five super (and somewhat under the radar) sistas you should definitely know

nicole beharie

you know how maggie gyllenhaal almost single-handedly ruins the dark knight because there’s no way in hell that the audience can believe that the two most handsome and powerful men in the city of gotham would both be madly in love with someone so, for a lack of a better term, plain?

well, in american violet, nicole beharie has the complete opposite effect. i couldn’t completely buy the movie –a factual account of a racially charged texas court case– because i had trouble believing that someone who looked, walked, and carried herself like her could be a 24-year-old single mother of four in a drug-infested texas housing project. she was just “too” (pretty, confident, etc) everything to be truly convincing.

when you add this to the fact that i’d never seen or heard of her before american violet, you can understand why she distracted me the entire movie

i googled her later that night and learned that she’s a 25-year-old juilliard grad who played a supporting role in the express.

also, while doing some background for this entry, i read that she was recently involved in a bit of a controversy. apparently, her role in american violet earned her the AAFCA’s (african-american film critics association) best actress award. but, after hearing about a voting discrepancy (she was given the award despite the fact that precious star gabby sidibe actually finished first on the majority of the ballots), she gave back the award.

anyway, nicole beharie is just one example of the numerous super sistas who are doing their thing on a national scale, despite the fact that they’re not household names…yet.

here’s four more: Continue reading

Friday Fun: Seven Up, Three Down.

deceptionBack in the early days of VSB, we used to do this Friday Fun thing where The Champ and I would basically come up with some random yet entertaining way to pass the Friday.

Today we’re going to return to the glory days.

The Champ and I decided to do a little fact or fictioning.  What that means is that we’re going to play the guessing game.  We’re each going to provide you with 7 facts and 3 fictions.  But it doesn’t just stop there, we want everybody here to do the same.  We can call it “Getting To Know You 101″ VSB style.  Considering the posts from this week and how much personal information has been put out there, I figured what the hell, we might as well go balls to the wall. Continue reading

link of the week: the booty-call contract

one of my favorite writers, bill simmons (aka “the sports guy”) from espn.com took a stab at a “booty-call contract” a few years ago in one of his mailbags. today, because of an intense clamoring for such a document from the legions of excessively horny men and women who frequent this site, i’ve decided to post it as an entry. enjoy.

1. You can’t call it a “booty call.” No self-respecting guy would ever use a phrase like that. Back in the day, I always used the phrase “stop-by” because it was intentionally ambiguous. Guys like ambiguous. It makes us feel comfortable. “Booty call” sounds like something Arsenio Hall would say to Magic Johnson in the late-’80s, followed by them both collapsing on an oversized sofa in hysterics.

2. No weddings or functions of any kind. For one thing, you can’t meet anyone else if you already have a date, and weddings are an absolute hookup gold mine in your 20s (so why remove that option for yourself?). Also, you’re opening yourself up to people coming over to you and saying, “So, what’s going on with (fill in Date’s name)?”, and then you have to pooh-pooh the whole thing and people will mistakenly think that either he’s gay or you’re a harlot. This is much worse than anyone thinking you’re single (and possibly available).

3. No unannounced stop-bys. You have to call first. I wouldn’t put a time limit on phone calls — the hotline should be open 24 hours a day.

4. I would leave in the provision of one or both parties saying, “I’ll call you tomorrow,” because it’s tradition, as well as a nice litmus test — if they say they’ll call you tomorrow, and they actually do, they might be developing real feelings and/or have accidentally stumbled across “When Harry Met Sally” on HBO 7 later that night and gotten the wrong idea. I like the safety of “I’ll call you tomorrow.” It’s right up there with a woman saying, “I’ve never done anything like this before.” It’s just good to get it out of the way.

5. If you’re doing the F.W.B. thing with a guy who’s actually bitching because you won’t let him sleep over, you need to re-evaluate things. What guy wouldn’t rather wake up in his own bed?

6. You should probably negotiate which actions aren’t allowable before you enter into the contract. As your attorney, I would allow ALL actions and negotiate a provision that explicitly says “both parties will exhibit good hygiene at all times.”

so, good people of vsb.com, what are your thoughts? thorough? perfect? incomplete? what would you add, and what would you leave out?

—the champ