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PSA: Love or Something Like It

Mad shots to the homie Maverick for providing quality blog fodder yesterday.  Also, let’s all lick shots for Big Poppa in Heaven.

*licking shots*

One day while out, I happened across a Barack Obama bobblehead doll, so you know I had to cop me one.

Here’s a picture:

photo1Only a Black President could have me putting random Negro look-a-like bobbleheads in front of my flat-screen.

The first thing you may notice about my Obama bobblehead is that it doesn’t actually look like Obama.  I mean its clearly supposed to be Obama, evidenced by him being Black, having a mole, and looking Presidential, but other than that, it’s a random Black cat with the word Obama written out on the bottom.  I really have to wonder how that happened.  I mean, clearly, Obama heads were commissioned and somebody made them – badly – and yet, here we are, with non-look-a-like Obama bobbleheads garnering as much as $29.99.  I guess that by the time they made it to the final approval they were lacking on time and the person who headed up the process was just like f*ck it, send them out.

And I bought one anyway.

Which brings me to my point.  I think people  (actually, I KNOW) that people often have love f*cked the f*ck up for something else.  The whole Chris Brown/Rihanna thing brings this to light for me.  I’m not going to dwell on that situation, the other blogs will do that for us, but it does highlight one of quite a few things that folks often misconstrue as love.

1)  Laying of the Hands – and not in the religious sense. Anytime somebody has to lay your a** out in order to show you that they love you, there’s clearly something wrong with them.  Hell, I still feel guilty for beating up my little sister when we were 10 and 7 respectively.  I actually feel sorry for women (and to a lesser extent men) who get caught up in relationships where they are so far gone that they think its okay for their man (or woman) to put hands on them on a whim.  (And I’d like to point out that though I missed that convo last week, if a woman approaches you like a man, and wants to act like a man, she is well within her rights to get treated like a man). Bottom line, they don’t love you if they have to thump you to show you.  They love beating you.  Sad, but true.

2)  On a lighter note, just because somebody spends mad dough on you does not mean that they love you. I’ve spent mad luchi on chicks I KNOW that I didn’t love before.  I was dumb.  Sue me.  If I could do it all over again, I’d buy every random chick a box of Thin Mints and a Shoebox card that says, “you’re great, pull my thumb.”  Money and love aren’t the same thing and shouldn’t be construed otherwise.  Some of the best loves were made of people of simple means.  Like Aladdin and Apu.  Aladdin was broke as the f*ck.  He had a whole song about being broke and what they had was real.  Real love like a 1991 hip-hop soul song.

3)  Somebody who only sees you on their schedule doesn’t really love you. I’ve said this before but I can’t stress this enough.  Main tenet of a good relationship?  Time.  But you know what’s number 2?  WILLFUL AND EXUBERANT INCONVENIENCE. When you really love somebody, you LOVE to go out of your way.  I wrote about this a long time ago using Chappelle’s show “Cambodian Breast Milk” as my lynchpin (that’s a strange word, no?).  Look sister, if your dude only wants to see you when he has “time”, he’s married with 2 children and only likes you because you do that thing with your tongue.  You know what I’m talking about.

And um, keep that up.  It’s probably the only way you’ll keep a man.  Don’t get mad, I’m only being real.

Oh, and this one’s important.

4)  Just because a person makes YOU feel better about yourself doesn’t mean that they love you. Now, it might help you to love them, but truth be told, unless you make them feel better about themselves too, they’re clealry just filling some hole (no pun intended) you were missing on the inside.  To them, you could just be any random person.  They could be your lucky charms, but to them, you might just be some low-fat, low-sugar, fiber-filled cereal.  And best believe, NOBODY likes that sh*t.  If they tell you they do, they’re lying and will put a hit out on your mother in 2 years.

And OF COURSE:

5)  Just because they give you that good sacklovin’, doesn’t mean they actually love you. It means they love to see you naked, and they’re good at naked games.  Love and sacklove should be treated as mutually exclusive.  Trust me.

*****

So good people of VSB, with as much relationships experiences as we all have and have observed, and as a PSA for love-struck f*ckups everywhere, what are some things that people get confused as love?

