the official drink of the BAB
from the real world’s BBC (big breasted coral) to omarosa manigault-stallworth, the image of the “angry educated black woman” has become a fixture in modern day american culture. studied, discussed, debated, and caricatured, you almost can’t escape a day without reading some blog or watching some special focused on angry educated black women’s views on dating, racism, sexism or kim kardashian.
thing is, the non-stop attention paid to these belligerent and bookish broads has caused us to overlook and ignore a growing contingent in our communities, a group thats still growing like chinese gymnasts and spreading like the legs of vsb.com groupies california wildfires, the bitter-a** bastard.
acrimonious men who have allowed a few real or perceived minor slights to vindicate their displeasure with womanhood in general, there are bitter-a** bastards walking among us and angrily insisting dutch first dates as we speak, and and its our duty to locate and brand them before they continue to poison the already misty dating pool
so, without further ado, here’s three signs that you might be a bitter-a** bastard (BAB)
1. you’re proudly unchivalrous.
there’s nothing else that screams “i’m a bitter a** bastard” louder than a grown ass man who’s practically excited to get the opportunity to let everyone else know all the simple-ass sh*t they’d never do for a woman.
“pay for dinner??? trick, please. what i look like buying you appetizers and water and sh*t when you don’t even swallow??? plus, you make like 31g’s a year!!! you’re telling me you can’t afford to buy your own damn ice tea???”
look, i understand that it’s 2008 and that acf (annoyingly convenient feminism) combined with the gains women have made in the workforce has made male and female interaction increasingly complex. plus, with all the diseased free panties running the streets nowadays, why walk the extra mile for some “undeserving” chick when you can run a train in your basement?
yet, despite whatever argument you conceive, there’s still no justifiable explanation being this way. part of being a grown-up man is doing the right thing without any expectation of acknowledgment or reward, but a typical BAB will voluntarily and happliy relinquish a crucial component of his own manhood just because some janky broad or two didn’t immediately fellate him when he gave up his seat for her on the train seven years ago.
2. scapegoating is your friend
BABs love scapegoating and pigeonholing more than crackheads love home depot. words such as “all” and “every” always seem to find a way into their sentences when speaking negatively about the opposite sex, a common practice used by folks so blinded by bitterness that they can’t see how foolish a statement such as “all black women with master’s degrees give terrible bj’s” really is. ****editors note: although, with this example, he might have a point****
3. “bitter? me? hell no!!! not at all. I’m just a little more practical now, thats all”
theres nothing a BAB loathes more than actually admitting that he’s a BAB, a phenomenon which produces some of the most hilariously misguided attempts of synonym use known to man. from “practical” and “prudent” to “rational” and “realistic”, a typical BAB will have an endless supply of words and euphemisms that make his BAB-ness sound much less harsh
“i’m not bitter. far from it. i just tend to look at the entire idea of womankind in a perpetually jaundiced light, thats all.”
the first step in any type of healing process is acknowledging the fact that you actually do have a problem, but because BAB’s are typically reluctant to do this, its our patriotic duty to alert them ourselves. good people of vsb.com, its in your hands now.
i challenge you all to find one BAB today, look him dead in his beady eyes, and tell him to “man the hell up!!”. don’t let your country or your champ down.
–the champ
Umm, I know I have seen some BAB-esque comments here on VSB.com before! Come out come out wherever you are….
***looking around to see who is going to bite first, because i know i’ve seen those comments too!!***
Way to call ‘em out Liz.
Way to go!!!
LIZ…I was laughing and reading because several of VSB(AB’s) came to mind…this is either going to be a super-krunk day in the bloggerhood or there will be tumbleweeds blowing over our keyboards…LOL
ok? it’s mighty quiet around here. *mmhmm*
“LIZ…I was laughing and reading because several of VSB(AB’s) came to mind”
you know what, i don’t think we have too many BAB’s here, if any at all.
i could be wrong though. i havent been before, but, yanno, anything can happen
I thought the original name for this site -before real man whores- was Bitter-Ass Bastards. no?
“I thought the original name for this site -before real man whores- was Bitter-Ass Bastards. no?”
this was almost funny
I’m sending this link to a few BABs I know. Sad part about it, they won’t think the post is about them (see your#3)…lol
“I’m sending this link to a few BABs I know”
good job
“I challenge you all to find one BAB today, look him dead in his beady eyes, and tell him to “man the f**k up“. don’t let your country or your champ down.”
I called to leave a message but his vm said, “Yo, you’ve reached BAB. If you think I’m gonna buy you dinner because you’ve got a career, but aren’t puttin it down tonight just hang up…you’re part of the masses. And don’t hate…I ain’t bitter, just better! One!”
“I ain’t bitter, just better!”
this actually would be a great t-shirt
I ain’t bitter, just better!
I say this ALL THE TIME…he may be a BAB…but the brother has a way with words, no? lol…
I ain’t bitter, just better!
this is like the angry person mantra.
“I ain’t bitter, just better!
this is like the angry person mantra.”
especially if they add “b*tch” to the end of it
and I do…I add b*tch to the end of everything!! b*tch… LMAO
LMAO I do too….
This is pretty effin funny, and true. I think I teter on the line of BAB. I try to pass my reluctance to be chivalrous on “equal opportunity”. “You want my seat on the train lil lady? No! Equal opportunity!”
“You want me to cover this whole dinner when it was your idea to go out for food? Cover half! Equal opportunity!”
“I’m tired of bein on top! Equal opportunity!”
LMAO not equal opportunity!!! Well at least now you know and knowing is half the battle…..
“You want my seat on the train lil lady? No! Equal opportunity!”
lol…this made me choke on my toast
“You want my seat on the train lil lady? No! Equal opportunity!”
Wow. You should be proud of yourself.
::full sarcasm intended::
ok…I ain’t mad at you Slim…lol…you should give up the seat on the train…and be clear about who’s paying before you hit the door…but the “on top”-ness…hell nah! she’s just being lazy! Women’s Lib and sh*t…do you know how long women had to be on the bottom? Now when they finally get a chance to saddle up, they get “tired”…our for-mothers got rode hard and hung up wet…now it’s our turn to mount up, put an arch in your back, and make him say your name!!! THAT is the kind of feminism a sister can get behind…LOL
***joking (but only a little) lighten up and sh*t***
“our for-mothers got rode hard and hung up wet”
i never understood the meaning of this saying. can somebody please break it down for me?
It’s an old saddle term.
Better yet…here ya go.
http://www.phrases.org.uk/bulletin_board/7/messages/597.html
http://www.phrases.org.uk/bulletin_board/7/messages/597.html
old horse saying.
here’s what I found for ya…
: What does this mean and where did it come from? Please settle this argument.
: Rode hard and put up wet. It refers to riding a horse “hard” to exhaustion and putting him up “wet,” rather than brushing him off and cooling him down. Or whatever one does with a sweaty horse.
We’ll, that’s exactly what one does with a horse that has been “rode hard.” See to the horse’s needs before one’s own needs. The phrase implies that an emergency occurred, and that once the horse had responded beyond normal expectations, it was abandoned.
As currently used, it means that something was used very hard to accomplish an objective, and then thrown aside because it was no longer immediately useful
haha.. This is funny. I’ve been unchivalrous before. Of course, that’s been years ago. I retired my BAB membership long ago!
“I retired my BAB membership long ago!”
do you still pay membership dues?
LOL that’s funny at first I thought you were going to write a post on the BAB (!tch) so I am glad to see this topic being addressed. I have come across a few of these dudes in my day. I came across a whole lot of these guys when I had that virginitis. I mean do you really think I waited all this time to drop it off because you walked me home from the cafe or let me use your card to get a stale a$$ little ceaser personal pizza ? I digress…now that I am married I hear it more than I experience it and whats suprising is that the majority of these men are married. I know at least 80% of these dudes are flog at large but man I feel sorry for the women that deal with that 20%
virginitis?
you ain’t never heard of virginitis? a severe deficiency of vitamin “D”…
deficiency…lol
vitamin D Muther Frogger D!!! LMAO
Shade takes a load off:
“LOL that’s funny at first I thought you were going to write a post on the BAB(!tch)”
morning luv. i can feel u saying “whew!”
…and if by “(!tch)” you mean “Bitter As*ed B*tches/women”, you are absolutely right. i don’t think Chuamp intended to right about “Bitter As*sed” women.
Shayd it wasn’t hard for you to feel the true essence of the piece and feel some relief that his post was NOT really about Bitter As*ed Women.
Champu sir i don’t think u were willing to man up to ur truer feelings and place ur expression fully and flatly there. why not fella?
u start out adressing “Bitter ass Women” too, as i feel, a “Bitter As*ed “attempt to mask ur true agenda. it was a thinly veiled attempt to appear even handed, fair and balance etc. etc.
no doubt some including Champ himself might argure to the contrary. ladies and gentlemen of the court i direct you to the 600 or so words devoted to men who are Bitter as*ed bastards versus the 100 or so mentioned about the “Bitter ass Bi*ch [es].” hmmmm. …and if that’s not enuf notice the pointed accusations that might make men “Bitter as*ed Bastards if:
1. “you’re proudly unchivalrous.”
3. “bitter? me? hell no!!! not at all. I’m just a little more practical now, thats all”
no such pointed examples are given of the “Bitter” women
…and Chaumps call to action. why?
