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wanted: black marriage public relations specialist

***whether its dating advice, wisdom, levity, or orgasms, we at verysmartbrothas.com will provide any service necessary to keep the peace and help to create a happier populace. with this, as well as the unstable economy in mind, we realize that luvvie and ms. sula can’t be prostitutes forever so we’ve decided to alert you to relevant job postings as well.

here’s one i found on craigslist this weekend.***

wanted:

black marriage public relations specialist

job description:

smartbroinc, a newly developed and uncommonly sexxy non-profit is searching for an extremely skillful pr person to lead their “marriage and sh*t is a good thing…really. no, seriously. no bullsh*t. word is bond” urban campaign, an attempt to reverse the increasingly negative and pessimistic sentiment held towards marriage and monogamy in the black community

job duties:

**successfully convince the 7 to 35 year old black population that marriage is a viable, positive, relevant, and essential institution.

**create and communicate detailed analysis of pro-marriage factual data, including (but not limited to) information about how married people and children generated by married couples are generally happier, healthier, wealthier, and less likely to stab your sister in the forehead with a kitchen knife because of a man than the general populace

**effectively explain exactly why the overwhelming prevalence of single-parent families, not racism, poverty, lack of quality education, gentrification, or kim kardashian is the single most pressing issue facing the black community today.

**find, synthesize, and communicate historical data that shows how successful marriages, and the dual incomes potentially generated by each household, have been a key ingredient in the ascension of every prominent racial and cultural community on earth in the past half dozen or so centuries.

**if questioned and challenged on the importance and/or historical relevancy of marriage, be equipped to explain each of the following points of information:

1.  throughout history, slave-traders and slave-masters intentionally separated married couples because they understood that this was the most vital step when attempting to completely breakdown a community

2.  up until 900 or so years ago, catholic priests were allowed to marry and have children. the vatican eventually disallowed this practice, though, when realizing that their vast wealth would eventually dwindle when the money and properties amassed by individual priests were passed on to their wives and children. even then, powerful and intelligent people knew that the best way for people to get and stay wealthy was through marriage.

**successfully debunk young blacks who use the 50 percent marriage failure rate as their sole argument against marriage by pointing out its inherent faultiness. (possible retort: “well, if you believe so strongly in statistics, why did you even bother going to college if only 23 percent of us have college degrees?.”)

**successfully debunk young blacks who use the laughably faulty and inane “monogamy is unnatural. no other animals practice it” argument as their case against marriage, by showing how truly idiotic it is to compare a rational and reasoning human being with a cheetah or chipmunk

if interested, please contact the champ at contact@verysmartbrothas.com.

hmmm. sounds interesting. any takers?

—the champ



Damon Young

Damon Young is the editor-in-chief of VSB. He is also a contributing editor for EBONY.com. He resides in Pittsburgh, and he really likes pancakes. Reach him at damon@verysmartbrothas.com. Or don't.

Previously

What Would You Do.?

  • jana.love

    the fact that single moms STILL don’t have it better in 2008 compared to in the 1960s [aka, strugglin just as hard] makes me want to work it out in my marriage and also figure out why they gotta make it so hard!!

    where do i apply?

    • http://keepittrill.blogspot.com/ Kit (Keep It Trill)

      Marriage ain’t on my New Year’s resolutions, as that would be silly, although I’ve had one friend successfully do it.

      That being said, one of my resolutions is to be first on VSB…

      heh-heh

      • RedBeanzNRice

        @Kit (Keep It Trill),
        “That being said, one of my resolutions is to be first on VSB”

        Oh, you can do it girl! It takes a minute cause you gotta get past Kamakula and Luvvie – but it CAN be done. (speaking as one who successfully did it, lol) I recommend a blog repellent cloak and an unsheathed dagger.

        (late 70’s and early 80’s babies know about “cloak & dagger”, lol)

        • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

          @RedBeanzNRice,

          (late 70’s and early 80’s babies know about “cloak & dagger”, lol)

          who could ever forget the great dabney coleman?

        • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

          @RedBeanzNRice,

          (late 70’s and early 80’s babies know about “cloak & dagger”, lol)

          who could ever forget the great dabney coleman?

        • Humble_One

          @RedBeanzNRice,

          I thought I was the only one that remembered that movie. I loved the SR-71.

        • Humble_One

          @RedBeanzNRice,

          I thought I was the only one that remembered that movie. I loved the SR-71.

        • miss t-lee

          @RedBeanzNRice,
          (late 70’s and early 80’s babies know about “cloak & dagger”, lol)

          Dayum!!! I haven’t seen that ish in years!

        • miss t-lee

          @RedBeanzNRice,
          (late 70’s and early 80’s babies know about “cloak & dagger”, lol)

          Dayum!!! I haven’t seen that ish in years!

      • RedBeanzNRice

        @Kit (Keep It Trill),
        “That being said, one of my resolutions is to be first on VSB”

        Oh, you can do it girl! It takes a minute cause you gotta get past Kamakula and Luvvie – but it CAN be done. (speaking as one who successfully did it, lol) I recommend a blog repellent cloak and an unsheathed dagger.

        (late 70’s and early 80’s babies know about “cloak & dagger”, lol)

    • http://keepittrill.blogspot.com/ Kit (Keep It Trill)

      Marriage ain’t on my New Year’s resolutions, as that would be silly, although I’ve had one friend successfully do it.

      That being said, one of my resolutions is to be first on VSB…

      heh-heh

  • jana.love

    the fact that single moms STILL don’t have it better in 2008 compared to in the 1960s [aka, strugglin just as hard] makes me want to work it out in my marriage and also figure out why they gotta make it so hard!!

    where do i apply?

  • http://liffy.blogspot.com Luvvie

    Champ, why must you come at my head? (Maybe it’s because no one is coming at urs??? ZING!!!) Ol’ eggheaded Humpty self. Your great fall is LOOMING. Besides, my eBoyshorts are only for my eBoo, Kula.

    • http://myspace.com/shatani shatani

      @Luvvie,

      lmao! zing, indeed!!

    • http://myspace.com/shatani shatani

      @Luvvie,

      lmao! zing, indeed!!

    • RedBeanzNRice

      @Luvvie,
      “Ol’ eggheaded Humpty self”

      Ok Luvvie. You KNOW I luh you and sh*t, but you can’t be talkin faulty bout Champ’s big ass egg head like that. Yeah, it’s big, but it’s TANTALIZING and sh*t. Aside from that, it’s CHOCOLATE! You know how us girls need that chocolate on the monthly basis. Shew, I’d give my right eye for some chocolate during that “time” of the month. Yep, I went there.

      • Dat Chick

        @RedBeanzNRice,
        LOL funny stuff…
        but Champ that was wrong.

      • Dat Chick

        @RedBeanzNRice,
        LOL funny stuff…
        but Champ that was wrong.

      • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

        @RedBeanzNRice,

        so, when i send you your payment, would you like a lump sum or a series of checks?

        • RedBeanzNRice

          @The Champ,
          “so, when i send you your payment, would you like a lump sum or a series of checks?”

          No payment is required, just keep being you – that’s all the payment I need…a lump sum will be fine.

        • RedBeanzNRice

          @The Champ,
          “so, when i send you your payment, would you like a lump sum or a series of checks?”

          No payment is required, just keep being you – that’s all the payment I need…a lump sum will be fine.

      • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

        @RedBeanzNRice,

        so, when i send you your payment, would you like a lump sum or a series of checks?

