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Things I’ve Learned From VSB

o-BEYONCE-BOW-DOWN-570If there’s one thing I can say about you folks who venture and yap here at VSB its that you all are an educated bunch of individuals. Or maybe just learned. I have no idea what type of educational attainment lies within the Hallways of VSB Manor. Since along with great power comes great responsibility, nearly everybody here has tried to learn somebody today about anything and everything. I’m a pretty smart chap. I’ve got the degrees and common sense to prove it. That Beautiful Mind sh*t? Child’s play. And thanks to all you haters I know G4 pilots on a first-name basis.

Somebody smart once said, “if you stop learning, you aren’t learning anymore.” Go on ahead and let that marinate for a minute.

*marinate*

Deep. Knowledge my brothers and sisters. Use it or lose it. Word to Dormtainment.

So in the spirit of said education, here are some things I’ve learned from the commentary here at VSB.

1. Straw man arguments and sh*t

Real spit, I’d never heard the term “straw man” outside of Kansas until some of you folks who like to argue a lot started lobbing it around. I’m still not completely sure what it means unless I look it up. I just looked it up. If I’m write, its an easily refuted argument based in logical fallacy. Now I don’t think it means what some of you think it means. But that’s okay because I’ll forget it by the time this goes live anyway. Point is, I’d never heard that term until somebody brought it to VSB. Thank you. Kansas thanks you. And so does the Scarecrow.

New writtens.

2. Cognitive dissonance

I remember writing about the fact that I’d never heard this term until Champ used it once, and then he used it a lot. Context clues didn’t even help me out. I had to consult The Internets – and you know any and everything goes down on the Internets – to figure out what the hell it meant. Now I know and I use the term at least twice a week in front of people who clearly have no idea what it means.

3. Nearly all statements of opinions are useless without pictures

This is possibly going to be one of the most ridiculous things I will ever state, but I believe it to be true. Every opinion is shaped by experience just as much as facts of a case. People are human and therefore respond based on how some sh*t feels. Sure most of us are able to usurp our feelings for logic, but we’ve all seen completely non-sensical arguments presented due to somebody’s perception. Well, we write a lot about relationships and inter-personal interactions around here. And well, I don’t believe not a gotdamn word some people say until I see what they look like and then make a ridiculous judgement on whether or not its feasible for such an experience to have occurred.

This is what happened at the Three Deez party with the chick who commented afterwards that she finds it hard to believe that Champ and I were able to have the types of experiences needed to inform most of our opinions. Funny thing is, I didn’t have a problem with that claim. My issue was that she missed one vital part about male vs female interactions: a man with a personality that can make a chick smile can do damage out here in these streets. But be that as it may, I appreciate ninjas putting pictures up to go with their opinions.

Yes, this is something I learned from VSB. And it really wasn’t that ridiculous.

4. There are many ways to skin a cat, but two wrongs don’t make a right

I just solved racism.

5. Knowing when to bow out of a conversation is just as important as meaningfully contributing to it.

I decided long ago, never to walk in anyone’s shadow. That’s true. And what that taught me was that some folks don’t know when to leave things alone. I’m one of those people who enjoys debate for sport, old sport. But I also realize at some point that whatever debate I’m having isn’t going to change my mind or the other person’s. And I don’t really care one way or another, old sport. Debate is an art. Some motherf*ckers paint with crayons. Point is, knowing when to let something go is important, for your own sanity. Now, for some folks, the joy of battle is enough to keep them engaged. I can respect that. But for me…sometimes I want to watch Friends and stop battling.

Those are five things I’ve learned during my time here with VSB. I may come back and toss some more into the ring if the site isn’t f*cking us all with spoons. So what have you learned from VSB? And hey hey…keep the shots fired to a minimum. No personals.

-VSB P aka THE ARSONIST aka MR. OPENLY AWESOME aka GIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIRL HE A 3

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Damon Young

Panama Jackson is pretty fly for a light guy. He used to ship his frito to Tito in the District, but shipping prices increased so he moved there to save money. When he's not saving humanity with his words or making music with his mouth, you can find him at your mama's mama's house drinking her fine liquors. Most importantly, he believes the children are our future.