-VSB P aka THE ARSONIST aka TANGLE JIG P

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Panama Jackson

Panama Jackson is pretty fly for a light guy. He used to ship his frito to Tito in the District, but shipping prices increased so he moved there to save money. When he's not saving humanity with his words or making music with his mouth, you can find him at your mama's mama's house drinking her fine liquors. Most importantly, he believes the children are our future.

  • Ms. Hall

    OMG, I’m first!

    Now let me read the post.

    • http://www.awesomelyluvvie.com Luvvie

      @Ms. Hall,

      Ok, see??

      • Yaa

        @Luvvie, LOL! At first I didnt see what the issue was and thought some of you all were being mean. But I feel you Luvvie….I feel ya.

      • Yaa

        @Luvvie, LOL! At first I didnt see what the issue was and thought some of you all were being mean. But I feel you Luvvie….I feel ya.

    • http://www.awesomelyluvvie.com Luvvie

      @Ms. Hall,

      Ok, see??

  • Ms. Hall

    OMG, I’m first!

    Now let me read the post.

  • http://theyounganddisenchanted.wordpress.com/ puff

    when a person tells/shows you, however subtly, who they really are, and you find that something in your gut tells you that they’re not right for you, believe it. you cannot change someone into the “right” person for you, whatever that may mean. and if the person gives you signs that they’re gonna mess up, take two and walk it out before it becomes too late and you end up extra salty at them/life in general. cos that’s just ugly and unfortunate.

    • Lili

      A lot of ppl ignore that gut feeling and delude themselves because they just want to have someone, anyone. Ppl invest in situations and people that aren’t right for them because they don’t want to be alone.

      • http://www.awesomelyluvvie.com Luvvie

        @Lili,

        ***Faith Tabernacle Light of Christ in Jesus’ Holy Hug & Safekeeping C.O.G.I.C.***

      • http://www.awesomelyluvvie.com Luvvie

        @Lili,

        ***Faith Tabernacle Light of Christ in Jesus’ Holy Hug & Safekeeping C.O.G.I.C.***

      • Candace

        @Lili,
        So true and it’s sad. It’s like we miss the red flags totally. I am going through that now. You can’t make someone be something they’re not. It won’t end up well. Good bedding doesn’t always make for a great future.

      • Candace

        @Lili,
        So true and it’s sad. It’s like we miss the red flags totally. I am going through that now. You can’t make someone be something they’re not. It won’t end up well. Good bedding doesn’t always make for a great future.

    • Lili

      A lot of ppl ignore that gut feeling and delude themselves because they just want to have someone, anyone. Ppl invest in situations and people that aren’t right for them because they don’t want to be alone.

    • http://www.sheliagoss.com/blog Shelia (on the Invisible Love Tour)

      @puff, I agree. Accept folks for what they are and not try to make them be what you want them to be.

      Panama you were on point.

      • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

        @Shelia (on the Invisible Love Tour), thanks. i try to be pointed. lol.

      • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

        @Shelia (on the Invisible Love Tour), thanks. i try to be pointed. lol.

    • http://www.sheliagoss.com/blog Shelia (on the Invisible Love Tour)

      @puff, I agree. Accept folks for what they are and not try to make them be what you want them to be.

      Panama you were on point.

    • http://www.singlesisterspeak.wordpress.com Nicki Sunshine

      @puff, Very well said…. gotta go with the gut.

      • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

        @Nicki Sunshine,

        gotta go with the gut.

        not always. sometimes, wait, actually most times your brain needs to override your gut

        • http://starkept.blogspot.com Suga&Spice

          @The Champ, Reminds me of a statement I read once before and now have posted up in my cube, ‘Never put your heart in your mind’s position.’

        • http://starkept.blogspot.com Suga&Spice

          @The Champ, Reminds me of a statement I read once before and now have posted up in my cube, ‘Never put your heart in your mind’s position.’

        • Nikiloveli

          @The Champ,

          Not so. There are a number of times when you feel a certain way, but there’s no logical reason for it. Every time I’ve felt that, yet reasoned it away, I’ve lived to regret it.

          That said, the instinct that we call “gut” and the emotional center that we call “heart” are two different things. Your “heart” can lead you all kinds of wrong. Gut, not so much.

          • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

            @Nikiloveli,

            cant agree with this. sh*t, we’ve just had eight years of a president who made decisions solely on his gut. to paraphrase rob gordon from “high fidelity”, some people’s guts have sh*t for brains

            • http://www.awesomelyluvvie.com Luvvie

              @The Champ,

              “some people’s guts have sh*t for brains” – This is my new favorite quote

            • http://www.awesomelyluvvie.com Luvvie

              @The Champ,

              “some people’s guts have sh*t for brains” – This is my new favorite quote

            • Nikiloveli

              @The Champ,

              Poor example. We wouldn’t have had it much better if he’d used his brain. I stand by what I said, but if you have neither brains nor gut then just sitchoazzdown.

              • YGB

                @Nikiloveli,

                I’m with you on this one coz instinct is neither mind nor heart. Instinct is just that part of a person’s being that gives them a message that both the mind and the heart sometimes miss. I believe it’s God’s way of trying to tell me something and there have been instances in the past that I didn’t listen and boy did I regret it!

              • YGB

                @Nikiloveli,

                I’m with you on this one coz instinct is neither mind nor heart. Instinct is just that part of a person’s being that gives them a message that both the mind and the heart sometimes miss. I believe it’s God’s way of trying to tell me something and there have been instances in the past that I didn’t listen and boy did I regret it!

            • Nikiloveli

              @The Champ,

              Poor example. We wouldn’t have had it much better if he’d used his brain. I stand by what I said, but if you have neither brains nor gut then just sitchoazzdown.

          • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

            @Nikiloveli,

            cant agree with this. sh*t, we’ve just had eight years of a president who made decisions solely on his gut. to paraphrase rob gordon from “high fidelity”, some people’s guts have sh*t for brains

          • http://www.museacdonline.com pgh muse

            @Nikiloveli,

            I’m witchu on the whole mind, gut, heart argument. You can rationalize your way out of a blessing (your mind), and you can follow your emotions down the path of destruction, but I think that the gut, instinct, intuition, third eye vision or whateva we call it is god’s way of communicating with us. Each and everytime I’ve had a gut feeling about someone/something, it’s the only thing I should have listened to…

          • http://www.museacdonline.com pgh muse

            @Nikiloveli,

            I’m witchu on the whole mind, gut, heart argument. You can rationalize your way out of a blessing (your mind), and you can follow your emotions down the path of destruction, but I think that the gut, instinct, intuition, third eye vision or whateva we call it is god’s way of communicating with us. Each and everytime I’ve had a gut feeling about someone/something, it’s the only thing I should have listened to…

          • http://bestnaturalmaleenhancementpills.net AlexMan

            You says the right things man, I absolutely agree that it is a bit stupid to hear only your brains but not heart. That is ridiculous sometimes but it is true in 99%

          • http://bestnaturalmaleenhancementpills.net AlexMan

            You says the right things man, I absolutely agree that it is a bit stupid to hear only your brains but not heart. That is ridiculous sometimes but it is true in 99%

        • Nikiloveli

          @The Champ,

          Not so. There are a number of times when you feel a certain way, but there’s no logical reason for it. Every time I’ve felt that, yet reasoned it away, I’ve lived to regret it.

          That said, the instinct that we call “gut” and the emotional center that we call “heart” are two different things. Your “heart” can lead you all kinds of wrong. Gut, not so much.

        • http://www.singlesisterspeak.wordpress.com Nicki Sunshine

          @The Champ, lol… let me rephrase… your educated gut.

        • http://www.singlesisterspeak.wordpress.com Nicki Sunshine

          @The Champ, lol… let me rephrase… your educated gut.

      • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

        @Nicki Sunshine,

        gotta go with the gut.

        not always. sometimes, wait, actually most times your brain needs to override your gut

    • http://www.singlesisterspeak.wordpress.com Nicki Sunshine

      @puff, Very well said…. gotta go with the gut.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

      @puff, yeah, i’m one of those people that always believes you’ll get signs that you should bounce on somebody. folks will tell you everything you need to know if you ask the right questions.

      some folks just choose to fore go that knowledge and pay for it later.

      • Yaa

        @Panama Jackson, I used to have A LIST of things that were reasons to bounce LOL. AN ACTUAL HANDWRITTEN LIST!! And every time things didnt feel right and I got signs or had that gut feeling that MAYBE dude aint the one, I would always review my list. Finally I just stopped being so technical and started following my heart and like you said started seeing signs that its time to roll out!