    • RedBeanzNRice

      @Luvvie,
      “Ol’ eggheaded Humpty self”

      Ok Luvvie. You KNOW I luh you and sh*t, but you can’t be talkin faulty bout Champ’s big ass egg head like that. Yeah, it’s big, but it’s TANTALIZING and sh*t. Aside from that, it’s CHOCOLATE! You know how us girls need that chocolate on the monthly basis. Shew, I’d give my right eye for some chocolate during that “time” of the month. Yep, I went there.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      @Luvvie,

      Besides, my eBoyshorts are only for my eBoo, Kula.

      edeez

      • Hershey

        @The Champ,

        edeez!!!LMBAO

        • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

          @Hershey,

          welcome and sh*t

          • the P the E the Y the S the O

            @The Champ, do u keep a runnign talley of who comments? or is it done automatically or sumthin?

            • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

              @the P the E the Y the S the O,

              like roxy reynolds, its done in my head and sh*t.

              • http://liffy.blogspot.com Luvvie

                @The Champ,

                Of course it’s done in your head. That expansive space must be good for something. Wide open spaces looking head

              • http://liffy.blogspot.com Luvvie

                @The Champ,

                Of course it’s done in your head. That expansive space must be good for something. Wide open spaces looking head

            • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

              @the P the E the Y the S the O,

              like roxy reynolds, its done in my head and sh*t.

          • the P the E the Y the S the O

            @The Champ, do u keep a runnign talley of who comments? or is it done automatically or sumthin?

        • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

          @Hershey,

          welcome and sh*t

      • Hershey

        @The Champ,

        edeez!!!LMBAO

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      @Luvvie,

      Besides, my eBoyshorts are only for my eBoo, Kula.

      edeez

  • http://liffy.blogspot.com Luvvie

    Champ, why must you come at my head? (Maybe it’s because no one is coming at urs??? ZING!!!) Ol’ eggheaded Humpty self. Your great fall is LOOMING. Besides, my eBoyshorts are only for my eBoo, Kula.

  • http://www.heyyouasked.blogspot.com PBG

    What he say about Luvvie?? Oh no…I saw it. Dayum a strikethrough. I am not above going in my purse for something dangerous!!

    As for the rest of this post, my position as VSB Cat Lady prohibits me from weighing in on either side of the great marriage debate.

    • Ivy St.

      @PBG, LOL! I’m a cat lady too at the tender age of 24…

      • http://www.myspace.com/wudaman19 WuDaMan

        @Ivy St.,
        Okay now the Monkey moniker was a bit more obscure, but now cats!!?!!?!! You better go get you some 28 year old lovin for Christmas n the rest o yo life.

        • Ivy St.

          @WuDaMan, I’m working on it! 28yr old lovin? What can a 28rd old do with a 24yr old but sweat and pant? Keep up please!

          *PS I only have two cats*

          • http://www.myspace.com/wudaman19 WuDaMan

            @Ivy St.,
            Do the monkeys know about the cats? I’m sure that takes a lot of you to care for two cats. The kitty litter commercials lead me to believe this is true. And if you think a 28 year old is too tired for you then get you some 20 year old. Don’t be scared test yourself. Can you hang?

            • Ivy St.

              @WuDaMan, “then get you some 20 year old. Don’t be scared test yourself. Can you hang?”

              LMAO! I don’t think I’ll take the test that far though I might really want to. Under 21 is NOT cool.

              I didn’t tell the monkeys about the cats. They don’t like to share with other species.
              Taking care of two cats is simple: leave bottle caps around for them to play with, feed them low fiber food (high fiber causes them to use the litter A LOT), and make sure they have water (cats are quick to cough up “stuff”). If you want to try out the cats, i can drop them off sometime. :)

              • http://www.myspace.com/wudaman19 WuDaMan

                @Ivy St.,
                OH HEEEECKS NAW! I don’t need no cats other than me runnin round my apt. But *putting on crossroads for my fallen b!tch* I perfer dogs for pets. And why do I have a theory that cats are more represenative of men and dogs women? (based on certain terms some are bad)

              • http://www.myspace.com/wudaman19 WuDaMan

                @Ivy St.,
                OH HEEEECKS NAW! I don’t need no cats other than me runnin round my apt. But *putting on crossroads for my fallen b!tch* I perfer dogs for pets. And why do I have a theory that cats are more represenative of men and dogs women? (based on certain terms some are bad)

              • Gem of the San DiegOcean

                Under 21 is NOT cool.

                mmm hmm exactly what i tried to tell you!!!

