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Wale’s “Matrimony” Is A Step-By-Step Guide On Why Millennials Suck At Relationships

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So, you know how people who are casual fans of rap music might occasionally admit they don’t actually listen to the lyrics, just the hooks? That they have no clue about — or interest in — what’s actually being rapped about as long as the chorus and beat are hot? It’s basically what Jay Z bitched about on “Renegade” (“do you listen to music or just skim through it?”) and what every middle-aged NYC-centric rapper has bitched about at least once while talking to Sway.

Well, that’s me when it comes to R&B. If I happen to know the lyrics to a R&B song, it’s by accident; a result of the song’s popularity and ubiquity, not me actually giving a damn about what’s being said. I generally enjoy the sound of voices singing and shit, but I don’t need to know what those voices are saying.

And by “R&B” I mean “R&B…and rap featuring Wale.

For whatever reason, when I listen to Wale, the part of me that usually says “Lemme see what he’s talking about” says “Lemme not see what he’s talking about.” And it’s not that he’s a bad rapper. It’s just that his Def Poetry Jam-ey way of spitting reminds me of, well, Def Poetry Jam. Specifically the poets who were clearly just reciting rap verses they wrote after watching Dancing in September. And that’s usually when I’d zone out. Or go get a Pop Tart.

But “Matrimony” — his new, Usher-featuring, single — gets played roughly 17 times per hour on the radio here, which has forced me to actually listen to and learn the lyrics. At first glance, it feels like every other perfunctory rap/R&B collabo specifically created for radio play and an opportunity for a rapper to say “See…it’s not all about bitches and bottle service. I have a soft side too.” But after listening to it for the 27th time this week, something dawned on me: This song articulates every reason why Millennials generally suck at relationships. And since Wale is a Millennial, and talking about why you suck at relationships while making no real effort to change is some Millennial-ass shit, this might be the most Millennial-ass love song ever created.

The first sign that “Matrimony” is taking us on a fantastic Millennial voyage is with his third line.

“I’m in my late 20s, still never been to a wedding”

To most Black Millennials — the architects and engineers of “I’m not really ready for a relationship right now…but we can kick it, tho” culture — marriage is like yawning. No one does it unless they’re tired. Or bored. Until they see someone else do it. And then they want to do it too.

As the verse continues, Wale manages to get even more Millennial, with some post-racial gobbledygook…

It’s not your fault they try get me cause I’mma need the sales

Cause I’m selfish, and I need you to myself

Tryna see you afloat, but don’t wanna see you excel

Cause I failed and see you ’bout to cry

Cause when I enter they city they leave without they pride

…that roughly translates to “I know I’m the shit. And I know you know I’m the shit. And it hurts me that I’m too much of the shit to seriously commit to you right now. Like, it really, really hurts me. Because you’re the shit too!” Which is the exact same text message every 21 to 35 year old reading this has either sent or received (or both) at least once in the last five years.

And, just in case you’re not completely aware of exactly how much he’s the shit, he doubles down.

I’m sorry, and you starin’ at my comments

Fearin’ it’s gone always be you sharin’ me with all them

Wrong, how dare I say ignore them?

Preparing for that day I leave you here and switch you for them

It’s hard, you know temptation and all

Bitches out here tryna see if my relationship’s strong

Get a place in the charts or runaway from your heart

Gave this music my all, nothing is sacred no more – I’m wrong

Let’s count all the markers of Millennialassness found in this stretch.

Instagram reference? Check.

Instagram fans reference? Check.

The implication that every woman who likes a picture wants a dick in her mouth? Check.

Insecurity created by social media, and then fueled by the recognition of the insecurity created by social media? Check.

Another reminder of the countless options, even if said options aren’t as attractive as the idea of having options? Check.

Passive-aggressively accusing someone of social media stalking? Check.

But then, he “comes back” — presenting a Millennial-ass olive branch of reconciliation…

But I’m promisin’ you better though

And your friends sayin’, “let him go”

And we ain’t gettin’ any younger

I can give up now, but I can promise you forever though

…which basically says “Trust me. Even though I’ve given you absolutely no reason to. Still, trust me.

