Say It Ain’t So, Santa! Kim K Is Getting a Divorce!

Look, I know I don't belong here, but until she figures it out, I'M RICH BEEEEYOTCH!

Well, if you had 72 days in your office pool, consider yourself a beast. Or a goon. Or a motherf*ckin’ prophet goblin. As the world discovered yesterday, Kim Kardashian is filing for divorce from her goofy husband-beard combo man of 72 days.

Hey, did you know that the average gestation period for a dog is 58-70 days? A cat is 58-65 days. A wolf is about 68 days. The more you know.

*ding*

Back to Kim and Kris. Nobody thought this marriage was going to last. Hell, I’m sure most of couldn’t quite believe it was happening. Kris Humphries included. And I’m not sure if it was because we were surprised that that ninja pulled Kim K. or because we couldn’t believe that a woman whose entire comeup was due to one wayward sex tape would ever convince a man to marry her. Sure, men fall in love with strippers all the time. But Ray J made her famous. Fan or not, that’s a tough pill to swallow.

Real talk, if I sent them a wedding gift I’d ask for it back. I wonder if all along Kim just wanted to have a wedding and knew that no sane individual with money would actually waste his time wifing her, and she’d never date a regular guy anyway so her chances of ending up married were probably slim, so she said f*ck it and planned the only wedding in history that actually MADE money. Which might be a first given that like it or not, Kim K is a good lookin’ woman. It’s reminiscent of the Lauren London effect. Knowing that she let Lil Wayne knock her up somehow reduced her stock to Netflix status.

Conventionally speaking, the Kardashian sisters teach us some interesting lessons about life. The most banging one, Kim, is the one I think most of us would least like to marry and it has sh*t to do with her. She doesn’t seem to have much personality to speak of anyway but some men could deal with that. But again, she was Willie Jr’s jumpoff and nearly all men think we have more game than Ray J despite the fact that it’s obviously not true. There’s a possible post in there but I’ll hold off on that. Khloe is debateably attractive. And by debateably I mean not very. She’s got a certain half man/half amazing face going on that I’m just not sure I’d ever be comfortable waking up next too. Luckily Lamar Odom doesn’t mind that so much. But yet, she’s the married one…like ACTUALLY married. Kourtney is my favorite and she got knocked up by a white dude. That despite his dbag status is the kind of guy nearly all Black women would love to hang with.

It’s really quite confounding. The Kardashians really are some ninjas.

I wouldn’t be surprised if Kris Humphries not only saw this coming but didn’t give a f*ck either. Again, my guess is that he couldn’t believe it was happening anyway. So he rode that pony until he couldn’t anymore. One day he woke up and was like, “holy sh*t, I’m actually about to marry motherf*ckin’ Kim Kardashian.” So instead of trying to make this farcical wedding work, he just decided to party it up and live good on her dime while the good times rolled. He had no business in that role anyway. And I’m with him on that. I’d be throwing that Kardashian money around, making it typhoon on hoes in Singapore and Tokyo…at the same time. I’d send one of my boys to Tokyo and we’d do a synchronized money drop just because we could. The ignorance would be impressive.

The one thing to note here is that not only is nobody surprised, I’m guessing nobody cares. Not even Kim’s sisters. Not Lamar Odom. Not OJ. He actually just wants freedom. Not a cat in a hat. Not a bat chasing a rat who scats like that like this or like that, and uh. The fact that you could call a wedding off after a mere 72 days means you weren’t every officially into the sh*t to begin with. Short of finding out that your man smanged your mother’s labridoodle while singing “The Saints Go Marching In” and cooking breakfast for your best friend twice removed, there shouldn’t be SO much turmoil that early in that you have to get a divorce. That’s what makes it look even more ridiculous. Even by Hollywood standards that’s too short. At least make it to a year, Kim. Make us believe love did live there at some point. Plus, what a douche. He’s out of a job and his job sucked in the first place. Way to kick a man when he’s down, Kim. You trollop.

Thoughts, if any, on the big news? Are you surprised it lasted only 72 days? What was your original guess for their marriage’s demise? And even more interesting, is Kim K marriage material?

Talk to me. Petey.

-VSB P aka THE ARSONIST aka MR. I WOULDN’T MARRY HER aka GIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIRL HE A 3

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The Kim Kardashian Conundrum: What if she were black?

It’s been three years since the leak of the surprisingly well-produced and excessively tepid sex tape Kim Kardashian made with R&B omegastar Ray J thrust her into the national spotlight. (Seriously, is it just me or does it seem like she’s been around a bit longer than that?)

