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Three Quick Takeaways From The News Of The Kerry Washington/Nnamdi Asomugha Nuptials


***Being that this is a holiday (Happy 4th everyone!), I’ll keep it short***

1. Between her star-making role as Olivia Pope on everyone’s favorite source of interracial angst, her turn as Broomhilda in Django Unchained, her commencement address giving, her Michelle Obama BFFing, and her appearing on covers of magazines that haven’t had a Black woman on its cover since Stringer Bell was still alive, Kerry Washington is unarguably the hottest/most popular/most relevant African-American actress working today. It was found out yesterday that she married Nnamdi Asomugha, a multi-millionaire NFL star and Cal Berkeley grad who is known to be one of the best players at his position. He is also the chairman of his own foundation (an organization that earned him a President’s Volunteer Service Award), has appeared on numerous TV shows, and has developed a friendship with Bill Clinton. 

They apparently have been married since June 24th. Shocking news, especially since no one (well, no one outside of their family and friends, I assume) even knew they have been dating.

My point? If these two extremely high-profile people can keep their relationship (somewhat) private, there’s really no excuse for your accountant-ass to ever allow “it’s really tough to date or be in a relationship nowadays cause the city is so small and Facebook and Twitter has everyone all up in your business” to drip out of your extra regular-ass life having ass lips.

2. Nigerians are apparently very happy about this. If you see a Nigerian tomorrow, and they  randomly give you an extra Nigerian hug, this is likely why. Don’t ask questions. Just embrace it, and accept their kind offering of stew and jollof rice.

3. I don’t know either of these people. I don’t know the circumstances surrounding their relationship. And, I don’t know if the relationship is going to last.

But, I do know they started dating last summer. They got married this summer. It didn’t even take a year. This reminds me of something else I know.

When you know, you know. 

And, when you know, there’s no “exploring other options to make sure I’m making the right decision” or “trying to get your stuff together” or “taking a break right now” or “not really being ready for something serious right now.” 

Why? Well, you just know.

—Damon Young (aka “The Champ”)

Damon Young

Damon Young is the editor-in-chief of VSB. He is also a columnist for and EBONY Magazine. And a founding editor for 1839. And he's working on a book of essays to be published by Ecco (HarperCollins). Damon is busy. He lives in Pittsburgh, and he really likes pancakes. Reach him at Or don't. Whatever.

  • iamnotakata

    So are you saying you think shes preggers? I do. And yea their marriage caught me the h*ll off guard.. I was also thinking how many guys are probably upset that Olivia I mean Kerry is off the market now…

    • LMNOP

      I bet their kids will be cute.

    • To’Mas Que Fuego

      Nah, the guys aren’t upset. They’re just relieved that she’s with a brother in real life where it counts lol. That it’s someone we know only made it more interesting. I’m happy for them though. I respect them for keeping it private as long as they could. Nnamdi’s gotta step his game up on the field though. People are starting to question whether he was overrated this whole time. He used to be considered elite at corner.

      • iamnotakata

        I agree! I had kind of forgot about him all season I remember it was big news when he went to the eagles and then he really wasnt all that effective and now he with the 49ers snd all their hype. Well see how the season plays out…

        • Val

          Too Bad Nnamdi is with the Niners now, I like him and I hate to root against him but I hate the Niners.

      • NipseysKlub

        She must have realized that she will be able to score on him at will…(ba-boom-cha)


    Usually I am pretty indifferent to famous peoples’ love lives, but since I am so used to seeing Kerry Washington as Olivia, pining over the married sociopath she is “in love” with, this made me really happy.

    Actually I really want the character of Olivia to end up with a nice guy too.

  • I Am Your People

    Even though I don’t watch Scandal, I’m a Kerry fan. I love that she’s about the “art” of acting, not the “fame.” So the fact that she kept her dating and wedding out of the spotlight is great. She must have some real FBI contacts keeping her private life private

    • Val

      Actually I don’t think it’s that hard to keep your life private as a celeb. Just don’t go where celebs hang out and don’t talk about personal things with untrustworthy people. I think most celebs just pretend like they are upset something is in the media. Chances are their PR person is the one who made the call to the media in the first place.

      • Todd

        That 2nd part is harder than you think though. People can get lied to, and if telling your life story can take care of them student loan payments, things can get real. I do feel you on the PR flacks blowing up a celebs life story to the press.

        • Val

          Yeah, anyone can be betrayed. It happens all the time. But, it’s usually by a disgruntled person. An angry ex-personal assistant, etc. I guess the lesson there is be good to your staff.