  • it never rains in SoCal

    Am I first?

    • http://stanoffewwords.wordpress.com Tristan

      nah ray j was

      • Rewind

        ZING

      • http://www.styleillusions.com WIP

        nice.

      • CNotes

        You, Sir…..have officially knocked me out with one punch. LOL!!!! Perfect Execution.

      • h.h.h.

        #FlawLessVictory #MortalKombat
        #OneHittaQuitta

  • AfroPetite

    “I decided long ago, never to walk in anyone’s shadow.”

    LMAO I am over here dying…..like…I am of no use because of this one line.

    • nillalatte

      Gurl… you looking all diva and shyt! Git it girl…. work it… lol

      • Yoles

        I’m saying… AP got me feeling some kinda way ;)

      • AfroPetite

        *blushes*

        why thank you

        • Kema

          I might be feeling it too. ;-)

          • Sahel

            AP is on my to do list now

    • http://commentarybyvalentina.wordpress.com/ Val

      Nice pic, AP. ;-)

    • http://www.youtube.com/user/pervertedalchemist1 Perverted Alchemist

      That’s not AfroPetite in the avatar, that’s Nicole Wray. Stop playing, woman LMAO!!!!

      • AfroPetite

        Nope that’s 100% AfroPetite you see. This is my “Fixin’ to take yo man” face

        • http://www.twitter.com/epsilonicus Eps

          Well take me as I am!

        • kid video

          Somebody been hangin out at Glamour Shots…

    • keisha brown

      Lmfao! Right!?!?

      • IcePrincess

        Get it, AP! You are giving me LIFE in that avitar!!

    • Wild Cougar

      Cuteness

    • SweetSass

      Vavavoom!

  • it never rains in SoCal

    I would have been first, in moderation

  • Malik

    Number 5 is golden.

    People are really receptive to what you say and will consistently attempt to engage with you when you don’t consistently and constantly pretend to be operating from the stance of being objective thought.

    • Malik

      Also, people interested in positive conversations are far more interested in actual exchange of ideas and perspectives than people interested in negative conversations who are almost always far more invested in being right regardless of anything said to them.

      • http://commentarybyvalentina.wordpress.com/ Val

        I agree with this.

      • AfroPetite

        *nods head*

        I believe certain posts draw certain commenters because they rarely want in on constructive conversation.

        Obsidian, for example, doesn’t seem to care too much for neutral ground between the XY’s and the XX’s.

        • Rewind

          And if everyone would stop paying attention to him, he’d back off. But everyone falls for the trap every single time and feed into his ego. Is it too hard to just not read words that you know you won’t like people?

          • Wild Cougar

            He is what I would call a black hole. Someone for who negativity is sustaining energy in a loop. They will continually suck positive energy out of people and it will never reach bottom. They are bottomless. Their appetite for darkness never ceases. They choose to feed on the self esteem of others rather than create their own.

            These types of people will always seek validation through engagement. Then they will try to drag the person down into their hole and devour them. When they destroy one, they will look for another. It’s also called emotional abuse. Sociopaths become addicted to it.

            O’s goal is not to argue or be right. It is to drag people into his hole. The debate is merely a smokescreen

            • Rewind

              Weirdly enough, I find Obsidian to be interesting. He is relentless in his pursuit…whatever it is. I actually admire it. I don’t agree with many things that he says, nor his debating style, but I respect him enough to at least try to see his viewpoint. I’m clearly not a woman, but I understand why all the VSS are highly offended by his approach, because it truly is offensive. But my point is simply, he keeps it goes because he feeds off the reactions yall give, if yall stopped giving it to him, he’d need a different tactic.

          • http://commentarybyvalentina.wordpress.com Val

            “if everyone would stop paying attention to him, he’d back off.”

            I agree, Rewind.

            • LMNOP

              Me too.

              I don’t even know how people read through his posts to engage in these drawn out talks.

              • Rewind

                People need a purpose, Obsidian is glad to give them one.

          • BriA

            Yes, this is true. And he takes you bantering back and forth with him as you being mad, because he is right. I must stop feeding the troll. :-)

            • Rewind

              Indeed. Starve the troll and he will have to find another way to trick you.