              • Gem of the San DiegOcean

                Under 21 is NOT cool.

                mmm hmm exactly what i tried to tell you!!!

            • Ivy St.

              @WuDaMan, “then get you some 20 year old. Don’t be scared test yourself. Can you hang?”

              LMAO! I don’t think I’ll take the test that far though I might really want to. Under 21 is NOT cool.

              I didn’t tell the monkeys about the cats. They don’t like to share with other species.
              Taking care of two cats is simple: leave bottle caps around for them to play with, feed them low fiber food (high fiber causes them to use the litter A LOT), and make sure they have water (cats are quick to cough up “stuff”). If you want to try out the cats, i can drop them off sometime. :)

          • http://www.myspace.com/wudaman19 WuDaMan

            @Ivy St.,
            Do the monkeys know about the cats? I’m sure that takes a lot of you to care for two cats. The kitty litter commercials lead me to believe this is true. And if you think a 28 year old is too tired for you then get you some 20 year old. Don’t be scared test yourself. Can you hang?

        • Ivy St.

          @WuDaMan, I’m working on it! 28yr old lovin? What can a 28rd old do with a 24yr old but sweat and pant? Keep up please!

          *PS I only have two cats*

      • http://www.myspace.com/wudaman19 WuDaMan

        @Ivy St.,
        Okay now the Monkey moniker was a bit more obscure, but now cats!!?!!?!! You better go get you some 28 year old lovin for Christmas n the rest o yo life.

    • Ivy St.

      @PBG, LOL! I’m a cat lady too at the tender age of 24…

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      @PBG,

      I am not above going in my purse for something dangerous!!

      is this a threat??

      • http://www.heyyouasked.blogspot.com PBG

        @The Champ,

        No, a promise.
        Don’t be scared…be prepared.

        Oh yeah…threat DEEZ.

        • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

          @PBG,

          lol…what you and your infinitesimal fists gonna do? punch my nostril? beat me at thumb wrestling? pop a pimple?

          • 8th Wonder

            LOL, I can’t.

          • 8th Wonder

            LOL, I can’t.

          • http://freetherapyorelse.blogspot.com Ms. Sula actually working today…go figure!

            @The Champ,

            Not pop a pimple!! :D

          • http://freetherapyorelse.blogspot.com Ms. Sula actually working today…go figure!

            @The Champ,

            Not pop a pimple!! :D

        • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

          @PBG,

          lol…what you and your infinitesimal fists gonna do? punch my nostril? beat me at thumb wrestling? pop a pimple?

      • http://www.heyyouasked.blogspot.com PBG

        @The Champ,

        No, a promise.
        Don’t be scared…be prepared.

        Oh yeah…threat DEEZ.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      @PBG,

      I am not above going in my purse for something dangerous!!

      is this a threat??

  • http://www.heyyouasked.blogspot.com PBG

    What he say about Luvvie?? Oh no…I saw it. Dayum a strikethrough. I am not above going in my purse for something dangerous!!

    As for the rest of this post, my position as VSB Cat Lady prohibits me from weighing in on either side of the great marriage debate.

  • http://myspace.com/shatani shatani

    i am hardly qualified for this position, as ive never witnessed a successful black marriage and am not entirely sure i can make one happen for myself.

    • RedBeanzNRice

      @shatani,

      My gramma and grandpa’s marriage lasted 54 years; since I was raised by them, I’m prone to making it work. But a SUCCESSFUL marriage is a horse of another color. Out of 54 years (God rest both of their souls) of marriage, I don’t know what would classify as “successful”.

