I see what you did there but prolly didn’t and it was just something I over-noticed by namechecking the Solo cup that shares the same name as the production company, Solo Journey.
I’m sure there’s been one time when you looked at a man all lovingly as he sleeped, and then randomly thought how great his teeth and ears would look as a necklace for 5 seconds, shook your head, and forgot about the whole thing.
Well see Anastasia, there are many different types of crazy. The worst is POSSESSIVE crazy. Follows you around. Constantly lurks in your phone and all your online accounts. Tries to break into your e-mail. Always suspicious of all your interactions with other human beings and your whereabouts. That isn’t a fun crazy for anyone. Men/women do not like that type of crazy. Okay, actually attention seeking men/women do secretly love it until it becomes inconvenient.
Eh, I hate the liberal use of crazy. Some of the best women that I’ve had the pleasure to be in my life have been in-and-out of “medical facilities”. I adore “off” women and welcome them to my life.
I Love me some Malik! Keep it 100! Men know they like some crazy women. Believe me i have 3 brothers and their women are crazy. They complain but are not going anywhere any time soon. I just shake my head and laugh.
-there’s never a dull moment.
- crazy cooch snaps like a rat trap…somethin’ about it makes it extra extra good, and extra good cooch is real hard to walk away from, you’re willing to put up with a lot more crap to keep the supply of it flowing
-if you’re an adrenalin junkie or a sadist, then crazy chicks is the only way to go.
-crazy chicks will jump in and help you out in a club fight…
-most crazy chicks are just misunderstood…
- got a young jump off threatening to go public to the wifey or ruin you political career? Put your other mistress, the one that’s cat shit crazy on her young azz…..no one will ever find the body….
Yes, crazy women be having some good “stuff” but that’s usually all that they can offer you, a wild night. I don’t like them. I don’t trust them and I stay the F- away from the mentally unbalanced. She can’t even get attention from from me.
~ and extra good cooch is real hard to walk away from, you’re willing to put up with a lot more crap to keep the supply of it flowing
okay i know i am gonna sound real naive and foolish, but WHY ? if you dont care for the person (and if you know she cares for you), i don’t understand why is sex more important than love or respect .. could break it down for me ? would appreciate it ..
Allow me. Brace yourself… this may come as a shock but here goes: MEN PLACE A LOOOOOOOOT OF WEIGHT ON SEX. It means a whole whole whole lot to us. Mind blowing sh*t right?! Frequent, great, unpredictable sex, if this is present in a relationship then we will put up with a lot of f*ckery. Not saying its right/smart/mature. I’m just saying.
Crazy girls usually have some crazy sex game. I mean, that is what I have heard. So when she latches onto your leg like Jeff Van Gundy when you try to break up with her; you will relent knowing that the make sex will be spectacular…so I’ve heard.
well for starters it depends on your definition of what “love” is.
secondly. were visual and physical creatures. with us for the most part it’s about sex and/or convenience. generally speaking, sex for guys takes a whole lot more effort to get. good sex even harder. and thus dudes aren’t so quick to let it go when we have it, especially if a nugga lacks options.
a lot of times guys get into relationships simply because of the steady supply of the voodoo.
i wish that i had some deep and cerebral answer for you ma, but many of us dudes stick around chicks that we need to charge to the game simply because we’re pu$$y whipped
This further confirms what I already knew about men insisting on punishing themselves by dating, staying with, and seeking out crazy women to date. Men love the “crazies”.
“I like a woman with a future and a past, a little attitude problem all good, it’ll make the shit last.”
This further confirms what I already knew about men insisting on punishing themselves by dating, staying with, and seeking out crazy women to date. Men love the “craziesâ€.
“I like a woman with a future and a past, a little attitude problem all good, it’ll make the sh*t last.â€
Yes! Especially the way ole dude frantically went searching for his medicine…in her purse. So you mean to tell me…you kno this crazy chick could possibly purposely-on-accident kill you bwhahahaha…iCant
That was his insulin. Ded at “you’ll get your insulin back, when you stop liking other womens’ facebook statuses.” Smh, facebook still ending relationships.
When she started stabbing the donut box, I felt two things simultaneously I felt scared for him and sad for the donuts. I’m sure those were perfectly good donuts.
I just love how long guys will stay with a crazy woman, knowing she’s crazy. How many times do you have to have your cars keyed and the windows bust out to know she’s not the one. (For the record, this happened to a guy I went to HIGH SCHOOL with. If she was doing that at 16, i don’t even want to know…)
For some of us, crazy is normal. That’s what yall don’t understand. We saw it all the time growing up, every girl we dated had a little crazy in here..it takes a real moment of clarity to understand “oh shyte…..I can just not do that anymore”.
This may be the realest comment on this site today. Some of us people were raised by a crazy moms and you just think that thats how women are. Thats the type of sh*t that you don’t figure out until you’re grown…like grown grown(30+).
Exactly, then you look at all the chicks you been with and wonder why your new girl is wearing a Spider-man mask and hanging from the 2nd floor window.
A seriouser post: I do feel people like to throw out “crazy” far too often for people that they don’t apply to because they show affection in a way that is different from how you do, how you’ve received affection, and how you would like to receive affection. I’ve been guilty of this plenty of times. Some get the overly attached label far too quickly for basic stuff like just wanting to be around you a lot because they just sincerely enjoy your company whether it be in the physical or on the phone. You can personally perceive it as a lot and weird because that’s not how you’re used to someone you’re interested in reacting.
In the early stages my bf thought I was clingy. It wasn’t that I was clingy it’s that I actually wanted to spend time with the ninja. His girl before me was always too busy to spend time with him so they never saw each other and then I was the contrast.
Lol that probably sounds luke crazy girl logic but I actually knew them and their situation. She was juggling nursing school,2 jobs helping her sick grandmother and parenting their daughter.
My first serious boyfriend was super affectionate and caring. I thought it was strange but figured that was how I should be treated. However, he was actually crazy…
This is true. Sometimes people just come out of left field with attention you’re not used to and we percieve things as weird because we are not used to it.
STILL…some people need to put out disclaimers, it would be helpful.
I agree. Crazy is overused. Unless the person is destructive, they’re just into you. Or expressive. Some people are more comfortable expressing interest and affection.
I’m haven’t been called crazy by any exes, but I think some of them find me overly affectionate. For me, its a matter of having so much, I gotta give it away.
Why are women drawn to men of danger who give no impression that they would bring happiness to her life, or men who are simply flashy but no substance, etc?
Re: the video, maybe he’s too scared to leave her.
I used to date two crazies. One was a sweetheart, but had too much counter culture stuff going on for my tastes. Plus he was very socially awkward. As he got more comfortable around me, his default expression became this odd permanent scowl and crazy-eyed look. The other…I suspect that he was a highly functioning autist. He was relatively harmless, a cheery and fun guy, but once his behavior became publicly embarrassing, we had to split.
Actually make that three. The third ended up with someone else. Super smart guy. His mannerisms reminded me of Gene Wilder.
As much as I love the autistic teen I work with and want him to find love, I would be wary of him seriously dating anyone. He’s got such a big heart and he’s a people pleaser which can easily be misconstrued by the average functioning adult as him being a “push over”.
That video is funny and all but I would catch a case, plead guilty, and wouldn’t give 2 phucks about the girl after I killed her for taking my life-saving medication! Crazy is attractive and what not but if you ain’t an asthmatic and have never had an asthma attack to the point you are hospitalized, WHAT THE PHUCK ARE YOU TOUCHING MY MEDS FOR!?! I’m sorry but that ish will get you killed in the battlefield baby.
In terms of how people end up with crazy motherf*ckers, sometimes the crazy can be their normal if they don’t know better. I’ve spoken of my wife many a time on here, and if you wanna catch up, just type into Google “site:verysmartbrothas.com Todd Wife”. Let me give you an example of the crazy I grew up around.
As you may have noticed, the US Open in tennis is wrapping up now. If you pay any attention to women’s tennis, on the elite level are a bunch of Eastern European chics and Serena Williams. Since my mom has a deep, abiding hatred of Russians, she likes anything that shows them getting embarassed and beat down. As a result, my mom will turn on tennis just to see Serena Williams beat up on some Eastern European chic. (I know I said my mom hates Russians, but she has a hard time telling apart Russians from Romanians from Serbians from…you get the point.)
Anyway, I bring my daughter over for our weekly visit (with a rare appearance from my wife, since we came from doing some other stuff with our daughter for her birthday) and guess what I see on the television? The US Open Women’s Final with Serena Williams and Victoria Azarenka. Now, my mom isn’t one for sports, though she will accommodate my bro and myself as needed. However, for my mom to turn on a sporting event unprompted is rare. My mom wasn’t even paying attention to the match good, but she was glad every time Serena did something to “that damn Russian”. Between my mom basically being a racist idiot and my wife’s typical social mute behavior, I saw the clear connection between how I grew up and how I ended up in my current spot.
To wrap up the story, my family and I left before the end of the match in the 3rd set, and I fed my daughter dinner and decided to catch up on some football. During a timeout, I decided to check out what happened to the tennis match, and I ended up seeing Serena jump for joy and Ms. Azarenka go run off and cry under a towel. As I watched this, I said to myself “my mom is in her glory right now” and kept it moving. Two minutes later, the phone rings, and I tell my wife “I bet you $20 that’s my mom right now calling about the tennis match.
