the sad clown: four reasons why “funny” girls finish last

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“why do men seem to lose interest when they find out that i have a great sense of humor? i thought that men liked funny chicks”

i’ve probably been asked a variant of this question at least once a week for the past five years, and it’s usually a response to the same situation.

boy meets girl. girl accepts date with boy. boy takes girl to midnight screening of the human centipede and to all-you-can-eat sausage gravy buffet. during buffet, girl makes inappropriate (and hilarious) joke about boy’s paul pierce half-beard. boy changes mood, and gives girl silent treatment until he drops her off at girl’s mole-infested duplex. girl never hears from boy again.

anyway, the idea that the “funny/snarky” woman has dating difficultly is a common one, a popular meme repeated in pop culture, popularized by tina fey and bea arthur and angela nissel, and confirmed by the anecdotal evidence of many women. here’s four possible reasons why this might occur.

1. funny is a man thing

why? well, (most) women have never had to spend decades learning how to disarm men to help convince us to sleep with them. basically, while possessing the ability to ease the tension and make people laugh is a bonus for a typical woman, its a must have quality for any normal non-millionaire man who doesn’t want perpetual desert d*ck.

i’m not saying that women can’t be funny, but the fact that you don’t need to be in order to procreate makes it a bit of a male-centric trait, and, in the eyes of many (but not all) men, aggressively funny women tend to give off the air that they’re a little less feminine than the average chick.

also, when women take the tension breaking/disarming role when interacting with a man, it has a way of saying “you don’t have to impress me“. this is good in theory, but we (men) tend not to really romantically respect women that we feel no need to impress. this is when close-buses happen.

2. the problem of “more”

you can typically infer what type of woman a man is into by his interests, his attitude, and his leisurely endeavors. basically, we’re usually attracted to women who possess some of the same characteristics we value the most in ourselves. men who take pride in their intelligence tend to be attracted to smart women. athletic and active guys tend to be attracted to women who workout regularly and take care of their bodies, funny guys tend to like funny women, and crackheads tend to be attracted to crack hoes.

thing is, while we’re drawn to these women, (most) guys don’t want to be with a woman who has more. the guy who always thinks he’s the smartest man in the room probably isn’t going gaga for women who make him feel like simple jack, the former college ballplayer probably won’t be proposing to the chick who can easily beat him in one on one, and the funny guy who’s used to being the one making the witty and pithy observations and comments might felt a bit threatened if dating the managing editor of the onion.

i know this seems a bit hypocritical, but think of it this way: while most women would like for a guy to be in touch with his sensitive side and his emotions, i doubt that they’d be okay with dating a guy more sensitive and emotional than she is.

3. you know, it’s really not about being too funny…

i doubt if i can articulate this without being offensive, but i’ll try.

if you take a look at the most popular male stand-up comedians, from richard pryor to richard lewis, none of them were men who’d be considered to be adonises. in the world of comedy, there are a thousand times more george carlins than george clooneys, and there’s a reason for that. guys who’ve spent the tiresome mental and emotional energy developing that type of extra sharp comedic wit usually do so as a reaction to either an adverse childhood or the realization that they’re probably not going to be able to attract women with their looks alone. basically, they learned to tell great jokes because they had to.

if this theory hold true with unusually funny women, you can deduce that the reason why they felt the need to learn how to be funny is more of a romantic obstacle than the actual funniness. its kind of similar to the dating difficulties “nice” guys speak about. its not that women abhor niceness, its just that excessively nice and accommodating men are usually less likely to possess characteristics women find sexually desirable.

4. some jokes just sound more harsh coming from a woman

lets just say that for a typical man, hearing “aiight, b*tch-*ss, rihanna-*ss n*gga. i said i got 6 books, damn. put your skirt back on, ugly” from a friend in a room full of people will garner a much different response if the friend happens to be a woman.

anyway, people of vsb.com. i’m curious: do you think that funny women have more dating difficulty than “average” women? if so, why? also, do you consider humor to be a gender-specific trait? and, have any of the vss’s out there ever felt any pressure to hide their funny? if a single sista told a joke in the woods, would hill harper make a sound?

the floor is yours.

—the champ

471 thoughts on “the sad clown: four reasons why “funny” girls finish last”

  1. Wow. I never would have guessed there was a danger to being funny. Part of me want to call shenanigans, but part of me realizes I am not a guy and it may be more true than i want to believe. :(

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    • As females we’re usually the ones who look for laughter in guys, not the other way around because we like to laugh. Dudes usually like to be the funny ones because it’s a way of showing off I guess

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      • They can still be funny. I want them to be funny. I’m not trying to compete with their funny or out-do them. I don’t even know if I surpassed a dudes funny. Usually the crying-can’t-breathe=funny occurs with my girls and not the fellas.

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        • I got you legitimate_soul. Me and my girls be dyin but I guess like The Champ said it comes out differently (the jokes with big punch lines) when it comes from a girl. It can have adverse effects when a guy hears it; like it might sound offensive or just plain dull. lol. Good thing I don’t try to be funny with my bf or dudes I’m attracted to. My man usually laughs when I’m mad or in a rant. I don’t like that sh*t. I feel you though. We want them to be funny, I don’t care if he wants me to be funny. If I were funny then he should like me even more if he’s funny too and secure.

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          • @Peyso, that’s what I’m saying. If we’re both funny (which I’m not personally. My jokes are so lame) and he insists on being the funniest then I do think it’s a security issue within him. Being funny is not just a man’s gift. Alot of dudes just need to get over themselves and be able to share. This is a sexism issue (which is wrong) even though sadly, it’s true. There is attention and an upper hand when it comes to having the spotlight and being able to make people laugh.

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    • @legitimate_soul, could be an individual thing cuz i LOVES me a funny woman. women who can crack funny jokes and tell funny stories are always more attractive than ones who cant. unless of course they look like Precious. but their humor would allow them to understand that, which is why they’re probably funny in the first place.

      no precious.

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  2. this just effed up all my funny girl swag, i love breaking the ice with my knock knock jokes *walks away sadly*

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  3. I know some funny chicks who are pretty. Maybe not comedy club funny but can lighten the mood with some funny stories. I’m not really a funny girl but I used to make my boyfriend laugh sometimes (he made me laugh more though. Does that even count? He’s an ex now, and I broke up with him so don’t even go there lol). My point is, I agree with this post but I think it’s a relief to girls be funny personally. I’m a straight chick though so what do I know? :p She should be able to be herself, not use comedy to try to attract guys (9/10 she’ll be put in the friend zone) but also not be shy to be herself and avoid saying funny things out of fear. JMO. If he’s mature he wouldn’t be intimidated by her comedic skills just because we like to think that comedy is “just for men” to do. Men love to laugh too (not as much as girls but still) lol.

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  4. Eh. Everyone has their own experiences but I have to say this is contrary to anything I’ve ever experienced in my life. I think this is a stretch. Rather, it’s sad that being funny could be seen as a handicap and yet another trait women need to downplay in order to make men feel better. Womp.

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    • “Eh. Everyone has their own experiences but I have to say this is contrary to anything I’ve ever experienced in my life. I think this is a stretch.”

      what exactly is a stretch? the phenomenon i was asked about, or the possible answers i provided?

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  5. Womp, womp. That’s probably why all the women I deem as dull and lack personality are engaged or married…Who knew?? *shrugs shoulders* Welp there’s somebody for everybody I suppose, even the dull ones.

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    • OMG Coco! I feel the exact same way. Some of the most vanilla, boring, slow-talking, un-funny women I know are married.

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      • As a married funny girl I feel the same about married unfunny girls…big snooze fest…

        Anywho…funny women are usually riding the a**hole line & it either becomes offensive, or downright mean spirited. Trust me…I stay getting the side eye or my hubby’s booty slap errrday for the ig’nant stuff that springs from these lips. Meanwhile I’m cracking the eff up.

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    • “Welp there’s somebody for everybody I suppose, even the dull ones.”

      why do i hear sally field as forrest gump’s mom’s voice when i read this?

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    • @Coco_Bella_Amor, that’s a shame b/c boring women bore the living sh*t out of me. I can’t imagine spending a significant amount of alone time with a woman who makes me thinking that comparing sandpaper samples is exciting.

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  6. I dunno, yo…

    I’m secure enough to deal with a woman who is funny/funnier than I.
    Mainly cause they’re rather rare.

    Some might THINK they’re funny, but they’re really just silly and couldn’t hang in a good jonin’ session.

    …

    Then there are the ones who you’re scared to make a joke around, because they might not get it or might take extreme offense to it.

    DO NOT WANT

    Strictly 70% or higher sense of humor-type jawns for me.

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    • I gotta brush up my joking skills then so I can attract a secure man. My man is secure (mature atleast) but I wonder how he’ll act if I start telling jokes lol. I’m actually a little jealous of funny chicks.

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    • “Some might THINK they’re funny, but they’re really just silly and couldn’t hang in a good jonin’ session.”

      :) That’s me. LOL!
      I am soooo funny to me. I mean, I’ve made myself fall out of chairs from laughing at something I’ve said but just about every male in my life has told me I’m so corny. Whateva tho.

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    • @ihsanamin, Some might THINK they’re funny, but they’re really just silly and couldn’t hang in a good jonin’ session.

      i used to date this chick who thought she was funny but she was just what you said, uber silly. not a funny bone in her body. her attempts at being funny were just mean spirited jabs at her other female friends under the guise of “jokes”. she was ALSO uber sensitive b/c she didnt realize she wasn’t funny.

