Panama Asks The Hard Questions: Is It Really Nothing To Cut a *CENSORED* Off? » VSB

Lists, Pop Culture

Panama Asks The Hard Questions: Is It Really Nothing To Cut a *CENSORED* Off?

This is deep.

This is deep.

Rapper-cum-lately unextraordinaire, K.Camp, has a song out making its rounds via radio and the club circuit entitled, “Cut Her Off” featuring America’s favorite prime number representa, 2 Chainz. If you haven’t heard this song, it’s premise is quite simple:

It’s easy to cut a *CENSORED* off. 

And by really easy, I presume that he means its nothing to him to kick a woman to the curb. But because this is music, we can easily extrapolate that into manhood (FOR THE LADIES!!! OWWWW!) as well, making it more universally appealing if not equally as ridiculous.

The hook goes a little something like this (hit it!!):

It ain’t nothin’ to cut that *CENSORED* off

It ain’t nothin’ to cut that *CENSORED* off

So what you say, ho

You know I’m the man, ho

It ain’t nothin’ to cut that *CENSORED* off

It ain’t nothin’ to cut that *CENSORED* off

 

You get the gist. We’re talking real poetry here. I can’t lie, this song really entertains me but it brings up an important social and pscyhological question: is it really easy to cut a *CENSORED* off? Inquiring minds would like to know. I spent all of 27 seconds analyzing this very simple but evolutionary question. And yes it’s evolutionary; we’re talking Darwinism here. Like you know how you see somebody do something really stupid and like dance into a street and get taken out by an ice cream truck? That is Darwinism in full effect.

Panama Note: If you have been hit by an ice cream truck because you decided to do the nae-nae or Dougie into oncoming traffic, well, I’m sorry to hear that. Truly.

While K.Camp is talking about the ability to remove somebody from one’s life who ostensibly meant very little (I mean, if you can get rid of somebody that easily, did they matter that much to begin with? Did they? Did they? Why did I just ask the same question twice? Why did I just ask the same question twice? Tiddy Sprinkles.), more or less he’s talking about how easy it is to break up with somebody. This is pure poppycock. He knows and I know it. Because love. And I’ll tell you why. Here are 10 reasons why I think that it is, indeed, something to cut a *CENSORED* off.

1. It is actually really hard to get rid of somebody you’ve spent considerable time with. Double that if you ever entered an actual relationship where you named a pet together.

Look, let’s keep it #1hunna. Some of you are still breaking up with people you dated 10 years ago. Some of you are now married and still trying to lose somebody you dealt with prior. I recently wrote a 3 part story about a woman that I know for a fact is married but reminds me of a time when my ineptitude spoke volumes. I ain’t cut her off. We got separated by life.

Now…what if you all were together and got a dog and named that motherf*cker. Custody battles ensue. I have one simple rule (that I have not followed): if we name a pet together, then #wegotogether and we better get married or else its going to be a lot of slow singing and flower bringing.

2. It’s hard to go from talking to somebody everyday to no times a day.

Life…I wonder…will it take me under? I don’t know. But that cold-turkey life only ever works for the turkey. And the cold. Real talk.

What?

Exactly.

3. Nobody likes going to the movies alone. 

There’s a reason that couples go to the movies a lot. Because its safer than the club or any other place with lights. You’re looking at the screen and the only time you catch a real glimpse of some temptation is either coming in and they shut off the lights or going out and you’re heading to the car to becomes ships passing in the night. Well, if you cut a *CENSORED* off, then you have to to go the movies alone. And nobody likes to do that. I’ve done it, but I didn’t like it. The experience of going alone. The movie was great.

4. Most folks are punks #inreallife and ain’t really no buss no guns.

Every last one us can talk a mean game when we need to. I see it in the comments all the time. I don’t believe 90 percent of the tough talk I see online. I’ve done it. Said sh*t with my chest and erything. But no matter what we face, we all must face the moment of truth baby. Walk in with single-man ambitions and walk out with relationship-goals and light some crystals from Swarovski, which sells really fine stemware. Seriously.

