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Underrated Moments In Black History: Angela Bassett Slaps A White Woman

Happy Black History Month everyone! I hope your edges are extra laid and your chicken extra crispy.

More often than not, I find that Black History Month tends to turn into “explain standard historical references to white people who just never bothered to do their googles.” Don’t get me wrong, I’m learning things about Black history regularly – particularly Black American history, as that’s not information I was readily exposed to at home – but after the twentieth year in a row of “didn’t you know that Bayard Rustin was an important activist AND gay?” I think that it’s high time to shake things up. Let’s talk about some pivotal contextual moments that we all know and love – that real shit, shit that make you feel shit – but have probably let collect a little dust in the attic.

Without further ado I present…underrated moments in black history.

My first submission to this series is a scene from the seminal “oh no that nigga did NOT” classic, Waiting to Exhale. Namely, the moment when Bernadine Harris, played by “my triceps will always be fleekier than yours so stop trying” Angela Bassett, slaps the everloving mayonnaise-ridden existence out of that white woman.

It’s a five-second scene in a movie with an over 2 hour runtime, but it manages to pack in so much power. I mean that literally as well – can you imagine getting a hot one to the face from Angela Bassett? That woman eats pushups for breakfast. The left side of ole’ Becky’s face must’ve been redder than a Fuji apple with the force of that backhand.

But beyond the physical impact, that quick scene can run through a whole gamut of reactions through the lens of that incident.

First, you feel bewilderment: Did she just slap that white woman?? She really slapped that white woman! She slapped that white woman and kept on moving!”

After your brain processes that magnitude of what just happened, empathy follows: White women always just butting in when no one asked them too huh. That trifling woman knew she was doing the most but still had to be a nosy ass Nancy. Well girl that’s what ya get. You start meddling outside your lane you might just get slapped into the next time zone. Mmhm

Finally comes the envy: Mannnnn Carol gets on my nerves every damn DAY at the office. What I wouldn’t GIVE to introduce her to my black hand side one time. Just once!

Next thing you know you’re playing a ten second clip over and over and clapping with glee at Bernadine Harris’ fucks to give being more absent than contraceptives at Peter Gunz’ house.

This scene is truly a gem, and I call on it to lift me up and when times are hard and white women are trying it. Whether it is the one who was told by AppleCare, or the one who claims that Oscars are racist against Whites, or any one of the million and on times that so-called feminists pretend that black women don’t exist, I can live vicariously through Bernadine’s rage. Through Bernie, I can respond to the umpteenth passive aggressive email without losing my marble. That slap is the wind beneath my wings, and deserves its due praise in Black History.

Shamira Ibrahim

Shamira is a twentysomething New Yorker who likes all things Dipset. You can join her in waxing poetically about chicken, Cam'ron, and gentrification (gotta have some balance) under the influence of varying amounts of brown liquor at her semi-monthly blog, shamspam.tumblr.com

  • cryssi

    Yes, because I still want to slap a few of my former bosses and coworkers. Just one good hand to the face.

  • Courtney Wheeler
    • Sigma_Since 93

      In the spirit of Black History Month, I would love to say this to every White person who says “If Dr. King were alive”

      • Sylqué

        Speak on it!

    • Robbinesque

      I have had the joy and the pleasure of actually saying that in a former office.
      To a colleague.
      To his face.
      In front of others!
      Without reprisal. (He came at me first).
      It was ORGASMIC.
      I had to go outside for a cigarette afterwards.
      It was a one time perk of being an overly educated Black female Subject Matter Expert in a position that I could not be fired from…

      • miss t-lee

        I love it.

  • Sigma_Since 93

    Nawl Shamwow. You gotta go with the G.O.A.T. of white slaps. Sidney Poitier In the Heat of the Night. Given the social climate at the time and the white tears it generated. All slaps of White people by Blacks must kneel before the throne.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZxHvdwIS1tM

    • cakes_and_pies

      I literally crawled under my desk laughing.

    • miss t-lee

      Yup. The is one of my favorite movie scenes of all time.
      The whimpering is what makes it extra hilarious.

    • Quirlygirly

      The slap is AMAZING and I know the butler in that scene leaped for joy in his heart.

      • Sigma_Since 93

        You know the butler re-enacted it in front of the other butlers when the shift was over.

        • H*ll, Chief Gillespie probably went back to the police station after Virgil left town and laughed with the other cops about it.