Three guesses as to who was on the phone.
I think my mom set a Negro record for most “damn Russians” said in a minute.
Hey, I did the same thing after the phone call. After my wife tried to use my mom’s craziness to get me to back off of her crazy, I said that I wasn’t co-signing the madness, just recognizing that it exists. *smh*
But, Todd, a lot of baby boomers, who grew up during the Cold War, don’t like Russians, to varying degrees. So the question becomes; does your mom say why she hates Russians? Maybe when she was a kid she was frightened of them?
I know what you’re talking about, because my grandfather was on that mindset with the Japanese until the day he died. I didn’t get upset because I know if they were shooting at me, I wouldn’t be cool with them either.
With my mom, it’s a different story. To summarize, she thinks that all Russians are scamming the welfare/social services system and getting away with it. On the flip side, my mom lost her nurse practitioner’s license over some, um, creative usage of social services. Every time she goes more than damn Russian, I’ll hear the latest story of Russian immigrants gaming the Medicare/Medicaid/Welfare/Food Stamps/EZPass system. That was half my childhood dinner convo right there, to the point where everyone else in the family pokes fun of it.
Sometimes you give me reflections of my own family, sigh. It’s sort of depressing to come from folks who think they ain’t crazy and those of us to recognize how we let crazy in our lives. smdh… Freud always blames mom. Now, we know why… now. we. know.
You know why crazy translates into sexual prowess a lot though? Good sex is based on passion, and passion during sex is based on being as unworried about your conscience as possible. Since crazy people aren’t worried about their conscience, they have a head start on most people when it comes to sex. After that, it just comes down to technique.
“…passion during s.e.x is based on being as unworried about your conscience as possible.”
That doesn’t make sense to me. I think crazy women may be better (if what I hear is true) because they are uninhibited. They are so uninhibited they display all their emotions and vulnerability- the feelings that can come across batsh*t- that also translates to the bedroom. They’ll be completely vulnerable, passionate, eager, etc.
~ they are so uninhibited they display all their emotions and vulnerability- the feelings that can come across batsh*t- that also translates to the bedroom.
so on point. how strange it is that being in touch with your inner passions is applauded, celebrated in bed during one of the most intimate of all acts, but be that person while fully dressed and people become uncomfortable with your ability/need to express your inner truth.
i think of “crazy” like this :: nothing is crazy, it’s just not understood. logic is a formula, but it need not be rational to be logical. but rational isn’t sane, it’s just one method of interpretation that i think a lot of people adhere to because it is “safe” and promotes social control.
i also think “crazy” is a cheap word and does nothing except marginalize and judge. there are so many kinds of irrational, and I think the reason it is so disdained is because it lurks in the deepest, darkest parts of us ..
I am curious about one thing. Yes, calling people strange, weird, or crazy does marganilize and stereotype people. What we percieve as strange because we consider ourselves as normal, other people may do for many psychological, physical, or spiritual reasons…especially the psychological part, we truly don’t comprehend how different the human mind works from person to person.
But some people need to understand that if they want to interact with other people, that there has to be a sense of responsibility in how they act and are percieved. Clearly yelling at someone out of nowhere and seeing fear in their face has to set off some kind of cue. But just as I’m saying they should take responsibility, we who interact with them need to take responsibility in our responses to them. If we keep giving them room to act the way they do, it’s our fault in the end whatever the outcome is.
ima go out on a limb and say no one has to do anything. no one has to understand their lives or take responsibility for anything. that’s freedom, we can reject everything, including ourselves.
people like this, people who reject themselves so completely that they have no concept of how the affect those around them, these people are dangerous and i dig, lots of people love danger. cause it’s sooo easy to point the finger at the more unstable of the two, saying “he/she” rather than owning “what the fuuuhk am i doing here?”
i know plenty of people, myself to name one, who have consciously sought out dangerous people to avoid myself. when other people’s problems are so profound, they eclipse your own life and that is exactly the reason to seek them out. avoidance is a beast.
But that’s all the more reason why we have to be responsible.
Think of how many people have lost their lives, or how many lives were ruined because people wouldn’t accept their own BS, got with someone who was clearly off their rocker, drama ensued, and someone got hurt. Children, men, women….doesn’t matter, you can find a victim of people avoiding responsibility and someone seeking danger at every turn. I’m trying to put in perspective what might change if people weren’t that selfish.
lives will always be ruined, and then they will be redeemed. for me, this is one of the great gifts of life: salvation is yours for the taking if you believe.
i feel you on personal responsibility 100%. but i do not believe in policing other people simply for the fact that i do not trust anyone who assumes a position of authority, moral or otherwise.
i believe the best way to save the world is to save yourself. and if you feel safe (not saved, just safe) you can be love and spread love and through love you can inspire other people to begin to heal themselves. because it is not until one feels love, true love for self, that one realizes that there is another way, perhaps a better way, to live.
but beyond that, the righteous dictums of the self appointed superior class, the people who want to tell other people how to live, mmm these are the people i will never trust.
I get that, someone ruling over all can never have the consideration that’s necessary to apply to people on an individual basis…but nah..I can’t…people have to do better.
I’ve been scapegoated most of my life and I know the dynamic too well. People find one person who is different and throw a label on them so they can hide their brokenness behind that person. They feel if they yell loud enough and point hard enough, no one will notice their flaws. They won’t have to deal with themselves so long as they are pointing a finger.
It’s like Las Vegas. People like to call it sin city. They like to believe hedonism and debauchery originate there. But the tourists bring the hedonism and debauchery with them, act it out in Las Vegas, and go home to pretend they aren’t the sort of person who would do what they spent their vacation doing.
Labeling, marginalizing, calling people crazy. All of that is just a way to hide behind somebody.
~ Labeling, marginalizing, calling people crazy. All of that is just a way to hide behind somebody.
tell em. people who do this, these are the people i fear the most. whenever i hear people speaking about others, projecting their own shame and guilt and horror onto another person .. the finger is only pointing at one person and that is at the hand holding it out. it’s all deflection and projection, smoke and mirrors and parlor tricks.
This right here. People who overuse the word crazy seem to be terribly uncomfortable with their own emotions, so the want to marginalized those who aren’t.
You’re crazy. But the kind of crazy I would fall for. More you see things from a different perspective than most and anything that exists outisde of the status quo is other and strange.
i exist outside the status quo and i always have and the only time i get truly unstable is when i force myself to acquiesce to other people’s ignoble commands. i have a great empathy for people whose pain is so deep that it manifests in perverse and unusual ways, especially when they are written off by the powers that be as “mentally defective” ie “crazy”
fuuhck a label. fuuuhck a diagnosis. and word to everything in the universe that is good and pure, fuuuhck the dsm iv.
I prefer cups for everything anyway- don’t care for glasses. #Imsohood
Who are these people who believe certain beverages have to be drank from certain types of vessels(?). Everything taste better in a red cup with ice.
Anywho- I agree. You the dumb MF for staying with someone who would stab a box a donuts. If she would assault an innocent box of donuts…
Y’all could have cut that last scene, but this was funny.
It’s funny that this is today’s topic because I was just conversing with a guy about this last night. I see and hear about this type of “crazy” behavior all of the time. It is starting to seem so common that I have to ask the question.. is “crazy” the new “normal” and is “normal” the new “crazy”??
Crazy has been normal for a long ass time, but nobody talked about it the way they do today.
Plus I feel like in the dating scene today, people have more issues. STDS, pregnancies, spousal abuse, etc…all of that has been around. Now add it with high tech cheating, long distance relationships, mental warfare for both genders about looks, behavior, and self-worth, and best of all….a generation full of people with low-self esteem.
I think it paradoxically comes from the freedom we have to choose. These days, people can arrange their lives however they want outside of proscribed roles. The problem is not everyone can handle such freedom without having to have absolute power. Say what you want about gender roles pre-Sexual Revolution and Women’s Lib, but it kept a lot of people secure in their place in the world.
Seriously…everybody comes to fight the wrong fight but armed to the teeth for a battle to the end…and then people wonder why we have these convos about why we’re all so screwed up.
I remember a time when I thought behavior from a girl like that was normal. Gives me the chills now just thinking about it.
I got a question rather than a comment though.
How much crazy are you willing to deal with? I feel like many people today, no matter the gender, are not in touch with their emotions, therefore they don’t take responsibility for their actions. If they do something out of pocket, we call it crazy, but is it really crazy or is it lack of self-discipline?
I’m asking because I see more grown folks acting like kids, and realizing what would be different if they got their shyte rocked properly as a kid. Seeing a grown woman having a temper tantrum like a 4-year old because she got rejected by a man leaves me to believe she doesn’t even know what the hell is going on, even though she should. Seeing a grown man lose his shyte about his girl touching another man’s shoulder is retarded to say the least, but there’s a reason why it happened in the first place. So I don’t know…yall tell me.