5. You know you all live together. Especially if you’re white.

White people love to cohabitat. Blacks folks just “stay with each other” 7 days a week while wasting money maintaining separate domiciles to keep up appearances. Point is, you live together. You know how hard it is to break up a home? Very. Who made the potato salad? Naw…who made the most payments on that IKEA lamp, my g? It’s hard as hell to go from living with somebody to having to find separate living quarters.

6. It is possible she did upgrade you, with your MS-DOS self. 

You know, I used to hate the idea that women could make men “better”. I’m not completely sure why nor do I feel that way now. But something about a good woman is very inspiring. Plus, she won’t not let you be great. Double negative gangsta clique. I’ve seen it happen with my own two eyes. When you got a woman that makes you feel better about you and your life, it aint easy to let that go.

7. Or…he upgraded you, with your Assistant Coach purse rocking self. 

I’ve seen this happen to. You know what has always surprised me? How women are generally considered to mature much faster than me…which I don’t necessarily doubt. But how many grown women I’ve known who more or less look like they still live in college dorms. No judgement mind you. I’m just saying, sometimes guys get to that quality quality-of-life first and bring a tender roni along for the ride too.

8. You ultimate picked a person you were happy with at least for at time right? They also are the first people you want to talk to about stuff. It’s hard to not share your true joy with the people that brought you so much happiness.

You ever win something like a $5 scratch-off and can’t call your boo no more? That happened to me. I got an extra drink out the soda machine. It truly made my day. And I couldn’t call the person who would appreciate it the most.

9. This is just practical, but, you have to go thru and change ALL the forms.

You ever find out that you listed your ex-boo as your emergency contact on all your stuff? I did. I didn’t even know Blockbuster had an emergency contact listing til I got that past due phone call. I never paid that bill. Must be why they went under.

10. It’s just hard.

Because I said so. K. Camp is wrong.

If do right, no can defense.

-VSB P

Filed Under:
Panama Jackson

Panama Jackson is pretty fly (and gorgeous) for a light guy. He used to ship his frito to Tito in the District, but shipping prices increased so he moved there to save money. He refuses to eat cocaine chicken. When he's not saving humanity with his words or making music with his mouth, you can find him at your mama's mama's house drinking her fine liquors. Most importantly, he believes the children are our future. You can hit him on his hitter at panamadjackson@gmail.com.

  • nillalatte

    Yes, to all dat that you wrote just ’cause I ain’t in an arguing mood. :) I was talking to a friend the other day and explaining where did my friend go to her. I told her, “I miss my friend.” Sigh. C’est la vie.

    When I read this “”There is no right way to end a relationship that has been so important to two people,” McIlroy said in the statement.” I thought, wow, he’s so right.

    http://mashable.com/2014/05/21/golf-star-engagement/

    • RewindingtonMaximus

      That’s an interesting article. I wish more men had the cajones to say something like that. I was talking to my wife earlier today about how people make bad decisions when deciding to stay in relationships, and we just naturally agreed women truly believe in fantastical notions of love that don’t truly exist, and men might believe it for a second, but can’t stick with it.Yet nobody lets it go, those memories stay in the back of your mind while drinking wine, smoking some trees, and listening to Stay by Kem

      • nillalatte

        What would you define as ‘fantastical notions of love that don’t truly exist?”

        • RewindingtonMaximus

          Hmmm…perhaps a young girl fawning over a boy her age, lets say both 19. She likes him enough and decides she wants to spend a really long time with her. He’s casually seeing where things are going but doesn’t seem committed to it at all.

          Or the woman who believes the guy who’s banging every girl in the town will somehow change his ways if she becomes his girl.

          Or the woman who can do the prison relationship because she’s so in love.

          Or the woman who wants every rom-com stereotype to come true for her love life and wonders why she’s getting older by the second and no man has scraped the surface of what she wants.

