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Things You’ve Always Wanted To Know About Men And Sex

Why do you keep putting your sharp and ashy fingers down there?

As most of my friends, family, neighbors, and former concubines know, I’m prone to occasional bouts of unprompted altruism. I ask random white people if they need help with their taxes. I volunteer for blood drives, brain scans, and police photo arrays. I’ve eaten Delta p*ssy. I’ve taken stray cats to Burger King, treating them to fries and Oreo milkshakes. I even smoked a little crack in the summer of 2004 just so I could better understand Shawn Kemp’s plight.

Since this is true, it should come to no surprise that last weekend– with Lady Champ’s “permission” (and by “with Lady Champ’s permission” I mean “Lady Champ had no idea I was doing this”) –  I randomly polled a bunch of women I know, asking them if they had anything they always wanted to know about men and sex.

The best questions (and accompanying answers) are below.

Why is it so difficult for men who just want to f*ck to just come out and say “I just want to f*ck” instead of playing games?

As any half-way decent to decent ballplayer will tell you, attempting to play with someone who clearly can’t play isn’t just an exercise in futility…it’s a threat to your life. Why? Well, basketball’s improvisational nature depends on a certain harmony of movement; an ever shifting equilibrium dependent on each player’s court sense and knowledge of the game.

And, from an offensive player’s perspective, much of what you do is predicated on what you assume the defense will do to stop you. You ball fake because you know it’s going to make the defense shift. You hit your man with an “in and out” — a fake crossover dribble — to set him up for the real crossover you’ll give him the next possession.

Thing is, when you’re playing with someone who doesn’t know what the f*ck they’re doing, all of your moves, basketball knowledge, court sense, and wisdom becomes completely moot. They don’t go for your fakes because they don’t know they’re supposed to go for your fakes, so you’re just as likely to headbutt them and concuss yourself as shake them.

From a sexual standpoint, men and women have the same type of harmony seen in wise ball players. The dating and mating game is built on a complex matrix of timing, desire, libido, and opportunity, and we (men) have spent our entire adult lives learning how to navigate these murky waters. But, these years of accumulated knowledge have left us ill-equipped to face a woman who’s either impervious to the “What do I have to do to trick you into f*cking me?” game or refuses to play it at all. And, rather than read and react, we usually just try to do the same fake crossover moves on all women, even if she’s already proved she just wants to take your ball(s) and run.

Is it really true that sex is the sole motivating factor behind everything men do?

Yes. And by “Yes” I mean, well, “Yes.”

Do guys really want to f*ck every girl in the world?

Yes. The difference between “mo” (“mo” = “male ho”) and guy who’s not a mo is that the guy who’s not a mo just doesn’t act on those desires. But, the desire’s present in all of us, and Weezy truly is a prophet from Mars.

Put it this way. I’m writing this while sitting in a coffee shop a block away from my place, and I can say with all honesty that — if opportunity, society, and Lady Champ allowed this sort of thing — I’d sleep with at least 50% of the women sitting in here. I’m not going to, obviously, but I’d be lying if I said that thought hasn’t crossed my mind. (It would have been 62.5%, but I don’t do Korean lesbians anymore. Too time consuming, and too much pressure.)

After all the porn that men watch, can you tell me why only 5% of you actually know where the clit is?

Wait…what the hell is a clit? Is that the proper medical term for baby hair? The secret ingredient for Bobby Flay’s  guacamole? The store where Christina Hendricks gets her bras? You sure that wasn’t a typo?

Seriously though, on the day 9 out of 10 women can actually point to a diagram of a vagina and tell you exactly where the clit is, you can commence with the clitoral GPS questions. Until then, just be happy that we haven’t mistaken it for a chitlin.

Ladies, you gave us answers last week. Now it’s time for the questions. Can you think of anything else you’ve ever wanted to know about men and sex?

Oh and fellas, don’t wait for me. Please feel free to answer any of the ladies’ queries.

—The Champ

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Damon Young

Damon Young is the editor-in-chief of VSB. He is also a contributing editor for EBONY.com. He resides in Pittsburgh, and he really likes pancakes.

  • Talib

    First? I’m excited. The men get to shine and show just how much we dont know lol

    • WIP

      I got my notepad and my coffee…

  • http://www.kineticculture.com NubianEmpress

    boo.

  • http://www.teamhellaswag.com/2011/02/chappelle-in-sf.html dubs @ teamhellaswag

    This made me all kinds of sad. I don’t want to think that all guys are anatomy-clueless sex crazed mo’s! Not *all* of them … (?!)

    • http://thatswhatgemsaid.wordpress.com Gem of the Ocean

      not all men are clueless about a women’s anatomy. but even the ones that know where certain parts are dont know exactly what to do with those parts.

      like, i can easily identify most things under the hood of my Honda, but that doesnt mean i know how to fix them or address them when they need “tuning up”.

      some men are the same way with our vadges — they just tinker around and hope something gets that engine purring *shrugs*

      • http://emdottie.com EmDottie

        Which is aggravating… Especially when I have to show him how to do it… Aren’t they supposed to know this shit already? Virgins of course aren’t included in that question.

        • bhillboy37

          Well, ladies… every woman is different and every woman wants it her way. Some love to be caressed some like being manhandled. Some like to be licked while others sucked. We start off doing whatever worked on the last chick and if it works we keep doing it. If it doesn’t, we modify it. If that still doesn’t work we try something different. What we’re doing is trying to find out how to please you. Is that really so bad?

    • gryand kin

      Don’t worry! African-American men are much too complex for any one person to try to speak for all of us on any subject under the sun — and since sex is about the most complex subject under the sun, it means that is the subject one is least likely to be able to speak for all of us on. There really are as many orientaions to sex as there are persons – something like fingerprints. The “very smart brotha” should add that to his philosophical and psychological oreientation.

      Still I say to him, and to the nubian princess as well — Write On!! I enjoyed his comments immensely.

  • Passion

    Why do men always want to know how many guys a women has had sex with? It’s so annoying.

    • DQ

      We’re just curious…

      …want to see if you’re a current or reformed ho… you might have a sex tape floating around on the internet #WSHH

      • WayUPThere

        DQ’s right: we don’t want a current promiscuous girl (altho nelly furtado may get a pass…)

        It doesn’t matter much to some women, but as it has been explained in some former VSB posts: we don’t want the girl who’s been with a lot of guys. (A lot being relative, i might add)

        For some men, that’s a big deal. For some it’s not. If a lot guys can say attest to that spot right under her ear that will drive her crazy, then most guys probably don’t want to carry on a relationship with said women. I mean, who wants to be someone who’s been with a lot of partners? (once again “a lot” being relative)

        Imma be honest: In the same way that women don’t want a man who’s slept with all of heffner’s playboy bunnies, we don’t want a girl who’s gone through all def jam and young money.

        There are actually plenty of reason that we ask about past partners but this is just a start. I’m sure other guys will have things to say as well.

        • IET

          I generally ask for a range, I dont want the number. Although that wasn’t always the case.

      • IsOurChildrenLearning?