        • Quirlygirly

          And the butlers told the maids and they all snickered behind his back.

          • miss t-lee

            Went back to the kitchen like, “y’all ain’t gon believe what just happened!!!”

    • God Shammgod

      Mr. Poitier definitely did the dayum thing, but since white wimminz tend to interfere with my day to day quality of life more frequently than men, I went with this reference. I concur with your assessment though!

      • miss t-lee

        Agreed.

    • This is the bookend to Angela’s slap. These slaps should date, marry, and have kids.

        • Quirlygirly

          I love this. It embodies the strength of Black Panther, the force of the slap and the pain Iron Man must have felt. Flawless!!!

        • Robbinesque

          Too much life for one day. I’m out…

        • Asiyah

          oh I like this!

        • Janelle Doe

          I bet [or would like to imagine] under that Mask he is all “what you talmbout” :-)

        • CheGueverraWitBlingOn

          Yo, this gives me life energy son.

          And the look on T’Challah’s cowl..like, …”don’t make me have to come with the backhand follow-up you degenerate drunk.”

    • Sylqué

      Recently watched this again, and although I remember this happened it still made me guffaw with glee!

    • QueenBee

      But we not gone talking about the butler brother at the end? He looked at him like…I should slap you my damn self… LMAO….hilarious.

    • Ess Tee

      We can’t forget Sofia in The Color Purple telling that White woman “Heyll no” when she asked Sofia to be her maid. Oh, then she threw that dust in the White dude’s face?! I’mma find the clip.

      • miss t-lee

        YES.

      • Pinks

        Oh nah she ain’t throw no dust – she punched that peckerwood DEAD in his mufuggin eye. As well she should have.

        • Ess Tee

          Yeahhhhh, I just found the clip. I completely mis-remembered that lol. I don’t know how I could’ve.

          • Pinks

            Don’t get me started on TCP lol

            I can go all day

        • Quirlygirly

          She clocked the hayle out of him. Everytime I see that I go “BAP!”

          • Pinks

            Werd! Shook him right out his boots

        • miss t-lee

          Yup. She served up that one piece, extra cripsy.

          • Pinks

            No biscuits, no strawberry jam.

            • miss t-lee

              Naythin.

      • cakes_and_pies

        This scene is Black History 101.

    • Courtney Wheeler

      Men like Sidney..you let them cut in front of you in the check out line at the supermarket..you can just tell they’ve been through some thangs..

      • Janelle Doe

        that sounds like a twitter hashtag in the making #menlikeSidney

        • Courtney Wheeler

          Ready to start #MenLikeSidney whenever you are… :)

    • Ess Tee

      Apparently, that slap back wasn’t in the script, but Sidney Poitier was pretty much like, “Naw, see, what you NOT gon’ have me do is take that slap without reacting.” So, he talked it through with the producers; said it would be unrealistic for there not to be a similar reaction to being slapped, and got them to assure him that it would stay in the movie.

      • miss t-lee

        I remember reading about this, how he fought to have that happen.

      • Pinks

        Sidney been on. I was so hype when I found out he was Guyanese after To Sir with Love, like yeaaaaaaa that’s my homie.

        • miss t-lee

          I love To Sir With Love!!!!!!

        • God Shammgod

          I thought he was Bahamian?

          • Pinks

            You right. His character was from British Guiana in the movie.

          • miss t-lee

            I read his biography. He is.

      • IJS

        BHM for real! Learn something new every day. Totally set a tone that he was a Black man with a capital B.

      • KL Moore

        I know, the Butler wanted to dap Sydney up after that slap…

        • Mary Burrell

          lol

      • Betty’s Babygirl

        Mr. Poitier refused to take ANY role that made him subservient to whites. He was born on Cat Island, in the Bahamas. In Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner, he played a world renowned doctor of epidemiology and researcher and to Sir With Love he was an engineer who took the job as a teacher to pay the bills.

      • Brother Mouzone

        I read that story too. They wanted ole’ boy to just rub the side of his face and storm out like a lil’ b*tch…Sidney was like nah son, we gone hafta do a re-write.

    • JamesInstagram

      So much of this movie is consumed by this one scene alone, that it’s easy to forget it’s about a murder investigation.

    • Jennifer

      I love that this thread has just become to “White Folk Slappin’ Hall of Fame.” All of the honorees deserve their recognition. Trailblazers.

