Comments on: Some Things That You Just Shouldn’t Do In A Relationship

By: PT Lover

PT Lover — Thu, 08 Jul 2010 01:30:18 +0000

Sex is not one-size-fits-all, nor is it McDonalds, the same old burger and cheese slapped between the same two buns (pardon the pun) all over the world. Each situation between consenting adults is an individual situation to be negotiated, through words and bodies, at that time and place. What was good for one session with one particular partner may not be right for the one in which you are currently engaged. This makes you neither a b*tch nor an asshole. Just a human, with variations in wants, desires, and comfort levels. A very good, and very normal look, if you ask me.

By: Kandia

Kandia — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 16:02:54 +0000

Yeah that’s the worst….don’t call me out in public cause you WILL get told when we get to the car….LOL…and keep playin might get told right then and there depending on where we at……and saying no just to be saying no, nahhhh that’s not cool either.

By: Dee

Dee — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 14:07:18 +0000

A kiss on the cheek is acceptable….otherwise you will get called out about NOT doing that.

By: OftenConfused

OftenConfused — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 14:09:22 +0000

@shiobhan
I have the same problem. I’m always told I don’t know how to take a compliment, bc really I don’t. I always think it’s a trick, or a setup or something to lower my guard for whatever is really coming. I’m doing better though.

By: Dave

Dave — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 13:45:09 +0000

@MeteorMan,

I have been confronted with the same thing, my dude. But that is with permission. I’m talking about mail, phones, pockets, and wallets, email without permission. I hear you about women….it can be endearing how women selectively open their lives once you gain their respect/comfort. However gender is not an excuse if I step out and get some ass. It can not be an excuse when you riffle through my things.

By: mateosmuse

mateosmuse — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 13:10:43 +0000

Do not:

1. Out me in that ‘she’s so shallow’ tone, and make fun of me coz I dance to Beyonce tracks- infront of yr underground mc friends.

2. Turn down my invitation to go watch Saul Williams perform next week, act all condenscending about my excitement, then turn up at the actual show- WITH FREE VIP TICKETS- that u got from yr boy, then turn around and rub that ish in my face -talking ‘i was bragging about going’ when u now damn well i asked u if u wanted to go with me to begin with. Of all the selfish, mean-spirited shyte to pull!!!

Damn, i think i’ll stop right here- this post is bringing up shyte i thought i’d dealt and let go off.

By: BigBuck

BigBuck — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 12:47:37 +0000

Don’t tell your mama, best friend, or favorite play cousin about every little fight/issue unless you really don’t plan to continue the relationship any longer. Nobody wants to be around your people if they are always getting the side eye because they know all the dirt. Be careful what picture you paint of your SO for others to see. People love drama and if thats the picture you show them they will only expect more.

By: Siobhan

Siobhan — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 05:23:56 +0000

@Panama Jackson,

Does it make me weird that if someone is telling me something good about myself I assume their lying or blowing smoke?

Ex. As a child because my Mother always said I was beautiful and introduced me as her beautiful little girl I assumed I must be ugly because why else would she always feel the need to tell me and others that? I was a suspicious little thing LOL.

I was on the phone with her on Monday to tell her I had decided to go to law school and told her to tell the person in the background at her job to be quiet. He asked who she was talking to and she said her daughter. He asked if she was cute and she said I’ll show you her picture in a minute because she’s beautiful.

My first instinct was to roll my eyes…

She’s a Mom…that’s what they do. My Dad tries to minimize her doing that because it makes me uncomfortable LOL.

So in conclusion…if someone says something nice I automatically disbelieve. When someone gives me a compliment I have to actively think of the correct response and not get uncomfortable.

Upon re-reading this I think it’s safe say it is weird.

By: Siobhan

Siobhan — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 05:17:31 +0000

@atltx,

I can’t LOL…must deezes LOL.

By: Siobhan

Siobhan — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 05:16:43 +0000

@Just X,

LOL at receding hairlines and bald spots…ya’ll can see that…why I gotta lie?