        What if she was a reformed ho in another area code and thus you would NEVER come in contact w/ any of her former partners?

        • DQ

          In the new ever more connected Twitter, Facebook, blogosphere era… there is no place to hide. With just 2 pieces of information (your first and last name) most people can find out nearly anything about you.

          Nothing short of Skynet becoming self-aware and ushering in the Apocalypse could preclude the possibility that I could never come in contact with any former partners. Hell if you have a $ex tape I don’t even have to meet them for your past to come back and haunt us both.

          • http://twitter.com/SmartFoxGirl SmartFoxGirl

            I kid you not, I have a friend who’s man is upset at the amount of ex-boos that keep hitting her up on facebook. Regardless of the 6 number she gave him, it’s obvious now that she has messed with alot of dudes. I guess it can come back to haunt you.

        • ROB-1

          One day, just before workout. My workout partner comes into my apartment. He notices on my computer screen a fine young lady, as he takes a closer look he says.. “First name Last name” I said ” How the hell you know her?” he says ” I used to mess with her in texas about twelve years back.” V.S.B readers I LIVE AND MET THAT FINE YOUNG LADY IN CALI. I was with her for a year and i had bragged to my workout partner that I have never found anyone who could say they had done anything with her.. soo my point! Area Codes and States can fallow.. but How did i end up working out with one of them? f**ken small world

      • http://thatswhatgemsaid.wordpress.com Gem of the Ocean

        We’re just curious…

        …want to see if you’re a current or reformed ho… you might have a sex tape floating around on the internet #WSHH

        LOL you dont have to be a “reformed ho” to have a sex tape floating around. i know plenty of women who have made tapes with their SOs — some of whom were their “firsts”

        • http://twitter.com/SmartFoxGirl SmartFoxGirl

          BAM! You know, you make me think about the physical acts that can make a woman a h0e. It’s not necessarily how many men she’s been with but what she’s done right? Well, in that case, I’m a nasty dirty h0e so no man should want me right? lol <— that's a rhetorical question sprinkled with some sarcasm. :)

        • DQ

          So Gem what you’re saying is that you have a video library. Cool.

          I’m gonna need a url to where that sex tape is. I promise I won’t tell anyone that it’s you… by the way is it in HD?

    • C_Me

      It gives us a chance to know your sexual activity and libido. Your expression also let’s us know how you feel about your sexual history. Sexual history is like a carfax report to see how many miles she has on her which can be left open to interpretation to a potential buyer or renter

      • j.ivy

        But how much life she has left in her can very greatly depending on if she’s a Honda with 175000 miles, or a 98 kia sephia with 90k….jussayin.

    • http://johnskywalker.wordpress.com/ JohnTHESkywalker

      “Why do men always want to know how many guys a women has had sex with? It’s so annoying.”

      The same reason why you ask for a Carfax on a used car……if you’re a 2007 Mitsubishi Lancer with 100,000 miles and 23 previous owners….there’s a good probability that long term commitment is unlikely. That’s a lot of maintenance…..and depending on how loyal the guy is to the make, model, and year….he might invest.

      Test driving aint a thang, but when you need an oil change (lube…wetness) after 34 mi….eyebrows raise like “is it me?….”

      did the metaphors throw ya off? please advise…

      • IsOurChildrenLearning?

        LMAO!! You Sir, are a fool.

      • TheAnti-Cool

        Love this. And it totally makes sense to me.

        Much more than Champ’s basketball analogy up there.

        • TheAnti-Cool

          Don’t know why this is in moderation but I don’t want it anyway. Please delete this one. Thanks.

      • TheAnti-Cool

        Love this. It totally makes sense to me at least.

      • Letitia

        What if said woman just likes sex and has had multiple partners (25), is STD free, and has no children?

        • Medium Meech

          Then you know she’s a hooch and deluded. If you like sex, then the most efficient way (especially for a woman) to get it is on the regular is from a small number of people (1) that you feel comfortable with and who’s performance you are sure about. A high number indicates promiscuity, not a love of the act.

          • http://thatswhatgemsaid.wordpress.com Gem of the Ocean

            im inclined to agree.

            • Mr SoBo

              As am I.

          • Pretty Primadonna

            Agreed.

          • IET

            Isnt the number and love for the act for her to decide? How she expresses the love for the act is her business right?

            • Mr SoBo

              That sounds like smut lover talk.

            • Medium Meech

              Love for the act might be subjective, but maximizing the amount and quality of the act is not.

            • Waytoosingle!

              What if she loves the act…but just kept encountering the wrong people?? just saying….

        • http://johnskywalker.wordpress.com/ JohnTHESkywalker

          “What if said woman just likes sex and has had multiple partners (25), is STD free, and has no children?”

          “depending on how loyal the guy is to the make, model, and year….he might invest.”
          You might be a great buy simply because he loves your type…..and who you are. At the minimum (as a woman would want it)…just let him use that information to gauge his behavior/approach to you.

        • DQ

          Most men do not want a woman who has spread herself out like that. Maybe what you all are getting at is that it’s a hypocritical position. Every man wants to sleep with every woman, but he doesn’t want his woman to have slept with every man.

          You’re right, it’s hypocritical. But it is what it is. From our point of view (whether true or not) a woman who gives herself away to many men, is one we view as not valuing herself. And while we’ll participate in her devaluation (we’ll one night stand the chick who is open to one night stands) – we won’t want to wife her… you’re basically a p0rn star without the video collection…

          #lifeisunfair

          • http://twitter.com/Phidelity15 Phidelity15

            So then its safe to say that a man who conciously and actively pursues a h0e is a fool?!? I’m just confrused because one minute I’m seeing an influx of dudes that only want the “good girl” and then there are a slew of dudes who chase down AND WIFE UP the chick that smashed a whole chapter line of men.
            So I guess my question then to men would be… What makes you WANT to turn a h0e into a housewife?!?

            • Mr SoBo

              @Phidelity15 -“So then its safe to say that a man who conciously and actively pursues a h0e is a fool?!?…So I guess my question then to men would be… What makes you WANT to turn a h0e into a housewife?!?”

              These village idiots you speak of….what town do they reside in because I cannot fathom?

              Anyway, I believe any man that knowingly runs down some common whore with the intentions of courting, or is open to courting, has serious self esteem issues.
              Since this particular woman is relatively easy to ‘get with’, the chance of him being rejected is significantly lower, therefore the risk is lower.
              Additionally, these gents suffer from the mentality women are typically notorious for: the “I think I can change this person” mentality. I believe these guys are driven by the notion that they can curb the whore’s apetite so that she will only be interested and have eyes for them.

              • HuhBruh

                Cosign on the self esteem issues. I have a homeboy who found a “situation” on his ol lady’s cell phone recently. He’s still there because he feels he can’t do any better.

            • WayUPThere

              Maybe this explains the high divorce rate…I kid, I kid, there are def more nuanced and complex factors that contribute to this.

              Personally, I would never do that and I fail to see the logic in this. But the guys who do this are wrongheaded. There are a lot of great truths in rap and one of them is “Never try to turn a hoe into a housewife.” However, these men pursuing the h00ch; do they know that she’s a h00ch? Maybe their ignorance is the problem.

