A lot of people stay in bad relationships. This is fact. What’s also a fact is that a lot of people stay in bad relationships because of the amount of time they’ve put into their relationship.
This is dumb.
Do you know what the worst justification for staying in a relationship is?
“We’ve been together so long…I don’t want to start over.”
Oy vey.
I’ll never understand this logic for the life of me. Think about this – if you invest your money with an investment banker who constantly loses you money, you wouldn’t think twice about chucking the moneyf*cker. So now imagine that your investment banker is not only losing you money but not even showing up when he’s supposed to be there and calling you names or not even calling you at all or throwing pennies at you while singing songs like, “Let Me Smell Your D*ck”.
Quick aside: Music died (not just hip-hop, but the whole universe of music) the day that song was released to the masses. If you haven’t heard it, make sure you tithe properly from here on out as God is looking out for you.
Not only is your investment banker costing you hard earned money, he’s also making you feel like shit in the process.
You wouldn’t stay with that banker, would you?
However, we’ll stay with a person who treats us like shit because we’re comfortable with our bad decision because it beats the alternative of potentially finding another bad apple and having to look at the past 3 years as a loss – if we even find somebody else at all.
So we stay with people we have no business being with in the first place for much longer than we should in the second place despite every sign that it’s a bad decision in the third place but because we’re lazy in the fourth place so we’ll settle for fifth.
Of Jack Daniels that is, because you hate your relationship but your dumb ass is looking at your relationship in terms that make no sense. Relationships aren’t investments. They’re the intersection of two people headed the same direction with shared interests that might render cute kids. You don’t invest time in a relationship. Sure you spend a lot of time in your relationship with your significant other, but you’re actually investing yourself and your soul. If your ass is actually investing time in your relationship, then it becomes a business arrangement and I’m guessing you don’t have an MBA.
I know that time is important to people. Hell, I hate people who waste my time with the passion of seven Paris Hilton sex tapes. But if the only good thing I can say about my relationship is that it’s lasted for two years, then there’s a good chance I’ve got quarters in my ass because I’m playing myself.
Remove the quarter, people. Remove the quarter.
Take heed.
Good night and good luck.
(And my people, sometimes you have to read between the randomness. I actually make a lot of sense if you read your computer screen sideways at 612am on the second Tuesday after the harvest.)
-PANAMA
See where you’re coming from…couldn’t agree more…sometimes we just get caught up in complacency and being comfortable. In the long run, it’s not a good look, but still moving on can be a hard pill to swallow.
*exits post, adds up all the time I wasted in unneccessarily stretching out past relationships, thinks to self, if time was money (which it can be), I’d be Oprah’s neighbor, smh*
i second!
REMOVE THE QUARTER!
REMOVE THE QUARTER!
I stayed in a 5 year relationship about 4 1/2 years too long once and I learned a huge lesson from that, so that quarter has been removed for a while now. But you are soooo right. As soon as I knew my marriage was a bust, the kid was OUT. And out I stayed. I don’t play those reindeer games anymore.
This has nothing to do with the topic, but I saw the video for that damn song (I refuse to type the title) the other day. I read two chapters of the Audacity of Hope after what I witnessed, to wash away the n*****dom . I’m still trying to get the image of that big, grown a**, woman wearing bloomers out of my head.
Please attribute any typos or grammatical errors in the preceding statement to anger and disgust.
lol @ remove the quarter…
1. I’m over here groggy but laughing my ass off over the “remove the quarter” statement.
2. I think many would agree that sometimes folks stick around out of comfort and familiarity. Scary isn’t it?
3. It’s only freaking Thursday. I’m going to need Friday to hurry and get here.
PEACE
“2. I think many would agree that sometimes folks stick around out of comfort and familiarity. Scary isn’t it?”
Survey says…. #1 answer
Thanks. I had comepeltely forgotten that that song existed then you went and reminded me.
Shame on you.
Damn it to Hell! I am guilty. I did it for a year and a half and not I look back and wonder..’ok now what the hell was it about this dude that I liked again?’ But I have definately learned that lesson and removed the quarter.
Now the minute I realize nothing is going to progress with a dude, I let him go.
This is a great post and I totally agree. I’ve said it time and time again, why stay in a bad relationship…get the h-e-double L out. Life is too doggone short to be miserable.
I just ended this kind of relationship two days ago, and you’ll never know how much I needed to hear this post. Thank you so much – sometimes common sense isn’t so common.
“sometimes common sense isn’t so common.”
quote of the day, and another potential t-shirt
I’m telling you we might have something with these t-shirts…
Kindred, when we go through something for some reason we always think we’re alone; but you’re not. You’ll realize how much happier you are being out of the relationship sooner than later and will be asking yourself “why did I wait so long?” Enjoy your freedom and live!!!
I know – it’s like the color is coming back in my world. I’m summoning strength that I didn’t know I had – the difference between living and existing, I suppose.