***disclaimer: before beginning, i want to remind everyone that “overrated” doesn’t mean “bad”, “worthless”, or even “average”, just not as valuable/noteworthy/important as common sentiment would suggest.***
1. beer
you know, i’m not even going to talk about the taste (which makes me think of how brewed and malted cow urine must taste) or the fact that the smell reminds me of women who sound like doc rivers. no, what makes beer so overrated is the ad campaign revolving around it being the ultimate party starter, when in reality there are myriad things (rum, vodka, midgets, white women, crackheads, ovulation, etc) much more efficient
2. orgasms
i mentioned this already earlier in the week, but when you consider the lengths we go through to get them, the potential downside of having them (unwanted emotional attachments and children, disease, etc), and the relatively short time they last (five to approximately thirty-five seconds) you can’t help but think that orgasms are the tupac of life: short-lived, volatile, and much better in theory and memory than reality
3. the 70′s
even those who weren’t alive during this era regard it in a lovingly nostalgic manner, (rightfully) lauding the music, the movements, and the time of free love. but, maybe, just maybe if our parents didnt spend so much time f*cking, burning shit down, and snorting mushrooms off the backs of white camels in reno with rick james, maybe the 80′s, 90′s, and 2000′s wouldn’t have been so royally f*cked up.
4. new york city
***taken from “biting the apple“***
between the cost of living, the traffic, the chinese, the tendency for disasters to occur, the crime, the dipset, being governed by a blind jiggalo, and the fact that its more densely populated than jakarta, if i want diversity, good food, great entertainment, bad sports, and tons of different dialectics and dna, i’ll just move in with frankie and neffe
5. black american inventions
look, while we all know that cats were using ipads on spaceships in zimbabwe before europeans even figured out that infants aren’t meant to be edible, the whole black american invention game leaves much to be desired. while we’ve definitely been great innovators, pioneers, and iconoclasts, when the the doorstop is listed as one of your 50 greatest new contributions in a 400 year legacy, maybe its time to re-think those commemorative stamp plans
6. (tie) any rap music made before 1992 and any professional sport played before 1980
to anyone still actively promoting the “best ever“ merit of babe ruth, public enemy, the 70′s steelers, whodini, wilt chamberlain, bob cousy, rakim, joe louis, arnold palmer, run dmc, bdp and etc:
“i don’t believe you, you need more people”
btw, by “i dont believe you, you need more people” i mean “you’re a f*cking idiot“
7. dying
quite possibly the most overrated thing on this list, as approximately 95 percent of the worlds population (including me) follow a belief system explicitly stating that their death will be legions better than their life ever was, but only maybe 10% of that 95% are actually looking forward to it.
basically, we’re all full of shit
8. russia
i’m still not completely sure how a country whose only contribution to the rest of the world is best served with cranberry juice managed to be a superpower worthy of fear, respect, and apollo creed’s life
9. dogs
because cats and cat people always have and will always be better
10. being underrated
seriously, who the hell came up with the idea that being the person who didn’t get the credit that they were due was a good thing? i mean, if you asked one million random kids what they wanted to be when they grew up, i’d bet “overlooked, and generally undervalued” would be even further down the list than “big ben’s next rape victim“, but somehow we adults have treated this like it was something to be proud of. no wonder everything’s all f*cked up now.
i’m sure i’m missing a few. any additions?
—the champ
1. A wanted pregnancy
Being pregnant sucks from sore boobs and bladder leaks to carrying. a 10 pound watermelon
During the middle of summer and let’s not talk about the actual birthing process
2. Marriage. I have a great relationship
But it aint. The fairy tale I was promised as a child
3.Growing up. I couldn’t wait to be grown… But paying your own bills and being responsible
Is really for the birds
@shay-d-lady,
Cosign
Cosign
Cosign
We weren’t properly warned.. In fact we were lied to.
@shay-d-lady,
Definitely have to jump on board with Growing Up. It really isn’t what you thought it’d be.