        • Negro Libre

          Well, progress is never made through neutrality. Just like a car, neutral people go in the direction of the environment, not of their own choice.

          I knew about O before I knew about VSB, and it was through lurking at his blog that I found out about VSB. He used to go on all these website where white guys would debate about HBD topics and discuss Bell Curve topics rationalizing the inferiority of black folks (Basically Eugenics for the disenfranchised middle class nerds). He could easily have ignored them, as I did, or yell and scream racial accusations, but he would attack there points dispassionately. He drove them mad, enraged many (in fact I think some of the HBD folks got his previous blog on wordpress cancelled for some “hateful”), comments a couple folks, probably got a couple of people to change their minds, but he was accepted, as he is here, because for the most part he was consistent.

          Contrary to popular saying, I think O gets more out of this blog than others. Just like amateur boxers don’t get better by sparring with equals, people don’t gain much in their intellect if they only engage people who agree with them or who argue the same way they argue. The two golden ages for the black community: the harlem renaissance and the 60’s were filled with “negative” debates over the direction that the black community should go. Whether it was Dubois, Washington or Garvey or the Non-Violent crowd vs the Black Nationalists, the debates were filled with insults and accusations that would lead to fisticuffs today.

          The lack of progress and the stagnation of our race today comes from the desire for neutrality and passivity, not the presence of negativity. I don’t agree with much of O’s evolutionary psychology theories, but if there were more people like him who were willing to engage in tough debate, I think we would be much better for it.

          • IcePrincess

            Wow BM, thanks for the back story. It humanizes O more, makes him more cool, in my eyes anyway. I can definitely see him handling those racists. Had their faces turning red & sh*t looool just like he does some women here :-)

          • Rewind

            I totally agree. We may not like his tactics, but find me anyone else willing to drag the fight to the 14th round, and still keep it going. Many issues press nerves, which make people react out of emotion, which clouds judgment, which never allows the actual truth to be seen as it is supposed to be seen. i’m not saying O perfected this tactic, because he’s gotten emotional at times himself, but I would say, if anyone could ever beat O at a debate, you’d never lose an argument ever again.

          • SweetSass

            O belives in the Bell Curve… so it looks like the racists won and convinced him of Black inferiority.

            • http://obsidianraw.bravejournal.com Obsidian

              It is clear that you haven’t read The Bell Curve – or any of Murray’s other works…

              O.

              • SweetSass

                If you really knew about the Bell Curve you’d know that they didn’t submit it for peer review before publication. That is usually a sign what you’re writing is B.S.

                • http://obsidianraw.bravejournal.com Obsidian

                  @Ms. SweetSass:
                  And what if they did? Who in the Academy, would have signed off on it?

                  Look, here’s the bottomline for me:

                  1. I believe in the process of Evolution.

                  2. Because of this, I also believe that Humanity developed, over hundreds of thousands of years, various adaptations to their particular environments across the globe.

                  3. In Nature, everything has an evo-advantage, and an evo-disadvantage. All humans aren’t the same, nor should they be, nor is that an automatically bad or evil thing.

                  4. I am fully aware of those who will want to use such info as found in TBC as an informed basis with which to cling to their racial/racist views. I say let them. That doesn’t mean I endorse it, or that I agree with them. It means that I also believe in the First Amendment.

                  5. Which brings me to this point: that in the end, even if its true that some groups of people are smarter or less so, than others, they are still American citizens and as such, are still under the protection of the law.

                  6. Have you read The Bell Curve? Coming Apart?

                  O.

                • Eps

                  Not to take a side but in academia, there are tons of reasons not to submit for peer review. Many of those reasons could possibly be political.

                  I need to read this damn book lol

              • blackphilo

                The Bell Curve is conceptually confused and its race claims largely nonsense, O. You can read, for example, Stephen Jay Gould’s takedown of it–“Critique of The Bell Curve”–in the revised and expanded edition of Gould’s seminal The Mismeasure of Man.

                SS is basically on point here, as is, from a different p.o.v., Eps.

                • http://obsidianraw.bravejournal.com Obsidian

                  @Black Philo:
                  Yes, I am quite aware of SJG – he’s been roundly discredited.

                  O.