“i challenge you all to find one BAB today, look him dead in his beady eyes, and tell him to “man the f**k up“. don’t let your country or your champ down.”
such strong talk (passion i luv it!) in ur call for action. however the 1st part of ur piece was “wanna be deceptive and easily detectable. VSB is NOT Fox News and you’re not Bill O’Reilly or Sean Hannity. i can see thru their bollix as well.
u sir should man thefu*kup and say what u really mean not cloaked in a very transluscent membrane of gelatinous piss. Take ur own advice and recognize:
“the first step in any type of healing process is acknowledging the fact that you actually do have a problem
u watered down the strength of a potentially more powerful piece by appearing to confuse and compromise ur truer thoughts with subterfuge, sullied with ruse and cheap tricks.
i challenge u sir to be more true to urself and quit being so douche-lamatic. this was true house nicca behavior and i sir am a field negro. if you’re gonna try ur hand at being or appearing balanced this was a feeble attempt. ur real slant screamed thru. come on dude. ur passions sold u out on this one.
u know how people like to play with screen names here and I’d hate to have people take the “a” out of ur alias and replace it with a “u”.
u sir should man thefu*kup and say what u really mean not cloaked in a very transluscent membrane of gelatinous piss.
u watered down the strength of a potentially more powerful piece by appearing to confuse and compromise ur truer thoughts with subterfuge, sullied with ruse and cheap tricks.
u know how people like to play with screen names here and I’d hate to have people take the “a” out of ur alias and replace it with a “u”.
GK.. I read this with my mouth hanging wide open…I am in shock and awe…this was the most scathing, un-profane, “hit duck quacking” rant I have ever read…and yet, as lingua-phile, I am aroused by your usage, word selection, imagery and phrasing. When I read this post, I “thunk” of you…won’t lie about it…but oddly enough, I don’t consider you a BAB…not sure why or why not…but I had to put that out there…because it felt a little personal to me…still e-love you genie…speak easy…
u sir should man thefu*kup and say what u really mean not cloaked in a very transluscent membrane of gelatinous piss.
*Claps hands like a casino dealer*
I’m done…no mas…
this is funny!!!!
“gelatinous piss”
This would be a great band name.
so are you saying this whole post is the equivalent of The Champ putting on a crocheted skull cap and singing a hip hop ballad like Common in The Light…was this just a post he wrote to please the b*tches? say it ain’t so…
Patt surmises:
“[am i saying] …this whole post is the equivalent of The Champ putting on a crocheted skull cap and singing a hip hop ballad like Common in The Light…was this just a post he wrote to please the b*tches?
no not really, u raised the question. i’m saying that he perhaps should have said what he meant without the attempt at even-handedness when i doubt that even handedness was his more genuine felling to express.
however ur (Miss Pattersons’) observation is interesting. [that Chaump may be pandering to the ladies] nothing wrong with that necessarily. fox news like Champu knows his audience and is of the train of thought that he caters to in some instances. if ur gonna do that get to it. it’s mostly anonymous here. no ones gonna get fired for speaking their true feelings. (no faces, no real names unless u choose to reveal.)
in the effort to understand one another [male to female] we here at vsb can speak directly but if you wanna play fair and balanced do a better job [...and Chuamp is more than capable] this was easy to see thru like house nicca behavior.
laugh with me now.
heh, heh, heh, (inhales) whooooo!
i figured i’d get a comment or ten today from some who felt that i was being unproportionally harsh on us (men) with this entry. to that i present the following:
http://www.verysmartbrothas.com/get-off-the-wagon/
http://www.verysmartbrothas.com/the-v-test/
http://www.verysmartbrothas.com/ms-masochistic-part-2/
http://www.verysmartbrothas.com/ms-masochistic/
http://www.verysmartbrothas.com/ebs-the-human-body-snatchers/
i’m agenda-less here, and will give it to both sexes (no homo, lol) if need be. as you can see, my resume speaks for itself. this is part of what makes me, and noone else, the champ.
i’m not saying that you haven’t ever given it to both sides just as hard. (wow that sounded gay/bi but not intended to be) LOL! yes you are more than capable. …but the thinly veiled attempt today could have been left out all together to make for a more poignant piece.
it was easy to tell that you didn’t genuinely want to express the female Bitter B*tches story. (nothing wrong with that) don’t stifle urself homey let it flow and dam who don’t like it. apathy is ur enemy not hate. if your gonna assume the position of fair and balanced reporter, do a better job.
as u see some didn’t even notice the 1st part and others were relieved that u didn’t continue with the 1st part. let it be what it is. it was a great provocative post, sure to compell vigorous trading but it got watered down with the first part.
disingenuous
“it was easy to tell that you didn’t genuinely want to express the female Bitter B*tches story.”
hmmm. two things
1. i included the piece about angry black chicks not because i was “teasing” or trying to make a subtle point…but because it was 1:00am and i couldnt think of another intro to segue into the main point. the first two paragrpahs were actually the last things i wrote before i hit “publish”
2. even if i did want to expound, i already covered it here…
http://www.verysmartbrothas.com/ebs-the-human-body-snatchers/
…making another entire entry devoted to that topic redundant
with that being said, i do appreciate your attempt at constructive criticism. you get a b for effort, at least
LMAO at the inclusion of ‘no homo’.
dude, i still e-love you too, but dayum that was harsh. i personally believe champ was ON POINT with this post…because these men DO exist, trust me. or ask any of my sistas on here that have dealt with them…they are REAL!
I think Champ did his thing. I saw the inclusion of a few lines about BAB*tches as an appropriate set up for his post: everybody talks about BAB*tches, well i’m about to talk about BAB*stards.
Nothing about it felt like a cop-out to me…it was clear from the jump that he was here to talk about the fellas today, not the ladies.
j boogz I’m not saying these men don’t exist I’m calling into question Champs half hearted attempt at even handedness. He hasn’t felt he NEEDED to do it before and when he has he did a much better (genuine) job.
“these men DO exist, trust me. or ask any of my sistas on here that have dealt with them”
*Nodding head in agreement* I’ve been very fortunate not to deal with these guys, but my sister and friends have. I hear the stories all of the time. The Champ was on point with this post!
So…I’ve heard horror stories about these types of guys but I’ve actually been extremely lucky NOT to have run across one in my personal life. Those of you who have dealt with BABs should be canonized. My hats off to you.
..be glad you haven’t come across one- I have…and lets just say they take some years off your game..BAN ( Bitter Azz Nuccas) …man up or go lay in yo’ mamas lap !
“all black women with master’s degrees give terrible bj’s” really is. ****editors note: although, with this example, he might have a point****”
As a black woman with a master’s degree, I can tell you…this fictional he ain’t got a point.
Point Taken!
“As a black woman with a master’s degree, I can tell you…this fictional he ain’t got a point.”
“i dont believe you/you need more people”
Champ: Your reply made me choke on my pancakes.
I can only speak for myself; can’t vouch for the other black women with master’s degrees. But, I have received many cheers and no complaints. You’ll need to take my word on this one, lol.
Not only do I have a MBA but also a MBJ (Masters of Blow Jobs). True Story!
That title was also bestowed on me by one appreciative individual.
LMAO @ ur MBJ! Just chocked on my gummy flintstone vitamins.
LMAO! flinstone vitamins rule! and yeah, a little apple juice almost came out my nose on that MBJ title too. so, what happens when we get a doctorate??
well i’ll be graduating with my BA next year, and i have had no complaints whatsoever. should i expect my game to decline once I hit grad school? i need answers.
Well heck, I’m in the process of getting the masters now…and my game was tight long before I got the BS. It DOESN’T decline, girl…
They call it Brain for a reason Champ.
<—dusts off her master’s degree.
And the point goes to Liz.
Good one!
Sounds like a t-shirt to me!
LIZ…THANK YOU…I was thinking the same thing!!
you can’t get bad brains from a smart b*tch…it’s a contradiction in terms!
“you can’t get bad brains from a smart b*tch…it’s a contradiction in terms”
LOL knowing how to read is mutually exclusive from knowing how to SUPERhead.
I think us SMART VeeEssBeeians are just well-rounded like that so we can be both BRAINS that give good BRAINS.
lol
C’mon ladies. We all know if it’s good, you don’t need to brag.
Degrees have nothing to do with skills.
Either you have it, or you don’t.
Wasn’t bragging. I just don’t want dudes going around thinking “oh. she went to school. She gives bad brain.”
lol.
“you can’t get bad brains from a smart b*tch…it’s a contradiction in terms!”
lol…although this statement is completely inaccurate, it still made me cough up my beer-battered shrimp
“They call it Brain for a reason Champ.”
as in some of y’all can use it…not do it?
“They call it Brain for a reason Champ”
Good one Liz!
I must admit that this is not my forte at all……
I’m sorry … and don’t take this as my inner BAB showing … but Champ has a point.
When your younger and “uncultured” you attack such tasks with veracity and reckless abandonment.
One the master’s is bestowed its suddenly “stop grabbing my hair” and “done yet”. In addition to “my knees … thats degrading!”.
But don’t let me deter any educational pursuits. Small price to pay I say!
ROTF @ ““my knees … thats degrading!”.”
**Standing Ovation** Thank you Champ for writing this.
I always knew there were some bitter men out there I just never had a name for them.
This blog was written because men are more sensitive than women. Once they get hurt or preceive that they have been taken advantage of, they turn into BAB. When this happens to female, they tell all their girls to vent and move on, not men! Men shut down, put up the wall and change their entire way of dating to assure that they never feel the hurt again. Show me a BAB and I’ll show you his bi**cha**ness.
Thanks again for writing this. You guys always make me so proud 
“Men shut down, put up the wall and change their entire way of dating to assure that they never feel the hurt again”
Speak that truth girl!!! BAB’s need to realize everyone gets hurt sometimes, you just need to accept it and try to minimize it by dating smart and choosing wisely WITHOUT turning into a BAB. It can be done…ask a woman! (okay, okay not any woman, but the right ones).
Thanks chica!
