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VSB Guest Post: How To Date A Blerd

PJ Note: Today, I’m handing the mantle off to my good friends from Blerdology. Blerdology is a tech social enterprise helping to increase the number of African Americans in technology. They’ll be helping minority entrepreneurs build new apps and websites at their EA sponsored, entertainment themed hackathon “#blackhack Hollywood” at SXSW this week.

Blerdology ManifestoThe term “blerd” may be en vogue right now, but the truth is, we’ve been around longer than Uhura ( non-trekkies just stay with us for a minute). Blerds are sort of like quinoa: folks were eating it long before they started selling it at Whole Foods. And, just like quinoa, blerds are good for you, if you approach them the right way. While there are a lot of variations of a blerd, some things are pretty standard for the general blerd population. We love tech. We’re likely into sci-fi. We’ve played a video game or two. And we fancy ourselves intellectuals. And, like everybody else, we love to be in love. So, if you think smart is sexy and want to cuddle up to the blerd in your life, here are a few tips to stoke the fires of #blerdlove.

1. Carry a wifi hotspot. No blerd can be without the net for too long and if you offer more connectivity than AT&T, you’re in. Your reliable service shows you’re consistent. Your secure network offers the safety and security that every blerd seeks in a relationship. Not only that, but sharing a private password in a public place is very sexy.

2. Expect them to live-tweet your dates. Blerds live on Twitter. All of a blerd’s friends are on Twitter. Many of the people a blerd talks to the most they’ve only met on Twitter. Your life will be lived out on Twitter. Deal with it. Better yet, tweet about it. And while you’re at it, write everything with a #hashtag. Want bonus points? RT your blerd’s blog posts (yes, your blerd has a blog), #FF them on a regular basis, and don’t get into any twitter discussions with @bigboobscarly.

3. Download an app like Kahnoodle or Avocado. Blerds love apps and using your iPhone to boost your relationship is meeting them where they live. Relationship apps let you share a private space in the cloud where you can monitor your “love tank” (Kahnoodle), set up special dates and even share grocery lists. Because sending private messages, sharing lovey-dovey instagram photos and swapping Google calendars is the best way to prove to the blerd in your life that you’re in this for the long-haul.

4. Buy midnight tickets to Star Wars, The Hobbit, and basically any other sci-fi, fantasy or comic-book based film. And then pretend to like it. Or better yet, actually do like it. These things will become a part of your life, you may as well get used to it now. If you’re not willing to sit through a long explanation of why Martha is the best Who girl (she’s black and saved the world all by herself) and have no idea who Joss Whedon is, you may not get very far in this relationship.

5. Read. A book. A magazine. VSB. Anything, just read. Blerds are smart, and proud of it. You won’t get very far if all you read are the scrolling headlines on ESPN. Keeping up (and having an opinion about) world events, from the State of the Union to Olivia Pope’s latest mishap, are a blerd requirement. Blerds are engaged with the world on a very active level and you’ll have to be too if you want to keep their interest.

6. Take a class together. Whether it’s a MOOC (Massively Open Online Course. See, ie. Coursera), a coding course (Codecademy) or even a local cooking or photography class, make an effort to take one together. Blerds are lifelong leaners and we love learning with someone special. Showing that you’re open to learning new things and challenging yourself will show a blerd that you’re someone who will be interesting and exciting for years to come.

7. Take them outside. Blerds live online and spend most of their time coding in dark basements, watching TV, and/while tweeting. Days can go by without stepping outside and weeks, months or years can go by without them exercising. Vegetables are often forgone in favor of cheez-its and gummi bears. Take a blerd to the beach, on a hike, or even just to stand in line at Chipotle. They’ll appreciate the fresh air, and no one can say no to Chipotle.

There’s no love like #blerdlove and if you’re lucky you’ll find someone who’s smart, sexy and always down for a Battlestar Galatica marathon. Whether you’re dating a #blerdgirl who not-so-secretly wants to be Zoe from Firefly and definitely-secretly wants to be swept off her feet in a Pretty Womanesque romantic gesture, or a #blerdguy who wants a gamer girl to play Halo with and wants the chance to wear a bowtie and feel like James Bond meets Sidney Poitier, decoding their binary love language could lead you to time of your life!

So, are you a blerd? And what are other important things to note when dating a blerd?

~kat calvin (@blerdology) and brandon andrews (@TeamBMichael), #blerds

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Damon Young

Panama Jackson is pretty fly for a light guy. He used to ship his frito to Tito in the District, but shipping prices increased so he moved there to save money. When he's not saving humanity with his words or making music with his mouth, you can find him at your mama's mama's house drinking her fine liquors. Most importantly, he believes the children are our future.

  • Silk!

    What they said

    (Considers buying a mifi)

    • http://www.blacklatinafabulous.com Maris

      <—-Blerd Lover #YouCanLeaveYourGlassesOn

  • Tx10inch

    I’m lost.

    • nillalatte

      LOL… yeah, right Tx.. you know you are already a blerd! LOL

      • Tx10inch

        lol. I’ve read it twice and I still don’t understand. Maybe it’s a slow day for me. *shrugs* I’m kool wit dat.

        • Tx10inch

          Ohhh. Black nerds! LMAO. I’m either really slow or tired tonight…Alot goin on right now. lol

          • IcePrincess3

            Aaaw sit right down here, baby. Let me give u a temple & scalp massage. *Working up on some food money to go with my bus ticket* lmfao

            • Tx10inch

              That felt good….but you massaged the wrong head. *rimshot* #too easy.

              • IcePrincess3

                Ninja, we talkin bout a BUS ticket lmao. What kind of girl do you take me for? :-)

                • Tx10inch

                  LOL. C’mon now…u know deez just jokes. :-)

                  • IcePrincess3

                    If I massage below the belt, I want a first class plane ticket and a room st the Willard. *does a Kenya Moore twirl*

                    • IcePrincess3

                      *at

                    • Breezy

                      Hmmmm

                    • Rewind

                      Extortion

          • nillalatte

            Wow… Now I know fa sho you are a blerd. But, I can’t say I don’t do the same thing. You know the answer, it’s there in yo’ head somewhere, but… then it hits you. LOL I used to call my blerd with techie questions all the time. He would never call me back immediately because about 10minutes I’d call him back and say, “I got it, never mind!” He told me, I know you’ll figure it out, that’s why I don’t call you back right away.” He luvs me. :D

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

      Don’t be lost. Be found.