                  • blackphilo

                    No, he hasn’t. But that’s alright if you prefer to believe that, given those you prefer to regard as experts.

            • Eps

              Bell Curve is not inherently racist. Isn’t the main idea that intelligence is affected by both genetics and environment? How is that racist?

              To play devil’s advocate, there could POSSIBLY be racial differences in “intelligence” (if intelligence is even measurable with a single number. I doubt it can be. plus IQ test is culturally biased only focusing on a few intelligences. But lets work with it). If Black people are disproportionately represented in poverty, that means there are a lot of biopsychosocial effects on a population. Hunger can affect brain development in youth. Lead in housing (which in poor urban and rural areas is common) affects brain development. Socially, poor quality schools (mainly due to school funding tied to property taxes) produce students unable to perform at high levels. Lack of access to higher education. So while Black folks are not “inherently” less intelligent, you could make a case that racism and prejudice has an effect on us. It is definitely overcome-able (if thats a word). But basically, by America putting Black folks on urban reservations (aka the hood) with multi-generational non-access to the social and physical resources necessary to succeed, there is a POSSIBILITY our “traditional intelligence” could be compromised.

              Now I have not read the book so maybe there is more to it. Maybe they just flat out said Black folks are dumb. Someone help me understand better.

              • SweetSass

                Except funny they never found such a gene for stupid black person.

                • Eps

                  There is also no gene for “Black”. Or white, hispanic, asian, etc.

              • http://www.alltherightquestions.com T.Q. Fuego

                Great breakdown Eps. That’s how I feel too. We’re not dumb by nature, they’ve socially engineered our community to be dumb through racism/inacess and propaganda. Plus I agree about the I.Q. tests being biased and not a true measure of intelligence (which I think is impossible to measure).

                • Eps

                  Exactly. We cannot pretend that multi-generational, intentional poverty for people of color (Black, Hispanic, Asian, etc) has not affected our biology. I would not be surprised at all. I think it is difficult to prove (in social sciences it is difficult to run experiments), but my hypothesis is probably has some accuracy.

                  • http://www.alltherightquestions.com T.Q. Fuego

                    Yeah, just because you can’t prove it doesn’t mean it’s not true though. I think the things we’ve mentioned plus drugs definitely play a role in our people’s psychological development. I don’t think it was always unintentional either. When you look at how well Africans come to this country and succeed you realize it has nothing to do with race (which isn’t a scientific concept anyway).

          • Malik

            The difference between those and this is that those that were arguing were actually consistently invested in real world work for the entire betterment of the Black community and had their ideas rooted in reality and not Wikipedia articles that are often times half-finished and still under dispute by the editors involved with the page.

            Persistent in and of itself is laudable or admirable. That’s an extremely low bar to give people as far as worthwhile critical engagement goes.

            • Negro Libre

              I don’t think people of the time actually thought it was worthwhile when they heard Malcolm X trashing MLK on TV and calling him an Uncle Tom or House Negro. Or that people found it laudable when WEB DuBois was busy implying that Marcus Garvey was a scam artist…hindsight though is 20/20.

              I’m not here advocating for his scholarship (even though it’s disingenuous to imply that all his facts are based off wikipedia articles), I’m just defending his desire to debate, which is severely lacking in our conformity loving community.

              • Malik

                A very small percentage of Black people at the time where on the side of either Malcolm or Martin. They were both equally considered troublemakers for the Black community.

                I’m not arguing in favor of it. I’m saying a significant difference is that a lot of their viewpoints were actually rooted in real world tangible things and were consistently working towards (what they believed) was the better of the Black community. They weren’t agitating people just so they can prove to themselves they are right. If it’s not rooted in the betterment of the community than it’s absolutely irrelevant in my mind.

                • http://www.alltherightquestions.com T.Q. Fuego

                  Well said Malik. I just wish he picked a more effective approach, but I like his principles and many of the points he makes. I agree with him that we need to settle or at least understand some of these dynamics and how our decisions can either perpetuate or improve these conditions.

            • h.h.h.

