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Ladies, Just How Pissed Would You Be?

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You're way more special than my ex! That's why I'm giving you this ring I was gonna give her. #winning

I was listening to the radio the other day and heard an interesting story. I actually didn’t believe it at first because it sounded like SUCH a bad idea that makes complete and total lopsided sense that I’d never think any body (men really) would think to do this.

Until I was informed that there was an episode of Sex And The City that had a similar premise. Well, I’ll be. I never really got into SATC even though I heard it was like the greatest show ever not named The Wire.

Oh, what had happened was?

Right, so what had happened was that the show was about things you are keeping from your spouse and this one fellow called in to the station to confess that his wife’s engagement ring was originally intended for another woman he was engaged to but broke it off with. This ninja used the same engagement ring…twice.

#wheredeydodatat

I couldn’t believe my own two ears except I heard it with them. Honestly, I couldn’t even figure out why I was so taken aback. Perhaps it was the sheer audacity of hope that his wife would never find out (or that he’d ever actually admit that out loud on the off chance that she’d find out). Or maybe because it was actually fairly smart of him. Maybe he couldn’t take it back for some reason or couldn’t sell it anywhere and break close enough to even.

To be clear here (ladies), I think its jacked up to use the same engagement ring twice. I feel like the ring you buy for a woman should be reflective of her specific wants and tastes and is ultimately, supposed to be ‘pacifically for her and her only. To give another woman the ring that was picked out specifically for prior woman just seems wrong.

But also, what if she finds out? There are a few things in life that I think would piss a woman off to the nth degree. Finding out that Lisa Raye is a PhD biomedical engineer would be one of them (she’s not). A TMZ exclusive video of Idris Elba f*cking Eddie Murphy would be another. But learning that your husband gave you the same ring that he gave some other heffa would definitely be at the top of the list of things that might get you stabbed. Its just wrong.

You know what makes it especially wrong? I can’t think of a comparable male equivalent. I mean, we all know that Yeezy taught her how to put those motherf*cking Jimmy Choo’s on. Taught her well in fact. But in terms of something of that high value, both sentimental and emotional that a woman would provide to a man, nothing comes to mind.

Back to the ring. I honestly can’t understand for the life of me what would compel a man to think this is okay. Why he even kept the ring after the first engagement faltered is beyond me. The ring makes no sense as a keepsake or as a memento. Hell, it probably cost him an arm and a leg so I’d be trying to recoup those loses via that ring. Which begs the question over all, who actually keeps sh*t like that after the engagement didn’t work out. Maybe he was just that sure that he’d end up being married at some point.

I know I ain’t keepin’ no ring. I’d take that ho back and get me some golf clubs, a couple prostitutes and a ouija board. But that’s just me.

So after all that, I’m just curious about a few things. Ladies, just how pissed would you be if you found out that your man gave you an engagement ring originally intended for a previous fiance? Is there a male equivalent here? And fellas, would you ever consider doing something like that?

But most importantly…who the hell keeps engagement rings after the engagement ended up like MJ?

MJ gone. Our ninja dead.

-VSB P aka THE ARSONIST aka TANGLE JIG P aka MR. KEEP THAT RING aka GIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIRL HE A 3

****PS THANKS to everybody who came out to party with Panama Jackson at Liv Nightclub in DC this past Saturday night. The party was INSANE. Good vibes, good music.  Make sure you stay paying attention for more event notices. And that Saturday party…is a monthly. We’re going to do it the first Saturday of every month. Sadatay.****

Link of The Week: Just How Important Is The Ring?

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*Admin. Note: Sorry I forgot to post this earlier.  The VSB NYC Meetup (it ain’t really a Happy Hour) is on and poppin’ for this Saturday, October 3, at Latitude Bar & Grill on 8th Avenue (between 47th and 48th Street).  Let’s say around 8pm. If you can make it great.  Come party with Panama and Liz.  The Champ is on the run from NYC hooligans ever since his NYC overrated post.  I’m not getting a section, necessarily as the folks at Latitude said we should be okay in there without a special area though if its looking like I’ll need one, I’ll drop the dough for it as long as folks rain alcohol on me like an SWV song.  Anyway.  Hope to see you New Yorkers there.  Let’s hear it for Neeew Yoooooooooork!*

The good people of VSB are no strangers to marriage proposals.  And don’t even get me started on V.E.G. and her multiple marriage proposals!  Well, one of the most imporant parts of a marriage proposal is the ring that comes with it.  Right or wrong, people (mostly women actually) view the ring as the true testament of the man’s love.  The bigger it is, the more he loves you.

I see you nodding your head in disagreement over there.  Don’t even try it.  You ladies know you judge the quality of a woman’s relationship by the size of the ring.  Or at the very least, come to some type of determination of the man’s true desires.

It’s all bogus.

To the ring.

I happened to be perusing The Frisky tonight looking for blog fodder when I came across an article that referenced something I’d heard about on the radio: the idea that an engagement ring is actually a bad investment (especially in these current economic times).  I’ve heard this stated before, usually by some cat trying to conjure up a reason good enough not to drop 10 stacks on what basically amounts to a really expensive bauble for women to show off and to other women as some sort of validation of her man’s love.

Even the Freakanomics blog on the NYTimes is on board with this for even more humourous reasons and has a pretty interesting history of the engagement ring laid out.

Now, I understand the reason why women love engagement rings so much.  For one, its jewelry.  For two, women like tangible expressions of love for some reason.  Flowers, cards, BMW’s all make women feel loved and wanted so it stands to reason that a ring specifically intended to be an expression of love and commitment would mean the world to her.  But if you think about it, that ring can usually represent as much as an actual down payment on a house.   Banks aren’t doing 100 percent financing anymore so the $10K a woman is wearing on her left hand really could be a down payment on a house.

It would seem that the simple solution would be to not spend so much on a ring, which I suppose comes down to knowing your woman and what she could live with.  But assuming a general desire for a ring let’s look at this from the perspective of the young urban professional.  That guy can’t just go buy a $1K ring and his woman be satisfied.  It’s quite likely that she’ll want a ring that is more indicative of her social status.  $1K just won’t do it.  But that also means that spending $10K isn’t unreasonable.  So it’s like you either pay a grip or face humiliation and possible rejection.  It’s quite the conundrum.

What happens if buying the ring your woman really wants sets you all back in your ability to purchase a home?  I mean it would seem rather selfish for her to say something like, “we can buy a house any time, but we only get married once.”  While I understand the sentiment, doesn’t that seem a littel bass ackwards?  A house helps build actual usable value whereas the rings value is all intrinsic.  Then again, can you put a price on intrinsic value?

Isn’t this a lot of questions?  The main crux is this: just how important is the ring in an engagement or marriage?  Or rather, how important would it be to you (or is it to you if you are married)?  It truly does seem like there are better investments to make, but I completely understand why a woman would want a ring.

So good people of VSB, just how important is the ring?

-VSB P aka THE ARSONIST aka TANGLE JIG P aka GIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIRL, HE A 3