The entire second verse is basically an expert exercise in Millennial passive-aggressive relationship bitchassness. It’s only right he’s from D.C., because this entire verse is some D.C.-ass shit.

First he starts off with an acknowledgement of how scared love makes him, which…

I’ll admit it, let me be hypothetic

The day I find a woman I prolly be scared to share it

The idea of me finding love, would run somebody off

…ok. There could be some truth to that. Love is scary and shit, and it takes a lot to admit that. But, when talking about how scary love and commitment is, you kinda lose some footing when you go right back to “But still. I know you love me and shit, but I was scared so I fucked a lot of bitches.”

Now I’m up in the club with a couple of Move Ons

And dark, good nigga, troubled heart

Went from fallin’ in love to drunk and fallin’ apart

Which, again, is some Millennial-ass shit. Because even at his most “vulnerable” he can’t resist the urge to remind her of his options.

And then, he pulls out the Big Joker.

Cause when we lost our baby, I got shady, shit got too dark

Soft, and I thank you baby, you strong

Losing a child is some real shit. Some serious-ass shit. Bringing up some serious-ass shit in a semi-serious but really silly conversation about bottle service bitches, Instagram, and endless options is some manipulative-ass shit. Some Millennial-ass shit. Some Diva Dude-ass shit.

And then, the song ends with more Millennialassness.

My ex before you married too, you solo, I say so long

Nah, good terms how that ended

But it surely put a dent on how I worry about this business

Off white picket fences, on flights with the children

On site stealin’ kisses on off nights my intentions but

I plan to do it better though

But you still sayin’ let it go

We ain’t gettin’ any younger

Women love me now

but in your eyes we forever though

Still cool with the ex…even though the current probably isn’t the biggest fan of you being cool with the ex? Check.

Feeling a certain way that no trust is there, even though you haven’t done anything to actually earn it? Check.

A subtle reference to gentrification? Check.

Another reminder of the Ole Country Buffet of bitches ready and waiting? Check.

The song fades out with Usher doing some Usher shit — at this point in his career, he’s practically the Smirnoff Ice of singing hooks — and we’re all left to wonder if this Millennial will ever find true love. Maybe he will; maybe he won’t. Who knows?

Actually, you will. Because if he is a true Millennial, he’ll eventually let everyone know about his relationship status through passive-aggressive Instagram captions consisting of emojis and awkward punctuation marks.

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  • Nick Peters

    1. Don’t come for DC (unless your talking about the people who move hear and 2 years later they ARE DC….white and black…on some Christopher Columbus game

    2. He does go “Poet Justice” and is usually better when he doesn’t but if you used to watch 106 and Park….hip hop has generally become “Poetic Justice” rap, fake thuggery, and dances.

    3. Of course the Millennial generation is bad at relationships…we got trophies just for competing and every time things got hard are parents told us it was ok to quit…

    4. Diva Dudes are the Agent Smiths to the Neos of gold diggers

    • Damon Young

      Diva Dudes are the Agent Smiths to the Neos of gold diggers
      i usually loves me a good nonsensical analogy with no explaination, but i need you to expound

      • Nick Peters

        Essentially as Neo gained more power the answer from the matrix was that Agent Smith (who was a program that went rouge) became more powerful…in an attempt to balance out the power of Neo.

        Diva dudes are the Agent Smiths for every regular and honest man who is looking for someone to love and lay on top of that gets taken advantage of (usually financially) by women…

        …there are woman who has given her time to a dude who is kinda whack but has some above average paper and wants to take out his anger for not being attractive to women until he got his first promotion on women

        …balances the scale of whackdom

        • There is no film, that better exemplifies the millennial generation than the Matrix. It’s kind of frightening how symbolic it is, and how much it plays a role in how we live today.