~ Seeing a grown woman having a temper tantrum like a 4-year old because she got rejected by a man leaves me to believe she doesn’t even know what the hell is going on, even though she should.
as a grown woman known to mmm yeaa, i’ll put it like this: the deepest connections to people open the oldest wounds. there are times where i’ve been so up-ended that i’ve been in awe, like i am inside and outside myself at the same time. and when i can see myself like this, i don’t judge. i begin to have compassion because my gosh, it’s even more painful than i consciously realized ..
thing is, it’s hard to know how or why these things are happening because they go so deep into the things we are trying to pretend never happened, that we make lies about, that we create false tories and selves to cover the wound until ..
love. i keep wondering how it is that the most magical feeling on earth can be so difficult. then i wonder, is it because the opposite of love is fear, so we’re forever doing this “crazy” dance step between vulnerability and protection. we’re lost and want to be found, but then when we find ourselves we have to own all the pain and disappointment and risk everything for a chance to love again.
well not everyone does, and not everyone will. it’s a choice, happiness. and it’s a challenge when the better part of your life has been anything but ..
You’re right. It is a choice. But part of that choice comes a consequence. And many people become victims because of those choices. That’s the part that ends up bothering me in the end. If people are too scared to open their wounds but choose to avoid people at all costs..fine, they are only a danger to themselves. It’s when they involve other people in their lives that things become unstable. Everyone…at anytime..has been a victim of someone’s emotional avoidance issues. If your mom ever commanded you to do something that made absolutely no sense, all because it affected her as a child and vowed she wouldn’t do the same to you, but had no idea her decision caused more harm than good. Or the broken heart that never mended, forcing the person to pursue relationship after relationship like a broken record, with a trial of bodies and tears in wake.
Saying “it’s my fault, I was wrong”…that’s not good enough for some people, because the damage done is so severe, that the affected people will never be the same. Yea, it’s a choice to be mature and see things as they are, but it’s also necessary. Yea, not everyone will get that point, that’s as clear as day. That’s still not an excuse to not try.
It’s different today than it was 50 years ago, where people never even heard of stuff like this, let alone talk about it. That’s why it doesn’t make sense to me anymore to chalk it up to “shyte people do”. Nah, we got to be better than that. We have the information at our disposal, so why are we making excuses?
~ We have the information at our disposal, so why are we making excuses?
in all honesty, i didnt really know how “crazy” i was due to long story after long story et cetera. because, as it turns out i wasn’t “crazy” at all, i was in agony and i didnt understand what happened to me or that i could be any other way than i was.
compassion. it’s everything. i dig your concern but i am curious :: what would you have people do if they aren’t capable of understanding their truth ?
you cant smack sense into people. alas, you just can’t. in fact, you can’t do anything for anyone else, they have to want it and do it all by themselves.
when i see people acting out their pain, i understand. i no longer try to help them resolve it because i know they dont want resolution, they want release. that’s the difference. most people, and i speak from my experience, are trapped on a gerbil wheel not able to get off. cause it’s reaaaaally hard to allow yourself to STOP.
i know, it sounds simple and it sounds deceptively foolish that one would not allow themselves to release themselves from agony, but we are talking about the minds of children being programmed to self destruct and sabotage. ahhhhhhh. ima stop before i get ..
Esa, I was marked as “under potential psychosis” as a teenager for the amount of crazy shyte I had to deal with. I know what it’s like to have to release the massive amount of emotions that tear you apart but don’t know why they exist or why it hurts so bad. But as a kid, I didn’t see what my actions were influencing or who they were affecting. And vice versa, because all the people who screwed me up, did so because they were selfish and only cared about what they wanted, and never paid attention to how that reflected on to me or others. I get all that. But one day the when the house is burned down, everyone has scars, and the battlefield has nothing left…how much further is someone allowed to go without realizing how much destruction they caused.
We talked about this before, and we both agreed people learn things at different times, I get all of that. But when other people’s lives and mental well-being are on the line, I REFUSE TO TAKE EXCUSES.
You’re right. It is a choice. But part of that choice comes a consequence. And many people become victims because of those choices. That’s the part that ends up bothering me in the end. If people are too scared to open their wounds but choose to avoid people at all costs..fine, they are only a danger to themselves. It’s when they involve other people in their lives that things become unstable. Everyone…at anytime..has been a victim of someone’s emotional avoidance issues. If your mom ever commanded you to do something that made absolutely no sense, all because it affected her as a child and vowed she wouldn’t do the same to you, but had no idea her decision caused more harm than good. Or the broken heart that never mended, forcing the person to pursue relationship after relationship like a broken record, with a trial of bodies and tears in wake.
Co-sign all of this. If people would realize that actions taken against others have consequences, the world would be a better place.
Neither am I but that foot that people get way up their ass for being the ones who screw up shyte….they shouldn’t ask why it’s there at the end of the day.
“Seeing a grown woman having a temper tantrum like a 4-year old because she got rejected by a man leaves me to believe she doesn’t even know what the hell is going on, even though she should.”
A lot of people ave either forgotten r never realized the virtue of “cool.” Staying cool isn’t just about saving face. It keeps you from saying/ doing crap you’ll regret later and might create a lasting bad impression of you.
People who act out are selfish babies. They don’t care who gets caught in their misdirected rage storm or what lasting repurcussions this may have.
The sad thing is not only are we all guilty of it at some point, so many people never grow out of it…and then they become parents, teaching their kids the same garbage.
Honestly I think that tantrum stuff and the other example you gave come from poor communication skills. Knowing how to communicate your feelings, disappointments and expectations plays a huge role in all of this. Knowing how to listen is also key. When I see people like I also have found they are poor listeners as well.
But SO MANY PEOPLE are not taught how to communicate effectively. Add that to people with phobias, the various versions of anxiety, ADD, ADHD, autism, etc…..there are so many reasons why people can’t keep themselves in check, but they don’t even know there is something is wrong, and by the time they do, they’ve screwed so many people over, burned so many bridges, affected so many lives negatively, that the real reason wouldn’t even matter anymore. The damage would be done.
I disagree… people know their f*cking crazy, it only takes one person to say “b*tch you crazy” before you reflect like “am I crazy”… at least it should. I think people are just on this ridiculous “accept/love me for me” crap… as well as they’re are too lazy and self-absorbed to change or even want to. Growth does not work that way and those types of people are stuck… in crazy(immaturity)
I can only agree to some point with what you’re saying, some people are selfish as shyte, don’t take responsibility for their actions, know there is a problem, and keep acting retarded like it’s not a big deal. They deserve a gintsu throught the throat. But others…some people have true psychological problems and can’t even tell that their behavior is beyond society’s norms. Those I feel sorry for and give a pass, because it’s going to take more than people yelling at them to see the true problem. But the rest? Fawk with a broken bottle.
“But the rest? Fawk with a broken bottle.”
- Ouch O_o
“But others…some people have true psychological problems and can’t even tell that their behavior is beyond society’s norms. Those I feel sorry for and give a pass, because it’s going to take more than people yelling at them to see the true problem.”
- Then I feel it’s everyone’s who they encouter responsibility to be honest with them and tell them “you need help”. I’ve never met a crazy who didn’t know it tho so…
There is no such thing as normal when it comes to human relationships. There are just people who express how they feel and those who don’t. And those who keep the emotions within the boundaries they have deemed acceptable. But the boundaries are different for each person, region, culture, country, etc. So “normal” is an illusion.
I do agree normal is an illusion. I’ve felt this way since adolescence.
I also tend to believe that everybody has their own brand of crazy *cue Seal* to survive. Now psychosis and garden variety crazy are too different animals all together though. Some people are truly mentally ill, more than you’d think, but in a world this sick it’t just a natural by product.
Do you think that is why Reagan closed the mental hospitals in Cali? Maybe he thought that there is no such thing as normal. Only varying degrees of crazy.
An apology is in order…I saw a video post instead of a blog entry and thought, “what *did* happen to vsb? They *used* to have such awesome articles. They been slacking” but then I watched it…hilarious. My bad. Carry on with the great work.
Soaring high above it all, master of all that I survey, my insatiable thirst for domination grows from the demonstrated weakness of all things beneath me. When shall I swoop?
I find the older I get, the lower my tolerance is for b.s. of any sort. It’s rare that I come across someone that I like enough to actually deal with their sh!t.
Based on the way you’ve been calling everyone crazy today and this comment (and the way you keep going back and forth between the two same names… all while keepng the same avi o_O)… I’m gonna vote:
I think its pretty obvious why crazy people are attractive. We all say that we want something “different”. When we meet someone we like we say that “they’re different” and “unlike anyone I’ve ever met”. Well crazy is all of those things; its different, unique, outside of what you’re used to you… all of the things that we look for. Theres like a spectrum that goes from BORING/NORMAL to UNIQUE/NOT NORMAL to INTERESTING/VERY DIFFERENT to F*CKING CRAZY. It takes a little bit of time to figure out where someone is on that spectrum. We all want someone that falls somewhere in the middle.