    • CheGueverraWitBlingOn

      “I”m your O.G.”

      -“Heat of the Night ” to “Waiting to Exhale”

    • Brother Mouzone

      Is that butler the same old man from the show “Amen”? Damn! was he EVER young? He’s the male version of Esther Rolle…old even when they were “young”.

    • Stephanie Seay Kelly

      They call him Mr. Tibbs!

    • Mary Burrell

      Yeah that was magnificent when Poitier slapped that old white dude.

    • dmcmillian72

      Wait… What was the next scene? Did he cry?! Lol!

  • PDL – Cape Girl

    Hunni, I am here for it…..goooo Bernadine. That scene gave me life back then and revives me when I’d like to engage in paw laying, but can’t.

    Another momentus occasion, In the Heat of the Night,Sydney Poiter as Mr.Tibbs clapback by returning an equally powerful slap to Chief Gillespie, slapping the taste out of his mouth and adding little color to his face, a sound heard through the sands of time….LOL

  • As much as I hate some of the stereotypical Black men in this movie, I really loved Bernadette. My man had the wrong reaction after that slap. The correct response was to put his fist over his mouth and go “Daaaaaaaaaamn!”

  • miss t-lee

    Definitely a great moment.
    I always loved how she just strolled up in the meeting all calm, cool, and collected, then commenced to laying hands.
    A thing of beauty.

  • Elowwole

    And let the church say Amen!

  • Pinks

    Bernie had ALL the great moments in that movie. The cigarette flick while walking away from fiery carnage is toppa top top of course, but the squeal she did with Whitney (I can’t remember her character’s name for some reason) walking out right after the judge laid out alllllll the bank she was about to get from that trifling rapey mustache having no good husband of hers, is my second favorite. I hadn’t even thought about the slap until recently, but yes, I do wish I could emulate it every day.

    • Sigma_Since 93

      You reppin one of your shirts in the new avi I see. You almost got me fired for laughing too hard at some of the shirts. The 420 shirt I need to send to a relative or three.

      • Pinks

        Yassss! Please do! They come in men’s and women’s designs.

        • L8Comer

          I want one!!!

        • Quirlygirly

          What is the website again?

          Nevamind- you posted it below

          • Pinks

            Check downthread comment to L8comer

        • Ess Tee

          Ugh. Like I need to be buying more tees.

          I ain’t got no will power.

          • Pinks

            Me either. I always say I’m not getting any more and that’s always a lie, so why not pay myself?!

            • Ess Tee

              How is the sizing/fit? I vacillate between medium and large, depending. I have girls for days, but sometimes buying large means that the tee is also baggy around my waist while fitting my chest just right. But then medium fits around the waist while super snug up top.

              • Pinks

                Samesies. I usually go with the large to account for shrinkage in the wash. Designs can be applied to any of the shirt styles, but pricing will change. I usually go with the Misses Relaxed Fit Port and Company tee because it’s soft.

                • Ess Tee

                  Makes sense. I’ll get the large. Thanks!

                  • Pinks

                    No prollem. Thank you!

                    Also, don’t tell em because then they’ll fight me, but I ordered a sweatshirt in a L that was too big. As a one-time courtesy they sent me a M replacement at no charge and let me keep the L. They won my business from that day forward – so you may have a lil wiggle room if for any reason you need a new size.

        • Siante

          you sell tees?

      • CheGueverraWitBlingOn

        The Get Yo Life one has my name all up on it…

    • miss t-lee

      That scene really captured true girlfriend love right there!

      • Pinks

        Whitney even waited for her to do that sympathetic hand grab thing for closure like, “Sorry I’m bout to take all yo s hit” before she ran to give her girl her props and celebrate. I always scream with them lol

        • miss t-lee

          Me too girl.
          Me too!!!

    • Quirlygirly

      Picture it today 2016: A person of the caucasian persuasion comes at you sideways and then you raise your hand for glory and layeth the smackth down on that fool like you have fire in your veins. Yes it is a sight to behold

      • miss t-lee

        1000 points to you for saying “layeth the smacketh down”…lol

      • Pinks

        I dream of this every. dang. day. This one chick in particular has about 12 chins and I want to hit her so hard they all jiggle.

      • Val
        • Quirlygirly

          Thanks Val for the visual. It is just like I pictured it.

        • IsitFridayyet?

