend” until I get to engagement level.
I have a whole hierachy based on where the dude is, and how much I like him. Anyone I’ve just met or just “kickin’ it” with…we don’t use names when talking about said person. He gets a nickname…like one dude was “ole boy” or “bus driver” (what he actually did for a living). If we get to a point where I can actually see us being “serious”, we then use names, no titles needed. Folk who know me…know how serious I am based on whether I’m using dude’s name or not. Folk not close to me…well, they ain’t all up in my beeswax like that, so it matters not.
“I have a whole hierachy based on where the dude is, and how much I like him”
this is exactly like maslov’s hierachy (and by “exactly” i mean “nothing at all”)
I have used ‘ole lady’ or ole girl not to her face though mostly to the people who know I don’t want my ‘lil woman’ to outlive me. Yeah ‘lil woman’ used this on since HS. Never actually got into the SO talk. But never the less someone’s name works best. when it gets there sometime’s I get the ‘my’ prefix n all. I like to lets say call it like I see it so when I say lil lady or my lady I like for it to be justified by her actions.
ah phooie B and Aller ‘G’s’ came by today n I just got to go.
don’t forget “the clutch”…lol
please believe it ‘the clutch’ reserved for 6th women rising to the 4th quarter occasion showing and proving.
Alright I typed 6th women but I’m refering to the 6th man you know tony cuccoch n em the kind of player that averages double digits per min of play time.
The conversation reminds me of when I had my first kid almost 15yrs ago and we were all talking about what “Grandparent” names she would use for her two grandmothers, two great-grandmothers and great grandfather. Grandma, NaNa, Pop-Pop, MaMa, Paw-Paw, Granddad, Dad…the list went on and on. The kid took a whole year to say anything that even remotely resembled English, so I didn’t see what the fuss was all about. I was all for crossing that bridge when we got to it.
what did she eventually settle on?
My parents are “Grandma and Dad”, my maternal grandparents were “Big Mama and Pop-Pop” and my paternal grandmother is “Big Grandma”and her paternal grandmother was “NaNa”.
How did this po’ child get these names straight?? I’da gon cross-eyed trying to identify folks and then just refused to talk to save myself the trouble. lol
Well, my maternal grandparents were down South, so she only saw them when we went down a couple times a year. We have lived either with or near my parents her whole life, so that was easy. Her paternal grandma died when she was 7, so that was that.
Besides all that, she’s a genius. And I’d say that even if I hadn’t carried her in my very own uterus.
Just so we are keeping an unofficial official tally, according to the women of VSB they are to be referred to as friend for the first two dates, then are to be immediately proposed to and referred as “legal spouse (insert first government name only here)” for the rest of eternity.
Got it.
You’re not funny.
Yes I Am!
I wouldn’t say “immediately” on that whole proposal thing…but umm, yeah, that’s the order of things that works for me.
“Daddy” only works when your doing the horizontal polka
nah…when used correctly (right context and vocal inflection/cadence) it makes a man stand a little straighter…even when he’s upright and clothed…btu you have to mean it…it’s a term of endearment reserved for a man that makes me feel safe and cared about…you know, like my Daddy…lol…but the “hoodus rattus” has been throwing around all willy nilly causing it to decrease in value…like the word “beautiful” and red roses…nice but overdone!
^^ You know what your right, I forgot how lil Wayne uses that term of endearment quite frequently. Now I have to ban that word from my girl/woman/SI/boo/etc’s vocabulary.
With that said, all these titles are cool with me, as long as you don’t call me “Couchie Poo” and of course the aforementioned “Daddy”.
ps – I hope your talking about a REAL pet snake and not the kind that belongs to a “gentleman caller” . . .if you know what I mean
ps – I hope your talking about a REAL pet snake and not the kind that belongs to a “gentleman caller” . . .if you know what I mean
yes I am talking about a real snake, man! lol…d@mn COUCH I don’t act up ALL the time…lol
“I love finger fuggin you, all of a sudden I’m hearin thunder
When you bust a nut, ni99az be duckin or takin numbers”
**this post made me think of my all time favorite Pac song** and yes those are my fave lyrics from that song
Pouring out some (I dont have a liquid beverage near me, oh well) for Pac
“Pouring out come”
i didnt know you were a squirter
*vomit* you cant be talkin like that when im just rollin outta bed…that aint right
Shit, that’s a talent!