I don’t understand how people date crazy… crazy is scary as f*ck. I don’t care how long we’ve dated you got ONE time to nut-up on me (hehehehehe, keep it clean) before I’m running from yo’ arse.
what is sane?
a so called normal chick when hit with the dyck just right….can easily become that chick calling you 47 times a day slashing your tires and getting jealous of and wanting to fight the female voice on your cars gps navigation system.
a sane dude gets that “snapper” put on his azz, then alls o sudden his nose is wide open. he’s goin up to her job in his pajamas and house shoes to cuss her out for not responding to his 89 text message of “so what choo doin?” while she’s teaching her 3rd grade class and even get jealous and threaten to beat up and/or kill her 62 yr old boss.
Dude, I gotta call BS on all of the above. I don’t believe that good sex can make a sane person crazy. I. Just. Don’t. If the D (or P) got someone acting sideways its usually because they were a little off to begin with and the sex just exacerbated the situation. Anything else is just mofos ego trippin.
No, you’re wrong… experience has a lot to do with it I think… if you haven’t had dat good-good before you’ll do things you prolly never thought you would… however, those who know it well don’t trip as much.
you never had some voodoo that had you acting outta character?
even just a little?
Sex or women in general may have me acting (a little) out of character, but if anything its been a girl who was playing hard to get or just had good game that may have had me open. The times I’ve been out of character its been because I was so attracted to certain females and I wanted it so bad that I took chances or let certain things slide. But I’ve never met a woman who was so nice with it in the sack that I’ve been beside myself. Maybe I just haven’t had it put on me right **shrug**
From my brains to your fingers and on VSB…that’s exactly how I stand.
Never had it thrown on me so good I’d truly go psycho like that, but I have acted a little thirsty when I was so pressed about a girl that I couldn’t get her out my head. Then I grew up when I learned that’s called “feenin” and Jodeci taught me never to do that shyte EVER AGAIN.
Dog… I think more appropriately is to ask what is insane? There is a legal definition, but not everyone is going to meet that who has immature emotional responses. That is more like temporary insanity. lol
And, I’d have to agree with Jay on this… crazy ain’t the result of physical intimacy. It is, however, the result of cerebral malfunction, delusional manifestations, and over all lack of healthy emotional processing. Many of the problems folks have with ‘crazy’ folks is that the ‘crazy’ folks haven’t learned to be secure in themselves; to know that they can do without the physical presence of another and still be okay, alive, and thrive.
The behavior you just described goes back to the stalker post.
Man damn all o dat!
I had some yum yum that had my azz seeing spirits, and walking down the street talkin to my self loud enough to terrify young children…….
To me, insane & crazy are people who end up shooting, stabbing, decapitating folks and everyone says “I thought he was just a little bit eccentric. I didn’t know he’d do that”
“She was alright. Just a little weird, but hey, I thought she was just passionate”
Speaking of crazy, I was watching one of my FAVORITE 80′s movies last night “They Live”. If you’ve never seen it check it out ASAP. It stars wrestler Roddy Piper and black cinema staple Keith David and it contains one of the best fight scenes in any movie EVER. The premise is that our consumption driven economy is actually run by aliens who happen to be among us and all around us disguised as humans. The main character is the only one who can see through their disguise because of a pair of black sunglasses that he found. Point is, he is the only one who can see through the BS and when he tries to warn people and show them what’s going on guess how he comes off: CRAZY AS F*CK.
Who’s to say whats crazy and what isn’t. Not trying to sound ironic but we truly do live in a mad mad world and NOBODY has all of the answers. Maybe some of the people we label as crazy actually have sh*t figured out and we’re all to “normal” to see whats real…
Crazy people are crazy. Take ‘em too seriously and you end up realizing that they were just making everything up. I used to hang out with a lot of neo hippies and Afrocentrics…
“movies last night “They Liveâ€. If you’ve never seen it check it out ASAP. It stars wrestler Roddy Piper”
Rowdy Roddy Piper! Wrestling drama was so much simpler back then. Then they had to get the wrestling managers/ owners in on it, and it just jumped the shark fom there.
One thing I realized when I was dating a crazy chick, is that she didn’t even realize she was crazy! She thought she was completely justified in everything that she did! That isht blew my mind… needless to say (at least in my case) that relationship did not last very long at all.
Sh#t, everybody know Kool-Aid tastes better out of a Solo cup anyway…
^^Word.
Especially frozen
I see what you did there but prolly didn’t and it was just something I over-noticed by namechecking the Solo cup that shares the same name as the production company, Solo Journey.
I need a drink.
1800 Coconut & pineapple juice, LETS DO THIS!
my favorite!
Because being an alcoholic is awesome
I don’t know. I saw Solo as meaning “by yourself”.
Me no know. :/
Did you know that the bottom rim of a Solo cup tells how much goes into a shot? I learned that over the weekend.
My name is Jay, and I approve this message.
Sadly, I’m not a crazy motherfcker.
I can’t know the joys of said individuals nor their tales of mischief, mirth and murder.
*kicks rocks to corner*
Denial…it’s not just a river in Egypt, LMAO!!!
I’m sure there’s been one time when you looked at a man all lovingly as he sleeped, and then randomly thought how great his teeth and ears would look as a necklace for 5 seconds, shook your head, and forgot about the whole thing.
LOL! Y’All had that fool dribbling kool-aid!
I couldn’t help but laugh when I saw the Kool-aid all over is face- where did it come from??
Lol! But dude in the clip was all kinds of fine, nice teeth…
Yes yes yes!
Who? The narrator?…Agrees if so.
+1 For the narrator guy.
+1, he was cute.
In the freeze frame he looks like he wants to give me a kiss…and a donut. I’ll take both please.
yes.
Cosign the cuteness
Don’t judge a book by its cover, before you uncover the pages!
Happy Monday Folks! Have an absolutely terrific start of the week. Peace ourr!!
eating the bathroom is nasty. #thatisall.
That fool was eating lipstick. I guess crazy is contagious.
Where did they find the “Christmas Story” extra large pink bunny suit?
I dated a crazy one. then my lil sister said “you know crazy dates crazy right?”
broke that mess up and been sane ever since
she is a wise one. smh
lol wait. She is watching the muppets. YES!!!
Ma na ma na
lol your sister is very wise!
Why can’t all family be that trust worthy?
Thumbs up for fixing the crazy all by yourself, usually need a whole team of psychologists for that.
Lies crazy women are the best.
See Malik, That’s what I heard!! Please men, explain this!
Well see Anastasia, there are many different types of crazy. The worst is POSSESSIVE crazy. Follows you around. Constantly lurks in your phone and all your online accounts. Tries to break into your e-mail. Always suspicious of all your interactions with other human beings and your whereabouts. That isn’t a fun crazy for anyone. Men/women do not like that type of crazy. Okay, actually attention seeking men/women do secretly love it until it becomes inconvenient.
I like a completely different type of crazy.
What kind of crazy is that?
Kneegrow stop, you know that don’t make any kind of sense.
Crazy women are crazy. Crazy men are crazy. Crazy = someone is probably going to die/end up with a hefty jail sentence.
Me nuh wan nun dat
Eh, I hate the liberal use of crazy. Some of the best women that I’ve had the pleasure to be in my life have been in-and-out of “medical facilities”. I adore “off” women and welcome them to my life.
Thanks Malik! We, um, I mean they love you too.
LOOOOOOOVE
I Love me some Malik! Keep it 100! Men know they like some crazy women. Believe me i have 3 brothers and their women are crazy. They complain but are not going anywhere any time soon. I just shake my head and laugh.
um thats because they’re crazy…
you just don’t up and leave a crazy person…
they’ll kill you…….
or get you fired, arrested, set up, put laxatives in your froot loops etc…..
Woof woof!! True dat!!
Well that’s the thing, I’m not using the liberal version. That version is just called “not for me”…but nobody ever says that for some odd reason.
-there’s never a dull moment.
- crazy cooch snaps like a rat trap…somethin’ about it makes it extra extra good, and extra good cooch is real hard to walk away from, you’re willing to put up with a lot more crap to keep the supply of it flowing
-if you’re an adrenalin junkie or a sadist, then crazy chicks is the only way to go.
-crazy chicks will jump in and help you out in a club fight…
-most crazy chicks are just misunderstood…
- got a young jump off threatening to go public to the wifey or ruin you political career? Put your other mistress, the one that’s cat shit crazy on her young azz…..no one will ever find the body….
Yes, crazy women be having some good “stuff” but that’s usually all that they can offer you, a wild night. I don’t like them. I don’t trust them and I stay the F- away from the mentally unbalanced. She can’t even get attention from from me.
Good for you.
Ok I’m more than a little weirded out thai’s avi is showing up with bhillboy’s name and post. Am I the only one seeing this?
ok maybe it was something weird going on with my i-pad because now its normal
I wanna know what showed up.
When I access this site from my I pad, the posts that has, shows thai’s avi.
But when I log on from my office computer it shows up normally
That is weird… you thought they were the same person didn’t you? I’d be freaked out.
~ and extra good cooch is real hard to walk away from, you’re willing to put up with a lot more crap to keep the supply of it flowing
okay i know i am gonna sound real naive and foolish, but WHY ? if you dont care for the person (and if you know she cares for you), i don’t understand why is sex more important than love or respect .. could break it down for me ? would appreciate it ..
It would be harder to leave good food than good cooch IMO.