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  10. If a man can’t pass the brown paper bag test then he isn’t getting inside of my good stuff. I dated this dark skin male negro before and we kept getting looks because people thought he was stealing. I’m black enough for the both of us. I need to ensure that my offspring come out light, bright, and darn near white so that during bad economic times they have a better chance of obtaining gainful employment.

    I wonder if black men are just too picky. The girl can’t be too funny? Get out of here with that nonsense. Maybe black men just need to find a mythical creature and knock it up then abandon the offspring.

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    • I hope this wasn’t a joke. If so then The Champ had every right to write this post. If not, get yo non black azz off of here with that lame name.

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        • I was just confuse at the very last sentence of her post.

          *Lord, help of all the ppl who want to see Black men fail. Amen

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          • Amen. And Lord, help those who are pretending to be Black on the internet to make us all look bad. (just my 2cent) Amen.

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    • what the hell does light skin/dark skin black male have to do with the topic of a woman being funny??..3degrees educated fool..yeah you’re “funny” all right, need to get checked out I mean hell brothas get enough hell for being Brothas, and you’re entitled to your preference of the many skin tone Black people come in, but I’m just curious to what other Issues you have..

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    • @Angry Black Chick With Three Degrees (from madness?): You need to ensure your offspring come out darn white? To ensure gainful employment?

      Light, bright, and darn near white or any other shade of blackness doesn’t amount to jack in job prospects without at least a high school diploma or GED. With all your purported degrees, you should know that.

      You sound not only humorless, but like you really hate black men, and I’m guessing that by extension, yourself and black people.

      Here’s the good news. There’s always the MJ Option. Get yourself a white girlfriend and marry her. She can have a white baby whom you can turn into your trophy, and then you can stay up nights playing Mammy instead of trying to spreading racism at VSB.

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    • How you managed to make a post about men & funny women into an airing out of your color complex is amazing. I’m slightly impressed.

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    • “I dated this dark skin male negro before and we kept getting looks because people thought he was stealing”

      this literally made me laugh aloud. good job

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      • If a man can’t pass the brown paper bag test then he isn’t getting inside of my good stuff. I dated this dark skin male negro before and we kept getting looks because people thought he was stealing. I’m black enough for the both of us. I need to ensure that my offspring come out light, bright, and darn near white so that during bad economic times they have a better chance of obtaining gainful employment
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        Ahhh….now I get it! Satire in internet form. Um….ha,ha. I guess.

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    • @ Angry Black Chick
      I need to ensure that my offspring come out light, bright, and darn near white so that during bad economic times they have a better chance of obtaining gainful employment.

      You should try this new German breathing technique called “Kwicherbichen”

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      • You should try this new German breathing technique called “Kwicherbichen”
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        Now THIS deserves a true LOL. =D

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    • “If a man can’t pass the brown paper bag test then he isn’t getting inside of my good stuff.” followed by “I wonder if black men are just too picky.” Interesting; looks like projecting leads to anger.

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    • “I dated this dark skin male negro before and we kept getting looks because people thought he was stealing.”

      O_O

      lmfao…

      Ok who is this? Who wrote this? Panama, Champ? Reveal yoself!

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    • “Maybe black men just need to find a mythical creature and knock it up then abandon the offspring.”

      Could someone please tell me what mythical creature myself and the other VSB’s should be looking for? I can add it to my list of things to do after finding a unicorn, Bin Laden, Carmen San Diego, and a sober Irishman.

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  11. I disagree I am hilarious and guys dig me. I think that if there are any funny women having trouble attracting a man it’s because of # 3.
    #4 is so true but its also funnier coming from a woman.

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  12. There’s a fine line to be walked with this comment.

    Saying ‘amen to number three!’ implies I think I’m funny to begin with, which would then be a sort of ironically misplaced arrogance in itself if the statement weren’t true… so maybe THAT would explain the phenomenon. Anyone who identifies with this post must think that she is a Kim Kardashian, with the timing of a Kim Fields, when in reality she’s a Kimmy Gibler. So maybe that’s the problem.

    That, or the scrunchy face of confusion that said funny girl makes when contemplating her plight– maybe that is the ultimate turn-off.

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  13. Hmm. Me and my funny girlfriends also cite our humor as to why we are manless. That, and all our MIT degrees and master’s degrees.

    Just because we are funny doesn’t mean you can’t be funnier than us. That’s the problem. Yall are lazy.

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  14. Being funny is attached to getting girls…that doesnt necessarily make it a masculine trait. An example? Funniest female standups are lesbians (Ellen, Wanda Sykes). Its because women like to laugh. Guys like to laugh too, if we arent already busy staring at cleavage or ass.

    Btw, my significant other-type-person is hilarious. Actually funny, not funny for a girl (which I will admit is markedly different). I agree that sense of humor is extremely important because I like to think of myself as having a really good sense of humor. It helps if, for no other reason, when I make a joke about her not “going all Al Green on me” while making breakfast we can both laugh about it and eat a breakfast filled with shots at each other.

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    • “Being funny is attached to getting girls…that doesnt necessarily make it a masculine trait. An example? Funniest female standups are lesbians (Ellen, Wanda Sykes)”

      ummmm. i think you kind of proved my point with this. i dont know if that was what you were trying to do or not

      welcome and sh*t, btw

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      • not exactly. champie, you attributed being funny to MEN who wanted girls, and thus being a man thing. W.B. is saying that it’s not a masucline/man thing. just getting a girl thing. because even a feminine woman may use her funny to bag chicks.

        so. you’re wrong. thanks.

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  15. Funny is a competition now? We’ve already beaten the dead horses of making too much money, having too much education, being too independent, etc. Now we’re too funny. Even coming from someone who is poorly qualified as a relationship expert, Mr. Steve Harvey, this would make more sense. At least he has a professional interest in trying to be funnier than EVERYBODY else in the world. James, Keith and Dwayne though?

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    • I know right? I gives the phuck up! I think I’m just gone turn off my tv/radio/newsfeed/twitter/fb/anyotherformofcommunication to all the janky ass advice telling me that just by existing too much I won’t get a man…

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    • I know right! What the phuck is up with all the excuses as to why ninjas don’t want to commit? Now it’s cause we’re too funny? GTFOHWTBS… I’m done listening to ninjas complain.

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    • “Now we’re too funny”

      nobody said that women shouldn’t be funny (well, at least i didnt). i’ll i’m doing here is answering a question, and trying to provide some male insight about why a problem many woman have professed to have exists.

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  16. First and foremost, LMAO @ Angry Black Chick with Three Degrees

    Secondly….I can’t win. I’m not a prissy chick (feminine yes, not prissy, I refuse to play a dumb/meek/silly chick to appease a man and stroke his ego, I have a boy’s name, and now I can’t be TOO funny. And I BET NAHT DARE tell a guy his joke was unfunny or crack anything less than a smile @ any corny attempt at humor. Oh whatever will I do?

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  17. have you considered that some of these purportedly funny broads just are not that funny and in trying to be funny just come off looking corny and that’s the problem?

    but i see your points here

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  18. I disagree. Why so serious? I’m like Patch Adams out this mofo (well, at least the idea of laughing at everything). If the girl’s gonna sit there and never laugh or make a joke about anything, then she can kindly step the f off and stop disgracing me with her presence, because sh*t really ain’t that serious.

    My rule when I meet new people is that if neither one of us can make the other laugh within 90 seconds of conversation, then they aren’t worth my time. Point blank, if you got jokes, I wanna hear ‘em. I don’t care who you are.

    All of my friends, male or female, have a great sense of humor. My girlfriend knows that I really don’t take anything seriously; I don’t wanna hear her sh*t, she really doesn’t want to hear mine (this is an odd relationship, I know), and we’re both better people for it.

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  19. I dole my humor out in small doses. Plus, I’m too angry to be smiling and cracking jokes all the time. This ain’t def jam. *full sarcasm intended* :-)

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  20. *singing “I Gotta Be Me”*

    Plus, I know I can’t be the only one that had more guys holla when one is relaxed and cracking jokes. Either that or I just ain’t that daggone funny, lol! Oh well…. *feeling like Fozzie Bear*

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  21. “2. the problem of “more””

    I may have mentioned this before, but I think that this (with a little of #1 mixed in) is also a reason why some men are uncomfortable with a woman whose numbers game is high.

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    • Are you now comparing a woman who’s funny to a woman who’s a #hosh*t enthusiast? LAWD. By the time this post is over, funny women gon be compared to Marilyn Manson. We gon be blamed for high gas prices too.

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      • LMAO….it’s a sad day for females in this post…lol
        we too mean, but we too funny, too sexy, not sexy enough, too smart or just dumb, damned if we do, damned if we don’t. oh well….F*ck these niggas…lmao, naw, i think this post is reaching tho, most funny girls i know bag dudes all day.

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  22. Champ’s example features a woman making a joke @ the dude’s expense. Not cool if they don’t know each other well enough for good-natured ribbing.
    Ladies should be fun. Fun is enough. Pretty chicks don’t have to try hard. Convo that is a little silly (and a tiny bit dirty) == perfect.
    Helpful tip: The more advanced degrees or $$$ girlfriend has, the LESS she should try to impress her guy with her wit.
    Fun is more important than funny.

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  23. Hey Champ…..I found something (always finding isht…lol)….and here’s what “they ” had to say:

    While men might chuckle at the odd gag, when it comes to finding a long-term companion they do not want a partner who will fire a stream of witty repartee at them, according to the study carried out by academics at some of the world’s top universities.

    “Men see being funny as a male thing,” explained Dr Rod Martin, who led the project. The findings are published in the scientific journal Evolution and Human Behaviour this week.

    ‘Hundreds of men and women in their twenties were questioned. Asked if they found a sense of humour to be attractive in women, most men said yes. But when they were asked if they would want to be with a woman who cracked jokes herself, the answer was a resounding no.”