“This blog was written because men are more sensitive than women.”
eh, i wouldnt say this.
really. You gotta ask what kind of men fit this criteria…then you have to ask are they really men. Men are sensitive to some things but more sensitive than women on a whole?…naw
Deev’s is cogent:
“Men are sensitive to some things but more sensitive than women on a whole?…naw”
Salute!
Men are sensitive to the big picture it seems. Women come off as being more sensitive than men because they focus on all the little things. Women get their heart broken, cry and keep it moving. They also continue to date the same a**hole type wondering why things aren’t different. Men get their heart broken and they change their lifestyle, the type they date, etc. Now who is really sensitive?!?!?!
Women get their heart broken, cry and keep it moving. They also continue to date the same a**hole type wondering why things aren’t different. Men get their heart broken and they change their lifestyle, the type they date, etc. Now who is really sensitive?!?!?!
based on what you’re saying, it sounds like men are smart…and women are…insane?
isn’t the definition of insanity doing shit OVER AND OVER expecting different results?
and i also don’t think women necessarily “keep it moving”. not to say its all women, but quite a few women manage to never quite get over shit…e.v.e.r.
“based on what you’re saying, it sounds like men are smart…and women are…insane?”
This produced a very loud laugh that started deep in my gut.
“based on what you’re saying, it sounds like men are smart…and women are…insane?
isn’t the definition of insanity doing shit OVER AND OVER expecting different results?”
hmmm, ms ivy, i think p got you on this one.
I don’t think that men are smarter and women are insane. There are other underling factors here that aren’t being addressed. In that the self-esteem issues that many women have, men don’t have as a result of nurturing environment, up bringing, society, gender roles… the list goes on and on. So the fact that guys may see the larger picture could be that they lack the ability to see the importance of the little things and as a result treat everything the same. So when a different scenerio arises that may be similar to previous scenerios, they aren’t able to weed out the fine points in order to make a new decision at a new distant time. This idea may need a little more thought. I thought I’d throw it out there while I take a break from thnking about… the little things.
Panama … I think that is the definition.
And I agree, they don’t just “move on”. The next man will hear about how all guys are not B**ch A$$ N****s as a result of this one guy.
@Ivy. PREACH sistah
& even still Ivy st. women; multiple same relationship & break up men; one relationship and break up men<women emotionally speaking
Ummm, I would and I did
show me a BAB and I’ll show you a jerk with misdirected anger…. and there are lots out there!
**stigmata** but you sound a lil like their female counterpart. (with the blanket statement) @ the same token they may be men w/ low emotional iq… or even emotionally lazy.
Having two brothers, I definitely do not think men are more sensitive than women. But, I have witnessed first hand just how bad one chick can mess a guy up. Maybe women are gluttons for punishment and thrive on pain, but some of us seem to be able to maintain some level of faith that “the next one” will work out. Guys take a bit longer to get serious again after a ‘substantial’ relationship bites the dust.
I have 2 brothers as well, and they are far from sensitive.
They are on the other side of the spectrum bordering on pure d. azzholeishness.
yeah i tend to agree with what you’re saying V.E.G. i’ve been done grimey by a chick or two, and it turned me into straight SuperHo. i turned asshole on some no feelings type sh*t.
Yeah. A guy gets out of a 2 year relationship that ended badly for him. He spends the next 2 years “getting his stroke back” with random, nameless chicks.
“Guys take a bit longer to get serious again after a ’substantial’ relationship bites the dust”
this is true, but theres a distinct difference between “licking your wounds” and “being a bitter ass bastard”.
Men are WAAYYYY more sensitive than women. I say it all the time – Men could NOT endure half of the shyt that women go through – from the tweezing/waxing of eyebrows, to childbirth, to rejection, to Braizilian waxes, to being hit on by trollops. Pretty much any and everything
Now THAT I agree with. When I want someone to get tough, I say WOMAN up…it takes real strength to bleed 3-7 days (depending on your cycle) each month for years on end, have children and all the other stuff that comes with being female. Most men would assume the fetal positions if they had to go through what we go through.
Amen!
Men b*tch and moan when they have a damn COLD! There is a reason why women are the ones who go thru childbirth. Humankind would b EXTINCT right now if it were men’s responsibility.
So true. Lol.
Interesting thing I’ve noticed: a man will whine and complain while he is sick, be unable to do ANYTHING, including clean up his own vomit, but will still try to freak you down. lol.
“a man will whine and complain while he is sick, be unable to do ANYTHING, including clean up his own vomit, but will still try to freak you down. lol.”
Yeah a snotty nose and red eyes is NOT sexy. Recover first, FREAK later.
you mean you never had a zombee ceks fantasy lol they love brain lol
hm…not to be nitpicky…but what does ANY of that have to do with being sensitive so much as its a higher threshold of pain?
and i’d also like to mention that short of childbirth and menstruation, all of that other shit is largely of your own doing…
and being hit on by trollops? shucks…me and the champ get hit on by trollops at least 8.3 times a day.
we VSB!
True…we CHOOSE to allow some old Russian lady to bend us over, pour hot wax down our butt cracks and yank out the hair.
But I don’t hear y’all complaining when we get it done. And some of y’all get pi$$y when we miss an appointment. Men helped create the (now hairless) monsters that you call modern-day women.
“hm…not to be nitpicky…but what does ANY of that have to do with being sensitive so much as its a higher threshold of pain?
and i’d also like to mention that short of childbirth and menstruation, all of that other shit is largely of your own doing…
and being hit on by trollops? shucks…me and the champ get hit on by trollops at least 8.3 times a day.
we VSB!”
and to add on to p’s statement, we deal with rejection much, much, much better than you all ever do.
@Champ. I disagree. The man ego is a serious thing and men cannot deal with rejection. Hence, when anything happens causes the rejection a man will change his entire process or way of thinking to make sure he never feels that rejection again. Men are scared of rejection. Hell, since we are are bashing men today let me just put it out there. Men are truly wimps and fear pain and rejection.
I agree that men could never endure the pains a female encounters. Hence why they are men.
I disagree kinda with your statement…. I think most humans in general can’t handle rejection, how you cope is what makes the difference in your degree of BAB-ness, I mean a lot of us women don’t deal with it particularly well I must admit
“I disagree. The man ego is a serious thing and men cannot deal with rejection. Hence, when anything happens causes the rejection a man will change his entire process or way of thinking to make sure he never feels that rejection again. Men are scared of rejection”
if men were scared of rejection, then women would never get approached, we’d never ask for numbers, we’d never call after getting said number, we’d never make date plans, we’d never pay for said outing, we’d never invite women to our cribs so they cant see our “collection of exotic hangers” in person, we’d never attempt to bone said woman while in said apartment, and, since this is the exact scenario that accounts for at least 62 percent of all pregnancies, life on earth would cease to exist.
in summary: we deal with potential rejection on a daily basis because without it, we’d all be dead.
i hate to admit it, but the mans got a point.
i think the champ has got a point…men are constantly turned down by women and they still walk right up and talk to that next one. i gotta admire that!
“Once they get hurt or perceive that they have been taken advantage of, they turn into BAB.”
I agree with this statement Elenda. We (women) are much more likely to put our heart on the line again (and repeatedly) than a man who has been hurt. we have our special way of processing old hurt/baggage but we’ll still love again, but most men i know become instant BABs after they’ve been shot in the heart… i can think of about 10 brothas right off the top of my head that qualify for this title.
“we have our special way of processing old hurt/baggage but we’ll still love again, but most men i know become instant BABs after they’ve been shot in the heart… i can think of about 10 brothas right off the top of my head that qualify for this title.”
thing is (to our own credit), while women might take these issues into relationship after relationship, a scorned dude isn’t gonna do that. he’ll continue to fly solo (sans for occasional back-breaking) until he knows he’s ready to put himself out there again.
the main difference between a BABastard and a BAB*tch is that at least the bastard has the decency not to try to have any serious committments with anyone.
“the main difference between a BABastard and a BAB*tch is that at least the bastard has the decency not to try to have any serious committments with anyone.”
I will give you that one, Champ.
“I will give you that one, Champ.
give? ha. i took that sh*t, lol
@Miss P. As soon as men admit they do this they will be better off. Self reflection truly works!
LOL!! Even though men are sensitive creatures, I wouldn’t say that men are more sensitive than women , but with anything that has developed a deep emotional involvement (friendship or romantic relationship), it is hard to let go, especially when you allowed someone to have a part of you that they kept asking for and you weren’t ready to give and they refused to reciprocate. Plus, we aren’t going to sit over to another guys house and cry on their shoulders while drinking Rieslings and deleting old photos!! It may take a minute or two, but we move on!!
As for me and my recent breakup, there are unanswered questions that I had and still have that I know will never be answered because if she was dishonest and secretive during the relationship, then she will be the same evasive person afterward, if not more. I wrote my release, said my goodbyes and moved on!!
And as usual, the only side to the story that is shared is the version of the person who tells it. The truth is nowhere involved!! Now the characteristics mentioned above have never been displayed by me and never will!! I look forward to the next opportunity for love, but you know I am all about the lust!! Besides, if all my relationships went smoothly, what would I have to write about??
“Besides, if all my relationships went smoothly, what would I have to write about??”
right. and we’d be out of business
Does anyone know how to leave a GROUP VOICEMAIL? i have at least 10 people I need to tell today to “man the fugg up”! Oh and women with master’s degrees .. give great lollies. thank you very much!
“Does anyone know how to leave a GROUP VOICEMAIL?”
ask liz. shes the conference call ho, so she should know
why she got to be a ho? can’t she be the conference call PIMP? I mean really a ho?
**SMH**
Hedo men can be ho’s too. don’t be so sensitive. it’s like saying mankind, it includes women too.
he was just using a pop culture cliche like:
“clothes ho/w*ore”
although maybe first inspired by a woman but also used to describe a man with a fetish for clothes.
try it sometime u may like it.
snarky but i likes it!