      • Yaa

        @Panama Jackson, I used to have A LIST of things that were reasons to bounce LOL. AN ACTUAL HANDWRITTEN LIST!! And every time things didnt feel right and I got signs or had that gut feeling that MAYBE dude aint the one, I would always review my list. Finally I just stopped being so technical and started following my heart and like you said started seeing signs that its time to roll out!

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

      @puff, yeah, i’m one of those people that always believes you’ll get signs that you should bounce on somebody. folks will tell you everything you need to know if you ask the right questions.

      some folks just choose to fore go that knowledge and pay for it later.

  • http://theyounganddisenchanted.wordpress.com/ puff

    when a person tells/shows you, however subtly, who they really are, and you find that something in your gut tells you that they’re not right for you, believe it. you cannot change someone into the “right” person for you, whatever that may mean. and if the person gives you signs that they’re gonna mess up, take two and walk it out before it becomes too late and you end up extra salty at them/life in general. cos that’s just ugly and unfortunate.

  • http://www.myspace.com/shay_d_lady79 Shay-d-lady

    Great Post PJ… someone has gotten some sleep or either gotten use to no sleep and flying high of the V day love…either way good topic. I totally agree with you on this one. Especially about the they make you feel good but you must return the favor…love is selfless and reciprical (?) and none of the other bull shyt…

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

      @Shay-d-lady, actually, i’ve not gotten any sleep. i’m operating on zombie-status.

      i’m auditioning to be an understudy in the remake of Michael Jackson’s Thriller video next week. and i don’t need makeup.

      • http://www.awesomelyluvvie.com Luvvie

        @Panama Jackson,

        And THAT visual may haunt my hopes, dreams and future goals

      • http://www.awesomelyluvvie.com Luvvie

        @Panama Jackson,

        And THAT visual may haunt my hopes, dreams and future goals

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

      @Shay-d-lady, actually, i’ve not gotten any sleep. i’m operating on zombie-status.

      i’m auditioning to be an understudy in the remake of Michael Jackson’s Thriller video next week. and i don’t need makeup.

  • http://www.myspace.com/shay_d_lady79 Shay-d-lady

    Great Post PJ… someone has gotten some sleep or either gotten use to no sleep and flying high of the V day love…either way good topic. I totally agree with you on this one. Especially about the they make you feel good but you must return the favor…love is selfless and reciprical (?) and none of the other bull shyt…

  • http://www.myspace.com/shay_d_lady79 Shay-d-lady

    Imma pass on that obamahead.. but Iwas going to get the progress tie died joint to post up but apparently that joint is no longer available due to legal problems…WTF? mo money mo problems…oh and also I love the Da Band chappelle skit… I love to be at work and walk into my team meetings like “thats it Imma shut the studio down” LOL

    • osyeP

      @Shay-d-lady, I think Im gonna try that in a meeting one day

    • osyeP

      @Shay-d-lady, I think Im gonna try that in a meeting one day

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      @Shay-d-lady,

      somebody needs to do a ranking of the all-time top chapelle show skits.

      • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=73903598 Dom

        @The Champ,

        Maybe for Friday fun?

        • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

          @Dom,

          hmmm. good idea and sh*t

        • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

          @Dom,

          hmmm. good idea and sh*t

      • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=73903598 Dom

        @The Champ,

        Maybe for Friday fun?

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      @Shay-d-lady,

      somebody needs to do a ranking of the all-time top chapelle show skits.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

      @Shay-d-lady, my obama bobblehead is the sh*t. for one, everybody notices it and comments on it. it’s a guaranteed convo starter, an ice-breaker. in fact, if you have a date with a new person coming up and you’re looking for a way to get a convo going, buy an Obamahead, put it on your dashboard and watch the good times roll.

      • miss t-lee

        @Panama Jackson,
        Poppycock.

      • miss t-lee

        @Panama Jackson,
        Poppycock.

      • Nikiloveli

        @Panama Jackson,

        There are plush Obama and Hillary dolls in the little toy grabbing machine at my local grocery store. I covet them badly, but I suck at that game. I also bought some hideous Obama/Michelle shell earrings.

