Courtesy of Ms Patterson – “some dude took me to see rosewood on a date when it first came out and i cried for like 10 minutes while the credits rolled. it really killed the date vibe…as a matter of fact the whole movie killed the date vibe. that was the equivalent of taking someone on a date to see Schlinder’s List…bad move.”
Intellectual Hedonist – “perhaps a friday future blog? movies not to take a date to/or movies that kill the mood”
Well hot damn, it’s like a Friday post was just gift wrapped and handed down from the Friday post Gods.
Except it’s Thursday. But we’ll pretend its Friday since we know that none of you all will actually be at work on Friday. And if by chance you MUST work on Friday, well may God have mercy on your employer’s soul.
So tonight I went to see Hancock. What a great movie. It was entertaining and comedic and romantic and had a good storyline. That my friends, is a perfect movie date. It leaves lots of room for hand holding and innocently guilty touching and fun conversation that spins off the movie.
Basically, Hancock is the kind of movie that keeps the mood light and fluffy and is the perfect set up for some light and fluffy. Heh heh heh.
Rosewood? Not so much. I don’t know about you, but when I saw it, I was mad at white people for at LEAST 15 minutes. Nevermind I saw it with my white family. Needless to say, there were some very tense moments once the movie ended. Luckily they’re my family and we just drank the night away and all was well in our interracial world.
Rosewood is a total blower and kills the mood you’re trying to set when you go out on a date. The whole purpose of dates is to progress the possibility of seeing somebody naked. In order to do this, you generally need smiles and giggles. And if you throw in a smiley face on a napkin, well you’re in there. Because as we all know:
Bitches love the smiley face.
Now it’s entirely possible that going to see a documentary about blood diamonds where 90 percent of the interviewees don’t have arms will get somebody in the mood. Just wouldn’t be anybody I’d ever want to date. However, for most people, light and fluffy = thumbs up.
Depressing, uber-reflective, and tragic = no drawz that night.
So good people of VSB.com, what are some movies that might kill the mood on a date? And because I’m feeling benevolent, what are some movies that will work every time if you’re trying to set a naked positive tone on a date? And for the hell of it, we’ll assume that this could be a date you bring home since The Money Pit is no longer playing in theaters.
Sharing is caring people. Sharing is caring.
-VSB P aka THE ARSONIST
I think those SAW movies are not good for dates. I have nightmares over scary weird movies like that.
However, I don’t go on dates, so what do I know? LOL….
Liz, I am with you. Dates? What’s that? Who goes on those? We should go on a date. Come to Brooklyn and the first round’s on me. So sad.
That said, I would not like for an imaginary paramour to take me to see:
Do The Right Thing (I had the Rosewood reaction to this film the first time. Now I choose not to watch the last 30 minutes of it.); the Friday series (I will think less of you as a man if you are not constantly scoffing at the bad acting and cooning, minus a few ‘these niggas got the best of me and I laughed’ moments); Malcolm X (I get emotional at the end), period pieces about antibellum America (especially if it’s not slaves killing massas for the whole movie), The Spook Who Sat By The Door, anything J.Lo, Puffy or Beyonce (other than Dreamgirls) is in….
Great choices: Love Jones (DUH*!), most Romantic Comedies, Ben Stiller or Will Ferrell joints, Will Smith action flicks, indie Black flicks (from the “Damn, that shoulda been a major motion pic” to the “OMFG that was so bad it was good” ish), dark comedies like Welcome To The Dollhouse, Mo Betta Blues, CROOKLYN!
Waiting To Exhale wouldn’t be bad technically. But it may make me too clingy, on some “Please love me so I don’t end up like them!” ish.
“Waiting To Exhale wouldn’t be bad technically. But it may make me too clingy, on some “Please love me so I don’t end up like them!” ish.”
LOL..true! Hell, Please Love Me So I Don’t End Up Like Them may even be a t-shirt quote. It’d be a clingy, slightly desperate shirt, but still funny as hell.
“Please Love Me So I Don’t End Up Like Them” may even be a t-shirt quote.
i have a joke here, but because i’m the “diplomat”, i’m gonna choose not to type it.
damn diplomacy
But now you’ve piqued eveyone’s interest andgot everyone all curious and ish…even diplomats have their ill moments
@ champ~how you going to do that to the good people at VSB… come clean champ, do it for the people
**EXPLOSION***
**Deathklok music playing**
**Swarm of evil north Korean clown midgets doing back flips**
**Naked bitches crying and pouring pitchers of Rich Chocolate Ovaltine all over themselves**
**Evryone gets an unexplained tickle in their naughty place**
What does all this mean?
I’m BACK bitches…..and ladies! LOL!
As long as the movie doesn’t invoke feelings of hatred, I don’t really think it matters. If a woman wants to drop the drawz, she will do it. And at least in my case, if we are watching this movie at the crib, we are not really going to watch it. And if I cooked dinner for her, we can watch a highlight reel of the 100 most horrible hate crimes ever committed on a black person, because she won’t care about the movie enough to pay attention and get offended. But even if she did get offended she would take another bite of food and forget it all! LOL!
Never underestimate the power of cooking to set a mood.It can bring you back from one of those bombs like “Rosewood”……but seriously…….eeewww! <—-borrowed this quote from a teenage white girl!
CHURCH! TABERNACLE!
You know…I just HAVE to say it, and forgive me Blackness but…
I think Love Jones is one of THE most overrated movies…E.V.E.R.
Whew, now I feel better. Who wants a Mojito?
I think Love Jones is one of THE most overrated movies…E.V.E.R.
*Palm Sunday Service*
See my post below, everyone makes me feel like I’m crazy because I don’t like this ish.
I always want a mojito.
I know folks are gonna be really mad that I’m gonna say this but I’ma say it anyway…
love jones is the 90s The Color Purple — a movie that is beloved for being the first of its kind despite being a poorly executed movie in every way (minus the acting, which is what makes it so watchable).
there was no black love story on screen that attempted to be sophisticated and representative of buppies before love jones. For that reason, when it was released people saw in it things that they had longed for, but hadn’t seen before on screen. That is worth noting.
It also confirmed Larenz Tate as the most versatile actor of his generation, which is noteworthy, methinks.
That said, it’s the black Love Story…cliche and one-dimensional and manipulative film in the tradition of most film love stories. In that sense, it’s transgressions are no better or worse than most films of its ilk.
Um…amen?
I was agreeing with you. I think it’s grossly overrated. But like The Color Purple (which I loathe), I can see in it why folks like it.
Oh I know…that’s why I threw in the Amen. LOL. Hard to get the comedic wit I threw in there without the facial expression.
But i think thats probably the best explanation for the overratedness that is Love Jones.
Good damn job.
And…Yay-men.
I have to disagree. LJ predates the corny, Def Jam-sponsored bullshit spoken word poetry explosion of the early 2000s. As some one who grew up in Chicago under the boho buppies (my older sister and a lot of my neighbors), I thought the story was cool. The character development could have been better, Bill Bellamy could have been not in the movie, but other than that…I thought it was really good. I think Black people tend to be too critical of our own films. Not every Black movie is gonna be Spike Lee level. Not saying we have to have an affirmative action ratings system, but I think we are just a little too harsh sometimes. Probably because MOST of our movies are so one-note.
I did, however, write a blog post called “Love Jones: The Biggest Lie Ever Sold”. LJ came out when I was 13 and for 11 years, I have been looking for Darius like an idiot. Real life Darius would have disappreared after he hit the first nite.
Thank you Tyler.
Real Talk.
you know, i’ve never even seen love jones, mainly because the premise just seemed too, i dont know, “cliched”?
Wow…you’re definitely hella late on the movie train on a lot of shit, huh?
you know, with alot of these movies (the best man, love and basketball, love jones, etc) you hear people talk about em so much that, really, its like you’ve already seen em. plus, i dont like stale ass movies with stale ass dialogue, and the few minutes i’ve seen of each of these kind of exhibited that. if the movie is a giant cliche, AND i already know whats gonna happen, i dont have any motivation to watch it. this time could be much better used watching porn
@ Champ~for real I mean do they have caves in Pittsburgh and that is where you decide to entertain applicants for the job of future Mrs. Champ?
LOL..i’m starting to wonder the same thing. Not liking it is one thing but you’ve never seen it? Not even by accident? It’s over 10 years old LOL
“@ Champ~for real I mean do they have caves in Pittsburgh and that is where you decide to entertain applicants for the job of future Mrs. Champ?”
**taking off glasses and squinting at IH, Forriizle and Ms. P**
yeh man…get with it.
Umm…the 11th commandment is “Thou shan’t speak ill of the Color Purple!!!” What kinda negroid IS U???
*spits on floor and walks away in huff & puff*
@ PNimmy~ Thurday’s is Mojito Day at VSB? did I miss the memo? Just pass me a pitcher I’m off to the beach in 3 hours
LOL…it’s Mojito’s and Mammaries.