Allow me. Brace yourself… this may come as a shock but here goes: MEN PLACE A LOOOOOOOOT OF WEIGHT ON SEX. It means a whole whole whole lot to us. Mind blowing sh*t right?! Frequent, great, unpredictable sex, if this is present in a relationship then we will put up with a lot of f*ckery. Not saying its right/smart/mature. I’m just saying.
Crazy girls usually have some crazy sex game. I mean, that is what I have heard. So when she latches onto your leg like Jeff Van Gundy when you try to break up with her; you will relent knowing that the make sex will be spectacular…so I’ve heard.
well for starters it depends on your definition of what “love” is.
secondly. were visual and physical creatures. with us for the most part it’s about sex and/or convenience. generally speaking, sex for guys takes a whole lot more effort to get. good sex even harder. and thus dudes aren’t so quick to let it go when we have it, especially if a nugga lacks options.
a lot of times guys get into relationships simply because of the steady supply of the voodoo.
i wish that i had some deep and cerebral answer for you ma, but many of us dudes stick around chicks that we need to charge to the game simply because we’re pu$$y whipped
aw…this saddens me..makes perfect sense for sure! but i walk away sad for it …….* kicks rocks- L for semi-normal Mellow.*
This further confirms what I already knew about men insisting on punishing themselves by dating, staying with, and seeking out crazy women to date. Men love the “crazies”.
“I like a woman with a future and a past, a little attitude problem all good, it’ll make the shit last.”
smh moderation….*corrects comment*
This further confirms what I already knew about men insisting on punishing themselves by dating, staying with, and seeking out crazy women to date. Men love the “craziesâ€.
“I like a woman with a future and a past, a little attitude problem all good, it’ll make the sh*t last.â€
Yes! Especially the way ole dude frantically went searching for his medicine…in her purse. So you mean to tell me…you kno this crazy chick could possibly purposely-on-accident kill you bwhahahaha…iCant
Lol I was watching the video on the phone so it wasn’t very clear. But um, was that his insulin? *Leaves to check video for confirmation*
That was his insulin. Ded at “you’ll get your insulin back, when you stop liking other womens’ facebook statuses.” Smh, facebook still ending relationships.
LOL
Lol exactly.
You’re crazy.
I cannot relate. Flip the script and then, yeah. But, nilla no can do crazy bruhs. lol … cute video doe.
Also, Jets put up 48 tonight. I am pleased and slightly optimistic even though we got the Steelers next week.
Dirty Birds put up 40… ON THE ROAD. 2 TDs and 100+recieving yards from a healthy Julio Jones. #RollTide
Go Lions! (Wasn’t pretty at all, but a W is a W.)
Yeah….no crazy mofos for me. I like my perfectly sane, regular, boring life. lol
them boys was lookin good in the 4th quarter……
Yeah. We dare not speaketh of the first three quarters, though. LMAO
*hurts when breathe*
I cannot stop laughing at this. When she started stabbing the donut box, I was DONE!
When she started stabbing the donut box, I felt two things simultaneously I felt scared for him and sad for the donuts. I’m sure those were perfectly good donuts.
They were probably still good, just chopped up…
This was hilarious!!!!! I was personally done when he started eating the tube of lipstick!!
Do you get paid to eat a tube of lipstick while wearing a bunny costume??
That’s not crazy. That’s just desperate. Get some options then you won’t have to deal with any crazy sh!t.
“Get some options then you won’t have to deal with any crazy sh!t.”
Agreed.
I agree. And if options aren’t an option…..just don’t be desperate.
I just love how long guys will stay with a crazy woman, knowing she’s crazy. How many times do you have to have your cars keyed and the windows bust out to know she’s not the one. (For the record, this happened to a guy I went to HIGH SCHOOL with. If she was doing that at 16, i don’t even want to know…)
Exactly. But you forgot one…climbing fire scapes. YES. A semi-famous reality basketball non-wife admitted to this and i thought i’d heard it all!
For some of us, crazy is normal. That’s what yall don’t understand. We saw it all the time growing up, every girl we dated had a little crazy in here..it takes a real moment of clarity to understand “oh shyte…..I can just not do that anymore”.
This may be the realest comment on this site today. Some
of uspeople were raised by a crazy moms and you just think that thats how women are. Thats the type of sh*t that you don’t figure out until you’re grown…like grown grown(30+).Exactly, then you look at all the chicks you been with and wonder why your new girl is wearing a Spider-man mask and hanging from the 2nd floor window.
A seriouser post: I do feel people like to throw out “crazy” far too often for people that they don’t apply to because they show affection in a way that is different from how you do, how you’ve received affection, and how you would like to receive affection. I’ve been guilty of this plenty of times. Some get the overly attached label far too quickly for basic stuff like just wanting to be around you a lot because they just sincerely enjoy your company whether it be in the physical or on the phone. You can personally perceive it as a lot and weird because that’s not how you’re used to someone you’re interested in reacting.
+1
Ive had a crazy ex-friend who dated crazy. So, I know what “crazy” looks like. Not everyone applies to that label. Good point.
In the early stages my bf thought I was clingy. It wasn’t that I was clingy it’s that I actually wanted to spend time with the ninja. His girl before me was always too busy to spend time with him so they never saw each other and then I was the contrast.
Lol that probably sounds luke crazy girl logic but I actually knew them and their situation. She was juggling nursing school,2 jobs helping her sick grandmother and parenting their daughter.
Quirky
My first serious boyfriend was super affectionate and caring. I thought it was strange but figured that was how I should be treated. However, he was actually crazy…
This is true. Sometimes people just come out of left field with attention you’re not used to and we percieve things as weird because we are not used to it.
STILL…some people need to put out disclaimers, it would be helpful.
There’s crazy, then there’s certifiable Bellevue crazy. A little spice is nice, threatening to kill yourself or someone else is Shutter Island.
After my episodes…I don’t want either. I’m quick to throw a sucka into a straight jacket.
I agree. Crazy is overused. Unless the person is destructive, they’re just into you. Or expressive. Some people are more comfortable expressing interest and affection.
I’m haven’t been called crazy by any exes, but I think some of them find me overly affectionate. For me, its a matter of having so much, I gotta give it away.
Eh… I’m voting crazy, but my heart isn’t in it. Probably more passion than anything else.
I think some of them find me overly affectionate. For me, its a matter of having so much, I gotta give it away.
Not at all how I pictured you. Interesting.
Welp, that’s probably because you don’t actually know me.
You’re crazy. But like tragic artist crazy.
Appreciate it. Hopefully I keep both of my ears.
<3
Dang, I’m at work and can’t enjoy the video
Me too!
Can’t yall just watch it on your phones? I did.
Why are guys drawn to crazy chicks like moths to a flame, like rain to a freshly washed car, or like my lactose intollerant cousin to ice cream?!?!
Crazy chic=crazy good chex
Unfotunately, this is true…97.4% of the time.
Why are women drawn to men of danger who give no impression that they would bring happiness to her life, or men who are simply flashy but no substance, etc?
Nobody knows until they grow the fawk up.
They like the attention and the excitement.
Hell no…..I despise crazy women. Not all of us are into that nonsense.
see my response up thread
“Cups are for kool-aid n***a”
Dead.
*Flatlines w/ Thai* I will have that in my head all day! LOL!
This video is WRONG. ROTFLMAO! Cups are for Kool-Aid n*gga!!! LOL
Re: the video, maybe he’s too scared to leave her.
I used to date two crazies. One was a sweetheart, but had too much counter culture stuff going on for my tastes. Plus he was very socially awkward. As he got more comfortable around me, his default expression became this odd permanent scowl and crazy-eyed look. The other…I suspect that he was a highly functioning autist. He was relatively harmless, a cheery and fun guy, but once his behavior became publicly embarrassing, we had to split.
Actually make that three. The third ended up with someone else. Super smart guy. His mannerisms reminded me of Gene Wilder.
As much as I love the autistic teen I work with and want him to find love, I would be wary of him seriously dating anyone. He’s got such a big heart and he’s a people pleaser which can easily be misconstrued by the average functioning adult as him being a “push over”.
Why is a diabetic drinking kool.aid?!
mHmm .. thas straight cray righh there ~
They can put splenda in it, I think. I don’t know if they can’t have it all, maybe just no sugar.
Could be Kool-Aid minus the sugar.
Seriously…it can happen.
It could, but isn’t sugar the whole point of Kool-Aid..?
Yes…but who am I to tell another person how to drink flavored chemicals?
Flavors ARE chemicals. #scienceFTW
dork……
buahahaha somebody is a scholar.
Did you really just find a plot hole in a 2 minute comedic clip!?? Its official. The internet has ruined humanity.
or eating donuts?
Um….hmmmm almost no words!
Happy Monday!
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That video is funny and all but I would catch a case, plead guilty, and wouldn’t give 2 phucks about the girl after I killed her for taking my life-saving medication! Crazy is attractive and what not but if you ain’t an asthmatic and have never had an asthma attack to the point you are hospitalized, WHAT THE PHUCK ARE YOU TOUCHING MY MEDS FOR!?! I’m sorry but that ish will get you killed in the battlefield baby.
And that’s how they set dudes up for that random 911 call that has your ass locked up like Akon.