          All those things that show people need experience to let go of the imaginary person they have in their head, and learn to see what they have in front of them for who they are. We all know men and women who do this, but especially for women, because women get lambasted for not reaching a milestone with a man if she reaches a certain age.

          • Conceited-Ibaka

            wait a minute, is prison love real or manufactured? are there people who seriously are in a relationship with somebody who is in the pen for 20 years? Listen, in the marriage vows I don’t remember prison being part of death do us part. uh uh.

            • RewindingtonMaximus

              Word to me, some women actually see prison dudes as viable options because he knows how to stick to a long term situation.

              • Conceited-Ibaka

                More power to them.

                • RewindingtonMaximus

                  Yup, to them and their creepy websites

            • IcePrincess

              I mean, both parties gotta just be realistic about it. If my man is doing a bid, ima do my part- keep money on the books/ phone, emotional support, all dat. But ima also be out here booed up if I feel like it. Shoot, YOU in jail, not me. And a real ninja fully understands & accepts that fact. So it’s no problem

          • nillalatte

            LOL… and what age would that be? Not saying you’re not right, but I think the better word may be infatuation rather than love. Infatuation can’t sustain itself, whereas love turns to devotion more so than not. It is true that you can’t change the spots on a leopard. OMG, I had a conversation this weekend with a dude who told me my standards for men were too high. Of course, you know I then blasted him with, “I’m just supposed to settle?” LOL… actually, if he knew some of the men I’ve dated he might be inclined to tell me to up my standards. lmao…

            • RewindingtonMaximus

              Nilla…how low can you go? Lemme get the limbo line going.

              I know what you mean when you bring up infatuation but most people can’t even spell that word let alone get into their feelings to know the difference between love and infatuation.

              I don’t what age is appropriate for a woman to be seen as a woman. The Caribbean says after 18. The US says 30. Europe says 21. Who knows.

              So let me ask a question…what makes your standards so high?

              • nillalatte

                Limbo line… lol…

                I don’t think it has anything to do with ‘standards’ per se. I’m ambivalent when it comes to friendships/relationships. Some would say picky, I prefer discerning. I just can’t envision being ‘attached’ to another human being again, at least not anytime soon for many of the reasons that Petey wrote above, the fact that I stay busy with all kinds of projects, and you know how high maintenance you men can be. I think of all the different aspects of allowing someone to come into my life and it’s pretty freaking complicated.

                On the flip side, I’ve learned to ask the universe for the things I want rather than the things I don’t want. Apparently, the universe doesn’t understand the concept of elimination in the way I intended. :)

                • RewindingtonMaximus

                  Hmmm. I acrually get your drift. If i lose my wife, that door is officially closed and I’m not holding elections again for a very looooong time. I’d just run wild with projects and hobbies. But you can find a man who is of the same mind. My wife’s aunt has had the same boyfriend for 10 years and they just now talking about moving in together.

                  • nillalatte

                    That’s sweet. I’ve thought of that scenario too. That’s probably the more reasonable approach… slow enough that it almost looks like reverse. And, well, I still have my own commitment demons. Even when dude proclaimed he was dating me I steadfast reminded him I was undatable. But, seriously, it’s all good. I’d rather be level headed than drunk in infatuation. LOL

                    • RewindingtonMaximus

                      I think you are just a scurrrred little girl on the inside and that’s ok. I’m a scared little boy on the inside and i am constantly reminded of it everytime i try to make adult decisions with my heart. Its hard to let the pain go, its almost a staple of who we are. But i have faith in you and for you. You’re too witty to be solo til the end.

                    • nillalatte

                      I’ll give you that. Scared of being ‘trapped’ – again.

                    • RewindingtonMaximus

                      Understood, hence why Rewind has your back and fake passports when ish gets real

          • That second one is the truth. They’re the distaff equivalent of every dude who thinks they can turn some girl into a $ex-crazed freak. Somehow both groups have convinced themselves that they are so special that they can change people merely by their presence. Broad/dude, you ain’t that special.