& I’m jealous it’s for Pac that dude’s been dead for like evuh. no offense hood conspiracists
it was a typo and I corrected it…
and I would appreciate it if you would stop putting my business out on the e-streets
When I am dealing with someone I actually want other people want to know about, they get the first name. If the person isn’t more than an easily replaced cog in the machine that is my life, why would I waste time giving them a title/introducing them to friends when I know full well that there will be another “them” next week?
“If the person isn’t more than an easily replaced cog in the machine that is my life…”
I feel like a cougar for typing this next sentence…but I e-love you…
***knocks cradle completely over and robs it!***
you 15 will get ya 20, goodie!
I’m down with tight e-cougars.
Wayyyyy better than busted real life ones that try to get on while you’re on the bus after a long stressful day and thye don’t take no for an answer, and even though you mean to give them a fake name and a friend’s number, you give them your real info because your mind is so busy….
When keeping it real goes wrong..
I dont really care for the term boyfriend either..but people understand it..so I use it
Significant other is too long and could mean Im gay
My Man sounds more childish than boyfriend
My dude..i use sometimes…I can’t remember when tho
I like being called “his woman”..*giggles*
I dont know which is best…
What about “MY FRIEND”…
U know that means you are seeing someone…and its significant..but it may not be that significant..I personally can’t use it..but its a good word for sex buddy or a little more than sex buddy
could be monogamous too
true, as a man, when u use ““MY FRIEND” u take the chance of having the woamn ur sexing feeling like u understated the nature of the relationship for felonius reasons and end up not smashing that nite.
u can’t win with these types so…
i say fu*kem aand feedem cake.
“i say fu*kem aand feedem cake”
I dont like cake… can I get some tiramisu?
tiramisu is cake. lady fingers are cake. …with coffee and creme added it’s coffee cake. …but yeah, u can get some.
…the smashing i can administer, it aint enuf oxycontin on the planet to numb the pain if i crack something.
i would probably stifle my varied rough play to medium light mode and let u do a lot of the driving perhaps. i’ll have to get a syllabus together before matriculation. my intention we be not to hurt but give and receive pleasure. i can get ferocious pretty quick Hedo. devour…
Genius, I’m new here, and I already have an e-crush on you.
8th Wonder, welcum to ur crush. hug urself babe. my eyes like to feast before we touch. show me all ur sexy… i’m watching u.
You sir, are trouble.
What’s in a name?
I’d like to say not much, that it’s all in the feelings you have for the person, and that in a perfect world the connection you two have would speak for itself. But for me, it really is important that I have a title if I’m in a serious relationship or even if its just a ‘situationship.’ Its nice to have a title so that the people know where you two stand and there’s no confusion about your relationship with eachother.
I don’t mind girlfriend/boyfriend, or even lady friend (sounds do classy), and I saw a few sweet terms above that are fitting. I can not stand the term wifey or boo.
I have to wonder what’s up with people calling themelves “exclusive friends,” and shunning any title all together. I have seen alot of this going on nowadays, from the young and old(er) alike. If I gotta be all that why cant I just be a grilfriend?
“exclusive friends”
ha! thats funny.
You say funny. I call Bullsh!t
I dig “exclusive friends”
Well, I am admittedly a big fan of pet names. Even though I’m far from a child, boyfriend is what I use. If I’m dating you exclusively, I feel you should have a title which I can use to refer to you.
Here are the names 8th will NEVER use:
Daddy, Papi, Pa, or really anything that sounds like I’m in dire need of a father figure
Bun (DC/MD folks know this one well)
And pretty much everything on this list:
http://www.pet-names.org.uk/boy/boyfriend-index.htm
“Bun (DC/MD folks know this one well)”
too well. there should be a google map for these pet linguistics.
i hate buns, bun bun, and imma “bun her up”. Unless its a cinnabun, please remove from your vocab.