Let me add onto that with: A Brand New Car. Because having a high ass car note and inflated insurance is NOT what’s poppin’ in the hood. lol.
But in regards to the original post. Totally agree with number 1. I hate beer with a passion. Give me liquor any day…or time. lol.
But as a New Yorker…sorry, you get no vote from me on NYC being overrated. Fact: It is the shit. It’s science.
@Amadeo Plaza,
Of course you wouldn’t agree….all NY’ers think it’s the best thing since sliced bread.
I agree w/ NYC being overrated. And I’m from Jersey. It’s cool to visit during the day…maybe even at night. I would NEVER, EVER, EVER, EVER, EVER live there.
@La Bakir, same here. loved working and hanging out in the city. I’d only live there if I had a huge apartment in a great area. so, never.
@La Bakir,
I’m going out of order, but you’ll see why in a second
2. Pac was nice. I still listen to some of his songs and think that they’re way better than a lot of stuff out now. Hit Em Up is possibly the best diss song EVA. No, not “ever,” EVA.
8. Champ and P, the Kremlin will be watching this site from now on. Expect a visit from Ivan Drago or at least a stern email in broken English…
4. I can get witcha on everything BUT the sports teams. Yankees just won a World Series, Giants won the Super Bowl in ’08, Jets just went to the AFC title game. Sure the Knicks suck, Mets are decent, and the Rangers and Islanders are about to fall through the thin ice they’re skating on, as NY fans get impatient, but the whole of NY sports aint a bad look.
Speaking of NYC though, that cost of living is hard to bear, but I cant mess with this commute. (80 minutes each way) I’m in “the living in NJ, working in NY” boat, but I’m seriously thinking about moving over to the city just to be closer to work. Good or bad decision my fellow Jersey commuters?
@Mr. Upthere,
And I thought my commute was wack. Where the hell you coming from? If anything I’d move further north in NJ. I feel your pain though, however there has got to be another option beside moving to NYC
@Mr. UpDownAroundThere
Pac was nice. I still listen to some of his songs and think that they’re way better than a lot of stuff out now. Hit Em Up is possibly the best diss song EVA. No, not “ever,” EVA. .
I agree!!! I just love the opening lines ? First off, f*ck your bitch/ And the click you claim ?.
@Mr.Upthere, yeah, where are you? when I worked in NYC I got to work in about an hour (to work, meaning, at my desk). I live in Union County.
@Amadeo Plaza, yeah, I cosign on the new car. every time I get a new ride, i’m going to want something bigger and better that i really can’t afford new. Certified pre owned works for me!
@shay-d-lady,
I’ve only experience growing up but I co-sign each of the three things you’ve listed. I’m so glad I didn’t get married and preggers when I was in my early 20s & thought it would be the best thing to ever happen to me because now that I’m in my late 20s and have witnessed through others all that comes w/ marriage and having a baby, I think I want them less and less w/ each passing day.
…I’ve tried though.
The growing up part I could’nt avoid
@shay-d-lady, 2. Marriage. I have a great relationship
But it aint. The fairy tale I was promised as a child
So co-sign this. In the past few years GOD has revealed to me the truth. I am a single woman and I am in no rush any more to get married.
@shay-d-lady,
1. I am DEATHLY afraid of bearing children. Like, I don’t particularly want kids anyway, but I’m talking about the actual, physical act of giving birth that terrifies me. I must be missing that part of “woman” courage because I’m sure that I would be passing out in the delivery room right next to my (fictional) husband.
2. *sad face*
3. cooooooooo-sign. you know when they said, “this is the best time in your life”? ugh. who knew they would be right. being an adult doesn’t suck. and it has it’s great parts. but i wish i could have experienced adulthood, then childhood, then adulthood, so that i would have known to maximize my kid years. i wouldn’t have wasted all that time being shy or self conscious. although, i kind of never wanted to grow up, so i guess i was always sort of insinctually on the right track.