  • http://commentarybyvalentina.wordpress.com Val

    Blerds like Scandal? That’s disappointing.

    • http://www.iamyourpeople.com I Am Your People

      <———–the last negro alive who has not seen Scandal

      <————-one of the few people who kept the faith with Deception (it got good at episode 4)

      • http://commentarybyvalentina.wordpress.com Val

        Nope, you aren’t the last. Despite being encouraged to watch Scandal by at least a dozen people, somehow I have resisted the (non)urge to see it.

        And, I’ve never seen Deception either.

      • Kayle

        I’m about to stop watching Scandal. It does the most and least at the same damn time.

        • camilleblue

          correction Kayle…that would be #atthesamedamntime….that’s how you do the most and the least…lol

      • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

        It’s actually impressive nowadays to meet people who have just not seen it all. Mostly b/c that takes discipline and an ability to drown out the entire Black community on Thursday evenings.

        • That Ugly Kid

          This is why I stay away from Twitter on Thursdays. My TL is nothing but #Scandal tweets. I HATE it! Makes me wanna punch the little 6 year old girl operating your local lemonade stand.

          • a boy and his demondog 06

            just don’t punch any of these chi town kids…….they shootin’ out here

          • http://fourpageletter.wordpress.com keisha brown

            but you still luh me doe. ha!

        • Rewind

          The ability to never give a damn about the interests of Black people is a truly beautiful thing, like an Asian lady with a phat ass or a bottle of Jager untouched in a frat house.

  • Malik

    Seems like things everyone does honestly.

    • http://twitter.com/sylquesaid fixedwater

      Not quite.
      Googling kahnoodle (although I haven’t been in a ‘ship in a while), and codeacademy.

    • A Woman’s Eyes

      That avatar picture makes me smile :)

      • Malik

        Most accurate photo of me I ever put on VSB

  • Aly

    Ahem… it’s “trekker.” Now to go back and read the rest of the post.

    • Malik

      Trekker? One of those people it seems.

      • Aly

        If by “one of those people” you mean “right” – then yes.

        • Yoles

          In the 1991 TV show Star Trek: 25th Anniversary Special, Leonard Nimoy attempts to settle the issue by stating that the term ‘Trekker’ is the correct one.

          • Aly

            Thank you!! See, that’s why I love you.

          • Rewind

            And someone said she didn’t want to be old. EMBRACE IT!

        • A Woman’s Eyes

          No its Trekkie.

          • Aly

            Mr. Spock says you’re wrong.

            • A Woman’s Eyes

              lol

            • Kayle

              You can’t argue with Dr. Spock.

    • http://obsidianraw.bravejournal.com Obsidian

      @Ms. Aly:
      Question – which Star Trek series was your favorite, and why? My personal faves were Star Trek: Deep Space Nine and Star Trek: Enterprise. And of course my fave Star Trek flick is The Wrath of Khan.

      As to your comment, it seems that the debate over the terms Trekkie and Trekker is a generational one. The latter term seems to have come into use after the show Star Trek: The Next Generation came along.

      O.

      • http://www.blackyodaprime.blogspot.com black yoda

        I just started re watching Enterprise. I missed several episodes during its initial run. It’s not bad. The theme song borders on maudlin, but it doesn’t bother me the way I’ve seen it bother other Trek aficionados. It makes sense to have a more “contemporary” song in a way and the lyrics actually relate to the intrepidness that is at the heart of the show. I’m currently on season 3 so the story line is just starting to pick up. It has its dull moments, but they usually compensate for that by making T’Pol rub down in the decontamination chamber. :o) Deep Space Nine is my favorite for the story line. I think it was the best written of all the series. I also think it was the best casting job. The actors really still come through despite all the make-up, Garak and Weyoun in particular(who I recognized as an Andorian in Enterprise). It’s hard for me to really rank them because each series has its strong points. I will say Voyager and Enterprise tie for last place, but they still are very watchable.

        • a boy and his demondog 06

          i’d go with deep space 9…a brother was in charge. kirk was my dude too…as long as you didn’t wear a red shirt whenever you visited a new planet

      • Aly

        Fave series: TNG
        Fave movie: Toss up between The Wrath of Khan and First Contact

    • http://blerdology.co kat calvin

      I have this debate all of the time. I’m thinking of officially changing it to “Person who loves Trek”. Who do I talk to about that?

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

      I just call y’all space dudes and dudettes.

    • SweetSass

      Mwahahaha. I love it.

      • Aly

        SweetSass knows what’s up :)

    • http://www.blackyodaprime.blogspot.com black yoda

      Thank you. I’m a little disappointed in PJ for that. Next thing you know, he’ll be talking about a “Jedi mind-meld” :o)

  • http://obsidianraw.bravejournal.com Obsidian

    “If you have to ask, you can’t afford it.”
    – J.P. Morgan

    Good morning PJ, everyone,
    Very interesing – and most timely – topic. Let’s dive right in.

    The problem I have with the entire notion of the socalled Blerd, isn’t that there cannot be such an animal, but rather, that we are constantly bludgeoned over the head with the notion – and as we all know, when one has to resort to such tactics to garner attention, it calls into question as to whether they truly are what they claim to be, after all.

    Part of the mix here, lay in the fact that the biggest ones who seem to be making such a big deal about their supposed Blerdness, just so happen to be Black Women themselves; indeed a quick spin on Google will yield quite a few articles and blogposts written by self-proclaimed Blerdettes, if you will, doning on and on about how hopelessly nerdy they are. This of course, in an age where pointing out the obvious can prove ruinous, doesn’t raise much in the way of pointed critique; but for the initiated like yours truly, well, let’s just say, I ain’t buying it.