      Was it the fact that they stayed married so long, (even though it was a rocky marriage) or was it the fact that they raised 5 kids plus 3 grandkids together without separating?

      Your comment begs the question of what really IS a successful marriage.

      • the P the E the Y the S the O

        @RedBeanzNRice, nobody knows……

        • http://www.myspace.com/wudaman19 WuDaMan

          @the P the E the Y the S the O,
          It’s Peyso (hold up) It’s Peysoooo

          I couldn’t help myself. lol

        • http://www.myspace.com/wudaman19 WuDaMan

          @the P the E the Y the S the O,
          It’s Peyso (hold up) It’s Peysoooo

          I couldn’t help myself. lol

      • the P the E the Y the S the O

        @RedBeanzNRice, nobody knows……

      • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

        @RedBeanzNRice,

        Your comment begs the question of what really IS a successful marriage.

        i guess “successful” is relative, but imo, it means healthy, positive, and mutually beneficial

        • http://www.myspace.com/wudaman19 WuDaMan

          @The Champ,

          sort of a win win win. One for each party involved and one for the people who bear it’s wittness. @ least at some point or so.

        • http://www.myspace.com/wudaman19 WuDaMan

          @The Champ,

          sort of a win win win. One for each party involved and one for the people who bear it’s wittness. @ least at some point or so.

      • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

        @RedBeanzNRice,

        Your comment begs the question of what really IS a successful marriage.

        i guess “successful” is relative, but imo, it means healthy, positive, and mutually beneficial

      • http://naturallyalise.blogspot.com Relax, Relate, Alise

        @RedBeanzNRice,

        Yeah, marriages form back in the day lasted, but sure weren’t neccesarily successful, because my grandparents have been together ovr 50 years, and my Uncle Reggie shole ain’t my grandma’s child… side-eye to grandpa….

        • http://www.heyyouasked.blogspot.com PBG

          @Relax, Relate, Alise,

          “my Uncle Reggie shole ain’t my grandma’s child… side-eye to grandpa….”

          D.E.A.D.

        • http://www.heyyouasked.blogspot.com PBG

          @Relax, Relate, Alise,

          “my Uncle Reggie shole ain’t my grandma’s child… side-eye to grandpa….”

          D.E.A.D.

        • RedBeanzNRice

          @Relax, Relate, Alise,
          “my Uncle Reggie shole ain’t my grandma’s child… side-eye to grandpa….”

          You know you wrong for that one, lmao!

          • http://naturallyalise.blogspot.com Relax, Relate, Alise

            @RedBeanzNRice,

            I am being for real, my grandaddy brought that child home from the mama who didn’t want him and my grandma raised him….

            • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=73903598 Dom

              @Relax, Relate, Alise,

              But did he look like granpa though?

              • http://naturallyalise.blogspot.com Relax, Relate, Alise

                @Dom,

                Spitting image, look like my daddy and all my uncles too… dont need maury for that one…

              • http://naturallyalise.blogspot.com Relax, Relate, Alise

                @Dom,

                Spitting image, look like my daddy and all my uncles too… dont need maury for that one…

            • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=73903598 Dom

              @Relax, Relate, Alise,

              But did he look like granpa though?

          • http://naturallyalise.blogspot.com Relax, Relate, Alise

            @RedBeanzNRice,

            I am being for real, my grandaddy brought that child home from the mama who didn’t want him and my grandma raised him….

        • RedBeanzNRice

          @Relax, Relate, Alise,
          “my Uncle Reggie shole ain’t my grandma’s child… side-eye to grandpa….”

          You know you wrong for that one, lmao!

      • http://naturallyalise.blogspot.com Relax, Relate, Alise

        @RedBeanzNRice,

        Yeah, marriages form back in the day lasted, but sure weren’t neccesarily successful, because my grandparents have been together ovr 50 years, and my Uncle Reggie shole ain’t my grandma’s child… side-eye to grandpa….

