That's it. I can't keep a man because I'm pretty.

This might sound sort of Tiiiimmmmy, but I actually feel bad for really pretty women sometimes. Sure, feeling bad for pretty women is like feeling bad for rich people. Drake. But you know, problems are problems, no matter how stupid.

And everybody’s got issues. Jet.

I can honestly say that I know a lot of really pretty women. I also know a lot of formerly pretty women, which has given me both a control and an experimental group for my observational delight. Yes, unknowing and unintentional subjects run rampant on the streets because much like the rain or reign, you cannot stop time. Yes, time keeps on slipping…into the future. Poignant.

Back to pretty women and their problems. Because they’re pretty, generally, nobody gives a f*ck about how hard they may have it. And pretty chicks have it plenty hard. For instance, you know how busted chicks get hollered at by homeless men that owe the dentist teeth and generally unambitious, lazy drug dealers and former Bad Boy artists? Well pretty women have to deal with all those same ninjas PLUS all the rest of the men that have nothing to lose by hollering at a chick whose sole value seems to be her looks.

Here are a few pretty girl problems.

1. Quality control

How are you supposed to find a good man when you literally have to sift through ALL men? I know all women seek attention. But of course, there’s usually an inverse relationship between how much attention you get and how much you might actually want. That has to be overwhelming. I see rather unattractive light skint women getting major sweats frequently. Poor hot chick, though. She has to deal with twelve times that attention. Of course, its better than the alternative. She could be Precious and have folks taking pictures of her at basketball games with captions like, “YO, PRECIOUS ACTUALLY HAS A MAN, Y’ALL. YOU GOTS TO SEE THIS SH*T”

2. Sworn Enemy of the Hater Association That Eats Raspberries Society

That acronym worked better in my head than on paper. Either way, pretty chicks have more haters than a little bit, and for doing nothing more than being born pretty. Sure a lot of pretty chicks have attitudes and make songs like “Pretty Girl Rock” where they talk about being cuter than anybody else. And yes, occasionally they deserve to have a cupcake thrown at them. But the truth is, all pretty chicks ain’t stuck up hussies. A lot are just pretty and want to be loved and liked by people from 8 to 80 from various socio-economic classes. But they can’t get that love. Because people hate on things that look better than them. Actually, this is mostly chicks.

3. Nobody wants them on Jeopardy

Jeopardy is the great brain equalizer. Busted women of the world have descended upon that stage and become somebody important for 30 minutes during the week. We value their brains and are impressed by their acumen. Place Tyra Banks on Jeopardy and we’re surprised that she can spell her name without adding a heart to it. And that’s sad. There are a lot of really smart pretty girls out there and nobody cares. Which is again, an odd problem to have. But its a problem nonetheless. If nobody ever valued me for my brain I’d probably get a chip on my shoulder too and want to always talk about deep sh*t like Black Holes and John Cougar Mellencamp. Poor pretty girls.

4. Esteem issues

It’s odd to think of pretty chicks having esteem issues, but it happens all the time. Seeing as a lot of pretty chicks rarely ever have to develop an actual personality, they almost devalue themselves by playing up on their attractiveness or not expecting anybody to expect much out of them. That creates an inner turmoil since, again, there is no personality or real person underneath all of that gooey goodness. A lot of pretty women struggle with identity issues and esteem issues because they’ve never had anybody take an interest in them outside of their looks. That’s sad. It’s kind of like watching those animals on the ASPCA commercials that just want a home. Next time you see a pretty chick, offer to adopt her. She just wants to come home like Diddy.

(Sidenote: My goodness, Jim Jones song “Perfect Day” might be the gayest song I’ve heard in a long time right after Nelly’s “Just a Dream”. My God man.)

Pretty ladies, I feel for you. You have problems too. All you want is somebody to love. And somebody to care about you as a person.

Pretty ladies, speak out, let me hear your plight.

And ladies, I think you’re all dimes.

On the real though, do pretty girls have it hard? Or is it all just blown smoke?

Do pretty girl problems matter when so many busted jawns need our help?

Talk to me, VSB. What it is?