              “The difference between those and this is that those that were arguing were actually consistently invested in real world work for the entire betterment of the Black community and had their ideas rooted in reality and not Wikipedia articles that are often times half-finished and still under dispute by the editors involved with the page.”

              with that being said, we generally have no idea what O does…or in that matter, anyone of us…does outside of the internet. for what we know, he could be someone who works in the electronics section of target…or he could have his own business and volunteers at the local NAACP.

              we don’t know. such is the beauty of anonymity…all you have to go on are the ideas expressed.

      • Kema

        ” people interested in negative conversations who are almost always far more invested in being right regardless of anything said to them.”

        Malik! U understand me!

      • Keisha Brown

        Amen

        • IcePrincess

          Don’t utter his name! Now he’s gonna post his college thesis on why u aint sh*t. Haven’t you learned by now? :-)

          • Keisha

            LOL…so true!

      • Rewind

        Indeed. That’s my entire purpose on this site. Which is why I don’t understand why people engage the posters they don’t like EVERY SINGLE DAY.

        • CNotes

          I don’t get it either. smh

          • LMNOP

            I also don’t get it. I come here as an enjoyable way to waste time, and reading hateful diatribes adds nothing to my day.

            • Rewind

              Exactly. I got sh*t to do, what I look like taking font seriously from a person that aint feeding me, f*cking me, or paying my bills?

  • DeeLoweLowe

    I decided to come take a looksie while waiting for this clay facial mask to dry, and alas I think I’m the first to comment. Yaay me!!! (throws confetti, while twirling colrul ribbons) …first and foremost TGIF! Is it time for happy hour yet?! Its 5 o’clock somewhere right?!? Am I right?!? Maybe not. Well to get on with this thing, based on the many posts I’ve read on here, and the questions you guys get asked on a daily, I’ve learned that common sense aint so common….thats all I’ve got…thats it! I quit! Im moving on! No Adele. Good Morning!!! Im sleepy and i think someone beat me o the first post (drops head in shame)

    • LMNOP

      lol, and in the time you were writing that, 5 other people commented.

  • http://www.blacklatinafabulous.com Maris

    What have I learned?

    **looks left**
    **looks right**
    **leans in, whispers** My best chance of finding a may-an is prolly #Onnere

    • nillalatte

      LOL… you ain’t no good… *whispers back… and neither are most of these studs on hurr… * ;) Perfect match! :D

    • Rewind

      Join my “Hooking VSS UP” club..I got several members and I already got a high success rate popping. I make magic happen on deez skreets

    • h.h.h.

      *stumbles in here*

      oh. hi.

  • SweetSass

    I wish I had the presence of mind to add something meaningful to the conversation… but my soul just left my body after tonight’s Scandal finale.

    My current state: http://media.tumblr.com/459044a3d02777225a5735e26f9d055a/tumblr_inline_miy6q6ETRl1qz4rgp.gif

    Oh, and I am another year older.

    :)

    • http://www.blacklatinafabulous.com Maris

      Happy Born Day!!!

      **tosses confetti**

    • AfroPetite

      LISTEN!

      HER DADDY THO?! *flings self over ottoman*

      David Rosen is a real goon and I respect him and his hustle.
      Cyrus almost killed me going into cardiac arrest like that.
      They threw my boo Jake into the hole :-(
      Where the hell was Harrison tonight?!

      • Charlie

        *SPOILER ALERT*<===== Please write this next time

        Thank god i watched it in the next tab soon as SweetSass mentioned it. Had I seen this before, a grudge would have been held, and I just dont need that in my life right now.lol

        (patiently waits for awesomely luvvie's review)

      • Keisha

        MAN!!! I thought some of the same things…that dad thing though…really??? Now I gotta find a new show to watch…

        • Sweet GA Brown

          True Blood with be returning in a few weeks!!!!

          • Keisha

            Thanks!

          • camilleblu

            WAITING SUCKS

      • SweetSass

        Yeah, I have a major crush on Jake. Who needs the ol’ crusty President?

      • SweetSass

        Her Ex-The California Raisin looks too much like her daddy. I think that has something to do with why they couldn’t be together.

        Daddy issues.

    • nillalatte

      Happy Birthday SweetSass! Hope you had a joyful day!

