- Cover designed by Sarah Huny Young
***The following is an excerpt from “Your Degrees Won’t Keep You Warm at Night: The Very Smart Brothas Guide to Dating, Mating, and Fighting Crime“; scheduled for a January 2011 release***
Seven things “Your Degrees Won’t Keep You Warm at Night: The Very Smart Brothas Guide to Dating, Mating, and Fighting Crime” isn’t,
one thing it is, and one thing it could be (if you squinted really hard)
1. Even though we’ve grudgingly accepted this possibility as a by-product of publishing a relationship book, this isn’t a contrived ploy to meet more women. Seriously.
Actually, doing something as laborious as writing a book just to meet women is something a Diva Dude would do, and (we think) neither of us are Diva Dudes. (More on Diva Dudes later)
2. This isn’t one of those 250 page long guilt trips written by a couple of scorned former “nice guys” and filled with loads of passive-aggressive antagonism. This also isn’t a self-fellating guide on how to be a player or a “Mack”.
Although we’ve both had our share of dating discomfort, we’re not bitter or out for justice, and we’re not seeking to settle the relationship score. We feel awkward (and a bit yucky) even writing that, but we felt it had to be said.
3. This isn’t one of those relationship books written with the underlying premise that all women are desperately seeking a man. In fact, we’re not even targeting any specific gender. Although we understand that women typically make the bulk of relationship book purchases, we’ve included stuff that’s applicable for men, women, and West Virginians.
4. The title should let you know this isn’t a book for dummies. There are certain things we’re assuming you already know, and we feel like there’s no need to re-hash or revisit any of them. We wouldn’t want to waste our time, your money, and insult our collective intelligence.
Basically, if “Unprotected sex with hookers: Yea or Nay?” is a difficult question for you, this probably isn’t the right place for you to be.
5. Although this book is littered with a few subjects and asides unique to the African-American experience, this isn’t a book written only for brothas and sistas. The desire to be VerySmart is universal, right?
6. This isn’t a didactic dissertation, dissecting dating dynamics while delineating the differences between early 20th century courting and current coupling common practices. It’s really not that serious. You might actually laugh aloud a few times, and we’re perfectly okay with that.
7. This isn’t a “How to be in a perfect relationship” book. Although we’re definitely Very Smart and admittedly somewhat arrogant, we’re not arrogant enough to believe that two never-been-married before 30 year old guys can possibly possess enough wisdom to create a book detailing how to be in a perfect relationship.
8. With that being said, this is a VerySmart and lighthearted response to some of the questions asked, theories raised, and judgments made by those attempting to navigate the murky waters of the Dating and “New” Relationship Game.
9. Also, we’re confident “The Very Smart Brothas Guide to Dating, Mating, and Fighting Crime” will help create a less uptight, more practical, and better educated populace.
Since a “well-informed, practical, and relaxed” populace usually leads to “good relationships”, “good relationships” lead to “generally happy people”, and “generally happy people” leads to “less crime”, you can say that this book is just our attempt to fight crime.
—The Champ
P.S. For all the DC heads, come out to Muse Lounge on 6th Street, NW (behind the Verizon Center) on Wednesday, December 22nd, to hang with Panama Jackson (again)for the finale show of the BET/Centric Master Of The Mix competition. We had such a good time last time, they’ve invited us all back. It’s free and there will be a Smirnoff open bar (yes free) from 9-10pm. Kick it with P and drink away the pain. Doors at 8pm. Let us know if you’re coming thru via twitter (@panamajackson) or via our email (contact@verysmartbrothas.com).
The twilight zone?
was a good show.
I felt like singing the theme for the jeffersons after reading this post. I liked the other post too. I was going to add more to my comment about fakin’ the funk. I feel like i got a two for one special.
don’t fake the funk.
feel the funk.
Congrats on the book! Great! No pic of Liz on the back cover? Does Liz write the foreword? Just wondering. For the record, I got love for you both, but I also love the trio too.
So cool that Miss Huny did the design!
I had asked my questions and posted before realizing they may come across the wrong way. I meant no harm.
liz didn’t want her name associated with the book, just in case it bombs and gets terrible reviews. it’s actually a pretty smart decision on her part. i mean, who wants to be remembered as the managing editor of the Titanic?
word up. i asked out of it too actually but my name, likeness, and words had already been included so i was stuck.
They don’t love me, that’s why I’m not in the book.
The book was written before the site ever existed (3+ yrs ago). I was brought on board in the site phase so they could have some actual brains in the operation.
lol. i love it when liz throws us under the bus.
gotta let the people know!
LOL! Thanks for you all being so cool about the questions. We got love for all of ya’ll.
All this has sunk in overnight, and this is MAJOR. You will now be introduced as “blogger and author” along with any other accolades you have when you go to conferences and panels. That’s big! Congrats again!
i’m over here smiling and ish. happy for y’all! one of the tags should have been, “who u finna try ayeee? not vsb”
pls tell me someone has seen that vid. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fB-MlmWFz3k
k now to read the list
I’m mad you’ve informed me of this…
*smh* good grief!
*falls out* I thought I was the only one that watched this video!!! My favorite part is when he hits his chest and says, “I bet it ain’t me” LMAO
Anyway, I’m excited to read this book!! I have a feeling it will be hilariously true!!
Soooo can we get a book tour in Ohio, Columbus to be exact?!
“Soooo can we get a book tour in Ohio, Columbus to be exact?”
sure! the columbus stop on the tour is actually going to take place at the best local venue we could find: the centre avenue borders in pittsburgh
this was the most unnatural transition from “crunk” to “sexy” to…were those the glasses they give people after eye surgery?
LOL, yeah I’ve seen it and I still think his voice is way too deep and that he needs more energy. -_________-
But, on the real, I think we’ve found the face behind the Dora “LEGGO!” voice.
“i’m over here smiling and ish. happy for y’all! one of the tags should have been, “who u finna try ayeee? not vsb””
speak American, please. thanks!
lol From the pic Panama looks like Juelz Santana and Champ looks like a dude from the Big Brother Big Sister commercials
lol. its funny that you say that. i could tell you stories about nights at my club where chicks followed me around because they thought i was juelz santana. and i’m not joking.
All you had to do was say AYE and you would have been in there like swim wear
i was afraid one chick would follow me home. she literally followed me around the club for hours.
mind you, i look nothing like juelz santana.
liquor is a helluva drug.
Lies. Juelz is at least a 6. Nice try.
“Champ looks like a dude from the Big Brother Big Sister commercials”
hopefully its not that commercial where the kids are being warned about a pedophile in a leather jacket
With this I have gotten my good good laugh for the morning, GD, LOL!
1. Annoyed that the other post got deleted.
2. Looking forward to the book. Huny did your design? NIIIIIICE.
3. So when does the book tour start?
what other post?
