For those unfamiliar with OKCupid...google it.
Jokes. OKCupid is a free online dating service much like many of the others used by millions of people nationwide trying to find love over the Internets. The difference between OKCupid and the other sites however is that, the people who run the site often provide statistical analyses of the users based upon the profiles created by the individuals. Now the point isn’t to make some overarching statement about the community, but more or less to give some interesting pictures of the community at large. Thus finds this most recent article written by the staff entitled “The REAL Stuff White People Like”.
What follows are some really hilarious, but REALLY interesting tidbits about the various races, indicated by tag clouds to illustrate the tastes and preferences most commonly referenced for the different races. You should peep the article to read about white people, Asians, Latinos, etc but I’m going to focus on the Black men and women, since most of us here are Black men and women. I’m a rapper racist. Not sure what that means but Lil Wayne said it so it must be poignant.
Also, it will help if you are able to look at the tag clouds listed on OK Cupid in order to follow along with some of these observations. Further, every bullet point should be read as beginning with, “…according to OKCupid…”
Here’s the tag clouds for Black men:
and then the one for Black Women:
1. Black folks REALLY love them some soul food.
So much so that for whatever odd reason, men and women BOTH made mention of it on dating profiles. I’d like to say I understand that but unless its men saying they want a woman who cooks soul food and then women saying they can cook soul food, I’m at a loss. I mean, the tv show AND movie Soul Food both kind of blew a** so that can’t be the culprit. Then again, if all the men are talking about the Goodie Mob album it would make sense but not really. Basically, you ninjas eat too much. Stop being fat.
2. Women REALLY love The Color Purple and Alicia Keys…oh yeah, and God.
If you ask 10 women on the street to name their favorite movie, 9/10 will say TCP. This really isn’t a shocker and since we tie so much of our personality into our interests into our likes and dislikes it makes sense for that to be such a high trend. However, I am surprised by Alicia Keys. Then again I’m not at the same time. For some reason, women look to her as some sort of beacon of light in the R&B world despite her vapid ass music. Ironically however, Mary J doesn’t show up at all which I can only take to mean that everybody agrees that crackhead Mary was the best one, hands down. And wow do Black women love them some Jesus. In fact, if you’re a man looking for a woman, just run up on a chick and say that you love Jesus and based on these stats she should at least become interested. Throw in Alice Walker and Alicia Keys and you might get some chandelier sechs out of it. And a prayer.
3. Gucci Mane must be way more popular amongst the reading crowd than we ever imagined.
On this list of most popular terms for men, Gucci Mane is #12 right after Nas and right before The Roots and Kanye West. As Fantasia said while trying to read a book, WHAT THE F*CK? Given that its mostly reading in ninjas signing up for these services since you have to read to use the Internets, I’m amazed by this. What would compel somebody listing their interests to really mention Gucci Mane? Straight up? I feel sorry for their mothers.
4. Coming To America is more popular to women than it is to men.
This also amazes me as most men I know swear by this. But it didn’t make the men’s list of most frequent terms. Menace II Society did though. That’s not surprising. And here we are saying that women don’t have a good sense of humor (we didn’t say that but motherf*ckers who can’t read thought we did so what the h*ll) and more women know whats up. Who’d a thunk it.
5. India.Arie stays losing to Alicia Keys.
No surprise here. But does anybody else think India.Arie is getting some kind of sick joy out of Alicia’s “public disgrace” as tempered as it was/is?
6. Zane and Tyler Perry are popular amongst the boob set.
Fellas, never ever ask a woman to suggest a good book or movie.
7. Men love Trey Songz more than women.
This could also be written as “there are a lot of gay men out there.”
8. The men’s list reads like a Rock The Bells lineup.
This isn’t a bad thing. What it says is that while men might disagree on the order, we all generally agree on the best living rappers/groups.
9. ESPN reigns supreme.
Ladies, suck it up. We’re gonna watch the reruns of ESPN over and over because it matters to us more than you do.
10. The women’s list seems predictable but guys….we have issues.
Hitch? Trey Songz? Gucci Mane? Calling ourselves tall, dark, and handsome when most of us aren’t tall nor handsome? Men are liars with odd fetishes. Ladies? Watch it out there.
Those are some of my observations about this list. Are there any interesting observations you can make about these OKCupid stats? About any race?
Run tell that!