    “When forced to choose between humour production and humour appreciation in potential partners, women valued humour production, whereas men valued receptivity to their own humour,” said Dr Martin.”

    “More than half the men who took part in the survey revealed that a witty woman was not what they were looking for in a partner. Dr Martin said the findings suggested that men see themselves as the ones who should be delivering the lines and feel threatened by humorous women.”"

    “The idea that men are more interested in having an audience rather than sharing banter doesn’t really surprise me.

    “Women see men with a sense of humour as dangerous and sexy, while men see it as threatening. Basically, what it comes down to is that humour is a mark of intelligence. Many men don’t really want to be the recipient of a cutting remark in public that will make them look small or stupid.”

    The research project, which also involved academics from the University of Massachusetts and McMaster University, Ontario, showed that while men were not so interested in “humour-producing women” in long-term relationships, they showed a preference for such types when it came to short-term relationships and one-night stands.

    “I do recognize this type of man. They think that because you’re being funny you are entering their domain. Men like this see women doing comedy as operating outside the bounds of what they should be doing. They are the kind of man who assumes that a woman who cracks a joke must be a lesbian. But certain people are like that. Some backward types are threatened by funny women. It’s mad. After all, I wouldn’t be threatened by a man who can cook.” ~Catherine
    Tate

    ….and even with all of what has been said, if I were to just stop and/or suppress what’s naturally within me just to catch and/or keep a man I’d be more disappointed at myself for being so weak-minded and easily convinced that who I am, isn’t good enough. Its just not in me to be weak-willed and easily influenced, particularly at this point in my life. And my occasional tendency to be silly, witty have-you-and-ya-mama-rollin-on-the-floor randomness was never an issue…cuz even I knew where to draw the line with the man and loved ones. I suspect that I’ll go on to attract and welcome someone who’ll appreciate my healthy sense of humor and “distinguishingly contagious” laugh from the rest without being filled with intimidation and resentment.

    So with that being said, just fess up man, you jealous of your girl, huh?….she’s stealing the limelight away from you by being the life of the party? You can tell us….LoL.

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    • “if I were to just stop and/or suppress what’s naturally within me just to catch and/or keep a man I’d be more disappointed at myself for being so weak-minded and easily convinced that who I am, isn’t good enough.”

      Wait, this made me think of a completely unrelated joke.

      What’s the difference between a drug dealer and a prostitute?

      A prostitute can wash her crack and reuse it. LMAO

      A HUGE “EFF YOU” to guys who are that uptight and insecure. Now I’ve had just about enough of all these excuses. As a pretty witty girl, the idea that a man would be intimidated by me just lets me know that his punk a$$ wasn’t going to be able to handle me or my family for the long haul. Comedy is a major part of our genetic makeup. I’m not interested in a man who is intimidated by anything I do.

      Quoting a line from the comedic tour de force, “House Party”…”I smell pu$$ies.”

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    • Science sucks. Wack studies BLOW. They all need to CUM on & quit playing these bald-headed games.

      Ok that was lame. SHARRAP! But still…

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    • ….and even with all of what has been said, if I were to just stop and/or suppress what’s naturally within me just to catch and/or keep a man I’d be more disappointed at myself for being so weak-minded and easily convinced that who I am, isn’t good enough. Its just not in me to be weak-willed and easily influenced, particularly at this point in my life. And my occasional tendency to be silly, witty have-you-and-ya-mama-rollin-on-the-floor randomness was never an issue…cuz even I knew where to draw the line with the man and loved ones. I suspect that I’ll go on to attract and welcome someone who’ll appreciate my healthy sense of humor and “distinguishingly contagious” laugh from the rest without being filled with intimidation and resentment.

      Agreed :)

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  24. You know this is interesting because I consider myself a “funny” chick but I do think it can come off as a little intimidating to guys. I do kind of agree that its more of a “masculine” thing.. Because I’ve had guys tell me that I come across too hard and/or curse too much.. And im like “yeah and what the f*ck’s your point???” (j/k lol)

    I wouldn’t say I’ve ever had a problem per se getting men but i can say my demeanor usually separates the men from the boys lol.

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  25. BKSweetheart, we must have been separated at birth because you just described me. I’ve got jokes for days.

    On a heavier note, I’m so tired of being told that I can’t be “me” in order to find and keep a decent man with a job and teeth and his own place and minimal drama. I can’t be funny so that he can feel more like a man? Funniness is a gauge for masculinity?

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    • I’m sure Champ is being more tongue n cheek then anything. There are plenty of men who love funny/be yourself women. Personally, I can’t stand being around someone not willing to show a relaxed/playful side..specially after we’ve got to know each other more.

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    • “On a heavier note, I’m so tired of being told that I can’t be “me” in order to find and keep a decent man with a job and teeth and his own place and minimal drama. I can’t be funny so that he can feel more like a man?”

      It’s a Catch 22!!! damned if we do, damned if we don’t. We’re either too smart or too dumb, too ugly or too dimesy, too tall or too short, now too boring or too funny. Like seriously.

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  26. Tina Fey would have no problem getting a dude for being “too funny.” The same can be said for “Maya Rudolph” and numerous other “straight” women comedians.

    On the other hand, no woman is going to tell you Eddie Murphy or Chris Rock can laugh his way into their panties. I think for this post to actually be right –one must first realize that while women love a man with a sense of humor, to women, that means enjoys her jokes.

    That doesn’t mean she wants you to Lil Duval or Dave Chappelle your way into her life. (Yes, two different types of comedians but people find them funny.) I love Dave Chappelle, do I wanna be his boo, smoke some ganga and race off to Africa to find myself with him? No.

    If a dude is too funny it’s not too cute. So men might be funny to other men to a degree of men funny but when it comes to wooing the ladies we’re talking about a different type of humor. (The same could be said for women.)

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    • Tina Fey would have no problem getting a dude for being “too funny.” The same can be said for “Maya Rudolph” and numerous other “straight” women comedians.

      Yea these ladies wouldn’t have problems with getting a normal, non-comedian guy. But that’s because these women are percieved as being funny from jump street. So a normal man wouldn’t be upset if she was funnier than him. But now a so-called comedian who couldn’t get a call back to be an extra in the hangover would definitely have a problem with dating these ladies.

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      • But, that’s because the comedian is NOT funny. So maybe the real point is dudes that are not funny have a problem dating funny chicks.

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    • Anyone who finds Lil Duval funny is no friend of mine. That jack*ss is bout as funny as a terminal paraplegic cancer patient. i hate him w/ the intensity of his own horrid jokes.

      And the bastahd blocked me on Twitter for roasting him. #TrueStory

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      • I wasn’t on Twitter when that happened, but I heard about that through the twitvine, Luvvie. Heard about that horrible hashtag he made. He was a nonentity to me before all that happened, but he’s definitely on my side-eye list now…

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      • I don’t find Lil Duval funny either. Lame! For some reason he reminds me of a middle schooler, still not sure why. *shrugs* There’s some funny ass people in the South and they always choose the lamest people to rep them as “comedians” smh

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    • “So men might be funny to other men to a degree of men funny but when it comes to wooing the ladies we’re talking about a different type of humor. (The same could be said for women.)”

      (i think) i allude to this in the first point.

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    • @persona, On the other hand, no woman is going to tell you Eddie Murphy or Chris Rock can laugh his way into their panties.

      i think this is PATENTLY false. a plethora of funny ugly men are married to women for which the general populace cannot understand b/c they are funny. look, i’m a 3. certified. i have never had a problem with women b/c i can be funny. folks will look RIGHT PAST facial flaws b/c of a man who can talk and make her laugh.

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      • As I mentioned above, I have a laughing problem. i will go on record saying that a man could definitely laugh his way into my heart, ugly or not. All I need is time and opportunity. This doesn’t mean I like all types of humor (Champ knows this very well), so it doesn’t mean every funny man could get it. But chris rock and eddie murphy? not difficult to see happening. the great thing about a funny man is that it displays his wit and intelligence through humor. i think that’s sexy. and funny. the problem with a funny man is that he may not know when to turn it off. i think that’s actually my own drawback with them.

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        • @Liz I think I have a laughing problem too. One time I had to leave church because when I opened the bible that was in the little holder thingy on the pew in front of me a roach popped out and I dropped the bible on the floor. Everyone was looking at me because…

          1. They thought I threw a bible on the floor &

          2. They was wondering why I was laughing at church & so loud.

          It was funny o_o

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        • “the problem with a funny man is that he may not know when to turn it off. i think that’s actually my own drawback with them.” –Liz

          Exactly.

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      • “i think this is PATENTLY false. a plethora of funny ugly men are married to women for which the general populace cannot understand b/c they are funny.”

        Right. I mean you don’t even have to go far..just use the example above. Chris Rock. His wife is super pretty and I just thought he was attracted to horses.

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      • TOTALLY OFF TOPIC but PJ..I SWEAR I saw some guy who looked like you at Carrabas this weekend….had the same hat on and everything! Was that you? lol

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      • Eddie Murphy and Chris Rock have money.

        My argument is we all expect people to get our jokes (women or men), and it’s a requirement for any relationship. A shared sense of humor. But, there’s also the ability to go Overboard. No Goldie Hawn.
        It’s the type of funny that a member of the opposite sex (or same sex) takes an issue with when discussing attraction. Tyler Perry and I probably won’t hit it off.

        A man HAS to be funny. A woman HAS to be funny. No want wants to have a relationship with Serious McGee. Now, when we’re getting romantical do I want you to play a game of snaps? No.

        Life is a punchline but I don’t want to feel the need to punch my boo in the face for taking a joke too far.