    • RedBeanzNRice

      @shatani,

      My gramma and grandpa’s marriage lasted 54 years; since I was raised by them, I’m prone to making it work. But a SUCCESSFUL marriage is a horse of another color. Out of 54 years (God rest both of their souls) of marriage, I don’t know what would classify as “successful”.

      Was it the fact that they stayed married so long, (even though it was a rocky marriage) or was it the fact that they raised 5 kids plus 3 grandkids together without separating?

      Your comment begs the question of what really IS a successful marriage.

  • http://myspace.com/shatani shatani

    i am hardly qualified for this position, as ive never witnessed a successful black marriage and am not entirely sure i can make one happen for myself.

  • http://graywords1000@yahoo.com Dorian G.

    I have a question for the interviewer…

    Using the logic that “powerful and intelligent people knew that the best way for people to get and stay wealthy was through marriage”, please explain to me right today what the economic, social, and moral benefit is of marriage, over the many alternatives?

    • http://www.myspace.com/shay_d_lady79 Shay-d-lady

      @Dorian G., What are the alternatives?

    • http://www.myspace.com/shay_d_lady79 Shay-d-lady

      @Dorian G., What are the alternatives?

    • Lil’T Got Work To Do

      @Dorian G.,

      Economic – are you so caked up that an extra income wouldn’t make a difference to you? Daaang, bruh – let me holla at you for a minute, then…..

      Social – I know my social calendar has slowed as I’ve gotten older and my “fun money” has magically morphed into “bill money”. Having someone to cuddle up with during the long winter is a bonus. Again, if you’re all good and still happy to party every weekend, this may not be relevent to you.

      Moral – I can’t speak on a moral boon for married people – they can be just as trife as the singles. Point to Dorian.

      So there is my semi-old person list of why marriage is looking better and better. That’s all I can think of off the top of my head – and p.s. D-dawg, what are your alternatives? Living together? Single for life? Pimpin’?

      • http://graywords1000@yahoo.com Dorian G.

        @Lil’T Got Work To Do,
        Economic – are you so caked up that an extra income wouldn’t make a difference to you? ——–No extra income is always nice. But why do i have to get married to enjoy extra income from a partner?

        Social – Having someone to cuddle up with during the long winter is a bonus.——-I agree. Again why is marriage the way to go about this? You know whats better than having a person to cuddle up with in the winter? Having multiple people to cuddle up with in the winter.

        As for alternatives, the obvious one is just not getting married, there’s also living single and trying to build wealth that way, and of course you can always enter a legally binding situation with another individual like an LLC or a Corp and then detailing exactly what you want the relationship to entail financially.

        • 8th Wonder

          “You know whats better than having a person to cuddle up with in the winter? Having multiple people to cuddle up with in the winter.”

          Go sit down.

        • 8th Wonder

          “You know whats better than having a person to cuddle up with in the winter? Having multiple people to cuddle up with in the winter.”

          Go sit down.

        • Lil’T Got Work To Do

          @Dorian G.,

          But why do i have to get married to enjoy extra income from a partner? —

          Ok, we call that pimpin’ where I come from. NTTAWWT, lol. And you know you have to brave the cold to find the several people you want to cuddle with this winter, unless you paid extra for booty delivery.

          But – do you really think forming a small company with your SO is somehow LESS work than just getting married? Methinks not, young whippasnappa. I think you may change your mind when you meet the right one.

        • Lil’T Got Work To Do

          @Dorian G.,

          But why do i have to get married to enjoy extra income from a partner? —

          Ok, we call that pimpin’ where I come from. NTTAWWT, lol. And you know you have to brave the cold to find the several people you want to cuddle with this winter, unless you paid extra for booty delivery.

          But – do you really think forming a small company with your SO is somehow LESS work than just getting married? Methinks not, young whippasnappa. I think you may change your mind when you meet the right one.

