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The 20 Most Common Types Of Catcalls And Other Forms Of Street Harassment I Wish Y’all Would Stop Doing

A lot of guys have quietly lamented to me “Well, I’m a feminist and I hate cat-calling but how do I get a date without looking creepy?” Hopefully this helps. If you find yourself doing the things on this list, just stop doing them. Please stop doing them.

1. The Slow Roll Cat-Call

This is when you’re trying to cross the street and a car slows down apparently to let you cross. Anticipating a stop you might even smile a thank you at the driver, except they don’t actually stop. They just keep slow rolling by you in order to get a look. Especially scary at night on a deserted street but I’ve had this happen at 7am on my way to work.

2. The Hand Grabber

In my opinion this is one of the worst offenders because it’s an actual assault on the body. You’re walking down the street and someone cat-calls. Usually with something sexy and charming like “Yo!” “Eh!! BABEH!!”. You ignore them because that’s not your name and you DGAF. The perpetrator thinks “oh clearly she’s deaf or can’t hear me” and proceeds to actually grab your hand to get your attention.

3. The Slide into the DMs Cat- Caller

I actually had this happen to me on Chess with Friends ©. Supposedly there’s a lot of shit talking in the online chess world and usually its pretty harmless/fun. This time I was challenged by a man who had decided that while my profile picture was pretty, it would be a lot nicer if I smiled.

4. The Subway Creeper

You walk into an empty subway car and have your pick of seats, Yay! This perpetrator will have his pick of seats as well – and it’s right next to you.

5. The Man Spreader

If you are really unlucky he might start out like the Subway Creeper and then escalate to manspreading as a way to creep into your space as if you won’t notice him slowly inching towards you.

6. The Hisser

Sometimes he creeps up behind you. Sometimes he does it sitting across you on the train. Regardless of how he approaches you it will send chills down your spine.

7. The Lip Licker

It’s not even sexy on LL Cool J!

8. The Dick Rubber

I think this one is pretty self-explanatory. What’s sad is that the gross majority of women who shared their experiences, listed this as one of them.

9. The Bro who keeps talking despite your headphones

At best he’s forcing you to be rude. At worst he’ll take his wrath out on you. Most times your best bet is to keep him talking because who knows what pissing him off might get you considering that the first ‘no’ wasn’t respected

10. The Aggressive/Angry Complimenter

He gives (usually that means yells) a compliment at you and if you don’t thank him for it, he’ll yell out an equally loud insult.

11. The Hit and Run 

A variation on the angry complimenter except he can do this from the safety of his car and run off when you try to talk back or run you over if he decides to escalate the situation

12. The Honker

I hate this one. Makes me jump every time someone gets too close

13. The Lurker

This one is like a scary version of that game you played as a kid where your sibling would point their finger near you and say repeatedly “I’m not touching you, I’m not touching you.” He follows closely behind you for blocks hiding behind his plausible deniability.

14. The Negotiator

He sees the child and a wedding ring, (that you thought might protect you) but what you really want is him. He might open with “Your husband is a lucky man….”

Leading into….

15. The Interrogator 

This one is another version of the negotiator. If you’re walking alone he starts off by judging your relationship and suggesting that your partner is clearly failing you by not currently accompanying you on whatever task you are currently engaged in (picking up laundry, changing a tire, carrying bags). He promises that if he were your man he’d never let you (open a door, carry bag, lift a finger, vote, speak out of turn, live….)

16. The Whisperer

No this isn’t one of the bad guys from “The Walking Dead.” He’s more of the Ying Yang Twins variety…There’s a reason that song was more creepy than sexy to me…

17. The Bait and Switcher

They start off with a seemingly legit question usually appearing lost. It probably started off as someone’s harmless idea of an icebreaker but usually it leaves me feeling lied to and scammed from the start. Not a great way to start a conversation.

18. The Flat Tire

He purposely stops short in front of you so that you bump into him, prompting you for an apology.

19. The Long Game

He’s often someone in your neighborhood, that you have no idea has been keeping tabs on you. I used to walk to the train every day with my husband. On a day that he wasn’t with me this guy came up to me and asked if he could talk to me. He said he’d seen me walking for weeks and that he’d take the opportunity to talk to me while my husband wasn’t here to check if we were married – because being in a relationship and not married was somehow fair game.