@shay-d-lady,
I completely co-sign with growing up. I think that the worst thing I ever did in my life was to grow up
@shay-d-lady,
Yeah, growing up is definitely overrated. Who actually WANTS all the added responsibilities that comes with being an adult? The only thing bad about being a kid is that adults always try to f*ck up yo’ life with all their shullbit.
@shay-d-lady,
preach…
i did get some good advice..i just didn’t heed it…
somethin like…”don’t be in rush son…you got all the rest of your life to be grown up”
@shay-d-lady,
3.Growing up. I couldn’t wait to be grown… But paying your own bills and being responsible
Is really for the birds
one great thing about growing up, though, is being able to eat shrimp scampi for breakfast and watch “the dark knight” naked in your living room
@The Champ,
*watch “the dark knight” naked in your living room*
smh…man..lol…the chairs in your crib..i don’t want to know
@The Champ,
one great thing about growing up, though, is being able to eat shrimp scampi for breakfast and watch “the dark knight” naked in your living room .
Yup Yup Yup. Well replace “the dark knight” with “what about bob”. I love being able to walk around in butt naked glory. I feel free. LOL
@shay-d-lady,
3. I dont know about that one. Bills suck, but I couldnt wait to grow up and I’m loving it! My mom can no longer force me to eat brussel sprouts, I dont have to ask for lunch money every day, and I dont have to wear those horrible rainbow colored outfits. As a kid I wanted for nothing, but as an adult I can do whatever the hell I want!
@shay-d-lady,
“Growing up”
let the co-sign tally begin…
co-sign number 1…
@shay-d-lady, Add to that graduating from college as the be-all-end-all to find a job and have financial security. People in my hometown acted like a degree was the holy grail of success. I’m sure our parents thought that and they meant no harm, but still…that shit was HIGHLY overrated in that area. Hard work, in any form, is the key to success. A college education doesn’t do anything unless you do something with it.
usc
@say_cheese, hater.
@Liz,
Yea man… you know I kinda took offense to the hate that was just thrown at my school. lol
@say_cheese,
are you talking about the trojans?
@say_cheese,
welcome and shit
@say_cheese, trojans or gamecocks?
@Plain Ole Peyso, yep definitely talkin bout the trojans…gotta hate man hahaha…go bears!
A college education?? The experience great. What I learned was not taught in any course I took.
How many of us are working in our respective fields? Yea…
And of everyone questioned how many of us are paying back those loans?? Yep.
@JumpOnIt, Agreed. How many of us can actually remember stuff we learned in class and explain it to someone who doesn’t know much about it? LOL
@JumpOnIt,
“Cosign”
(That seems to be the lingo here)
I was just talking about this. I actually happen to be working exactly in the field I went to school for and doing exactly what I wanted to do for a living (marketing/advertising strategy), but I learned the ins and outs from my internships (which I got on my own), not through my classes. My classes didn’t prepare me for anything.
@JumpOnIt,
This!
I had it right the first time when I passed up college for real life experience- working to stack up paper…. *sigh*
Now, I got my fart brain arse in these online courses. hmph!
@JumpOnIt,
Yea I think T.I. said it best “school just a white man game and it’s ran good!” I mean for all the time they tell us to go to school and get that degree, no one seem the need to tell me that I needed to work in my field while in college to gain experience! 4 years of time that I could have used to gain experience was used to get my degree, now they tell me I don’t have the experience needed! aint dat about a blip
@Kirk Lazarus,
just reading that quote made me think, but TI really did need to go to school…can’t help myself.
@RocktheCatbox,
just reading that quote made me think, but TI really did need to go to school…can’t help myself.
LOL
@RocktheCatbox,
**snickering**
Tiny could use a little schooling too. I mean at bare minimum speech classes. I wonder how their kids talk.
@RocktheCatbox,
Tiny quotables
“T.I. dohn’t want me to work no moe’.”
“I got dis nail shop, I been runnin fo bout a yeauh nah.”
@Mr. UpThere,
Right about Tiny. She sounds like an escaped slave! Every time she talks, I think who let Queen into the big house?
@Kirk Lazarus,
“Yea I think T.I. said it best “school just a white man game and it’s ran good!”