Ladies, off with your tops!
outfuckingstanding
lmao
ladies off with your tops! on the back
Mojito’s and Mamaries on the front
fuck all these martini thursdays, wednesdays, tuesdays
P don’t u work at a club too?
T-Shirt! dammit T-Shirt
Well gotdammit if that ain’t a good idea. LMAO.
Thanks GK for helping me sift thru the genius therein.
and throw in a caipirinha while you’re at it! when is the bbq, dangit?!
@ Miss P~ where do you live so we can go drinkin’
I love me some caipirinha’s…. stop playing!
Damn!! I am not where near where I can get some b4 heading to the beach.
la-la-land, california. the brothas didn’t approve this or nuthin’ but i’m the president of the west coast chapter. so, if they don’t throw the bbq in chocolate city then i’m hosting it right here at the beach.
I don’t see why we can’t do some ole bi coastal bbq…I would fly to LA in a minute to chill with some cool peeps. I might be in LA soon
look at you all authentic and latina and shit. caipirinha’s and shit, nicca got the food chanell and dont know how to act. LOL!
I agree…and I want a mo-jee-toe…(can you add some grenadine to mine, please?)
what pisses me off the most about LJ is that it’s the FIRST thing brothers come at me with when they find out I spit…they think that it’s all negroes, beating bongos…dressed in black with locs down their back…and taaaalking liiiiiike thiiiiiis! KILL Yo’SELF! I swear…
I don’t think it did a thing for the slam scene. Not at all.
ST – never woulda took you for a Will Ferrell fan.
Welcome to the Dollhouse is amazing! I’m a huge Solondz fan.
“ST – never woulda took you for a Will Ferrell fan.”
me neither.
What, y’all think I just watch Black Panther documentaries and listen to Arrested Development all day? LOL
lol, nah. i assumed you’d also throw in some dead prez, killah priest and “jim brown: all-american”
Hahaha! Dead Prez= the Mau Maus from Bamboozled. I still kinda like them though.
Swap out Killa Priest for Lupe Fiasco and Jim Brown for Being Bobby Brown, add a lot a lot a lot of alcohol and you got me. I’m classy and shit.
Haha, yes we def should go on an anti-date together!
anything 007 for me please, a sexy British agent that narrowly escapes death drives a fancy sports car and shags the most beautiful women in the world makes me want to play secret agent man all night long-what kind of weapon is that Mr. Bond?
Yes! I love Bond movies. I went to see the one w/ Halle Berry (name escapes me right now) on a date, it set a nice mood for the evening.
I have never seen a single Bond movie
how did you pull that off?
@ Suga&Spice -this should be your assignment this weekend. I want you to rent (at the very least) the following Bond films: Dr. No, From Russia with Love, and Goldfinger. Sean is the sexiest Bond that ever lived and most guys I know love a good Bond classic.
Love Goldfinger!!!!
The Pierce Brosnan ones are pretty good though.
Neither have I…I’ve never even wanted to. I have however seen all three Austin Powers movies.
Sean Connery (even Old Sean Connery) is my favorite Bond, then Pierce Brosnan, then Daniel Craig (the current Bond), his piercing blue eyes just melt the clothes off. oooooeeeeee!!! and I dont even care for the whole blue eye thing. But damn he could get it!
My top 7 007 films
1. Dr. No (Sean Connery)
2 From Russia with Love (Sean Connery)
3. Goldfinger (Sean Connery)
4. Diamonds Are Forever (Sean Connery)
5. Live and Let Die (Roger Moore)
6. Die Another Day (Pierce Brosnan)
7. Casino Royale (Daniel Craig)
you’re my new bff. a mutual fondness for sean connery, what else does a sista need?
P- first of all, what do you mean “Bitches love the smiley face”? chill on the b word man? or make it clear you’re talking about both sexes then. i’m a little sensitive to that term.
secondly, thanks for the quote and shit. i feel like breaking out into song. and lastly, what’s here’s my semi-complete list of both bad & naked enhancing movies:
Bad- Anything involving genocide, rape, pedophilia, war, cannibalism and unrequited love. We (women) will walk out feeling like even love for Brad Pitt (in Legends of the Fall) does not conquer all.
Naked Enhancing- Basic Instinct, James Bond movies starring Sean Connery, Swimming Pool, Chasing Amy, Sleepless in Seattle, Garden State, Scream I, There’s Something about Mary and ditto on The Money Pit (that’s hilarious)….hmmm & maybe Body Heat & 9 1/2 weeks. Also i like scary movies too ( i agree Liz- Saw not so much) but anything that involves jumping into the strong arms of your date works well for me…
d@mnit! i would go and use a smiley face after my post. doh! erase that please. shite.
I think the B word is apart of the direct quote from an episode of The Boondocks:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ArgWxB-vSL8
But I feel you on its use.
i see. thanks for pointing me to the source Liz. i liked it better when Boondocks was just a comic strip.
“i liked it better when Boondocks was just a comic strip.”
I completely co-sign.
P- first of all, what do you mean “Bitches love the smiley face”? chill on the b word man?
WORD!
“chill on the b word man?”
I was thinking the same thing. I was also thinking that it must be part of some joke I don’t get, lol.
Hmm…though I feel you on it’s use (I actually don’t use the word b*tch very frequently in conversation at all), how does that work with direct quotes intended to be ignorantly funny? That was actually the case in the Boondocks TV show…
Just wondering. Cuz I love a good quote.
honestly i didn’t know you were referencing a tv show…i just thought you were making the statement on yr own. my bad. i only get upset when folks use b*tch as a general replacement for the word female, girl, women in all of their conversation. you have a good point though…one of my favorite b*tch quotes is from the pharcyde album ‘labcabincalifornia’ during an interlude where they’re surfing the tv & one of the guys says ‘yay b*tch’. (we all have our own special rules, what can i say)
Debbie Does Dallas
Debbie Does Denver
Debbie Does the Milk Man
Debbie Does Santa Claus
….
All the Debbie Does sequels I personally do not recommend those.
————–
Best date films
“Leben der Anderen”
“Est-Ouest”
“Chocolat” (I wanted to get busy after this one)
hmm….you just reminded me of another good film: Like Water for Chocolate. very sensual film: includes food, sex, love, & a good story line.
“Like Water for Chocolate.”
I heard alot of good things about this movie and book (wasn’t it a book too) I think Chocolat inspired this. Chocolat is a very sexy film. I totally believe that you can invoke feeling in food (esp love and sex).
‘Debbie Does Dallas
Debbie Does Denver
Debbie Does the Milk Man
Debbie Does Santa Claus”
you know, porn surprisingly can lighten the mood with the right person. now, i wouldnt recommend going to an actual porn theater (do those still exist?), but a porn date with some pizza could work
I mean pern (completely intentional spelling) is all good. I don’t think it’s date material though.
More like smash buddy prelude material.
see, i disagree. porn can be viewed with the wifey. in fact, i dont know if i could seriously date a woman who had a serious blanket moral issue about all types of pornography. it can be educational, hilarious, and a great discussion point for brunch the next day.
obviously, i’m pro-porn
“obviously, i’m pro-porn”
see, this is why the ladies of vsb e-luv you Champ. p.s.- does this include fetish porn?
@miss patt-man…get out of my head! GREAT question…
typically no. i’m more of a gonzo cat
*loud gulp*
for real?
*hailing taxi to go home*
obviously, i’m pro-porn
That makes two of us.
why isn’t this a t-shirt?
“obviously, i’m pro-porn”
I would wear it, to the same place I wear my
“Love sucks! but true love swallows” T shirt
LMAO. agreed.
“Love sucks! but true love swallows”
DAMN….that is some true ass love huh? LMAO…
Co-sign
“obviously, i’m pro-porn”
OMG! I don’t even have to say it, do I???
(swoooooooon)
” actual porn theater (do those still exist?), ”
umm…yeah…
“now, i wouldnt recommend going to an actual porn theater (do those still exist?), ”
yes CHAMP they do…but I wouldn’t recommend going into one without a latex body suit and some anti-fungal flip flops! GROSS!
“anti-fungal flip flops”
Nah, homegirl. You mean timberlands right? Sticky floors man, sticky floors.
LOL dead…
@ ms t-lee… lol…you’re right… I am so used to Dallas cats wearing socks and flip flops, I assumed the feet would be protected…LOL…good looking out…
sticky floors…sticky arm rests…sticky doorknobs…the whole ish is sticky…LMAO…maybe I should add rubber mittens, fog proof goggles, and a shower cap to my pern theater ensemble…
maybe I should add rubber mittens, fog proof goggles, and a shower cap to my pern theater ensemble…
**I am SO done…CTFU!!!***
she had me at “shower cap”
Thats the most IGNANT shit I heard in a long while. LMAO Goodeness. You make me cackle often
“Debbie Does Dallas
Debbie Does Denver
Debbie Does the Milk Man
Debbie Does Santa Claus”
This list is subjective
I think the first porn I ever saw was Debbie Does Dallas. I was like 6. I was just perusing the VHS tapes we had in the house and this was the last movie on a tape we had. I had no clue what the fuck that meant. I just thought a chick named Debbie went to Dallas.