Since then, she has (in order):

1. Snagged a man many women consider to be America’s most desirable (under 30) black bachelor.

2. Used (rather shrewdly, I might add) her sex tape and good looks as a springboard to fame. (and managed to hitch her entire family on her considerable caboose)

3. Replaced Jennifer Lopez as America’s most prominent “Look how cool is it to have curves…and not be black!!” celebrity (although Christina Hendricks is hot on her tail)

4. Broke up with Bush (and subsequently snagged a few other extremely eligible black bachelors)

5. Cemented her position alongside Paris Hilton, Zsa Zsa Gabor, and Pamela Anderson on The Mount Rushmore of Undisputed A-Listers With No Exceptional (or Discernible) Talent.

Yet, among her many accomplishments, the one that most interests me is her status as the current cultural lightning rod for (some) African-American women (and men) sore about non-black female privilege (as shown here and here—the comments sections of blogs about her recent nude pictures in W magazine). In their minds, Kardashian is just the latest example of a non-black woman celebrated for her overt sexuality and (relatively) sordid sexual past; qualities they argue would be severe career and martial (“there’s no way a black woman with a widely scene sex tape would still have her pick of desirable suitors“) hindrances if possessed by a sista.

Thing is, while I do agree with this argument’s latent premise—even if exhibiting “questionable” behavior, non-black women are allowed certain accesses and advantages usually denied to black women—I’m not sure if Kardashian fits, and the “black men wouldn’t be as quick to “wife” a sista who appeared in a sex tape” sub-argument is especially faulty.

Why? Well, I’m aware physical attractiveness is a relatively arbitrary concept. As we proved (here and here) in July, if you ask 10 different people to sort the pictures of 10 random people from most to least attractive, you’ll likely to end up with ten completely different lists. With that being said, it would be completely disingenuous to ignore that Kardashian is an almost impossibly attractive woman with cross-cultural (and racial) sex appeal. She passed “just good looking” on the highway five states ago. While a few of her assets may be artificial (ha!), they appear authentic enough to make enough men (and women) not give a fuck. This is a fact. (Yes. Fact)

This matters because great looking women will always have certain advantages other women don’t, and this transcends race. The more people completely enamored with your looks, the more people are going to want to see you (on TV, in magazines, in their bedrooms), and the more leeway you’ll have to make underwhelming sex tapes and still be sought after.

Karrine “Supahead” Steffans is often cited as proof that a black Kardashian doppelganger—an attractive woman with known and widely seen sexual exploits—would be seen in a much more negative light. But while Steffans is definitely an attractive woman, she’s not attractive enough for the analogy to work. Trust me, if Supahead was 29 years old and looked like Stacey Dash, Halle Berry, or Kenya Moore, she’d be able to bag a Boris or Idris too.

(Also, lets not kid ourselves. While non-black women with public sex tapes like Kardashian, Pamela Anderson, and Kendra Wilkinson seem to have no shortage of suitors, it’s not like they’re hooking up with any Obamas or Warren Buffets or even any Don Lemons. Their options seem to be limited to pro athletes and cokehead rock stars—many of whom have sordid sexual histories of their own. Women with public sexual histories lose points with men of all races, not just black men. Yes, it’s a double standard, but it’s a race neutral double standard)

Plus, Steffans is actually most similar to is Kat Stacks—a woman who (like Kardashian) looks racially ambiguous and is (somewhat) physically attractive, but (like Steffans) isn’t as attractive as Kardashian and has a level of excessive seediness (and sexual snitching) attached to her sexual history Kardashian doesn’t.

The argument that a black female equivalent of Kardaishian would definitely be treated much harsher is faulty because there have been no black equivalents of Kim Kardashian to test the theory. There has never been an extremely attractive African-American celebutante from a quasi famous family who had a sex tape she made with her long time boyfriend leaked to the general populace. Maybe if, I don’t know, 15 years from now, Willow Smith gets raked across the cultural and moral coals after a sex tape she made with Diggy Simmons leaks to TMZ, the “a black woman wouldn’t be afforded the same access Kim Kardashian gets” argument would hold water.

Until then, Kardashian (and Hilton) remain without any black correlates, and while non-black female privilege definitely exists, you’ll have to look somewhere else to find it.

—The Champ

Quiet Is As Kept: How Video Hoes And Hoodrats Get In The Way of Sound Theory and Science

When The Levee Breaks

“Treat someone like an object, and they’ll behave like one.”