T.I. is the last dude that should be saying this. He can’t even say the word “Christmas”.
@Humble_One,
Don’t talk about TIP! lol
@Humble_One,
T.I. is the last dude that should be saying this. He can’t even say the word “Christmas”.
Should I feel bad that I have a degree and still say “Chirsmas”
@Kirk Lazarus, I mean for all the time they tell us to go to school and get that degree, no one seem the need to tell me that I needed to work in my field while in college to gain experience!
BINGo
@JumpOnIt, i disagree.
The swindle is in taking hard arse majors. They tell us to pick a major in what we want to do later in life when i actuallity w/ should have all taken rocks for jocks and graduated w/ 3.9s. We need a degree b/c though we needed experience to get a job or didnt learn anything, most places aint hiring a mofo w/ no degree.
@JumpOnIt,
Well, in my humble opinion, school is not meant to get you a job, it’s supposed to provide you with “an education”, knowledge in something or the other, gymnastics for your brain, and all that jazz… So the argument that people are not really working in their “fields” is not necessary against college, if anything it proves that your brain knows how to adapt to different situations and process complex tasks quickly… Now could that be obtained outside of school? Most definitely. School is just one of the easiest, most reliable way to get that brain to working/adapting/performing all kinds of gymnastics.
But, eh, you can play sudoku too.
p.s: I do work in my field.
LOL @ dying being overrated…but I get your point. As soon as an entertainer dies everyone wants to talk about how much they loved [the entertainer] and how he was the best despite the fact that when the person was alive they only had one or two mediocre albums. Now that they are dead they got a greatest hit compilation album.
Beer is hella overrated. UGH…it doesn’t even taste that great, and you could get a beer belly if you drink too much. Rum ftw.
@Ms.Bee,
“…dead rappers get better promotion”
—jadakiss
welcome and shit, btw
You know I can’t agree with NYC being overrated now…
Sure it’s expensive, but it’s the shit and always will be. lol.
@Amadeo, Yes! LOVE NYC! The men and their accents is so sexy to me!
@Natasha,
Accents? We New Yorkers don’t have accents. We annunciate and pronunciate. Everywhere else has an accent.
@JumpOnIt,
LMAO…word. I will hold to my theory that every other place in the US besides the Tri-state area has an accent.
I was in Cali and got into an arguement w/ this dude about me having an accent…this ninja soudning like O-dog…and I have an accent? Stop it.
@JumpOnIt,
Yes, you all have accents, but you’re all self-absorbed so can’t nobody tell you sh*t…
I once had a someone from New York tell me they were the only one’s who speak normally as being the only people to do something isn’t the exact opposite of what normal means.
@JumpOnIt,
“Accents? We New Yorkers don’t have accents. We annunciate and pronunciate. Everywhere else has an accent.”
Is that why producer is pronounced producah and coffee is pronounced cauwffee in New York?
@JumpOnIt, No the people that don’t have accents are people from the midwest. It is the standard American way that people are supposed to talk. If you go into a field on television like the news you are supposed to have a standard midwest accent.
@JumpOnIt, LOL
@JumpOnIt,
Accents? We New Yorkers don’t have accents. We annunciate and pronunciate. Everywhere else has an accent
LMAOOOO!!
*do not co-sign.
FTR (for the record): everywhere you are NOT from, the people have an accent to them. I’m from Canada and I’ve never said ‘aboot’ (aka about) in my life. I dont think I have an accent, but when I visit the states, they know I’m not local.
I will admit to saying eh – BUT everywhere has their own dialects/lingo/expressions.
@Humble_One,
Alright…I’ll give you that. I caught myself ordering a “cauwfee” real hard one day. lol.
@Amadeo,
“You know I can’t agree with NYC being overrated now…”
you’re wrong, but welcome and shit anyway
@Amadeo,
Ummm…no…after living in NY for 3 years I was more than happy to return to the real world. I liked living there while I was there, and still like to visit, but living in a closet, having mice run across my feet underneath my desk at work and seeing more roaches and rats then an Orkin man far from qualifies as better.