          • Nick Peters

            the interesting thing about that movie is that Will Smith turned it down being Neo…if he accepted the role…who would of been Morpheus and Trinity…no way that movie has two black male leads and a white woman who is sleeping with the male lead

            • Yeah, the movie wouldn’t have been as relevant if Will Smith was in it…I think he ended up doing Wild Wild West instead…lol, which made like 5X the money Focus made…go figure!

              • Julian Green

                ….Am I the only person that actually likes Wild Wild West?

                • PunchDrunkLove

                  Yes

                • Nick Peters

                  It was ok…people really hate it for a reason that I havn’t figured out

                • miss t-lee

                  Yes.

                • NomadaNare

                  Yes.

              • MzzPeaches

                I loved Focus. To date, I’ve seen it about 6 times.

                • Nick Peters

                  its that good? might have to find the Ukranian version with subtitles on the internet

                  • MzzPeaches

                    Well I’m a Will Smith fan, plus I loved the visuals.

                    • Andie

                      I started watching it. Then I saw the white girl. Fin.

                    • Nick Peters

                      what???…lol explain

                    • Andie

                      When I saw the nice white lady was going to be his love interest. ***For the Record: There is absolutely nothing wrong with that**********

                      I just decided I was more in the mood for a foreign film.

                    • Andie

                      But now that I think about it. When was the last time Will Smith had a Black love interest?

                    • Nick Peters

                      Bad Boys 2 for $500 dollars…

                      he is the black version of Eva Mendes

                    • Andie

                      LOL!

                    • MzzPeaches

                      U got a problem w/ the swirl storyline?

          • NomadaNare

            Except the sequels were wack on a stick. Wonder what that means…

            • The sequels were wack, but the only one that matters is the first one.

              Stuck in a reality where you don’t feel like yourself, but simply by having more and more confidence and positive thinking, you become “the one” that you’ve always felt you were inside…now you’re stopping bullets with your hand! It’s basically a movie where improvement, fame, glory aren’t a product of work, but feeling…this is why we had this lady made a killing in our generation:

              https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WTS61qJvVWo

              • NomadaNare

                What I found interesting about that entire universe was this idea that we made machines that could patently out think us, and they were more interested in enslaving us as a species than exploring the universe, where energy is literally free, if you know how to collect it.

                As for our reliance on positive thinking, it shows how far we’ve come as a species, but it won’t remain that way for long. The age of easy, fast, quick, energy is quickly coming to an end and likely us along with it.

              • Andie

                I Strongly disagree. Feeling is HARD work. It is no wonder so many men avoid it. Don’t know how to cry.
                Fame? Glory? I don’t believe it was about any of that. I Feel the Hindu and Buddhist symbolism stronger than anything else in the film. Buddha was a dead beat daddy. Who became quite famous. And named his son ball and chain. I don’t think he had millennial tendencies. I think he was a searcher. Like Neo. And like the film ended.

                ****** asato ma sad gamaya*******
                The greatest commitment a human can make!

                • Nick Peters

                  i think “the secret”exploits the idea that for people to accomplish goals they usually have to dream, plan, and prepare their lives around accomplishing their goal…

                  • Yes, it also exploits the fact that Americans are the richest country in the world and still feel some kind of way about it, I talk to a lot Indian and Chinese friends and they always kind of give snide remarks about Americans who follow all these gurus, that anyone with a brain can see is hustling their feelings.

                    When I moved back to the U.S. in 2002, we had to read this stupid book called “Into the Wild” by Jon Krakauer, about this white kid whose tired of his middle class life and materialism, so he decides he’s going to go in the woods and find enlightenment while leaving a BMW and 20,000 dollars cash burned up. I had to read this book in class, with my Nigerian self, and I remember saying bluntly, “Why couldn’t this useless idiot have given me the money instead, if you want to go and kill yourself, why must you waste money”, while all the white kids in my class were literally in tears talking about how much the book “spoke to them.”

                    The Secret just tries to give them that same feeling of enlightenment from the Into the Wild book, while also removing the guilt of wanting to make money, achieve fame and glory and all that other nonsense.