    • Yoles

      Feliz Cumpleanos SweetSass wishing you the bestest, happiest, festivest (yea i might have made some words up) birth-a-versary ever!!!!!!! :D

    • http://commentarybyvalentina.wordpress.com/ Val

      :-) Happy birthday, SweetSass! :-)

      I hope you enjoyed your birthday!

      *pops bottle of Martinelli’s Sparkling apple cider*

      • Todd

        What Val? You can’t find a nice bottle of sparking apple cider with proper terroir and the right notes of lemon and honey? LOL

        • http://commentarybyvalentina.wordpress.com Val

          What!? Todd, have you ever had Martinelli’s? It’s the best.

          • LMNOP

            yeah martinelli’s is like the Lexus of apple juice.

    • Kema

      *twerks sassily… again* happy birthday

    • Keisha Brown

      Happy birthday. Scandal was just….

      • IcePrincess

        Happy birfday chica!!

    • Todd

      Happy birthday! Enjoy your day, and enjoy some of this nice weather on the East Coast!

    • Keisha

      Happy Birthday!!! :o)

    • http://missrosen.wordpress.com esa

      happy birthday to youu ~*~

    • CNotes

      Have a wonderful birthday SweetSass!

    • Wild Cougar

      Happy Birthday Sweet Sass!!! OMG Scandal, tho!!!! Everything was cheese and crackers and she was stretching for her workout and BOOM!

      I’m already crying because I have to wait.

      • SweetSass

        I even want her workout clothes.

        I felt some kinda way after the damn papparazzi was all up in her grill like that….

        MELLIE MUST DIE!

    • mena

      UPSET WITH YOU!!! Had to move past this entire feed b/c I know that someone is going to spoil the season finale for me.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

      happy bday!

    • Sweet GA Brown

      HAPPY BIR’DAY. Ish ya bir’day go SweetSass Ish ya bir’day.

    • LMNOP

      Happy Birthday!
      That last scandal was so good, I am going to miss that show :(

      • SweetSass

        I am weeping at my desk. I can’t wait until September.

        • LMNOP

          I know, we should start a support group.

          During some of those awful 3 week breaks, I started to have Scandal-esque dreams, but with characters from real life and instead of the mole and defiance they were talking about stuff like sequestration, but it was all really dramatic and suspenseful. Maybe those dreams will come back to me and I’ll finally find out who killed Hillary Clinton…

          • SweetSass

            I had a Olitz dream last night. It was a heated one.

    • That Ugly Kid

      Happy Birthday.

    • http://www.styleillusions.com WIP

      happy birthday!

    • http://www.alltherightquestions.com T.Q. Fuego

      Happy Birthday Sass, have a blessed one

  • http://www.TheNewEve.com Bunni

    Funny thing, I made a comment about my disdain for bisexual decepticons (read: girls who pretend to be bi because a man,hurt their feelings)…and I was twitter ambushed by a mob of angry bisexuals….it was hilarious…they were more concerned with being mad that they weren’t even reading what I typed….I used that superpower I learned here at VSB, and gracefully bowed out….I learned that it’s sometimes like talking to a brick wall on these internets…

    You know they kept going for three hours after?? Silly heffalumps.

    Anyhoo, that’s how I, Bunni, employed VSB knowledge in my daily life :)

    • http://www.youtube.com/user/pervertedalchemist1 Perverted Alchemist

      “(read: girls who pretend to be bi because a man,hurt their feelings)…”

      There’s a lot of this going around here in the Auburn-Opelika (mostly Opelika area). You see women around here hitting switches more than Erick Sermon.)

      • Todd

        ROTFLMAO! The visual is having me dying laughing over here!

        • http://www.twitter.com/mcnairian5 McNairian

          Now I gotta do some Erick Sermon sangin! Heeeaay…I’m Errwick Thurrmunn…

          • http://www.youtube.com/user/pervertedalchemist1 Perverted Alchemist

            Heeeaaayyyyy!!!!! LOL!

      • CNotes

        LOL!!! (singing) So-ah-mazing….and I been way-tin.

    • http://commentarybyvalentina.wordpress.com/ Val

      Yeah, sometimes people already have an internal speech ready on certain topics. So, no matter the context of the conversation surrounding that topic, they just pull out that same old speech and use it.

