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By: INI

INI — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 13:47:20 +0000

once those women of us who are smart, intelligent and self sufficient realize that we dont “need” the bullshit, well be fine. women are conditioned to need men, but humans are conditioned to need companionship, the difference is, men are not raised being taught and told that they “need” a woman or a wife. whereas girls are. if women stop putting up with b.s , men would change, they would have to, at the end of the day the woman holds the power. because we are the nurturers, mothers etc. so women, when we believe we are worth i tand start acting like it, it would weed out alot of the deadbeats and make good men into even better men, im just sayin’

By: Heather

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By: chris

chris — Mon, 12 May 2008 22:46:57 +0000

wow you need to run from both the chic who said she cant get into heaven with out you and the one who said it was sweet… thats far beyond beserk. Thats some of that shit that will make you erick sermon and jump out a window

I tend to agree with your observation that women do not take responsibility for their faults in a relationship, its usually because they love being right. Most men have grown up being told they are wrond all the time so we just accept it even if we think we are right, where as most women will just keep insisting they are right even when they don’t believe they are.

By: Deviant

Deviant — Wed, 07 May 2008 03:08:37 +0000

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By: Ana B

Ana B — Wed, 07 May 2008 01:44:26 +0000

Jarrod this is the 2nd time I hear this, “you should NEVER believe what comes out of a man�s mouth. Only trust his actions” from a man. Im paying closer attention

By: tiffany

tiffany — Wed, 07 May 2008 01:37:26 +0000

okay, slashing somebody’s tires is crazy all day. no excuse for that.

BUT i think we all have a responsibility not do stuff that you know could make somebody want to slash your tires.

example: if you “broke up” with a (wo)man, but you’re still sleeping with him/her, and dating other people, you can’t really be surprised when (s)he calls you up to cuss you out. and if you know (s)he has crazy inclinations, you shouldn’t be surprised to find a brick through your windshield.

i actually had to have this conversation with a dude i was dating. this dumb em effer “broke up” with his ex shortly before we started dating. then he starts telling me about how crazy she is:

me: crazy like how?
him: she called me cursing me out the other night. she pages me all the time…
me: well are you doing to make her crazy?
him: nah, not really.
me: are you still sleeping with her?
him: um… yeah.
me: and her friend saw us out at the mall holding hands.
him: um…yeah.
me: well there’s your answer right there… stop sleeping with her.

and yes, i stopped dating him after that conversation.

By: Ana B

Ana B — Wed, 07 May 2008 01:33:58 +0000

This right here “she�s exhausted her responsibility and therefore the fault lies with the man.” is what it boils down to. Because ultimately its not about who’s the biggest asshole or did the most damage, but who did the most to try to repair the damage that was done, and most often than not it is the woman because it is our nature. There are some men that will give their all or 150% to do damage control to lead the repair of the relationship but those men are like the lochness monster, or a unicorn, or black thick nose Michael Jackson (mystical creatures) that you only hear about and have never seen for yourself so you wonder if they truly exist.

By: Ana B

Ana B — Wed, 07 May 2008 01:23:45 +0000

Panama, I have to agree with you “I think women are way more likely to look past a red-flag than a man is.” I believe it is due in part to the fact that we truly believe in the potential, the what could be, as someone wrote in another post “the possibility” and on our part we may do a lot of talking but not alot of listening…i.e that janitor being happy with his job, we may hear him say he’s happy but in our mind that is his way of not complaining and we will make him a doctor before this is over if it kills us, when all he really wants is to be a happy janitor.

By: Ana B

Ana B — Wed, 07 May 2008 01:16:52 +0000

I think I have to agree with the champ on this one.. I know of several women friends that have stepped out of their marriage vows to romp with a man, and only know of one man (though he romped quite agressively and often). and to someone elses point the women were more successful in their deceat than the men, becuase the women’s partner kept the drama to a minimum