                  • Andie

                    I feel ya on the exploitation. But what are your views on the “laws of attraction” for your personal life (I don’t mean dating).

                    • Nick Peters

                      swing for home runs and soon enough you will knock one out of the park and that is failure you learn more than you do with success…all you need to do is learn the lesson…

                    • Andie

                      On account of the day job. I think you just referenced the Law of Large Numbers. I am with you on that. For me. Well they say it takes a long time to learn stuff. But I feel like I am constantly re-learning…that I have to be a participant in making anything happen. Nothing will drop out of the sky. Practice, research, time, dedication, repetition….. by Me. Is just doing my part. Not something special. Just what I am supposed to do. If I want something.

                • But what happens when the people, especially in America, are actually more committed and more enthralled about things like Buddhism and Hinduism than the people who actually grew up with it and understand it in context, rather than just a form of escape from the “materialist” American life?

                  • Andie

                    Are you saying Americans can’t have as meaningful a relationship with Buddhism because they didn’t grow up in India? Are you saying that a John Coltrane ‘ s spiritual life could only be understood in the context of escapism?

                    • This is like asking can a white person have a meaningful relationship with black culture. The answer is yes of course, but then they have to fully immerse in it and understand it inside out, not just because they have problems with the one they have…outside of that it’s cultural appropriation. I have talks with Chinese and Indian people a lot, and they often look at Americans who go after these religions with the same kind of feeling. They know it isn’t legitimate, and that they are just picking and choosing elements of the religion to feel better about themselves or to criticize their culture, they are not looking to see it in a holistically; because if they did more times than not, they would see how ridiculous they look at times.

                    • Andie

                      I understand your viewpoint.

                    • Andie

                      I also think you low-key called me Rachel Dolezal. I be seein

                    • I was thinking more across these lines:

                      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y5gUNOAlikY

                    • Nick Peters

                      How come there aren’t any GIFs of this?

                      I put the over/under on black dudes they each have been with @ 7…

                    • Probably estimating about 10…remember all those Africans trying to get a green card saw this video too lol.

                    • Andie
                    • Ashia Sims

                      Why does this exist? Why is it so long? I agree. Why aren’t there any gifs of this? Is it because their movements are too small to be properly gif’d?

                    • Epsilonicus

                      Some dance moves should not be tried if you only got some little Debbie cakes.

                    • Andie

                      And another thing. I don’t care what Chinese or Indian person has to say about John Coltrane, Ravi Coltrane, or Alice Coltrane. Cause nan one of them made “A Love Supreme”. And that is all the evidence I need to separate the real from the unreal.

                    • Look at the history of music though, the best musicians usually have identity issues and are kind of effed up, which is why their best works come when they are coming up with some way to say eff reality.

                    • Andie

                      Wait. Free Negro. May I call you that? Are you saying???? “A LOVE SUPREME” came out of an effed up musician on drugs. And not from a spiritual being seeking justice?

                    • Lol, no, I don’t know that much about the making of the Love Supreme album (which I love)…I do know, like many Jazz musicians at the time he was experimenting with various drugs like his friend Miles Davis, and lets not forget other great musicians like Ray Charles. But like I said, the best music comes from people who are struggling and trying to escape it: look at Nirvana, Mary. J Blige, all the artists who performed at Woodstock, Michael Jackson, James Brown, Diana Ross, Sammy Davis Jr etc…stability isn’t a part of the formula for creating transcendent art is my point.

                      “It is the stretched soul that makes music, and souls are stretched by the pull of opposites—opposite bents, tastes, yearnings, loyalties. Where there is no polarity—where energies flow smoothly in one direction—there will be much doing but no music.” – Eric Hoffer

                    • Andie

                      Nice quote I had to google.