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        • “Life is a punchline”

          That’s why so many people love the show “The Office” because, in life, all we do is work so therefore most people can relate to it to some extent…that show is filled with dry humor & I love it…

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    • “Tina Fey would have no problem getting a dude for being “too funny.””

      She’s all hot now, but when she was involved with Second City she was chubbier/awkward and she landed her hubby THEN. Major props.

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  27. I don’t know. I’m yet to fall into a situation where I’ve found a woman’s comedic nature to work against her.. It’s absolutely attractive when a woman will take the most witty shots n have me lost as to how I’ll clap back quick, fast and in a hurry before my 2 second window closes. That’s the type of humour I want, if you consistently do it better.. No biggy. You get punished hard, with the whole Kidney shifting experience(word to TX10inch)

    i just had to say that, cause it’s still marinating in my head.. that don’t even sound attractive playa.. we all try put it down but DAMN!

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    • Man…why is this concept so hard to understand? I really don’t understand insecurity from men aimed at women. She could be better at almost everything…but there’s a few things that are always the great equalizer.

      A. Have or be seriously looking for a job.
      B. Be attractive to her (mental and physical).
      C. Well placed fingers, tongue, paynus (female orgassmm is the definition of submission).

      Do these three things and there will be zero problems.

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  28. Hmmmm….you know what, Champ?…. I’m thinking maybe its all a misunderstanding….. or I just didn’t read the original thread more thoroughly.

    Reread a few things …and if what you’re describing is a woman (or heyal, anyone) who’s taking jabbs at you on a bit more of a personal level, someone who just doesn’t know when to shet the heyal up and the tone goes from hilarious to side eyes because she really thinks by redirecting the joke at you (constantly) is funnier (because she’s been told how ridiculously funny she is)…..then hell naw. No matter the gender….its still no good and we can end it right here.

    Now depending on where the individual and myself are in the relationship, and the nature of said joke…. I may take the time to point this out…however, if its not much vested then I’m less likely to expound…….and I’d understand if dude felt this way in return.

    *However, if we’ve reached a certain point in the relationship, I’d pretty much expect for the both of us to know better than this.

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    • Hmmmm….you know what, Champ?…. I’m thinking maybe its all a misunderstanding….. or I just didn’t read the original thread more thoroughly.

      lol, i think a few of these comments today are responding to the title of the entry instead of what i actually said.

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  29. This problem of too funny stems from the competitive nature of men. We don’t want to be in a direct competition with our woman, espcially if we feel like we can lose. So to keep our self confidence up , we stay away from women who we may feel people look at as funnier than we are.I don’t think the champ is telling you ladies not to be funny but you may want to chose a guy who you compare well with when it comes to things of that nature. Or a guy who doesn’t care enough to be funny. But since I don’t usually find women to be very funny, I don’t have these problems!
    Word to Simple Jack!

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    • @Kirk Lazarus,

      I believe that’s what I was eluding to in my most recent post (right above)…

      If she’s challenging him or in your words competing with her man…basically over-doing it, its not rare for what started as joke to end with someone internalizing whatever’s being scoffed at it or put on display to draw attention from others to join in…

      Now if that’s how the both of them get down, then hey…how can I tell someone how to interact with their mate. It works for them..isht isn’t broke, why fix it?

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  30. I understand COMPLETELY what this post is trying to say.

    I’m not feeling myself when I say I’m a funny girl. I can make pretty much anyone laugh, but it’s usually with an abrasive wit that a lot of men find disconcerting… mostly because I can verbally annihilate anyone (it came from being the awkward girl in middle school).

    Most men want girls with a backbone they intend to break but not one who can send them to the motherfucking corner in 160 characters or less. It’s not cute. It may be sexy to someone who can keep up, but it isn’t cute.

    Also, there’s the whole “can I take this ho anywhere” conundrum. I have a friend ALMOST as witty as me, but I can’t take her ass nowhere because she will say all type of hilarious, inappropriate shit and it’s embarrassing. You don’t want wifey to start talking about sweaty nutsacks at the office party, even if it’s funny.

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    • I can make pretty much anyone laugh, but it’s usually with an abrasive wit that a lot of men find disconcerting… mostly because I can verbally annihilate anyone (it came from being the awkward girl in middle school)

      its interesting hearing about how the “funny” is born in different people.

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    • On point! Raunchy humor is for men, not women (unless we’re around other women)

      We need a word for the type of humor we’re allowed to have….can’t think of it though. I guess that answers that.

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    • Wait…having that woman that CAN and will send you to the corner in 160 characters or less when needed is an absolute necessity to a man that wants to do more than just be “average”.

      If talking about sweat nuts keeps you unemployed…bad. Otherwise…what does it hurt. Like ol girl from “Why Did I Get Married”…played by Tasha Smith.

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    • “You don’t want wifey to start talking about sweaty nutsacks at the office party, even if it’s funny.”

      LMAOOOOOOOO this is me.. well maybe not that extreme but I’m always saying some crazy sh*t in less than appropriate situations, can’t help it LOL.

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  31. Dude, lets call him Marcus, and I went to Dave & Buster’s on a first date. During cocktails, he mentioned something about jacking off and then chuckled, so I presumed it was a self-depreciating joke. He could have joked about his smoker’s lips or the fact that he didn’t have enough money to pay for my Power Card, but he chose to joke about something even fouler than the summer shirt he was wearing in the winter time.

    After a drink or two, we went to play Guitar Hero. He went on and on about how great he was at Guitar Hero. So I said, “Wow, all you do is smoke, jack it and play Guitar Hero all dayumed day long?” Then I laughed heartily at the poor lame. Instead of laughing at my little joke, he got offended. Ooopsy!

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    • “Wow, all you do is smoke, jack it and play Guitar Hero all dayumed day long?”Then I laughed heartily at the poor lame. Instead of laughing at my little joke, he got offended. Ooopsy!

      Yea I actually got offended for him. I actually cried a little bit out out of my left eye pupil! Yea I’m gonna go ahead and say this is #4 in action

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    • Lol. That is funny, but humor goes beyond simply saying something that’s funny. Especially when on a date. I could make plenty of hilarious comments about a woman when dating, but they usually get pissed off and call me a jerk. So I learned to be funny about everything else but her.

      I hope that this is useful, unless you were just trying to play him, and if so, good job.

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    • He should have said, “pretty much…what can I say…I’m a homebody”. He would have been cool in your eyes instantly…

      I love the fact that I can still laugh at silly shat at 35 yrs old.

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  32. Call me crazy, but I’ve always been attracted to the goofy/funny but sexy woman. And if she’s nice to look at (translation: got a fattie), that’s always been a plus. I can be serious enough in my own life at times. Serious points if you can keep me genuinely laughing when I’m around you. Don’t need us both walkin around in deep thought all day.

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    • That’s what I’m saying!! I’m just a total clown period.. Like the thoughts that go through my head, I feel like my life is a perpetual episode of seinfeld sometimes.. I think I’ve just been gifted with the ability to find humor in any situation. It’s hard for me to be serious all the time.. it’s no fun!!

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      • Like the thoughts that go through my head, I feel like my life is a perpetual episode of seinfeld sometimes..

        Completely agree!!! I can’t help it that I’m funny in a way that passively laughs at people with the full finger pointing. I don’t curse and i’m not vulgar in any type of way. In my eyes, I’m a catch.

        …but this post could explain my 3 (…4) year dating drought.

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    • Can you REALLY be that serious with a 10″er?

      Thank you for being on the side of us “funny” girls. MUAH :-*

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      • @Mrs. Dr. Evil

        Trust me, I’ve got my moments. lol. That’s why I try to keep it light and have a little fun on here when i can…

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    • “Call me crazy, but I’ve always been attracted to the goofy/funny but sexy woman. And if she’s nice to look at (translation: got a fattie), that’s always been a plus.”

      You’re crazy.

      *jots down number to hand to you*

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  33. ” (most) guys don’t want to be with a woman who has more. the guy who always thinks he’s the smartest man in the room probably isn’t going gaga for women who make him feel like simple jack”

    So this is why my ex (who constantly told me how much smarter and funnier I was than him) cheated on me with a girl with the IQ of a biscuit.

    good shit stuff to know

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    • “So this is why my ex (who constantly told me how much smarter and funnier I was than him) cheated on me with a girl with the IQ of a biscuit.”

      nah. he cheated cause you stopped the post-dawn bj’s.

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  34. I’m funny. I can’t help it. God ain’t give me no tig ol’ bitties or an *ss that makes men weep and midgets grow. I think the day he was giving those, I had the itis from too murch rice. Instead, He gave me a sense of humor. I out-funny most guys I come across. But it’s seldom at their expense. I’m not in the business of emasculating guys, let alone w/ jokes directed at them. I know where to draw a line w/ my jerkitude.

    But I could see how a certain type of funny in a female could turn a guy off. I see some female comedians and cringe at some of the jokes they make. Comedians like Sommore, Monique, Sheryl Underwood are pretty doggone crass. THEIR brand of comedy has always come across very masculine to me. They cuss like sailors and grab proverbial balls.

    But if a man is turned off be a woman JUST because she’s funnier than him, he needs to turn in his REAL balls so we can give him proverbial ones. Let me be great (and funny)!

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  35. It depends on what kinda funny you are talking about..are you talkin “Lisa Lampanelli” funny or ” Sherry Shepherd” funny….the “blue humor” I don’t think goes over too well with men..they may laugh all the while side-eyeing you….some people are just naturally humorous without even trying..all jokes aside (literally) they’re not trying to be funny they just are…..I think a man appreciates a good-humored woman like this…

    I have noticed that alot of the female comedians that are really making money..are rather unfortunate looking and have some trouble keeping a man…ie…Kathy Griffin, Lisa Lampanelli..these two come to mind first because they can easily sell out Madison Square Gardens no problem……but no men in their lives. I will include Whoopi in this bunch, too..because she has been married four or five times…can’t really keep a man either..its a conundrum!