    We know that social media is largely a Gal thing, and this is well documented – Women dominate the thing. Nothing wrong with that, but when you really stop to sitdown and think about it, it’s just not a thing that Nerds, capital “N”, really do all that much. Nerds, by their very definition, don’t tend to be terribly social animals, and among those they do socialize with, its along the lines of dealing with very obscure and arcane topics, highly esoteric and yes, heavily gear-laden – things that, by and large, Women aren’t shown to have much an interest in or knack for. This need not be a bad thing, at least in a world that’s more sane and comfortable with itself; in our current world where everything must be a cookie cutter equivalent of everything else, though…well, you can see where this is going.

    See, Neds-For-Real can be found in corners of the Internet where “quant” topics take center stage, and trust me when I tell you, Blerds, especially of the female variety, ARE NOT THERE. Talk about sigmas, standard deviations, and yes, straightahead coding, abound – but again, the number of Blerds present you can count on one hand. If that.

    Like much of the Black academic/college educated world along these lines (studies have been done and are continuing to be done, that clearly show that Black students drop out of harder physical science majors and gravitate towards softer Humanities type stuff), Blerds, to the extent such a thing exist, tend to deal for the most part in the more softer sides of the tech biz – not that there’s anything wrong with that – but it does merit pointing out, lest we run the risk of getting egg on our faces when time comes to really put up some real Sabermetrics-type stuff, and get our feelings hurt for real. I don’t want to see that kind of embarrassment coming. So it behooves us to get clear on this.

    That, plus the fact that Black folk tend to have a thing for the outer trappings and affectations of something but, for whatever reason, tends to lack delving deep into a given endeavor to really grasp its essence, and you come away with the distinct sense that being a Blerd is what’s fashionable for the moment; the flavor of the month; the in, ior it thing to do and be, for now. One wonders whether we’ll even be talking about this in any substantive way, five years from now.

    If that.

    Hmm…

    O.

    • http://www.twitter.com/Bmorebmw Tentpole

      Come on O. If we can be Buppies, Blerd was only a matter of time. How else can we mantain our identity if we don’t #BLACK when we hijack a generic noun.

      • http://obsidianraw.bravejournal.com Obsidian

        @Tentpole:
        LOL. Yea, I hear ya. Just saying that maybe more focus might be applied on things nerds actually do in the hardcore sense, rather than posing like one? Just a thought…

        O.

    • http://obsidianraw.bravejournal.com Obsidian

      As a follow up to what I said last night let me also state that it seems hat it isn’t only Blacks who seem to have appropriated certain aspects or outer trappings of Nerdom; SWPL/Hipsters seem to have caught the bug, too. Both grab the parts of the subculture they’re comfortable with and leave the more uncomfortable parts behind. a cannibalization of the subculture, you could say. Interesting, if not a bit dis-spiriting, to say the least.

      So, why has being a socalled Nerd become popular? I don’t have any definitive answers, but perhaps its simply because we as a society are running out of memes and fads to exploit. In the end though, Women – especially Black ones – are NOT dealing with Steve Wozniak type nerds. Which is the true acid test for any meme tried on for size by any Male. On that measure, Thugs/Bad Boys and the like can and will mop the floor with Mr. Pocket Protector.

      Bet on it.

      O.

      • NomadaNare

        I agree with you on not needing to broadcast your nerd potential, and that if it’s there, it showing up in other ways. Where I disagree with you is leveling unjustified and unsupported criticism at women and black people. Why did you have to do another post indicating that nerd copying isn’t a black only phenomenon, hell all of America is dropping out of hard sciences. Liberal arts degrees are over saturated and even common liberally dominated terminal degrees and fields like law are starting to feel the same squeeze. If you had really thought about that it instead of lambasting women and black people it would’ve been cool, but instead you come off as someone that has something against the two groups. Explain this. Why go there first?

        • http://obsidianraw.bravejournal.com Obsidian

          If you will kindly recall, I *did* point out that SWPL/Hipster types have appropriated aspects of Nerdom as well – so clearly, as you note its by no means a “Black” thing, as at least a subset of Whites have jumped on the bandwagon, too.

          Just wanted to put that fact out there…

          O.

          • NomadaNare

            I acknowledged that you did say it wasn’t a black only phenomenon, but white America didn’t “jump” on the bandwagon, they invented it. Hipsterdom arouse from pride over perpetual dilettante status. In fact we can also thank them for the rise of faux intellectualism as well. But you still didn’t address the question, why insult blk ppl and women before realizing this? Did you not think before you typed? I mean not only was it not needed, but you had to correct yourself later.

            • http://obsidianraw.bravejournal.com Obsidian

              I didn’t insult anyone. I merely pointd out what saw occuring in realtime. Perhaps the big takeaway here is for us Black folk to just. Stop. Being. So. Dang. Hyper. Sensitive.

              And I freely acknowledge what you’ve said about Hipsters and SWPLs. Respect.

              Anyway, once my other comments come out of moderation, I’d be very interested to see what, if any, your response will be to what I’ve said…

              O.

    • Em.

      I think a more appropriate term would be Bleek. *shrugs*

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

      Perhaps we should just institute a degreees of nerd-dom scale? While I get what you’re saying, I do think that its a more of a movement towards being okay with who you are. Folks have spent a considerable amount of time focusing on what makes somebody cool and what decidedly does not. Well, as time has progressed, a lot more focus on “being yourself’ has arisen and out of that has come a certain comfort with accepting and being accepting of parts of ourselves that at a point may have seemed uncool.

      I think its more of a “be cool enough to be you” type deal as opposed to just some fad of wearing glasses and like Star Trek. Self-expression, especially in the Black community seems to be at an all time high and I can’t for the life of me see how that’s a bad thing. And being uber-nerdy (well, nerdy at least in old terms) is part of it. Funny enough, I wouldn’t call most of this stuff nerdy…just normal ninja that reads stuff. But hey…labels only hurt when you tear them off.