Being Good Looking- While studies show people who are deemed more attractive will make more money, it comes with the stress of people undermining your intelligence. And believe it or not, we don’t have sex as often as you think because you become more annoyed with everyone else trying to get at you.
Dating someone Very Good Looking- Men who know they are good looking act a little too brand new. They try to pull some stunts. When you date someone not as attractive, they tend to treat you better. I’m just saying!
And ALSO- as a native New Yorker, I disagree with #4. You can find whatever, and I mean WHATEVER YOU NEED, at any hour, any day of the week in New York City. We aren’t called the “City that never sleeps” for no reason. Home of the 27th Championship NY Yankees, the Sports franchise with the most Championships ever! More than ANY OTHER SPORT! We host NY Fashion Week. Bronx, New York, home of Hip-Hop, Not to mention all the wonderful cultral aspects New York City has to offer, the parks, the museums, the cultural diversity. If you can make it here, you can make it anywhere.
*Sorry, I take hits to my city personally!
@MissBXNYC,
You might think being good looking is overrated but it damn sure beats the alternative
@MissBXNYC, “And ALSO- as a native New Yorker, I disagree with #4. You can find whatever, and I mean WHATEVER YOU NEED, at any hour, any day of the week in New York City. We aren’t called the “City that never sleeps” for no reason. Home of the 27th Championship NY Yankees, the Sports franchise with the most Championships ever! More than ANY OTHER SPORT! We host NY Fashion Week. Bronx, New York, home of Hip-Hop, Not to mention all the wonderful cultral aspects New York City has to offer, the parks, the museums, the cultural diversity. If you can make it here, you can make it anywhere.
*Sorry, I take hits to my city personally!”
EXACTLY!!! Every time i am away from home this becomes MUCH more evident. There is no place like New York City. I work for the government so I can’t stay there now and climb these ranks but once I retire I’m heading RIGHT back to the capital of the world! Though I will admit some of us actually need to leave NYC to be able to appreciate it more.
@IVR BK Boy in Germany, Tru and no matter where you live/work/go to school a New Yorker (Bk stand Up!) will go by any means to venture back
@MissBXNYC,
Thanks, fellow Bronx chick, for gettin it said…gotta rep our city! And did you catch him tryna throw BDP out with the bath water too?
Jealouy is so unbecoming… :p
@bittersweet’s baby, co-signin all of my NY brethren & sistren….the city that’s often imitated, but never duplicated ..also in agreement with IVR BK Boy in Germany -some folks gotta leave to truly appreciate it & to truly be able to save up some $, BUT once you a New Yawker….always a New Yawker-even if you currently live in Florida where the most ignant a$$ ninjas also reside…there ain’t no place else in the world like it …*cue “New York State of Mind”…:-)
@MissBXNYC, COSIGN!! I’m not a native NYer but I’ve been here so long that I feel like I’ve always lived here.. There is no where else on earth like NYC!! Sure, its not perfect but that’s part of the allure, part of the “grittyness” It’s crowded, NYers can be a**holes, its expensive, etc. But no where on earth will you find some many nationalities all living peacefully amongst each other… so many world class restaurants, world class arts and entertainment, Broadway shows, the nightlife, unlimited opportunities…
Sure NY aint for everybody.. if you want a nice easy life, its not for you.. but if you can handle the struggle and the hustle, the perks make it worthwhile….
@BKSweetheart,
so many world class restaurants, world class arts and entertainment, Broadway shows, the nightlife, unlimited opportunities
and how is this different from, lets say, toronto?
@The Champ,
Are you really comparing NYC to Toronto?!?! LIES! Funny how you never hear about people gushing over Toronto.
