Today at VSB, we’re going to open the floor to a guest poster. You all know him very well as he’s usually dropping some serious knowledge and/or arguing back and forth with various individuals. I reached out to see if he wanted to do a full length post and he obliged. So ladies and gentlemen, raise your glasses for VSB regular, Black Medici.
*clap for him*
â€œYou either ho your woman up, or you ho your woman down.â€œ -Â Patrice Oneal
Women can only love men in two ways – they can love men as hoes, or they can love men as mothers.Â Hoes love the sex; mothers love taking care of the man.Â A man needs a woman to give him both kinds of love in order for him to love her fully and have the energy to fight the temptations that come with being a man. Sadly, the difficult part is no woman can be a ho and a mother at the same exact time, equally â€“ some external force is needed to make that happen.
That external force is GAME. It is game that drives and directs all relationships.
Game is that thing that men develop, which helps them persuade a woman to do something, that she doesnâ€™t initially feel like doing, If a woman doesnâ€™t initially feel like going on a date, your game is what makes her feel that she should give you an opportunity to get a date. The more you exercise your game, the better you become at dealing with various forms of womenâ€™s resistance. In the long run the whole purpose of building your game with multiple women, is ultimately, to have a monogamous relationship because the game needed to keep one woman in a LTR far outweighs the amount of game needed to keep 5 women in the stable at once, since the LTR woman eventually will get used to your game, and youâ€™ll have to constantly upgrade it, to keep her interested in you.
When a woman first falls in love with a guy, she tries very hard to be a ho and a mother at the same time. Usually though, youâ€™ll find what side of the fence sheâ€™s naturally on very quickly. The motherly one will not be in a rush to have sex, the ho will. The ho will not be in a rush to cook for you, the motherly one will bring you some samples to eat, very early on.
The motherly woman is very kind, loving and caring. She wants to wash your clothes, she wants to massage your back when itâ€™s aching, cook your food etc. And thatâ€™s a beautiful thing; it makes you feel good to have that kind of love in your life. However, thereâ€™s a flipside. – a motherly loving woman, just like your mother will always feel that YOU NEED HER. She feels that without her, you wouldnâ€™t be able to stand on your own. Like all mothers, she will always view you as her baby. In other words, she loves you, but she doesnâ€™t respect you.Â Hard to see a woman viewing you like that, and still getting wet for you, donâ€™t you think?
The hoish woman is the one who gets d*ckmatized. She loves f&^king. She is always down to bring or accept something new into the bedroom. Her love is based on her desire to be physically intimate and to submit to her manâ€™s physical control and direction. However, the bad thing about all hoes, is that theyâ€™re hoes, and outside of sex, they really donâ€™t want to do anything else for you. They donâ€™t want to wash your clothes, they donâ€™t want to massage your back, they donâ€™t want to cook for you etc. They love f*cking but they have no desire to be â€œpleasantâ€ or relieve you of the stress that comes with being a man who gets no credit for the work he provides to his family or society, each and every day.
Now hereâ€™s the question that ought to be asked if youâ€™re not already asking it: why canâ€™t a woman naturally be 50% ho and 50% mother? The answer to that question is very simple – She doesnâ€™t know how to! Most women donâ€™t start out like men do having to learn how to persuade women to give them something that they donâ€™t initially want to. The vast majority of women only start working on the art of persuasion when they have a man that they feel theyâ€™re in love with.
Since most men donâ€™t utilize scenarios where a woman has to figure out how to persuade a man to give her something (outside of using some variation of sex, which she ought to give him anyhow as part of keeping the relationship alive and passionate) women grow to not appreciate the things their men give them, and become more and more entitled. And when they meet men who donâ€™t give them things that they think they â€œdeserveâ€ based on the things men gave them in the past for free, they begin to view the other men as stuck-up, over-confident, bitter etc when in reality, itâ€™s the fault of the men of the past, who never helped the women learn how to persuade to get their way.
The downfall of a relationship always begins when a man gets comfortable. When a man gets comfortable, he no longer feels the need or the urge to persuade which makes a woman feel like she is being taken for granted. As he gets comfortable, the woman loses her desire to persuade, and resolves deeper and deeper to the love that she is accustomed to. Before long, the negatives of the love that she naturally possesses begin to seep into a relationship and cause problems. The mother begins to nag, demands that you do chores, complains that she does all the work and you take her for granted. The ho begins to complain that youâ€™re out too much, and sheâ€™s not getting f*&ked like she used to. She wants to go out to eat all the time, and when you have to eat inside she finds it difficult to even prepare a plate of spaghetti and meatballs. When things fall apart, youâ€™ll both yell and scream. Youâ€™ll blame each other, but at the endâ€¦
Itâ€™s always your fault fellasâ€¦Â if youâ€™re not using your game to direct your relationship; youâ€™re allowing your womanâ€™s innate nature to drag your relationship into purgatory.
Agree? Disagree? What do you think?
We’ve got a bunch of VSB related activities coming your way in the next few weeks. First up to bat is the discussion at the Washington Post being moderated by VSB P and Rahiel T from Urban Cusp. This is a joint event brought to you by VSB x Urban Cusp x and The Root DC. Peep the flyer on Thursday, July 26.
Also, be on the look out for another panel that Panama will be apart of (along with Ayize & Aiyana Maâ€™at, Helena Andrews, NeeCee Simmons, Panama Jackson, and Jamal Muhammed) on Monday, July 30, being brought to you by Krystal Glass.