      • http://obsidianraw.bravejournal.com Obsidian

        While the following is taken from part of my larger response to SweetSass, I thought it imporant to repost because it drives right to the heart of many of the issues and question I have raised in my initial commentary above. Comment and rely, invited!

        O: I didn’t; see: the Manosphere, or the Alt-Rightsphere, to see quite a bit of focus/obsession topics that by definition require quant-level familiarty and skill to even approach competently. Name me all the Blerds who are on that, please? I gotta see that one.

        Moreover, what I said wrt Blacks going into the softer studies fields after first dropping out of the harder ones is a matter of well documented fact. Yes, this can be said for/of Whites as well, and I don’t deny that fact. But it doesn’t diminish what I said on the Blackhand side.

        This is hugely important, for reasons Glenn Loury and John McWhorter made clear in a recent Bloggingheads (quick, name me five Blerds appearing on that? I’ll wait…) – because of the ghettoization of Black academics, in the Humanities fields and the like, we are hobbled in our ability to actually apply problem solving tools to the many things that plague Black life.

        For example, as you and many others know well, my focus is heavily into the areas of EvoPsych. Say what you will about it, it’s one of the hottest and fastest growing fields out there. Yet, one is extremely hardpressed to think up ONE prominent Black name in the field. Why is that?

        Think of the Applied Sciences (as a self-taught skilled tradesman, I would know about this very, very well) field – where are the legions of Blerds coming up with novel approaches, asking the big questions, in Steven Levitt fashion, to/on issues that actually matter, first and foremost to Black folk themselves? I await your eager and rapid-fire response.

        Next, let’s talk about the TED talks – even in the future (Prometheus), there aren’t any Black folks in the audience, let alone giving many such talks. Where’s all the Blerds?

        Want another example – Edge.org. This year, they posed a burning question to more than 150 leading names in the tech and science fields – not one of them Black.

        Where are the Blerds?

        Sure, you and others can quibble with me over the stuff on the margins, but where the rubber hits the road, I stand on some serious terra firma.

        Holla back – if you can…

        O.

        • NomadaNare

          There are so many problems with this argument! First, the reason you don’t see black people concerned with the “manosphere” or the “alt-rightosphere” is because these two groups are generally believed to have historically been full of types that hold racially discriminating views. Give me evidence that the majority of alt-right/manosphere groups don’t hold these views and I’d be mistaken in this argument, but maybe you should look at the social make up of these groups and their histories before attempting to make the generalization which you’re trying to make.

          Second, what is the ‘ghettoization’ of black humanities? Do you know any black academics? Because not only do I know a lot, but I know a lot across many different fields. I have no idea what you’re talking about here.

          Third, I hate that you keep trying to push evopsych as a hard science field. It’s not. No matter how many times you try to make it, it will never be because psychology is not a hard science and even though evopsych tries to not be psychology, I’m sorry that’s all it is. You and I both know that psychology has had and still has many problems as far as science goes. As for prominent black scientists in STEM fields, I know a bunch that are field leaders and I can list names across many different fields. All you’re showing here is that you’re not an academic.

          Fourth, using TED talks as an example of black participation in hard science is ridiculous. Academics aren’t falling over themselves to get a TED talk and the fact that the cheapest TED event costs about 4 grand for a ticket is a serious barrier to entry to anyone with an actual brain. TED tickets are a status symbol and anyone that is serious about learning anything in a TED talk can just as easily read a book. This isn’t to say that I don’t like TED talks, but I wouldn’t pay 4 grand for a week of them when they’re available for free on the internet.

          As for edge.org, I have no idea what that is nor do I care but it seems you use popular science organizations/publications as evidence that black people don’t participate in science either at a fundamental of periphery level. l’m telling you this is not the case nor is it a solely black a phenomenon Show me this study you speak of when you talk about black students dropping out of STEM fields faster than their counterparts.

          • http://obsidianraw.bravejournal.com Obsidian

            @Nomada:
            “There are so many problems with this argument! First, the reason you don’t see black people concerned with the “manosphere” or the “alt-rightosphere” is because these two groups are generally believed to have historically been full of types that hold racially discriminating views. Give me evidence that the majority of alt-right/manosphere groups don’t hold these views and I’d be mistaken in this argument, but maybe you should look at the social make up of these groups and their histories before attempting to make the generalization which you’re trying to make.”

            O: OK – so, because a particular group or endeavor happens to have within it people who may or may not like you and/or your racial/ethnic group, that’s legitimate grounds to keep you from investigating the phenomena said group exists to check out? Really? Do you see what you’re saying here?

            “Second, what is the ‘ghettoization’ of black humanities?”

            O: I didn’t say that. I said that Black academics seem to have ghettoized themselves into the various aspects of the Humanities fields, and this can be problematic for reasons Loury and McWhorter discuss on their Bloggingheads appearance recently, The Black Man’s Burden. Check it out…

            “Do you know any black academics?”

            O: Quite a few, in fact…and a number of them wouldn’t disgaree with what I’ve said. Not publicly, of course.

            “Because not only do I know a lot, but I know a lot across many different fields. I have no idea what you’re talking about here.”

            O: Why oh why, am I not surprised?

            “Third, I hate that you keep trying to push evopsych as a hard science field. It’s not. No matter how many times you try to make it, it will never be because psychology is not a hard science and even though evopsych tries to not be psychology, I’m sorry that’s all it is. You and I both know that psychology has had and still has many problems as far as science goes. As for prominent black scientists in STEM fields, I know a bunch that are field leaders and I can list names across many different fields. All you’re showing here is that you’re not an academic.”

            O: That’s nice. You still haven’t answered my question, though: name me ONE Black name in the burgeoning EvoPsych field. ONE. That you can’t, really does speak volumes, doesn’t it? And that’s my point.

            “Fourth, using TED talks as an example of black participation in hard science is ridiculous. Academics aren’t falling over themselves to get a TED talk and the fact that the cheapest TED event costs about 4 grand for a ticket is a serious barrier to entry to anyone with an actual brain. TED tickets are a status symbol and anyone that is serious about learning anything in a TED talk can just as easily read a book. This isn’t to say that I don’t like TED talks, but I wouldn’t pay 4 grand for a week of them when they’re available for free on the internet.”

