Comments on: the do’s and dont’s of dating for “nice” guys and girls

By: TheRealestLeo

TheRealestLeo — Thu, 14 Oct 2010 16:01:40 +0000

1. Nice guys don’t finish last. We’re currently three spots behind last, and fading.

2. As a currently reforming Nice Guy (read: Being an asshole is sometimes more convenient and shows that we are not all doormats), the one thing I hate hearing most from a woman is how great of a guy or how nice of a guy I am…..followed by the “You’ll make some lucky woman happy one day” line.

So why aren’t any women trying to “Get Lucky” then, Einstein?

3. The term Nice Black woman is not an oxymoron, but they are harder to find than wins in Buffalo, Carolina, or San Fran. Or the Nintendo Wii circa 2008.

By: klysha

klysha — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 16:18:55 +0000

@Officer Ricky, dang….I think I’ve put an old friend in that situation….we were buddies…and at time buddies with benefits in college…then we grew up and he wanted to pursue a relationship and I didn’t think it would be a good idea but I didn’t want to lose his friendship…and I’ve kinda strung him along for years as the go to buddy to hang out when I don’t have a man…..and to think he tried to burn that bridge years ago and I kept showing back up even though I didn’t want a romantic relationship….. now I feel so selfish….friendship fail….

By: Caramel Eclair

Caramel Eclair — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 07:03:12 +0000

hmmmm…in college(bout 1998) i was told by a star football player that i was crushing that i was a “nice” girl, the type he could settle down with and marry and he wasn’t looking for that…skip ahead to present and about a week ago this dude who is handsome and i see on the “scene” giving me the “eye” approached got my number and called and said “i seemed like an agressive go-getter” uh, do what now? so did I change anything? uh no, just grew up and invested a third of my earnings in Mac make-up(flyest eye-shadows) so from “nice girl to aggressive go getter”..all it took was some fly azz eye shadow! and btw, wanjiru i’m a nurse and no hypochondriacs please!!!

By: overit

overit — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 02:54:12 +0000

@Cheekie, LOL…i know, remember i responded to them on some:…..

i was trying to reinforce the fact that i do not find competition in Over It.

By: afterthought

afterthought — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 02:33:35 +0000

@wanjiru,

and thats anther problem. How do you stay a nice guy and break up with a girl who thinks the world of you, but you’re not really attracted to? I mean, I did this and suddenly the whole conversation of ‘closure’ came up. Thats why that conversation the other day was so eerie.

By: afterthought

afterthought — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 02:29:01 +0000

@CPT Callamity,

The great and wise Tupac once said “Its Just Me Against The World!”. I think those are words to remember.

By: afterthought

afterthought — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 02:24:06 +0000

@voiceofreason,

yeah, some people want to call themselves nice just cause they’re scared. I think I’m a nice guy, but I find fun in laughing at other people. Maybe thats not nice, but I can’t just let you do something stupid and not call you on it. Mamma didn’t raise me that way.

By: afterthought

afterthought — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 02:19:14 +0000

@The Champ,

not in Romantic Comedies.

By: afterthought

afterthought — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 02:17:03 +0000

@V.E.G.,

nah, too nice is just that, too nice. Too willing to settle for the friend. So many people are afraid of rejection that they never even step up to the plate. Its like Panama said earlier, its not that nice guys finish last, but they just start late.

Now, if niceness is your only quality, then thats your problem. But I know lots of nice guys and gals who settled with being study partners with people or watching sports or even shopping. And whether the other person knew it or not, somebody’s gotta make a move if its ever gonna get started.

By: afterthought

afterthought — Tue, 22 Sep 2009 02:07:01 +0000

@Yogee,
much as people hate to admit it, I think you’re dead on right here.