@Genius. I agree. Women and black people get so damns sentitive when it comes to being a called B***, Ho** and N****s. JS
Genius love, I wasn’t being sensitive.
I totally agree with you about the gender neutrality of those terms, however my girl Liz is a woman and therefore was questioning the bottom status he gave her, I mean I know Liz and if anything she prolly the conference call pimp and not a b*tch at all.
“why she got to be a ho? can’t she be the conference call PIMP? I mean really a ho?
**SMH**”
lol…ask her yourself. she knows why.
ROFL!!!!
IH: Unbeknownst to you, The Champ calls me “the conference call whore” because I am ALWAYS on a conference call LOL. I can’t help it, I stay busy.
aaaaaaaaah! not the conference call ho!! WOW! that was just wrong! LMAO
-I don’t even pay tolls.
-I don’t pay attention.
-I’m not pulling out your seat for you. Your arm isn’t broken.
-You want me to pay for this food? I wanted to eat pb&jay at the crib. I could’ve ate leftovers. I dobn’t even like cheesecake.
-I can’t grab that bag for you. I injured my arm in a sliding board accident in 83. Doc says I shouldnt lift anything that weighs more than I feel like carrying. You should’ve packed lighter.
-I let you sip on my kool aid. I demand immediate fellashment.
-Pick you up from work? The bus aint running?
-You aint goin? Wassup with your girl then?
I don’t consider myself a BAB. I’m just a hater. I did this for the sheer comedy of it. I have since retired from active duty hating and I now only hate on a part time basis. Eff you all.
“I’m just a hater.
i think today’s gonna be a great t-shirt day
I’d rock it to CHURCH! lol
Do NOT get on this site and act like you go to church.
I’d go to chuch if I had this shirt. I’d even stay awake during the sermon.
SHARRAP!! ijot
I’d like to get that shirt and give it as a gift to some folks,
.
@Champ. Can I get the hater t-shirt for the classic weekend coming to the A in September please!?!?!
“I did this for the sheer comedy of it. I have since retired from active duty hating and I now only hate on a part time basis. Eff you all.”
LOL!!!! I hope this way comedy, because I had some comments for yo’ arse.
I only hate on a part-time basis.
That’s a t-shirt.
please unleash your commentary
I was just gonna say that you don’t anything, but I’m sure still expect to get booty…
throat punch for you.
I am me. Nothing else needs to be done. God has already done enough.
You make me smile.
DEVIANT…a damn fool! I appreciate your comedic effort here…I am sniggling to tears…
“FELLASHMENT”???? (insert Ice Cube impression) YAYEE YAYEE!! killing me I tell you…I’m dead…
“FELLASHMENT”????
yeah, this was a classic
I think we all go through a hateresque season in our lives.. exhibit A above …if you dont do something with the bitterness..where does it go ? But why cant we all just get along and live by the golden rule…??workout-get a hobby-learn something..
For some hating on the weak/lesser beings is/was an enjoyable hobby. Eff you all with a blunt brick.
I think this is what Dave Chapelle meant when he said he was a genetic dissenter.
I think I have/had the same problem. I possess malice for no man but I feel/felt compelled to go the other way when I feel/felt the situation calls/called for it. I don’t feel it is/was hating tho. When I do/did it, it is/was warranted except when it isn’t warranted.
i.e. I dont really care about Phelps. He got 8 golds… whoo hoo. Its swimming. In a month no one will care cause we will be watching football. I fould Bolt from Jamaica more entertaining. He was showing off and still set a world record. That is an accomplishment. I could give a sh!t about Aquaman.
I’d say you have a keen nose for BS and can’t stand people’s pink elephants.
Who knows maybe they will care cuz he may go Greg Lugainus on em. Prolly have some revenge of the nerds xplanation reguarding his form like when they gave Lamar a flexible javelin to throw.
I don’t expect anything for my chivalry, but I do respect reciprocity. Hey, I have standards. There’s only so many times I’m going to open the door for a woman without receiving a “thank you”. I’ll definitely pay for a date but if we’re just in the “getting-to-know-each other” phase, don’t expect a five-star restaurant, rose petals, and the such. Pretty much we’re “getting-to-know-each other”. If a man is willing to bend over backwards for a chick (stranger) he really don’t know then he’s a sucker and chicks recognize that trait at some point…after they’ve gotten their free drink from him…lol.
**SIDNOTE: Thinking about it, that’s probably why I don’t buy random chicks drinks and sh*t if I’m out and about. I extend charity because of the cause, not a person’s selfish need (read: someone who REALLY needs some help as oppose to random thirsty ass females who think their femininity entitles them to free drinks…on me..lol)That’s like buying a stripper a rose when you’re in the strip club…WTF!!END SIDENOTE**
Once we’ve established a repore and know that we like each other (based on more than just physical attraction), THAT’S when the other stuff comes in.
Am I a BAB for that? If so, then like Reggie Noble says, “I’ll Be That”…lol.
My relationship golden rule is (as I’ve said before), “I treat a b*tch like a queen / But she gotta realize I’m the got damn king”-Scarface on Geto Boys’ “Gangster Of Love”.
you had me at “I do respect reciprocity” but then lost me at “I treat a b*tch”…
you had too see the humor in a line like “I treat a b*tch like a queen”
Mr Scarface…a modern day Kafka
Indeed he is…
“That’s like buying a stripper a rose when you’re in the strip club…WTF!!”
This line is hilarious!!!
Reciprocity is key. I think you keep from slipping into BABdom if you don’t let the door slam in the next woman’s face just cause the last one didn’t say thank you.
“I think you keep from slipping into BABdom if you don’t let the door slam in the next woman’s face just cause the last one didn’t say thank you.”
good point. and really, is opening a door that big of a deal? i mean, of course you’d like a asspeak or flash or something, but even if you dont get one of those, is that really a reason to not continue to open doors?
a flash of booty for opening a door? Does not seem like a fair trade to me.
how is that not fair?
Imma need you to help me move furniture or change my oil before you get to see the glutes, man. Something I’d have a difficult time doing myself and didn’t feel like paying anyone cash to do for me.
what if I made some really good Kool Aid? My Kool Aid is flash-worthy.
An asspeek huh? All this time i thought ‘thank you’ was enough, but maybe i’ll try it Champ. Maybe i’ll try it.
“An asspeek huh? All this time i thought ‘thank you’ was enough, but maybe i’ll try it Champ. Maybe i’ll try it.”
thats all it takes. a couple asspeaks and you’ll never hafta open a door again in your life
You just got mad points for quoting Redman & The Geto Boys in the same post.
Love it mayne!!!
I was gonna say this same thing myself…but I’ll just co-sign with my girl!
Also see Willie D, “Clean Up Man” and Geto Boys “I’m not a Gentleman”.
You made me YouTube “Clean up Man”…been a long time since I heard that one!
Hee-hee!!!
Too bad I couldn’t find “I’m not a Gentleman” on youtube.
He’s a real dyck on that song…lol
MONK…I got a few kwersthcuns…
you buy drinnks for chicks out of charity…meaning she needed a free drink not that she was a “thirsty” broad…I am lost on the difference, or maybe I am just lost on how you can tell the difference…(shrugging)
I understand that buying roses for strippers in strip clubs is bad…but what if they are buying them for me? lol
you had me at the Reggie Noble reference I LOVE that song! (although I think he and METH are closet booty pals)
(although I think he and METH are closet booty pals)
Blasphemy!!!! lol
you had me at the Reggie Noble reference I LOVE that song! (although I think he and METH are closet booty pals)
Goodie!!! I luvs ya, I swear I do, but somethings gotta give man. Reggie Noble and Meth all in one statement!!! You wrong sistah wrong.
I guess my reaction is because I thought it myself a couple of times but quickly banned that line of thinking cause it makes me sad. Not Reggie not red nooooooo!!!!!!
T-Lee and Nut…whatever…Red and Meth is just teh hip hop version of Luther and Teddy P!! yeah I said it…and I am sticking to it!
Oh no you didn’t!!!
Monk says:
“That’s like buying a stripper a rose when you’re in the strip club…WTF!!”
LMBAO!!!!
death to a womans “sense of entitlement”
without it i give you the world, with it i give thee the finger.
GK…you work that “entitlement” into a comment (or 4) er’day…lol…my workday is not complete without it…but I gotta ask…if you ignore the existence of said “entitlement”, wouldn’t it’s value as a deal-breaker decrease? like “behaving as though it were” kind of thing? if you don’t give the sisters you meet that seem to have it, the power of acknowledgment to “use” it…then it’s a null concept, verdad?
“if you ignore the existence of said “entitlement”, wouldn’t it’s value as a deal-breaker decrease? like “behaving as though it were” kind of thing? if you don’t give the sisters you meet that seem to have it, the power of acknowledgment to “use” it…then it’s a null concept, verdad?”
damn. this question was all complex and sh*t.
@Good. Man, you always gotta start talking like a chick with 15 degrees!!! You just made my head hurt. Write on a 8th grade level until after 2 pm (EST) please.
“@Good. Man, you always gotta start talking like a chick with 15 degrees!!! You just made my head hurt. Write on a 8th grade level until after 2 pm (EST) please.”
or at least until after ive had my toast and tea
I’m sorry Elenda (and Champ) I can’t help myself…big words are sexy to me…I talk when I type so it feels good to say intellectual sh*t…it’s like mouth sex without the messy cleanup… LOL…ok for real…I will make an effort…no promises though, but I will try!
@Monk. WOW! “That’s like buying a stripper a rose when you’re in the strip club…WTF!!”
HAD ME LMFAO!
I love VSB!