            O: Black folk are well known to spend much, much more than that over the course of a year on stuff that’s nowhere near as edifying. You really do need more people. The fact that the TED ranks with regard to Blacks is paltry only reflects the overall situation that I spoke to about the ghettoization of Blacks into certain academic fields. I stand by that assertion. Again, name me five Blerds who regularly appear on Bloggingheads who are NOT Loury or McWhorter? I’ll wait…

            “As for edge.org, I have no idea what that is nor do I care…”

            O: Precisely. And that, is the big problem. Edge is an organization that asks big questions of our time, and Black folk ain’t even in the room, much less at the table. Whew…

            “but it seems you use popular science organizations/publications as evidence that black people don’t participate in science either at a fundamental of periphery level. l’m telling you this is not the case nor is it a solely black a phenomenon”

            O: So what? I don’t care if White folk are dropping out of the problem solving fields, because this isn’t a discussion about White folks. So your harping on them is a red herring. I want to know: where are Black folks when it comes to posing novel questions towards solving problems? Why are the tech fields so palty with Black folks, and of the Black folks that do exist, they are on the margins of the tech, like social media and the like? Sure, there are NASA researchers and the like, I never denied that fact – but they aren’t getting the shine, N. And that’s what it’s all about – like the late great Pope John Paul II once famoulsy said, if it didn’t happen on TV, it didn’t happen.

            “Show me this study you speak of when you talk about black students dropping out of STEM fields faster than their counterparts.”

            Some researchers at Duke, among other schools, has recently put out some stuff on it. Google it.

            O.

            • NomadaNare

              First, No, I’m saying the reason you don’t see blerds at the two places you suggested has to do with historical racism and discrimination. I’m asking you why any black person would go to a social site where they’re not wanted socially. Does that make sense to you or should black people also be visiting Stormfront and KKK.com for their quantitatively rigorous topics as well?

              Second, I know who Larry and McWhorter are and I don’t trust either of their opinions on anything. The fact that you do is telling and could also indicate why they’re the only two black people on bloggingheads.tv. But still what is the ‘ghettoization’ of black academics into the humanities? Why is this even a thing? Because they said it was? Have you ever really thought about all the things you say and where they come from? Have you thought about why students and academics would go into humanities fields vs. STEM fields overall? Think about this before you come up with ridiculous terms to define a phenomenon that you obviously don’t understand.

              Third, again on this TED talk nonsense. Explain to me how spending outrageous amounts of money to superficially ‘learn’ something that you could actually understand by just reading a book or paper is edifying. Let me put it to you like this: scientists don’t go to TED talks, they go to seminars, they go to summer school, they go to conferences. So explain to me why I would pay significantly more than a conference would cost for less content that is several years/months old especially when I could find it for free on the internet? The fact that you put so much emphasis on this faux knowledge is showing: you value TED because a certain type of white person does, and no amount of thinking will actually allow you to realize how ridiculous TED actually is.

              Fourth, you love to do these ‘name me [random number] of such and such’ as if this somehow proves a point if someone can’t name them. Please explain to me how black people not being in evopsych does anything for the overall point you were trying to make? Evopsych is not a hard STEM field, its relatively new, and apparently by many’s estimation wholly uninteresting. Just because it explains some observations that are particular to your life doesn’t do anything for the rest of us. If you’re as interested in it as you appear to be in these comments, why don’t you go get a PhD in evopsych and actually support with research what you keep telling us is true? It would be better than trying to twist the results of evopsych to fit your narrow point of view. As for my point, I can name many prominent physicists, chemist, biologists, etc… directly weakening the claim made about black people “not asking deep questions” or all that other nonsense about not succeeding or remaining in STEM fields.

              Fifth, you can call it a red herring if you want, but if students of a certain type are dropping out of STEM fields in similar numbers to their counterparts across racial lines then maybe the problem isn’t idiosyncratic to students of that particular type (as you try to make it seem), but caused by other factors! Maybe better time would be spent finding solutions to these other problems then trying to confirm a seeming implicit racial bias. This is basic deduction and reasoning. Jus sayin…

              Sixth let me explain this to you again. Academics don’t study things to let other people know that they studied it. They do it because they want to know. Peer reviewed journals, colloquia, seminars, etc are not about showing people how smart you are (no matter how much people try to make it that way) but about sharing ideas so that others can verify and add to them. All you’re showing me here is that you have no idea about what you’re pretentiously spewing your uninformed opinion about.

              Seventh, as for your Duke study, I think enough about that has been said by the rest of the internet. But to be brief, as someone that is actually, currently, in academia at a prominent university, asking and solving deep questions in the STEMest of STEM fields, as well as turning all these studies on their heads, I (and all of my non white colleagues, save no one) can tell you from personal experience that education, universities, and faux intellectualism are the last bastion of unbridled racism. It gets worse the higher up you go.

      • http://obsidianraw.bravejournal.com Obsidian

        @Panama:
        Thank you!-you hit the nail on the head perfectly, and makes my point all that much stronger. This IS indeed more about self-expression than anything Nerdy in and of itself. I’ve got some comments in mod at the moment, but when they come out, I’d be very interested in what you and others have to say about them in response.

        O.

    • SweetSass

      This whole thing could’ve been summed up by saying ‘Tits or GTFO.’

      Seriously… you are derping hard here.

      The denial of existence of black nerds or female nerds is long lived and completely false.

      I know a black girl that does LARPING. Yes. M’fn larping. It doesn’t get nerdier than that.

      Not all nerds are coding/hacker/etc. nerds. Some are more fantasy nerds, anime nerds, sci fi nerds. Where the esoteric obsession is on works of fiction and fantasy universes. How you miss that?

      • Rewind

        I’ll agree with Sass on this one. I’ve been to Comic-Con 4 times, and I’ve always seen Black girls there, either as tag alongs, working, or as cosplayers. It does surprise me, because you would just never know unless you went for yourself.