Soooooo, in conclusion… ya’ll ain’t Steve Harvey?
*gets out debit card*
^^^^ ROFL!!
The mere fact that there’s no big bald headed picket fence-teeth having coon on the front cover guarantees a buy to begin with
__________ (flatlined)
“bald headed picket fence-teeth having coon”
Now was that really necessary? LMAO!!
dies right beside mrs dr evil. AGAIN.
omgeesh…LMAO…in the state of “Agnes”….it’s so fluffy from Despicable Me.
@yvonnesaidit
i LOVED that movie. too damn cute.
That little girl had me dying.
I.died!! Oh Black Jesus be a fence and take the wheel cause this right here LMAO!!
“Soooooo, in conclusion… ya’ll ain’t Steve Harvey?”
i dont think so. although (and i’ve said this before), i think steve harvey gets a bit of a bad rap and sh*t. i mean, he clearly isn’t writing his books for the type of people that would buy ours, and, with that market, there is a need for zoot suited men and 40 day cookie rules and sh*t
@The Champ
“i dont think so. although (and i’ve said this before), i think steve harvey gets a bit of a bad rap and sh*t. i mean, he clearly isn’t writing his books for the type of people that would buy ours, and, with that market, there is a need for zoot suited men and 40 day cookie rules and sh*t”
Is it safe to say that Tyler Perry’s market and Steve Harvey’s market may be the same?
“Is it safe to say that Tyler Perry’s market and Steve Harvey’s market may be the same?”
very safe. in fact, i think the forward in steve harvey’s new book was written by madea
i’m pretty sure they’re the same market. the type of people who like to say “amen” after every sentence or scene where something happens. not anything particularly good or bad, just something.
you aint lived til you seen somebody yellin’ amen while reading a book that wasn’t the bible.
“you aint lived til you seen somebody yellin’ amen while reading a book that wasn’t the bible.”
Agreed.
ZING!
LOL
You’re damn right those little pieces of paper won’t keep me warm. Not even my damn feet. It’s big girl season and my skills & talent are not being properly utilized. What a waste! :-/
Looking forward to the book.
“You’re damn right those little pieces of paper won’t keep me warm. Not even my damn feet. It’s big girl season and my skills & talent are not being properly utilized. What a waste! :-/”
maybe you need to take your talents to south beach
@The Champ
“maybe you need to take your talents to south beach”
You want her to work for Bang Bros?
Good sh*t, fellas. Looking forward to the book. Got to support brothas that seriously don’t take things seriously when it comes to dating. If you guys seriously do a book tour, holla at ya folk down in Houston. Will definitely make for a good time.
A stop in Houston would be awesome! See if you guys can get the Punany Poets to visit too. I’ve been trying to crack that nut for 3 years.
it seems like Houston has an untapped reservoir of vsb’s and vss’s. in fact, liz even touches on that in our upcoming podcast
It really is, man. What helps is that there two fairly large HBCUs in the area, Texas Southern and Prairie View A&M, plus it is the largest city on the Gulf Coast so there are a lot of professional jobs out here. No state taxes helps, too.
…and the fact that you can often wear short sleeves and shorts on Christmas Day. White Christmas? No thanks.
one of the things that keeps me staying and not leaving is a high of 76 today. sorry NYC.. they sold me for a another winter.
Yeah, the weather plays a part in it, too. It snows in Atlanta. smh
Congratulations!!!!
Happy to be a witness to this chapter of your lives.
Now where can we preorder, and get signed copies????
“30 year old guys” hmmm…
“We are all Witnesses…” Hmmm… remember how that turned out last time.
LeBron James????
Not really up on basketball, just really realized how much fun it is to watch grown men run around in tight pants! Football.
Speaking of….did anyone see that Eagles game or atleast a highlight of that last big play?
i as an eagles fan will field this question.
that game started off bad..went to worse..then ended with my screaming like i was being murdered or chexed to the 9th degree.
needless to say.. my nephew (also a philly fan) prob had cereal for dinner (his moms is a giant fan).
that. play. nearly. killed. me.
ps: i dont know what the ravens did to their uniforms..but i am THROUGHLY appreciative of it.
Gurl! I got love for the Eagles after living in Philly for a bit, but that game was upsetting me and making me feel bad. I went to sleep and woke up watching the highlight to see that they won!
Plus DeSean Jackson’s taunting behind is a Cal Bear, lol!
@legit_soul:
i had thrown everything i own across the room watching that game. it was BEYOND painful. when we scored the 1st td. i was still mad. scoring the 2nd td..i thawed a bit. when we tied the game.. i think i stopped breathing. i was holding my heart as though that could prevent it from attacking.
but DJ???? damn well near killed me.
Amazing. Michael Vick is actually turning out to be one of the greatest comeback stories of all time.
@Jay,
indeed.
i was on twitter last night and some dude had tweeted that it was hard to see a dog abuser do well. so i asked both the original and retweeter if they feel the same way about Donte Stallworth who killed a PERSON. the retweeter said he didn’t make the statements, merely just retweeted it (umm.. o__O). also called Vick a piece of garbage blah blah.
I replied: shouldn’t all God’s creatures be seen as equal?
I will never condone what the man did, but based on my TL of people viewing To Catch a Predator..there are people who do MUCH worse and are walking around free to do it again. I doubt Vick will be doing that ever again.
My boy who loves his dogs like his own children..is a HUGE Vick fan. So.. i refuse to get all up in arms over something that is over and done with to animals, when there are kids that need protection.
But yes.. if (fingers crossed) the team makes it far into the playoffs…def one of the greatest of ALLLLL time.
Gurl! Please say that again! I am so tired of folks crying and being upset about cruelty to animals but never shed a tear, easily forgive, and don’t even bat an eye about cruelty to a human being. GTFOOHWTBS! Let that man live!
@legit soul
PETA decided to try and run a campaign that compared cruelty to animals to a young man that got BEHEADED on his way home on a Greyhound bus by a psychotic man.
REALLY PETA?!?!?!?!?! Worse part.. I dont even think he had been buried when it came out. People here were WELLLLLLLLLL vex.
http://www.nationalpost.com/PETA+compares+decapitation+animal+slaughters/705090/story.html
Common said it…”White folks focus on dogs and yoga/While people on the low end trying to ball and get over.”
@KB & Jay, PETA been done tore their draws with me. The moment they juxtaposed animal cruelty imagery with photos of Black slavery and the Jewish Holocaust I was done. I love animals too, but that was beyond for me.
Football is the $exiest sport. The uniforms have most of those bodies looking RIGHT.
Congrats!!! I want a signed copy too!
Co-sign.