        It is my intention to collect all of the tackiest, strangest, most off the wall Obama memorabilia that I can find, then compile it into a coffee table book. Your bobblehead is up for review.

      • Nikiloveli

        @Panama Jackson,

        There are plush Obama and Hillary dolls in the little toy grabbing machine at my local grocery store. I covet them badly, but I suck at that game. I also bought some hideous Obama/Michelle shell earrings.

        It is my intention to collect all of the tackiest, strangest, most off the wall Obama memorabilia that I can find, then compile it into a coffee table book. Your bobblehead is up for review.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

      @Shay-d-lady, my obama bobblehead is the sh*t. for one, everybody notices it and comments on it. it’s a guaranteed convo starter, an ice-breaker. in fact, if you have a date with a new person coming up and you’re looking for a way to get a convo going, buy an Obamahead, put it on your dashboard and watch the good times roll.

  • http://www.myspace.com/shay_d_lady79 Shay-d-lady

    Imma pass on that obamahead.. but Iwas going to get the progress tie died joint to post up but apparently that joint is no longer available due to legal problems…WTF? mo money mo problems…oh and also I love the Da Band chappelle skit… I love to be at work and walk into my team meetings like “thats it Imma shut the studio down” LOL

  • ofloveandotherdemons

    It’s not love just because the other person says, “I love you.” This phrase is so over used , it has secured itself a lifetime pass in tritesville.
    I believe it’s really hard to have a litmus test that proves that someone actually loves YOU. Sometimes the person does all the right things: quality time, exuberant inconvinience (love the phrase!!!) ish and says all the right things and all they are really in love with is the idea of being in love, not you per say. They had already made up their mind to fall in love, your a** just happened to be the first one they saw when they rounded that corner.
    As long as both parties know the situation, neither one is holding onto higher expectations/dreams of the releationship than the other, and the happy times far outweigh the dark ones in the set up, than I’m all for living in the moment. Enjoy having someone there for the rollercoaster ride, no need to put labels on everything.

    • http://www.sheliagoss.com/blog Shelia (on the Invisible Love Tour)

      @ofloveandotherdemons, “It’s not love just because the other person says, “I love you.”

      So true…words without action are dead in my opinion. Show me the love and then maybe I’ll believe it when the man says those three words to me….otherwise, those three words are meanliness without the action behind it.

      • miss t-lee

        @Shelia (on the Invisible Love Tour),
        Yes ma’am!!!

      • miss t-lee

        @Shelia (on the Invisible Love Tour),
        Yes ma’am!!!

      • Nikiloveli

        @Shelia (on the Invisible Love Tour),

        Speak! I keep tellin’ these cats. Love is a verb, not an emotion.

      • Nikiloveli

        @Shelia (on the Invisible Love Tour),

        Speak! I keep tellin’ these cats. Love is a verb, not an emotion.

    • http://www.sheliagoss.com/blog Shelia (on the Invisible Love Tour)

      @ofloveandotherdemons, “It’s not love just because the other person says, “I love you.”

      So true…words without action are dead in my opinion. Show me the love and then maybe I’ll believe it when the man says those three words to me….otherwise, those three words are meanliness without the action behind it.

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=73903598 Dom

      @ofloveandotherdemons,

      I love this… “As long as both parties know the situation, neither one is holding onto higher expectations/dreams of the relationship than the other, and the happy times far outweigh the dark ones in the set up, than I’m all for living in the moment.”

      I think this pretty much sums up my thoughts on dating, relationships, etc etc. Its nice to just go with the flow sometimes. I think the hard part is actually knowing when to step it up and when to move on though. If the vibe is right then eventually you’ll want more.

      I also have to wonder why people are so opposed to titles if everything else is going well? Regardless of what you call your relationship, its still a relationship!

    • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=73903598 Dom

      @ofloveandotherdemons,

      I love this… “As long as both parties know the situation, neither one is holding onto higher expectations/dreams of the relationship than the other, and the happy times far outweigh the dark ones in the set up, than I’m all for living in the moment.”

      I think this pretty much sums up my thoughts on dating, relationships, etc etc. Its nice to just go with the flow sometimes. I think the hard part is actually knowing when to step it up and when to move on though. If the vibe is right then eventually you’ll want more.

      I also have to wonder why people are so opposed to titles if everything else is going well? Regardless of what you call your relationship, its still a relationship!