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    • I don’t think I mean to say Madison Square Gardens..I meant Radio City Music Hall…but, maybe, they could…Hmmm? Dane Cook friggin rocked Madison Square Gardens…it was incredible! That dude is soo funny!

      That is all.

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      • @QueenT, Dane Cook friggin rocked Madison Square Gardens…it was incredible! That dude is soo funny!

        i’ve never actually heard Dane Cook and funny mentioned in the same breath. maybe i’m just not deep enough to get it. cuz that is one unfunny dude to me.

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    • i remember watching lisa lampanelli for the first time and staring at the screen in shock for maybe 30 minutes (one, because of how funny and mean she was, and two because of comedy central allowing her to say the f word)

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  36. Guys don’t want women that are too boring and they don’t women that are too funny either. It’s like women are expected to walk this fine line.

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  38. Jokes women probably shouldn’t tell when impressing a man with her humor (via tha net):

    What do you call an intelligent man in America?
    A tourist.

    Husband: Want a quickie?
    Wife: As opposed to what?

    When would you want a man’s company?
    When he owns it.

    What do you call a man with half a brain?
    A woman.

    What did God say when he created Adam?
    I can do better than this.

    What do you call a woman who knows where her husband is every night?
    A widow.

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    • What do you call an intelligent man in America?
      A tourist.

      this one caught me off guard… Tx10inch you funny.

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    • What did God say when he created Adam?
      I can do better than this.

      HAHAHA

      I said that to a guy once well not in those words more like “Sure God created man before woman, but then again you always make a rough draft before creating the final masterpiece.”
      He was PISSED PO.ed I tell u PO.ed….

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  39. So let me get this straight…

    Be fine but not too fine
    Be “black girl slim” but not too slim
    Have an ass but not too much/too little ass
    Be smart but not smarter than him
    Be educated but having a degree or two don’t matter
    Have standards but don’t set the bar too high…
    And finally, be amusing but don’t be funnier than him…

    …and you wonder why there are so many nutty broads walking the streets…it’s too much ish to keep up with…

    I say be who you are, whatever that is, and if a ninja can roll with it, that’s the ninja you need in your life….

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    • “Be fine but not too fine
      Be “black girl slim” but not too slim
      Have an ass but not too much/too little ass
      Be smart but not smarter than him
      Be educated but having a degree or two don’t matter
      Have standards but don’t set the bar too high…
      And finally, be amusing but don’t be funnier than him…”

      sucks, don’t it?

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      • Yup, after work I’m going to local lesbian hangout. If that doesn’t work, I’m calling Dr. Scalpel and making my appt to get lobotomized. If I’m still single in a week, I’m becoming my alter ego Evangeline the stripping ho and giving it up to any ninja that coughs around me.

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    • I say be who you are, whatever that is, and if a ninja can roll with it, that’s the ninja you need in your life….

      I agree. I burned my “Act like a Lady think like a man” book because I woke up and told myself that I got no business changing my Self in order to prevent deflating a man’s ego. If a whole lot of women decides to have a revolution where we choose to be ourselves, more dudes will start accepting us for who we are…

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  40. *cues up Smokey Robinson and The Miracles’ “Tears of a Clown”*

    I’m funny, but not funny-lookin’. And there’s nothin’ funny about my cheeks.

    I don’t try to compete with a funny guy, I try to compliment him in his hilarity. Ultimately he still gets his shine.

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    • Love that song btw, and I agree totally, not in a comedic competition with guys, just slips it in when apropos, and I love them to make a man I am into laugh, thats sexy!
      I love making making folks I phcuks wit laugh period, its fun!

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      • “and I love them to make a man I am into laugh, thats sexy!”

        Ain’t it?! I find it equally sexy when he makes me laugh, so why not the other way around. Laughing is sexy. Unless you laugh like Kendra, the former playmate.

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        • very much so , being able to make one another laugh, just able to be silly with dude too, is refreshing!
          Someone to “somersault” in the sand with me” and “take me back to Wondaland” = imagine and play in a none sexual way ….thats nice *sigh*

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  41. after reading a few of the comments, i think i need to make something clear. i’m not saying that women can’t be funny, or that funny women need to change their stripes. in fact, anyone who’s been here should know that i’m a fan of funny and witty chicks.

    the point of the post is just to try and answer a question i’ve been asked numerous times (including three times in the last week). that is all.

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    • I like them very funny and witty. If Cheekie lived near me, she might have a stalker on her hands!

      No bullshi*t

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    • Well, in terms of the motivation of your post, I think the got dropped for making fun of the guy. If you’re going to have laughs at the expense of your date, you gotta start small and feel them out.

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      • “If you’re going to have laughs at the expense of your date, you gotta start small and feel them out.”

        Exactly. I think learning how to feel a guy out (and up) is key. Playfully ribbing him is cute and he probably thinks it’s cute, but if you go in on him hard (especially in front of his ninjas), you should probably be able to sense him starting to tense up. Which, would be the time to stop.

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  42. I love funny women…..all 6 of them. A funny woman is so rare that I don’t feel like we have enough evidence to work with. And of course, the measure of funny is entirely subjective, so it could be my idiosyncrasies that unfairly exclude women. I don’t find most women to be funny. Neither the timing, nor the references, nor the delivery is well executed. In fact, I wish there were more women who at the very least could interpret humor. That would be tremendous.

    Personally, I’m looking for Veronica Corningstone. If you don’t know who that is, you probably aren’t funny.

    And as for the woman with the Paul Pierce remark, yes, that line is hilarious. The problem is that the implications are scathing. He asks himself “Damn, do I really look like Paul Pierce?” That’s a harsh joke. If I went in on a woman on our first date, even if she had a great sense of humor, I don’t see her responding too well to that line either.

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    • “If I went in on a woman on our first date, even if she had a great sense of humor, I don’t see her responding too well to that line either.”

      thats another thing. one of the reasons why (many) men feel uncomfortable around jonesing women is that we dont know how to respond without saying something truly hurtful. for instance, we (men) rag on each others appearance because thats just what we do, but you can’t say “shut up, alvin gentry looking ass n*gga” to a woman, especially if you’re interested in seeing her naked

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      • “thats another thing. one of the reasons why (many) men feel uncomfortable around jonesing women is that we dont know how to respond without saying something truly hurtful. for instance, we (men) rag on each others appearance because thats just what we do, but you can’t say “shut up, alvin gentry looking ass n*gga” to a woman, especially if you’re interested in seeing her naked”

        Good point.

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  44. I think the post was okay. There is nothing wrong with a woman being herself. Personally I don’t know any women that can make me crack up laughing, but I wouldn’t care if I did. As long as she isn’t boring, then cool.

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  45. [quote]also, when women take the tension breaking/disarming role when interacting with a man, it has a way of saying “you don’t have to impress me“. this is good in theory, but we (men) tend not to really romantically respect women that we feel no need to impress. this is when close-buses happen.[/quote]

    I don’t quite agree with this one. I’ve had several take that role with me while still maintaining that aura of “you better step up your game”. I think how someone comes across when doing this depends on the person. She can be funny and still throw in the “this doesn’t mean you’re seeing my lower back tattoo tonight” look in there as well.

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    • “I don’t quite agree with this one. I’ve had several take that role with me while still maintaining that aura of “you better step up your game”. I think how someone comes across when doing this depends on the person. She can be funny and still throw in the “this doesn’t mean you’re seeing my lower back tattoo tonight” look in there as well.”

      good point

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  46. LLS…..interesting…..may I add l.heard several great comedians say the best comedy comedy/humor comes from pain……

    Folk that know me, know that I can be quite the clever funny girl, my sense of humor is wicked. neva made a dude lose interest tho
    *Orange Shrug*

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    • “may I add l.heard several great comedians say the best comedy comedy/humor comes from pain…”

      yeah. i remember someone (i forgot who) saying that you can’t be truly funny unless you know how it feels to truly hurt

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  47. Child Please!!

    “Excuses are tools of incompetence and useless words of nothing.”

    This is the first thing I thought about after reading this post. I mean DAYUM!! Now women can’t be funny?? Another BS reason on why we’re single? It just seems that now men are coming with all kinds of BS excuses out of their a$$ to justify why they are passing up good, smart, witty, caring, nurturing, loving, responsible, and about-their-business women. I mean, are you all that intimidated with women in today’s society that you can’t take a joke now? I went to a middle and high school back in the day where jonesin’ was survival.. If you weren’t funny, it was your loss. So, quick wit is something that I have. Personally, in my relationships, my humor wasn’t the downfall (I think) it was other BS that surfaced.. Ya know??

    Do better men, do better.

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      • If it’s not one thing it’s another Champoine… That is why I came with that quote.

        Men nowadays, or some men, or “the media” are coming with all kinds of ish to validate why a woman is not the one for them. But we are to, to a point (No Chilli). I mean, to each their own. Every man that I have dated has had a great sense of humor and I have complimented them with mine. At the end of the day, humor wasn’t the downfall, it was other “complications” i.e. my fault, his fault, or a combination.

        So, in a nutshell, I’ll just keep being me and draw men with my smile, thick long legs, quick wit, and knowledge of world news and SportsCenter. :-) .

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        • “So, in a nutshell, I’ll just keep being me and draw men with my smile, thick long legs, quick wit, and knowledge of world news and SportsCenter. :-) .”