And for the win!!

20. The Smile on Demand

This is the worst and most common and least understood by men. On an average day if I leave my house I’ll encounter this one to five times a day. What’s most pervasive about this, is the assumption that a woman’s face/body exists solely for the pleasure of the public and if we don’t smile we are somehow letting them down.

Diane Wah Zuercher

Diane is an Artist/Photographer photographer who is born in Queens but Reps Brooklyn. She's also co-founder of the Brooklyn Temple of Epistemological Practice. When she's not taking pictures she talks shit and yells at people on the internet.

  • Dustin John Seibert

    I tend to avoid approaching random women on the street, even with the full-on gentlemanly vibe, because I worry she will feel threatened. But then I also wonder how many people are in enduring marriages with big, happy families because a guy stepped to a girl on a train or at a street corner.

    • Brooklyn_Bruin

      Birth rates in the black community have been in decline since at least the 90’s.

      • Ess Tee

        Wait. Just yesterday you were saying that French fry theft could be attributed to the decline of Black birth rates.

        I need to see your charts and graphs, sir.

        • Brooklyn_Bruin

          I wouldn’t be surprised if McDonald’s was heavily involved in stopping black love.

          • Dustin John Seibert

            ^ha!

          • Ess Tee

            This needs to be peer reviewed.

        • Quirlygirly

          You know his “research” can not be trusted.

          • MsCee

            Alternative research

        • LOL wait I missed this thread. French Fry Theft?

          • Ess Tee

            Oh, girl. In yesterday’s post about the National Park Service, BB (and some other folks) riffed off of Damon mentioning in the piece women who want to steal fries after they’ve said they don’t want any while ordering their meals.

            He said something about adding such a caveat to his dating profile and how thievery of French fries across the dining table is contributing to the decline of Black love and Black babies.

            LOL

            • LMAO BB is a troll. Every. Day. He. TROLLS.

            • Dustin John Seibert

              Sara I love you and all but I can’t abide this khaki-colored brotha shade. How dare you??

              • Ess Tee

                Talk to your beige brethren then.

                (And how are you using my government?)

                • Dustin John Seibert

                  Because we go together now. Duh.

                  • L8Comer

                    Poor Ess. She came to talk about street harassment and ended up getting e-harassment.

                    New rule: don’t come in here using people’s government.

          • Quirlygirly

            BB is #teamtewmuch. Equating asking for fries as larcency. Calling it gastronomical colonalism..SMH!!

      • Diego Duarte

        Birth rates have been in decline everywhere because of poor economic conditions. How’re you supposed to raise a family when you can barely afford housing and healthcare for yourself? Hopefully this helps reverse the trend of overpopulation because 7.5 billion is way too many people.

        Edit: Add rising education costs to that list. Having children is a luxury nowadays.

      • Brother Mouzone

        It’s because of ATH disease…Afraid To Holla…lol.

    • I feel the same way. It’s not worth the potential blowback.

      • Sweet Potato Kai ?

        Do you get blowback if you smile and say “Hi”?

        • Yes

          • Sweet Potato Kai ?

            Really? How?

            • because we’re not supposed to be talking to females in the street unless we know them

              • Sweet Potato Kai ?

                You’re being extra!

                • you’re right.
                  i’m dreadfully sorry, ma’am.

                  *logs off*

                  • Sweet Potato Kai ?

                    SMH. Drama

            • The act of giving attention is considered bad. Smiling, saying hi, excuse me miss, etc. Trying to holler on the street is dead.

              • Sweet Potato Kai ?

                This depends on how attracted she is to you I think. She’s not curving Omari or Idris.

                • Its the Dobbler/Dahmer effect.

                  • Sweet Potato Kai ?

                    Dobbler? Whodat?

                • L8Comer

                  Zactly

              • Wild Cougar

                Good. Bury it and let it rot.

        • Brooklyn_Bruin

          Yes, undoubtedly. Probably the worst thing you can say to a woman is high.

          • Ess Tee

            Well, I mean. Are you asking her if she’s high, or…???

            • Epsilonicus

              Good catch

              • Ess Tee

                It’s how I make my living, bruh lol.