@The Champ, toronto everything closes at like 2am or something. Couldnt find anywhere to eat after the club. In NYC, never an issue
@The Champ,
“and how is this different from, lets say, toronto?”
our population is 2 mil (in comparison to the 8 mil in NYC) and USA doesn’t take Canada very seriously. (yes, we are a younger country, yes we spell centre and colour and our subway line doesn’t run 24/7, Oh and CFL is a JOKE in comparison to NFL.) but I don’t have a complex about living above the ‘superpower’, I just like the shopping and some of the men!.
Toronto is Canada’s answer to NYC:
-we are ‘hated’ on by the rest of the country
-most of the financial, cultural, culinary, sports, entertainment industry is focused here
-the world migrates here (accounting for the multiculturalism)
-and more im sure…
Another key difference: the swag and hustle. People here think they have swag because they are big fish in a small pond..until they go the states and come back with tails tucked between their legs.
But the constant hustle in NYC also makes it unique. Our city does sleep. Which makes us less cranky. LOL.
*sings AKeys hook here.. in newwww yoooorrrrrrk…..
@MissBXNYC
@ Plain Ole Peyso
1. you dont hear people gushing ON A WORLD SCALE because we are a smaller city in a smaller country. Like I said, Toronto is the NYC of Canada. This is where people move to ‘make it’ so to speak.
2. Yes, most of the city shuts down at 2 (clubs close at 3am), there are places to eat that are 24 hrs, there are transit lines that run 24 hrs.. Like was mentioned before..24/7/365 access is NOT always a good thing. (Re: BlackBerry). Except for when you are leaving a club, how often are you out looking for Lebanase Kibbeh at 3:46am?
I was born and raised in Toronto, so am smart enough to NEVER compare it to NYC.
Before I get to eye-twitching though..wherever you are born and raised is where you will rep (unless there is some reason not to). The glitz and glamour of NYC calls many, but like the song says: half of them won’t make it. It’s an amazing place to some, but all that makes it good, makes it exhausting and bad to others. There is NO perfect place on earth. Period.
I love NYC, almost moved there and would have been happy to rep it as my new home city. I would have missed peace and tranquility as well sight of clean streets of Toronto. Am I saying Toronto is better? Hell no!
Sure there are things unique to the city that never sleeps and things that make it a phenomenal city, but I think Champ’s question was more on the things that MOST metropolitan/cosmopolitan cities has (world class restaurants, world class arts and entertainment, Broadway shows, the nightlife, major league sports). Detroit has an Opera House. Chicago is known for French cuisine. Montreal (Cdn city) is becoming a Fashion city to watch (because it’s a french city, lots of stuff from France goes there BEFORE NYC).
There are great cities everywhere, and yes there is only one NYC. As a resident, you are expected to rep and have bias – but I think it’s important to look at the good, bad and ugly.
@MissBXNYC,
You can find whatever, and I mean WHATEVER YOU NEED, at any hour, any day of the week in New York City
yeah, and you can get all of that at a crackhouse too. whats your point?
@The Champ,
*snickering*
And speaking of which, being a crackhead is WAY overrated. So is being a drug dealer.
@The Champ,
Sorry, I don’t use drugs, so I’m not familiar with your reference. I meant getting anything in general.
Definitely co-sign on the beer. Ugh that isht is nasty! It tastes like failure, disappointment, and month old chitlin pot liquor.
@miss t-lee,
lol sh!t feel like hear grandpops talkin…..lmbaooo
@kingpinenut,
LMAO!! *waving*
This did sound like something a 90 yr old man would say.
@miss t-lee,
every time i see a cup of beer i want to take a piss in it
@The Champ,
and you should.
@charli skipper,
Agreed.
@miss t-lee, see, i think that most people that hate beer have just never had good beer. sure there are beers that taste like 3 year old piss (bud, miller, pbr, milwaukee beast, i’m looking at you) but there are some great beers out there. lots of microbrews are quite tasty. sweetwater 420, blue, and hummer (sweetwater is a brewery in atl) are like heaven in your mouth, and the belgium folks have mastered the art of crafting a good brew
@a plus, I agree. ‘Beer hate’ is overrated. Folks just don’t know good beer. Wuda!!! Where you at?