The objectification of women is a problem in current pop culture. For years, women have been used as mere visual trinkets intended to make men look more virile in videos. In song, women are usually relegated to derogatory and derisive terms like b*tch, ho, slut, Lil Kim, etc. As the objectification continues, the thought is that the men of tomorrow will view women less and less as equal partners and more as property and possessions to be owned and commanded. A recent study conducted by Tamar Saguy discovered this:

Leading a team of Israeli and US psychologists, she has shown that women become more silent if they think that men are focusing on their bodies. They showed that women who were asked to introduce themselves to an anonymous male partner spent far less time talking about themselves if they believed that their bodies were being checked out. Men had no such problem. Nor, for that matter, did women if they thought they were being inspected by another woman.

It stands to reason that as women feel objectified, they reveal less about themselves. To wit:

Saguy’s study is one of the first to provide evidence of the social harms of sexual objectification – the act of treating people as “de-personalised objects of desire instead of as individuals with complex personalities”. It targets women more often than men. It’s apparent in magazine covers showing a woman in a sexually enticing pose, in inappropriate comments about a colleague’s appearance, and in unsolicited looks at body parts.

Wow, that is tragic. And I’d buy it lock, stock, and barrel except…

…video hoes and hoodrats seem to have not gotten the memo. In the past three years, more video hoes have started spilling the beans on their trysts and triumphs, have hit the circuits to talk about how it feels to be objectified, and they seem to love it. Hell, very few even take issue with being called video hoes.

Okay, I have no proof to back that one up but like Chris Rock said, if you show up to work wearing a hoes uniform, you can’t be mad when somebody treats you like one. An entire cottage industry has grown out of video hoes making a name for themselves in entertainment. Think about it, mainstream America actually knows the NAMES of quite a few of them now.

Where dey do dat at?!!!?!?!?

Oh yeah, Oprah.

Zing!

From Superhead to Angel Lola Luv to Melyssa Ford, even to the Paris Hilton’s and Kim Kardashian’s of the world, reality TV and the public’s insatiable desire for gossip and non-sense, video hoes and women famous for their sexual (de) merits have caused objectified women to share more pieces of themselves than Jenna Jameson. Now, of course this study was done with women who didn’t know their male counterpart and when they felt the man was solely focusing on their assets, they spoke up less. So it’s not really an apples to oranges comparison. However, video hoes on the other hand have created an entire life out of exhibitionism and won’t stop yapping. The game is to be sold, not to be told, but they won’t shut their traps, flying directly in the face of this study.

And well, hoodrats, they just don’t stop yapping anyway and loves them some objectification. Use it or lose it. Though ironically, I’ve heard quite a few successful and professional women indicate that they realized the values their bodies had and that while it was still how they liked it, they would do best to benefit from the attention they received.

Now, I realize that a video ho is probably more prone to attention whoring given her desire to share her assets to the world for as many to see as possible anyway, so once again, apples and hand grenades, but I’m sure there is an entire segment of the population out there that not only relish the opportunity to speak more because of their assets, they look for opportunities to do so, and perhaps weren’t captured in the expansive 207 person study. The fact that they’re students doesn’t help either since they probably read and reading makes one more conservative.

So says Panama anyway.

Plus, when you factor that the reason for less personal revelation is because half of the women probably were saying, “I’m up here, thank you…so I’m a Scor…ah ah…focus…” After a while you just stop trying and exchange numbers so you can talk that way.

Note that men don’t care one way or another. Testosterone win.

Anyway, ladies do you tend to speak less when you feel objectified and how objectified do you feel on a daily basis? Further, to the guys, do you ever really just stare at a chicks boobs when trying to holler at her? It seems like it would be counterproductive to procuring the digits or BB PIN number?

Share, because sharing is caring.

-VSB P aka THE ARSONIST aka TANGLE JIG P aka GIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIRL, HE A 3

the vsb do’s and dont’s of making a sex tape

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although actually watching them was like watching paint f*ck, kim kardashian and ray j are concrete proof that a sex tape can benefit both parties. slutty celeb ambition aside, a properly made video recording of you and your lover’s most intimate moments can be a private, visual confirmation of your mutual love and affection, a relevant boon in moments of libido recession, or an audition tape to host 106 and Park.

while i’m assuming most of us haven’t actually recorded ourselves, i’m 100 percent sure everyone has thought about it at least once. with this in mind, the champ has decided to bring you ten vsb do’s and dont’s of making a sex tape. take notes. Continue reading