I do too! Hopefully, there will be a book tour or signings at the BBQ
Yeah, either I’m gonna have to get one and bring it to the VSB BBQ, or Champ/Panama will HAPPEN to have a book right in their jacket lapel and sign it for me!
Congrats!!! I want a signed copy too!
i want a signed copy too.
i was tempted to reply “you’ll get a signed copy of deez”, until i remembered that i shouldn’t offer deez to someone interested in buying the book
Lol!
Great News fellas, Hope you got book tour plan.
Sooooooo, How much you want? http://www.free-avatars.com/data/thumbnails/18/Bobs-Wallet.gif
14.99. basically, exactly how much a lapdance costs after the canadian to american dollar conversation (don’t ask how i know this)
well.. the dollar is at 98cents..so not too much exchange rate to figure out.
well.. the dollar is at 98cents..so not too much exchange rate to figure out.
oh damn. last time i was in canada, a dollar was like 1.60 there
damn champie..it’s been a HOT minute since you’ve been here then! one of the downfalls to the US economy not doing well, means that other currency gains strength against your dollar. we’ve reach par or been within 10 cent of it for past 3 or so years.
it’s why im surprised to still see so many americans during caribana. but is also prob the #1 reason why it’s changed.
is this real? if so, take THAT Steve Harvey!
is water wet?
is the sky blue?
has lemonade always been a popular drink? is it still?
I’m sure Bruce Willis has nothing on you.
there’s room for both of us and sh*t. we’re taking the stringer approach to books, not the marlo
seriously, i was kinda skeptical too…. but I’m excited as well!!!! go VSB!!!
AND
i wanna come out to that thing on wed. in dc, but I feel like Panama will think I’m a stalker, an alcoholic or an alcoholic stalker.
…damn you comorbidity.
seriously though… i show up to WAYYYYYY too many DC VSB events.
alcoholic stalker. <–LMFAO.
we dont have enough VSB events for you to be a stalker. plus you’re fun as hell. lol. i think if you want to come out, and you can, you should.
comorbidity is a helluva term. lol.
Comordity is the worst term ever. I work in healthcare and I’m disturbed everytime we say it….Its sooo…Visual.
Maybe you can put the rest of the lames out of bidness. Or at least make them go back to the drawing board or step their collective games up.
You do have to find a way to include Liz in this venture.
naw, there’s room at the table for everybody. its like hiphop.
Lil based god.
wow!! That sooooo great. def will buy it!
did you type this message while you were being held hostage?
Just wanted to come out of Lurkville to say Congratulations!!!!
I’ll be buying multiple copies
me too.
welcome and sh*t
Aww…Thanks and sh*t
So when this book tour jumps off will there be a VSB BBQ/Promotion Party held in select cities? *gets the solo cups ready*
who knows, but get the solo cups ready anyway
Congrats on the book. I hope it does well, primarily because I need the rest of my generation to catch up to the basic intelligence I and a few others have on these subjects. People need to smarten up and quit playing the game wrong. And if you can teach me to do all of those things written AND fight crime with a ski mask on, then damn homies….yall might as well be superheroes
“And if you can teach me to do all of those things written AND fight crime with a ski mask on, then damn homies….yall might as well be superheroes”
that’s what she said…after the orgy
My degrees don’t keep me warm, but they keep the lights on. Congratulations my brothas. Now if only we could get that VSB bbq poopin…
“Now if only we could get that VSB bbq poopin…”
I don’t think I want any of that BBQ…
LOL! sholl dont want nunna dat
OH NO!!!
LMAOOOOOO….
“My degrees don’t keep me warm, but they keep the lights on. ”
thanks for giving us a title for the sequel.
Woh.. you guys were actually being serious about the book?
Damn, congrats. I’m sure it’ll be successful if it’s anywhere near as good as this site is.
Lol I might actually end up buying this instead of download a pdf.
‘Woh.. you guys were actually being serious about the book?’
lol, unlike the VSB BBQ, this is actually going to happen (and happen soon)
Awww! I’m feeling so proud and sh*t. *teary eyes*
Can’t wait to cop my copy/copies (MLK Jr Day gift)
Ques though: Is this a book for dummies that want to be smart?
“Ques though: Is this a book for dummies that want to be smart?”
4. The title should let you know this isn’t a book for dummies. There are certain things we’re assuming you already know, and we feel like there’s no need to re-hash or revisit any of them. We wouldn’t want to waste our time, your money, and insult our collective intelligence.
Basically, if “Unprotected sex with hookers: Yea or Nay?” is a difficult question for you, this probably isn’t the right place for you to be.
Yay!! ****glitter****** Congrats on the book. I enjoy your site and I will be happy to support you when the book comes out (as long as it’s not over $24.99, lol).
14.99 and sh*t.
Is this book really going to be published or will it be like the VSB BBQ, a mythical event only used to tease?
If it is going to be published…CONGRATS.
If this is a tease… o_O
exactly!
it’s coming next month and sh*t.
nice giraffe, btw
“nice giraffe, btw”
First…LOL @ you even commenting on my avatar.
Second…it’s an albino zebra. Snapped a pic of the poor thing at an animal orphanage in Kenya.
So was this the surprise you alluded to on twitter?!? Well I’m definitely surprised and excited for you guys. Congrats on your new endeavor
actually its not but…
….SURPRISE…
anyway.
I think everyone would agree that a celebratory VSB BBQ is in order.
Agreed!!
yeah, i totally wish somebody involved with the site would make that happen.
Is this book endorsed by Steve Harvey or No Wedding No Womb? Is there a foreword by Hill Harper? Will you be on Dr. Phil? This will affect my decision to buy it – it’s a recession
we tried to get hill harper but he flaked on us citing some movie he was filming, i think tentatively titled, “this will be a bad movie and i’m no taller than i was last week”
something like that, the phone kept breaking up.
Ya’ll are KILLIN me today. LOL
I can’t wait to learn how to read so I can but the book with my rent money!
CONGRATULATIONS Panama & Champ!
“I can’t wait to learn how to read so I can but the book with my rent money! ”
before you buy the book, might i suggest investing in a spell checker first?
“didactic dissertation, dissecting dating dynamics while delineating the differences”
Alliteration? Love it!
CONGRATS on the book! I can’t wait to have it in my collection wedged between ZANE’s Sex Chronicles (don’t judge me) and Khalil Gibran.
that’s great…for a second i thought you were gonna up us between eric jerome dickey and john mcwhorter
WOW, I looooove that you guys have written a book! I swear, every time the book title was mentioned I thought u muthas were just being funny – “& fighting crime”, LOLOL!! Congrats, I will most definitely buy it
well, we are trying to be funny and sh*t, too.