  • Val

    This was in my fb feed earlier and the absolute first thing I thought was, wow, she married a Black guy! Lol Anyway, congratulations to them. Nnamdi seems like a really good guy.

    • AfroPetite

      Lol you and various others have expressed their surprise at her marrying a black man and a Nigerian to boot. I want to see the reception wedding pics and the money being rained down upon her Naija style!!!!!!!

      • Val

        I’ll absolutely pass out if Thandie Newton turns up married to a Black guy. Lol!

        • Brother Mouzone

          I’m shocked when ANY well known Black actress, singer, or athlete marries a Black

  • Cali333

    I’m happy for them, score for Black love! :) He’s cute, glad they were able to do it their way w/o hoopla. & I, too, am surprised (but HAPPY) he’s Black – WOOT!

  • Sahel

    Well,too bad for the NBA. They just lost out to football wives.

  • U_been_schooled

    Congrats to both of them. *gives slight smirk to Gabby U.*
    I wonder if black men who hated Scandal before will now have no issue with the show?
    So black women do validate some black men after all……..interesting

    • Todd

      LOL…word! Though for Philadelphia Eagles fans, we may be looking at a Grant Hill/Tamia situation.

  • thepopculturist

    +1 for black love.

  • Maharaja Misty

    I know Samsung and this MCHG app is on some BULLSHYT. I know that! (-_-)
    Anyway I was surprised too,had no clue they were even dating, but they make a great looking couple. I was surprised that other black dudes were surprised she married a black guy, it’s not like she’s Zoe Saldana. Did she have a history of dating white guys that I wasn’t privy to? Anyway I hear she had a ‘barn wedding’ in Idaho, some people found that shocking, but barn weddings can actually be very chic and earnest.

    • Val

      Yeah, I’m pretty sure she was engaged to a White guy.

      • h.h.h.

        Washington was engaged to actor David Moscow from October 2004 to March 2007 (wiki)
        (Big – Young kid that turned into Tom Hanks)

        • Val

          Okay. I had no idea who he was.

        • esa

          no way ~ wow. i went to school with Mr. Moscow for a minute. he was a cool guy ~

      • Maharaja Misty

        Yeah I had no idea.

    • Sahel

      Requesting immediate MediVac for Zoe Saldana,shots fired

    • kidvideo

      “it’s not like she’s Zoe Saldana”

      Here’s my thing about Zoe…I think she thinks that brothers aren’t into her because she only weight a buck o five…plus her being an island girl from the Caribbean, she probably feel 2520’s are better in relationships.

      Her dating that guy from the hangover was just residue from that movie they shot together.
      Bottom line…I only need to get in her ear for 5 minutes.
      Happy 4th yall.

      • Maharaja Misty

        Naw I think she knows that she’s an exception. She’s just not interested, but you keep hope alive bro.

        • kidvideo

          Thx…nice crown btw.

      • Val

        Island girl? I thought she was British, with one parent being from an African country and the other British.

        • Val

          Oops, I’m thinking Thandie Newton. Lol. I get them mixed up.

        • Maharaja Misty

          Are we still talking about Zoe Saldana? I thought she was a Dominican born in Jersey and raised in Queens? I think she lived in the DR for a while, but where is all this extra stuff coming from?

          • John Shannon

            Columbiana gave me life, so did Losers

    • John Shannon

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    • Liz

      boo on the zoe slander

  • keisha brown

    amendment: used to be one of the best players at his position (says the salty philly eagle fan).
    i celebrate love whenever i can.
    and !!!!!!! at your last point. can i get that on a billboard in all major cities????
    i (for reasons) kept my pregnancy to myself until a few weeks prior to delivery. the whole ‘i didnt even know you were dating’ was hilarious to me because if you were a key person in my life, you knew. if not..well.. womps. kudos to her/them for keeping it private.
    have fun you crazy yanks! :)

    • Sahel

      I was in Montreal on July 1st. Is it a public holiday where everybody moves I have never seen anything like it

      • keisha brown

        it’s canada day on july 1 (aka our birthday) cake cake cake cake!!! ;)

    • tgtaggie

      +1. Everybody ain’t got to know your business. Even though this was my reaction when I found out….

      • SweetSass

        this gif is solid gold

      • keisha brown


    • Nnamdi was nice in Oakland but something happened in Philly.

      • keisha brown

        sigh. i knows.

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