My life…was changed that day.
LMAO!
“I think the first porn I ever saw was Debbie Does Dallas. I was like 6″
mine was porky (sp). But that was more like soft porn.
Aw dayum…I forgot all about those Porky’s movies.
It took me a while understand why my older brother used to sneak and watch them on HBO…lol
i always wanted to see a pe%ns. They never showed any. Totally soft wack azz porn.
Yeah we ladies get the short end of the stick on that TCG. lol
LOL..so true!
LOL!
Chocolate~ Johnny Depp yummyness, sensual, sexual, makes me want to get chocolate body paint and use it on a male canvas
Like Water for Chocolate ~romance and sensuality
“Chocolate~ Johnny Depp yummyness, sensual, sexual, makes me want to get chocolate body paint and use it on a male canvas ”
Hello!!!Amen!!! Mormon missionaries on a 10 speed spreading the gospel in a newsletter!!!
but how hot was Johnny Deep on 21 Jump Street?????
**Did Jesus Make A Touch Down??”
I always liked Richard Greico.
I think it was the hair.
better yet, Johnny Depp in Blow. The scene of him in the airport while Black Betty plays in the background…hawt! *biting fist*
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hNPAJ9AY-M4&feature=related
Ok Ms P, I watched this clip 4 times…and I’m getting a little Willy Wonka and the Chocolate factory from JD here…I think its the side burns thats dispruting the fineness.
“I think its the side burns thats dispruting the fineness”
word?
I loved Chocolat. That’s a great date movie…
Worst date films…anything where blacks are being opressed.
Best date films..anything action packed(i.e. Hancock, Wanted, Hulk…so forth), or where the world’s going to end in a split second(makes u cherish the moment), or where love is present(Brothers, The Best Man, Love Jones, even Sex and the City fellas) or where white folks are making a a fool of themselves(any Adam Sandler or Steve Carell movie)….and *drum roll please*
The Titantic
Forest Gump
Love Actually(my fav, gets me everytime…ladies beware)
Saving Private Ryan
Boyz N da Hood (it’s a classic, can’t beat it)
*peace and i’m out*
I saw “Wanted” this weekend and that’s the PERFECT ‘date movie’. “What the f*ck have you done lately” is also the perfect way to end ANY conversation.
the best line of that movie was “shoot THAT muthafucka”
Morgan fuckin Freeman
Hells yea. I think I woke up when he said that.
“What the f*ck have you done lately”
Or a perfect t-shirt slogan.
I actually went on a date to see WANTED this past weekend and it was a great date movie. The fact that I was in good company didnt hurt.
oh and i forgot to mention Gone in 60 Seconds…i swear everytime I see that movie I just wanna sex a nigga up!!
“Saving Private Ryan”
saving private ryan??
Yeah, I’m a bit baffled by this one. I couldn’t even finish the movie. It was like watching Beloved for me.
I was raised military, most of my family is still military and those who are patriot will love it. There’s like a tinge of sadness with the will to persevere for the basic premise of bringing a woman’s surviving son home from war, a war he didn’t want to leave because he felt he owed it to his friends to stay and have their back…and the fact that many risked their lives to save one…that’s good shit.
Obviously I love me some military men…can’t help it, apparently it’s genetic.
I’m a military brat too. And I still didn’t like it.
Hmpt…well to each his own I guess
word.life.
navy brat here…and I am in agreement….wasn’t a fan of it…
you see, i actually loved the movie, but i just dont see how it could be a good “date flick”. who gets aroused after seeing hundreds of people die some of the most gruesome deaths possible?
@ champ~in total agreement
Same here. I walked out of the theatre for Beloved because the movie was so bad and kept falling asleep watching Saving Private Ryan.
Any movie with Oprah in it is anti-date.
***Haiti Mission Committee ***
nah nah nah patteecakes…Beloved was hard to watch “on the inside part!!!” I was like WTF? I was ONLY there because we got extra credit for a movie review and a ticket stub…I called BULLSH!T the entire movie…NEVER read the book first and then see the movie…you will be pissed er’time!
patteecakes?! hey that’s MY nickname!
@the OG patteecakes…you’re right mama…I saw a “P” and ran with it…I been dippin in my movie purse for cocktails since 930am…forgive a sister…lol
“I been dippin in my movie purse for cocktails since 930am”
you too?
In total agreement about Saving Private Ryan, the scene where they storm the beach on Normandy makes me sob, its just painful.
I feel the same about the Perfect Storm, a hard movie to watch, partly because I remember when that actually had happened and it was all over the news. But the scene where the Coast guard chopper is trying to rescue someone in the water takes my breath away literally.
ME TOO!!! I love that movie, wasn’t it so sad…men take notes…sad movies = consoling = getting the draws.
I was saying it was too sad~ for me both of those movies would be bad date movies. too emotional for me. thumbs down
One of the best date movies was Mr & Mrs Smith with Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie. The sexual chemistry jumped off the screen.
One of the worse date movies was Waiting to Exhale because all a sistah wanted to do was take inventory to see if she needed to get rid of her man.
“One of the best date movies was Mr & Mrs Smith with Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie. The sexual chemistry jumped off the screen.”
This Is So TRUE!!
“One of the best date movies was Mr & Mrs Smith with Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie. The sexual chemistry jumped off the screen.”
you know, maybe its just me, but this movie bored the shit out of me. i mean, other than the two 15 second kerry washington scenes, the rest of the flick was a wash
You know, I forgot she was in the movie.
All you need is 15 seconds of Kerry. Or Dania.
Gigi’s List of Date Movies
She Hate Me
Black Snake Moan
Kill Bill
Running Scared
The BreakUp
Rock Star
Dan In Real Life
The Stepford Wives
The Stepford Wives
I’m curious–original or remake?
original. hands down.
Yeah…that remake was…horrible.
I was actually gonna recommend She Hate Me at some point b/c it was so bad that you can’t HELP but have something to talk about after.
But at the same time, Kerry Washington and Dania Ramirez were SO hot in that movie. Bof of ‘em.
Plus there are lots of gratuitous breast shots…except of Paula Jai Parker…they could have kept those breasts.
“Plus there are lots of gratuitous breast shots”
I think this is a requirement of all Spike Lee films: She’s Gotta Have it, Do the Right Thing, Girl 6, He Got Game. Spike wants the world to know how much he loves breasts. Anyway, gratuitous sex scenes can usually ensure a ‘happy ending’ for the viewers no matter how bad the film is, as long as the guy can chill on his cinematic commentary. (refer to my comment on Wanted)
Mo Betta Blues
I think this is a requirement of all Spike Lee films: She’s Gotta Have it, Do the Right Thing, Girl 6, He Got Game. Spike wants the world to know how much he loves breasts
i never thought about this before
“except of Paula Jai Parker…they could have kept those breasts”
LOL
gi gi i looooved Mo Better Blues but i love jazz and the trumpet is my favorite instrument. the lil kids scenes was especially fly too. lubbb-did-it
I.LOVE.KILL BILL.
I have both 1 and 2 on DVD at the crib…I think I may make tomorrow a movie day full of all of my favorites, buy me a few wine coolers, chill on the couch, and eventually invite some unsuspectful yet eagerly willing male over to lay me to the side…yep, a perfect 4th of July in my book.
i’ll see you your two kill bill dvd’s and raise you both of the kill bill soundtracks, both of which i actually ordered before i even bought the movies
I’m wit Champ on this one.
She makes everything better. She’s the only reason I saw either of the Fantastic Four movies and she single-handedly makes She Hate Me watchable (which is huge since it’s easily the worst Spike Lee joint).
You think it’s worse than Girl 6?
I actually like Girl 6 quite a bit. I think it’s one of his better movies. I think it shows nuanced and complicated black women in a way that, to that point, we hadn’t seen in film.
Maybe I need to revisit this one. It’s been quite some time since I’ve seen it.
I do…She Hate Me might be one of the worst movies ever. I get the impression that one day Spike was sitting at home and was like…”hmm…what HAVEN’T I had in a movie yet…at the same time? Let’s see: suicide, lesbians, the securities and exchange commission, congress, a one man pregnancy machine, George Wills, Watergate, pharmaceuticals, the mob, Italian chicks, chicken feet…hmm…how to put that all in a movie together?? And they thought Higher Learning was doing too much. Take that John Singleton!”
***I almost spit out my water!!!!!** dayum!!! warn me next time.
LMAO@chicken feet.
lol…yeah. “she hate me” was like eight different movies rolled into one.
plus, you forgot about the subplot with the diabetic father (played by the great jim brown)
plus, you forgot about the subplot with the diabetic father (played by the great jim brown)
Of course I forgot about that…that was like footnote or something.