              If they know she’s been with many and still try to wife her up, well….just watch and see how long that relationship will last, because at some point, he may realize that it’s not cool to have a whole chapter/clique of omegas/football players/average ninjas/used car salesmen talking about how each one of them smashed your chic.

              #nobueno

            • Humble_One

              @Phidelity15 & Mr. SoBo

              These guys that chase down smuts have emotional issues. I tweeted about that this weekend. I have a homeboy doing that same exact thing This chic tells him about all her exploits and he still wants to wife her. he came out and admit that she is wack but he still wants her. The conversation with him was starting to piss me off. I had to change the subject.

            • http://twitter.com/Phidelity15 Phidelity15

              “These village idiots you speak of….what town do they reside in because I cannot fathom?”

              @Mr Sobo- In the South, and relocated to the north following said h0e. Sadly this question I asked is based on reality.

              But to all the guys that answered the question you pretty much feel like I do, that dude has other issues going on. I’m glad no one answered that you can’t help who you love…

      • http://twitter.com/SmartFoxGirl SmartFoxGirl

        Great analogy!! I find the numbers argument to be silly. Either tell or don’t tell but you WILL be judged. I have female friends who don’t want to be judged and I find that to be an un-realistic expectation of anyone. I say, keep it to yourself if you don’t want to be judged. And this “reformed h0e” thinking, that’s possible and common. Some just grow out of it so there’s no need to dig up the past HOWEVER many haven’t changed. If I could tell you some of the things I’ve seen married women do when their man wasn’t around. Yeah, alot of people really don’t change so it’s good to want to know what you’re working with but like I said above, good luck getting a real answer. lol

    • Humble_One

      @Passion

      Like the other guys have stated, no man wants to be with a woman that let any and everybody get it. Men know how easy some women give it up. They also see women give it with no discretion. It’s more of a question of you respecting yourself than his insecurity. Although some men do ask b/c they are insecure. A real knows you’ve had partners he just doesn’t want to be with a chic that gave it to any loser breathing. Women should treat men the same way.

      • Mr SoBo

        @Humble_One – “A real man knows you’ve had partners. He just doesn’t want to be with a chic that gave it to any loser breathing.”

        Bullseye. “Any loser breathing”.
        We would like to know that a woman has some standards, and not that any person born with a pen*s can hit the skins.
        Not to mention, it is a good indicator that said woman is probably adept at “seperating s*x from emotion” which can’t be good, since its also good indicator that being discriminating is not her forte’. Additionally, it speaks to a host of other characteristics as well, such as: her judgement, self worth, self esteem, the role she allows men play in her life, to a degree her own outlook on life, her approach to ‘dating’, the value(or lack thereof) she places on s*x and intimacy.

        But back to the lecture at hand…. regarding “any loser breathing” being able to get it……
        Personally, if faced with a choice: I would choose a woman that has been with 30 doctors, over a woman who that has only been with 15 jigaboos(more commonly known as bum @$$, aint ’bout sh*t n*ggaz).

        • Yeah…So

          I would choose a woman that has been with 30 doctors, over a woman who that has only been with 15 jigaboos(more commonly known as bum @$$, aint ’bout sh*t n*ggaz)

          So wait… the status of the men she sleeps with is more important than the number of men she sleeps with? Is that what you’re saying SoBo? And if so, how does sleeping with men of a higher echelon make her <her judgement, self worth, self esteem, the role she allows men play in her life, to a degree her own outlook on life, her approach to ‘dating’, the value(or lack thereof) she places on s*x and intimacy any better than the chick that just slept with a bunch of bum @$$, aint ’bout sh*t n*ggaz (as you put it)? I’m just curious.

          • Mr SoBo

            Hi Yeah…So.

            “…the status of the men she sleeps with is more important than the number of men she sleeps with?”

            To me, yes it is.
            I can never respect a woman that f*cks with jigaboos. Particularly those women that have quite a few jigaboos on their resume. Why you may ask? Well, it indicates to me that it doesnt take much to appeal to her senses or her loins. Furthermore, it lets me me know assuredly that the woman is a bum b*tch. Cause only a bum b*tch would find bum n*njas appealing.

            “how does sleeping with men of a higher echelon make her <her judgement, self worth, self esteem, etc, etc…she places on s*x and intimacy any better than the chick that just slept with a bunch of bum @$$, aint ’bout sh*t n*ggaz (as you put it)?

            See my answer to your first question. But please keep in mind, as I stated in my first comment, this is the case if I was forced to make a choice between these two extremes with all things being the same.

            • IsOurChildrenLearning?

              “Furthermore, it lets me me know assuredly that the woman is a bum b*tch. Cause only a bum b*tch would find bum n*njas appealing.”

              I cosign wholeheartedly

            • Yeah…So

              Ok, that makes sense.

            • j.ivy

              hmmm, well, what if she has 5 docs, 5 esquires, and 10 jigaboos as well, randomly throughout? While I do get your point I will add to this convo that many of these “upper echelon” men, there is a greater tendency for men to depend upon their upper echeloness to appeal to women, foresaking depth, compassion, sense of humore, peersonality and willingness to learn not only where the “button” is but how to push it! So, for arguments sake, what’s to be said about a woman who has been in serious relationships with cream of the crop ninjas, but in early 20s got some thrills with jigaboos who otherwise would nvever be apart of her collective world?

              • Mr SoBo

                @j.ivy – “So, for arguments sake, what’s to be said about a woman who has been in serious relationships with cream of the crop ninjas, but in early 20s got some thrills with jigaboos who otherwise would nvever be apart of her collective world?”

                First, ‘some thrills’ would need to be clearly defined as this is relative.
                My concerns would still remain the same. However, I would certainly place more weight on the type of relationships she has had in the latter portion of her life as opposed to ones during her youth, because it would show growth.

                Put it this way..regardless of s*xual history or age….. no matter what stage of life she is in, I would like to know whether or not the weed man, or some jailbird n*gga has just as much of the same chance at getting her time as….hmmnn….lets say… someone with ambition and significantly less self-destructive approaches to life.

        • http://thatswhatgemsaid.wordpress.com Gem of the Ocean

          Not to mention, it is a good indicator that said woman is probably adept at “seperating s*x from emotion” which can’t be good, since its also good indicator that being discriminating is not her forte’. Additionally, it speaks to a host of other characteristics as well, such as: her judgement, self worth, self esteem, the role she allows men play in her life, to a degree her own outlook on life, her approach to ‘dating’, the value(or lack thereof) she places on s*x and intimacy.

          ive made this exact argument many times. its like you have been reading transcripts of my previous convos. GOOMH!

        • Pretty Primadonna

          Being a doctor and and being a jigaboo aren’t mutually exclusive states…

          • Negrodamus

            LOL.
            very true!

        • Waytoosingle!