@Miss Patterson,
Beer hate’ is overrated. Folks just don’t know good beer.
thats like saying, “you know, there were some really nice nazis”
@a plus,
My boss is a microbrewer and I have been at his house when they had “tastings”… As a wine snob, I was really reluctant to try it… but yup, I tasted some excellent beers!
@a plus,
Yeah…I hear ya talking. Every person who is a beer lover has tried to run this game on me, and everytime I’m pissed that I tried a new beer. That ish is horrid.
I’m sticking with my vodka, tequila, and sparkling rose’…lol
@a plus, cosign. But after having beer( my replacement drink for everything while in Germany) I now hate it.
I’d be argumentative about this, but
This is too funny.
@Ulysses,
thats my plan for world domination
@The Champ,
Does that make you Pinky or the Brain?
@INFJgurl,
deez. it makes me deez
Being an independent, got-her-own, strong black woman. Why? Because everyone needs love, help, support and space to be tired, weak, lost, vulnerable, etc. Folks act like the SBW doesn’t need those things. Instead they are a luxury that she can take or leave. Do with or do without. SWB who get trapped in their own independent strongness find themselves unable or unwilling to ask for help, concede defeat (in the battle, not the whole war) or try a new path. Sad, really.
Also, must whole-heartedly DISAGREE with you Champ on orgasms being overrated. You must feel that way because you aren’t capable of multiple-Os. Because when you get two, three or four of those bad boys in a row, awwwww lawd. Por quoi? Because you never really fully go back to “normal” or “neutral” after that first one. Instead you are “semi-orgasmic” or “pre-orgasmic” (that feeling of being riiiiiiiight there before it actually happens) until the next one arrives. So, imagine waves of pleasure sweeping over you, some bigger, some smaller, but definitely a continuous series of waves. Lasts waaaay longer than a few seconds. Definitely. Not. Overrated.
@INFJgurl,
Yeah, I’m so ready to be
I-ND-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T, doyouknowwhatmeans???@bittersweet’s baby,
Ooh I’m so illiterate @ 2:30 in the mawnin’. But so is lil bootsy/boosie {ck artist}…
@INFJgurl,
maayyyyne speak. being independent is fun and it’s nice to hear yourself say “i got all this by myself” and jam to songs by Ne-Yo and Jamie rightfully, but errrybody needs love, support, and a little help every now and then. and i won’t even get on a man’s strong need to be well, needed. lol.
and CO*bleepitybleep*SIGN on orgasms. Mangasms must be soooo much less spectacular than a woman’s. lol. but you have to remember that the whole time during a session, they are trying NOT to have one, and trying to make sure we have several. lol. just ain’t fair i tell ya. but i won’t complain. hehe.
@INFJgurl,
You must feel that way because you aren’t capable of multiple-Os.
you haven’t been talking to any of my ex’s, have you?
@INFJgurl,
COSIGN…yes girl. I have a good career and I’m stable in many ways…but I love and yes NEED to have a man/support system/etc. It’s that kind of thinking why men are AFRAID to date us.
@SmartFoxGirl,
I also think its that kind of thinking that makes US AFRAID to date men in the way they need to be dated. Men need (and fellas correct me if I’m wrong) to be needed and to provide and make fire and ish. If the SBW can do everything all on her own and won’t let the man actually be the man, then what is he good for? Why should he stick around?
And the SBW is sitting there, giving him the side eye like what happens when you fail me? (Because the last one (or Daddy) did.) So the SWB wont trust a man to be a man. It’s her way or no way. And the SBW ends up alone.
@INFJgurl,
“Because everyone needs love, help, support and space to be tired, weak, lost, vulnerable, etc. Folks act like the SBW doesn’t need those things”
This is the story of my LIFE! Everytime I’m down/going through something, most of my family/friends respond with, “But you’re strong, so you’ll be ok”. Hell No….I’m not gonna be ok!! I’m hurting damnit!!!!
@CNotes,
And that’s the most wrongest (is that a word?) thing about being a SBW. Once you are there (whereever there might be), its like you have to have everyone else’s back, but ain’t nobody got yours. I hate that crap.