Way to go Monk this shyt right here yigna this shyt right here. Is like mother fuggin FO REEEEl. I’m strait up w/U on the charity tip too. Sometimes I want everybody @ my party to be having a good time or what ever kinda time I’m having. And sometimes my charity has to be extended to a party of two. I’m w/U on the don’t bake em a 17 tier wedding jawn. After all how the heck you plan on topping that @ anaversary time or something else we happen to wanna make special like. Unlike you I do so expect something back from my chivalry. I expect experience w/ taking care of my lady. Like I’m only gonna mess w/ the prototype N E way since perfect practice makes perfect then I’ll be anita bakerin (giving her the best that I got) my ole lady when ever I meet her. After all the chivalry is to help keep her spirits up when she carrying my seed son. Don’t want no excuses when he or she come out. Man w/ the music reference I feel like we strait grew up together.
I prefer this beer. This is the fuel I run on. It’ll get you drunk.
http://www.arrogantbastard.com/
that is just funny @ Deviant. I love the arrogant animation.
is this worksafe?
uh I dunno honestly.
Beer is never worksafe either injested or on the computer I think. lol
I have come accross some of these men in my past three years of dating but fortunately they have not been the majority of my dating experience. Most of the men I have dated have been chivalrous, considerate, and paid for all meals. I have also reciprocated or offered, some of them refused to allow me to pay, (all or half or even the tip when I have offered), but I always offer after the 2nd date and I only offer once per date.
I would forward this to the BAB’s I have dated but unfortunately I have deleted their phone number, oh well
“but fortunately they have not been the majority of my dating experience.”
that another thing i wanted to mention. most men aren’t BAB’s. i think that most of us know the basics at least, and dont have a problem with doing them.
I agree, most men aren’t. But the ones that are are so unfortunately memorable!
BABs everywhere make the world a miserable place, but all BABs just get lumped into the male chauvenist category and disregarded. thank you for calling them out! all the men that have a problem with this blog are BABs themselves.
i want to start a movement entitled “We Dont Give a Eff if you are a black man with a college degree and a house. youre still a d-head, and no i wont fellate you.” lol.
i guess BABs have the exact same attiudes as ABWs
“i want to start a movement entitled “We Dont Give a Eff if you are a black man with a college degree and a house. youre still a d-head, and no i wont fellate you.” lol.”
i think you need to edit the title of this movement down a bit, lol. thats a long ass sounding movement
I am all for the movement but it needs a catchy nickname. Something that will fit on bumper stickers and t-shirts and can easily be mentioned during the :10 second sound bite we are sure to get during the morning drive radio shows on college stations.
“i want to start a movement entitled “We Dont Give a Eff if you are a black man with a college degree and a house. youre still a d-head, and no i wont fellate you.” lol.”
You’re my kinda girl.
We can call it “Your degree ain’t ish. You’re still an Ass” movement. Catchier?
Likes…I’d support it!
I like that too.
You know I need that one for my X.
@J-boogie. I’m on board too.
@Luvvie. How about “Your house is empty and your still an A-hole?”
ha!!!!!
LMAO Elenda. I can dig it!
i want to start a movement entitled “We Dont Give a Eff if you are a black man with a college degree and a house. youre still a d-head, and no i wont fellate you.” lol.
Here here. I think we should wear t-shirts that say
I won’t suck because you do
THAT is the title of a movement. lol.
Can I get this shirt in red, purple and black? LMAO!
I’d even like a track jacket w/ this on it. Thanks. — Management
best. t-shirt. EVAR.
had to come out of lurking for that one, lmao!
yeah, thats actually a pretty gotd*mn great t-shirt. like seriously. good job.
i want to start a movement entitled “We Dont Give a Eff if you are a black man with a college degree and a house. youre still a d-head, and no i wont fellate you.” lol.
Ha! I almost spit out my chocolate milk! That sh*t had me rolling! I agree, that while it is an admirable thing to have your stuff together, don’t think that I”m supposed to fall all over you for it, be humble! But I can understand how guys feel–there are some thirsty chicks out there who make the playing field tainted for the rest of us.
Truth
“I agree, that while it is an admirable thing to have your stuff together, don’t think that I”m supposed to fall all over you for it, be humble!”
Right, like, I should fall all over you cause you did what you SHOULD have done? I mean, ninja, stop…and then go kill yo’self with that nonsense!
FeFe…as much as I would love to march on Washington for your paragraph long cause…I gotta say, I run into more women with that attitude than men…and I would randomly beat thise hoes to death with a picket sign…I mean…ummm….I don’t know what I meant, but I meant it!
(excuse the rant, been a long weekend)
Goody says:
“I run into more women with that attitude [covetous degree and mortgage having zealots] than men.”
LOL! concur. (personal experience)
I just think that there are more women than men with college degrees and house notes. Therefore you encounter more women that fit in that category. Men who possess those characteristics are usually douchebags (speaking of which, when did this phrase become so popular….I swear over the past year I’ve heard this spewed by so many, that I had to partake). And they definitely have a sense of “entitlement”. They usually think that they are the best thing since sliced bread and demand the “best”, meaning a multidude of the baddest females, even though they may look like Shrek reincarnated with breaths wreaking of hot garbage………and unchivalrous attitudes. They can suck azz.
They can suck azz.
…and not in a good way… (giggling, I couldnt’ help it)
see dudes, diva:
http://www.verysmartbrothas.com/tag/diva-dudes/
This is still my favorite post to date…lol
i do love that one…but im really partial to “her two cents” cuz i know i aint gave a man a damn nickel! lol…thats how i’ll know its true love. thanks vsb!
‘I gotta say, I run into more women with that attitude than men…and I would randomly beat thise hoes to death with a picket sign’
i agree. even though there are more degreed black women than men, i believe theres also a higher percentage of entitled young women than entitled men.
This post had me CTFU. BABast*rds are just as bad as BAB*tches, but they don’t get nearly enough press! Thanks Champ for shining a spotlight on this scourge of the community LOL
BABs seem to think their hurt feelings are extra unique and special and justification for spreading bitter negativity to the world. I guess they didn’t get REMs memo ‘everybody hurts sometimes’. The part they left off is ‘then the real men and women get over it and move the f on’.
If you think every chick is trying to play you and u are waiting for her to do some shady stuff, you will always prove yourself right. Sounds like a sucky life to me.
“BABast*rds are just as bad as BAB*tches, but they don’t get nearly enough press!”
Shol’ you right Ray Ray.
I heard that. Dated a guy once whose ex-wife cheated on him. I’m in the bathroom, at his place, and when I come out he accuses me of going in there to make a call (I did have the water running but that’s because I, um, get stage fright. Can’t go if someone is listening). He just now naturally expects all women to be on BS. Not a good way to live.
BAB’s are some paranoid mfers. They have you overthinking normal behavior…how many times can you reasonably expect a non-shady chick to go above and beyond proving how non-shady she is!
You mad about what trick A did to you? Well call that trick and cuss her out, cause i didn’t do it!
@VEG. Man, I was watching bridezillas last night and the groom cussed the bride out for being at wal-mart too long. She told that ninja the lines were long and he still didn’t believe her.
BABs are scorn and insecure men!
thats the truth, the whole truth, and nothin but the truth.
Props for quoting REM! That song needs to be played repeatedly for all BABs!
I love REM.
I’m a shiny happy person.
all day every day…now i gotta pull this one up on the mp3!
I love REM!!!! Everybody hurts is my favorite with losing my religion as a close second.
Let’s not forget “Man On The Moon”, I love that song.
Nut, my faves are reversed but i love me some REM too
I hate being blamed or getting the bad end of the stick for what previous bitches did!! I mean I have endured a lot with men and the last thing I’m doing is blaming you or pissing on you and calling it yellow rain because you are a man…. Just like Elenda said, I bitch and moan to my friends and keep it moving… Men not so much!!
Not ‘pissing on you and calling it yellow rain’ !! LOL
‘I hate being blamed or getting the bad end of the stick for what previous bitches did!! I mean I have endured a lot with men and the last thing I’m doing is blaming you or pissing on you and calling it yellow rain because you are a man…. Just like Elenda said, I bitch and moan to my friends and keep it moving… Men not so much!!’
i really think women tend to make the new dud pay for the past man’s failings than men make the new woman do…
maybe i’m making an assumption, but dudes sulk for a little while…then we get some new p*ssy and it makes the sun shine a little brighter. i think we take longer to get over some shit…but thats just it…WE GET OVER IT. many women don’t.
“i think we take longer to get over some shit…but thats just it…WE GET OVER IT. many women don’t.”
good point
Ya’ll might get new vagina to mend your little hearts and be a temporary distraction for a while but when it comes to being emotionally available ya’ll are tapped out on that. You too busy worrying about the next chick getting over on you or doing what Sally Jo Francis did….
i can see your point, and ive seen some women do this, but i think some men are just being unreasonable about it. there is a difference between punishing the next man for the last man’s douchebaggery and simply learning from your mistakes.
i think if more women learned from their mistakes, they wouldnt be trapped in that insanity cycle that was mentioned up above. if you do what youve always done, you’ll get what youve always gotten.
@ Bougie. Thanks for the shout out
“i challenge you all to find one BAB today, look him dead in his beady eyes, and tell him to “man the f**k up“. ”
You know I have no problems doing this.
Can I include a throat punch for good measure?
How about a kick in the balls since they obviously are missing those….
That’s not enough pain.
(GASP) NOOOO! We can NEVER assault the balls!!! the phallus can do no wrong…it’s what it’s attached to that brings the issues! Ladies….Ladies….Ladies…NOT THE BALLS!!!
Yeah. I really don’t think we should hurt the balls.
Maybe I am still traumatized from the a$$ whooping my lil brother handed me after he recovered from the kick to the nuts I gave him when we were young.