          @ Mr SoBo, I soooo agree with you, those are the exact same reasons I would ask a guy i’m dating. I even strangely agree with the whole “doctor” scenario. I would definitely prefer he did not have a long list of previous indiscretions, but if he dated a bunch of strippers & un-educated h*s them…..yeah…keep it moving.

    • Caballeroso

      “Why do men always want to know how many guys a women has had sex with? It’s so annoying.”

      In the past I’ve asked this question because it presented a bonding opportunity. Yeah we can talk about all the usual topics that you would discuss with damn near anybody, but if we are potentially moving into the realm of exclusivity, then sh*t becomes personal and so should our topics. At that point we should be able to discuss information that you wouldn’t share with just anyone off the street; we should be able to comfortably step beyond that. How you would react to that question, whether you answered it or not, gave me more insight on your attitude towards the subject matter. That, coupled with whatever else we had discussed or I had observed would give me more background on which to base decisions of whether you were someone I wanted to go forward with or not. If I was already hesitant on us, and you started hemming and hawwing at that question, I may decide we’re better as good friends…especially if it seems like you were trying to hide something or became defensive. Now, while I’d still want to know, I don’t ask. I’d never expect to get an honest answer anyway.

      • http://johnskywalker.wordpress.com/ JohnTHESkywalker

        ” it presented a bonding opportunity”

        True Story that’s written by many prestigous writers even though..

        ……”I’d never expect to get an honest answer anyway.”

      • Mr SoBo

        @Cabelleroso – “In the past I’ve asked this question because it presented a bonding opportunity
        Yo son, this right here, as well as the rest of your comment, is the gospel. Unfortunately, women when faced with this question look at it merely as a means to get all up in her business.
        They do not grasp that an answer(preferably an honest one) is more a demonstration of vunerability, trust and openess. It shows that they are willing to share a big part of themselves with the man in question because that little tid bit and her willingness or lack of willingness to disclose speaks volumes.
        Adding anything to your comment is pointless, as it says everything they[women] need to know. Good summation Cabelleroso.

      • http://eboneeyes.wordpress.com Eb

        “Why do men always want to know how many guys a women has had sex with? It’s so annoying.”

        well in essence wouldnt you have to factor in age of lost virginity, current age, serious/casual relationships up until this point. if she’s lost it a little earlier than others and is around 30-35 then her number maybe astounding yet relevant to her experience…no?

        simple remedy, dont ask what you dont want to know. cuz when u tell men/women the truth (some, not all) it may not be received on the best of terms. honesty is key as well as communication. If we can’t be honest about serious issues such as s.ex then what in the world are we doing wasting each others time?

        • DQ

          *simple remedy, dont ask what you dont want to know.*

          But if he asks, he does want to know. He just may not like the answer (and yet still needed to know it).

          • http://eboneeyes.wordpress.com Eb

            i only say that ’cause im notorious for leaving out the sugar when im in conversation or responding to questions. why sugar coat why lie…if he’s asking he needs to mentally prepare himself for whatever leaves my lips. granted some females lie til the end!…lol

      • Yeah…So

        I love this comment.

    • http://twitter.com/kjnetic peter parker

      it feeds into our ego that ‘we’ have had more sexual experience that ‘you’?

      i dunno, i don’t ask *shrug*

    • KT

      I have a don’t ask, don’t tell policy when it comes to that. I won’t ask a woman, and she doesn’t need to tell me. As long as her test comes back negative, I’m good. With that said, she needs to make sure (as best she can) that her past doesn’t come back to haunt her. Is that fair to her? Maybe, maybe not. That’s just the way I am.

    • http://www.pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

      I think it’s better for guys to not ask at all. Ignorance is bliss lol. It’s another thing for a woman to willingly give that info up, but if it means that much to dude, he’s gonna be disappointed no matter the answer (because he doesn’t wanna imagine his chick having chex with other dudes anyway)… the only difference is the levels of disappointment lol (the highest of which being… WTF, deuces).

      • Mr SoBo

        @Cheekie
        Well, if she didnt feel shame while ‘knotching up’, why does she feel shame acknowledging it? A womans virtue is what is bliss. Ignorance is only blissful to the wilfully ignorant.

        True, men may not enjoy the thoughts of our women being with another man…However, men understand there were other men that came before us. <–Big pun intended. We just wanna know if she crushed a lot. <– see what I did there again? Joe and Pun in combination. lol!

        it is one thing to not know. It is another to not want to know.

        • http://www.pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

          “Well, if she didnt feel shame while ‘knotching up’, why does she feel shame acknowledging it? ”

          I didn’t say anything about the woman’s shame, actually. That comment was more for the brotha’s perspective. Usually they lament about not wanting to really know, so the question is… why you ask? lol In fact, some dudes have even said they hope women lie about the number.

          • Mr SoBo

            some dudes have even said they hope women lie about the number.
            Well thats just downright stupid. I’m not sure why one would would inquire with the HOPE that the person answering lies. Expecting a lie is one thing. HOPING for a lie, is a sign of idiocy.

            • http://www.pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

              lol, it is.

          • http://yourchildsmother.blogspot.com/ KMN

            what about when you are believed to be telling a lie because your number is so low that based on age and date of said cherrypoppin it’s unbelievable. I get turned down because cats don’t believe my number because it is so low…
            #KanyeShrug

            KMN

            • Mr SoBo

              @KMN – “I get turned down because cats don’t believe my number because it is so low…
              #KanyeShrug “

              Whatever helps you sleep at night.

              • http://yourchildsmother.blogspot.com/ KMN

                LMAO you are funny…but seriously do’…

                I was the type of chick that visualized being married at 18 like my mom…got with my first at 17 thought we’d be together forever and realized i was just singin a song. me and him messed around for a while (and I realize that i’m a fool for even dealing with his sorry behind for so long but meh we grow we learn and blah blah blah)…in college i had a one night…had a just chex relationship and that was it. i’m very particular about what goes inside of me…and with all this ish around here i can’t even. So when it comes to men (mind u i am in Milwaukee = coocoocal lol) i don’t want to just lay down with ANYBODY. And I’m not going to subject my body for BS just to have high numbers or good performance or whatevs….i’m selective and i’m an anal virgo (nopun and pun) so my number is low because I do choose for it to be low and when i tell cats that i’m not down for getting it in right away they stop effin with me. But I’m not going to lower my standards for some good.good.

                Guess I answered my own question but didn’t. oh well…ty for you input Mr. SoBo…:)

                KMN

                • Mr SoBo

                  @KMN – “..when i tell cats that i’m not down for getting it in right away they stop effin with me.”
                  And the problem is what exactly? Sounds like things are working out quite favorably for you actually. You’re not playing yourself and wasting valuable coochie juice on these fly by night n*ggaz. So that is good. Many women cant say the same, so continue being discriminating and selective. If you gotta give p*ssy to keep a dood interested/around, then that is not a dude you want around.
                  But you already know this.

            • WIP

              ” I get turned down because cats don’t believe my number because it is so low…”

              That sounds skrange KMN! I don’t know where all these dudes are that ask anyway.

              • Sula

                I don’t know where all these dudes are that ask anyway.