My worst first date movie (even though the R-ship worked out) was What’s Love Got To Do With It. Nothing like watching a woman being beaten, raped and held down to get you out of the mood. She whipped his ass at the end but that’s beside the point.
Another date-turned-boyfriend got unexpectedly lucky when he took me to see The Ring. Cause I damn sure wasn’t going home alone after that shit.
So besides some horror, the best for me would be spoof movies, like Scary Movie, Dont be a Menace, etc. Anything that gets your adrenaline pumping or gets you laughing is a good look.
“Nothing like watching a woman being beaten, raped and held down to get you out of the mood”
i guess this would be called the antiaphrodisiac
White Romantic Comedies are the best date movies.
I agree with this one, because most of the Black ones are terrible. Sorry ya’ll the best thing about Love Jones was the soundtrack.
“Sorry ya’ll the best thing about Love Jones was the soundtrack.”
You know this statement was pure blasphemy right?
I normally hate movies that everyone else likes.
Including this one.
I did just listening to “Hopeless” on youtube though…lol.
I’m with miss t-lee, 100 percent. OVER.RATED.
Overrated yes, but a great movie no less. And it was one of our first…kind of like Poetic Justice.
“…kind of like Poetic Justice.”
Which is an ACTUAL bad movie. I agree, Love Jones wasn’t a bad movie so much as it’s not as great as its given credit for being. I can watch it. Poetic Justice on the other hand was terrible but had some of THE best quotes of all time in Blackdom in it:
“Just like my damn momma!” I try to break that one out in particular every second Tuesday of the month.
And of course, it gave us the infamous Cousin Lucky scenes which had to spawn nobodyknows how many impromptu family reunion crashings.
“And of course, it gave us the infamous Cousin Lucky scenes which had to spawn nobodyknows how many impromptu family reunion crashings.”
Oh really? I’m sorry…I haven’t tried that one. You?
or ….”do you like pu-nawnny?” that sh*t was hilarious, esp. coming out of janet jackson’s mouth.
I think Poetic Justice is a good bad movie in the sense that it tries valiantly to do a couple of things and ultimately ends up unfocused and a big ole mess.
http://www99.epinions.com/content_110067945092
TEESH…Poetis Justice??? I shudder to even capitalize the title…shit! I could have put a quick weave on a sock puppet and did better than that!!!!
boooooooooooooooo!
sock puppet ahhhhh ha, ha, ha, ha, ha (inhale) whooooooooooooooo!
i can’t watch love jones either. i saw it 3 times when it came out and i can never watch it again. too many emotions, long story. i can barely listen to the soundtrack.
the soundtrack gets me too….(looking up so tears don’t fall) it gets me too…
Jumper was also a good date movie. Plus i realized during the movie that I love me some Hayden Christiansen.
I love the money pit!!!!
Be back later with my contribution.
@ The Comeback Girl
“Leben der Anderen”
“Est-Ouest”
“Chocolat” (I wanted to get busy after this one)
Just reading these titles they seem like a bunch of movies I’d be sleep on or angry that in sitting in the theater watching them. They seem like they would make my dick soft and I wouldnt wanna fuck anyway. I don’t know any guy that has seen or even heard of any of these movies. Is a requirement of a date movie that it has to be somethign the guy wants to see even a little bit or does what we want not matter?
Is a requirement of a date movie that it has to be somethign the guy wants to see even a little bit or does what we want not matter?
good question. ladies?
I would prefer that my “date” want to see the movie too…. I reserve chick flicks for outings with my chicks…I have masculine move tastes though, so it’s never a challenge to find something good…
sup goody. so you have masculine tastes in movies huh…. well i was watching Pulp Fiction (u mentioned it earlier) on cable last night and they cut out the part where Ving is being raped. (thank God)
when i saw the uncut version it was very arresting to see that nickels booty rippling from the action, just disturbing. never seen that before or anywhere else but in Pulp. (thank God)
Ving can take the damnest roles. somebody was mentioning Holiday Heart yesterday. that nickel know he will not be type cast. LOL!
It matters a great deal what the guy wants to see. Especially since he’s paying.
ForReal says curtly: “It matters a great deal what the guy wants to see. Especially since he’s paying.”
ForReal i would take you out on an award tour just for saying this shit an i mean what i just said too. love urself.
I guess what you want matters the most since we can watch just about anything as long as we’re in your presence(see how that works, we’re so unselfish)….but you negroes are super specific and will actually not take us to the movies if we say we want to see something that you have NO desire to see…movies is definitely a place where women compromise the most.
Teesh reports: “…but you negroes are super specific and will actually not take us to the movies if we say we want to see something that you have NO desire to see…movies is definitely a place where women compromise the most.
dam, i gotta agree with you here all the way. i dam sure won’t and they dam sure do. btw like sombody already said 9.9999998 times out of 10 we are paying. that said if you paid and i was in no way interested in the movie, i still wouldn’t go. but since we pay 9.999999999999999999999999
good call.
LOL at 9.9999999999 Genius
i think it works best when it’s mutual enjoyment. (this is why comedies tend to be a safer bet) i don’t like being with a guy at the movies if he’s snoring, it might piss me off & start an argument. and who wants that? unless i’m aiming for the classic ‘angry sultry sex’.
“unless i’m aiming for the classic ‘angry sultry sex’.”
and who doesnt love the classics?
“Is a requirement of a date movie that it has to be somethign the guy wants to see even a little bit or does what we want not matter?”
I normally let the guy pick the movie, I want to make sure it’s something he’ll enjoy as well as myself.
@ Deviant
I love taking men to foreign films. Leben der Anderen (the lives of others) is one of THE BEST I’ve ever seen. And not one man in the theatre fell asleep. It was sexy, had lots of suspense, and irony.
but back to the men….You can watch a man real good in a foreign film..he’s either reading the subtitles like a muthaf%yker or asleep. Either way you get a good side glimpse of who he is without appearing like your staring.
“Is a requirement of a date movie that it has to be somethign the guy wants to see even a little bit or does what we want not matter?”
do you remember my soap box speech on Quid Quo Pro yesterday…if I’m going to see a guy flick (batman, spiderman, 007 ish type stuff) certainly you can read some little words on a screen for 2 hours.
man I HATE reading movies!!!!! I do it because foreign films ROCK..but since I am blind as a fuggin bat…I watch them at home so I can get right on top of the TV…don’t want my date to see me scrunching up my face and sticking out my tongue in concentration trying to read that ish in public…
“scrunching up my face and sticking out my tongue ”
glasses much? cause that really isn’t a good look
saddest shit ever…I JUST paid 3 hunnit bux for my new script…right eye is 20/20, left eye is 20/200…a sista is legally blind damn near…the left eye is just there to fill in that hole in my face and blink so people don’t stare…
Damn @ the diff b/t your left/right eyes. Both of my eyes are around 20/400. Yes you read that right 20/400. The first thing I do when I roll out of bed is put on my glasses so that I can find my contacts and pop them in…lol.
“The first thing I do when I roll out of bed is put on my glasses so that I can find my contacts…”
DAMN! I feel so much better now…lol…and it’s nuts that we are still this FLY and BLIND AS HELL!
I feel ya’lls pain. I can’t see my clock radio on the night stand in the morning unless I put it 2 inches in front of my face.
I went to see Schindler’s List at the midnight show on a date once. Can’t tell you anything about the movie cause we were hunching in the back of the theatre the entire time. LOL
Only time I ever had a bad movie date was in high school when I took a girl who wanted to actually watch the movie and kept shushing me when I tried to talk to her.
That might have been me on a date. Unless you are talking to me about the movie hush your face. When can talk and get to know each other at dinner or over drinks.
“I went to see Schindler’s List at the midnight show on a date once. Can’t tell you anything about the movie cause we were hunching in the back of the theatre the entire time. LOL”
Ya’ll pulled a Seinfeld?
HILARIOUS!!!!
“I went to see Schindler’s List at the midnight show on a date once. Can’t tell you anything about the movie cause we were hunching in the back of the theatre the entire time. LOL”
***calling travel agent to reserve krush’s ticket to hell***
…don’t worry Krush, you’ll be sitting next to me thanks to my church smashing…but hey i hear they play really looong movies in flight…and uhhh i’m sure we can keep busy…ehh we’re going to hell anyways right.
@ TEESH….niiiiiiice…that’s the mile high club for that ass!!!!
Good Movies seen on actual dates
Die Another Day
The Simpsons
Gone in 60 seconds
The Usual Suspects
Talledega Nights
Bad Movies seen on actual dates
Mission Impossible 2
Basic
Freddy vs. Jason
Baby Boy
I don’t do movie dates that often. We have to be a few dates in because I wanna be able to talk to you and not just sit in the dark for 2 plus hours.