“Can I include a throat punch for good measure?”
Please do!
Noted.
A throat punch? Would you consider that throat punch if there was Equal Opportunity?lol. Joking.
For real though, you know you can bruise his ego without bruising his throat or kicking his boys up into his stomach. The added physical violence just takes away from the message of “man the eff up”
The throat punch already is equal opportunity.
Trust me I’m well aware I can bruise egos without so much of a physical touch.
I’m crafty like that.
” I have also reciprocated or offered, some of them refused to allow me to pay, (all or half or even the tip when I have offered), but I always offer after the 2nd date and I only offer once per date.”
I usually take females up on this offer when I’m not feeling them. At least I get a free meal out of the deal. Plus you should see their mouths just drop when you accept the offer . . . pure comedy! lol
This makes me a CAB !!(cheap @ss bastard)
LMAO @ CAB. That’s a post all by itself.
Always a true test!!! I tell the youngins that, if a dude lets you pay on the first date (and, to be real ladies, we should always offer. Nothing cute about a girl trying to get a free meal) then he is not really feeling you.
See, this trips me up. I think it’s the right thing to do to offer, but if it’s a first date and he asked me out I have to admit that my offer to contribute is not exactly genuine. And you shouldn’t be making any insincere offers right? If he took me up on it, i’d pay but i wouldn’t see him again. Oh well, i guess i’ll just continue offering.
The first date offer to contribute is a test. It is not insincere, you will pay if he can’t or won’t.
nah…if you offer…be prepared to pay…so don’t ever offer…
hook on hell nah worked for me!
hook on hell nah worked for me!
Yes ma’am!!!
“I have to admit that my offer to contribute is not exactly genuine. And you shouldn’t be making any insincere offers right? If he took me up on it, i’d pay but i wouldn’t see him again. Oh well, i guess i’ll just continue offering.”
(ie: chick logic, 201)
LOL..yeah i know. It’s strange. I’m working on it. I don’t try to excuse the inexcusable, even when i’m the one thats wrong!
This is why I don’t even offer.
‘Cause I’m not going to pay, so I’m not gonna act like I am.
Keepin it real. lol. Love it.
@Miss T-Lee. Cosign all damn day. Hell, my man told me if I paid for some of the date we would go out more. My response “our date schedule is just fine”. If it’s a date, why the hell am I bringing my debit card?!?!?!
Shidddddddddd, I could kick it with my girls if I felt like paying for my own food. FOH! Oh, and I ain’t doing dutch or picking up the tip. Yes, I know self entitlement blah blah blah. I’ll be that
I could kick it with my girls if I felt like paying for my own food.
YA FEEL ME?!?!?!
Me and you are right ~~>chea<~~.
LMAO @ “i’ll be that”!
Great job on this post. I agree with you 1000 percent.
“Great job on this post. I agree with you 1000 percent.”
thanks and shit
i jsut got into an argument with my half brother cause he took me to diner on some (i thought) bonding sheet and only months later threw a tantrum because i hadnt even offered to pay. lol now that junk shocked me cause EVERY SINGLE TIME i go out to dinner with someone they pay. like point blank. it made me sad.
as far as men being more sensitive than women, maybe my moons are lined up crazy cause i ben runnin into some sensitive mofos… although the men on here may disagree with me, i have noticed men get on some “lemme dump u before u hurt me” stuff when all along they were tryna act like they didnt care. isn’t it ironic?
“lemme dump u before u hurt me”
That’s game. In some rare cases, it is sincere. But, mostly, it is game. It sounds nicer than “it’s not you, it’s me”.
“That’s game. In some rare cases, it is sincere. But, mostly, it is game. It sounds nicer than “it’s not you, it’s me”.”
this is true
no those words are never said but i always know thats what it is. i can tell when a mofo dont care and when he do…
Your half brother is on some other ish.
BABs make me mad b/c they have single-handedly castrated chivalry and killt it. Shoot, yes I’m an independent woman that can do A LOT for herself. But I wouldn’t mind if someone did it for me.
So BABs that use the excuse of “well you make money so you can pay for ur own meal” will need to get one final glimpse of my AWESOMENESS b/c they may not see me again. It’s not that I’m hung up on paying, but DANG DUDE! You asked ME out. I ain’t tryna go to the Signature Room of the 95th floor of the Hancock Building either. I digs IHOP for them late nights too :-p
Shoot, if you pay for the first date, I may even pay for the 2nd. Why? B/c I’m great like that.
If you meet someone who is not willing to pay for your rice, you should dump them.
But, if I were a man and took you on a date and you stuck your tongue in the $7 martini you ordered and didn’t touch the rest, I’d make you pay for at least that. I cannot support alcohol abuse. Just sayin…
alcohol wasters should be stoned
I concur…
You don’t waste good drank. That’s just wrong.
wasting libations??? RELEASE THE HOUNDS!!!
I see ya Goody!!!lol
you don’t waste bad drink either… I’m just saying, I don’t attend those meetings for the coffee
“alcohol wasters should be stoned”
***st. barts summer festival***
Spoken like a TRUE lush
Spoken like someone who wastes good booze.
Morning, Luvvie!
“Shoot, yes I’m an independent woman that can do A LOT for herself. But I wouldn’t mind if someone did it for me. ”
^^^This is what we have to deal with.
Whatchu gotta deal with??
Hmm. I don’t think a lot of women see it this way Luvvie. I’ve been out one too many times with women that suggested going out in the first place then they sit there with a smile on their face when the check comes. On date number 2, if it got that far, I sit there with a smile on my face and it’s funny to see the reaction sometimes. So, how bout we do Thursday at 830pm. I should be fired by then for spending too much time on this blog.lol.
Slim, I think most women are like Luvvie. I’m really hopeful that the chick who plan their meals around dates are few and far between.
I mean, I don’t have any friends who are simply trying to eat for free (unless they do that secretly). It’s just common courtesy, I think, for a guy to pay on the first date no matter who asked who out. Though as women I think we should always offer (unless you have no money in your purse…but you should never go on a date without a $20 on you. Moms taught me that ) and be prepared to pay your portion if he accepts said offer.
Thursday at 830pm sounds fine. I’d like you to step out ur car when you pick me up. If you have on a hat, tip it a bit. Oh, and dont forget to open my door.
Hehe, j/k. — Dont wear a hat
@Luvvie. Wow, you are great. In fact, I want a shirt that says “I never pay”
a group thats still growing like chinese gymnasts and spreading like the legs of vsb.com groupies california wildfires, the bitter-ass bastard.
for real…I couldn’t get past the crossed out portion of this statement!! really? there are VSB groupies? do they just “group” you and Pana-maniac or are there male gatherers ready to “group” the VSS’s too? I mean if there are groupies, I want my fair share of them…not that they could “get it” mind you…but compliment, retail, and mad groupie jock-age rank very high in my Maslow’s hierarchy of needs…LMAO
and ummm…bad head from a Master’s degree?? I beg t differ…
bad brain from a smart b*tch is an oxymoron…
“really? there are VSB groupies?”
***pleading the fif***
“bad brain from a smart b*tch is an oxymoron”
T Shirt! get your HOT VSB TSHIRT here!
Thank you Champ, for this insightful little post on this little known, but rapidly growing phenomenon. Made my morning to read this via the BB while getting dressed this AM (gotta multi-task yanno).
I would, however, like to call attention to a subset of this group…the BABs who weren’t hurt by some chick they were with/rejected by, but by the FIRST woman they ever loved…that paragon of womanhood…their MAMA. I’ve been the lucky girl who dated not one, not two, but SEVERAL mofos like this.
These ninjas are almost always stealth with it, i.e. they hook you, then start fuggin’ up and complaining about how their mama left them that one weekend with granny, and they stayed for the next 12 years. Or how their mama ruined their life because she moved y’all to the ATL while you were in high school to follow behind the deadbeat mofo she had been dating for umpteen years, and THEN wouldn’t let you go to the college you wanted to go to. Of course, by the time you realize they are BABs, you in that isht and don’t wanna leave them, lest they get even more bitter cause you left them.
I am happy to say, though, that I made it out of all of these situations successfully, and surprisingly, I haven’t turned into a BABeyotch. This is, however, the main reason I inquire early on about how they feel about mama, and watch their facial expressions when they answer.
“This is, however, the main reason I inquire early on about how they feel about mama, and watch their facial expressions when they answer.”
Smart move. The wonderful thing about gaining dating/relationship experience is that you learn the right questions to ask, the right actions to observe and the right things to look out for. Woulda been nice to know at 23…but knowing it by 30 ain’t so bad
Who ya tellin’? Had I known this at 23…I would have skipped damn near ALL of the dudes in question…but catching on at 26/27 gave me life experience LOL!
Yeah…I’ve had one of these too.
Not good.
Ol’ need to take your azz to counseling to get rid of your abandonment issues lookin’ boy.
ROTFL…okay miss t-lee..i just spit out my drink. My laptop is mad at you!
I’m sorry…I’m feelin’ extra saucy this morning…lol
“Ol’ need to take your azz to counseling to get rid of your abandonment issues lookin’ boy.”
LMAO! lawdy, that had me rollin!
So I should probably avoid a man who believes his mother to be extremely manipulative, huh?
Run girl, run.
‘I would, however, like to call attention to a subset of this group…the BABs who weren’t hurt by some chick they were with/rejected by, but by the FIRST woman they ever loved…that paragon of womanhood…their MAMA. I’ve been the lucky girl who dated not one, not two, but SEVERAL mofos like this.’
interesting that you bring this up. this is a post i’ve been toying with for a while myself…thanks for the reminder.
No prob, boo…will be waiting for this one right here!