                My feelings exactly… Who are those dudes going around asking numbers and stuff? It seems a tad immature with a little insecurity sprinkled in…

                • WayUPThere

                  You’ll find these dudes all across the country, in the early stages of relationships with VSS’s, asking primarily because they don’t want it to be an issue in the future.

                • WayUPThere

                  future, should things get serious.*

  • http://naturallyalise.com/blog/2011/02/25/slang-fridays-i-put-that-on-everything/ Naturally Alise

    Why do men and allegedly some women who love women not keep concentrating on the spot that is obviously causing much pleasure instead of doing something different while attempting to provide cunning linguistics? Inquiring clits want to know.

    • Betamale

      Grab their head and guide them. If they balk, they’re selfish. Put them out.

    • Swamp Ninja

      Sometimes we can’t breathe and we have to move, asphyxiation ain’t sexy.

      • http://thatswhatgemsaid.wordpress.com Gem of the Ocean

        lmao @ asphyxiation aint sexy

      • The Law

        Preach!!!

      • T

        “asphyxiation ain’t sexy: lmbo. And this is why I love VSB

    • Caballeroso

      “Why do men … not keep concentrating on the spot that is obviously causing much pleasure instead of doing something different…?”

      Variety is the spice of life. Different people respond to different techniques differently. Exploration by me is necessary to find out what specifically she responds to best, second best, third best….etc. With that knowledge I can implement gradations of escalation especially since some enjoy the build up. Once I recognize that she is almost at the “O” point, then I stick with whatever I’m doing at that time (the spot obviously causing pleasure as you say). It would be torturous to deviate with a new technique at the last minute and cause her to loose it because then she’s got to start over again to get back to that point. If you’re trying to get back at her for something, are just toying with her, or are just having fun with it, then that’s different. For me it just depends on whether I’m feeling like running a marathon or a sprint.

      • Yeah…So

        yeah… you should definitely call me.

        • j.ivy

          yes! and I wanna be on three-way. ;)

          good to recognize that what works for the rest, may not work for me! preciate it.

    • Medium Meech

      Because most women would recoil if you just jumped there and stayed there the whole time. Other women like a lot of pressure there. Some only like a little more pressure near climax. I think, no I know women underestimate how different they are sexually from each other.

  • Yoles

    its a common belief that men will say anything to get to the sex but what about the things that are said during and after the sex… how much truth is said during those times?

    not counting the difference in depth do the varying sexual positions really feel that different?

    • DQ

      Hear ye, hear ye, be it known on this day the 1st of March in the year of our lord two thousand and eleven, that no utterance made by a man during the act of coitus shall be construed as legally or otherwise binding.

      • WayUPThere

        Tis true. co-signing @ now

      • http://twitter.com/sweetdivalove Seti

        We need to put this on shirts, bumper stickers, and mugs because I think some women haven’t gotten the memo!!

        • DQ

          Well we just made the proclamation – let’s see what happens. I can’t be held liable for what I say during $ex, hell I be promising stuff that I don’t even have the authority to do

          woman: You like this a$$
          DQ: Yeah baby you got that good good
          woman: You like when I move it like that
          DQ: Yeah baby you could never go wrong
          woman: Can we be together forever?
          DQ: Not only that but I can lower taxes for the middle class

          • TheAnti-Cool

            DEAD

          • Talib

            Thats a Charlie Sheen style of WIN right there

            • tgtaggie

              After hearing that Charlie Sheen interview yesterday. He almost is up there with Chuck Norris Epicness.

              Especially this line: “I am on a drug. It’s called Charlie Sheen. It’s not available because if you try it you will die. Your face will melt off and your children will weep over your exploded body.” lol.

              • WIP

                Ya, if there ever was any doubt, I think he solidified his cr@ckhead status with that comment.

              • http://www.theblackbondblog.wordpress.com BlkBond

                YO! LMAO……!!!

                I’m stealing that quote….(LMMFAO!)

                Bond.

              • Tezzybaby

                This is so funny because I was having a discussion on sheen’s quotables, its almost on Dave Chapelle level. My favorites are:

                “I exposed people to magic. I exposed them to something they’re never otherwise going to see in their boring, useless lives. They’ll live with that memory for the rest of their lives.”

                and

                “every plan I have is the best plan in the room.”

                I use both when I’m feeling delusions of grandeur.

            • http://thatswhatgemsaid.wordpress.com Gem of the Ocean

              lmao you ever heard of winning? it rhymes with winning!

          • WIP

            I see y’all cutting up today

          • http://www.twitter.com/Alana_Shantell Alana

            IDIED *on the floor*

          • Yeah…So

            #ICAN’T

          • Tes

            lmao! Now that’s change I can believe in!

      • http://www.twitter.com/EksAmplified Eks M

        I’m a female and i cosign this statement… i always tell my friends never believe anything a man tells you while he’s in the…

      • Kema

        Well if a man is good enough he has caused a woman or two to say things they really do not mean during the act. lol!

        • Jay

          Yeah… like the old classic “don’t pull out!” And its hard to resist. Its like I’m already Indiana Jones in the Temple of Doom for going unprotected(only and always with a SO mind you). Those three words make things WAY more perilous.

      • http://twitter.com/SmartFoxGirl SmartFoxGirl

        DQ you are killing me! LMAO! I trust nothing that comes out of a man’s mouth when he has an erection…nothing.

      • WestPointProper

        I’onknow. When I say “TAKE IT”, i mean it o_O

      • KT

        LOL **pounds gavel** It is law!

      • The Law

        In my capacity as The Law, I hereby certify this declaration, and it shall forevermore be The Law of the land.

    • Humble_One

      @Yoles

      Men will say anything during chex and trying to get chex. I’ve said it once and I’ll say it again “never underestimate what a man will do for p***y”. The same way conservatives see money is the same way some men see p***y.

    • http://www.todisspits.blogspot.com MictheMessenger

      There’s a reason men like go to sleep after sex. If yall would just let us go to sleep afterwards like we feel like doin, yall wouldnt have to worry about half the b.s. we say.

      As for the during part, just stuff a t*tty in the mouth.

      • MrExcelsior

        *slow clap*

    • Caballeroso

      “not counting the difference in depth do the varying sexual positions really feel that different?”

      Yes! Different positions places differing pressures on various areas of our member. Additionally, there is a psychological component from watching you or your lady parts.

      • http://johnskywalker.wordpress.com/ JohnTHESkywalker

        “Additionally, there is a psychological component from watching you or your lady parts.”

        (whistles and claps)….gracefully expressed. I am in agreement with this post. There’s added value to the experience….purely visual.

      • Deeds

        Yes! Different positions places differing pressures on various areas of our member.

        Oh really, so I’m curious, what’s the difference in feeling from say missionary, to girl on top, to getting it from the back.

        • Caballeroso

          Unfortunately this is not one of those things that can be easily explained. Consider that your “birth canal” has various textures on the surfaces therein. With me having a slight curve to the left, different positions will allow me to have contact with a differently textured part of your internal anatomy and will cause the head of my soldier to impact a different area of your cervix, in each case, creating a different sensation. Additionally, depending on how your body is proportioned or the specific architecture (shape) or curvature of your canal itself, further added sensations are offered by different positions.

