i have heard of these statistics. some attribute it to the mentality of committment. ppl who shack generally have in the back of their mind “i don’t have to take this if i don’t want to, i can leave any time.” although it seems benign, the thought becomes habitual and it is hard to break out of that way of thinking after the marriage…..so when times get hard, that leave any time mentality rears its ugly head and divorce court it is…..that’s one hypothesis

It’s one thing to shack up.

It’s quite another thing to include a minor child in such an unstable, experimental, transitory household.

But aqualung may just have some grudge against P.
I don’t know. ~shrug~

Damn, I wasn’t gonna reply to this cuz it seemed all types of extra, but do you have some sort of personal beef with this man?

Anyhow, I think your theory is part of the reason why divorce rates are so high and also part of the reason the women’s movement was fought.

The reason for having babies (prophylactic failure) and the reason for marriage (love and commitment) are two different things. Marrying a woman that you love but aren’t sure you’re ready to commit to sounds like a recipe for disaster. And then you’d probably fault him for divorcing the mother if it turns out, (surprise!) they weren’t meant to be married.

My parents were married for years before I was conceived and that ring/license didn’t do me a bit more good than if they didn’t exist. On the other hand, having both my mama and daddy living in the same crib with me was very helpful.

If you pulled nothing else from all the comments it should be that marriage, cohabbing and other such arrangements deemed necessary by larger society are only what you make it. Stop imposing this one size fits all model on everybody when it clearly doesn’t work for everybody.

hm why buy the pig when you can get the sausage for free. That should be more women’s motto??

I’m comment 401 WHAT!

People are full well they have aggravating habits. (Well if they have true friends that’ll tell them about themselves they do. lol) I know I can be annoying at times. I tell people you can take me as I am or shoot the deuces.

Btw not revealing is the same as hiding. It means you have full cognizance that you do something that can be viewed in that manner and……you choose to hide it until its too late. ex lease signings , etc….. Also if its apart of who you are it is no less important the whole. Like I say you can lie to yourself just not to me.

side note this blog is the truth. (enough of that)