          I have to watch Head of State again. One of my favorite movies scenes is from that film.

          https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lNvAJEhakLM

          • miss t-lee

            Me too. I remember going to see it at the theater, and I don’t think I’ve seen it since.

        • Jennifer

          RIP, Bernie.

        • CheGueverraWitBlingOn

          That’s where you see the pimp hand coming and you can’t avoid it anyway…24 20 tried to dodge but still.

    • Quirlygirly

      trifling rapey mustache

      YES he did have one of those rapey mustaches. She should have slapped him for allowing it to grow on his face.

      • Brother Mouzone

        What’s a rapey stache? I want to make sure I don’t ever grow mine out to look that way…Please enlighten me. Right now, I’m going with the “smooth as my baby picture avi” face, but I’m thinking about changing things up.

        • Quirlygirly

          It is a mustache that is thin and sparce looking. It may or may not be full but it will have spots where there is no hair. However it is usually sported by douchebags and all around cornballs.

          If the last sentence does not apply to you then get your mustache on but please make sure it is well groomed and connects fully from one side of your face to the other. Go forth and prosper!

    • miss t-lee

      Michael Beach been typecast since Lean On Me.
      He’s really made a career playing azzholes characters.

      • Pinks

        Yea, ever since Soul Food every time I see him I get all mad again.

        Faith, Miles? Cousin Faith?

        Trifling a s s, short a s s bastid!

        • God Shammgod

          THE FAMLAYYY F****ED MY HUZZZZBANNDDDD!

          • Ess Tee

            Miles had the Black azz audacity to be all, “Can we talk?”

            I loved Teri’s reaction too: “CAN WE TALK ABOUT WHAT?! *snatches up chef’s knife*”

            • miss t-lee

              I wasn’t mad at her…lol

          • Pinks

            I always wondered if folks in the party in the living room could hear. They was prolly ear hustling at the door like ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhh shiiittttttttttttt

        • miss t-lee

          Girl…even in One False Move, he played a psycho.
          Every dayum movie you hate his muhfcukin’ ass…lol

        • Sigma_Since 93

          Hey now. How much of that was on his wife???? Dude had to check in to spend his own money. Tagging Cousin Faith was probably the first thing he did in that marriage where he didn’t have to check in with Terri! lol #henpecked

          • fxd8424

            Vanessa was bad with that knife tho.

          • Pinks

            None of it. He could’ve gotten his a s s up and walked long before Faith came flashing her honey maple ham Hot Pocket.

            • Sigma_Since 93

              lol at honey maple ham Hot Pocket.

              He couldn’t because Terri had his ballz and spine in the drawer!

              • Pinks

                Now you know that wasn’t Terri’s fault. She was a shrew, no doubt, but he slammed Faith cus he wanted to.

                • Sigma_Since 93

                  I’m poking the bear in jest. I think he wanted out and outside of the fact Faith believed in his music, she provided him an out.

                  • Pinks

                    I think her appreciation of his music was the final straw. Terri had his heart, but I guess there’s but so much doubt a man can take.

                    • Ess Tee

                      See. I have to wonder. Did Faith *really* like Miles’ music, or was she laying it on thick because she wanted him to lay the pipe?

                    • Quirlygirly

                      That is what I was thinking. Faith just wanted the D and she did and said what she had to to get it

                    • Pinks

                      I think she did like it, but she was more attracted to his creative passion because it reflected her own. He did what she wanted to, in terms of pursuing his art for art’s sake and not monetary gain, which I think she found really attractive. Terri was just like Ummmmm what about them dollas, doe?

                    • Sigma_Since 93

                      Terri didn’t have his heart; you can’t have a dream and have someone ish on it because it doesn’t fit your vision. That’s like you wanting to be entrepreneurial and BAE telling you no stay at that job you hate because it affords you the ability to maintain your lifestyle.

                    • CheGueverraWitBlingOn

                      Teach the children.

        • OSHH

          Me too LOL.. I watched “Internal Affairs” again recently, that is a great film btw, and forgot he was in that as well, getting chumped by Richard Gere.

          • Pinks

            OMG I forgot about that. He plays all these trife men lol

          • dmcmillian72

            I loved “Internal Affairs”…

        • PoetrysTruth

          Don’t forget he was the DL lawyer on Law and Order SUV, who killed his lover AND gave his wife HIV.

          • Pinks

            SNAP! Yo he alllllways plays a sleazeball lmao

      • fxd8424

        Didn’t he give his wife an STD when he played in Third Watch?