          • j.ivy

            ahhh, nice…you’re left handed? What’s your sign? lol

        • Jay

          I think the range and controls of the motion is what differs most. To answer you question, in missionary I have full control, I’m running the show more or less. In other words its time for me to “show off”. Not to be graphic but long strokes are cool in this position because there is not threat of injury. Girl on top means its her time to “hit the stage”. Show what she can do. And IMHO the way girl rides tells me more about how much she is into me sexually than ANYTHING else. Depth is better in this position too. Long strokes can lead to injury for both parties here. (You know what I’m talking about) From the back is more visual. We loves the booty. Anal sex however, at least for me, is not what hot in these streets. Backshots allows us to fully appreciate and utilize a round backside without resorting to cornholing. Also there’s something about doggy thats well…. animalistic. I don’t know about yall but that turns me on. Don’t judge me.

          • Medium Meech

            Maybe it’s a different in leg positioning, but long strokes during missionary can be considered a form of domestic abuse.

    • Medium Meech

      Just think of the first time as a job interview, and you’re the interviewer. Think of every subsequent time as an interview for a promotion. Never trust anyone with a motive.

      I may be breaking man code here, but a man has the most clarity, is at his most sober is immediately after busting a good one. You could ask “what was little Kim thinking” and get the right answer.

  • IsOurChildrenLearning?

    Why does EVERY male think that he is some sort of sexual Adonis and that all of his “moves” are new and thrilling? Seriously, some of yall SUCK!! Pumping at varying speeds is not a “trick”. Stopping and pulling out for three seconds and getting right back at it is not earth shattering.

    I’m not knocking remedial sex. Hey sometimes you’ve got other stuff to do, but why won’t men sit back and analyze their performance? I’ve mostly had good sexual experiences so this isn’t a bitter rant. My point is that the men with the worst dong throwing skills were the most confident AND the most hesitant to accept advice/criticism in regards to their performance.

    Now, the men that left me smiling or days…..quiet and humble (mostly).

    • DQ

      *Why does EVERY male – *

      I’ll be honest, I took the exit ramp right about here.

      • IsOurChildrenLearning?

        Nice. Obviously exaggeration is par for the course in such an arena. I’ve yet to meet every male, let alone have a sexual experience with them. In efforts to remain PC and drama free let’s just read “EVERY male” as “MANY males”. That way everyone can remain happy and calm is restored. :-)

        • DQ

          LOL, @ drama and PCness. Red flags aside, reading your post, it just seems like you answer your own question. How come they’re not good? Because they’re not getting any feedback (analyzing their own performance) or not taking any feedback (most hesitant to accept advice/criticism in regards to their performance.)

          But I’m not sure, cause I’ve never had that problem… all my tricks work, my 3 second pull out and variable speed pump are superb. You ain’t neva had a 3 second pull out like mine. Cause I pull out and I just be sitting there for like 3 whole seconds – y’all love that ish.

          • WestPointProper

            you are STUPID! lol

    • WayUPThere

      Wow. This brings up a serious question that all the women can share on then:

      If pumping at varying speeds is no trick, and pulling out for three seconds is nothing new (wow. those two are bad examples, but we’ll rock with it), what then my fair VSS’s are the techniques that you would qualify as tricks?

      • Yoles

        i don’t think good sex comes with tricks per se… PAY ATTENTION…. a woman’s body will tell you all you need to know… is her skin flushed, eyes glazed, heart racing, breath catching, legs shaking, vagina clenching and flooding etc… (pls note that most of the things listed are not faked) notice what she positively responds to and notice what she doesn’t and most likely you will be regarded as a good partner

        • IsOurChildrenLearning?

          Yup, good sex is about reading the body of person your with and responding to it. Certain “tricks” won’t work for everyone so they key is to watch, listen, and feel them. Hopefully they will do the same and it becomes cyclical. If you simply do what worked for the last woman you were with it’s going to be a crapshoot.

        • WayUPThere

          Basically, what tricks that we see in p*rn actually work and should can we try?

          • Betamale

            Study them all and surprise us.

            • Betamale

              wait….Bwahhaahaahaaa. My bad

            • IsOurChildrenLearning?

              Pause

              • WayUPThere

                IsOur,

                I had the same reaction…NO BUENO!

                • Betamale

                  3, 2, 1….

              • http://www.todisspits.blogspot.com MictheMessenger

                #DEAD

          • IsOurChildrenLearning?

            Hmmm the thing about porn is that it’s really made for men so the dudes are dominating the women more than they are pleasing them. So some of that stuff wont fly or at least wont feel great. One thing that I just mentioned in CaribbeanQueen’s post was that it’s always dope when men digitally stimulate the anus during positions..especially doggystyle. It’s not a “trick” but some people are weird about anal contact. It feels great and for some reason allows the woman to be able to “take” more if thats an issue. It really enhances a lot of positions IMO

            • WestPointProper

              NOPE! Nuh unh. Not hood porn. Them ninjas treat p***y like they were Gerald Levert Made to Love It. I love hood porn. Its real. Its good. Its just real good. (<—– And I'm not shamed at all to say this)

              • Mr SoBo

                What is “hood porn”?

                • WestPointProper

                  i wrote a very adequate response to this. I got 404′ed. I can not invest that kind of time again.

                  But:
                  -Hood music
                  -no actual set, just a “room”
                  -hood items laying around the room (a chain, baby lotion, and a can of Steele Reserve 211)
                  -Dude is not extra fine, or extra huge, but you can just tell he loves p***y
                  -^HE^ not only still has on his socks (like a lot of guys do in pr0ns) but Timbs, all his jewelry (maybe minus that one chain on the nightstand), and a hat sitting on top of his head that looks like Adebisi
                  -She’s tatted almost as much as he’s tatted
                  -They start to do things that regular pr0ns won’t show ALL the while making sure NOT to mess up her hair o_O

                  You get the point. I NEED not go on.

                • Corey

                  @West

                  I’ma need you to stop hatin on the Steel!! You need to get drunk quick and all you got is $2? Go head on and Steel it up! Don’t be scuurrrd now!

        • kamakula

          eyes glazing is the only item on the list that I can’t think of how someone would fake. . .yet

      • IsOurChildrenLearning?

        The only thing I can say that DOESN’T work on any woman is the refusal to properly warm her a$$ up. Throwin a deuce in the cooch is not a sufficient way to get a woman wet and ready.

        • DQ

          Completely off subject, but when I read your post, I just heard Chris Brown’s “Deuces” start playing in the background and it was like comedic gold to me…

          ,..I don’t know why. *Still laughing*

        • WIP

          “Throwin a deuce in the c00ch…”

          o_0

          • Yeah…So

            Yeah, how dat work? Burrr?