Gone in 60 Seconds makes me want to get super freaky…actually did a few things to my boyfriend during that movie…then again we were a couple of freaks.
And Talledega Nights goes down in the Hall of Fame for just being one of the best comedies EVER!!…oh and it’s a great date movie.
You know, I may as well just ask and see what the pollsters have to say. Better comedy:
Anchorman or Talladega Nights?
I say Anchorman. It had like UMPTEEN more classic quotables than Talladega Nights. Me and some of my compadres have been arguing about this for a while.
i dunno…the first time i saw Anchorman i didn’t laugh. i don’t know if it’s because my friend was in a pissy mood or not…however, the 2nd time i saw anchorman i cracked up. as for talladega nights i laughed pretty consistently. hmm…now you got me wondering. (i’m also biased bcuz i love will ferrell -can’t wait to see step brothers)
Yeah I didn’t really like Anchorman all that much either, it was funny but let nothing lasting.
Talledega’s quotes were heavy hitters, you know I actually saw someone on CNN say, “please baby Jesus let these oil prices go down”…it doesn’t get more hard hitting than that…lol.
Teesh you know he did mean strictly the baby Jesus (wrapped in the swaddling clothing) not the full grown one with the beard right. Talladega Nights was some funny assed shi*. pure foolishness. LMAO!!
2 words.
Mike Honcho.
Anchorman is one that grows on you. You have to see at least 3 times to catch all the hilarious ish going on.
LOUD NOISES!!!
IDK–this is a hard one for me.
I say quotes from both on the DAILY!!!!
I’m gonna have to go with Anchorman.
i dunno P, that’s a hard call T-Nights or Anchor?
it’s hard to beat redneck colloquialism and lifestyle but Anchor was funny too.
it’s a tie at best in my book.
Anchorman. this isn’t even a valid discussion, seriously. Anchorman had maybe 17 of the top 50 comedic lines of all-time.
i actually think anchorman vs 40 year old virgin is a better contest
40 YO has my vote!
ok…now 40 yr old virgin had me laughing to the point of tears (at least the first time i saw it). so it wins over anchorman.
steve carell plays awkward so well.
Miss Patt, Steve Carell doesn’t play awkward as good as Ben Stiller. shhhiiiiiiiiit.
“Meet the Fockers”
damn thats a neck and neck race……I can’t even call it
Hav Plenty is a good date movie. Depending on your sense of humor, you can both laugh at how bad it is. Love 40, baby.
It was bad, terrribly bad.
So bad it made me laugh. I mean I really couldn’t stop laughing at how bad it was.
Hav Plenty was actually a terrible terrible terrible movie.
Though, it might work for a date b/c it was so bad you can’t help but be entertained by the monstrosity of a shitfest that film was. It’s the only movie I’ve ever seen, well aside from You Got Served (which I actually liked) where it seems like everybody in the film was doing their best impression of an actor trying to do their worst acting job ever.
And yes, 40 oz. of love 4 lyfe.
Hav Plenty was the worst…
… but you know what was SURPRISINGLY good…Alpha Dogs. I just wasn’t expecting much more than some mid-level acting, a shaky story line and few major stars cashing in on some pocket change…but man I have to tell you that shit left me speechless, especially at the end…that and “Domino”…another true story that was like DAMN! Good stuff.
Alpha Dog with J.T.? That was good! I just watched it on On Demand last week.
The only thing I remember about Hav Plenty is the guy with the glasses taking his shirt off.
I don’t take chicks to the movies for dates I need to be able to talk to you in order to decide if I want to take you out again. Watching people talk on a screen for 2 plus hours just does not do that.
Now once I have decided you are multiple date worthy (after 3-5 outings) then going to the movies may become an option.
My suggestions for good date movies:
Love Jones
There’s Something About Mary
Independence Day
White Men Can’t Jump
Meet The Parents
The Ring
You know anything light and fluffy or with action.
Bad Movie Dates:
Godfather
Last King of Scotland
Malcolm X
No Country for Old Men
You know you don’t want anything super long or super cerebral. Although these are some great movies.
“You know you don’t want anything super long or super cerebral. ”
yeah…these are girlfriend movies, not first date flicks
Love the Godfather movies, but definitely not date movies.
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“The evil that men do, lives after them,
The good is oft’ interred with their bones.”
“What have I, or those I represent, to do with your national independence?”
At a time like this, scorching irony, not convincing argument, is needed. O! had I the ability, and could I reach the nation’s ear, I would, to-day, pour out a fiery stream of biting ridicule, blasting reproach, withering sarcasm, and stern rebuke. For it is not light that is needed, but fire; it is not the gentle shower, but thunder. We need the storm, the whirlwind, and the earthquake. The feeling of the nation must be quickened; the conscience of the nation must be roused; the propriety of the nation must be startled; the hypocrisy of the nation must be exposed; and its crimes against God and man must be proclaimed and denounced.
What, to the American slave, is your 4th of July? I answer: a day that reveals to him, more than all other days in the year, the gross injustice and cruelty to which he is the constant victim. To him, your celebration is a sham; your boasted liberty, an unholy license; your national greatness, swelling vanity; your sounds of rejoicing are empty and heartless; your denunciations of tyrants, brass fronted impudence; your shouts of liberty and equality, hollow mockery; your prayers and hymns, your sermons and thanksgivings, with all your religious parade, and solemnity, are, to him, mere bombast, fraud, deception, impiety, and hypocrisy – a thin veil to cover up crimes which would disgrace a nation of savages.
There is not a nation on the earth guilty of practices, more shocking and bloody, than are the people of these United States, at this very hour.
Go where you may, search where you will, roam through all the monarchies and despotisms of the old world, travel through South America, search out every abuse, and when you have found the last, lay your facts by the side of the everyday practices of this nation, and you will say with me, that, for revolting barbarity and shameless hypocrisy, America reigns without a rival.
these were excerpt’s from Frederick Douglass’ speech:
What to the American Slave is the fourth of July.
just a reminder before we go off to our 3 day weekend and partake in libations, various pig meat’s, firecrakers, 4th of july outfits, Boston pops, festivals, bbq’s and such. not a dam thang wrong with it necessarily, just be aware, informed and mindful of your actions or lack thereof. i mean who gets rich when we buy this bullshi*.
be safe, be respectful, do u.
genius khan has left the planet.
@ gk-Awesome! Go Pops! Goooo Boston!
ummm….but you date white women. *scratching my head*
ummmm Frederick Douglas was married to a white woman *shifting my nutz* [so what?]
i love you too Teesha boo but you can just hate to love me if it makes u hott. (under the collar or anywhere else)
ahhhhh ha, ha, ha, ha (inhale) whooooooooo!
ummmm Frederick Douglas was married to a white woman *shifting my nutz* [so what?]
BURN!
oh stop! half of us wouldn’t be here if somebody in our family tree didn’t date white women & marry them! i know i wouldn’t and i’m chocolate
my 5th, 4th and 3rd great grandmothers were white. 2nd & 1st great grandmothers biracial and my grandma was just one beautiful combination. teacia…i’ll do yr family tree so you can see the rainbow too
Frederick Douglass couldn’t have said it better himself.
awesome…provoking…thoughtful…DOPE!
Goody, u can thank Fred for being dope and thought provoking. i’m just sharing his wisdom. …like we always do about this time.
GK, today you get a gold star. have a safe 4th bruh!
thankya Miss Patt. u be safe, respectful and keep doin u.
You know a lot of people have commented how bad movies are for dates because you don’t get to know anyone, but i gotta say i never understood that. I can’t imagine going to the movies and not having drinks and/or dinner first or afterwords.
An ideal movie date to me would be drinks, movie, dinner. So there is time to talk and the movie is a good jump off point for conversation. Plus you can bring up stuff from the movie, that likely wouldn’t have come up in convo otherwise, and get in their head and find out how crazy they are. yeah, we aren’t talking for two hours, but there is plenty of potentially revealing conversation the rest of the time.
Ok um are we splitting the cost of this? You just put 3 dates in one. Not a good look.
lol…this made me laugh aloud
@ Conscience
HILARIOUS!!!!
LOL! We can forgo the pre-movie drinks (i guess), and dinner shouldn’t be Ruth’s Chris caliber since that is extra for a first date and especially since we are seeing a movie too, but on a first date we aren’t splitting the cost. If a guy asks me to chip in I won’t refuse, but there will be no second date.
On later dates, i don’t have a problem chipping in (you buy drinks, i pay for movie, etc.)
If you suggest going to dinner/drinks and a movie there will be no first date. Lol
Pick 1.
This is why I don’t do movies for a first date. See how complicated it can get. Keep it simple.
This is why I hate when guys don’t plan the first date. It’s like, dude you’re paying, why are you gonna let me dictate your budget? How am I supposed to know what you consider reasonable or not?