In terms of how people end up with crazy motherf*ckers, sometimes the crazy can be their normal if they don’t know better. I’ve spoken of my wife many a time on here, and if you wanna catch up, just type into Google “site:verysmartbrothas.com Todd Wife”. Let me give you an example of the crazy I grew up around.
As you may have noticed, the US Open in tennis is wrapping up now. If you pay any attention to women’s tennis, on the elite level are a bunch of Eastern European chics and Serena Williams. Since my mom has a deep, abiding hatred of Russians, she likes anything that shows them getting embarassed and beat down. As a result, my mom will turn on tennis just to see Serena Williams beat up on some Eastern European chic. (I know I said my mom hates Russians, but she has a hard time telling apart Russians from Romanians from Serbians from…you get the point.)
Anyway, I bring my daughter over for our weekly visit (with a rare appearance from my wife, since we came from doing some other stuff with our daughter for her birthday) and guess what I see on the television? The US Open Women’s Final with Serena Williams and Victoria Azarenka. Now, my mom isn’t one for sports, though she will accommodate my bro and myself as needed. However, for my mom to turn on a sporting event unprompted is rare. My mom wasn’t even paying attention to the match good, but she was glad every time Serena did something to “that damn Russian”. Between my mom basically being a racist idiot and my wife’s typical social mute behavior, I saw the clear connection between how I grew up and how I ended up in my current spot.
To wrap up the story, my family and I left before the end of the match in the 3rd set, and I fed my daughter dinner and decided to catch up on some football. During a timeout, I decided to check out what happened to the tennis match, and I ended up seeing Serena jump for joy and Ms. Azarenka go run off and cry under a towel. As I watched this, I said to myself “my mom is in her glory right now” and kept it moving. Two minutes later, the phone rings, and I tell my wife “I bet you $20 that’s my mom right now calling about the tennis match.
Three guesses as to who was on the phone.
I think my mom set a Negro record for most “damn Russians” said in a minute.
And that is how I ended up with a crazy wife.
…but…?
*shakes head and walk away*
Hey, I did the same thing after the phone call. After my wife tried to use my mom’s craziness to get me to back off of her crazy, I said that I wasn’t co-signing the madness, just recognizing that it exists. *smh*
Man, reading this through giggles made it 100% clear to me why and how I ended up with my ex.
You need a psychology journal study done on you ASAP, there’s a Pulitzer Prize in your pain.
Crazy, but only co-dependent crazy. But kind of like Namen, you didn’t have a chance.
Could you explain the Namen reference? I don’t get that one. I’m confused.
*Namond from the Wire. It was impossible for his home environ not to influence who he was because of who he wasn’t.
But, Todd, a lot of baby boomers, who grew up during the Cold War, don’t like Russians, to varying degrees. So the question becomes; does your mom say why she hates Russians? Maybe when she was a kid she was frightened of them?
I know what you’re talking about, because my grandfather was on that mindset with the Japanese until the day he died. I didn’t get upset because I know if they were shooting at me, I wouldn’t be cool with them either.
With my mom, it’s a different story. To summarize, she thinks that all Russians are scamming the welfare/social services system and getting away with it. On the flip side, my mom lost her nurse practitioner’s license over some, um, creative usage of social services. Every time she goes more than damn Russian, I’ll hear the latest story of Russian immigrants gaming the Medicare/Medicaid/Welfare/Food Stamps/EZPass system. That was half my childhood dinner convo right there, to the point where everyone else in the family pokes fun of it.
Sometimes you give me reflections of my own family, sigh. It’s sort of depressing to come from folks who think they ain’t crazy and those of us to recognize how we let crazy in our lives. smdh… Freud always blames mom. Now, we know why… now. we. know.
I found her ‘make-up’ quite disturbing. Added an extra dimension to her crazy.
Crazy people- excellent sexual prowess…extremely poor social skills.
Not that I know anything about that, by the way…
Overcompensation much? Lol
You know why crazy translates into sexual prowess a lot though? Good sex is based on passion, and passion during sex is based on being as unworried about your conscience as possible. Since crazy people aren’t worried about their conscience, they have a head start on most people when it comes to sex. After that, it just comes down to technique.
“…passion during s.e.x is based on being as unworried about your conscience as possible.”
That doesn’t make sense to me. I think crazy women may be better (if what I hear is true) because they are uninhibited. They are so uninhibited they display all their emotions and vulnerability- the feelings that can come across batsh*t- that also translates to the bedroom. They’ll be completely vulnerable, passionate, eager, etc.
~ they are so uninhibited they display all their emotions and vulnerability- the feelings that can come across batsh*t- that also translates to the bedroom.
so on point. how strange it is that being in touch with your inner passions is applauded, celebrated in bed during one of the most intimate of all acts, but be that person while fully dressed and people become uncomfortable with your ability/need to express your inner truth.
i think of “crazy” like this :: nothing is crazy, it’s just not understood. logic is a formula, but it need not be rational to be logical. but rational isn’t sane, it’s just one method of interpretation that i think a lot of people adhere to because it is “safe” and promotes social control.
i also think “crazy” is a cheap word and does nothing except marginalize and judge. there are so many kinds of irrational, and I think the reason it is so disdained is because it lurks in the deepest, darkest parts of us ..
+1000
+2000
Esa and her heavenly words of wisdom.
I am curious about one thing. Yes, calling people strange, weird, or crazy does marganilize and stereotype people. What we percieve as strange because we consider ourselves as normal, other people may do for many psychological, physical, or spiritual reasons…especially the psychological part, we truly don’t comprehend how different the human mind works from person to person.
But some people need to understand that if they want to interact with other people, that there has to be a sense of responsibility in how they act and are percieved. Clearly yelling at someone out of nowhere and seeing fear in their face has to set off some kind of cue. But just as I’m saying they should take responsibility, we who interact with them need to take responsibility in our responses to them. If we keep giving them room to act the way they do, it’s our fault in the end whatever the outcome is.
ima go out on a limb and say no one has to do anything. no one has to understand their lives or take responsibility for anything. that’s freedom, we can reject everything, including ourselves.
people like this, people who reject themselves so completely that they have no concept of how the affect those around them, these people are dangerous and i dig, lots of people love danger. cause it’s sooo easy to point the finger at the more unstable of the two, saying “he/she” rather than owning “what the fuuuhk am i doing here?”
i know plenty of people, myself to name one, who have consciously sought out dangerous people to avoid myself. when other people’s problems are so profound, they eclipse your own life and that is exactly the reason to seek them out. avoidance is a beast.
But that’s all the more reason why we have to be responsible.
Think of how many people have lost their lives, or how many lives were ruined because people wouldn’t accept their own BS, got with someone who was clearly off their rocker, drama ensued, and someone got hurt. Children, men, women….doesn’t matter, you can find a victim of people avoiding responsibility and someone seeking danger at every turn. I’m trying to put in perspective what might change if people weren’t that selfish.
lives will always be ruined, and then they will be redeemed. for me, this is one of the great gifts of life: salvation is yours for the taking if you believe.
i feel you on personal responsibility 100%. but i do not believe in policing other people simply for the fact that i do not trust anyone who assumes a position of authority, moral or otherwise.
i believe the best way to save the world is to save yourself. and if you feel safe (not saved, just safe) you can be love and spread love and through love you can inspire other people to begin to heal themselves. because it is not until one feels love, true love for self, that one realizes that there is another way, perhaps a better way, to live.
but beyond that, the righteous dictums of the self appointed superior class, the people who want to tell other people how to live, mmm these are the people i will never trust.
I get that, someone ruling over all can never have the consideration that’s necessary to apply to people on an individual basis…but nah..I can’t…people have to do better.
I’ve been scapegoated most of my life and I know the dynamic too well. People find one person who is different and throw a label on them so they can hide their brokenness behind that person. They feel if they yell loud enough and point hard enough, no one will notice their flaws. They won’t have to deal with themselves so long as they are pointing a finger.
It’s like Las Vegas. People like to call it sin city. They like to believe hedonism and debauchery originate there. But the tourists bring the hedonism and debauchery with them, act it out in Las Vegas, and go home to pretend they aren’t the sort of person who would do what they spent their vacation doing.
Labeling, marginalizing, calling people crazy. All of that is just a way to hide behind somebody.
~ Labeling, marginalizing, calling people crazy. All of that is just a way to hide behind somebody.
tell em. people who do this, these are the people i fear the most. whenever i hear people speaking about others, projecting their own shame and guilt and horror onto another person .. the finger is only pointing at one person and that is at the hand holding it out. it’s all deflection and projection, smoke and mirrors and parlor tricks.
This right here. People who overuse the word crazy seem to be terribly uncomfortable with their own emotions, so the want to marginalized those who aren’t.
You’re crazy. But the kind of crazy I would fall for. More you see things from a different perspective than most and anything that exists outisde of the status quo is other and strange.
(smile)
i exist outside the status quo and i always have and the only time i get truly unstable is when i force myself to acquiesce to other people’s ignoble commands. i have a great empathy for people whose pain is so deep that it manifests in perverse and unusual ways, especially when they are written off by the powers that be as “mentally defective” ie “crazy”
fuuhck a label. fuuuhck a diagnosis. and word to everything in the universe that is good and pure, fuuuhck the dsm iv.