          And you’re single because……? Seems like a good package to me.

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  48. I painfully agree. I like to consider myself to be witty, friends say i’m really funny but I realized that I have to be different around men of interest.
    Why?
    Cause ya’ll are insecure

    I’m not a lesbian so I have to adjust my humor. At first it’s cute, then they think you’re being a smart *ss or sarcastic. I can’t be boring. I don’t know how to be that woman that just sits there being demure all the time. I have some friends that are stiff as cardboard and barely laugh out loud. Really? That’s hot to ya’ll? I want you to feel comfortable around me. I don’t get it.

    I also realized they HATE it when you’re smarter than they are. I constantly have to dumb myself down for men. Ugh.

    This…like many other things falls under the fact that men want to feel like they are better. You can do you…but don’t over do it more than him. Apply this to everything: intelligence, humor, income, assets, friends, etc.

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      • You’re not a 3…and besides the ugly guys be the first ones to talk ish so don’t say that. I almost karate chopped this guy at hard rock for making fun of my girl…and he looked like straight COCKROACH. lol

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      • I cosign..we’re single cause there is a good man shortage and currently the HOES got the scene on lock. *ehug*

        Seriously, I realize men are easily intimidated. Guys get nervous around me, don’t know how to act, etc. I honestly think it would be easier if i showed more cleavage, giggled alot, and didn’t say ish. Then they would feel like kings. The divorce rate in China is low girl. lol

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        • I agree that the H*es got it on lock for sure! I’m like, I’m not gonna change myself to get a man & if I was THAT CHICK that HAD to have a man 24/7 I would. The question is not can alot of us woman get a good man because we can, I just refuse to settle.

          One of my fav quotes from S&TC
          “Some people are settling down, some are settling, and some people refuse to settle for anything less than butterflies…” ~Carrie Bradshaw

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      • And you shouldn’t feel that way. There is nothing wrong with being straight forward and blunt, just as long as you can have a good time and not act like you got a stick up your butt. From the comments I have seen you make on here, you seem like real cool and outgoing. And funny.

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  49. I don’t care anymore. I’ll be funny, have an Ivy League education, make a lot of money in a great job, be talented, and even be COMPETITIVE about all these things (gasp!).

    Men can spend all their time trying to brainwash women that their search for unicorns is legit, and I’ll search for a unicorn of my own. If worse comes to worse, I’ll just do my own reenactment of “The Backup Plan”. ;)

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  50. I enjoyed this post. I agree with it for the most part. I think that being with a woman with a varied sense of humor is great. I personally enjoy a lot of different humor, from dry to offensive. If it’s funny, I laugh. Sometimes it’s hard to hear a great joke, or see a funny sight gag and your girl just has that blank look on her face. I’m sure the same applies to girls who have a better sense of humor than their man. Basically, I can’t stand anyone who thinks they are too intelligent, or cultured, or whatever to enjoy a good laugh when something is clearly funny as sh*t.

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    • “Sometimes it’s hard to hear a great joke, or see a funny sight gag and your girl just has that blank look on her face.”

      Co-sign to the fullest. It was very frustrating to go through all of Anchorman with my girl and not see her so much as smirk. I mean I can’t even get past the opening credits “The Human Torch was denied a bank loan”.

      Yet, we’ll both enjoy re-runs of Martin or Chapelle show. Maybe its just best to find a sense of humor that compliments yours.

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  51. This is an interesting post. I think guys can be less interested in funny women because they are less mysterious. Something about humor opens people up and makes the distance shorter between what you would like to think a person is like and who they really are. Quiet, “dull” women are more mysterious and mystery is attractive to men. It’s like what the commentor above was saying about Dave Chappelle- dude is hilarious but most women are not trying to get booed up with him because his humor kind of lets everybody know about the issues & pain that lurk beneath.

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  52. These comments remind me of Psychology and Psychologist… vague and arbitrary definitions. It seems everyone’s definition of funny is different. I don’t think the Champ is saying that women can’t be funny or shouldn’t funny, it’s just not attractive for a woman to tell “deep” jokes. Having a sense of humor (appreciating humor) is different from being able to tell a well thought out joke. It’s one thing to add onto a joke or tell a simple joke but a woman rattling off hardcore jokes isn’t as attractive as when a man is going (LOL! This coming from a woman). Women should be able to rattle off a joke here and there but if that is your only way of attracting a man or keeping their interest… do better.

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    • “I don’t think the Champ is saying that women can’t be funny or shouldn’t funny, it’s just not attractive for a woman to tell “deep” jokes. Having a sense of humor (appreciating humor) is different from being able to tell a well thought out joke.”

      So women shouldn’t think too much…. ???

      :-\

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      • No, I’m not saying women shouldn’t think too much. If anything, I doubt that is possible. Our whole being is over-thinking anything and everything. By deep I didn’t mean intelligent. To appreciate a joke, one clearly has to be somewhat intelligent. Whether it makes you laugh or not is another story. I feel a good joke teller has to work on it. While there are people who are funny, they didn’t come out the womb funny. They had to work on their timing, learn how to read the audience, material and so on. Really there aren’t a lot of funny jokes that sound funny coming from a woman. Why as a woman work on jokes when we have so much more to offer?

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  53. I’ve never thought of humor being a possible turn-off to men. I can’t say I agree with that. I know several women without a funny bone in their body and they still can’t keep a man and woman that’s funny as Bernie Mack and always stay boo’d up. IDK bout this one Champ…but since I’m not a man then…*shrugs*

    I can say that I’ve noticed that men tend to have irrational feelings sometimes. Maybe We’ll just call that MALE-LOGIC…hmmmmmmm

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  55. I feel like i’m pretty and funny..but more of the sarcastic/dry-sense-of-humor kind of funny that most guys don’t get…or do but directly categorize me in the dreaded “friend zone”..hmm..I should probably take a hint, but if you lived in Iowa across the street from a farm surrounded by rednecks, in a town of 355 people..well hell, you’d be asinine too…
    *Yeah I had to move back after college*
    …I guess I do have the cooking thing dwn though; I can cook a chicken FROM SCRATCH right off the farm..neighbors taught me that…hehe

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  56. @ Champ: I just came to say I saw your response to the NBA debate. I’ll respond later today when I get home.

    Just giving notice so the thread doesn’t ‘die’ out or worst: you think I wasn’t going to answer.

    Bond. BlkBond.

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  57. Dang son! So what is a woman supposed to do? Have a sense of humor dry as toast? I don’t think I’m overly funny…but I got jokes. However I’ll play off of dude’s sense of humor…unfortunately not everybody gets all of my random references and what not.

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    • This is only going to be an issue for a tiny, tiny sliver of the female populace.

      Most women never learn to hone their funny in the first place – they have no problem. Other women try to hone their funny but aren’t really that funny – they have no problem. A tiny percentage of women are just outright, naturally hilarious. This is their issue alone.

      This isn’t a “ladies, date down/date ditchdiggers/share men” kind of thing. This is not a problem for women in general – just the most gifted among you.

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      • @Scipio Africanus

        Ahhhh, I understand what your saying. I didn’t take it as the underlying messase was “date ditchdiggers” (lol). I just thought being funny was a pretty good darn quality to have…now it must be watered down? *confused face*

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        • Honestly, I would suggest that women just keep doing what you’re doing in regards to the funny. Assuming the funny follows a standard distribution curve, only a small number of y’all are “suffering” from being too funny. It’s just not an isue for most fo y’all.

          It’s like dudes making firmly lower middle class wages all talking about a women beinga golddigger. The vast majority of men don’t have that kind of money, other than shelling out alot of cash for dates (which is really real, but a different problem.)

          Most of y’all aren’t that funny anyway.

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  58. I went out on a few dates with a girl who was easily the best looking girl who’s ever spoken any English to me and who was *also* professional-comedian-level hilarious. It was sensory overload. I couldn’t believe someone like her existed. But then she kicked me to the curb after maybe 3 weeks.

    Paola, where are you!??!?!!?!?!?!?!

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  59. I call shenanigans. Mostly because laughter makes people feel good and people like to feel good. So I can’t imagine any sane (secure) human being stopping themselves in the midst of a fit of giggles and thinking, “Oh no, this person is making me LAUGH. Abort! Abort!”

    A working comedian might find that to be competition, but most of us out here aren’t professional comedians, so that shouldn’t be an issue. And I can see how men might think twice about a woman who uses abrasive humor, or a woman who tries too hard to be funny (which is almost as annoying a man trying too hard). But to say that a woman shouldn’t be TOO funny (along with those who say, “she shouldn’t make TOO much money,” “she shouldn’t be TOO smart” and “she shouldn’t be TOO good in bed”) simply sounds like a cop-out. Otherwise, it just sounds like guys want nothing more than a pretty sockpuppet.

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    • It’s the same as women wanting a good looking man, but not a man who’s prettier than she is.

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      • WOMP. What that really means is that women don’t want a man who arches his eyebrows and gets weekly pedicures. That’s not about being more attractive… it’s about being kinda suspect.

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        • That’s a caricature of it. I’ve heard women express that sentiment if a dude is just really on some Christopher Williams, 1988 steez.

          Like I said above, the number of truly hilarious women for whom this may be a problem is so small, odds are any given one of y’all in this post has NOTHING to worry about – you’re probably not *that* daggone funny.

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  60. Forgive me. I did not go through all the comments. The problem I see from the initial post is not that the girl made a joke. The problem is that the girl made a joke about the boy. Jokes made about the person you are currently out on a date with, whether male or female is not a good look.

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  61. Woooowww…I’m done for, then. I might as well wash my hands of dating altogether, I mean, damn.