        • http://obsidianraw.bravejournal.com Obsidian

          How many Brothas have you seen at this events, and what is the sex ratio in relation to the Sistas? I’d be very curious to know.

          We know, for example, that there are notably more Male atheists than Female, which poses a significant problem when it comes to assortative mating.

          O.

          • Rewind

            Actually I saw a lot. That’s why I was surprised each year. It’s always meant to believe that the hood doesn’t care about that kind of stuff, yet when I go, hood kids roll in there DEEP, all with cosplay outfits or money to get some swag bags. Then they go home and act like it never happened.

            It’s obvious they will never be as many Black people there as Whites, but I think Black people are neck and neck with Asians as the second highest population when it comes to who’s there. And while there are more guys than girls, the Black ratio has gotten wider EVERY YEAR so far.

            • http://obsidianraw.bravejournal.com Obsidian

              That’s not what I’m asking. I am asking you, what is the Black Male to Black Female ratio at these events?

              O.

              • Rewind

                I’d say 3-1 on Friday, 2-1 on a Saturday

              • SweetSass

                Women of all races tend to avoid these cons because of sexual harassment. It is a ‘thing’ going on in the nerd world. The fact they don’t always show up to cons doesn’t mean they don’t exist.

                • http://obsidianraw.bravejournal.com Obsidian

                  @SweetSass:
                  Yes, I’m very familiar with these situations. I’m wondering what’s taking so long for all these lady nerds to simply form their own organizations and do their own thing, since they clearly have the critical mass numbers to do so – right?

                  O.

      • http://obsidianraw.bravejournal.com Obsidian

        @SweetSass:
        “This whole thing could’ve been summed up by saying ‘Tits or GTFO.’”

        O: LOL, nice way of putting it, but to be honest the thought had never crossed my mind…

        “Seriously… you are derping hard here.”

        O: Derp hard or go home…

        “The denial of existence of black nerds or female nerds is long lived and completely false.”

        O: I don’t know about that – I’ve always known of Blerds before the name became fashionable and chic, and for the most part, nobody bothered them.

        “I know a black girl that does LARPING. Yes. M’fn larping. It doesn’t get nerdier than that.”

        O: Good on her!-but how many of the Gal Blerds do the same that we here bandying about the blogosphere? Go any ideas?

        “Not all nerds are coding/hacker/etc. nerds. Some are more fantasy nerds, anime nerds, sci fi nerds. Where the esoteric obsession is on works of fiction and fantasy universes. How you miss that?”

        O: I didn’t; see: the Manosphere, or the Alt-Rightsphere, to see quite a bit of focus/obsession topics that by definition require quant-level familiarty and skill to even approach competently. Name me all the Blerds who are on that, please? I gotta see that one.

        Moreover, what I said wrt Blacks going into the softer studies fields after first dropping out of the harder ones is a matter of well documented fact. Yes, this can be said for/of Whites as well, and I don’t deny that fact. But it doesn’t diminish what I said on the Blackhand side.

        This is hugely important, for reasons Glenn Loury and John McWhorter made clear in a recent Bloggingheads (quick, name me five Blerds appearing on that? I’ll wait…) – because of the ghettoization of Black academics, in the Humanities fields and the like, we are hobbled in our ability to actually apply problem solving tools to the many things that plague Black life.

        For example, as you and many others know well, my focus is heavily into the areas of EvoPsych. Say what you will about it, it’s one of the hottest and fastest growing fields out there. Yet, one is extremely hardpressed to think up ONE prominent Black name in the field. Why is that?

        Think of the Applied Sciences (as a self-taught skilled tradesman, I would know about this very, very well) field – where are the legions of Blerds coming up with novel approaches, asking the big questions, in Steven Levitt fashion, to/on issues that actually matter, first and foremost to Black folk themselves? I await your eager and rapid-fire response.

        Next, let’s talk about the TED talks – even in the future (Prometheus), there aren’t any Black folks in the audience, let alone giving many such talks. Where’s all the Blerds?

        Want another example – Edge.org. This year, they posed a burning question to more than 150 leading names in the tech and science fields – not one of them Black.

        Where are the Blerds?

        Sure, you and others can quibble with me over the stuff on the margins, but where the rubber hits the road, I stand on some serious terra firma.

        Holla back – if you can…

        O.

    • Royale W. Cheese

      “See, Neds-For-Real can be found in corners of the Internet where “quant” topics take center stage, and trust me when I tell you, Blerds, especially of the female variety, ARE NOT THERE.”

      We’re working on this. http://www.blackgirlscode.com

      The workshops seem a bit soft right now, IMO, but I’m working on a collaboration to help the girls learn how to develop software for crowd-sourced trial and error NP-hard/ NP-complete puzzle solving. The goal is to get them in the mindset of making transformative technologies, instead of just shadowing the leaders.

      • http://obsidianraw.bravejournal.com Obsidian

        Best of luck to you and yours on that project! Sounds promising indeed.

        O.

      • a boy and his demondog 06

        NERRRRRRRRRRRRRD!

  • http://www.iamyourpeople.com I Am Your People

    Aside: I’m a blerd and really want to get into this, but I’m too busy wanting to cuss every single person at the History Channel the f*ck out for making a Bible miniseries in 2013 with 90% white people. The other 10% are slaves in Egypt, and for some unknown reason, samurai angels in Sodom.

    I’m not the biggest Bible blerd but…N8gga it’s Lent so let me act decent…

    • http://obsidianraw.bravejournal.com Obsidian

      What about the SciFi flick, The Book Of Eli? It had a Brotha in the lead (Denzel Washington) and he did a heck of a job in the movie protecting the last known copy of the Bible. In that the film is set in the future, it seems to me that we “People of Color” are well represented by Eli/Denzel’s efforts and performance…I for one certainly enjoyed it, and thought that it was a very interesting meditation on Christianity from a different perspective.

      Thoughts? Comments? Insults? Death threats?

      O.

      • A Woman’s Eyes

        Now I’m thinking of Jeremiah.