This should be a good book. Both of you have a great p.o.v. on relationship type stuff. I have only just recently become an avid reader of VSB but I love it. I will definately be purchasing. Hopefully your book can counteract the foolishness written by that man who formally wore a Boswell hair system.
Please reference my comment further down thread because you and I are on the same page with that. He bothers me for no other reason than he has been divorced how many times and has made so much money off of his sham of a book . . . dude is just way too arrogant for me. My mother swore his book was the best I read two pages of it and was immediately pissed. I wish he would just go sit down in a corner somewhere and figure out why his mustache is so thick.
thanks, asia and those2.
but, like i said earlier, we’re not looking to counteract or be a counterpoint to any thing else. our book exists because we want to share our thoughts, not compete with or combat other’s
I meant Bosley hair system…………
Can a sista get an ebook… I’m gettin a Kindle for Christmas.
I suspect that PJ and Champ belong to an ancient secret society of very smart knee grows and the clues to finding the vsb bbq and becoming a crime fighter are hidden in this book…
And I don’t want to be the last to know
I want to thank the vsb for adding to the lexicon of ninja f*kcery… outing Diva Dudes alone gotta get some recognition from the Nobel committee cause I am sure the problem is global
For me it has been an entertaining year of reading and participating in some insightful and entertaining conversations with other black folks who read.
I can’t wait for what y’all gonna do next…
Congratulations and sh*t ~JS
“I want to thank the vsb for adding to the lexicon of ninja f*kcery… outing Diva Dudes alone gotta get some recognition from the Nobel committee cause I am sure the problem is global”
Touche’!
“I suspect that PJ and Champ belong to an ancient secret society of very smart knee grows and the clues to finding the vsb bbq and becoming a crime fighter are hidden in this book…”
it all started with riley and springer.
http://www.verysmartbrothas.com/about-vsb/
“3. This isn’t one of those relationship books written with the underlying premise that all women are desperately seeking a man. In fact, we’re not even targeting any specific gender.”
About this…
I have a sneaking suspicion that brothas are reading relationship self-help books like women… they just aren’t public about it.
I can’t tell you how many dudes I meet who have an opinion of various popular books and when asked if they had read it would reply that they had peeped a copy their sista, girl, mom had laying around.
Yeah right.
I think that the more we talk to each other the more that we find we have in common regarding our frustration and desires.
And that can only be a good thing. ~JS
i dont know that guys are reading these books any more than we think they are. i think that that the titles are so self-explanatory and women talk about them so much that we know whats in these books without opening them. i’ve attempted to read a lot of these joints and gotten no further than like page 10. i’m sure i represent a small segment of men who actually even attempt to read these books.
you know, i don’t know if guys are buying them at the same rate women are, but i do think they’re being read.
Jhane,
Per the recent piece on the economics of the Self-Help business – that is to say, who is actually spending money on relationship books and related materials – what you’re suggesting here is patently false. Simply put, Women overwhelmingly buy (and by extension, read) such materials by a huge whopping margin than do Men. What Men DO have an interest in, are materials such as The Mystery Method, The Game, Bang, and other Pickup books, etc. The sexes want different things from each other, and, have different ways of going about it to get them. Why that is so hard to simply accept and keep it moving for so many of you, is something that is a constant source of entertainment for me.
O.
Is there a version of this book for military folks overseas?
unless they don’t allow paperback books in whatever country you’re stationed in, sure
They allow paperbacks over here. It’s dating while Black, however, that seems to be taboo over in these parts…. LOL
Congratulations on the book fam!
Definitely picking up a copy as in my capacity as a VSB karate expert….
thanks, man. oh, and there definitely is an entire chapter devoted to how knowing karate helps pick up AKAs
That’s actually funny and ironic. b/c my cousin’s (she’s an AKA) husband is actually a karate teacher. lol
Congrats on the book but for real I gotta wait to 2011 (I mean I know its bout two weeks away and all). I am way too excited for this book and I will be recommending it to everyone I know. I feel like a proud moms over here LOL.
P.S. Thanks for moving in on Steve Harvey territory my God I hate dude and if he releases another relationship book saying the same sh*t that insults everyone with any kind of common sense I will scream!! I can’t believe he has become the unofficial black woman’s guide to dating and relationships.
Blame Orpah
OK, serious comment.
The VSB groupie in me is elated at this news. I’m so happy for ya’ll doing big thangs and I’m glad to be witness of it. You guys have created and provided the platform for quite the community… quite the FAMILY… and I’m sure the love we have for ya’ll will be showcased through the sales of this book. What a great way to start the new year. Can’t wait to get the copy! Congratulations ya’ll, I’m so happy… so proud. *hugs*
FYI: The above comment was roughly 78% gay.
(So, I couldn’t be completely serious. Who-da thunk?
)
@Cheekie
“FYI: The above comment was roughly 78% gay.”
Actually it’s 89% gay.
“Actually it’s 89% gay.”
With a margin of error of +/- 4%
well i already tweeted my feelin’s bout these vsb.com folks:
but discovering this blog is one of the greatest moments of alllll time.
ok. the year at least.
thanks for making my work days less productive and my twitter life worth living.
my comment is ALL hetero.
thanks cheekie. we do appreciate the community we have here so i’ll remove a few percentage points of gayness from your comment and add them to my total.
So…you know Ima be telling people I know y’all right? Cool.
Congratulations! I think you could continue the “Your Degrees Won’t Keep You…” series with “Employed.”
ahahahahahaha that would be a good one. It could be a step by step guide on how picking the wrong major will lead you to asking a manager at Burger King for an application.
Cosign says the woman working in a field not even slightly related to my degree field.
thats hilarious. lol.
“Congratulations! I think you could continue the “Your Degrees Won’t Keep You…” series with “Employed.””
there’s a ton of places that could go. (i.e.: sane, relevant, alive, attractive, from being pissed at the world, etc)
Does being a Diva Dude have anything to do with having a feminine swagga? Or liking women who use wind machines as accessories….hmmm
Congrats on the book!!! Now I can bring some dimwits up to VS speed…. fun
“Does being a Diva Dude have anything to do with having a feminine swagga? Or liking women who use wind machines as accessories….hmmm”
here ya go: http://www.verysmartbrothas.com/defining-the-diva-dude/
*salutes*
Definitely making plans to buy the book brothas. If it’s even half as good as your posts on this site then it’s definitely worthy of a read.
well, since it actually is only about half as good as the site, that’s good to hear
Good sh*t! Definitely got my support.
Is the title meant to be a double entendre? Just askin’.
lol…is it a double entendre? do tell…
Degree can be taken as the paper you get after graduating or degrees as in farenheit and celsius in referring to keeping warm.
ah. good job. i dont think either of us thought of it like that.
consider yourself very smart, brotha.
awards Monk with VSB certificate.