            • RewindingtonMaximus

              It really takes a lot to see the arrogance in yourself and call it what it is.

      • PaddyfotePrincess

        #hangonforwhat?

        If you aren’t ready for something or you are dealing with someone who doesn’t add value to your life, by all means let it go.

        At times it’s easier said than done, but hanging on to a situation that isn’t healthy isn’t worth your peace of mind. “Give It Up Turn It Loose,” En Vogue.

        • RewindingtonMaximus

          Naturally the emotionally willing people know that. But most people suck with their emotions and they will die still wondering if that girl or boy they kissed in the first grade would have been THE ONE.

          • PaddyfotePrincess

            Agreed. It just seems that holding on to a dead end situation (and we all know when this happens) is fruitless and usually leads to unnecessary drama.

            It was great seeing you and Miss M. Thanks for coming out.

            • RewindingtonMaximus

              It was great seeing you too, can’t wait to do that again.

              Dead ends inspire the imagination because its rare people will review their mistakes willingly. That’s why i think people have a hard time letting go, because we don’t like to know we were wrong.

        • I love #hangonforwhat though. I need to make that my theme song. :)

          • PaddyfotePrincess

            It’s worked for me. Letting go is freedom.

  • Guest

    Playing and made a double post. My bad.

  • RewindingtonMaximus

    1) It’s not hard to get rid of someone you had a relationship with. It’s hard to get rid of someone who had many things you wanted but wouldn’t go the extra route of indulging our selfish fantasies and dropping the crap we didn’t like about them. Because that’s why you sit around at 2 am after a failed night at the club wondering what they are doing at that very moment as you recover from 7 shots of Hennessy.

    3) Going to the movies alone is awesome. One ticket, unlimited movies and not having to share your diabetes magic potion or 40 oz Cherry Coke as its better known as.

    4) We are all punks. How many relationships would stay in tact if you could never ever be full of shyte?

    6) No man likes to admit he’s been upgraded by a woman…and yet that’s how must of us got a better chick to begin with in the end.

    • Jay

      When I think back on my favorite movie theatre moments 90% of them were just me… Solo dolo.

    • Jay

      When I think back on my favorite movie theatre moments 90% of them were just me… Solo dolo.

      • RewindingtonMaximus

        Because you didn’t have to worry about anyone but you. And it was aweaome that way.

    • 6 is so true, ninjas swear they just woke up knowing how to dress, pair wines, and they wasn’t out here with an air mattress and a sheet as a curtain

      • IcePrincess

        Say that!!!

      • I dunno. For me, it was a matter of me seeing some ish and saying “hmm…lemme try that.” I ain’t going to fake sophistication at 19, but I’m also ain’t going to say some woman put me up to it. You get curious and wondering about other things.

      • RewindingtonMaximus

        Exactly. If it wasn’t for past girls, the stroke game would be all wrong, my clothes would still have comic book figures, and i would not be good with my hands. all men got the game handed to them, it was never auutomatic.

        • OK, stroke game, I’ll buy. I fixed the clothes game after some gay dude I interviewed for a job barked on me HARD about clothes for like 15 minutes. Also, I did another upgrade and saw how all the dudes dressed one way, and I tried to fit in. Food and drink was going to be a natural upgrade as I like to cook and try different stuff. You can only make hamburgers and spaghetti for so long before getting bored. Simply put, there’s levels to this sh*t.

          • RewindingtonMaximus

            Indeed they are, i just say that dudes should stop fronting like they were born with the skills. Nay nay, they were passed down.

    • DG

      “Going to the movies alone is awesome.”