        • http://Www.twitter.com/sunsetsarefree Sunset

          Complete co-sign. Rushed or nonexistent foreplay is an automatic fail. It’s even worse if you’re over 25, b/c you should know better.
          I’ll add that loosening the hips and stroking is not a skill that all men have. This is what makes the “island d” so infamous. Those guys know how to gyrate, not just go back and forth. So, in the privacy of your own home, do a little winding to loosen up and practice, then try it on a chick…

        • ChloeRayne516

          “Throwin a deuce in the cooch is not a sufficient way to get a woman wet and ready.”

          OMG!!!!

          *6 Ft under PushingUpDaises*

        • j.ivy

          yes, please keep your poorly manicured nails away…

          however, sometimes you don’t want 4play, sometimes just comin in ready, throw coat on floor, toss woman over the couch and get it!

          sometimes…

        • Nikknak

          If you don’t eat, you can’t beat. *shrug*

    • C_Me

      Some women le to us to make us feel good, but not me they’ve always told me the truth about my skills (sarcasm)

      • C_Me

        Whoops I ment lie

    • Nameless for Now

      LOL, you’ve got me thinking deep thoughts! I’m saying this as humbly as possible, but I’m used to being one of the best in class and at work, so sadly, I’m used to dudes being remedial. It’s no surprise to me that they’re challenged in bed, just another arena to showcase my skills! That Type A kicks into gear, and I’ll fake it til he makes it and act like it was the best thing since the dollar menu. lol, maybe it’s time to stop encouraging them!! #itsnotbrandnew

      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9vs3vNj2Q5o&feature=related

      • http://twitter.com/Phidelity15 Phidelity15

        please please PLEASE stop amping these dudes up if their s.ex game is wack. If during the act you say to yourself…Self, this is why he ex left him…then tap bruh man on the shoulder and let him know whats up.

        Each one, teach one and all that good ish

        • http://twitter.com/Phidelity15 Phidelity15

          *his

        • Yeah…So

          YESSS! A ninja can’t grow… if he on’t know! lol, but I’m sayin.

    • ac dubois

      I’m done after the mention of remedial sex, HILARIOUS!

    • http://twitter.com/kjnetic peter parker

      “Why does EVERY male think that he is some sort of sexual Adonis and that all of his “moves” are new and thrilling? ”

      Same reason EVERY female believes she is the most beautifulest woman on Earth, but can’t understand why their man finds any other woman remotely attractive…

      “Cuz we got a huge egooooo”

      • WestPointProper

        2.5 out of females believe this, and ZERO ask why their man is looking (not going, just looking) elsewhere. Who YOU be ’round? Kardashian & Friends?

        • http://twitter.com/kjnetic peter parker

          my point was that the amount of men that think they are sexual adonis’s are probably equal to the amount of women that can’t believe their men look at other women…

          and it’s all due to the egooooooo lol

          and what can i say, i know some Hot Girls #CashMoneyStyle

    • http://twitter.com/SmartFoxGirl SmartFoxGirl

      THIS!!! Of course not every. I’ve been lucky in having a good partner but every now and then…and the horror stories from my girls. AND these lame wang throwers are the same ones that want to talk about how “lazy” their girl is. I think it’s because subconciously he knows he’s bad so he’s quick to lay blame on the woman as a diversion.

      • http://eboneeyes.wordpress.com Eb

        usually its always best to just take the first exit available when ppl starting hyping what they can do. all talk and no action is real in all areas of life. ESPECIALLY this one.

    • Medium Meech

      You. You’re the problem. If a dude is strangely disillusion about his abilities in the bedroom and resistant to advice then there is a good chance that this behavior is reflected in other areas in his life. The fact that you were attracted to his comically overconfident attitude and fed him the cookies just reinforces that his behavioral choices are the right ones. Maybe we should put signs on condoms that say “DO NOT FEED THE DIVA DUDES”.

      • Mr SoBo

        Cosignage.

      • http://www.theblackbondblog.wordpress.com BlkBond

        Co-sign. Well stated. I notice that these are the type of men that are most likely to attract the same women holding dating/relationship forums. Cycle of destructive behavior…

        Bond.

    • SpottieOttieDarlin

      “the men with the worst dong throwing skills were the most confident AND the most hesitant to accept advice/criticism in regards to their performance.

      Now, the men that left me smiling or days…..quiet and humble (mostly).”

      eggggggggggggg zactly!

  • Rog

    I volunteer for blood drives, brain scans, and police photo arrays. I’VE EATEN DELTA P*SSY. I’ve taken stray cats to Burger King, treating them to fries and Oreo milkshakes. I even smoked a little crack in the summer of 2004 just so I could better understand Shawn Kemp’s plight.

    It takes talent (and a bit of familiarity) to be able to casually slide that in there and probably half of the regular posters not think twice about it.

    • WayUPThere

      I was just about to post about the delta pu$$y comment. Let me say that I stopped reading after that sentence–mainly because I couldn’t stop laughing at the fact you threw that in there homie–and uh, I had no clue eating delta pu$$y was an act of altruism…

      lmao…i don’t know if i can make it thru the rest of the post

    • Nameless for Now

      “I’ve taken stray cats to Burger King, treating them to fries and Oreo milkshakes.”

      ROFL!! On my mind’s projector, I saw The Champ pouring those shakes into little puddles for the kitties and setting out a few fries for each one! Time of death, 12:26am — put me in the pink dress and tell my auntie to sing “I’ll Fly Away.” : D

    • Geneva Girl

      I laughed out loud at that one and I’m not even a Delta!

      • TheAnti-Cool

        Me too.

  • CaribbeanQueen

    I wanna know whats with guys and anal sex??? if i had a penis and I was aroused, of ALL the places to put it I don’t think it would be sexy put it in someones butt… thats where poop comes out, and I’m pretty sure it dont smell like roses in there. Plus its sooo unsanitary even with a condom. maybe im just a germophobe but just the thought is repulsive to me. OR even in porno’s when they will put their finger?? EW.

    • CaribbeanQueen

      dang why am I in moderation? maybe i was too graphic. lol.

    • IsOurChildrenLearning?

      I agreed with you until your last sentence. While anal sex disturbs me to no end, Anal stimulation (via digits) during backshots is the business.

      • http://twitter.com/SmartFoxGirl SmartFoxGirl

        Finger in the booty makes the poon tighter.

        • IsOurChildrenLearning?

          yup

      • CaribbeanQueen

        lol.. hmm.
        if me and my man try that he gonna have to put a condom on his finger too

    • DQ

      *I wanna know whats with guys and anal sex???*

      Actually I wanna know the answer to this too (actually no I don’t, I just wanted to make the point that that DQ doesn’t go Coo Coo for Coa Coa Puffs, or the box that they come in)

      Honestly anal sex is like a dude getting drunk off White Wolf Vodka when the Grey Goose was sitting right next to it. Why do that to yourself?

    • C_Me

      Bucket list, some women really enjoy it,some men will stick it anywhere where it fits. I hear your point about anal can be “unsanitary”, but we stick it in places that bleed for days and does not die

      • Kema

        “but we stick it in places that bleed for days and does not die”

        Sings… “Thats what its made for”

        • WayUPThere

          That album was Usher’s greatest by far….