Gee, i wasn’t prepared for this. *pulls out sheet of paper longer than a double roll of toilet paper*
Where do i begin…I’d like to thank my 1st grade…
*runs to take bathroom break and grabs snacks on the way back to Monk’s acceptance speech
*continuing as keisha brown returns*
…and my childhood dog, Mikey, for barking…
@Monk
“*continuing as keisha brown returns*
…and my childhood dog, Mikey, for barking…”
LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
LMAO @ Monk.
*holds up church finger and tips out
Congratulations Champ and Panama. I’ll be sure to pick up the book. I think it’s great that guys like you or us are finally getting our p.o.v out there. Too many male and female Steve Harvey’s are out there speaking. We need to balance it out.
How do I get a badge to certify that I am a VSB crime fighter? Also what are the VSB Karate belt colors?
“VSB Crime Fighter”
“VSS Karate Expert’
sounds like T-shirt material…
“How do I get a badge to certify that I am a VSB crime fighter?”
take one from a security guard, like snoop and chris did in season 4 of the wire
Hands down one of the best television shows ever made in the history of the species.
O.
Yall late, this book got leaked on bittorrent like three days ago.
But for real, congrats fellas. I’ll definitely be grabbing a copy and passing off your advice as my own. #plagiarismFTW
LMAO @ plagiarism.
ps: who knew there are 2 i’s in this word? #spellcheckftw!
Spell check has saved my life more than I care to remember. I don’t know what I’d do without that little squiggly red line.
“But for real, congrats fellas. I’ll definitely be grabbing a copy and passing off your advice as my own. #plagiarismFTW”
as long as you buy the copy, you can say it was written by your blu-ray player for all i care
Happy happy joy joy, hope the book is a success, amuses, and assists the masses!
thanks and sh*t. hopefully, you’ll be LLS when you get it (yes, i do know all the veteran vsb-er’s trademark phrases. thanks for asking)
LLS ahhh now I feel all special n sparkly n sh*t
Congratulations! Is there a way to pre-order? I’m going to be in Nicaragua for two weeks in January with limited internet access and this book would be great to get my VSB fix while I’m there.
Also, my cousin asked for Steve Harvey’s new book for Christmas. I would love to send her a copy of you guys’ book for Valentine’s Day but I’m pretty sure the inclusion of the word degrees in the title would turn her off quicker than Duke Energy after the final disconnection notice. Oh well…
i found that not everyone is in love with the title. oh f*cking well, lol. it’s funny and factual, which is our hope for the book (and the site)
but, to answer your question, there are no pre-orders. but, amazon can deliver any and everywhere in like 48 hours
Thanks. Hopefully it’ll be available before I leave. And for what it’s worth, I actually love the title. I’m all for funny and factual. I just think that some people who don’t have degrees might take it as a personal affront on their decision to not pursue higher education or whatever circumstances prevented them from earning their degrees.
Can’t wait to read it!
I don’t like the way this is heading!
Congratulations on the book and sh*t and I hope it is more successful than you could envision; however, there’s a problem here:
As it stands, my earliest post is normally around 08:00 CST which means that my comment ends up being number 366th’ish by the end of the day. With the book selling 350,000* copies within the first week, this will probably translate to no less than 50,000* new readers on VSB.
Assuming 43,560* of the new readers will lurk for the first 3 weeks, means that 6,440* people with an opinion will be commenting as well. About 4,190* of them will be doing so from work once they get there at around 08:00. Approximately 1,372* of them will be posting from the Eastern Standard Time zone which means that, once I have posted, my comment will be around number 1,738th’ish.
In other words, posting after 01:00 a.m. in February will be like posting after 17:00 (5:00 p.m.) now. In other words, my ‘ish won’t get read. (kinda like most days now). On this basis, it is imperative that VSB grandfather me in and give my comments VIP status so that my posts will ascend to the initial 100 posts section. That is all.
*The numbers illustrated herein were obtained using the R.E. method. The R.E. method is based on a system of Rectal Extraction…in other words, I pulled some numbers outta my….but I digress.
I hope the book does well.
Your post is hilarious and I bet it’s a fairly accurate assessment of what is to come, R.E. method notwithstanding.
LMAO @ Cabi.
LOL! I believe R.E. is a common methodology used in the blogosphere.
I had not considered all the addition comments that will be coming in . I second the VIP jump passes.
better than using the rhythm method.
“In other words, posting after 01:00 a.m. in February will be like posting after 17:00 (5:00 p.m.) now. In other words, my ‘ish won’t get read. (kinda like most days now). On this basis, it is imperative that VSB grandfather me in and give my comments VIP status so that my posts will ascend to the initial 100 posts section. That is all.”
will do
I love this entire post and permission to borrow “system of Rectal Extraction/R.E. Method”. Please?
Granted!
I thought I was gonna get to write the foreword!…oh well. Of course I will purchase one.
when i was 7, i thought i was going to be playing basketball on mars by my 30th birthday.
Congratulations.
Looking forward to reading it.
thanks and sh*t
well i for one advocate the reading of books (it being fundamental and all). so am happy to support literacy programs.
i hope the tariffs, taxes and international shipping costs wont kill me.
unless you decide to include Canada in your book tour. If Paul B. aka Hitch can do it..than so can you!!! lol.
you know, i do need an excuse to go back to toronto and sh*t. maybe we’ll try to make it happen
well.. seeing as though im an event planner and all..if you fo real..im fo real. soul 4 real.
Congrats fellas! I’ll be copping that!
thank you, alise. i was wondering if we should have any time of discount for vsb vets like you, but then i stopped wondering.
Naw, keep wondering and add me to the list
I’ll even buy more than one, if a discount is included 
:::File this under: Black Men Making Us Look Good:::
Congrats on the book Champ & P!!!
I look forward to copping it and because we fam & sh*t…I ain’t even gonna
illegally download ituse unethical methods of attaining such witty and educational approaches to fighting crime.Looking forward to the book tour and Good Morning America segment…no? Well, at least an Ebony/Jet feature…
right now, we’re shooting for a tv one appearance and a guest post on basketball wives
*Comes out of hiding to congratulate you*
*Witness protection handler is angered*
*Scolds The Dash Mane and moves him to one of the big square states in the West that all look the same*
*Dash is the only Black person in his county, and no longer feels protected*
ummm, thanks?
LOL at that Dash’s comment.
Congratulations to the both of you on your book. Will you all make your way over to Chicago during your book tour?
sure. although since the chi is the coldest city on earth, we probably won’t show up there until august
I will def be there for that. I can’t wait to pick up a copy.
Congrats Champ and PJ! Also looking forward to reading the book!!
They shoulda never gave you n*ggas money!!