THANK YOU!
To hear a grown man say bun bun….is to have a part of my soul die.
Bun Bun?
Really? Wow I’ve never heard this term.
“i hate buns, bun bun, and imma “bun her up”. Unless its a cinnabun, please remove from your vocab.”
cuz you know a sista love a good cinnabun!
“cuz you know a sista love a good cinnabun”
yes ma’am…..LUNCH TIME. lol
Cinnabun does go hard in the paint.
Mmmm
Alright some of the names on the site r like too much. ‘spunky’ who gets called ‘spunky’?! Making me think of Mister’s speach to Ciely when she said she was moving to Memphis. ‘Sug got spunk’ actually in hindsight and just in reading this. Spunky sounds like someone w/ a special funky monkey. And it’s frightening me cuz it could be some sort of nasty vd. Or the snappiest of nappy dug outs.
oh n panda who calls someone panda? I bet someone who may have gone to the zoo w/o intentionally wanting to lock it down would hate this.
Spunk?!
My mind goes somewhere completely different when I read this…lol
Take me with you!) lol
“Spunky sounds like someone w/ a special funky monkey.”
I can’t take it.
Maybe spunky is a name for a man with bitter love juice.
Now I can’t take myself.
8th Wonder you owe me some bread cuz since they used the office defribulator on me they need to replace the pads.
**dead** @ ‘Now I can’t take myself.’
**& I’m back**
Start a tab, won’t be the last time I kill you.
i agree with what some have said, the words whatever they may be dont mean jack if you aint treating the person right.
good point and sh*t
Soul Sag:
“i agree with what some have said, the words whatever they may be dont mean jack if you aint treating the person right.”
u wouldn’t believe how many people [especially women] would be sour with substance minus the form.
yeah some people want to eat and look @ cake. can you dig that there now youn bwoy.
Wu say:
“yeah some people want to eat and look @ cake.
yep i do too. …but if i had to choose between an intro with the right pet name versus treating me good and just using my first name or friend then i’m taking the later. substance over form every time for me. introduce me as the janitor just pay me and play me like the C.E.O.
I’m gonna co-sign with JBoog on this one. All men who are in the picture but not serious get nicknames based on a descritptor: Peter Pan, New Chocolate, Old Chocolate, Maintenance Man, GGJ (Good Gubment Job), etc. You get a name if you’re around long enough to be introduced to friends and need one.
P.S. – What’s up with grown men introducing themselves with nicknames? “How you doin’ ma, my name’s Dueces.” WTF?!? If I have to ask you what your mom named you then we are already off on the wrong foot. Don’t be mad if you’re referred to as the New Peter Pan.
LMAO @ Deuces
*picturing dude chucking two fingers as he says it*
“How you doin’ ma, my name’s Dueces.” WTF?!? If I have to ask you what your mom named you then we are already off on the wrong foot.”
Exactly.
Yeah…I had a kat introduce himself to me one time as K-9. My friends and I still laugh about this ish. How I look calling a grown arse igga K-9?GTFOH *throat punch*
Or the “calling me a queen looking boy” who introduces themselves as Knowledge Wisdom Akbar, naw your name is Cletus Jenkins, go that way….
“Or the “calling me a queen looking boy” who introduces themselves as Knowledge Wisdom Akbar, naw your name is Cletus Jenkins, go that way….”
this made me choke on my oreo frosty and grapes
You are really killing me with the combos today…lmao
mmmm…frosty…
“….oreo frosty and grapes”
champ… are you preggers????
wait what kind of grapes red green seedless or them big ole muskadines?
Sensai t-lee I think it is high time we start qualifying these throat punches (which keep reminding me of the cck puncher from the onion movie). I mean are we trying to break hyoids like judo chopped wishbones, making airways slightly less patent, or causing brain bleeds/strokes?