                    • Andie

                      But do you think he was crazy? He definitely did a lot of drugs. But it seems like everyone who embraces something different has to be designated as crazy. Maybe dying young makes you crazy. I guess the Apple guy wasn’t that young. But he sure did give out the “crazy” books at his funeral. Something tells me I may not be among the sane :)

                    • I’m a Jobs fan myself, and yeah I know he went to India to, and it helped redirect his life. I think when people lack an identity for themselves, or a strong sense of self-love, they tend to seek out meaning in other things…they tend to embrace pieces of other things, but never the whole thing…they are in pursuit of meaning, but never really find it.

                      In their pursuits, many times, they achieve great things, probably even give us insight into the universe we live in, but unfortunately that same satisfaction they might give to others, doesn’t permeate their own spirit or souls, and a big part of that is that very few of the people who love their works and creations, really understand what they are going through.

                      That all being said, if you’re a person whose lived your whole life either practicing a religion or learning about it your whole life, you don’t want people to think, that this is what your culture and/or tradition is all about…they are getting it from someone that barely understands him or herself, who couldn’t commit to the way of life they are imitating, because if they did, their pursuit would be over, as well as the genius that it sparked in the process.

          • Sahel

            Then i declare myself Morpheus

            • Nick Peters

              you want to be the Magical Negro? who only exists so Neo can reach his greatness?

  • Brandon Allen

    In my opinion, black Millenials are scared of failure. They’re either seen their parents struggle or didnt have any, so priority 1 is success. That creates meticulously curated social media presents to make it seem like you doing it big (even if you’re not) and a skittishness in relationships. Can’t have love messing up your pockets or career even if you want it. Folks out here stringing along potentials just in case…

    Wales album was cool. His flow tired tho.

    • Damon Young

      you listened to an entire album?

      • Brandon Allen

        Yup. All the recent big releases except ASAP….Kendrick, Drake, Cole, Wale….and of course….Big Sean..

        • Nick Peters

          listening to a whole Big Sean album might get you banned from VSB

          • Epsilonicus

            Big Sean’s album wasn’t too terrible when Big Sean wasn’t rapping

            • Brandon Allen

              Sean really has really clever bars….he’s just so whiny…

              • Epsilonicus

                It is his voice. Something is wrong with it.

          • ShyGuyMike

            Foreal…? Damn….

            • Nick Peters

              @disqus_YeG1FUyAV7:disqus

    • HeyBooHey

      Failure is a very common denominator when you actually dig deep. At times, I’ll realize those not ready for a relationship aren’t stable financially and wanna be before that take that leap to commitment. Other times, it is just the string along that you mentioned. Which is why dating nowadays can just be ridiculous

    • I think another thing is millennials see life as an autobiography, but are writing in reverse. Usually, you wait till you’re old, have gone through the ups and downs, learned the lessons etc, and then you get them all together and put them in a book, leaving out the things that don’t matter. However, millennials are constructing their biographies as things are happening, thinking that the trivial and the relevant are the same and thus never learning what needs to be dumped and left in the past and what needs to be learned from…and due to the beauty of the internet, nothing gets to stay in the past, just ask Larry Nance Jr lol.

      • RewindingtonMaximus

        We are.more hungry for knowledge because there is so much, but then dismissive of the idea that you are not supposed to know everything

      • JennyJazzhands

        That’s funny because I’m very sensitive and emotional and when I was young and would get upset about little things my mom would say, “when you’re 90 years old and they write your biography, is this important enough to be in it?” And if the answer was no (which it usually was) then she would say to let it go. And that’s how I learned to put certain people and situations into perspective. Your comment reminded me of that.

    • theFeistyWife

      Are maybe they are just selfish narcissistic hoes

      • Brandon Allen

        Well narcissism is running rampant out here

        • christina

          Exactly.
          Kids of divorced mothers trying to overcompensate from the guilt of a broken home and give their kids the world ….which leads to narcissism as adults and now easier options to be marrying with the idea of getting out. You cant say your scared of comittment with the idea of knowing you can leave easier. Thats a copout and it dont make sense because why are you scared if marriage isnt permanent anymore? ?