        • http://www.heyyouasked.blogspot.com PBG

          @Dorian G.,

          “Having multiple people to cuddle up with in the winter.”

          You are nasty.

        • http://www.heyyouasked.blogspot.com PBG

          @Dorian G.,

          “Having multiple people to cuddle up with in the winter.”

          You are nasty.

      • http://graywords1000@yahoo.com Dorian G.

        @Lil’T Got Work To Do,
        Economic – are you so caked up that an extra income wouldn’t make a difference to you? ——–No extra income is always nice. But why do i have to get married to enjoy extra income from a partner?

        Social – Having someone to cuddle up with during the long winter is a bonus.——-I agree. Again why is marriage the way to go about this? You know whats better than having a person to cuddle up with in the winter? Having multiple people to cuddle up with in the winter.

        As for alternatives, the obvious one is just not getting married, there’s also living single and trying to build wealth that way, and of course you can always enter a legally binding situation with another individual like an LLC or a Corp and then detailing exactly what you want the relationship to entail financially.

    • Lil’T Got Work To Do

      @Dorian G.,

      Economic – are you so caked up that an extra income wouldn’t make a difference to you? Daaang, bruh – let me holla at you for a minute, then…..

      Social – I know my social calendar has slowed as I’ve gotten older and my “fun money” has magically morphed into “bill money”. Having someone to cuddle up with during the long winter is a bonus. Again, if you’re all good and still happy to party every weekend, this may not be relevent to you.

      Moral – I can’t speak on a moral boon for married people – they can be just as trife as the singles. Point to Dorian.

      So there is my semi-old person list of why marriage is looking better and better. That’s all I can think of off the top of my head – and p.s. D-dawg, what are your alternatives? Living together? Single for life? Pimpin’?

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      @Dorian G.,

      please explain to me right today what the economic, social, and moral benefit is of marriage, over the many alternatives?

      1. compared to married people, the nonmarried have higher rates of mortality than the married: about 50% higher among women and 250% higher among men.”

      2. married men earn 10-40% more income than single or cohabitating men

      3. 40% of married people say they are very happy with their life in general, compared with less than 25% of single or cohabitating individuals

      you can also check here…

      http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/benefits/index.html

      …if you need more data

      • WestIndianArchie

        @The Champ,

        “2. married men earn 10-40% more income than single or cohabitating men”

        What they don’t tell you is how little of that extra money the man actually sees.

        • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

          @WestIndianArchie,

          touche

        • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

          @WestIndianArchie,

          touche

      • WestIndianArchie

        @The Champ,

        “2. married men earn 10-40% more income than single or cohabitating men”

        What they don’t tell you is how little of that extra money the man actually sees.

      • docdj23

        @The Champ,
        76-84% of single or cohabitating men say that they still get a joy out of sex where as married men remember sex like slaves remember days off, far and few inbetween the nonoff days. (made up stat but still close enough to the truth for someone to believe it)

        • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

          @docdj23,

          good sh*t. i’m a big fan of fabricated stats that seem like they can be true, except they arent.

        • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

          @docdj23,

          good sh*t. i’m a big fan of fabricated stats that seem like they can be true, except they arent.

        • temps

          @docdj23, well you dont get paid everyday (in taht you dont get that days wages in hand) at your job but you show up? If you think sex is the majority of a marriage issues then you shouldnt get married or even think about it and why be in a committed relationship anyway?…and who sayin the sex the single ppl having is good? (esp when your early 20’s)..when you are young you are somewhat more selfish this means in the bed too.

          A lot of “no foreplay” sex being had for those under 30. IMO thats bad sex.

          Now I aint saying marriage is “official” and cant be questioned however single life is in the same boat too.