@ K
I wouldn’t let a female dictate anything since I am paying for the date but I may ask her what she is in the mood to do to get some ideas.
For example if I was thinking sushi and she does not like sushi I would like to know that up front.
But if a chick just outright suggests going to a movie and then getting drinks and having dinner. That is a bold move I would think she is just a hungry chick trying to get over waiting to be entertained and fed. This may get the outing canceled. That is 3 dates not 1.
But you seem to be assuming that all men think like you do. I’ve been on plenty of movie/dinner/drinks dates @ the guy’s suggestion. So it really wouldn’t be a stretch in my mind unless the guy told me so. Why not just say “hey I’d rather do either or” vs. just outright cancelling the date?
@K
I am not assuming anything. I am strictly speaking for myself.
I also said I MAY cancel the date. It just depends on how she goes about suggesting. Sometimes I can tell by the way she says it if it is something she expects me to do or if she was just making a ginuine suggestion.
Guys out here suggesting to take a woman out for movie/dinner/drinks on a first date or even first couple of dates in my humble opinion is a perfect example of ninjas raising the price of pu$$y.
Now I have to admit that I have taken a chick out before to let us say a movie and the convo and company was so good that I suggested we extend the date to grabbing a drink or something. But to suggest that from jump is crazy to me. For all intensive purposes a chick who I am going out with for the first time is a stranger therefore I need to have a cap on how much I spend since I can’t request a refund if I am not happy with the date.
Yeah you’re right, it never really starts out as dinner/movie/drinks…usually ends up that way as the night goes on.
“Guys out here suggesting to take a woman out for movie/dinner/drinks on a first date or even first couple of dates in my humble opinion is a perfect example of ninjas raising the price of pu$$y. ”
This smacks of “put forth as little effort as you can get a way with” though.
@K
“This smacks of “put forth as little effort as you can get a way with” though.”
Nah I am not saying pur forth as little effort as possible. I am just saying that there are a lot of women out here that are getting over on guys. Like if a woman expects a man to take her out and spend $75 + on a first day I think that is rediculous. The purpose of the first couple of dates is to see if we are compatible to pursue further. With that being said we can get to know each other over a cup of joe in a nice coffee shop it does not take spending a lot of money. We can grab some sushi or go to a shakespere in the park or for a walk along a lake front. There are plenty of creative ways to get to know someone in the begining without spending a lot of money.
My issue is with ninjas out here dropping all this coin to impress these women. Dudes are lame with the convo and aint bringing much to the table as far as personality and want to blind you with flashy lights and pomp and circumstance instead of showing you a good time at a relatively low cost.
In my opinion a ninja dropping a lot of money on a dinner/movie/drinks is showing a lot less effort and creativity then a ninja taking you out to a quaint sushi spot that you may have never heard of off the beaten path and following that up with a nice walk and convo on the lake front.
There are def some unreasonable women out there. While you’re trying to gauge whether or not the chick just trying to “get over,” we’re doing the same.
We are > < here on this one my friend. You’re totally on point with this entire response.
In an earlier comment i already said I don’t plan or suggest these dates. His invitation, his plan. I’ve simply never encountered a man who suggested a movie and no food. You must be meeting some of the wrong, entitlement issue having chicks Conscience.
L.M.A.O. Best comment ever.
I was thinking the SAME THING… I mean you meet at the eat/drink place…then the movie…I prefer vice versa…I say meet because you WON”T get to know where I live…learned that the hard way…but yeah..seeing the movie first and THEN going for drinks/food gives you time to discuss the movie…you can learn alot about someone just based on how they express themselves about the flick, ya dig?
Movie – $30
Dinner/Drinks – $50 +
Again I ask. Are we splitting the cost of this? And it is not because I am cheap it’s because I don’t know you so why am I going to spend $80 + dollars to see if I “might” want to take you out again. Damn that. Let’s grab a cup of coffee/tea/frappaccino or whatever your thing is at starbucks and a muffin and talk.
Starbucks First Date – Under $30 (Priceless)
Or if you are hungry I just had a date not too long ago where I took a chick out to get some sushi. Nice convo nice atmosphere and again I spent under $30. That’s my idea of a good first date or even first few dates.
Spending money on a chick who I may not even like after a convo is just not good sense to me. Now if she wants me to take her out to the movies and then she is going to catch the cost of dinner and drinks or vice versa I am open to that.
I hear you, and that’s not a problem. Since the guy does the asking out (in my world) the guy picks the date activity. If we go to Starbucks, eat Sushi, or whatever, it’s totally your choice. I’ve never been on a movie date that didn’t include food, but it wasn’t cause i pushed it; it’s the man’s money, the man’s call.
A real chick doesn’t begrudge a man his power/choices in the dating game!
movie prices are out of control now, so i completely agree with this comment. some places in l.a. charge $14 after 6p- i really feel bad for the teeny boppers that want to take their gfs out and need $50 just to get through the ticket line and the concession stand. so, i only go to the movies if i’m absolutely certain it’s going to a good flick. otherwise, make it a blockbuster nite.
$14…dayum.
I was complaining about $8.50 here. I will forgo any further complaints now.
Ok really, where do you go to the movies…movies are like 8 bucks in Florida…and how much are you drinking pre-movie?
Having said that I do think all of the interaction is bit much unless you’ve had great conversation prior to that and money isn’t an issue…hell someone took me to Miami on a first date…but then again the men are different down here.
“hell someone took me to Miami on a first date…but then again the men are different down here.”
See that leads me to another issue.
Ninjas be out here in the streets raising the price of pu$$y. Took you to another city on a first date that is just asinine.
Ninjas be out here in the streets raising the price of pu$$y. Took you to another city on a first date that is just asinine
I hope you know I’m crying tears of laughter right now.
thats why I am glad I don’t live down south anymore. lame ass ninjas down there be doin way too much.
Conscience dis ya boy khan, i’m witya on this and been preaching it for years.
nickels is driving up the cost of pu$&y. LOL!
ATTENTION!
it’s not so much about the money for me (not that shit isn’t expensive either, considering i just met u, 1st date and all) but too many women have this expectation and sense of entitlement. …and these raggley assed nickels out here are feeding into it.
ladies if this is not you then obviously it doesn’t apply. men if this doesn’t describe you then that’s just too dam good for yourself.
as you were…
See you feel me. You took the explanation right out of my mouth. It is definitely not the issue of not having the money to go out here and bake all these cakes for these chicks. I just know that a lot of chicks out here just aint worth spending that kind of money on especially within the first couple of outings.
It is simple economics there is plenty of product out there (i.e. women) but if ninjas are out here willing to pay a premium for the product it will inevitibly drive the price up.
So this is a PSA from Conscience.
People please be considerate of the next ninja.
Ninjas STOP raising the price of pu$$y!
You don’t have to turn into Duncan Hines to pull a good female.
And Women please do not expect the next man to start baking you little debbie cakes just because the guy you dated before was wack enough to do so.
The best date I ever went on cost all of a subway ride to and from Brooklyn to Manhattan, where we saw a free concert at city hall park featuring Lyfe Jennings opening for Teena Marie. No complaints and he was handsomely repaid for the thoughts and gestures during the open air concert.
So is it just about putting forth as little effort as possible?
at my age honestly its not about you spending money on me, sheet I can buy my own dinner and movie ticket. It’s about the QUALITY of the time we spend together. Sheet, we could be going to do a volunteer or community service, that speaks more to me about what you are about than a first date at Ruth Chris’s followed by a movie.
@ IH – That question was directed @ GK. One of my favorite dates was also a freebie but it was thoughtful as all get-out. Thoughtfulness counts as effort in my book!
@ K~I hear what you’re saying, free does not equal cheap date. There is a difference.
“Ninjas be out here in the streets raising the price of pu$$y. Took you to another city on a first date that is just asinine.”
ok, i know i joke all the time about reading something and it being so funny that i choked on my eclectic breakfast, but this comment actually made me choke on my spit and some grapes.
congrats
“are like 8 bucks in Florida”
it really depends on the theatre. he might be talking about the bentley of theatre’s with leather reclining seats, expandable cup holders and movable arm rests where its like you can lift it up to form a loveseat….all that there maybe worth it. If you’re feeling somebody.
“she is going to catch the cost of dinner and drinks or vice versa I am open to that”
of course you are!!
Movie – $30…WTF? I live down the street from a theater that plays current titles for $4!! ni99a I could take go on 3 dates and still get some sour patch kids to go with the Smirnoff Raw Tea in my purse!!
since you put it that way… I agree…and since I have never been to a (or consumed) Starbuck’s that might be fun…and the sushi idea is a GREAT first date in my book…I would be hard pressed to find a dude that would even entertain that down here…if it ain’t fried, it ain’t cooked…is what I hear when I bring that up! honestly, I would be willing to split cost of a movie/dinner, if I am consulted about it ahead of time…communiation is key!