    • so tired

  • laddibugg

    I’d like Wale so much better if he had a different ‘flow’.
    Millennials suck at relationship because now they think they have more opinions than they really do. No, technology just allows you to see how many people don’t like the real you. Back in the day you learned to love who you got because you weren’t sure you would meet another. Now you can just log on and see ‘eligible singles in your area’. Doesn’t mean they are looking for you.

    • Damon Young

      “No, technology just allows you to see how many people don’t like the real you.”

      new nominee for comment of the week

      • Sahel

        Wait,we have comments of the week ???? Since when

        • cakes_and_pies

          It’s more like comments of the quarter.

    • HeyBooHey

      “Back in the day you learned to love who you got because you weren’t sure you would meet another”. I used to stand on that, and it’s a great point. There are times that even if the husband got another (RIP Grandpa), the wife stayed because she valued marriage even if he broke a couple vows. Now people dip out if their partner forgets the hot sauce for the chicken.
      But the flip side is, things were different back then. Sometimes women stayed because they had nothing without their husband, in a sense. Even then, there was still more commitment though. You’re hard-pressed to find lasting relationships after a certain point now

      • Epsilonicus

        The way you describe old school relationships is accurate and terrible

      • miss t-lee

        I see no lies here, from either side.

    • LeeLee

      “No, technology just allows you to see how many people don’t like the real you. Back in the day you learned to love who you got because you weren’t sure you would meet another. Now you can just log on and see ‘eligible singles in your area’. Doesn’t mean they are looking for you.”

      So much truth right here. I believe it is one of the reasons that arranged marriages typically last longer than ones of choice. When you ‘choose’ a lot of times you’re committed to the person. Until they change……In arranged marriages, those folks are committed to the marriage. They realize it’s bigger than just them (extended family, kids, tradition, etc)

      • Epsilonicus

        And I can’t say that the old way was working

      • laddibugg

        I knew a guy who had an ‘arranged’ marriage, and his description made it sound great. The modern way of doing it is that your parents are basically matchmakers but you aren’t obligated to marry the person they choose. People let their friends hook them up, why not family? Yourgirls/guys are probably basing their opinions on who’s fun and hot, while I would think your parents would go deeper than that.

    • Nick Peters

      but if you have access to million of people…this is why we love major cities…you can live with a success ratio of 10,000 to 1

    • K Lust

      “Millennials suck at relationship because now they think they have more opinions than they really do.”

      YES. I feel like i tell people this all the time. People swear they have options, when you’re literally the only one in calling their phone.

    • Wild Cougar

      People think their options can be turned into full timers the minute they flip the switch. They don’t get that their options are playing them as options and don’t have fcuks to give about them because they never put anything in the pot to care about. You get what you put in. No, your awesomeness doesn’t count because you’re just about as awesome as everybody else because everybody else thinks they are awesome, too. Who the hale are you in a room full of somebodys? Nobody.

      Nothing sadder than a bunch of special snowflakes who are absolutely certain that everybody else is hanging on their every “wyd”. Guess what all those people you are sending maintenance texts to are doing. Sending the same number of maintenance texts.
      Everybody got social media. Everybody can take a good selfie and front. Everybody can get likes. Everybody can play busy. Everybody can pretend not to care. Everybody is doing that. So everybody is not an option. You live in a room full of mirrors and the only thing you hear is your own voice telling your selfie how great you are. Millenials are playing themselves and they are gonna be old when they figure it out.

      • NomadaNare

        The millennials hat aren’t playing are getting played, though. It’s kind of tragic.

        • Wild Cougar

          The ones who think they are playing are really just playing themselves.

      • PunchDrunkLove

        So much truth here.

      • Mahogany

        You told nothing but the truth.

      • laddibugg

        YES………agree with all of this.

    • writelaughdream

      Definitely agree. It makes it really difficult in this time to understand that yes it’s easy to like someone when you know the “Instagram” them and not the real them. When you’re in it and really putting up with people’s habits, stinky shoes, leaving makeup around etc., everything else can look that much more appealing. And we are constantly bombarding ourselves with images of these other folk. Love/hate relationship with social media.