        • http://obsidianraw.bravejournal.com Obsidian

          Hmm. How so? Please elaborate?

          O.

      • IcePrincess3

        Wusup O? You’re up late. You’re not usually part of the VSB third shift, but it’s good to see ya.

        • A Woman’s Eyes

          Wooo! I’m up because my men are keeping me up wanting to talk! Hey Iceprincess!

          • IcePrincess3

            *waves emphatically*

        • http://obsidianraw.bravejournal.com Obsidian

          @Ms. IcePrincess:
          Hello! Yeah I’m not normally up at that late an hour but I decided to roll past VSB and see what was going on; since the topic was one that had been on my mind of late I decided to toss my skullie into the ring early and see what happens. It’s nice to see you, too!

          O.

      • camilleblue

        @O…i liked how they made that movie a sci-fi flick about the Bible…that was a nice twist…

      • Keisha

        It was different… I’m biased though because it’s Denzel. ;-)

      • SweetSass

        He was the Stevie Wonder of Prophets.

    • Think2Inspire

      I can’t stand the damn History Channel sometimes. That ish don’t make sense. Iunno if there are other life forms out there but why everything gotta be a damn alien conspiracy? Stupid ass History Channel. Just change the name to Aliens Made Every Damn Thing Channel.

      I’m not mad.

    • H.H.H.

      yeah i think pretty much 1/2 the people portrayed in this Bible movie…are supposed to look like a cross between Yul Brynner and Bin Laden *shrugs*…but hey, it looks entertaining…and it kinda sticks to a theme. i aint too mad at this version.

    • Hehe

      I mean it’s a miniseries on a book that’s historically inaccurate. So I’m not really too concern it’s majority white actors. My major gripe is why the history channle is doing a miniseries on a book of parables.

    • Dignan

      South Park made an episode about the History Channel, giving them the slogan, “Where The Truth Is History.”

      It’s funny ’cause it’s true. For learning purposes, that station is worthless now. It’s right up there with TLC.

      • http://www.styleillusions.com WIP

        Is that the episode that kept referencing the ancient aliens?

        • Dignan

          That’s the one, yes.

    • http://www.twitter.com/Bmorebmw Tentpole

      The BIBLE will always be told from the eyes of Charleston Heston and Elizabeth Taylor. What you want will only happen when BET and TVOne makes it happen so don’t hold your breath.

      • http://obsidianraw.bravejournal.com Obsidian

        Well…The Book of Eli *was* directed to by two Brothers…literally…so Tentpole is right. If we want to see Black Biblical figures/characters, we will have to do it ourselves – and then we have to go out and support them. It really is as simple as that.

        O.

    • Keisha

      I wasn’t able to watch it, but I heard similar comments… :-/

    • a boy and his demondog 06

      i took one look at the trailer and new that this was gonna be on some platypus sht.

      but i’ve come to expect that from the channel that’s given us such gems as ” america, the story of us” and “the men who built this country”….which were basically devoid of any people with melanin.

  • Yoles

    i’m a bit sad that blerd/nerd and the such all have to be so heavily involved in technology now… i hate technology all up in my stuff like that…

    what happened to the classic nerd stuff: playing instruments, reading sci-fi and fantasy books/magazines/cards, brain teasers, psychology and studying human behavior, word games, trivia & fun facts, loves the original star trek, loves the maths and sciences, learns the etymologies of commonly used words as well as rare words just to know and enjoys research and things like that…

    am i being aged out of nerd-dom too?!?!?! i call ageism, classism, techism, elitism & all the other ism-s that can kind of fit SECURITY

    VSB Family Sidebar! tonight i met/had a meal THEN went to a pub for a drink with a guy that:

    a) is a professional swimming instructor (i love swimming!)
    b) had a dungeons and dragons novel in his bag (reading sci-fi and fantasy especially magic themed fantasy YES)
    c) plays the piano (i play the viola, we can jam and make extra side cash by selling tickets to our concerts on VSB ;)
    d) challenged me to animal trivia – he said randomly pick any animal and he will tell me 2-5 things about that animal i did not previously know and he won! (tidbits/facts drive me crazy)

    while at the bar i thought my lady bits were gonna throb, explode and cause a tsunami flooding the region and killing us all… WISH ME LUCK :D

    • Malik

      The Sisko > Shatner

      • Yoles

        u LIE

        don’t come up in my thread typing falsehoods *insert angry face*

    • nillalatte

      Much luck. Sounds like you had a LOT of fun. Good for you. Enjoy Yoles. :D

    • Aly

      Yay! Good luck Yolie! Sounds like a fun date.

    • http://commentarybyvalentina.wordpress.com Val

      *pops champagne for mini celebration and night cap* :-)

      *toast*

      To Yolie and her new friend. May the fun on date number one be replicated a thousand times!

      • Yoles

        oh Val how deliciously sweet of you :D thx

        thx to everyone else wishing me luck hopefully i got this ;)

    • A Woman’s Eyes

      Is it bad that I thought of naughty things yall can do involving animal trivia, violas & pianos, swimming, and dungeons and dragons?

      • Yoles

        not at all… i think that was what my v.agina was thinking as well ;)

        • IcePrincess3

          That’s great yoles! Good for you. He had that vag jumpin, huh? Girl say goodbye to celebicy & make sweet blerd love to that boy!

    • Think2Inspire

      “what happened to the classic nerd stuff: playing instruments, reading sci-fi and fantasy books/magazines/cards, brain teasers, psychology and studying human behavior, word games, trivia & fun facts, loves the original star trek, loves the maths and sciences, learns the etymologies of commonly used words as well as rare words just to know and enjoys research and things like that…”

      All mah life I had ta fight! I fought being called a nerd and slipped through the cracks of getting picked on because I played a sport. The days I wasn’t, I was learning a third/forth language, reading about history and science, lusting after the latest released books, and swiping trading cards off of chumps. I accept my nerd-ness today. But I can’t accept being hooked up to technology all the dang on time. I’d rather experience things as they happen than download an app and fux with that as life is going on around me.