    • Me fail english?

      @ofloveandotherdemons,

      Amen. I’d like to piggyback on this (I really do hate that phrase) and add that crazy, desperate declarations of love like begging you back in front of co-workers, playing his radio high above his head and pointed toward your window, crying to your mom (I’ll let you guess which two of these happened to me) is not an indicator that this man loves you. In fact, it’s usually your first clue that he’s a disingenuous (I really do love that word), manipulative a$$hole. Not that there’s anything wrong with that…

      • miss t-lee

        @Me fail english?,
        “playing his radio high above his head and pointed toward your window”

        You didn’t like the movie Say Anything did you?
        LOL

        • SouthernGirl is at work.

          @miss t-lee,

          i love that movie and i loved that part! and i must say, lloyd was a bit strange but he had all the actions to back up the ‘in your eyes moment.’ now if a ninja ain’t doing sh!t and then just pops up with a radio raheem ghetto blaster outside my window we might have a problem.

          • miss t-lee

            @SouthernGirl is at work.,
            Lloyd Dobbler!!!! :)
            I think he’s the only one who could get away with that.
            EVER.

            • SouthernGirl

              @miss t-lee,

              i think you’re right. lol.

            • SouthernGirl

              @miss t-lee,

              i think you’re right. lol.

          • miss t-lee

            @SouthernGirl is at work.,
            Lloyd Dobbler!!!! :)
            I think he’s the only one who could get away with that.
            EVER.

        • SouthernGirl is at work.

          @miss t-lee,

          i love that movie and i loved that part! and i must say, lloyd was a bit strange but he had all the actions to back up the ‘in your eyes moment.’ now if a ninja ain’t doing sh!t and then just pops up with a radio raheem ghetto blaster outside my window we might have a problem.

        • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

          @miss t-lee,

          say anything is on my list of movies i want to see but, for whatever reason. havent been able to

          • miss t-lee

            @The Champ,
            You should. It’s a good late 80’s flick. Plus it’s funny.

          • miss t-lee

            @The Champ,
            You should. It’s a good late 80’s flick. Plus it’s funny.

          • SouthernGirl

            @The Champ,

            you MUST see this movie.

          • SouthernGirl

            @The Champ,

            you MUST see this movie.

          • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

            duly noted

          • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

            duly noted

        • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

          @miss t-lee,

          say anything is on my list of movies i want to see but, for whatever reason. havent been able to

      • miss t-lee

        @Me fail english?,
        “playing his radio high above his head and pointed toward your window”

        You didn’t like the movie Say Anything did you?
        LOL

      • Nikiloveli

        @Me fail english?,

        Girl, I had a grown man and his mom show up at my choir practice. Creepy stalker tactics are not romantic.

        • miss t-lee

          @Nikiloveli,
          This is a throat punch situation.

        • miss t-lee

          @Nikiloveli,
          This is a throat punch situation.

        • SouthernGirl

          @Nikiloveli,

          well damn! and his mama?!?!?!

          • Nikiloveli

            @SouthernGirl,

            Yep. It caused quite a stir. My pastor called her pastor, etc. Heeeee! How you gonna tell somebody’s pastor on them? That’s so wrong.

            • SouthernGirl

              @Nikiloveli,

              woooooooooooow.

            • SouthernGirl

              @Nikiloveli,

              woooooooooooow.

          • Nikiloveli

            @SouthernGirl,

            Yep. It caused quite a stir. My pastor called her pastor, etc. Heeeee! How you gonna tell somebody’s pastor on them? That’s so wrong.

        • SouthernGirl

          @Nikiloveli,

          well damn! and his mama?!?!?!

      • Nikiloveli

        @Me fail english?,

        Girl, I had a grown man and his mom show up at my choir practice. Creepy stalker tactics are not romantic.

      • http://www.awesomelyluvvie.com Luvvie

        @Me fail english?,

        “it’s usually your first clue that he’s a disingenuous (I really do love that word), manipulative a$$hole. Not that there’s anything wrong with that…”

        Actually, there IS something wrong w/ ALL of that. Ol’ Brain from Pinky & the Brain Face.