    • Kierra Leone…

      Most Millennials are struggling with creating their foundations. They don’t understand that dressing up the outside first never work if you have not structured the inside that it’s is sturdy and ready for whatever the world throws it’s way.

  • Sahel

    After Wale gave as Bad i never thought i would hear a more weird song about dating,matrimony killed it

    • laddibugg

      ohhhhhhhhhhhhh forgot about Bad.
      I know I am terrible but every time I hear that song I think “yes, yes, it is.”

    • Damon Young

      bad is a bad song. that’s why it’s named bad.

      • Nick Peters

        bad is a good song…at least the hook is good

  • miss t-lee

    I love myself too much to listen to Wale.Never heard this song, never will.

    • Damon Young

      LOL

    • sHA

      The hook though. The hook gets me e ver y time.

      • miss t-lee

        Never heard it. I’m so sincere about not f*ckin’ with anything Wale related…lol

  • cakes_and_pies

    This sounds like part II of his other song That Way.”

  • HeyBooHey

    “I’m not really ready for a relationship right now…but we can kick it, tho”. I’ve taken that as code for “i’m just tryna f*ck” but yes, it is the common go-to phrase for this generation sadly. If I had a dollar for everytime I’ve heard a guy say that to me, near me, as I walk about the Metro station, standing in line to buy a sandwich….people don’t value or believe in commitment

    • IsitFridayyet?

      “I’m not really ready for a relationship right now…but we can kick it, tho”.

      NOPE. This phrase makes my skin crawl and my right eye twitch.

      • Sahel

        One of the best things about now,you dont have to buy the cow to get milk

        • IsitFridayyet?

          Maybe, Maybe not #notallcows

          • Nick Peters

            then avoid the cows that are charging a fee…I a “partner” who will cook my food, clean up after me, perform every move ever invented, and raise my future children, while loving the #2 position

            • towninc

              yep hence we make the rules. these heifers (ha) work my nerves

            • mzpw

              You’d want someone to willingly take on that role??

      • HeyBooHey

        I wanna burn it then burn its ashes. When a guy fixes his lips to start the phrase, I just end the convo immediately

        • Sahel

          Lets just be honest,lets just be real

          • HeyBooHey

            That’s the real motto lol. I can work with honesty, I can’t respect a lie

        • PhlyyPhree

          Look. I get hives

        • towninc

          Cue Gwen Stefani

      • DBoySlim

        It’s just a weak way of saying I just wanna smang.

        • Nick Peters

          which is why honesty is your best friend

    • MzzPeaches

      What kick it? Ain’t no kick it bih.

      It’s do or die around this piece.

      • Nick Peters

        hang out…at my spot…get some food (maybe)…watch a movie or tv (maybe)….loose about 5 pounds, each of us…then you leave…(but you can spend the night if you must…

        • PhlyyPhree

          And that folks, is dating in this millenium

          • Nick Peters

            women make the rules…men just play by them…

            • PhlyyPhree

              You didn’t even believe that when you typed it.

              • Nick Peters

                i did…there are just more avenues to eat while providing nothing…

                that women created

            • towninc

              true…we get what we allow and glorify

            • Epsilonicus

              Yuuuuuup

        • MzzPeaches

          I’m good on that. What a negro won’t do is waste my good childbearing years luring me into traps w/ promises of Thai takeout, Netflix and a dakdown, then think he’s doing me a favor if he lets me spend the night.

          • Nick Peters

            puts(“one night” != “wasting childbearing years”)

            • MzzPeaches

              Let’s be real, for some people those “situationships” drag on far longer than they need to.

              • Nick Peters

                people on both sides just don’t want to be honest about the situation

                • MzzPeaches

                  I’m honest on my end. When I meet ninjas I let it be known up front my expectations. Either you with it or you not.