That just popped into my head for some reason. Ok i’ll leave now.
lol, they still aint give these n*ggas money yet. that’s what the book is for
Hi Champ,
We haven’t had the chance to be more formally acquainted, so this is as good a time as any to do so. How the heck are ya?
Much congrats and best wishes on the release of you and PJ’s upcoming book! I look forward to writing a review on my own blog (and possibly the online Men’s magazine that I occasionally write for, The Spearhead), which will be returning very soon. Stay tuned.
In the meantime, a bit of back and forth, shall we?
1. Even though we’ve grudgingly accepted this possibility as a by-product of publishing a relationship book, this isn’t a contrived ploy to meet more women. Seriously.
Actually, doing something as laborious as writing a book just to meet women is something a Diva Dude would do, and (we think) neither of us are Diva Dudes. (More on Diva Dudes later)
O: Of course; but it can be said that the very act of book writing, blogging and the like, are socalled Diva activities, in that they are by their nature attention seeking (whoring?). And we all know that Men do all manner of things to up their chances at a higher notch count. Why that should come accross as something unseemly is quite fascinating to me; after all, Women as a group aren’t chided for using whatever means are at their disposal to make themselves more attractive in the SMP (sexual marketplace); why should Men have to apologize, even for the possibility of something like that happening, even before their endeavors are released to the Free World?
2. This isn’t one of those 250 page long guilt trips written by a couple of scorned former “nice guys” and filled with loads of passive-aggressive antagonism. This also isn’t a self-fellating guide on how to be a player or a “Mack”.
O: Looking forward to what you two felt what had to be said; in the meantime however, two questions: please name a few of the titles of guilt trips written by supposed nice guys that are ostensibly rife with passive-aggressive antagonism against Women? And two, I don’t think instructional how to guides like the Mystery Method or The Game, or even The Art of Seduction, would meet the criteria you suggest above as being self-fellating. One could argue that Tarik Nasheed’s works fall in said catergory, but from what I’ve read and heard of the Man via his online radio shows, I am not convinced.
3. This isn’t one of those relationship books written with the underlying premise that all women are desperately seeking a man. In fact, we’re not even targeting any specific gender. Although we understand that women typically make the bulk of relationship book purchases, we’ve included stuff that’s applicable for men, women, and West Virginians.
O: It will be interesting to see if such a book that purports to be accessible to both sexes, fares in the marketplace. Thus far the evidence as we have it, suggests it won’t do well, because Men and Women not only seek different things from each other, but have different ways of going about getting it. For example, the Pickup scene is and has been a huge bestselling draw for Men, and as you rightly point out, the more relationship-oriented, self-help tomes have been big money makers built almost entirely off of Women readers. Oh, and the fact that Women do indeed make up the bulk and mass of relationship-oriented purchases – and we can include here their near total marketshare of bridal magazines (relationship by proxy) – we can reliably say that the market is both Female dominated, and is something the vast majority of straight Men don’t find interesting enough to put up hard currency for.
4. The title should let you know this isn’t a book for dummies. There are certain things we’re assuming you already know, and we feel like there’s no need to re-hash or revisit any of them. We wouldn’t want to waste our time, your money, and insult our collective intelligence.
Basically, if “Unprotected sex with hookers: Yea or Nay?” is a difficult question for you, this probably isn’t the right place for you to be.
O: Noted.
5. Although this book is littered with a few subjects and asides unique to the African-American experience, this isn’t a book written only for brothas and sistas. The desire to be VerySmart is universal, right?
O: Again, a very interesting premise, and one that will soon be tested in the actual economic marketplace – are relationships, truly universal – or perhaps better put, do Whites (and other racial/ethnic groups) perceive it that way, when the book is written by Black hands? If Hollywood is any indication, the answer here would be NO – since Black romantic films don’t seem to appeal to a wider audience, and for the most part, vice versa when it comes to White productions. So again, I for one am most interested in seeing how you and Panama make out on this score!
6. This isn’t a didactic dissertation, dissecting dating dynamics while delineating the differences between early 20th century courting and current coupling common practices. It’s really not that serious. You might actually laugh aloud a few times, and we’re perfectly okay with that.
O: Mirth is indeed a healing balm for the weary soul out there in combat dating land, that’s for sure.
7. This isn’t a “How to be in a perfect relationship” book. Although we’re definitely Very Smart and admittedly somewhat arrogant, we’re not arrogant enough to believe that two never-been-married before 30 year old guys can possibly possess enough wisdom to create a book detailing how to be in a perfect relationship.
O: If nothing else, you two guys’ awareness of your limitations makes your book a bestselling success in my mind, regardless of what the actual tally sheets say in the end. Kudos.
8. With that being said, this is a VerySmart and lighthearted response to some of the questions asked, theories raised, and judgments made by those attempting to navigate the murky waters of the Dating and “New” Relationship Game.
O: It would be nice to hear just a few, seeing as how the book is only weeks away from publication. Hook a Brotha up!
9. Also, we’re confident “The Very Smart Brothas Guide to Dating, Mating, and Fighting Crime” will help create a less uptight, more practical, and better educated populace.
O: Here’s to yours being the Light in the Dark…
Holla back
The Obsidian
Hi Champ,
We haven’t had the chance to be more formally acquainted, so this is as good a time as any to do so. How the heck are ya?
Much congrats and best wishes on the release of you and PJ’s upcoming book! I look forward to writing a review on my own blog (and possibly the online Men’s magazine that I occasionally write for, The Spearhead), which will be returning very soon. Stay tuned.
I’m good and sh*t, and thanks for the well-wishes.
In the meantime, a bit of back and forth, shall we?
1. Even though we’ve grudgingly accepted this possibility as a by-product of publishing a relationship book, this isn’t a contrived ploy to meet more women. Seriously.
Actually, doing something as laborious as writing a book just to meet women is something a Diva Dude would do, and (we think) neither of us are Diva Dudes. (More on Diva Dudes later)
O: Of course; but it can be said that the very act of book writing, blogging and the like, are so called Diva activities, in that they are by their nature attention seeking (whoring?). And we all know that Men do all manner of things to up their chances at a higher notch count. Why that should come across as something unseemly is quite fascinating to me; after all, Women as a group aren’t chided for using whatever means are at their disposal to make themselves more attractive in the SMP (sexual marketplace); why should Men have to apologize, even for the possibility of something like that happening, even before their endeavors are released to the Free World?
You’re replying to someone who already believes that much of what we (men) do is ultimately an effort to make ourselves more sexually marketable and viable. Basically, you’re preaching to the choir.
With that being said, this part of the book intro isn’t an “apology’ as much as it’s a way to introduce the readers to ourselves and a concept “diva dudes” we address later in the book.
2. This isn’t one of those 250 page long guilt trips written by a couple of scorned former “nice guys” and filled with loads of passive-aggressive antagonism. This also isn’t a self-fellating guide on how to be a player or a “Mack”.