        • ofloveandotherdemons

          @Luvvie,
          They’re Pinky and The Brain
          Yes, Pinky and The Brain
          One is a genius
          The other’s insane.
          They’re laboratory mice
          Their genes have been spliced
          They’re dinky
          They’re Pinky and The Brain, Brain, Brain, Brain
          Brain, Brain, Brain, Brain
          Brain.

          Before each night is done
          Their plan will be unfurled
          By the dawning of the sun
          They’ll take over the world.

          They’re Pinky and The Brain
          Yes, Pinky and The Brain
          Their twilight campaign
          Is easy to explain.
          To prove their mousey worth

          They’ll overthrow the Earth
          They’re dinky
          They’re Pinky and The Brain, Brain, Brain, Brain
          Brain, Brain, Brain, Brain

          Good God, I loveeed the Animaniacs. Sigh!!!!

          • Nikiloveli

            @ofloveandotherdemons,

            That does it. I am totally coming over to braid your hair.

          • Nikiloveli

            @ofloveandotherdemons,

            That does it. I am totally coming over to braid your hair.

          • Me fail english?

            @ofloveandotherdemons,
            Lol! I’m so mad you typed out this entire thing!

          • Me fail english?

            @ofloveandotherdemons,
            Lol! I’m so mad you typed out this entire thing!

          • http://freetherapyorelse.blogspot.com Sula for the kids…

            @ofloveandotherdemons,

            And with that, you have sealed our sisterly bond.

            That’s one of the greatest cartoons ever made. :)

          • http://freetherapyorelse.blogspot.com Sula for the kids…

            @ofloveandotherdemons,

            And with that, you have sealed our sisterly bond.

            That’s one of the greatest cartoons ever made. :)

        • ofloveandotherdemons

          @Luvvie,
          They’re Pinky and The Brain
          Yes, Pinky and The Brain
          One is a genius
          The other’s insane.
          They’re laboratory mice
          Their genes have been spliced
          They’re dinky
          They’re Pinky and The Brain, Brain, Brain, Brain
          Brain, Brain, Brain, Brain
          Brain.

          Before each night is done
          Their plan will be unfurled
          By the dawning of the sun
          They’ll take over the world.

          They’re Pinky and The Brain
          Yes, Pinky and The Brain
          Their twilight campaign
          Is easy to explain.
          To prove their mousey worth

          They’ll overthrow the Earth
          They’re dinky
          They’re Pinky and The Brain, Brain, Brain, Brain
          Brain, Brain, Brain, Brain

          Good God, I loveeed the Animaniacs. Sigh!!!!

      • http://www.awesomelyluvvie.com Luvvie

        @Me fail english?,

        “it’s usually your first clue that he’s a disingenuous (I really do love that word), manipulative a$$hole. Not that there’s anything wrong with that…”

        Actually, there IS something wrong w/ ALL of that. Ol’ Brain from Pinky & the Brain Face.

    • Me fail english?

      @ofloveandotherdemons,

      Amen. I’d like to piggyback on this (I really do hate that phrase) and add that crazy, desperate declarations of love like begging you back in front of co-workers, playing his radio high above his head and pointed toward your window, crying to your mom (I’ll let you guess which two of these happened to me) is not an indicator that this man loves you. In fact, it’s usually your first clue that he’s a disingenuous (I really do love that word), manipulative a$$hole. Not that there’s anything wrong with that…

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

      @ofloveandotherdemons, good one. i told a random person i loved them just yesterday.

      okay, no i didn’t.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

      @ofloveandotherdemons, good one. i told a random person i loved them just yesterday.

      okay, no i didn’t.

  • ofloveandotherdemons

    It’s not love just because the other person says, “I love you.” This phrase is so over used , it has secured itself a lifetime pass in tritesville.
    I believe it’s really hard to have a litmus test that proves that someone actually loves YOU. Sometimes the person does all the right things: quality time, exuberant inconvinience (love the phrase!!!) ish and says all the right things and all they are really in love with is the idea of being in love, not you per say. They had already made up their mind to fall in love, your a** just happened to be the first one they saw when they rounded that corner.
    As long as both parties know the situation, neither one is holding onto higher expectations/dreams of the releationship than the other, and the happy times far outweigh the dark ones in the set up, than I’m all for living in the moment. Enjoy having someone there for the rollercoaster ride, no need to put labels on everything.

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