      • Todd

        On top to that, I’ve noticed that some people are just hurt and angry at such-and-such group because of past issues with them. As a result, they will use ANY excuse to jump down that group’s throat, whether it’s something they honestly did wrong, or if they made the mistake of wearing white after Labor Day. There are some angry people on these e-streets.

        • http://commentarybyvalentina.wordpress.com Val

          Yep, I see that all the time. I think some people only seek out posts on those topics that they are in a tizzy about.

    • Kema

      I kinda see where the upset comes from. There are many women that like both but decide to only deal with men. After a few times of getting hurt by men they decide to go after their other interest. Of course others see it as…

      “Girls that pretend to be bi because a man hurt their feelings.”

      • IcePrincess

        Smh. Those girls are confused. Cutting off their nose to spite their face. Nobody should “play” with sexuality. It’s not nice. Pretty much you is or you ain’t. Bisexuality is, not always, but mostly, a crutch. Like, if a girl likes other girls physically, ok. But to get with another girl on some emotional/relationship type sh*t, just cuz a guy pissed you off, that’s dead wrong. I hope that didn’t happen to you, bunni. Maybe I’m just reading too much in to it….

        • Kema

          Maybe I shouldn’t say they switch because they hurt. But some can choose who to play with. This month might be all about girls while next month could be a dude month. I didn’t know there were rules to sexuality. So its not you are or you aren’t. Some people just do what they want and it may change. Nothing wrong with that IMO.

          • http://www.TheNewEve.com Bunni

            I agree, Kema…its perfectly fine to have seasons of attraction to a certain group….those folks i have no qualms with…its the ones who are BLATANTLY using women as a band-aid for their male pains…its almost as if they think they cant also be dogged out by a woman…everyone, male AND female, has the ability to break a heart; dont switch over to women just cuz you think we are safe…its farrrr from Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants lol

            • SweetSass

              Sistahood of the Traveling Yeast Infection?

              *PSA for dental dams.

              • http://www.TheNewEve.com Bunni

                GIRL!!! dental dams are essential

        • http://www.TheNewEve.com Bunni

          No, Ice, that didnt happen to me, but I HAVE experienced backlash from the great pretenders…they arent truly attracted to women, majority are just hurt and anything but lonely will do…meanwhile, ppl like me who are genuinely attracted to, and have had serious relationships with both men and women, have to face accusations that us bi ppl are just greedy, or indecisive, or confused, or promiscuous…too often have i heard the phrase “im not lesbian…but i like you” ….its like ugh, we’re not guinea pigs for your sexual experimentation lol

          • Wild Cougar

            Its about respect for people, period. If you are not gonna treat the person like you would want your body and your feelings treated, you need to leave them alone.

          • Rewind

            Unfortunately love, that’s comes with being a human. We are always going to be stereotyped and bunched into groups, then be labeled by the actions of a few. It isn’t fair, but trying to win that fight is pointless. Why would you even consider trying to PROVE a point by arguing when you could just prove it by LIVING? You mean what you say right? Your lifestyle and how you express it are representative of who you truly are, correct?

            So then you’re done. Stop worrying about insignificant details, stop trying to fight a fight that no one asked you to fight in the first place. Live your life in the way that reflects how you truly feel and want to be seen, and people will get the point. And if they don’t…is there really a reason to care about those people then? Nope.

            Come on girl,you better than that.

            • http://www.TheNewEve.com Bunni

              I know now, Rewind, I know now. Lol

              • Rewind

                *bear hugs you*

                Repeat after me.

                Bunni is awesome.

                Repeat it until after I make the t-shirts and collect royalties on them..then I’ll share.

                • http://www.TheNewEve.com Bunni

                  Youre a jarful of awesomesauce, Rewind :-)

      • Todd

        In my experience, there are that many truly bisexual people, male or female. With regard to women, it’s because they are either hurt by dudes, are trying to prove how freaky they are to some dude, or are so desperate for an 0rgasm andor validation as a sexy chic that they’ll get it how you live, male or female.

    • Todd

      Ah, the bisexual deception. I remember running into one back in my youth, from Harlem no less. I was hanging out with my bro and his peeps when there are this cute chick there, and we started to kick it. When I asked for those digits, she made this big point of saying she was a lesbian and showing her Colors in this necklace that was conveniently tucked into her shirt. I was disappointed, but I took the L and ran with it.