        • temps

          @docdj23, well you dont get paid everyday (in taht you dont get that days wages in hand) at your job but you show up? If you think sex is the majority of a marriage issues then you shouldnt get married or even think about it and why be in a committed relationship anyway?…and who sayin the sex the single ppl having is good? (esp when your early 20’s)..when you are young you are somewhat more selfish this means in the bed too.

          A lot of “no foreplay” sex being had for those under 30. IMO thats bad sex.

          Now I aint saying marriage is “official” and cant be questioned however single life is in the same boat too.

      • docdj23

        @The Champ,
        76-84% of single or cohabitating men say that they still get a joy out of sex where as married men remember sex like slaves remember days off, far and few inbetween the nonoff days. (made up stat but still close enough to the truth for someone to believe it)

      • http://graywords1000@yahoo.com Dorian G.

        @The Champ,

        I know this is mad late so nobody is gonna read it.

        But does statistics are inherently flawed. Before I go any further I think its safe to say that in our culture, generally a married man is A. most likely gainfully employed, B. most likely sought after, C. most likely old enough to take care of a family.

        Those three things alone skews the stats so that married men would, live longer, earn more…etc.

        Put another way, of the US prison population 90% of inmates are men, and 65% of those men are black. Therefore statistics tell us that the best chance of not being a criminal, is by being a white woman, but I’m sure most people would beg to disagree with that. We all know the underlying reasons behind the statistics, and we then know that the best chance of not being a criminal is to have money.

        I think its the same thing with those statistics on happiness and marriage.

      • http://graywords1000@yahoo.com Dorian G.

        @The Champ,

        I know this is mad late so nobody is gonna read it.

        But does statistics are inherently flawed. Before I go any further I think its safe to say that in our culture, generally a married man is A. most likely gainfully employed, B. most likely sought after, C. most likely old enough to take care of a family.

        Those three things alone skews the stats so that married men would, live longer, earn more…etc.

        Put another way, of the US prison population 90% of inmates are men, and 65% of those men are black. Therefore statistics tell us that the best chance of not being a criminal, is by being a white woman, but I’m sure most people would beg to disagree with that. We all know the underlying reasons behind the statistics, and we then know that the best chance of not being a criminal is to have money.

        I think its the same thing with those statistics on happiness and marriage.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      @Dorian G.,

      please explain to me right today what the economic, social, and moral benefit is of marriage, over the many alternatives?

      1. compared to married people, the nonmarried have higher rates of mortality than the married: about 50% higher among women and 250% higher among men.”

      2. married men earn 10-40% more income than single or cohabitating men

      3. 40% of married people say they are very happy with their life in general, compared with less than 25% of single or cohabitating individuals

      you can also check here…

      http://www.acf.hhs.gov/healthymarriage/benefits/index.html

      …if you need more data

    • SouthernCharm

      @Dorian G.,

      Economic – See Guy Ritchie, Kevin Federline, etc. You also get tax benefits.

      Social – companionship. support. encouragement. pooling resources & talents. etc.

      Moral – not sure what your faith is, but i’m sure most religious texts consider marriage a moral institution. of course if you don’t believe in marriage then it negates any of that.

      as for your alternatives… marriage is a legally binding situation. detailing what you want the relationship to entail finanically is a pre-nup.

    • SouthernCharm

      @Dorian G.,

      Economic – See Guy Ritchie, Kevin Federline, etc. You also get tax benefits.

      Social – companionship. support. encouragement. pooling resources & talents. etc.

      Moral – not sure what your faith is, but i’m sure most religious texts consider marriage a moral institution. of course if you don’t believe in marriage then it negates any of that.

      as for your alternatives… marriage is a legally binding situation. detailing what you want the relationship to entail finanically is a pre-nup.

  • http://graywords1000@yahoo.com Dorian G.

    I have a question for the interviewer…

    Using the logic that “powerful and intelligent people knew that the best way for people to get and stay wealthy was through marriage”, please explain to me right today what the economic, social, and moral benefit is of marriage, over the many alternatives?

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