            • Brooklyn_Bruin

              I’ll just say this

              Because of antibacterial gel, antibiotics are less effective.

    • Diego Duarte

      Same. After all I’ve seen or heard from women I get conscious about this sort of creepy sh*t. If I run into a woman on a deserted street in the middle of the night, I will either avoid eye contact and walk past her, or cross the street so that they won’t feel threatened.

      • Holy Room

        Thanks. Continue doing that. I automatically switch side streets if I see a lone guy. I don’t care if His name is Jesus.

      • Dustin John Seibert

        Reminds me of that video from a couple years back with the white woman walking through NYC and tallying up all the times she was “harassed.” Many of those were older black dudes saying hello, which is very common in my hometown of Detroit. Southern hospitality residue.

    • I’m married to a ninja who just told me YESTERDAY he used to look at pics of me on FB and think “Wow, she has really nice shoulders.” He consistently wished me a happy birthday, left harmless flirty comments on some pics, and here we are over 10 years later. Sometimes it’s not about where you shoot your shot, but how smoove you are when doing it.

      • Brooklyn_Bruin

        ^encouraging cyber stalking

        • Lea Thrace

          here you go…

        • *steps on your toe*

      • Dustin John Seibert

        Yeah I dont know if there are or should be rules to this ish, outside of dont do the thing that makes that person you’re coming at uncomfortable. And catcalling from a car makes just about everyone uncomfortable.

        • Quirlygirly

          And it is disrespectful.What respect are you showing a woman if you are hollering at her from a car. Is it too much to get out the car and approach her in a decent manner.

          • MsCee

            So….”ayee, lil mama…yeah you in the red pants” Isn’t acceptable?…Dayum ***cancels date for Friday night*** lol, just kidding.

          • Brother Mouzone

            I’m my single, youngin’ days, I did all kinds of hollerin’ that, by today’s standards, would seem out of line. One of the ladies here already said it, but a lot of times it just depends on how attracted she is to you as to whether or not she deems your holleration acceptable or not.

        • Wild Cougar

          Don’t speak to or approach women you don’t know if your purpose is getting in their pants. That’s the rule.

          • Dustin John Seibert

            So how would you suggest men meet women, relationships and marriages occur and procreation keeps populating the world?

            • DianeWZ

              there are plenty of places where both sexes convene to mutually agreed upon flirting. Dating sites, bars, etc. Not walking down the street trying to live your own life and

          • Brother Mouzone

            Countdown to human extinction..lol.

          • Brother Mouzone

            Does that rule also apply to women?

      • Brandon Allen

        “He consistently wished me a happy birthday, left harmless flirty comments on some pics…”

        That’s right out the playbook.

        • It was so simple, but it worked! When we reconnected in person years later, it was like I was holla’ing at an old friend instead of the creepy guy from FB. He played it very well, I’ll give him credit for that.

    • Val

      *just downvotes him and moves on*

      • Lea Thrace

        *snickers*

    • Glo

      I once knew a pastor (really nice guy, fairly successful, and a loving husband) who met his wife when he hit on her at a shoe store in the mall. I think about that story a lot.

      • Sigma_Since 93

        I met my wife while working in Payless

        • Lea Thrace

          awwww. they gone

  • Amazonian Midget

    Number 2 had a college-aged me about to fight a guy in St. Louis. Reason #262716151733902192837374829 why St. Louis should be avoided at all costs.

    • miss t-lee

      I don’t know who told them this is a good idea.

    • AKA The Sauce

      ST Louis had great ribs I thought?

      • Amazonian Midget

        Nah, that’s KC…my hometown.

        • AKA The Sauce

          **Adds KC to list of places to visit**

  • Brooklyn_Bruin

    Man, and I actually have work to do today.

  • Holy Room

    DO NOT TOUCH ME. My hands TWERK. Don’t even DARE.

  • When does the pro-creep horde get here?

    • Brooklyn_Bruin

      You mean the “Don’t block your blessings, my sister” contingent?

      • MsCee

        Lmfao…if I had a dollar for every time I’ve been told this…followed closely by “that’s why you single…b!+ch” lol

        • miss t-lee

          It’s always followed by that, or “you ugly, anyway.”

