1. Study after study after study after study after studyÂ has shown that if given the choice between dating/mating/fighting crime with an “jerk/asshole” or a “nice guy,” (most) women are more likely to be attracted to the “jerk/asshole.”
2. When asked about this, (most) women—while acknowledging that some women do in fact prefer jerk/assholes—say that those studies are false or misleading or agenda-driven or devised by some type of sham science.
Now, I’m not bringing this up to start another “Do (most) women really prefer assholes?” debate. We’ve had that conversation enough times. Instead, I’m more interested in why there’s such a disconnect between these studies and what (most) women will say when prompted.
So far, I’ve thought of four possible reasons
1. The studies are in fact misleading and agenda driven. You could devise a study and create stats to back up anyÂ half-assed theory you can think of, and the women/asshole studies are just another example of that.
2. There’s a disconnect between how (many) women want to be perceived, and how they actually are.
3. If this “truth” is admitted, more men willÂ activelyÂ attempt to be assholes to be attractive to women. Women do not want this to happen.
4. There’s really no clear definition on how “asshole/jerk” is defined in a dating and relationship context. When you add the fact that it’s possible for a man to be an ass everywhere except with his mate, it makes things even moreÂ ambiguous.
Anyway, those are my theories. What are yours?
—Damon Young (aka “The Champ”)Â