“and still get some sour patch kids to go with the Smirnoff Raw Tea in my purse!!”
LOL!!!
I’m just saying…that ish goes hard…you should try it on your long ass VSB-cation…they even have a green tea flavor (my personal favorite) have some and tell me how much you LOVE it…it will be in YOUR purse too, in no time!
Im going to go get some for the beach
I was just talking about the cost of the tickets $9 here so that is $18 off top then some snacks (i’d rather her bring her “movie purse” so that we can get snacks on the way to the theatre) but they may be too much up front for her if we just started dating.
@consience…
MOVIE PURSE indeed…you don’t have to ask…but just allude…if she’s down…you know she’s a keeper…that ain’t got ish to do with w/ a first or four hundredth date…when she’s the girlfriend…you can have her ass cook at home adn load up the purse….lol…ain’t nothing like eating meatloaf and mashed potatoes as you see your favorite movie on the big screen…LOL…
I’m kidding (a little) but you know what I mean…
Hells yeah. I keeps a movie purse.
The only thing I pay for is the popcorn.
I gotta have movie popcorn with the butter.
movie purse??? why not just bring your student ID from 98′
@ComeBack…if I thought I could get away with it…I might try…but that’s doing too much…the price is already $4…and I have cocktails in my purse…what more can a girl ask for…LMAO
@ Goodeness
this is a different post altogether. If you going with the girls thats one thing, sneak all the almond m&m’s and white popcorn and starbucks lemonaide passion ice tea until your hearts content.
I draw the line at a date. A first date. A movie purse???? this is a personal foul ***blows whistle three times and hand signals time out***
I don’t know if I’d be madder at the man for even fixing his mouth to form an “M” or the woman for stuffin the nachos in her handbag.
I got to go marinate on this.
i’m moving to Dallas. I wish… 4 bucks. sheeeeeeeet. seriously, it costs somewhere btwn 10 and 14 bucks to see a movie in l.a.
I don’t know about moving P.A.T. but if you ever come visit…you will go into PRICE shock…my homegirl in Ceritos, CA sends me money to buy her weave…even with shipping it’s cheaper here!
We talked about this before, no?
Starbucks date= booo, no, hell no. There is no creativity there and since Starbucks is like the McDonalds of coffee shops…no. BUT you can take me to a mom and pop coffee shop, or a cheap-yet-cool restauraunt or diner. Starbucks is just uncreative. In Bed Stuy- I reccomend Common Grounds and Bread Stuy (both Black owned) as well as Tiny Cup. Cool kids don’t hang out at Starbucks anymore. That’s sooo 95.
I don’t think a man should drop a bunch of money on date one, especially in NYC. We can have an inexpensive yet good bite at one of the many cool eateries/cafes here and catch a free concert, check out an art exhibit or do the Jill Scott and take a long walk.
“get in their head and find out how crazy they are”
That what I was thinking when I made my list
you know, i actually don’t think movies are good places to take first dates, mainly because thats still “getting to know you time”, and sitting silent (because i’ll bite someones hand if they talk to me during a good movie) somewhere for 2 hours isn’t really condusive to that.
but, back to topic, the best date movie i’ve ever seen was “le divorce”, because that movie was so bad and the theater was so empty that we were able to easily have sex (three times!).
most bad date movies have already been named, but i’d like to add any michael moore documentary, “seven”, “the perfect storm” (having all the protagionists drown to death is never good for libido), and any drama starring sean penn(especially “mystic river”, “21 grams”, and “casualities of war”, which have to be three of the most depressing movies ever made)
“i actually don’t think movies are good places to take first dates, mainly because thats still “getting to know you time”, and sitting silent (because i’ll bite someones hand if they talk to me during a good movie) somewhere for 2 hours isn’t really condusive to that.”
I was JUST about to say the same thing (minus the biting hand part lol). Movie dates early on are mad awkward to me.
“because that movie was so bad and the theater was so empty that we were able to easily have sex (three times!).”
*taking notes* wow, Champ. I’m impressed. But I think you should prepare yourself for a corner worthy comment from Goodeness though…
nuh uh…I am going to be good… I don’t want to be in the corner over the holiday weekend…you know he likes to leave me in there and shit! lol
So since you can’t find any porn movie theatres, you decided to create your own?
@CHAMP…ok…I read all that…and all I got was…
“we were able to easily have sex (three times!).” and I’m impressed…
I have had sex behind the screen…(there is about 3ft from that curtain that surrounds the screen to the wall…) but the theater was full…the fact that there were people there…really added to the adrenaline rush…and the movie was a loud one (Braveheart) so I got to holler out that dirty ish I love to talk so much…lol… ahhhh….good times…
When people say things like this I always wonder…who suggested it and how’d you end up behind the movie screen? That’s so random, lol.
I used to work at the movies…I discoverd the space when I was cleaning a theater…
ROFL!! Ok, that makes sense. So um, yall weren’t lovin’ on the job were you?
OH YES…before I learned the “don’t f*ck where you eat” rule…brother was jocking me for some Cinema Sex for the duration of my employment after that…a grown ass man no less…that was my favorite summer job!
Damn! That is some good ish miss GOODENess.
ForReal…
“Damn! That is some good ish miss GOODENess.”
yeh…that’s what HE said too!
hmm
you say 3ft of wall?
What happend in Mystic River? I fell asleep on it.
people die, and everybody cries.
In college, I went to see Hannibal on Valentine’s Day with my boyfriend…now I don’t know what in our right minds possessed us to see that movie, but it wasn’t very date friendly. Thank goodness we were already dating.
But I agree with any kind of romantic, comedic and action flicks–those are great conversation starters afterwards and an all around good time. Now if you’re morbid, then maybe the Saw movies do something for you, I know for me I have to wait until they come out on dvd and then watch them at home, too much for me to handle out in public at night, *LOL*
I actually saw Saw on a second or third date with this guy…it freaked me out but it was funny cause we could pause the DVD and insert our movie commentary real time instead of holding it all until the end.
Bad date movies:
1. Million Dollar Baby
2. The Break-up (I went to see this movie on a date…it was mad awkward.)
3. Dangerous Ground, the movie where Ice Cube goes to Africa. Bad choice because you will walk out like I did.
4. Lord of the Rings or any really long movie
4. If you have a huge celebrity crush, it might not be a good idea to see a movie where you will openly drool over him/her instead of your date. I learned this the hard way many times.
Great date movies:
1. The Money Pit (I love this movie)
2. Any romantic comedy (if you are interested in your date as more than a smash buddy)
3. Any comedies (Everyone is more attractive when smiling. If your teeth are jacked up, don’t do a comedy.)
4. If you are planning to make out the entire time, anything people don’t want to see
Hmm, I can count. Really I can.
I put number 4 on the bad date movie list twice on purpose. Yup, I did.
1. The Money Pit (I love this movie)
this money pit is really popular at vsb. who knew this site was a hiding ground for closet “money pit” and “dream on” fans
I just saw it for the first time this week and I have to admit I was laughing so hard I had tears coming to my eyes. I’m totally a fan now. Shit i might watch it when i get home.
Especially that part where he falls through the floor.
I fell in love with it when I was about 7. HBO used to run the heck outta this in the summertime.
Co-sign. I believe that might be the best part.
hell yeah…the floor scene is hilarious. it made me cry, choke and hyperventilate i was laughing so hard.
GREAT DATE MOVIES…two words…HARRY POTTER
GOOD DATE MOVIES…this is a big category because I like alot of different kinds of movies…My favorites are flicks that will give you intersting topics to cover during the dinner/drink session that SHOULD follow said cinematic experience!
I LOVE:
~action movies: Wanted, Transporter(s), and Bond, James Bond…The Incredibles
~kung fu movies: Crouching Tiger, Ong Bak, and (of course) Enter The Dragon
~sci-fi joints: Aeon Flux, Soylent Green, Star Wars
~mind f*ck movies (I like to call them “Taratino’s” even though he’s not the only director that makes them) like Sin City, Pulp Fiction, and Clockwork Orange
~gangster ish like American Gangster, Shottas, and Good Fellas
~suspense/scary movies: 6th Sense and The Others
~ANYTHING with Will Farell or Will Smith in it…
~comedies and romantic comedies
BAD DATE MOVIES are
~loooong joints like Lord of the Rings…by the time I got to the middle of the first one I was ready to pawn the damn ring!
~chick flicks like White Oleander, Steel Magnolia’s and PS I Love You
~movies that contain your most favorite (borderline stalkerish) celebrity crush…unless you can control yourself…don’t jump out of your seat and rush to licke screen when Angelina shows her ink in Wanted…
that’s it for now…I’m hungry…and ready to go home!
yeh…Wanted don’t see that on a date or with a guy you like (esp. if he can’t control himself). If this is the movie I’m thinking about there was this against the wall sex scene in which I had to hear at least 10 minutes of commentary on AJ’s tiddies. at one point i thought he was going to have a wet dream…oy vay, i have the sh*ttiest date movie stories.
and so it has been said…Quentin Taratino makes the BEST movies.