      It truly is. I remember the days of yore when seeing a movie was a (relatively) inexpensive date option: a $20 in your pocket and you were good. Nowadays, you gotta d@mn near take out a loan for any non-matinee movie. And don’t let her want something to drink/eat…lawd. When I’m solo, I’m only concerned about my own enjoyment…

      • RewindingtonMaximus

        Exactly. NYC movie tickets cost $14 a pop, and lets not talk about something fancy like IMAX. I have to sneak in mynown food and drinks just to soften the blow of paying DVD prices to enter the damn place. If its just me, i have no concerns. When its with others,their needs somehow come before yours

        • Psh. workingadvantage.com. I buy discount tix in bulk, lol. Then I STILL go alone. Or I save them for the movie [sprung the] “dutch” [on me] dates, and use them for my end.

          • RewindingtonMaximus

            I just found out about this place yesterday. Ugh I’ve been a city employee for 6 years, I’m so late to the game.

            Ms. Maris, we need to hit a food festival soon, its that time of the year

            • woo-hoo!

            • Hey, I’m down. Just let me know in advance which one so I know if it is a child free weekend. :)

              • RewindingtonMaximus

                Done and done

    • “diabetes magic potion or 40 oz Cherry Coke as its better known as”

      DAMN! I see you like your sugar raw and uncut.

      • RewindingtonMaximus

        I am.refraining from too much sugar nowadays the same way Tiger Woods refrains from more than one white woman at a time. Its a struggle but necessary

        • Lea Thrace

          You aint right. LOL!

          • RewindingtonMaximus

            But it felt so good!

        • PunchDrunkLove

          LOLOL….

    • b sweet

      I love the movies, so I’ll pretty much see anything, but I have ‘interesting’ taste in movies. I typically go to films where the audience is me, an African, a 28 yr old hippie, an asian, and an old white man who looks like a retired university professor. So yes, I enjoy going to movies alone.

      • RewindingtonMaximus

        I reserve those tastes to my couch when i feel like watching artsy films. I can’t watch complicated movies or shows with other people, they ruin the mood for me.

        But i shall try it your way only if you’re there.

  • MajorMayo

    I got a better question… Who’s outchea bussin it down for damn Lime-a-Ritas?

    • RewindingtonMaximus

      Dunno but them thots keeping Budweiser paid.

      • Budweiser legit just made bite sized Four Lokos and getting paaaaid

        • RewindingtonMaximus

          Word. And people wonder why you can suddenly buy the Plan B pill on Amazon?

          Like Nas said, It Ain’t Hard To Tell

          • I, for one, am elated I can get Plan B online. One of the best purchases a woman can make in preparation for something she ain’t ready for.

            • RewindingtonMaximus

              I’m not knocking it at all, wish they did that when i was a teenager

      • IcePrincess

        Shoot, if I’m gonna go the gross malt liquor route, might as well go balls to the wall & drink a 4 loco. Those have 12% alcohol, limearita has only 8%. Hope this helps :)

        • Remember how in like 1998, malt liquor just fell ALL the way the f*ck off for no reason? LOL

        • RewindingtonMaximus

          They don’t sell the 4 Lokos with alcohol here in NY anymore. Something about kids being idiots and overdoing it.

          • God Shammgod

            It has alcohol just no caffeine :( which still takes all the fun out of it! Not that I know anything about that of course…

            • RewindingtonMaximus

              So you have no idea of such things huh? You are in the Shifty Eye Gang as of right now.

              Nah what’s the point of drinking it if i can’t mimic a crack head?

            • IcePrincess

              Love your outfit!

              • God Shammgod

                thank you hun! im taking advantage of this belly free summer while i still have time…cuz judging by my dietary habits that wont last much longer….lol

                • IcePrincess

                  Omg don’t scare me like that! As I began reading, I thought it was bout to be a pregnancy announcement lol ;)

                  • God Shammgod

                    LMAO listen…at this point in my life if that update came around I would be inconsolable. I know these things arent easily planned but I am hopefully a few years removed from a bundle of joy, lol

                    • IcePrincess

                      Aye… I FEEL you!

            • afronica

              I so want to try a phrostie before they ban or regulate ’em out of existence.

