the battle of the fexes
there are two types of people in this world….those felt that omar was easily the most implausible, most annoying, and least compelling character on “the wire”, and necrophiliacs. there’s no grey area, and where you fit in either of those categories will basically…wait. i’m sorry. wrong topic. lets start again.
there are two types of people in this world….those who are friends with ex-lovers (“fexes”), and those who aren’t. with the exception of dissimilar libido, this may be the most consistently underrated cause of relationship disharmony. diametrically opposed to each other, each camp feels as if the other is being unreasonable, and each camp has a justifiable argument. today, in true vsb.com fashion, we’ll examine each mindset, and hopefully come up with some sort of a resolution
***tale of the tape***
the basic premise
fexes: “i mean, if we were cool beforehand and the relationship ended on mutually cordial terms, i don’t see any reason why we can’t stay cool”
the aren’ts: “for the life of me i dont understand why anybody would want to stay cool with someone they used to fu-k, unless they still planned on f-cking in the future.”
the respect factor
fexes: “its mad disrespectful to tell me who i can and can’t be friends with”
the aren’ts: “its mad disrespectful for you to expect me to be cool with the fact that your *borders buddy* used to blow your back out on the reg”
the trust factor
fexes: “what…you dont trust me??”
the aren’ts “its not about trusting you. it’s her scandalous a-s that i don’t trust”
***btw, this makes absolutely no sense to me. you can’t qualify trust. if you truly trust someone, then you’ll trust them around people you think are untrustworthy. why? because you trust them. if you don’t trust them around untrustworthy people, then you DONT trust them. why don’t people understand this?***
the violin (the go to “guilt trip” move)
fexes: “why are you putting me in this position?? of course i’d choose you, but why are you even making me make that choice when you don’t have to??”
the aren’ts: “i guess you value her friendship over our relationship”
although i’ve come to understand the justification behind the thought process of the “aren’ts”, i remain a member of the “fexes” camp. if you trust your mate, then it shouldn’t matter who he happens to be friends with. if you dont trust em…you shouldn”t be with em anyway.
honestly, though, my membership is somewhat conditional. basically, if she’s had strong enough feelings about the dude at one point to admit something along the lines of “you know, i honestly considered killing him and his entire family at one point. i was ready to do the jail time and everything, but I managed to get past that and we’re great friends now” while sober, then maybe a red flag or ten might pop up. other than that…i could honestly care less.
how about you?