Harry Potter?
*scratching head*
I LOVE Harry Potter…it’s my inner geek screaming for attention…**shrugging**
oops…wanted is the recent aj flick? then i guess i was referring to something else. i’m slow today.
To all my VSB Brothas & Sistas: Have a lovely 4th of July weekend! Be safe and bring us back some good stories that we can all learn from and laugh about on the site. mmmmmwah! xoxo, MP
Ditto. And if anyone knows of some good cookouts in the d.c. area, let a chick know. i’m tryin to crash
To my VSB fam (y’all feel like fam).
This is my last full day (half day, cause ain’t no one here so Im going to the beach) at work til Aug 4~ Be blessed and safe over the 4th, I’ll be checking via phone but don’t know how much commentary I will be doing. I miss y’all already. I feel like I’m going to rehab. DAMN!
@ Panama~ KNEEGROW did you get my email?!!!
We’ll miss you girl! Have fun.
Yeah I did…I’m compiling a list for you…I get slow on emails at times…my bad. LOL.
ok just checkin’ Im leaving town on Friday am so if you cant get it out till next week that is fine.
Aww we will miss you Soror!!! Have a good vacation/time away from the internet!
Liz we need to hook up while you will be in DC (are you still going?) I will be chilling with some of your older chapter sorors, Im there from 11-20th get at me gurl!
@ IH…
(slow motion) noooooooooooooooooooooooo!
(GASP) what am I… I mean we…going to do without you until the 4th…WTF do you where you can just vamp out like that…are they hiring? a sister will relocate! lmao…have fun girl…and remember…
Be GOOD…or be GOOD AT IT!
OMG!!!
My Best Male Friend says this to me all the time
“Be GOOD…or be GOOD AT IT!”
e-love at you!
it’s the signature on my gmail…my daddy used to tell me that everyday before I went to school…lol
have a fun trip…damn, a whole month though? wow, i’m jealous.
I actually think movies are bad dates because you can’t really talk (plus, I’m really pretentious and don’t like any Disney movies, most comedies, romantic comedies, love stories, or action films).
If I had to choose, I would say that a good date is probably a comic book movie (cause, yes, I’m a comic book geek) or maybe something funny and brilliant like The Opposite of Sex.
The worst would be any movie I love most so:
Spike Lee joints
Dark dramas (Talented Mr. Ripley, Eve’s Bayou..by the way two of the best films ever made)
Satires (Election, Dick, Bulworth)
Foreign films (Almodovar is a genius, but ladies tend to fall asleep reading the subtitles…not a good look)
I really liked the Talented Mr. Ripley, but the way the movie ended pissed me off.
It made me sad. But I feel you.
Eve’s Bayou
I could never get into this one.
Me neither…me no likey.
wow….
I actually think it’s the best black film ever made. And yes, I mean that.
Tyler……. young quib’s….. best black film ever? Eve’s Bayou? dam. i’d like to hear why so. i like sam, megan and jurnee and Lynn ssss, that’s some granny luv right there) and ok me thinks the story was deasant. upper middle class fam. …but greatest black film ever dog? dam.
not saying this is the best but watch Claudine and then…
hola black.
claudine? claudine was so disappointing. i mean it was a story of that time and all..but i really could have done without seeing james earl jones’ ass. he was ghettro in that film too! yes, i said ghettro…look it up.
i’m not a fan of Ving Rhameses raw ass but seeing his ass get pumped didn’t make me hate pulp fiction the movie.
ok you didn’t like the movie Claudine but dislike it for some other reason than you saw James Earl Joneses ass. come on do better than that. i’m listening.
I’ve seen it. When I say “black film” I really do mean films not just about black people but written and/or directed by black people. I think Claudine being made by a white man makes it a different kind of film than Eve’s Bayou and not a “black” one.
The reason I think it’s the best black film ever made is because I think it’s a flawless script, with great performances and beautifully directed. I think it speaks to blackness without the usual “burdens” of representation or victimhood. I like that.
Most black films are about being BLACK, and not about some aspect of blackness that is interesting for additional reasons. That’s why I’d put it ahead of most Spike Lee films (though I love me some Spike, I actually think Kasi Lemmons’ script is better than any of Spike’s scripts) and any hood films or the black bougie romantic films (which seem to me to exist for two reasons: 1) to show how we done come up and 2) to make black women feel bad about their success and paranoid about their chances of finding a suitable husband)
In short, I think Eve’s Bayou is a singular achievement that is unlike any other black film ever made.
Bad Choices:
City of God (Brazilian movie, I was so down after watching this)
Hotel Rwanda (It was the first time that I saw grown men cry at the movies)
Philadelphia
War Movies
Horror Movies like Saw
Great Choices:
Love & Basketball
Dirty Dancing
The Notebook (Sorry Panama)
Pretty Woman
Romantic Comedies in General
Love & Basketball
Now this was a decent romantic movie.
I just do not love this movie. I tried to watch it over and over and I just end up irritated by the end.
I agree, I was more bothered by Tyra than anything else.
Yeah I actually liked it a lot. It made me warm and fuzzy inside.
Yup, one of the only recent black films that is geniunely interesting
Love & Basketball
ive still never seen this. nobody believes me when i say this, but its true
dude, just watch it already.
Good Date Movies:
1.Desperado
2.Oceans 11 ** *Great EYE CANDY: Pitt, Garcia, Clooney***
3. 300~in part because I saw several historical documentaries about the Spartans when this movie came out (made them very sexy to me) to date I have not been able to see this movie to its end; we keep getting interrupted.
4. most anything with Denzel, Lawrence Fishburne, and Will Smith in it, in the past few years they have not missed the mark.
5. anything 007~even the documentary on Ian Fleming, or the toys from the movies
Bad date movies
1. Horror with a lot of gore in it i.e. Saw, Hostel etc.
2. anything with children being decapitated, raped, or severely injured
3. most pieces based on true stories (time period pieces) i.e Glory, Amistad, Saving Private Ryan, etc. I get very involved in the movie and emotional.
as far as horror movies go it depends on if you both like horror movies. I think they are great date movies. If you disagree I won’t like you anyway.
I don’t do well with horror that has any chance of being true, i.e. some mad man coming into your house while you are alone and tormenting you. Or any of the demonic possession films. My older brother tormented me as a child so basically I don’t do horror.
Smoking Aces!
After Common picked up Alicia and carried her down the stairs, it was a wrap.
WORD…and the story was decent…I liked it…and the guy I was with knew that ANYTHING with Lonnie Rashid Lynn II in it was going to make me “thump”…he took advantage of the fact that I am a COMMONphile!
you know, i agree. the oceans movies might actually be the only movies ever made that were constructed to be great date movies for both genders
***Deacon Installation Service***
Good Date-
Something New (fairytale)
Katt Williams-American Hustler (we love to laugh)
Great Debaters
anything scary but not to scary but just scary enough to get some touching going on………..hehehehe
Kung Fu Panda
And I have to support Tyler Perry…..ALL OF THEM
BAD MOVIE DATES-
Matrix
Lord of the Rings
Somethings you just have to watch on your own time
Kung Fu Panda
cartoons generally work. plus, they’re a good filter (basically, if a woman takes herself so seriously that she cant enjoy a cartoon, she getting traded immediately, or at least sent to the d-league)
as much as I hate to promote and perpetuate the evil that is Disney. Disney movies are typically a good bet. Cartoon Disney and morality Disney starring “the Rock”
Shrek?
the d-league)
hahahahah
i agree…if you dont like cartoons we’re done anyway. go kick rocks and bite a daffodil.
“go kick rocks and bite a daffodil.”
aaaaaah….FUNNY SHIT…I snort/laughed at this one…
Ah I forgot some
Any Given Sunday
Remember the Titans
Rudy
The gridiron excites me
Rudy! Rudy! Rudy!
Aw mayne! I freakin’ love Rudy.
“You’re 5 foot nothin’, 100 and nothin’.”
i like to laugh… and laugh LOUD, so i’d recommend:
-forgetting sarah marshall
-superbad
-40 y/o virgin
-kocked up
or anything else along those line…
i would stay away from anything that would make me cry:
-mr hollands opus
-things we lost in the fire
-i am sam
-etc…
-superbad
-40 y/o virgin
-kocked up
three classics. you know, we’re really in a golden age of comedy when you think about it
kocked up? is that some sort of freudian slip…or did you just throw in one of your porn titles by accident?
“knocked up”
Any movie that starts with Shimmy Shimmy Ya has me as a fan.
50 first dates gets a thumbs up
Boomerang!
Marrrrrrrrrrcus!
He Got Game. I don’t know why but I love watching this movie on dates!