“‘I would, however, like to call attention to a subset of this group…the BABs who weren’t hurt by some chick they were with/rejected by, but by the FIRST woman they ever loved…that paragon of womanhood…their MAMA. I’ve been the lucky girl who dated not one, not two, but SEVERAL mofos like this.’”
wow. i had no idea this was somewhat common. i guess you learn something new everyday
Are these men Bitter Ass Bastards or Bitter AND Broke?! Remember, it ain’t trickin’ if you got it. All the rappers and cool people know this. I tend to think a man who scoffs at paying for a date aren’t so much pissed at all thing feminine. They are pissed at themselves and disappointed because they don’t have the cash on hand to pay for the meals.
“Remember, it ain’t trickin’ if you got it. All the rappers and cool people know this. ”
LOL..this line just doesn’t get old to me.
You had to have it to trick it so yeah its still TRICKING
“They are pissed at themselves and disappointed because they don’t have the cash on hand to pay for the meals.”
hallelujer and they call it projection.
Projection is a MF’er.
I’d agree with that. Once went out with a guy who was a tad too young for me (call me a Cougar in training) and my heart bled for him when he pulled out a crumpled $5 and some singles to pay for our meal. I paid. But we didn’t go out again (not cuz of the money, lol).
Yeah right! LOL.
” pulled out a crumpled $5 and some singles to pay for our meal”
He got 1 point for effort.
Awwwww.
That’s precious, but I would have put him on the DNA list after that…
nah the crumpled ones wouldn’t have done it…the cougar in trainig bs would though…lol
”pulled out a crumpled $5 and some singles to pay for our meal”
well, was it enough to cover the meal?
Not by half. Hence, I paid.
Thats jus TURRBLE! Why would he come on the date w/ $5.47?? I woulda ice-grilled him so bad he’d turn into stone.
My tenderoni (read: broke) took me out to Transco Towers (tallest building in Houston with a waterfall monument) and we laid on the grass. Aahh, to be broke. (Shut up laughing J-boogie)
These days, if I ain’t eating, it ain’t a date.
If they don’t have the cash on hand, they need not ask mofos on dates or instead meet up for coffee (snacks not included). If you don’t have the cash for dinner and you still want to “date”, you better get creative and think of other free ways to romance. It’s possible.
Agreed. If you only have $9 then ask a woman out for tea. Or, get a paper and look for free concerts in the park or something…any major city worth its salt has ‘em.
YESS!! Get creative if you broke. Take me on a picnic. We in the Chi, so we can take a walk on the lake or go to Navy Pier. There are things to do for the broke.
Right! In Chicago,the city of the free summer festivals, you can find something to do. In winter, if you got no ends, you should stay home.
Eh thats not really true.
@Good point Hostess. I really think broke dudes shouldn’t be allowed to date or get P*** for that matter.
Elanda: They should be able to date other broke people. I think this has been discussed on here before.
I have dealt with one of these in my life. It was a shocking experience. I met him while I was leaving from work, we exchanged numbers and kept it moving. In our first conversation, dude proceeded to tell me about myself: “All LA women are on some materialistic, money-grubbing golddiggers and I ain’t the one! Just cause I’m a southern boy from Memphis don’t mean some LA chick can run game on me!” He must have started every sentence with, “You’re probably…” or “I bet that you…” Negro knew more about me than I did! I got off the phone with him after about 10 minutes of this foolishness (because at some point it was just pure comedy) with a simple, “I’ll pray for you and by the way I’m from Chicago.”
“Negro knew more about me than I did!”
LOL!!! Those dudes are a trip. Well handled Treezy, well handled.
Funnier ish has never been written. Classic!
Dude was finished when he started with “all yall…” That is never ever a good move. Clearly he had a high level of sodium chloride (pronounced salt) flowing within his blood. I feel for the lad.lol.
oh he was SO extra salty…must have gotten his nose opened by some gal SOON after arriving in LA lol…
ha! I’m from Memphis…and you just gave me some unpleasant flashbacks of random new ninjas trying to educate me about myself.
what is it with women and the “I’ll pray for you” mantra as their definition of closure???
I have had women say/text that to me when things ended…recently i had one say that to me even though i ended things with her…??
What’s wrong with her wanting to pray for you??
Nothing wrong with it (’cause sometimes I REALLY need to be prayed for)…just noticing a pattern of potential malintented benediction…
LOL @ the phrase malintented benediction….
I have said that to a guy but it was because I knew his ass was Lucifer and only the grace of God could pull him out of whatever was up with him… LOL
“Remember, it ain’t trickin’ if you got it.”
I sorry this is the most dumbest line ever and a piss poor excuse for spending money on ho’s. Yes ho’s. You see in these times, tricks aren’t just for kids, and that’s word to the silly rabbit. If you have to trick money, than your dealing with a ho, not a real woman. Yes there’s a difference between the 2
I seriously do not stress spending money on stuff when I know without a shadow of doubt that I can afford it. In fact, when I find myself in a situation where spending is nec, I lower my head and thank GOD that I can afford it. But hey, that’s just me.
I sorry this is the most dumbest line ever and a piss poor excuse for spending money on ho’s. Yes ho’s. You see in these times, tricks aren’t just for kids, and that’s word to the silly rabbit. If you have to trick money, than your dealing with a ho, not a real woman. Yes there’s a difference between the 2
…***eyes watering, lips quivering***
I…I…I think I e-love you… word to the silly rabbit! MAN HOLD UP!!!
@ Good. You are in rare form today. I love it!
Wait, I think you missed the sarcasm in my earlier statement. Anytime I mention rappers doing something, it’s meant as a joke. When a dude uses words like ‘trickin’, isn’t it kind of a given that he’s dating ‘females’, certainly not ladies?
F-Yo says F U:
““Remember, it ain’t trickin’ if you got it.”
“I sorry this is the most dumbest line ever and a piss poor excuse for spending money on ho’s. Yes ho’s.”
ADVANTAGE F-YO.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wYzM9M9zNZk
heh, heh, heh, (inhales) whooooo!
laughon
“heh, heh, heh, (inhales) whooooo!”
For some odd reason, I love when you do that. Cracks me up.
OMG I love your alias almost as much as mine!
I think this line definitely has a place in the world. To some dudes, spending $100 on a date is ‘trickin’. Really? Automatically? In every instance? How so? In these cases i stand by it ain’t trickin if ya got it.
i wouldn’t spend more than 20 on a date ….parks museums and walks on the beach are free ….. and have plenty class…..
The thing is, I think all men have exhibited BAB tendencies at one point or another – to be at the opposite end of the spectrum would get you totally ran over in every dating or relationship situation. The problem is most of this nonsense starts at a veeery early age with the way we socialize and teach our boys about interacting with and the nature of women – the whole “sugar and spice and everything nice” vs. “snakes and snails”. We don’t really show that women are human just like boys are, they just look at things differently. So for a young man starting out in interacting with women with a completely rosy outlook, he’s bound to get hurt at one point or another because if he’s walking into it with a preconceived rosy outlook that if he’s nice, says the right things, then everything will work out fine.
Also, it was touched on in the original post, but men naturally internalize a lot of stuff, especially when it comes to the foulness in relationships. It’s the ultimate catch 22 – vent and you’re a bitchass who needs to man up but hold it in and alter behavior based on your experience and you’re bitter…
LMAO @ ur name. “Macaroni Tony” made me giggle.
“It’s the ultimate catch 22 – vent and you’re a bitchass who needs to man up but hold it in and alter behavior based on your experience and you’re bitter…”
’tis why you find someone you trust (your mama, sister, cousin, pastor, puppy, etc.) or get a journal and vent it out. It may take a little bit, but you’ll get there. I wouldn’t consider a dude b*tchass if he did.
But if you let it make you bitter AND you continue to spread your BABness through the dating pool, then that’s NOT a good look.
“alter behavior based on your experience and you’re bitter…”
naw, that makes you smart, being a BAB is when you take this and run with it way too far…. sh*t I wish more of us women would alter our behavior and not run into new situationships too fast…. I guess there is a fine line between being a BAB and being cautious and realistic…
“It’s the ultimate catch 22 – vent and you’re a bitchass who needs to man up but hold it in and alter behavior based on your experience and you’re bitter…”
noone ever said that being a grown-ass man was easy.
seriously though, you make a good point. thing is, like i mentioned before, theres a difference between altering your thought process and behavior a bit and treating all women (even the ones you’re not dating) like they’re moll flanders
I CANNOT BELIEVE I just saw a reference to Moll Flanders. I mean, really? MOLL FLANDERS???
*considers signing up for the vsbgroupie team*
a group thats still growing like chinese gymnasts and spreading like the legs of vsb.com groupies california wildfires
WAIT! STOP THE FUGGIN PRESS! there are VSB groupies? Are they just for you and Pana-maniac? I mean are there commentor groupies that want to do group-ish things to us too? attention, compliments, retail and superfluous 0r@l stimulation rank very high on my Maslow’s hierarchy of needs!!!
Good freaks out:
“WAIT! STOP THE FUGGIN PRESS! there are VSB groupies? Are they just for you and Pana-maniac?’
whoa chica. groupies is nothin. if u ain’t had none then get you some. plenty to go around. hell i have at least 10,000 dedicated fans and a few hundred groupies before i splashed here (vsb)
sssssnothin. if u haven’t had such, u’ll get urs when it’s yo time.
right now it’s showtime.
heh, heh, heh, (inhales) whoooooo!
yeah….ummmm…I’ve had stalkers…but not groupies….aren’t groupies the ones that wear t-shirts that say “I heart GOODENess” on them, have my pic on their cell phone’s home screen and celebrate my b(earth)day with private parties and candles everywhere and closet shrines made from the pictures of me that they right-clicked from my MySpace page…and….oh wait…no those are stalkers too…ne’ermind…I’ll pass….LOL
It’s all in their heads. Don’t call attention to it. Let them live on planet Wegotgroupies as long as they want.