        • miss t-lee

          I thought that was ER? And yes.
          Them big letters.

          • Sigma_Since 93

            But that wasn’t Michael Beach though. That was Nathan Pundee

            • miss t-lee
              • fxd8424

                Ok. Got my shows mixed up but remember he gave her an STD and I hated him for that. I couldn’t remember his wife’s name but could picture her.

                • miss t-lee

                  Yeah. Hated him too. Especially because I loved her character.

            • fxd8424

              I remember him giving his wife an STD in some TV show. miss t-lee said it was ER.

              • esha

                It was an episode of Law and Order. He played a football player on the DL. SVU marathons FTW.

                • Val

                  It was both. It happened on ER and also, later, on L&W. Different circumstances though.

                • fxd8424

                  I almost forgot about that until you mentioned it. I saw that on Law and Order. I recorded it. But miss t-lee was correct in that it was ER. The link should be posted on this thread somewhere.

                • fxd8424

                  I’m pretty sure Michael Beach’s character was assistant district attorney in Law and Order. His name was Andy Abbott.

            • miss t-lee

              Did you see the link I posted with facts?

              • Sigma_Since 93

                We’re both correct; they both played the character. I always remember Wolfgang though. Oh well. Micheal’s streak of taking L’s continues.

                • miss t-lee

                  Meh.
                  I’m still talking about the storyline in which was asked about…so…

                • porqpai

                  There are some actors/actresses who are like the kiss of death to a tv show. If they sign on the show is cancelled within the season. He is one of them.

                  • cakes_and_pies

                    Ted McGinley is a show stopper

                    • porqpai

                      So is Scott Bakula

                    • Quirlygirly

                      Nah, he is on that NCIS New Orleans show and it is not bad.

                    • porqpai

                      And that entire franchise is now receiving lower ratings plus the first show likely won’t last another two without Weatherly. Kiss of death. As for the Nola show, I am from Nola so I naturally hate it. Lol. For really real, I don’t like Lucas Black.

                    • Quirlygirly

                      Dang why you don’t like P-Joe(Lucas Black)?

                      When I see him all I think of is there goes P-Joe from Crazy in Alabama

                    • porqpai

                      I don’t dislike him personally, I dislike the southern idiot stereotypes he perpetuates in his role choices. As he is from AL, I find it hard to believe him having to do any sort of method prep for any of his roles. He’s more or less ( depending on the role ) being himself. It’s a peeve of mine. That isn’t acting and he’s getting paid for it when we can’t even just BE a character on anything.

          • fxd8424

            Maybe it was ER.

            • miss t-lee

              I’m reading that he was also on Third Watch. I didn’t see that show though. I remembered the ER storyline vividly, because that was my show!

              • Sigma_Since 93

                On Third Watch, he went postal when the city planned to shut down his fire house. I liked him on that show.

              • Cleojonz

                He actually played an ok guy on Third Watch.

                • miss t-lee

                  Hmmmm.

      • cakes_and_pies

        I just call him “Black Bas tard.” That’s all he is to me.

        • miss t-lee

          LMFAO

        • porqpai

          just call him “Short Black Bas tard.” That’s all he is to me. FTFY
          lol

      • Cleojonz

        Yes. Even on tv. He was the trifling a s s one who gave Gloria Ruebens’ character HIV on E.R.

        • miss t-lee

          Yup.

        • Melissa

          Ohmygod, you brought up Jeanie Boulet and now I feel ALL THE FEELINGS. I need a minute. Talk among yourselves.

          • Cleojonz

            I know. She was my absolute favorite character on E.R. I stopped watching for a while when she died. I think she had gone on tour with Tina Turner though, that’s why they finally had her succumb.

        • CheGueverraWitBlingOn

          I remember that…I even hated blackmen for a hot second after that. He’s so convincing. :)

    • dmcmillian72

      Whitney Houston’s character’s name was Savannah…

  • PDL – Cape Girl

    I know this is about underated moments in black history, but let me just say this. That Angela Bassett is sooo fierce. I LOOOVE her in American Horror Story. Ain’t nobody made her stutter, but that dude she sold her soul to. Not racists, not witches, not witch supreme. She’s always been a bad girl.

    • cakes_and_pies

      I was a teenager when this movie came out and I OVERstood her message .BURN THIS BISCH DOWN.