+64
The more I see of this series, the more I like it. Nice job guys!
Me too… that was cute.
+me! good sh!t
I prefer cups for everything anyway- don’t care for glasses. #Imsohood
Who are these people who believe certain beverages have to be drank from certain types of vessels(?). Everything taste better in a red cup with ice.
Anywho- I agree. You the dumb MF for staying with someone who would stab a box a donuts. If she would assault an innocent box of donuts…
Y’all could have cut that last scene, but this was funny.
Owwwwww…looking WIP-a-licious Aunty WIP…watch out nah…lol!
Nice picture!
Yes! Beautiful skin…
LOL, thanks y’all
It’s funny that this is today’s topic because I was just conversing with a guy about this last night. I see and hear about this type of “crazy” behavior all of the time. It is starting to seem so common that I have to ask the question.. is “crazy” the new “normal” and is “normal” the new “crazy”??
Crazy has been normal for a long ass time, but nobody talked about it the way they do today.
Plus I feel like in the dating scene today, people have more issues. STDS, pregnancies, spousal abuse, etc…all of that has been around. Now add it with high tech cheating, long distance relationships, mental warfare for both genders about looks, behavior, and self-worth, and best of all….a generation full of people with low-self esteem.
Yea it’s gotten really ugly out there.
“mental warfare for both genders about looks, behavior, and self-worth, and best of all….a generation full of people with low-self esteem.”
This. Love has gone from a battle field to a killing field.
I think it paradoxically comes from the freedom we have to choose. These days, people can arrange their lives however they want outside of proscribed roles. The problem is not everyone can handle such freedom without having to have absolute power. Say what you want about gender roles pre-Sexual Revolution and Women’s Lib, but it kept a lot of people secure in their place in the world.
Sadly, some adults aren’t built for adulthood.
This is true. The ability to choose is very harsh for some because they need more structure than others.
Seriously…everybody comes to fight the wrong fight but armed to the teeth for a battle to the end…and then people wonder why we have these convos about why we’re all so screwed up.
I remember a time when I thought behavior from a girl like that was normal. Gives me the chills now just thinking about it.
I got a question rather than a comment though.
How much crazy are you willing to deal with? I feel like many people today, no matter the gender, are not in touch with their emotions, therefore they don’t take responsibility for their actions. If they do something out of pocket, we call it crazy, but is it really crazy or is it lack of self-discipline?
I’m asking because I see more grown folks acting like kids, and realizing what would be different if they got their shyte rocked properly as a kid. Seeing a grown woman having a temper tantrum like a 4-year old because she got rejected by a man leaves me to believe she doesn’t even know what the hell is going on, even though she should. Seeing a grown man lose his shyte about his girl touching another man’s shoulder is retarded to say the least, but there’s a reason why it happened in the first place. So I don’t know…yall tell me.
~ Seeing a grown woman having a temper tantrum like a 4-year old because she got rejected by a man leaves me to believe she doesn’t even know what the hell is going on, even though she should.
as a grown woman known to mmm yeaa, i’ll put it like this: the deepest connections to people open the oldest wounds. there are times where i’ve been so up-ended that i’ve been in awe, like i am inside and outside myself at the same time. and when i can see myself like this, i don’t judge. i begin to have compassion because my gosh, it’s even more painful than i consciously realized ..
thing is, it’s hard to know how or why these things are happening because they go so deep into the things we are trying to pretend never happened, that we make lies about, that we create false tories and selves to cover the wound until ..
love. i keep wondering how it is that the most magical feeling on earth can be so difficult. then i wonder, is it because the opposite of love is fear, so we’re forever doing this “crazy” dance step between vulnerability and protection. we’re lost and want to be found, but then when we find ourselves we have to own all the pain and disappointment and risk everything for a chance to love again.
well not everyone does, and not everyone will. it’s a choice, happiness. and it’s a challenge when the better part of your life has been anything but ..
You’re right. It is a choice. But part of that choice comes a consequence. And many people become victims because of those choices. That’s the part that ends up bothering me in the end. If people are too scared to open their wounds but choose to avoid people at all costs..fine, they are only a danger to themselves. It’s when they involve other people in their lives that things become unstable. Everyone…at anytime..has been a victim of someone’s emotional avoidance issues. If your mom ever commanded you to do something that made absolutely no sense, all because it affected her as a child and vowed she wouldn’t do the same to you, but had no idea her decision caused more harm than good. Or the broken heart that never mended, forcing the person to pursue relationship after relationship like a broken record, with a trial of bodies and tears in wake.
Saying “it’s my fault, I was wrong”…that’s not good enough for some people, because the damage done is so severe, that the affected people will never be the same. Yea, it’s a choice to be mature and see things as they are, but it’s also necessary. Yea, not everyone will get that point, that’s as clear as day. That’s still not an excuse to not try.
It’s different today than it was 50 years ago, where people never even heard of stuff like this, let alone talk about it. That’s why it doesn’t make sense to me anymore to chalk it up to “shyte people do”. Nah, we got to be better than that. We have the information at our disposal, so why are we making excuses?
~ We have the information at our disposal, so why are we making excuses?
in all honesty, i didnt really know how “crazy” i was due to long story after long story et cetera. because, as it turns out i wasn’t “crazy” at all, i was in agony and i didnt understand what happened to me or that i could be any other way than i was.
compassion. it’s everything. i dig your concern but i am curious :: what would you have people do if they aren’t capable of understanding their truth ?
you cant smack sense into people. alas, you just can’t. in fact, you can’t do anything for anyone else, they have to want it and do it all by themselves.
when i see people acting out their pain, i understand. i no longer try to help them resolve it because i know they dont want resolution, they want release. that’s the difference. most people, and i speak from my experience, are trapped on a gerbil wheel not able to get off. cause it’s reaaaaally hard to allow yourself to STOP.
i know, it sounds simple and it sounds deceptively foolish that one would not allow themselves to release themselves from agony, but we are talking about the minds of children being programmed to self destruct and sabotage. ahhhhhhh. ima stop before i get ..
Who is doing this programming?
Esa, I was marked as “under potential psychosis” as a teenager for the amount of crazy shyte I had to deal with. I know what it’s like to have to release the massive amount of emotions that tear you apart but don’t know why they exist or why it hurts so bad. But as a kid, I didn’t see what my actions were influencing or who they were affecting. And vice versa, because all the people who screwed me up, did so because they were selfish and only cared about what they wanted, and never paid attention to how that reflected on to me or others. I get all that. But one day the when the house is burned down, everyone has scars, and the battlefield has nothing left…how much further is someone allowed to go without realizing how much destruction they caused.
We talked about this before, and we both agreed people learn things at different times, I get all of that. But when other people’s lives and mental well-being are on the line, I REFUSE TO TAKE EXCUSES.
Co-sign all of this. If people would realize that actions taken against others have consequences, the world would be a better place.
But I’m not holding my breath.
Neither am I but that foot that people get way up their ass for being the ones who screw up shyte….they shouldn’t ask why it’s there at the end of the day.
Esa,
I ask this respectfully. Are you saying you have been the adult who loses her shyt for those reasons?
How is a person supposed to respond if you’re throwing a temper tantrum in front of them?
Walk away? Give you a kleenex? Sit down and wait until the tantrum is over?
When an adult is acting like this, folks are likely to leave. We live in a time where crazy people have had tantrums then started shooting.
“Seeing a grown woman having a temper tantrum like a 4-year old because she got rejected by a man leaves me to believe she doesn’t even know what the hell is going on, even though she should.”
A lot of people ave either forgotten r never realized the virtue of “cool.” Staying cool isn’t just about saving face. It keeps you from saying/ doing crap you’ll regret later and might create a lasting bad impression of you.
People who act out are selfish babies. They don’t care who gets caught in their misdirected rage storm or what lasting repurcussions this may have.
Someone please give this lady a podium and a bullhorn…
The sad thing is not only are we all guilty of it at some point, so many people never grow out of it…and then they become parents, teaching their kids the same garbage.
Honestly I think that tantrum stuff and the other example you gave come from poor communication skills. Knowing how to communicate your feelings, disappointments and expectations plays a huge role in all of this. Knowing how to listen is also key. When I see people like I also have found they are poor listeners as well.
But SO MANY PEOPLE are not taught how to communicate effectively. Add that to people with phobias, the various versions of anxiety, ADD, ADHD, autism, etc…..there are so many reasons why people can’t keep themselves in check, but they don’t even know there is something is wrong, and by the time they do, they’ve screwed so many people over, burned so many bridges, affected so many lives negatively, that the real reason wouldn’t even matter anymore. The damage would be done.
I disagree… people know their f*cking crazy, it only takes one person to say “b*tch you crazy” before you reflect like “am I crazy”… at least it should. I think people are just on this ridiculous “accept/love me for me” crap… as well as they’re are too lazy and self-absorbed to change or even want to. Growth does not work that way and those types of people are stuck… in crazy(immaturity)
I can only agree to some point with what you’re saying, some people are selfish as shyte, don’t take responsibility for their actions, know there is a problem, and keep acting retarded like it’s not a big deal. They deserve a gintsu throught the throat. But others…some people have true psychological problems and can’t even tell that their behavior is beyond society’s norms. Those I feel sorry for and give a pass, because it’s going to take more than people yelling at them to see the true problem. But the rest? Fawk with a broken bottle.