        • Boo Radley

          Yeah, but going from Lime-a-Rita to 4 loco is the difference between “bussin it down” and going down in history. There should be a Youtube channel dedicated to 4loco escapades.

    • Msdebbs

      Giving up the draws for Lime-a-Ritas?? Really? They cost like $3 bucks….what kinda self-esteem is that?

      • Keisha

        The grocery store by my house has a huge bin with all four flavors in them…$1 each. :-/

        • Medium Meech

          So… is this a hint for potential suitors?

          • Keisha

            LOL…only for those wanting to get cut off. :-)

        • IcePrincess

          Lol u gotta be talkin bout Kroger lmfaooooo

          • Keisha

            BINGO!!!…and Publix too…lol

            • IcePrincess

              Word? I thought Publix was pose to be the classy grocery store lol

              • Keisha

                That’s what I thought too!!

      • Medium Meech

        I mean really, when girls give it up to guys with the trappings of material success there usually isn’t much in the way of an actual exchange of wealth. Most times it involves a few drinks from an overpriced bottle of Ciroc (the club made out pretty well, but in actual value she only imbibed $1.84 worth of liquor) and a ride in a fancy car (a transient experience, no real market value) if I had to guess. Apparently if you catch a real baller like T.I. there may be some baked ziti involved, but those make up such a small percentage of the population and the market for famous rappers is saturated. So multiple lime-a-ritas sounds like a win-win for both parties involved, the guy doesn’t have to spend inordinate amounts on depreciating assets to attract women who appreciate those things, and the woman gets more material gain than actually being next to expensive things (museums are a much better value if you’re in the market for being in the proximity of expensive baubles anyway)

        • @Mr. Meech:
          Glad you bring this up, as I’ve been wanting to ask for some time:

          What do you make of this notion that Black Women, taken together as a group, are gold diggers? It’s something that apparently quite a few Brothas believe and tout, yet, to be frank, I seee precious little evidence that this is indeed the case, and have scoffed at those who bring up the idea around me. Black Women are many things; gold diggers, by and large, they ain’t.

          Your thoughts?

          Thanks!

          O.

          • Medium Meech

            I don’t really see it. I think black people in general can be a little materialistic (in the classic bourgeoisie sense) but nothing out of line with how (relatively) poorer groups in any society value money.

            • @Mr. Meech:
              Yes, agreed; it is no state secret that I’m hard on the Sistas – but I’m also fair. The idea that Black Women are, or somehow have a lock on gold diggging, is downright ridiculous, and Brothas need to stop sputtering such nonsense. For example, I’m hardpressed to think up a Black Woman analogue to the late Ms. Anna Nicole Smith – SHE, would be considered a gold digger.

              Black Women, by and large? Uh-uh.

              Now – can/will some Sistas Nickel & Dime a Brotha? Absolutely – but that’s a far ccry from being gold diggers. After all, let’s be honest – Black Men, taken together as a group, are among if not thee brokest men in the Union, LOL. When Sistas get with us, it ain’t for the size of our wallets, that’s for sure.

              And that, on balance, is a good thing!

              O.

        • afronica

          Where do Derek Jeter’s gift baskets fit in your taxonomy of value per encounter?

          • Medium Meech

            Wow, I hadn’t heard about that. A VSS told me that champ used to do the same thing with a copy of their book and a VSB T-shirt. I’m going to start autographing my handiwork as long as she doesn’t mind being written on in permanent marker.

            • afronica

              In these post-Pamela Des Barres times, maybe they’ll get those autographs tattooed. lulz

      • panamajackson

        And they’re nasty.

    • panamajackson

      If you actually listen to the words of that song, which you did, it makes so little sense. It reminds me of “paranoid” by Ty Dolla $ign. These folks just threw words and a general idea together.