    Now that I think back, I’ve jokingly said “stop being a b*tch-*ss” or some variation of that to nearly every boyfriend/prospect I’ve had (I usually only date guys who seem to have a sense of humor). I’m admittedly a sore winner when it comes to some video games, most card games, pop culture board games, shows like Jeopardy and Millionaire, chess and Connect Four. In fact, I’m highly competitive at most things that involve some intellectual stamina.

    I’ve told jokes my whole life as a defense mechanism (you know, the nerd thing…plus I had my Ugly Betty steez in full effect), so now that I don’t really need to, it’s too late. I’ve had 20 years to cultivate and hone this personality, and I’m waaayyyy too stubborn (or lazy?) to change.

    Although I’m only 23 (and this will probably get the “psshhhh” lip-purse to the side from older readers), what I’ve learned about dating through experience is more than enough to make Orphan Annie drop her scrub brush and be like “f*ck this sh*t”, yet I’ve tried to keep at least a modicum of optimism. And now, to top it off, my personality is a deal-breaker? Shooooot I can’t even type a comment on a blog without a bit of snark/sarcasm/etc. Lol, oh yeah, I’m thinking it’s a wrap.

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  62. Growing up with 4 brothers and a family of people who are just plain (southern) funny (not jokesters….there is a difference), I had to be quick on the draw when the laughs were on me. So, with my fam/friends, I’m known to jones with the best of them. But I usually keep that within my close circle of folks because I realized early that its not necessarily sexy to some guys (at least until after they fall in love with me…..*sneaky laugh*). At that point, he’s usually joining in on all the fun with me and my crazy folks.

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  64. “Funny” chicks are often unfunny, and it is annoying when they beat you over the head with their tired jokes. I feel the same way about the “comedian” homie who never stops cracking. It is tiring.

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    • Yup. When unfunny people do that, male or female, it can devolve into basically them just talking too damn much. Like the homie who’s a storyteller and demands the rapt attention for 10 solid minutes of whoever’s in his line of vision as he tells you about the time he got head on the A train in 1996 from a Dutch midget, coming home from the club .

      Like “SHUT UP – you’re not that funny, I don’t care about your stor(ies).”

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    • I have a co-worker that swears she’s funny but isn’t. What would be funny is if she got rid of those dimples in her a**…ok…That’s just mean. *sits microphone down and walks away*

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  65. Even though i don’t necessarily agree with the practice, I understand this post. But as a woman I must say that dudes are immediately crossed off my list of potentials if I meet said fella in a situation where I’m not my most extroverted (e.g. at work). I’m too quiet, smiley, and demure at work. So if a dude likes that, my true silly personal isn’t for him. I ain’t got time to be sniggling and cheezing to yo whack jokes nor your lame stories about your African safari trip you took 6 years ago with Moms.

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  66. The women who posed the question behind this post are interesting to me. It’s like asking why do men not accept a woman for having a unibrow, a peg leg, or half a donk. It’s preference. A woman can either change or be herself. I pick the latter.

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  67. I love a funny woman, so it is not a turn off for me at all. I grew up around funny women so I love a woman that can make me laugh because I like breaking the ice with a woman by making her laugh and making her smile. I can say that when it comes to women, I don’t make jokes that insulting or hurtful to them. I don’t shoot slugs with a woman like I do with my boys. That’s just a personal thing with me. I’m a caring dude like that, I guess. I love funny women because they are usually pretty smart women and as I have said on this blog before, I hate dumb women. As I have grown up, I love witty, intelligent comedians along with in your face comedians. I like women that can enjoy the stylings of Chris Rock, the genius of Richard Pryor and can watch the Thursday night 2 hour block of comedy on NBC and actually get it. My sense of humor can go all over the place and I like women who are like that too. If your sense of humor is comparably to a 6 year old’s and you are over 25, you are probably going to annoy me.

    I don’t know what all I just said meant but I guess I should sum it up with this: I like funny women. I like funny people, period. I just don’t like @$$holes, women included. If your sense of humor is only based on being an @$$hole towards people, you and I are probably not going to get along. You’re not funny. You’re just being a d!ck.

    Shout out to the VSSs. You ladies are hilariously funny on a daily basis and based on your avatars, y’all are hot, too.

    (Yeah, I’m kissing @$$. So what? I grew up with a mother, stepmother and 3 sisters and 2 stepsisters and no brothers. I grew up knowing when a woman gets her hair done, when she is losing weight and how to kiss ass. Sue me)

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      • Okay right Cheeks! I mean dang Comic- you too much! I just bought these *reaches under skirt* lol

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      • There needs to be a VSB award created just for ComicBookGuy next year: “commenter with the most panties thrown at”

        It’s only May 26, and unless he stops commenting altogether, he’s got the award in the bag…

        :)

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    • Yeah, I’m kissing @$$. So what? I grew up with a mother, stepmother and 3 sisters and 2 stepsisters and no brothers. I grew up knowing when a woman gets her hair done, when she is losing weight and how to kiss ass. Sue me.

      I’ll be the first to respond to the much appreciated kiss a$$ery with a “aaaaawwww” and a :D

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      • What’s funny about that part of my comment is that earlier this year I came to the revelation of why I grew up around women all my life and didn’t come out gay: I was pretty much raised by tomboys. My mom grew up on a farm so she worked outdoors with my grandparents and she graduated from college, she was certified to teach two subjects: English and PE, plus my mom loves football and golf. My oldest sister was got me into video games and comic books and she loves sci-fi stuff. I told them both that and they died laughing because it made sense. I tell them all the time I wouldn’t trade them for anything.

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      • @LaBakir

        “I’ll be the first to respond to the much appreciated kiss a$$ery with a “aaaaawwww” ”

        I thought you would respond by tooting your @ss.

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    • “Yeah, I’m kissing @$$. So what?…Sue me”

      Yeah, folk…you did some major puckering here…I think you may have even grazed some anus with that one…

      *ducks out of the way of e-panties being thrown at CBG*

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  68. I love funny girls. Barring massive head trauma funny usually last forever.

    My gf grew up with a lot of brothers and male cousins in her house so she’s rather witty. This is one of the things that has actually help us work because we rarely pull punches when we crack on each other in private. She constantly makes jokes about my love for chicken and I reply with the same kind of jokes about her. A good sense of humor is sexy. Trust me there’s nothing funnier than a girl singing “don’t trust them new n****rs” in public or posting a Haiku about my love for chicken on my Facebook wall.

    The funny chicks I know usually get along ok.

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  69. Your comparisons in the more part are wholly unbalanced. It sounds a lot like the “more” problem for men is borne out of sexism. That they can’t stand a woman being better than them at smthg. It has to do with how it would make men feel about themselves, whereas the sensitive thing has more to do with qualities women are looking for in a man (strength, even-temperedness). But I guess that could also be borne out of internalized sexist conceptions of male/female roles. *Kanye shrug*

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    • ” It sounds a lot like the “more” problem for men is borne out of sexism. That they can’t stand a woman being better than them at smthg.”

      Not *something*, but “guy things”.

      That’s not sexism as much as the gender system in general and gender roles. That goes both ways, not just in an oppressive way against women. There’s things women don’t want men to know much about or to know how to do better than they can.

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    • Clearly I didn’t read your whole reply at firts, lol. Yes, your last sentence is what I think it really is more than the beginning of your reply.

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  70. I have the crass, obscene humor that you say turns men off and puts chicks in the “friend zone” in your opinion. I have homies who talk to me like I’m a homeboy, true… But by most standards I’m pretty hot, I’m intelligent, and I can cook… I’m kind of a catch. So abrasive humor doesn’t hurt my chances. My boo person and I crack jokes and play dozens all day, and that’s part of what makes our bond so strong and cohesive. Don’t make “funny girls” a monolith. We’re more than just friends.

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  71. I know this is off topic, but Stones Throw Records has a new Madvillain track for 2010, free to download. (Madvillain = Madlib(beats) + MF DOOM(flows)). I don’t know about the other hip hop heads out there, but my dad has just gotten a little brighter.

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    • I mean my day has just gotten a little brighter. Okay, that’s it. I’m getting something to eat.

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          • @LaBakir @Cheekie,

            Okay, I’m back with food in my belly. Y’all got me good on that one. LOL Y’all are exactly what I meant on my comment I posted earlier about VSSs.

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          • @Cheekie,

            Lol. Actually something very horrible. KFC with mashed potatoes and green beans. I know that is bad but I’ve been putting in work in the gym this week so I deserved to eat something bad.

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          • @ComicBookGuy,

            “I know that is bad but I’ve been putting in work in the gym this week so I deserved to eat something bad.”

            It’s all good. There’s nothin’ wrong with allowing yourself a little treat after hard work. If you don’t, you might crash and burn. And YES @ the breast/wing combo. I love white meat. Shutup pause choir. lmao @ La Bakir’s hastag.

            And NO @ the double-down. I refuse to taste that. It looks hella gross.

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          • @LaBakir,

            That pause choir killed me. Listening to Angela Yee in the morning on Shade 45 has too many pause worthy moments.

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      • @ComicBookGuy

        Don’t front. You know you ate two KFC Double Downs.
        Good look on that Madvillain. Have you heard the new Guilty Simpson?

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        • @Humble_One,

          Naw, man. I can’t do the Double Down. Seeing that commercial makes me queasy. A two piece (breast and wing) is all I need to make me happy.

          Yeah, I always peep Guilty Simpson. Him + Madlib = OJ Simpson = damn good music. Stones Throw Records constantly renews my faith in hip hop.

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      • No prob. I am on Stones Throw Records email list so I got pretty excited about that. Been waiting for some new Madvillain stuff.