Hahahahahaha…………………
Men are always in their heads and usually in areas they have no business being in.
“Let them live on planet Wegotgroupies as long as they want.”
its fun there. they serve breakfast 24 hours a day and equip each room with walk in closets as well as closet concubines. you should visit if you can
It sounds like the most ballin ssa place ever to exhist.
I’m gonna say thanks for calling out those BABs. Just as accurate as when you called out the Diva Dudes. There are trifling women AND men out there and everyone deserves to be raked over coals throughout the blogosphere!
HOWEVER, I take exception to the editor’s note! I just a convo yesterday with some other Black females with post-grad educations. If there’s one thing you pick up after all those years in school, it’s probably how to give a good BJ (and how to black out instead of throwing up after a heavy night of boozing)!
“If there’s one thing you pick up after all those years in school, it’s probably how to give a good BJ (and how to black out instead of throwing up after a heavy night of boozing)!”
Pretty much.
Ndenise has total recall [i guess]:
“(and how to black out instead of throwing up after a heavy night of boozing)!”
God bless u.
LOL..while i don’t disagree, given how rampant STDs are on college campuses, bj skills aren’t the only things you might ‘pick up’
“LOL..while i don’t disagree, given how rampant STDs are on college campuses, bj skills aren’t the only things you might ‘pick up’”
thank you forreal, aka “debbie downer”
Yeah, true.
But sheesh, I was trying to stay on the light-hearted, VD-free side of things. It’s Monday!
LOL..my bad y’all, i’ll save the vd realism for another day
“Wait, I think you missed the sarcasm in my earlier statement. Anytime I mention rappers doing something, it’s meant as a joke.”
I did miss the sarcasm, my bad
“It’s the ultimate catch 22 – vent and you’re a bitchass who needs to man up but hold it in and alter behavior based on your experience and you’re bitter…”
“’tis why you find someone you trust (your mama, sister, cousin, pastor, puppy, etc.) or get a journal and vent it out. ”
I think my mother and big sis would also tell me to “man the eff up” if I came at them with my girl troubles
But a puppy would keep your secrets.
“But a puppy would keep your secrets.”
……….
“’tis why you find someone you trust (your mama, sister, cousin, pastor, puppy, etc.) or get a journal and vent it out. ”
I think my mother and big sis would also tell me to “man the eff up” if I came at them with my girl troubles
**was suggesting another option for a confidante. It made me smile**
i think you need a good lady friend (i know, controversial around here!) to talk to…
it’s nice to see some talk about some of these bitter azz dudes for once. there are LOTS of these dudes out there (and in this comment section) but it’s often overlooked.
somebody needs to help them out b/c they don’t realize how they come across when they meet women. that bitterness permeates everything they say and do which is a major turnoff which = DELETE.
i had this one dude who insisted on calling me @ 4am(!) on random days like thursday. i told him numerous times not to call me that late and he knew I had to get up in the AM. he KEPT doing that sh!t so i told his inconsiderate azz to stop calling me. he then texts me and says “you must like them fake azz thug n!ggas [we talked for like two weeks and went on one date - he NEVER spoke like that before] instead of a nice guy like me.” huh???
this is what qualifies as “nice” nowadays? methinks not, BAB.
Oh wow.
You had a winner.
what the…? GTFOH with that…i’m glad he showed his crazy early.
That’s why i turn my ringer off when i got to sleep. So no one even has to worry about disturbing me. And if its an emergency, their ass can call 911.
I started doing that because of this random that would insist upon calling me at 1AM cause “he didn’t pay attention to the time”. Eff-tard he was…
“Agreed. If you only have $9 then ask a woman out for tea. Or, get a paper and look for free concerts in the park or something…any major city worth its salt has ‘em.”
$9? That’s dinner and a movie.
6 chicken wings, 2 orders of vegetable fried rice, a bootleg movie and great conversation. Sorry no sex, a rubber would throw me off budget.
AND yes, I very proud of my CABness (cheap @ss bastard). Truthfully speaking some of the best dates I’ve been on were very inexpensive.
“6 chicken wings, 2 orders of vegetable fried rice, a bootleg movie and great conversation. Sorry no sex, a rubber would throw me off budget.”
You’re killing me…lmao!!!
I gotta give props for this. I am totally amazed
I didn’t even know you could get 6 chicken wings, two veg. fried rice with a bootleg movie for 9 dollars.
With a few candles, some plastic tableware and some hot sauce …this just might be breathtaking and romantic.
Yeah. And those wings will be HUGE!! I think the bigger the wings, the
more steroids they are pumped withcheaper they are.So you mean to tell me these chicken “wangs” aren’t free range and grass fed ???
For the price, I’m thinking no.
LOL
and you got to know chickens is as nasty as pigs are portrayed and stuff they will litterally eat rocks. I even heard that if a chicken gets an injury lil cut the other chickens will attack and kill that chicken and move on. Mercy is for the weak in the chicken coop.
Yep…if you’ve ever been to a chicken farm you know, they are just as nasty, if not nastier than swine.
ok….please stop…now I’m tryna figure out how to make some southern fried tofu taste like chicken.
Hell, I consider myself a cheap date: don’t eat meat (will mash some seafood, though. lol), I will drink beer and I can sit in a sports bar, eating dry popcorn watching the game. All while rocking 4 inch heels. (that last bit is not relevant. just wanted to toss it in there. lol.)
wish I could stay today but I gotta go. enjoy!
genius khan has left the planet
One of my best friends is kind of like this. I won’t say he’s bitter though, just…paranoid. I will say this, his dating stories are 1000 times funnier than my dating stories.
Y’all gotta hit with this one (c) Diddy
BAB’s should be stoned with PopRocks.
I don’t understand why men are so adamant about not being chivalrous for fear of been seen as a simp by other men*. For that matter, I don’t understand why women are so adamant about being treated like a queen when she hasn’t given a man time to assess her regality.**
Courtship has truly lost out to ego.
* When you’re trying to build with someone, third party perspective whould be kept to a minimum. You might blow a good thing trying to save face for your friends.
**To quote my favorite poem:
A man said to the universe:
“Sir I exist!”
“However,” replied the universe,
“The fact has not created in me
A sense of obligation.” – Stephen Crane
Allow me to summarize… Don’t nobody owe your stankin’ a$$ nothin’!
“Don’t nobody owe your stankin’ a$$ nothin’!”
Shirt please!
“I don’t understand why women are so adamant about being treated like a queen when she hasn’t given a man time to assess her regality.**”
people forget you do have to earn some treatment, the problem is the bamas giving so much to a SO just on GP,…… in fact folks do more research on a computer or car they are gonna buy than on someone you are swapping fluids, spending time, and more money than the computer and car combined……
“You might blow a good thing trying to save face for your friends.”
Learned that lesson the hard way.
I’d like to pose a scenario. I think that these guys are the male emotional equivalent women that hate all men. Sort of like a rape victim that doesn’t trust the offending sex, for the rest of their lives. When in real talk they need an emotional bandage of sorts. And who knows some emotional wounds may leave you walking with a limp and needing a cane so maybe your emotional triple lindy days are over.
The males that have a bad break up need to learn delayed gratification. Maybe they can get on the love boat one day but as for right now they can’t hurry up cuz they got too much stuff. And the BAB syndrome is created as a defense mechanism. Since they want to be out there getting that good lovin from that good woman get too eager and aren’t willing to do what they need to for themselves first. Dudes be on some ‘she just like all the other bleep bleeped de bleeps.’ & just like one lie leading to another denial steps in about the mountain of steamer trunks that magically inhabit their thought process. Patience, it’s a virtue.
and the ill feelings are no longer those of the original two people that created the bad and sad situation. It’s like everyone they come in contact w/ gets an ill vibe from the interaction and the bags multiply and gain new owners. bleah
Hurt people hurt people
“Hurt people hurt people”
I say this ish all the time Wu, and it’s still the realest thing i ever heard.
Yeah that’s real talk. Wish I would have never learned first hand.
PATIENCE, n. A minor form of despair, disguised as a virtue. (c) Ambrose Bierce
Okay I see your point. Hows about we settle w/ Patience it’s something to do.
LOL…. I just wanted to throw that quote in there for giggles….
“…emotional triple lindy…”
I had to stop reading after this.
Bwahahahah@ triple lindy!
Yeah I tend to take my symbolism pretty far. Good old Rodney Dangerfield:)
This is not good. I may be in danger of becoming a BAB
Don’t be scared kamakula you see the potential for the dark side to rise up in you. And you know the man you want your woman to brag about. BE THAT YIGROLL SHE CAN’T SHUT THE FAHQ UP ABOUT in most of the good ways you can fit in! knowing is half the battle
“Don’t nobody owe your stankin’ a$$ nothin’!”
“Shirt please!”
100% Co-sign. That’s just as good as my favorite throw back t-shirt “Don’t ask me 4 shyt”. . . Timeless
There are a lot of “BABs” on this site. Some of y’all just need to get laid! DAMMIT!! Noone who is getting good split-mo blippy on the regular could possibly become a BAB.
BAB = Nicca with a dry beefstick!
Bwahahahahahahahahaha
classic comment from Big Buck.
LMAO
This was an awesome blog. Short and to the point. Me likes completely……….all except that women with master’s degrees comment LOL
His comment does have some merit to it…there are exceptions of course, but for the most part it is quite accurate.
Women often don’t know their true “IQ score”
I’ve come to learn that chivalry is dead… because all the men I meet… live by #1… WTF… can an intelligent sista get a damn date out this peace… sheeeeesssshhh!
I got a right to be bitter….