O: Looking forward to what you two felt what had to be said; in the meantime however, two questions: please name a few of the titles of guilt trips written by supposed nice guys that are ostensibly rife with passive-aggressive antagonism against Women? And two, I don’t think instructional how to guides like the Mystery Method or The Game, or even The Art of Seduction, would meet the criteria you suggest above as being self-fellating. One could argue that Tarik Nasheed’s works fall in said category, but from what I’ve read and heard of the Man via his online radio shows, I am not convinced.
I’m not necessarily referring to any books that have already been published, but addressing assumed expectations. I think (and i could be wrong, but I rarely am) that a person (read: “woman”) not familiar with VSB would look at the cover and the backcover and assume that we (two relatively young and educated black guys) would probably write a book that either tells guys how to be players, or scolds women for not giving “nice guys” love. We’re saying that we’re neither of those things.
I understand how this can be interpreted as taking shots, and that’s intentional. I did adopt a bit of a ‘we’re better than them” tone when constructing the intro. But, to be perfectly honest, I’m not familiar enough with, well, anyone enough to be taking shots, and I’m more interested in promoting (ourselves and our brand) than tearing down.
3. This isn’t one of those relationship books written with the underlying premise that all women are desperately seeking a man. In fact, we’re not even targeting any specific gender. Although we understand that women typically make the bulk of relationship book purchases, we’ve included stuff that’s applicable for men, women, and West Virginians.
O: It will be interesting to see if such a book that purports to be accessible to both sexes, fares in the marketplace. Thus far the evidence as we have it, suggests it won’t do well, because Men and Women not only seek different things from each other, but have different ways of going about getting it. For example, the Pickup scene is and has been a huge bestselling draw for Men, and as you rightly point out, the more relationship-oriented, self-help tomes have been big money makers built almost entirely off of Women readers. Oh, and the fact that Women do indeed make up the bulk and mass of relationship-oriented purchases – and we can include here their near total marketshare of bridal magazines (relationship by proxy) – we can reliably say that the market is both Female dominated, and is something the vast majority of straight Men don’t find interesting enough to put up hard currency for.
i’m aware of this, which is why we’ve marketed the book as a humor book as well as a “relationship” book. A point we attempt to convey throughout the intro is whether you agree with anything we’re saying or not, you’ll laugh and you’ll have a good time while reading it. Plus, knowing that it’s not a book directly targeted to women has and will continue to make it even more attractive to many women.
4. The title should let you know this isn’t a book for dummies. There are certain things we’re assuming you already know, and we feel like there’s no need to re-hash or revisit any of them. We wouldn’t want to waste our time, your money, and insult our collective intelligence.
Basically, if “Unprotected sex with hookers: Yea or Nay?” is a difficult question for you, this probably isn’t the right place for you to be.
O: Noted.
5. Although this book is littered with a few subjects and asides unique to the African-American experience, this isn’t a book written only for brothas and sistas. The desire to be VerySmart is universal, right?
O: Again, a very interesting premise, and one that will soon be tested in the actual economic marketplace – are relationships, truly universal – or perhaps better put, do Whites (and other racial/ethnic groups) perceive it that way, when the book is written by Black hands? If Hollywood is any indication, the answer here would be NO – since Black romantic films don’t seem to appeal to a wider audience, and for the most part, vice versa when it comes to White productions. So again, I for one am most interested in seeing how you and Panama make out on this score!
“So again, I for one am most interested in seeing how you and Panama make out on this score!”
Me too.
6. This isn’t a didactic dissertation, dissecting dating dynamics while delineating the differences between early 20th century courting and current coupling common practices. It’s really not that serious. You might actually laugh aloud a few times, and we’re perfectly okay with that.
O: Mirth is indeed a healing balm for the weary soul out there in combat dating land, that’s for sure.
7. This isn’t a “How to be in a perfect relationship” book. Although we’re definitely Very Smart and admittedly somewhat arrogant, we’re not arrogant enough to believe that two never-been-married before 30 year old guys can possibly possess enough wisdom to create a book detailing how to be in a perfect relationship.
O: If nothing else, you two guys’ awareness of your limitations makes your book a bestselling success in my mind, regardless of what the actual tally sheets say in the end. Kudos.
Thanks.
8. With that being said, this is a VerySmart and lighthearted response to some of the questions asked, theories raised, and judgments made by those attempting to navigate the murky waters of the Dating and “New” Relationship Game.
O: It would be nice to hear just a few, seeing as how the book is only weeks away from publication. Hook a Brotha up!
We address this a bit further in the podcast that should be published tomorrow, but much of what has been published on VSB originated from the book, but was just broken down into smaller parts for blog consumption. We’re not reinventing the wheel as much we’re just giving it a different spin
9. Also, we’re confident “The Very Smart Brothas Guide to Dating, Mating, and Fighting Crime” will help create a less uptight, more practical, and better educated populace.
O: Here’s to yours being the Light in the Dark…
Thanks again
Holla back
The Obsidian
Congrats on the book deal! I love your posts and I think this book will stimulate me fundamentally.I can agree Steve Harvey’s 1st book does piss me off, I bought it, booked marked some stuff but never looked at again. That was like a year ago. I do have a slew of Eric Jerome Dickey, Zane, Omar Tyree books from when I was younger ..yeah don’t judge but now that I am a bit older I need something that I can actually get into and I cannot wait to read it! You guys are my best guy friends that I never had. Ya’ll will tell me what I need to hear and not what I want to hear. And a sistah needs that in her life. So congrats!!!
thanks and sh*t!!
You negroes make me wanna write a book about koala bears, lavender, head, and hope. lol
i’m sorry to hear that. have you had any professional help?
Congrats on the book fellas. Looking forward to reading it!
thanks! i’m looking forward to your money
wow thanks for that verysmartly orchestrated preview of this book, because now i am veryinsanely dedicated to purchasing it in January. I cannot wait to read this. you guys leave me in stitches every morning at work. got my coworkers lookin at me stoopid.
anyway. lol at the fact that Panama takes “long walks” on his balcony. back and forth. back and forth. now stop. turn. back and forth…
“you guys leave me in stitches every morning”
*insert “thats what she said” joke about orgies and mandingos*
Damn, I need to be at Muse, with my girls, with bells on!
yes, you definitely do
Y’all want kneegrows* to READ?! Outside of the interwebs?!
Sheer madness.
*And by “kneegrows” we mean people.
that’s why there’s also an MP3 version of the book, where p and i take turns reading aloud
Hey…I’d like to second the ebook requests. I have a *kindle* and would definitely support. Congrats, your site is an enjoyable read and makes me laugh and think at the same time. Looking forward to the book.
thanks and sh*t. and, we should have an ebook option as well
Congrats Champ and Panama!!