      About a year later, I ran into her AND HER BOYFRIEND. Apparently her dude was up North in jail, and the whole lesbian thing was her way of keeping loyal to dude, even if she got a little play on this side. *smh*

      Let us for a Gay-Straight Alliance Against Bisexual Deceptons. It will do the world a whole lot of good. :)

      • http://www.TheNewEve.com Bunni

        lol…..all I ask is that ppl are just honest to themselves and others…if youre straight, be straight….if youre gay, be gay….if youre bi, be bi…..but quit flip flopping btw extremes, you cant be straight today and bi tomorrow lol….DECEPTICONS!!!

        • Kema

          “you cant be straight today and bi tomorrow lol”

          But why cant you? Well of course that would mean you’re bi all the time but sometime decide to stick to one. I dont see why people have such a problem with it.

          • LMNOP

            I think some women might not even realize they are bi until they have put up with enough from men and decide to explore their options, and realize they are also attracted to women.

            • Kema

              Exactly!!!

    • Wild Cougar

      bisexual decepticons. I like it.

  • nillalatte

    LOL… PJ, you so funny. I know you know that Strawman is a legal term, right? You can do lots of stuff with Mr. Strawman. He holds the same concept in arguments — light a flame. LOL

    “I don’t believe not a gotdamn word some people say until I see what they look like” LMAO!!! For reals cuz? Wow… the only advice I can give you about that is never judge the book by it’s cover. Read it for the content. I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve heard from folks about me… “you don’t look like…” Surprise! Looks can be deceiving bruh. Trust. :)

    On what I’ve learned? Oh, there has been a lot and I am almost always amused and intrigued at the same time. I think some of the things folks share is honest and forthright even when it might be uncomfortable in other settings, I think they honestly express what’s on their mind and how they interpret their world. Some of that is pretty interesting, some frightening.

  • iamnotakata

    I have learned that a lot of people become activist, and “fake care” about a lot of things online. I just don’t ever be that into it….so I tend to come off harsh and insensitive. However I am rather frank and very insensitive in real life so, not so misleading for me.

    #3 I find to be true oddly lol.

    • http://www.saysmeblog.wordpress.com Aly

      I’ve seen a couple of people mention the “faux outrage” thing, and my question is… how do you know it’s fake? Unless you know them personally, which you don’t most of the time, how do you know that their feelings about a particular topic aren’t genuine?

      I think calling people’s outrage fake is dismissive… and that makes me mad, damm!t!! (<—- see, now THAT was fake outrage)

      • iamnotakata

        I was treading more on the lines of ex. xyz happens today….by Saturday they talking about turn up, and yolo or some other random stuff. Then Sunday abc happens they in twitter and FB battles again. But what about xyz? Where is the protest for that at again?…

        I understand being mad about something but taking it entirely too far then the next day or what not, you have forgotten about your cause…

        • Keisha

          People do this A LOT!!! :-/

        • http://www.TheNewEve.com Bunni

          A lot of ppl just care about things to be a part of the conversation….in real life they show zero f*cks about said cause

      • mena

        Sometimes you just know and the nets get people riled up one day for them to only forget the next day. I have definitely called out people on their fake outrage.

      • SweetSass

        I ask if they have ever been to a march or demonstration for that cause in real life? No? Then STFU.

        Most of these dudes who derail a conversation about violence against women by injecting their concerns about violence against men have done NOTHING in real life for violence against men. In fact, they didn’t think about it until a topic about violence against women comes up and because they are cretins they want to derail.

      • Rewind

        I’m with you Aly. I don’t really get why people assume “fake outrage”. What I do get is some people have spurts of heightened emotions. What mattered today won’t matter tomorrow. I don’t agree nor get that mind frame, but I can’t tell other people how to think. Besides…honestly those spurts are nothing more than emotional instability using a scapegoat to hide the real issue.

        If you sound like you’re going to pop a blood vessel because you can’t understand why 2 Chainz refuses to watch an episode of Scandal….your psychatrist probably don’t like you.