          • Which is odd logic because the woman’s looks, size, race, breath, or hair didn’t change in the middle of the convo.

            • It’s the Fox and the Grapes.

            • miss t-lee

              Too much like right, Wu.
              Too much like right.

          • Sweet Ga Brown

            Oh you’re being far too nice with that one. Its usually “Well F u b!tch! I was only doing that to make you feel good!! Bum b!tich.”
            That’s just the warm up. I’ve been ‘cussed’ out a few times when I was younger and riding public transportation.

            • miss t-lee

              Oh honey, if I had a dollar for how many “fat b*tches” I’ve been called after telling someone to leave me alone, I could take a very nice trip.

          • Mr. Mooggyy

            As a man, I never understood that logic! She was good enough when you approached her! Sometimes you gotta take that L and move along!

            • miss t-lee

              We don’t understand it either.
              Trying to save face, I’m sure.

          • MsCee

            They’ve been more creative and specific lately…I’ve heard “that’s why yo teef yella” as recently as last month. I was tickled af.

            • miss t-lee

              WEAK.

        • LOL I tried to respond to this by Disqus is mad as usual…

          The list of reasons why I am single (according to niqqas that wanna smash) is long…never ending.

          The real list of reasons why I’m single is just a list of my interactions with the aforementioned group of niqqas..

          • Quirlygirly

            Perception vs reality..LOL

          • MsCee

            Lmfao….all.of.thissssssssss…

      • Yes, them and the “your standards are too high” crowd.

        • MsCee

          Lol, dealt with the captain of this team recently. He’s been subliminally posting about me on social media ever since. Lmfao

        • pls

          “Why you so mean?”

          This question led me down a very dangerous path in college tryna be “nice” and “just give him a chance”

          • Monica Harris

            Yo, few things have gotten me into more than “trying to be nice.”

      • BrothasKeeper

        “You’re too fine to be sitting here by yourself”, so by that rationale, I’m gonna sit next to you in order to diminish your beauty.

        • pls

          looooooooooool

    • post 100

    • miss t-lee

      I’m sure the creep cavalry will arrive soon.
      Gonna be nothing but, “so how we supposed to meet people?” and “Oh, so we can’t talk to y’all now?”

      • Some of y’all’s favorite fck ninja tried to make it a class thing back in the day.

        • miss t-lee

          I think I remember this.

      • Lea Thrace

        yeah. we’ve been here before. *sigh*

        • miss t-lee

          Indeed, we have.

      • LMAO with all their “That’s why women are single now!” like…oh, YES because that’s EXACTLY who I wanted to be with, the maniac that thinks it’s ok to just grab strangers and force conversations upon them. *swoons*

        • miss t-lee

          Yeen know? *snickering*

    • Diego Duarte

      Hopefully never.

      • They’ll come. It’s like the Charge of the Light Brigade for fck boys and ashy dudes.

  • miss t-lee

    The hand grab will take me from 0 to 100, real quick.
    Don’t f*cking touch me dawg. You can say all the slick sh*t you wanna, but if you touch me all bets are off.

    I don’t deal with street harassment/cat calls often. I feel for the ladies who have to put up with this on the daily. I really only encounter this when I go out clubbin, or otherwise hitting the streets with the crew.

    • Holy Room

      Giiiiiiiirl. You ain’t never lied. That touching business.

      • miss t-lee

        I straight up punched this dude once. Give me 100 feet.

    • I haven’t dealt with this too much recently, as my public transportation usage has gone down (NYC subway system is BASURAAAAAAA), but weird stuff happens every so often.

      • miss t-lee

        Yeah, public transportation isn’t big here, so I’m sure that cuts my interactions waayyyy down. I’ve heard to many subway stories from sisters.

        • It’s amazing how much danger I’ve removed myself from by just driving in my car for a few years. Crazy and sad to think about, because I have a 17-yr old overly developed cousin on the trains and buses every day.

          • miss t-lee

            I believe you. Really cuts down on the level of bullsh*t you have to deal with.

      • Simms~

        NYC subway probably needs it’s own post.

        • Chiiiiiiile. If I’m not being kicked in the face, I’m being sexually assaulted or vomited on.

          • Simms~

            It’s a cr@p shoot on the daily. Like you have to mentally psyche yourself up before taking those d@mn stairs and swiping your card. Getting depressed just thinking about my commute home.

