Comments on: raw: the champ’s debunking of six commonly held relationship fallacies

By: yeaitsmeagain

yeaitsmeagain — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 17:45:48 +0000

@nia,

“We just let you THINK you�re hilarious, at least in the beginning, to spare your little unfunny feelings.”

so true. so funny.

By: Lili

Lili — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 05:16:22 +0000

@Sula is Swamped,
Good article.
So basically, if we aren’t too “choosy” and approach this dating game more aggressively, we have a greater chance of getting the guy we want, effectively solving the Eligible Bachelor Paradox?

I.e. exude confidence and be assertive and you stand a better chance of relationship bliss…Can’t most problems be solved with that advice…

By: morningjoi

morningjoi — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 04:57:16 +0000

@lulu,

as a resident of LA, this is so very true and so very unfortunate .

“mired in indecision” — WORD! i’d bet that there are more dudes cheating on their wives/gfs/so’s in LA than in the rest of the country combined! what’s sadder is, those are the dudes with the most holla-holla in these streets.

(of course, that’s a whole ‘nother topic.) *smh*

By: Lili

Lili — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 04:49:20 +0000

@Hostess,

Girl, you aren’t lying @ ALL! One of my best friends made a good point. We were talking about our exes and how they feel as though they can act a fool and be set in their ways, but when we occasionally exhibit some of the same traits , all bets are off.
And I quote:
“I’m tired of always putting up with someone else’s sh!t. Why can’t someone put up with mine?!”

We seem to accept less and put up with more than our male counterparts. Women always seem to settle in some way, while it seems most men feel they don’t have to compromise.

I know life isn’t fair, it’s a “man’s world”, etc. But really, what’s a girl to do?

By: Hostess

Hostess — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 03:16:54 +0000

@WuDaMan, I said 8+. None of the 8+ are those things. Thing is women who are 8+ are more likely to settle for a man who is a 6. But men? Nerp. The 8+’s I know in the DMV won’t even PUBLICLY sneeze on a 6.

By: Lili

Lili — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 02:15:46 +0000

@Hostess,
This is true…plenty guys think they’re doing something special because they aren’t royal (or minor) screw-ups…but the truth is they aren’t that spectacular (don’t get me wrong- many females have this issue too). When they encounter a woman who calls them on their sugar.honey.ice.tea.- they act like she has the problem.
I hope this changes with age…

By: SouthernGirl

SouthernGirl — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 01:38:58 +0000

@Lil’T,

Request denied.

Signed,

SouthernGirl
Executive Sparkle Officer

By: Lili

Lili — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 01:33:08 +0000

@WuDaMan,

Well damn; when you put it like that it almost sounds like we’re all damn near scraping the barrel for options. lol

#3
And let me just say, I left the DMV to go away to school…I would complain about the lack of available, decent men (of course that wasn’t my concern because I was involved w/someone up until somewhat recently), but now that I’m really out in the boonies (i.e. 2 hrs east of the “urea”), and single…I’m missing my DMV brothas. I can certainly make the best of that dating pool compared to what’s going on out here.

By: BmoreCreative

BmoreCreative — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 23:19:41 +0000

@The Champ,

This explains why my crush on Lauren Hill could never evolve beyond that…

she was nicer than me on the mic.

damn male ego…lol

By: YGB

YGB — Wed, 25 Feb 2009 23:05:52 +0000

@Deviant,
coz they r likely not going postal at u but the female who rejected them!