“But the rest? Fawk with a broken bottle.”
- Ouch O_o
“But others…some people have true psychological problems and can’t even tell that their behavior is beyond society’s norms. Those I feel sorry for and give a pass, because it’s going to take more than people yelling at them to see the true problem.”
- Then I feel it’s everyone’s who they encouter responsibility to be honest with them and tell them “you need help”. I’ve never met a crazy who didn’t know it tho so…
“Cups are for Kool-Aid, n**ga!!” may be ya’ll “RENT ‘EM SPOONS!” or something. It’s a t-shirt phrase, methinks.
I’d wear a “Cups are for Kool-Aid, n**ga!!†to some bougie black function while eating a fried drumstick just for the eye-rolls
But they should put it on cups. I’m not sure where you would sell them…at the flea market? I’d bet they would sell.
There is no such thing as normal when it comes to human relationships. There are just people who express how they feel and those who don’t. And those who keep the emotions within the boundaries they have deemed acceptable. But the boundaries are different for each person, region, culture, country, etc. So “normal” is an illusion.
I do agree normal is an illusion. I’ve felt this way since adolescence.
I also tend to believe that everybody has their own brand of crazy *cue Seal* to survive. Now psychosis and garden variety crazy are too different animals all together though. Some people are truly mentally ill, more than you’d think, but in a world this sick it’t just a natural by product.
Do you think that is why Reagan closed the mental hospitals in Cali? Maybe he thought that there is no such thing as normal. Only varying degrees of crazy.
Ehhh… I agree and disagree… normal is definitely real however it changes with every generation.
^^^ things crazy people say.
It’s funny because its true.
Crazy me >>>>>> sane you
An apology is in order…I saw a video post instead of a blog entry and thought, “what *did* happen to vsb? They *used* to have such awesome articles. They been slacking” but then I watched it…hilarious. My bad. Carry on with the great work.
Soaring high above it all, master of all that I survey, my insatiable thirst for domination grows from the demonstrated weakness of all things beneath me. When shall I swoop?
That’s crazy, huh?
crazy? no
narcissistic? maybe just a taste..
I meet all of the criteria for that too.
Personally, when I date I just write of all behavior that I don’t care enough to try and understand as crazy.
I find the older I get, the lower my tolerance is for b.s. of any sort. It’s rare that I come across someone that I like enough to actually deal with their sh!t.
You know what you want from other people better and also yourself. Easier to get from point A to B.
Based on the way you’ve been calling everyone crazy today and this comment (and the way you keep going back and forth between the two same names… all while keepng the same avi o_O)… I’m gonna vote:
You’re crazy.
Prolly, or at least I hope so. All innovators were thought of as crazy until their way of thinking became the standard. Just don’t call me average.
Don’t try to make my insult a compliment… *eye roll* psssht
ridicule is the burden of genius……..
I feel a bromance burgeoning.
I’m just playing with him geez.
Ralphie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I think its pretty obvious why crazy people are attractive. We all say that we want something “different”. When we meet someone we like we say that “they’re different” and “unlike anyone I’ve ever met”. Well crazy is all of those things; its different, unique, outside of what you’re used to you… all of the things that we look for. Theres like a spectrum that goes from BORING/NORMAL to UNIQUE/NOT NORMAL to INTERESTING/VERY DIFFERENT to F*CKING CRAZY. It takes a little bit of time to figure out where someone is on that spectrum. We all want someone that falls somewhere in the middle.
+1
I agree… I think we all have some crazy, and that there’s a scale of how bearable your crazy is:
0__________5__________10
boring exciting Out your f*cking mind
I don’t understand how people date crazy… crazy is scary as f*ck. I don’t care how long we’ve dated you got ONE time to nut-up on me (hehehehehe, keep it clean) before I’m running from yo’ arse.
” you got ONE time to nut-up on me ”
ooh there’s so many directions i can take this
* sits on hands and bites tongue till it bleeds*
“ooh there’s so many directions i can take this”… that’s what he said LOL
Actually she prolly said it as well.
“* sits on hands and bites tongue till it bleeds*”
BOL…. we know what you won’t be using for a while. LOL
Where there’s a will, there’s a way damn it!
Thanks to this statement…I’ll keep a tissue on hand everytime I see your name.
Excuse you!!!… nasty!
what is sane?
a so called normal chick when hit with the dyck just right….can easily become that chick calling you 47 times a day slashing your tires and getting jealous of and wanting to fight the female voice on your cars gps navigation system.
a sane dude gets that “snapper” put on his azz, then alls o sudden his nose is wide open. he’s goin up to her job in his pajamas and house shoes to cuss her out for not responding to his 89 text message of “so what choo doin?” while she’s teaching her 3rd grade class and even get jealous and threaten to beat up and/or kill her 62 yr old boss.
Dude, I gotta call BS on all of the above. I don’t believe that good sex can make a sane person crazy. I. Just. Don’t. If the D (or P) got someone acting sideways its usually because they were a little off to begin with and the sex just exacerbated the situation. Anything else is just mofos ego trippin.
No, you’re wrong… experience has a lot to do with it I think… if you haven’t had dat good-good before you’ll do things you prolly never thought you would… however, those who know it well don’t trip as much.
I agree. Experience plays a role.
ok i was being extreme….but keep it one hunned and eleventy……..
you never had some voodoo that had you acting outta character?
even just a little?
you never had some voodoo that had you acting outta character?
even just a little?
Sex or women in general may have me acting (a little) out of character, but if anything its been a girl who was playing hard to get or just had good game that may have had me open. The times I’ve been out of character its been because I was so attracted to certain females and I wanted it so bad that I took chances or let certain things slide. But I’ve never met a woman who was so nice with it in the sack that I’ve been beside myself. Maybe I just haven’t had it put on me right **shrug**
Hmm… learning a lot about you today.
Uh-oh….
From my brains to your fingers and on VSB…that’s exactly how I stand.
Never had it thrown on me so good I’d truly go psycho like that, but I have acted a little thirsty when I was so pressed about a girl that I couldn’t get her out my head. Then I grew up when I learned that’s called “feenin” and Jodeci taught me never to do that shyte EVER AGAIN.
This is way too graphic not to be a personal experience.
Dog… I think more appropriately is to ask what is insane? There is a legal definition, but not everyone is going to meet that who has immature emotional responses. That is more like temporary insanity. lol
And, I’d have to agree with Jay on this… crazy ain’t the result of physical intimacy. It is, however, the result of cerebral malfunction, delusional manifestations, and over all lack of healthy emotional processing. Many of the problems folks have with ‘crazy’ folks is that the ‘crazy’ folks haven’t learned to be secure in themselves; to know that they can do without the physical presence of another and still be okay, alive, and thrive.
The behavior you just described goes back to the stalker post.
Man damn all o dat!
I had some yum yum that had my azz seeing spirits, and walking down the street talkin to my self loud enough to terrify young children…….
Yall love talkin bout crazy mofos. I’m starting to wonder about you people…
I’m really beginning to wonder whom Champ is dating…
me too
LMAOOOOO
I call sheningans.
To me, insane & crazy are people who end up shooting, stabbing, decapitating folks and everyone says “I thought he was just a little bit eccentric. I didn’t know he’d do that”
“She was alright. Just a little weird, but hey, I thought she was just passionate”
or worse “Somebody must have made her mad”
Speaking of crazy, I was watching one of my FAVORITE 80′s movies last night “They Live”. If you’ve never seen it check it out ASAP. It stars wrestler Roddy Piper and black cinema staple Keith David and it contains one of the best fight scenes in any movie EVER. The premise is that our consumption driven economy is actually run by aliens who happen to be among us and all around us disguised as humans. The main character is the only one who can see through their disguise because of a pair of black sunglasses that he found. Point is, he is the only one who can see through the BS and when he tries to warn people and show them what’s going on guess how he comes off: CRAZY AS F*CK.
Who’s to say whats crazy and what isn’t. Not trying to sound ironic but we truly do live in a mad mad world and NOBODY has all of the answers. Maybe some of the people we label as crazy actually have sh*t figured out and we’re all to “normal” to see whats real…
No.
+1
Crazy people are crazy. Take ‘em too seriously and you end up realizing that they were just making everything up. I used to hang out with a lot of neo hippies and Afrocentrics…
“movies last night “They Liveâ€. If you’ve never seen it check it out ASAP. It stars wrestler Roddy Piper”
Rowdy Roddy Piper! Wrestling drama was so much simpler back then. Then they had to get the wrestling managers/ owners in on it, and it just jumped the shark fom there.
Definitely the Golden Age of Wrestling.
The face that he had one when he was pouring the Kool aid into the cup…priceless. LMAO
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One thing I realized when I was dating a crazy chick, is that she didn’t even realize she was crazy! She thought she was completely justified in everything that she did! That isht blew my mind… needless to say (at least in my case) that relationship did not last very long at all.