      • IcePrincess

        What about that song don’t make sense to you? That’s a good song! He paranoid because what are the odds of both of his women AND him all being at the same club, same time, separately? Unless they live in a tiny azz town with only one club lol

        • panamajackson

          I enjoy it. It’s not a good song. If they know about each other, why you think they trynna set you up? What does them having the same shoes, cars, and fragrance have anything to do with anything? Is this why you think they’re tryign to set you up? But again, you think they know right? PLUS, you da man, your girls don’t know where you at? Of course they do. They you’re chicks…they comin’ to your spot. And why you talking about my chicks being busted when you outchea worrying about getting set up in the club? Focus on your own womans my man.

          Im saying. There’s a lot wrong with that song.

    • Me.

  • NomadaNare

    I know that feel bro. Fortunately I grew out of it after a couple of girls I dated grew out of me. Life is often the most effective teacher, and real talk, ain’t nobody in it that can’t be replaced save for me and my family. Even the one I’m dating now was recently surprised by how quickly she almost got dropped. I simply don’t have time to mess around.

    • Conceited-Ibaka

      you ain’t never lie! people can be replaced just like clothes, they can be recycled too.

    • RewindingtonMaximus

      Ha….nothing is irreplaceable exception water, oxygen, and a great barber. Everything else is optional, but these suckas out here keep acting like they got the power and can’t be faded. Dunno who lied to them.

  • Conceited-Ibaka

    When I started reading, I thought 2 Chainz and company were advocating for rappers to cut off their d’s, just like that troubled rapper did. This would have been the most apt time to declare hip hop deader than dead.

    • panamajackson

      That would be an odd thing to make a song about.

  • Tonja (aka Cheeks)

    Yeah that moment when you can’t wait to tell someone something and then realize that person ain’t “that someone” anymore? Is real.

    *bursts into pomp and circumstance rendition of “Let it Go”*

    The cold never bothered me anyway. (Yes it did… #LABound)

  • Msdebbs

    “Every last one us can talk a mean game when we need to. I see it in the comments all the time.” = @Obsidian

    Yea I’m hating…

    Cutting folks off isn’t that hard depending on the circumstances. If it’s someone I just met and my “he aint sh*t” detector goes off then I just don’t answer any text/calls from that person. Yeah I know that’s childish and immature but some ninjas don’t understand what “I am no longer interested” means.

    • Val

      Lol@he ain’t sh*t detector

    • @Ms. Debbs:
      Well now, someone wokeup still #Butthurt over our last encounter, hmm?

      My darling – being “cutoff” from the likes of you would be quite the welcome improvement…ahem.

      I am sure a well-worn path has been beatten to your door, chockfull runneth over with suitors from hither and yon, all fighting to go down on bended knee for your hand in…sumthin’ sumthin’…

      Right?

      *exaggerated eyeroll*

      O.

  • Val

    “A guy told me one time, “Don’t let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner.” – Neil (Robert De Niro) from the film “Heat”

    This is one of my favorite film quotes. I’ve often wished I could live my life like this. Imagine the freedom of being able to just walk. Unfortunately though it’s human nature to become attached to people, places and things. All of those things, over time, become a part of who we are, especially people. And, most especially that special person in our lives.

    So, that’s the reason it’s so hard to just cut someone off. Those people become a part of us and when we cut them off we are really cutting off a part of who we are. And, sometimes that part of us that we cut off is such a big part that we can lose ourselves in the process.

    Been there, done that. It wasn’t fun.

  • What a timely post. I just downloaded an app (dead2me) that’s supposed to completely block calls and text messages. It also has a customizable message you can send to people you block. I hit ’em with that Maya Angelou quote. The queen of Passive-Aggressive Island. Bow down.

    I always wished I could be that strong person who could just let go of someone with the snap of a finger…or a song lyric or a *shots fired* FB post. Now, I realize that only maybe a handful of people can really do that. For the rest of us, it takes some time. And maybe a gourmet cupcake or two.