      • PDL – Cape Girl

        I went to see the movie with a few gfs, we were in awe. Slow motion popcorn chew.

      • Quirlygirly

        That scene is soo powerful. I know I have been there before when I just wanted it all to BURN BABY BURN.

        • fxd8424

          I can relate but I did it with some canary yellow paint all over boyfriend’s car. They can take you there.

          • Brass Tacks

            Why hurt the car, fxd? He may have deserved to be punish, but not the car.

            • Pinks

              A man’s car is usually one of his most prized possessions. He had to get hurt somehow, some way.

              • Brass Tacks

                So no other punishment would’ve sufficed?

                Or is it that you have to “see” the hurt?

                • Pinks

                  Of course something else would have sufficed. But it might not have given her the same pleasure.

                  And yes, sometimes people need a visual reminder of your level of cray cray to know to never make you reach that level again.

                  • Brass Tacks

                    …noted…

                • fxd8424

                  I need to see.

            • fxd8424

              Cause I knew it would hurt him. He definitely deserved it.

              • Brass Tacks

                “He” may deserved it. His car, however, was an innocent bystander.

                Women are ruthless.

                • fxd8424

                  Yes, I am. Don’t play with my feelings.

                  • Brass Tacks

                    …noted…

                • LadyIbaka

                  Anything attached to him is deserving, including his family, car, the air he breathes, the trees on his street. Innocent bystander my azz!

                  • Lea Thrace

                    salt the dang earth when you’re done too!

            • Quirlygirly

              If he didn’t love the car so much, she couldn’t have hurt him through it

              • Brass Tacks

                That has always seemed “below the belt” to me.

                • fxd8424

                  All is fair in love and war.

                • Quirlygirly

                  I dont condone the behavior but I understand it

                  • Sigma_Since 93

                    I can’t see engaging in behavior that will cause me to lose gainful employment or my freedom. If I’m thinking about doing something that would put me at risk of losing aforementioned, I’m just leaving and not looking back.

                    • Quirlygirly

                      That is the mature way to think about it. But when you are young and full of emotions, proper thinking gets clouded.

                    • Sigma_Since 93

                      I thank my family for all the rachetness that taught valuable life lessons.

                    • PDL – Cape Girl

                      Mmm hmm, and let’s be sure to include (most) women at the height of their anger didn’t just get that way. There’s alway the root, provocation. Men ain’t innocent.

                    • Brass Tacks

                      I think its a tactic that’s favored by women.

                      You don’t usually hear stories of Black males destroying their women cars, regardless of how upset we may be.

                      Not saying we wont “borrow” it for a couple days and burn through all your gas.

                      But still…

                    • -h.h.h.-

                      You don’t usually hear stories of Black males destroying their women cars, regardless of how upset we may be.

                      nah apparently we kill the women that hurt us.

                    • OSHH

                      There are very scary, unstable people out here.

                    • Sigma_Since 93

                      The songs don’t help either. Get folks feeling some kind of way and then BAM!

                    • Michelle

                      Or break into ex-girl’s home and steal her lingerie, as well as, vandalize the property including valuable keepsakes.

                      Former roommate’s ex broke into our apartment and destroyed her stuff, including family photos and old stuff that used to belong to her late parents.

                    • Quirlygirly

                      You don’t usually hear stories of Black males destroying their women cars, regardless of how upset we may be.

                      No but men will destroy a woman’s credit tho- LOL

                      My former coworker had her credit destroyed by purchasing a bike for her “fiance”. He broke up with her and didn’t pay. She had to take him to court

                    • L8Comer

                      Lol yes! or Worse smh

                    • Sigma_Since 93

                      We’re just enablers. You knew dude didn’t have a job when you cosigned for that car, opened that card at the store so he could get a work wardrobe, leased that apartment.

                    • Quirlygirly

                      But he DID Sigma!– HE DID.. he was being spiteful and didn’t pay!!

                    • L8Comer

                      damn, smh. Save that kind of generosity for your husband. #neveragain

                    • L8Comer

                      True. At one point I was that ride or die chick…”he’s gonna pay me back, he promised, he’s having a rough time” But then it was allll die and no ride. So, I’m not that chick anymore. Lesson learned. Dad always said don’t lend $ u can’t afford to give. Never would I cosign on something ever tho. ever.

                    • fxd8424

                      We do favor that tactic cause we know how men value their cars.

                    • porqpai

                      That’s usually because men with that level of rage control issues generally take it out on the women themselves, or they’re self aware enough to just bounce.