Try saying: “I need your help and I don’t know how I will do this without you.” That should make them pay attention.
By the way, I got your back CNotes.
@INFJgurl,
Awwwww!!!!! Thank you *relishing in my newfound friendship*
@INFJgurl, @CNotes
This whole post and replies to post…
CHUUUCH, TABERNACLE AND AAAAMMMEENNNNN!
Speak that truth.
@CNotes,
“But you’re strong, so you’ll be ok”
That sentence burns my soul!!! Ugh!
Admittedly, it’s probably my own doing since as a first born with no boys in the family, I tend to think the world would unravel if I don’t hold it at the seams… And sometimes, it can get overwhelming… But I’m not going to pretend that it’s easy for me to be “vulnerable”…. Reason #321 why MiDude is a godsend… because I can be all broken and crying and sad and miserable with him… but he still thinks I try to be too strong all the time… Boy stop, this is me being vulnerable!!. Lol!
@Sula,
You are so fortunate to have someone that will support all spectrums of you! Most of the time a SO will do that for you. : )
@INFJgurl, we should be friends cuz we think alike. I say I’m independent because I have no one to depend on but doesn’t mean I love being independent. I was listening to “good girl” by Chrisette Michele this morning. She was talking about how she was a good girl and a true lady because she didn’t need support from a man. I wanted to make a declaration to ban that song because some of us BSW want and needs the love, care, support from a man chet.
Oh yes and about the orgasms…I triple billion times co-sign on that. There is nothing else better in the world than the orgasmic interval waves!!!
@T’Lu,
Consider it done. We’s friends now.
@INFJgurl, I couldn’t agree more with this whole post.
@INFJgurl, it’s what our black mother’s teach us (bless their heart; they didn’t know any better). Go to school, get a good job, buy your own house and car, then get a man…..meanwhile momma got married at 19.
I’ve been sayin NYC was overrated for a minute now. Glad some people agree! It just always been a hassle for me.
Beer for sure! I’m a vodka type of dude myself!
Definitely gotta add marriage/family life. Marriage just seems like either a good or bad business deal, depending on the partners involved. And whenever I see families in the park or wherever, their lives just seem so lame to me. I dunno.
@OmarLittle,
My God. Yes to everything. I lived in NYC half of my life (birth to college), moved and when I visited I thought it truly, truly sucked! It’s not the only place you can “get” culture or whatever you want 24-7…you can do this in foreign countries and in other states, NY does not have the lock on culture. The only difference is thatin other places you can breathe the air without getting ebola. NYC is dirty, smelly and even the “nicer” parts have a thick layer of funk that gives a hot garbage-y sheen to everything. I just will never move back there. Plus everyone thinks they’re the shit, just on principle, even when they’re just …shit. On top of that, I went to high school with the entire cast of Gossip Girl and it made me hate old money having racist NYC cokeheadeds and by association the entire city.
I, too, hate beer and people who try to convince me that beer is an aquired taste. Yeah, so is sperm and I’m not interested having either down my throat.
Married life seems like it’s just plain awful, there is no way around it! Being forced to ignore things that bother you because you are too tired to put up a fight and just having a sucky life, getting by with no sleep when you have kids (so being a zombie 24-7) where the most exciting thing is your kid taking a dump on its own when normally it’s strapped to a plastic case of poo. Even when married people talk about their lives to me as though it’s something I should want, I wonder if they know how sad I feel for them.
@RocktheCatbox,
“I, too, hate beer and people who try to convince me that beer is an aquired taste. Yeah, so is sperm and I’m not interested having either down my throat.”
LOL…you’re gonna get me fired saying stuff like this….got a brotha’s sides hurting from laughter.
@RocktheCatbox,
I, too, hate beer and people who try to convince me that beer is an aquired taste. Yeah, so is sperm and I’m not interested having either down my throat.
thats not what i heard
@The Champ,
Sperm, no. Sperm containers, yes.