Something tells me that I will be so enamored by the contents of this book; I will want to want to make love to the words; and after I’m done, make a pot of gumbo and spoon feed it to them. : )
#vsbjunkie
LOL, I think I’ll pick up the book too. But, your enthusiasm is enough for us both
i always look fwd to your posts cnotes.
“Something tells me that I will be so enamored by the contents of this book; I will want to want to make love to the words; and after I’m done, make a pot of gumbo and spoon feed it to them. : )”
i don’t know whether to smile after reading this or take a shower
I almost couldn’t come here today but I’m glad I did. Congrats on the book!!!
i think i’m glad you did, too
Awww Congratulations! I wish it was out in time for Xmas (I like writing Xmas because I know it pisses people off), it would make a great stuffer (no pun intended
)
I feel like a proud parent. My babies are growing up.
*sniffle*
“Awww Congratulations! I wish it was out in time for Xmas (I like writing Xmas because I know it pisses people off), it would make a great stuffer (no pun intended
)”
yeah, i was shooting for the week before christmas as well, but there were still a couple things that needed to be changed before it went for sale
Uhm…I’m glad it’s not Steve Harvey-esque because I just saw a post on a blog site where he’s discussing how men and women can’t be platonic friends.
I want to slap him across his bald head because he’s just too much. Sure, some women/men will want to get it in with the other party. However, that doesn’t mean that in the history of men and women that it’s impossible to acccomplish a strictly platonic friendship between the two.
I want him to saddown somewhere and STFU!
Mo VSS,
The burning question here is: WHY is it so very important not only for Women to have Male platonic friends, but to then demand that Men share in that pursuit in reverse – ie, that they must have Female platonic friends? Why can’t we simply accept that at least some Men have no desire for interaction with Women in that way, and prefer a more sexual component with the Women they interact with? Is that so very bad that we must stamp it out like some sort of contagion? And, why is it so very vital for Women to have again, platonic friendships with Men? Please explain? Thanks.
O.
We’ve discussed this before. The archives are your friends
http://www.verysmartbrothas.com/platonic-shmetonic/
And here:
http://www.verysmartbrothas.com/six-reasons-why-platonic-relationships-cant-and-dont-exist/
I shut my computer down and am too lazy to log back in, but it’s me folks.
Anyway, it’s not important/vital/critical in any way for either sex to have friends of the opposite sex. I don’t care either way. I just don’t like the notion being perpetuated that platonic male/female relationships don’t exist. They do…usually they began as one party (or both) interested in each other and turned into “he’s/she’s better as a friend” scenario somewhere down the line. No harm, no foul.
So, while some folks can’t do it and don’t want to, I respect that. But Steve Harvey’s assertion that it CAN’T be done is complete BS, in my book (which isn’t set for release like Panama and Champ’s…but I digress.)
That’s the jist of what I’m saying.
And V Renee…thanks for the links. I wasn’t a member then so I will definitely read those articles.
Mo VSS,
It occurs to me that there seems to be a tremendous effort on the part of Women and even some Men, to attempt to coerce or cajole other Men into the notion of platonic friendships with Women, and if they don’t wish to entertain such notions, they are regarded as weird, creepy and so forth. Clearly, Women get something out of having Male platonic friends; it is highly questionable, at best, as to whether Men in aggregate get anything meaningful out of having purely platonic friends. Simply put, most Men would rather not be bothered with Women if sex or at the promise of it, isn’t something that’s on the table, and for my money there should be nothing wrong with that. Unfortunately, we live in a time where it is indeed regarded as deeply problematic on the Mens’ part, something that has to be rooted out and so forth. Rubbish.
O.
Major congrats on tha book fellas. Too bad Oprah’s retiring this yr. Might’ve made tha book club.
thanks, man. and while oprah will be gone, we can at least push for wanda sykes
Congratulations!! VSB online book club, anyone? Anyone?
Bueller?
sure. sign me up. just make sure i dont have to do any reading
I’m going to have tall fun reading this tid bit. And I’d like to congratulate VSB P opting for a non-incognito photo to grace the the book. Congratulations, Panama.
i was about to congratulate him about that to, until i remember that he’s been hosting happy hours in d.c. every week day for the last 6 months, and people already know what panama jackson looks like and sh*t
Shame, I’m in Chicago and sh*t and I have work like often, so flying to those events..well…you know.
He was here in the Chi this past summer, we were lookin for ya’ll kneegrows to pop up! lol
Congratulations fellas!! I’ve never actually purchased any book associated with relationships, and I don’t subscribe to the black woman’s bible(Essence) which is full of relationship advice, but I will purchase this book because it will most likely be a great read. I remember the “book” being mentioned a couple of years ago when I first started reading/commenting. Its nice to see it has come to fruition. Good shyt, fellas!! * pops e-champagne *
thanks and sh*t. and save some bubbly for me
****Waving my arms in the air like John McCain. Showing little concern.****
Congrats Champ and Panama. I’m looking forward to reading this when it comes out. I hope this is the first book of many.
Props to Liz for being the brains, throwing glitter, and becoming the Empress of Haiti.
I thought Uncle Fluffy (John McCain) arms couldn’t reach above his head. lol.
Uncle Fluffy (which is a tad creepy.) had a disagreement with Nathaniel Victor a few decades back and his abilty to wave his arms or fold bed sheets have been greatly impeded.
thanks and sh*t, man
Hello gentlemen,
I just wanted to chime in and say congratulations on the completion or near completion of your first work. I see my title suggestion quite some time ago didnt make the cut, but I think the one you have chosen is far more interesting.
Once again, Panama and Champ, congratulations. I hope it does well.
what did you suggest?
Something to the effect of “Dating for Dummies: A common sense guide for the common dating dummy”. I cant recall exactly. Either way, it wasnt a serious submission. Something I had thrown out there in the context of the blog conversation that day about the upcoming book.
congrats fellas looking frwd to a good humorous read full of truth.
Stop by the “A” so we can go to Magic City and Strokers and then right a blog about why Atlanta is hands down the best place to get a lapdance and wings!
i’ll be at the Muse Lounge thing on Wednesday.
Congrats! Confetti and shyt!
I look forward to
reading all the chaptersthumbing through the pages at my local Borders, then seriously considering purchasing it. For it would be my 1st relationship-ish book ever bought.Writing, completing and getting a book published is a bish, so that itself is an accomplishment.
Pregunta- Will you be covering/using a lot of material already discussed on the site?
Love the alliteration
I’m so late but CONGRATULATIONS!!! Once you get a best seller out, that’s it for you guys. By the cover alone, it looks good. Plus we need something that covers the real reasons without the sugar coat and blame game.
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