(The Champ’s latest at Ebony explains why some of the hang-wringing over â€œthe death of courtshipâ€ may be overblown.)
Now, I’m not here today toÂ necessarilyÂ dispute the findings and first-hand accountsÂ found in each of the recent articles decrying the death of “courtship” and “traditional dating.” DatingÂ in theÂ digitalÂ age does have some discernible downsides. Along with the points listed in the articles, “People feel entitled to know your business,” says 29-year-old scientist Marguerite Matthews, adding, “As if an affiliation on Twitter/Facebook/Instagram/Tumblr gives them the right to inquire about the many details of your personal life.”
Also, according to 26-year-old grad student Racquel Jamison, the bevy of “options” provided by social networking does actually have the power to make things more cutthroat. “This makesÂ datingÂ more competitive, budding relationships less concrete, and the whole experience less fun.”
While I’m a bit past the murky waters of the low expectation/hook-up/Wendy’s value meal on aÂ champagneÂ budget/”let’s chill sometime and watchÂ The Best Man” abyss,Â I’m not so far removed from it that I don’t remember it.Â At the same time, though, I don’t know if I can completely get behind the idea that this low-expectationÂ digital-ageÂ da
And, perhaps the “death of courtship” isn’tÂ necessarilyÂ a terrible thing.