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Panama Jackson

Panama Jackson is pretty fly for a light guy. He used to ship his frito to Tito in the District, but shipping prices increased so he moved there to save money. When he's not saving humanity with his words or making music with his mouth, you can find him at your mama's mama's house drinking her fine liquors. Most importantly, he believes the children are our future.

  • alana

    Back to my ol’ tricks…being first!

  • ac dubois

    this right here deaded me, goodnight!!!! –> “Of course, its better than the alternative. She could be Precious and have folks taking pictures of her at basketball games with captions like, “YO, PRECIOUS ACTUALLY HAS A MAN, Y’ALL. YOU GOTS TO SEE THIS SH*T”

  • Ms. Smart

    There has to be a sub-category under HATERS. On these innanets, certain types of men do all they can to tear down the idea of pretty women. There might not be a oe chick with a pretty avatar commenting but the men will be sure to throw out a jab at the idea of pretty women. And not-so-pretty women jump on the bandwagon. At the heart of it, the men hate (really hate, not in the hip-hop way) because every adult pretty woman is a surrogate for the girls in HS they couldn’t date. Never mind that the guys never asked those pretty girls in HS.

    The other thing you forgot is the ‘Put Her In Her Place’ technique. When Evelyn and Chad met the first time, he essentially told her she was good but he could make her better. This is how men try to chip away at the self-worth of pretty women–or women they think are above them.

  •!/DuallyConscious DuallyConscious

    There is a tendency for many women to hate women they see as too pretty. So it’s like “Man, eff that pretty biznitch” before they even have a chance to show u whether they are biznitch or not.

    And then u have to deal with things like men staring at *insert body part here* and not actually listening to the things you say. And when they do, are shocked to find substance.

    At the risk of having cupcakes thrown at me, I actually do find it tiring to have to tell so many men NO. Not that i don’t appreciate the attention. It’s just that you wish you could set parameters …. like can we at least eliminate the ones with missing teeth, Cassidy CDs, and student loans from University of Phoenix? I think that would help.

    NecoleBitchie had an article about why it’s so hard for Halle to keep a man. Poor thing.

  • WeGottaDoBetter

    Have you seen this video floating around the internet that says
    “B* tches would rather be a Made Nukkas Smut, Than Be a Regular Nukkas Queen” – Joe Budden

    This definitely sounds like a pretty girl problem.

  • Fatgrlatheart

    Everybody has problems but pretty or not, dudes cheat, lie, and all that just the same.

    But people look at your singlehood like a disease. “how is it that a girl like you can’t find a man?”

    It’s just hard to find a match period. Yea we get hit on by a lot of losers but that’s not really an issue – not hard to say “no thanks I gotta man” and keep it moving. I’d prefer to say no than to never get asked. We like attention and when we can’t get it from the man we want, we don’t necessarily mind hearing that this loser from the block would give his left nut to be with us. Even if we are rolling our eyes when he’s trying to talk to us.

  • Bunny

    I agree with you.. Pretty women do have a big disadvantage; my cousin has this problem. They can’t find a man, and if they do, a lot of men are intimidated if other guys try and talk or they guys they get are weirdos; one guy on a date told her, “I can’t believe I am on a date w/ you right now.” Another guy told his mom about her and how they were seeing each other… they only had class together and sat rows away from each other. o.O

  • Roock

    finally, somebody understand my plight! lol. you forgot one important category under haiters: big girls. They develop such a strng hatred for pretty girls upon sight!

    and also the Eye Candy Syndrome is a big issue for pretty girls. All men want to have you/be seen with you but, soon they become possessive and paranoid when they realize other people want to have you/be with you… sigh

    it’s true that people assume you’re dumb also . I’ve found that I have to assert my knowledge at the beginning of conversations in order to be taken seriously

  • Leila

    Pretty women have it really hard in relationships. A lot of men are insecure and can’t handle the attention that beautiful women get. It’s crazy seeing guys trip over nothing.

  • Soundwave803

    First off what criteria makes someone “Pretty”??? Are we talking face, body or both?? You ask 15 people and you will get 15 diferent answers. I do feel bad for pretty girls because people will just write some one off pretty as dumb. However they benefit because of lowered expectations, everything done seems bettter than it is. It is one life’s trade-offs.

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