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  72. AND…ya’ll wanna list “must have a great sense of humor” and “must be intelligent and witty” on your dating profiles…liars.

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    • When we say that we simply mean “get my jokes and make me laugh from time to time – the end.” That’s a standard a large number of with-it, mature women can pull off fairly well with a modest amount of effort.

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    • Right, that was my original question that I asked Champ. I see that as a trait on a man’s list often. They need to say what they REALLY want then!

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  73. I really wanna know what time you people get up in the morning…readin comments is 57% of the fun but there’s always 300+ by the time I get here everyday…ya’ll are dedicated

    I’m like Bethanny (RHONYC) I’m a comedy snob, I don’t hang with anyone who isn’t funny and they are all naturally funny (men & women). Do men really work that hard at tryna be funny – I’ve seen it and it’s usually an epic fail – you either are or you aren’t. But anyway I’ve never known a guy to be turned off by my humor, maybe it’s just well balanced with my b*tch, idk…

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  74. Ya know what? I’m a little tired of all these confounded UNfounded “rules” of decorum for women. I’m more inclined to believe that the biggest problem is the “diva dude” that was discussed previously. Give THEM some damn rules and maybe black love can get back on track.

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    • I have to agree with you. A lot of men forget that there are rules to the game that we have to abide by to carry ourselves as gentlemen. A little bit of class goes a long way. Oh, yeah, your screenname is damn good song by the Ohio Players.

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  75. 1st of all, co-sign on Sweetstickythang! Why do women have to follow so many rules, where as all men have to do is be employed and bathe. I’m gonna be me, and if you don’t like it, keep walking.

    2nd, as far as funny being a “man thing,” I think men and women find completely different things funny. Men don’t get Sex & The City or romantic comedies. Women don’t get Terry Crews’ Old Spice commercials*, or any beer commercial (other than the Dos Equis campaign.)

    * I was trying to figure out why he replaced the “I’m on a horse” guy, until I witnessed a bunch of men laughing hysterically at Terry Crews. Those commercials disturb me.

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  77. you know what.. this is absolutely crazy..
    ironically though.. my ex was an “actor” (which means he was job-less).. he was funny.. but when we got around our friends, he would turn sour.. then one day told me, “your personality is so big, i feel invisible”.. or some bull like that.. we called him grandpa, cuz honestly, that’s what he looked like..
    i mean, i can understand if you don’t feel included in the conversation.. but if i’m funny, then why do i have to keep my smart jokes to myself to make you feel like the center of attention..
    i don’t have a potty mouth, so i can’t co-sign on the last one.. but i do understand where you’re coming from.. i have made many a man feel small because he was lame and couldn’t take a joke.. granted, these were men i wasn’t interested in, so it worked out fine for me..
    but at the moment, i don’t date.. so maybe that’s why.. but honestly, i’m not gonna dumb it down (no Lupe) for anyone.. i can’t put on performances, ESPECIALLY if the academy isn’t handing out nominations!!

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      • At first I was gonna ask the same thing, but I think by “looked like” she didn’t mean physically but that’s how he looked because he turned sour around friends?

        I’m reaching? lol

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    • I co-sign this message! I agree in theory, but the sexist over tones is killing me. What you described Nick is what happens to my sister. Me, I have funny times, but I am not funny all the time. Now my sister is stand up comedy funny. Seriously! She is bestfriends with a standup comedian and he LOVES her. She does not try to be funny, she just is. I told my sister about this topic and she began to talk about her children’s father. How she had to shrink because of his ego. That is not healthy nor is it ok! It’s not about being right, but more about being yourself.

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  78. This definitely falls into the oddball category.
    What ‘man’ is really turned off or intimidated by a woman with a sense of humor? That doesn’t make any sense to me. On one hand, I understand if it is a crass, tactless, rude chick that is abnoxious and overbearing in her brand of comedy. No one likes a woman or man like that. However, a woman having a unbridled personality with comedic flare is ‘undesireable’ to some men? Thats crazy talk to me, and in my opinion more of a reflection of the men that happen to feel that way. I’m sorry but that sounds real ‘sensitive’ to me. Ralph Tresvant anyone?

    Anyway, on another note, I cant say I have ever met a FFF(Fine Funny Female) in my life. I mean, I dont hear anyone lusting after the Queens of Comedy. Perhaps the George Carlin syndrome can be applied to women as well….lets call it the “Sommore Syndrome”.

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  82. Sounds far too much like the ranting of someone who’s insecure about their own abilities. Maybe you’re threatened by women who are as smart and funny as they are beautiful, but don’t presume to speak for everyone.

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  83. After posting this on Facebook knowing that it would get a zillion eye rolls from my friends (I darn near sprained mine myself), a guy friend of mine made a good point (sometimes it takes a guy to explain what another guy is saying. MOST times it takes a guy to explain what another guy is saying.

    “Speaking as a connoisseur of grade A prime cut funny, I think the key word that the brother used is “Agressively Funny” vs. a naturally funny or smart funny. Sometimes males or females who are aggresively funny don’t know when to cool it down then are left with brain time to assemble more material. Hold your stones.”

    Aggressively funny is definitely different than naturally witty. Perhaps the difference between Aisha Tyler funny and Adele Givens funny? I get that.

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  84. Um…yeah, a comment similar to number 4 got me cursed out one night while playing spades with some college buddies of my bff about ten years ago.

    To this day, dude hates my a$$ and accuses me of being a lesbian.

    (His o’ soft @ss. Whatevuh, ni$$a.)

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  85. Just the title of this post made me tear up a little. Because I’m effing hilarious. Funny girls still have feelings!

    Also, saying “funny is a man thing” is disgusting. I don’t even have the time to get into why saying that is wrong on a million different levels, but that statement is a huge FAIL in my book.

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  86. As a woman that happens to have a sense of humor, your article puts us in a box once again. Humor is gender neutral, aggressive and comes from raw and real experiences! Are saying that a women shouldn’t use her coping skills like men? It’s ridiculous you make men sound like they can’t handle a woman that can make them laugh and women should be precious bobbled headed ornaments. To the ladies, “You can laugh at Pryor, Murphy and Rock but don’t ever let those filthy words come out of your mouth!” Please, its a double standard!

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  87. so, my question is, are you single? or is your girlfriend/partner totally fine with your severe self-esteem issues? i am impressed by any woman who can see passed this amount of hogwash. please tell her to email me. i gotta talk to her.

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  89. Man…the war stories this post brings up.

    I once got into an argument with someone I was seeing (briefly) because she said the content of our conversation was not jokey joke enough. Okay…I bit. However, I had to remind her that most chicks, including herself aren’t funny. Oh sure, they will always mention the overused cliche of “I love to laugh” (like duh, I don’t know anyone who says they love sulking) but them telling jokes is almost tantamount to them telling me about their hair dilemma.

    Don’t get me wrong, there are some funny women but the balance between good looking and being funny is a hard balance to reach (think Cheryl Underwood and Monique). I think it further incensed the chick I was dealing with because I told her the women weren’t fundamentally funny. The burden has always been for men to become clowns and make a chick guffaw and laugh to get the drawers.

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  90. The bottom line here ladies is that men hate, and I mean HATE when we do anything as well or better than they do. So a woman that is as funny, that can crack dirty jokes, that can make sexual innuendo filled comments with as much aplomb as any male is seen as a challenge to his virility and masculinity. This woman has dared to infringe on the Domain of Manhood.

    That is the only reason such a woman would be relegated to “undatable” status. Such a guy drops her off cowering in fear that she would upstage him at a social gathering and people might laugh at her jokes and stare at him in bored disgust when he tries to be funny and nobody even snickers.

    Men with fragile egos can’t deal with women that they believe are fair competition with them on any level. Even about who is funniest.

    Really ladies, if a guy isn’t interested in you over something this mundane, you should drop to your knees and praise God that you have been delivered from the agony of dating him. You can never feel free to be who and what you are with a guy that demands you play a certain supporting cast role to the role he has cast himself in as Star. SMH.

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    • As sad as it makes me to agree…… I have to concur. At the end of the day, it comes down to this ugliness in human nature. Still, for me I find reason to be positive because there absolutely are those who don’t think or behave like this and we have to give those people our respect and appreciation.

      I guess if every man were secure within himself and reverent of the equal humanity of women (I do believe that depriving someone of her right to cope with something with humor, however dark, raw or vulgar that humor may be, is to deny that person some humanity)…… then the world would just stop spinning on or something.

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  93. So I have been reading these articles and this one hit a little to close to home.I am pretty not justsaying that or something my dad and my friends with boyfriends tell me to feel better I’m a spokesmodel for a cosmetics line and get stoppedconstantly at the bank the gym in trafficetc by men mostly BLACK men. buuttttt When date time comes guys have a great time with me then forget me or I become a close bus or a true “just a friend” and I think I’m too funny.This hurting this cuz it was too real but I’m usually the one to break the ice to make people laugh I get told all the time im hilarious.

    THIS IS BAD! I met a professional comedian at a party and we did not get along at all it didn’t help that at one point someone blurted out “oh my gosh she is so funny YOU should be the comedian” how to I curb what i think is the best part of my personality.

    Is meeting a pretty fuuny girl a bad thing I get told
    “I didnt think you were gonna be so cool and down to earth”
    “you really nice”
    thesecompliments are backhanded because later the calls stop coming but I get the inviteto play beer pong. I’m a girl girl I dress cute I have a nice figure is being funny a flaw?

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  97. I make guys literally laugh out loud, i naturally say the things people think but are afraid to say, it has landed me with “single people problems” on occasion, but I feel like trying to downplay my personality would be me pretending to be someone im not *shrugs

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