      • Yoles

        “But I never thought I’d have to fight in my own house. ” getting kicked out of nerd-dom due to technology… hmpf i’m with you i rather out than plugged in

      • Rewind

        Technology isn’t as bad as everyone makes it, but people are just LAZY. That’s what makes technology horrible, when people stop doing their part and want a computer to do it instead.

    • http://www.awordorthree.com Crystal Marie

      congrats honey! I love love. :) Even when it’s just “like” right now.

    • http://www.twitter.com/IluminatiNYC Todd

      And let the crowd know where you met dude at? *cackles*

      • Yoles

        i met him at my job Todd….
        *gives stank face*

    • Breezy

      Yolie!!!!!! Congrats boo boo. So you know you gonna have to give us weekly updates on this cub right?!?!?

    • http://blerdology.co kat calvin

      It’s not just tech! Everyone can be a blerd! I’m sci-fi obsessed, love me some Trek (and while I am totally in love with Sisko and Picard, nothing can beat the originals) and am generally academically nerdy in all things. Blerdology just happens to focus on tech b/c we’re working to bring together, support and expand the black tech community and STEM education. But we pretty much love all blerds and you definitely qualify! =)

      PS. Good luck with your new man!

    • http://www.styleillusions.com WIP

      Too good to be true. Have you seen him swim a lap or tap a key?? Until you do…
      :) lol, good luck Yolie.

      • Keisha

        LOL

    • Rewind

      Uhhh..we got our asses kicked all the time. That’s what happened.

      Hard to stay dedicated to the cause when your weekly wedgie starts creating a tan line.

    • Keisha

      Glad you had a godo time! Best of luck to you… :-)

    • a boy and his demondog 06

      ” is a professional swimming instructor (i love swimming!)”

      LIES! black people can’t swim…….

      • Breezy

        Excuse you!!!

        * swan dives into swimming pool and freestyles the length of the pool*

        • a boy and his demondog 06

          before sinking to the bottom like a brick…..

          • camilleblue

            *dives in and pulls breezy to the surface, performs life-saving cpr – tells demon dog to get some lessons so that next time he could actually help* – all is good in the hood…

  • nillalatte

    Not a blerd. Ain’t black (oh, well). Don’t twitter. Can’t go without internet something. All my shyt is in email. I hate getting paper bills and frown at companies that don’t offer ebill and epay. What century are they living in?

    Ummm…likely won’t ever date a blerd ’cause if you tweeting our date you f’d up from the git go. Do we really have to sign a privacy agreement for a date?

    Ain’t no iphone cult member. Android. Apparently blerd didn’t read the Android market share report. :P I haven’t ever been able to get into Star Wars, Hobbits or comics. I code for fun, but it’s mostly a job.

    Blerds might be all that and whipped cream, but I don’t think they can hold a decent conversation and lack game. There. I said it. Hit me with your best shot. Fire away….

    • http://www.iamyourpeople.com I Am Your People

      I hate getting paper bills and frown at companies that don’t offer ebill and epay.

      RANT AHEAD: I found out why my health insurance company only takes checks – they held my check until AFTER my MRI so I wasn’t covered at the time of the procedure. $600 out of pocket. I started paying in person and security is tiiiiiiiight. You woulda thought I was a homeless person trying to walk into Cartier. Security guard d*mn near pushed me outside when I said I was trying to pay my bill. No, not in the drop box ma’am – I’m going to the cashier and getting my receipt.

      • nillalatte

        I hear you, but I have an issue with my mailbox. I never check it, but maybe once every two weeks. I guess it’s a left over cringe from when the ex and I were at full litigation war. Every time I checked the box, there was another motion for something stupid that I’d have to spend my time dealing with because the idiots in the family court wanted to act like ALL his idiot allegations were something that could be substantiated. None ever could, but the shyt I’d have to go through and the time it took from my kids/my life to deal with that shyt just got to me. So, I stopped checking the mail. It was the only way to get a break from dealing with idiots in the court system. So, yeah, email. Plus, I have a record of it. can track it, get certified receipts for evidence if needed. None of this shyt… ‘it got lost in the mail.’

    • http://commentarybyvalentina.wordpress.com Val

      With ebills I feel like big corporations are taking advantage of me. The big mega corporation saves money by not having to send me a paper bill in the mail but they don’t pass along any of that savings to me. Greedy bastids!

      • IcePrincess3

        Omg I never thought of it that way! Makes sense tho. Thanks for that bit of enlightenment Val :-)

      • Wild Cougar

        Naw, you gonna send me a bill in the mail. That’s how I know I owe you. No envelope on my desk means you gets nothing.

        Except Boost. I appreciate them taking that measly $45 out of my account.makes me feel smart.

        • IcePrincess3

          I heard boost mobile is the best pre-paid phone company. U like them better than metro pcs? Metro say they got 4G now. Jus curious what u think…

          • http://obsidianraw.bravejournal.com Obsidian

            Boost Mobile ain’t bad at all – good phones and a pretty wide selection of them to boot, along with comparable pricing/billing. Gotta agree with WC on that one.

            Metro PCS is a strong competitor especially in the hood market, but they have their pluses and minuses.

            I use Virgin Mobile for going on three years now – very reliable, easy to use and mad cheap. One of the best kept secrets around…

            O.

          • Wild Cougar

            I don’t know about other prepaid services.I don’t have any problems with Boost. They use Sprint towers. You have to pay full price for the phone and they don’t have the latest ones, but I’m using a Galaxy SII. unless you need the latest phone, its totally worth it.

    • http://www.twitter.com/Bmorebmw Tentpole

      Nilla you and Clinton share the same Blackness. Remember not everyone form Africa has dark skin.

      • nillalatte

        LOL… Clinton just wish he had my blackness! :P He’s cool tho. I think he does empathize well with others.

  • http://www.iamyourpeople.com I Am Your People

    Is anyone else watching “King of the Nerds?” The Black NASA scientist got pretty far (she was just eliminated last week.) I haven’t seen every episode, but I am here for this show. And this kid is my hero http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=WvU_uJkOHH0