    • Yeah i wish i was that cold blooded, i forgave ppl who probably ain’t even deserve it, they never become what they was but I’ll remember their birthday and sh t

    • BreezyX2

      K.: (dead2me) just made me scream!!! Why must you alert me to this app?!?!?

      • It is HILARIOUS. If it really works, I want to invest in it….everybody has someone they want to send to the messaging graveyard.

        And there is an actual graveyard….SMH

    • b sweet

      You know I got you on the gourmet cupcakes K. Marie. How are you???

      • I always think of you when I try to resist a red velvet cupcake. LOL! I am fantastic, how are you?

        • b sweet

          I am wonderful. I changed my cupcakes from red velvet to strawberry cheesecake, but now that you’re here, I might have to change them back.

          • No, no, no…..I loooove strawberry cheesecake too!

          • IcePrincess

            Can we have German chocolate next? That coconut frosting makes it sooooo good *nom nom nom*

    • @Ms. K. Marie:
      Speaking of apps and ladies, I’d like to ask you and any other ladies in the forum:

      What do you make of Tinder (also known as Tindr)? Supposedly, the big “get” of it is that it is designed with the preferences and desires of ladies in mind – such as the ability to deal with only those male suitors a lady deems interesting and attractive, while being able to jettison those she does not. It’s been making some waves online elsewhere, but I’ve yet to encoounter many Sistas discussing it. Your thoughts?
      Ladies?

      Thanks!

      O.

      • I thought we had this conversation on here, but I have remained nonplussed by Tinder. The first part of the problem is geographic…neither men or women in my neck of the woods are really checking for Tinder like that. However, give it six months and I’m sure folks will go in for it.

        The second problem is a personal issue. To me it feels rather….skeevy. Swipe left if you find them attractive and right if you don’t (or whatever direction it is) feels almost entitled. Or arrogant. I know attraction is important, but do words count for nothing?

        Finally, I saw maybe three Black men on there. They were definitely what I call “T.W. Shannons.” Google him if you aren’t familiar with his antics.

        • @Ms. K. Marie:
          I take it you mean the prominent politician in your neck of the woods? If so, I’m not sure you follow; are you suggesting that the relatively few number of Black Men using Tindr are fellow politicians? Please explain?

          I wasn’t sure about the racial angle, and you are of course a data point of one, but if other Sistas in the forum feel as you do, that could explain quite a bit. But then that raises an even more interesting quetion:

          How do Black couples, be that long or short term, meet in our time? Are they making use of apps like Whites do, or are they using alternative methods? What would they be?

          Tindr definitely operates on the idea of conventional attractiveness, there’s no two ways about it – and, while both males and females “swipe left/right” in roughly equal numbers, the factt hat it was specifically designed to cater to the security, vetting and “not interested” needs of the ladies, suggests to me that they are the line in the sand here. And on that note, what it tells me is that Women are far than more capable – and willing, again provided certain measures are in place to remove or minimize blowback – of being every bit as “skeevy” as Men.

          One heck of a social experiment, Tindr is, wouldn’t you say?

          It is interesting to see where Tindr goes from here; by year’s end, it may not even be around, what with the sheer force of apps hitting the market and the extremely facile and fast moving nature of the business, etc. It is both fascinating and off-putting at the same time, this human mating thing is, no?

          O.

          • It has been brought to my attention, that a Great American and a Powerful Sista has left this world – the late, great Ms. Maya Angelou.

            She was discovered in her home at the ripe old age of 86. I am not yet aware of the causes of her demise.

            May she go on to her reward and find rest.

            O.

            • Tentpole

              Thanks O for the info.

            • Natural causes.

          • I was going to write a lengthy response, but I just can’t muster up the energy to go back and forth with you today. You asked for my opinion; I gave it.

            Thanks.

            • @Ms. K. Maries:
              I don’t recall us “going back and forth” much, if at all. In any event, thank you for your time. Much apppreciated!

              O.

    • afronica

      Thanks for mentioning that app. *begins download*

More Like This