            • Poor thing. I thank my stars regularly for a vehicle that works and a commute that’s less than 25 minutes each way. I’m actually dreading getting a new job partially because the city is where the money is at and I live in Queens.

              *cries into W2*

              • Simms~

                I deal because I don’t want to be bothered with parking in NYC. The “lesser” of 2 evils I guess.

    • Simms~

      Ventured out for Labor Day on the Parkway one year (first and last) and had to stab a dude with my keys due to this. I don’t like to be aggressive but you were begging for this weren’t you sir?

      • miss t-lee

        Oh he was definitely begging for it…lol

    • Brown Rose

      I really don’t get the invasion of space like that. Most guys don’t like it when its done to them.

      • miss t-lee

        Bingo.

  • Detroit Skater

    I encountered #10 (poor compliment) not log ago. “hey those jeans were made for you!” I didn’t respond verbally I guess my blank stare was enough to inform him that what he thought was a compliment was indeed not one. he didn’t spaz out on me like I thought or expected in stead he said as I continued my blank stare “that was a compliment. now you make me feel bad that I said anything.”
    *shoulder shrug*smh*

    • MsCee

      Educate me, sis. As a fellow woman…I’m not sure I would have been offended by that statement. Help me understand what was wrong with what he said.

      • Because of the underlying implication that…the person is regarding your body and how it looks in the clothing as an object of chexual desire…which, I can’t stop ppl from seeing me in that manner, but I don’t always want to engage men who see me as a chex object.

        It just kinda screams “DAMN! LOOK AT DA A$$ ON DAT BI+CH! LOOK AT DA T!TT!ES!”

        • MsCee

          Ok, well yeah when you put it like that. I just always love a good pair of great fitting jeans…but when you explain it like that I can see it being problematic.

      • Detroit Skater

        he started off on the wrong foot with whatever “term of endearment” he used (sweet heart, baby) i have since forgotten. the best I can tell you is that at the age of 44 I was not impressed by his delivery. hanging out of a window at a gas station didn’t work for me.

        • MsCee

          I didn’t know he was hanging out of a window…lol…TLC cliche

  • I’m not touching this one. OAN: I wore a white shirt and a red bowtie the other day. Non-stop compliments. I felt like a Kappa at freshman orientation.

    • Sigma_Since 93

      Or a member of the NOI who got by the receptionist selling Final Calls to the lost.

  • Michelle is my First Lady

    #1 is especially dangerous, fellas. If you’re going to look make sure you pay attention to your surroundings. A few years ago, I was walking to my car, dude was driving in his car and saw me walking, kept staring, and ran into a parked car. Yeah, it went left for him.

    • Sweet Potato Kai ?

      I’m not mad at this #HumbleBrag!

      • Michelle is my First Lady

        Haha! I felt bad for him (not really tho, I jumped in my car and drove off).

        • Lea Thrace

          nah. he deserved what he got.

    • Sigma_Since 93

      My Redman gif won’t work :(

    • AKA The Sauce

      So them yams was looking extra tasty that day I assume…I’ll see myself out lol

      • Michelle is my First Lady

        Stop lol

      • BrothasKeeper

        Diiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiid someone say yams?

    • Mr. Mooggyy
      • Michelle is my First Lady

        You don’t eat mac and cheese. Things have changed, Moogg

        • Mr. Mooggyy

          Ma’am you have a few on your list. Let me have 1!

          • Michelle is my First Lady

            Ok, ok, I’ll let you have 1 lol

  • Sigma_Since 93
    • Brooklyn_Bruin

      After the fry debacle of yesterday, this post must be the balance

      • Diego Duarte

        Not trying to start sh*t or anything here, but after the mixed reactions yesterday, I imagine “I’ll share my French fries with you!” must be the only acceptable pick up line ever.

        Also, just to be clear, I jest. Catcalling is never acceptable.

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          • Sigma_Since 93

            The Russians are here!!!

          • Diego Duarte

            I’ll share my French fries with you.

            • Michelle is my First Lady

              lmao!

            • NonyaB?

              So silly!

              • Diego Duarte

                Humor is about good timing :)

      • NonyaB?

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