Comments on: six things every grown-ass sista should possess

By: Charotte

Charotte — Sun, 23 Jan 2011 00:13:55 +0000

I can dig that…totally

By: Whome??

Whome?? — Tue, 16 Nov 2010 15:39:15 +0000

I am a 29 y/o black female with no female friends. I’m bi-sexual and end up sleeping/fooling around with my female friends not their boyfriends. I’d like to find a way around this without hurting feelings or alienating people but alcohol + sexually curious cute girls = inappropriate friend behavior. Then they are embarassed or want a repeat performance, then we aren’t just friends anymore. Any suggestions?

By: Patricia

Patricia — Sun, 15 Aug 2010 20:41:11 +0000

As a grown woman who likes to know what younger people are saying, I say this: the other attribute a grown-ass woman ought to have is a little “mystery.” Leave the talk about undergarments and feminine products for all-women blogs. This blog is titled “very smart brothas,” and men don’t have need to know what you have in your handbag. Have some discretion.

Besides, why do you need to carry all that stuff around like a bag lady? If you’re having sex it should be with somebody who cares enough about you that he’s with you somewhere that you can take you clothes off and then take a shower afterward, such as, at his place or yours. Love and respect yourself beautiful, young sisters.

By: keisha brown

keisha brown — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 21:40:32 +0000

Great posts, and great comments!

I would also like to add a good sense of proper social ettiquette.

Examples: know how to eat a canape (hors d’oeuvre) with a wine glass in your hand, know how to decline/inquire politely said passed canape is offered, the place setting for a 3-course sit-down meal (salad fork, dinner fork, soup spoon, dessert spoon etc..) how to converse with anyone and everyone in a room from the president of the US to the president of a bank to the president of the Rotary club.

You never know where life is going to take you – so being somewhate prepared for whatever life throws your way will help.

Other things could include:
-a will
-knowledge of your parents will/life insurance policies/wishes for old age care
-proper hangers for your clothes
-knowledge that as you get older, you must make your purchases with the long-term in mind. your clothing, shoes, makeup are investments. $25 dollar boots that need to be constantly repaired are no longer a sweet bargain.
-a wardrobe that can be worn/applied to at least 2 different aspects of your life. Ex: A top that can be work and after-work appropriate. Dinner with your man or dinner with your man’s momma appropriate.

By: keisha brown

keisha brown — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 21:25:57 +0000

@Tally,

GREAT question!

By: keisha brown

keisha brown — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 21:22:29 +0000

@divalive,

I also approve this message.

Especially the out-growing people. Just because you were friends from back in the day, doesn’t mean you are friends now or will be in the future. It can be hurtful in the short term, but better in the long term.

By: keisha brown

keisha brown — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 21:14:29 +0000

@The Champ,

LMAO!! I am. And I approve this list. ; )

By: keisha brown

keisha brown — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 21:10:21 +0000

@Sula,

Memo:
I would like to place an order for said t-shirt to distribute to many black folk.
Thanks,
Management

By: keisha brown

keisha brown — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 20:59:30 +0000

@Yaa,

yes, yes and YES!!
70% of women are wearing the wrong size bra (I used to work in a lingerie store.. smh…). Quadruple-boob is NOT cute. If you have to invest over $100 for that ONE bra that turns you into a Victoria Secret model than do it. It is an investment that will have you enjoying many returns.

By: bootlegcrayola

bootlegcrayola — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 02:37:09 +0000

Not the Howard comment though.. let’s say she went to Hampton. lol