                  • OSHH

                    I never ran no capers.
                    I did let someone borrow a crowbar once though.

                    • Sigma_Since 93

                      oh you mean the weapon with your fingerprints on it????

                    • OSHH

                      I made sure they knew I don’t know ya’ll, like Big Sam if ish go down, what crowbar?

                  • CheGueverraWitBlingOn

                    That’s like when dudes hear that another guy smacked up him girl for cheating or disrespecting him and they are like “I don’t condone the behavior BUT…..”

                • fxd8424

                  There was a woman in Philly quite a few years ago, a law student, and model I think, who torched her BF’s car. I never forgot the news clip. She was seen running with a can of gas, in a mink coat and heels. Car was fully engulfed. But in the end, she killed him and did time.

                  • TJ

                    ????????????

                • fxd8424

                  It is, I admit, but it could have been worse.

                  • Quirlygirly

                    Also when you are mad sometimes you don’t think clear, so while it may be below the belt your mind is not focused on that. It is on the the Big Payback

                  • Brass Tacks

                    Er.. Im almost afraid to ask, but how?

                    • fxd8424

                      And I’m afraid to say. LOL.. I was young tho.

                    • Brass Tacks

                      Like that matters…

                    • fxd8424

                      It does matter. He lived to talk about it.

                    • Brass Tacks

                      I’m kinda scared yet intrigued..

                    • fxd8424

                      Don’t be scared, but I do understand. There are no “rules of engagement” when you hurt, they know you they hurt you and react with callous indifference. Breaking it off was actually felt better than the paint job because he actually broke down and cried. It was sweet cause I caught him off guard. Too late tho. First time I ever saw his soft side.

                • L8Comer

                  don’t start none, won’t be none.

                  • Brass Tacks

                    Start what though?

                    • L8Comer

                      anything. don’t start anything.

                    • Brass Tacks

                      …noted…

          • Sigma_Since 93

            How did you avoid charges? That’s what women worldwide want to know.

            • fxd8424

              Just lucky I guess. He knew he was wrong is all I can offer.

          • miss t-lee

            I almost took a louisville slugger to some headlights in my early 20s. Glad my friends talked some sense into me…lol

            • Quirlygirly

              I never damaged or almost damaged property. But I did write a note- a strongly worded note when my S/O was sleep and put it on his car. So when he left he would know I was up and watching him. He read the note and called my mother. He was legit shook. #kanyeshug

              • PDL – Cape Girl

                I have NO shame. I didn’t go out on binges and rants or snap on a dude out of nowhere, but my message was always don’t cross me. Take it to someone that’s got the fortitude to deal with crap. I only went no holds barred with my kid’s dad. From that time on, I learned better. No way I would I EVER parktake in anything that get my dander up. It’s easier saying buh bye. Yeah, I did stuff, and nope I didn’t think twice about the law. You don’t want clapback then don’t bring it.

                I dated one other dude. I didn’t snap or do anything phyisical, but I purposely exposed a bit of “cray” before sending him skipping. Don’t try to play me.

                • Quirlygirly

                  I wasn’t sorry for the note. I just wanted him to know don’t piss me off and get caught slipping.

                  • PDL – Cape Girl

                    I feel ya

                    • CheGueverraWitBlingOn

                      So I’ve sat back and read all of these comments and as I love of blackwomen in general, I’m tore….Is it more acceptable for all of this crazy, dysfunctional or dangerous behavior to go down because you are black women (and otherwise marginalized, discriminated against and mistreated within the system of white supremacy) or do you truly believe that when someone, anyone is hurt or wrong in love that it’s ok toe lash out?

                    • PDL – Cape Girl

                      I had a lil snappy (lol) reply, maybe it will show up eventually.

              • miss t-lee

                That musta been a helluva note…lol

                • Quirlygirly

                  My pimp hand- errr ummm -pen game is way strong. Especially when I am mad. It was calm and menacing at the same dayum time

                  • miss t-lee

                    Great skill to have.

      • OSHH

        Me too, was a youngin and I think we saw this joint at Rivertowne.

      • Ess Tee

        ‘Til this day, I still remember Bernie being all, “Getcho $hit! Getcho $hit, and GET OUT!” as she’s clearing that closet of all his nice suits.

        • Pinks

          “732… 7 .3..2..the number of times we made love”

          [in my head I’m like really? does she have a tally book on her nightstand?]