                  • Nick Peters

                    …and then men with my state of mind…say thank you for the time and continue my search for the women who have and want no expectations

                    • MzzPeaches

                      Works for me. Cause I can take my azz home, order my own Thai takeout, and watch my random Netflix list without being in my feelings about u rolling over after chex saying “so what you about to do?”

                    • Nick Peters

                      your really in heavy for this Thai food…I never liked it..Im going Chinese or takeout from a Mexican restaurant

                    • MzzPeaches

                      Eh, I like what I like. I like my Mexican fresh at the restaurant w/ pitchers or margaritas.

                    • Nick Peters

                      you can make margaritas in the house

                    • MzzPeaches

                      I see your persuasion game strong Sir.

          • Sahel

            When do these years end. Women are giving birth at thanks to medicine

            • MzzPeaches

              My personal cut off is 36-38. What I’m not trying to be is the geriatric mama at PTA because I had a doctor who was willing to still give me invitro cause my checks cleared.

              • Nick Peters

                My cutoff is 50….

                • MzzPeaches

                  Y’all have all the time in the world. A man can be signing up for AARP and still be talking about his newborn at home.

                  • Nick Peters

                    life aint fair……

          • Andie

            I wish someone would offer me “Netflix and chill”. Darn that Nina Simone documentary. LOL

            • MzzPeaches

              Lol…best of luck to u girl. Given the abundance of dating apps and social media sites this shouldn’t be too hard.

      • HeyBooHey

        I kick nothing but small pebbles in my path. If there’s no purpose, there’s no reason for it

        • Nick Peters

          but there is a purpose…you saw the 5 pounds didn’t you?

          • HeyBooHey

            I’ll rightfully ignore it. I’m grown, it’s not always about that. Everybody ain’t worth stripping and losing water weight for

          • Andie

            You weighed it?

            • Nick Peters

              yep

    • As Akinyele said a generation ago, why won’t you f*ck me for me! Why don’t you just f*ck me for free… BABY!

    • Epsilonicus

      At least they are being honest.

  • I think one thing you missed, is how this video, plus the “You Changed Me” video with Jamie Foxx and Chris Brown, kind of tell you the difference between the two generations. One generation is focused in and sings about the same topic, the same goal (Foxx and Usher), the other generation, has you wondering what exactly are they talking about and what does this have to do with the actual song (Breezy and Wale).

    That’s what it is to be a millennial, yeah, you’re living, but what for? What’s the end goal in your mind, what are you trying to accomplish out of this life? It’s a question that most millennials simply don’t want to answer…just stayed motivated, think positively and have fun, just don’t dig deeper.

  • so we just gone act like Millennial men and women do this in equal measure? Cause I know a lot of single a$$, wanting relationship a$$ Millennial negresses who are tired of the games.

    • Sahel

      It makes you wonder about how the world will be in 30 years after the Gen X check out and its millenials who are being edged out by generation Z

      • Nick Peters

        women will be proposing to men?

    • HeyBooHey

      *raises hand and turns in playa card* Present

    • NomadaNare

      I know a lot of men in the same situation. It goes both ways…

      • I din say men are the only ones who do it. I’m just saying they’re like this wayyy more.

        • NomadaNare

          And I’m saying that is not true. It goes both ways.

    • Nick Peters

      the thing is that… when most women want to get out of the game…

      most men are trying to get in it

    • T.Q. Fuego

      Oh stop it. These women have options, they just don’t like their options

      • Bmore_Happy

        BINGO! There’s no accountability with women and their choices in men. They use “feelings” as an excuse. I’m 24 and this is constant.

  • MUJO

    I went to a wedding recently and the couple’s first dance was this song smh.

    Also, before I got married, I thought it was romantic when someone left their fiance at the altar in movies. Now I’m like “Those are some selfish a$$ people and I hope they die alone.”

    • Nick Peters

      hood wedding?

      • MUJO

        Actually no, though they did get the side eye after that…

        • Nick Peters

          I don’t understand…

    • DBoySlim

      I worked a wedding reception and the first dance was Prototype. Shade?

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