I’m just trying crush a windpipe or two…that’s all.
lol mercy please sensai. cuz you takin my breath away.
You make me laugh.
I think no one said it better than that animated fat cat stimpy ‘joy’
YES! throat punch! lmao!
that remind of cedric the entertainer talkin bout “how i look callin a grown azz man ‘delicious’???”
and i am also a fan of the code names…they are always fun times
That skit is STILL funny…lol
::screaming: Delicious!!!!
LOL@ GGJ
“You get a name if you’re around long enough to be introduced to friends and need one. ”
***applause***
“possible extended finger bang in the backseat of a minivan” Why Champ why?! That Southpark Boyband episode was killin em. ahahahahahaa
that is what made me think of the Pac lyrics
Do you remember the SouthPark episode? Finger Bang was their number one hit.
Dag I was too ignorant when this cd came out to even know. Now I feel even more comfortable in my penchant for the **clearing throat** climaxedly gifted
“climaxedly gifted”
LOL
I love this, I think I’m going to adopt it
Adopt away. Just remember your people first speak. Even though it is a compliment I think it would serve us best to stay out of pc hayell.
Love it. So was there a resolution as to what you call the woman or man that you’re exclusively dating or is that out the window?
Jaclyn asks:
“So was there a resolution as to what you call the woman or man that you’re exclusively dating or is that out the window?”
if ur anything formal like married or engaged then use the stat quo titles that go with…
otherwise
when introducing S.O. to mixed company, in public etc. [which seems to be the real issue] i vote for:
1.) the persons proper first name.
2.) and maybe as adjective/s preceeding #1 like: my dear wonderful friend…
someone else suggested: “My Emergency Contact” which i like too but it depends how well u can carry over the slight of hand.
1 black mans opinion
like who really cares what pet names u have for one another in private. i’ve had women call me anything but a child of God in bed…
i don’t take that negatively, i understand…
heh, heh, heh (inhales) whooooo!
I just wanted to take a moment out to give all the sensitive e-thugs hugs…… lol… ok I’m done…
And a cookie. Don’t forget the cookie.
My last significant relationship called my his “Lady”( as in lady in the streets freak in the bed.) Some of them guys went for platinum pu$$y points and introduced me as The Future Mrs. __________ .
And I don’t use a title when referring to a guy. It is usually something like “This is _______ .” The people who need to know who he is, hear his name enough to know he is in my circle of trust.
**
strolls onto website- notices “everyone” has already written wit-ful comments acknowledging the ignored “boo”, “bay”, and “shawty” – laughs out loud at a few… SMH, thinks, “Damnit! I missed the whole convo! stupid dissertation…”
Exits quietly.
**
i feel your pain…
I didnt read first but my pastors wife calls him “honey”. now where does that fit in this name calling? I have an answer but I won’t u all to help me.
“i actually think that all 45 year old women who still date should just be referred to as “shirleys””
LOLOLOL– I love this! I’ma start using it. Someone else might have already commented on this, but I’ve told you before how I feel about surfing through comments
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how did you double date @ dave and busters? i could barely get in that joint. you have to be like 25 at the one in maryland by my house. i just used to hit the mall. it was simpler, and cheaper.
all late and sh*t fo’ sho. but i kind of like the retro feel of “ladyfriend.” reminds me of larry and jack on “three’s company.”
it’s polite on the surface, but has a smarmy “yeah, i’m tappin’ that a** but i’m too much of a gentleman to say so explicitly” vibe.
Sade sounds strange.Like a howling Beyonce on crack.But the man dat take de cup is electro-pain,oh,T-pain.I am thinking of doing a hit single with the latest ‘it’ words.Guaranteed fi hit.Sound a thing like, GAL MOVE YOUR A**,BUMP AGAINST PAPI,ME SHOWER B*****ES WID PAPER,SEE HOW MY BLING MAKE YOU BLIND.Easy.Soon this will have all crunkers eating out of my shoes.
Is there such a thing as a significant other? You get a name when you get a name.Depends on how good you’re giving it.
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