          “I remember when that bas tard told me he was keeping count!”

          [oh, ok]

          • miss t-lee

            That part right there always told me that she was all in with him.

          • Sigma_Since 93

            [in my head I’m like really? does she have a tally book on her nightstand?]

            Don’t you have a book??? I thought they were standard issue. Granted I’ve seen them used to track Aunt Flo and the last time you got it in but they can also be used to track how many times if kept all of your logs.

            • LadyIbaka

              Aunty Flo is tracked via app now, Period Tracker to be precise. Your welcome.

              • Sigma_Since 93

                Period Tracker and the ovulation tracker are the most used apps on Mrs. SS93’s android. Did you go back and retrofit or did you start fresh?

            • Pinks

              he ll naw lol

              I have a period tracker app on my phone and I think I’d feel really corny keeping track of every time we got it in. I would like to know the number out of curiosity, though.

          • YeaSoh

            Lol that just seems like a big number for anyone to keep count up to… Like I would have fallen off at 10 like “hmmmm we averaging about 10 a week, so that times 52 weeks a year, times how long we been dating is about…” I’ve always hated that part of the movie- so unrealistic.

        • cakes_and_pies

          I’m sure that was the day i realized I was a Black women. I was so woke and determined for a Black man to try me. I went through the gamete of emotions.

          • PDL – Cape Girl

            Sniggle…

          • CheGueverraWitBlingOn

            Word?

            • cakes_and_pies

              Yes. I had a “Come to Jesus moment” no one can reclaim from me.

        • cakes_and_pies

          i even think my Mother call my Daddy and her ex-husband just to curse him out. Black women across America were livid and weren’t taking anyone’s sh it anymore.

  • There’s a better scene in that same movie where Loretta Devine walked in on her son humping a White girl, and they both got told the entire f*ck out. Now that was special. LOL

    • miss t-lee

      Except they weren’t humping…

      • Sylqué

        Right! He was getting that “Becky” as the kids say (I know I’m old for that)

        • miss t-lee

          Yup…she even told him about himself, which made it extra cold.

        • Val

          Lol I thought it was called a “Lewinski”?

          • miss t-lee

            Nope.
            Becky.
            There’s even a song.

            • Val

              Once again I’m learning stuff here at VSB.

              • miss t-lee

                https://youtu.be/i4YaYPo5f9w

                It’s ancient Val. :)

                • OSHH

                  I didn’t know that either, but then I don’t think I have ever in life listened to a Plies song.
                  The more you know :-)

                  • miss t-lee

                    LOL
                    If y’all ain’t know I love all things southern hip hop.

                • JamesInstagram

                  I just finished lunch. I’m ’bout to hurk. #distewmuch

                • I love Plies. He got all the athletes ‘Running off on da plug twice’ with his new song Ritz Carlton.

                  • miss t-lee

                    I knew I wasn’t the only one outchea.

                    • He’s a Florida boy and I grew up in Jacksonville, FL. I got a little hood in me. Lol

                    • miss t-lee

                      I can dig it.

                    • cakes_and_pies

                      Which side? Are you “across the water”?

                    • I live in South Florida now, Fort Lauderdale.

                • cakes_and_pies

                  Me and best friends randomly blurt out “GIMME DAT BECKY’ for no reason.

                  • miss t-lee

                    You and your besties sound like me and mine.

              • miss t-lee

                *daps*

            • Yep! ‘Give me that Becky’

          • PDL – Cape Girl

            Lol, I only learned the term “Becky” not too long ago. The things you learn on social media.

    • I would have been so mad at my mom that I would have beat the brakes off of Becky then next time I saw her. That was just rude.

    • Pinks

      Ahem. Said white girl was “suckin on his lil 17 year old dingaling”

      • I didn’t realize people cared about that scene so much. LOL

        • Quirlygirly

          I think I cared because he had the audacity to be in his mama’s house. I was like he is bold as hayle at he!

          • Improper planning. I learned a lot from that scene.

          • porqpai

            This was me during that entire seen. I wish my mama would have caught me doing some ish like that. I would not be alive this day.

    • Sigma_Since 93

      Maybe momma was mad jr was getting some and her flower hadn’t been watered in quite some time. To add insult to injury, the person she wanted to supply the water was supplying it to the other team.

    • ChokeOnThisTea

      Nah. The slap was better.

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