        • Waytoosingle!

          @C me: “but we stick it in places that bleed for days and does not die” Its not the same thing, if the smells don’t give you a clue, then hopefully biology will help…the bacteria that are present in the posterior are harmful, but hey…one man’s trash is another man’s treasure!

          So I have a couple of questions for the fella’s:

          1. Why do some men love to cum in a woman’s mouth and then want her to swallow?

          2. Would that be an issue if your girl did not want either (cumshots & swallowing)?

    • http://johnskywalker.wordpress.com/ JohnTHESkywalker

      Not sure about THOSE guys….but there’s nothing wrong with her mouth as a substitute teacher when Hello Kitty won’t allow me to Sticker……

      ….as long as she can go deep enough that is.

      My hypothesis….(and from the testimonials of my fellow Knights of the Slong-Abled)

      …..it’s not per se the FEELING, but the IDEA of putting it in an unorthodox yet available area. Possbilities can be intriguing.

    • Medium Meech

      Cause it’s a hole. On you.

    • WestPointProper

      Two things:

      One, I like it, because she loves it. When she asked for it, it was kind of the ultimate, I trust you THHIIIIIISSSSS much. I dug that. (The journey actually getting to that point is another story. Do NOT go around thinking you can just slip your duck into somebodys pond. #NOSIR!) Its a REAL relationship builder.

      TWO, this to me is like asking, “Why would would you want to get head when you could just stick your duck down the vacuum hose attachment”?

      I’m not saying you don’t have good suction, but it if every once in a while you invite me to choose between just “tight” and “I think Supahead has a summer home in your an.al cavity”, I owe it to myself to pick the latter.

      you cant knock it until you’ve tried it. i’ve wrestled a midget.

  • MzThang

    How do men feel about virgins and at what age do you feel uncomfortable with them?

    • Tes

      *pulls up a chair*

      • Anastasia!!!

        Walks in room, sees Tess::

        “Hey girl!!”

        *Pulls up chair next to her*

        • Tes

          Hey Ana!
          *passes over a Twizzler*

    • CurlyTop

      I would like to know too. I always get <_< and "Yea right, I'm a 'virgin' too." Why is that?

      • Anon

        Just to show that I’m not trying to brag and that I’m giving a COMPLETELY honest answer… I posted anonymously. Personally, different girls with pretty prodigious sexual histories complain about my size from time to time, and I think I’m exactly at the halfway point between average and very well endowed. Therefore I believe that the only men that are zealous enough about virgins to actually seek them out would have to be… little men.

        • Anon

          Um… tried to post anonymously, failed miserably. I am formally asking to have my comments denied in moderation… BEFORE they’re posted.

          • TheAnti-Cool

            Too late.

          • WIP

            How exactly did you fail at posting anonymously?

            LMAO! Ima get kicked out the damn office, I’m not sure why this is cracking me up so hard. I might be having a mood swing…

            • Jay

              Well, I posted under the name “Anon” but I was REQUIRED to include an email address, I don’t have a fake one so I HAD to put my real one up…. and along with it came my Gravatar. =P

    • Mr. Gundam

      I’ll bite

      The answer is mileage may vary. There are dudes who LOVE getting to be the first to pop it and there are ones who would kindly pass over the the less experience chick.

      The important part (which could be blame on ego….lil’ bit) is that he are the first. You never forget the first! whether its bad or good you never forget the first. And some of us out there want to make it REAL good memory. So we become THAT dude.

      Now about the age is tricky, cause it kinda depends on your hotness and age ladies. But if you are looking for a solid number, its 35 and older. Really now alot of men pass this milestone want to jump in on inexperience lady. But many will make compromise depending on your hotness and age.

      • WayUPThere

        “35 and older”

        Gundam, where do u live, brah? I wanna state for the record that I find it pleasantly refreshing when a girl over 18 is a virgin. Around my way, bafflingly, if a girl’s a virgin past 18 she gets the side eye from others.

        smh #fastninjas

        • chocolate milk

          Confused. I assumed Gundam meant that men over 35 rather not deal with virgins????

          • Mr. Gundam

            Yuppers

    • http://johnskywalker.wordpress.com/ JohnTHESkywalker

      “How do men feel about virgins and at what age do you feel uncomfortable with them?”

      Had this convo a few nights ago with my fellow Cookie Monsters. It definitely depends on the character (sexual work ethic included) of the man. Me personally, I don’t mind virgins….as long as you’re open, curious, (FUN!) and flexible. I like to teach….even in the bed room (although I’m no professor Xavier – I’m slightly gifted…I think). I like to experiment (play around) to test her limits and mine in order to formulate boundaries of likes, dislikes, loves, hates, hell-naws, passions, and obsessions for future sessions. I’ve had (I think) 5 virgins….never had ANY complaints because I carried my gentleman attitude into the bedroom……and the car…..and the movies. A patient and humble guy (and ones with a fetish) will invite virgins. I don’t mind being the first memory and setting her up (experience wise) for the next guy to give her advanced training (or the other way around)…..Kodak moments……brain produces the Polaroids.

      Age?….I’m 26…..as far as going up my ladder, if I did find a sexually curious 30+ yr old virgin, first I’d be shocked and a bit reserved, then I’d be all for it. Beneath my age ladder….(grits teeth and squints eyes), 21 at the lowest, and that depends on her character, looks, and how long I’ve known her.

    • http://hotbiscuitsandgravy.blogspot.com Bengemin Grehe

      Hmmm. Typically, I try to stay away from virgins unless I’m serious about starting a relationship with them, and even then it’s a little tricky. There would be no point for me to try to hook up for hook up’s sake, and age actually has a lot to do with it.

      Unless a woman is bad and looks grown beyond her years, I’m not the type to rob the cradle. To me, robbing the cradle is anything under 21. No bullshit. Something about younger girls, I just can’t get with it. But let’s say I entertained the thought of having sex with a 19 year old virgin, I’d still be opposed to it because I don’t want to be her first. Quite simply, I’ve heard that a lot of women’s first experiences are bad. I’m not selfish when it comes to sex, but I’m not perfect either and I’m not trying to be remembered as the guy that gave her that first painful experience.

      If she’s 25 or older and still a virgin, chances are she’s waiting until she gets married. Which isn’t a problem for me. When I was 24, I dated a virgin who was 5 years my senior and I was willing to propose. For religious reasons, we split, and it’s a good thing we did because and had we not, she would have a lost her virginity but I WOULD NOT have been the initiating party.

    • http://twitter.com/kjnetic peter parker

      so long as they’re cute…i love ‘em.

    • LSQ

      it depends.
      she may be saying that for a reason: the two reasons are: A) I am a virgin an intend to stay one until marriage/serious relationship or B) I am a virgin and I am looking for the right guy to show me the way.

      If she is looking for a tutor – well to some guys thats shallow, to others, its an opportunity.

      If she is looking for a relationship – as long as ole boy is looking for a relationship – it could be all good.
      If she is a long-term virgin

    • Medium Meech

      Depends on why she’s giving it to you.