-VSB P aka THE ARSONIST aka TANGLE JIG P aka VITAMIN P aka GO KING BEEF aka GIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIRL HE A 3
*peeks in*
Did you run everyone away via yesterday’s post, Panda?
Lol, I almost stayed away today. I was seeing red. He did that on purpose.
did what on purpose? hmm??? hmmm??
don’t you put that evil on me Ricky SmartFoxGirl
You are NOT paralyzed!!!
“Ricky SmartFoxGirl”
*chokes on laughter*
Tasha Mack voice: This ain’t ovah, Foxy!!
(sorry about that random quote blurting…that episode of The Game just came on yesterday)
LOL…”I will let you go, Ricky. But first, I want you to say…”I… love… crepes.”
“ESPN reigns supreme.
Ladies, suck it up. We’re gonna watch the reruns of ESPN over and over because it matters to us more than you do.”
A-phucking-men!
“Real Stuff White People like
the hitchhiker’s guide to the galaxy”
Y-phuckin-es!
“Real Stuff Black People like
Mos Def
Nas
The Roots
ATCQ
Talib Kweli”
That looks like the workout playlist on my ipod touch
“…whereas no foods are distinct for white people, unless you count diet coke.”
Dave Chappelle was right, we don’t know what white people eat, I personally think its Macaroni and Cheese as a meal by itself.
You might be right. There’s this place in the LES called “S’Mac” that serves nothing but mac n’ cheese in your very own cast-iron skillet, with sizes ranging from “nosh” to “mongo”. That place was FILLED with White people. There were even some that looked like they just got done backpacking and came in off the street looking any kinda way, with a Bud light in their backpack pocket. LOL.
That place was hilarious, though. I went there with some non-White friends of mine, and we all LOVED the food and laughed at the fact that they provided Lactaid right next to the cash register….
….Then we got home and wished we’d bought some. Never again! LOL!
yeah, that whole place sounds like a setup for Black folks. got your whole insides locked up cuz you know like 85 percent of ninjas are lactose intolerant.
I could eat mac n cheese as a meal. I LOVE LOVE LOVE me some mac n cheese. Isn’t it pasta-ish?!
1. Um…yeah.
2. See #1.
3. That is awful. Just awful.
4. I have never liked Coming to America. I know men and women who swear by it, though.
5. They don’t even need to keep score of that anymore.
6. That lesson should have been learned long before now.
7. What in the blue…this makes #3 look great in comparison. I can hardly tell the difference between him and Dream, much less actually like either of them.
8. I wouldn’t imagine there being too much difference, unless maybe people went by region (especially when it comes to southern rappers not in OutKast).
9. The only reprieve women would get from ESPN at my place is when I watch the news…but me watching Tamron Hall, Richelle Carey, Monica Bertran, Maryam Nemazee, or….well, y’all get the point…probably isn’t much better.
10. Chris Rock ran everything down about men and women lying in a ~5 minute segment of Bigger and Blacker.
I used to go to thespark.com as a time-killer because their tests were pretty humorous, then one day that joint became OKCupid and I’ve never been back since.
As far as sports go, e-Spin has been completely eliminated from my daily routine. I find everything I need to and in much more death since I stopped dealing with that channel’s repeated goonery several years ago. I get the message, though.
And by “death” I mean “detail…” #howisthatevenatypo
You prolly meant depth.
dont you dare talk bad about ESPN.
they might hear you.
If they do hear me, then it’ll show up on Sportscenter along with other trivial items that take the place of actual game highlights. If it doesn’t show up on Sportscenter, it’ll just end up like all the other legitimate criticisms that the network won’t address.
I peeped this earlier today. Reading that article made me chortle. Especially the part about inserting “f*cking” I between…well, I won’t rehash or spoil.
wtf was up with “I am cool” though? For real? Say it enough and you’ll be it? Meh.
all black men are cool. its part of our DNA. sh*t, even Steve Urkel found the cool jean. its just like the fact that all Black people can play bass.
and yes, putting f*cking between nearly everything makes it sound better…as long as its like two words. if its three words, like say…very f*cking smart brothas it doesnt work so well.
actually, that works just fine. i stand corrected.
ooooops pow surprise.
Re- “I’m cool”. They didn’t say the phrases were standalone,but that they were frequently occurring.So it doesn’t mean guys were describing themselves,they may have been using the phrase “I’m cool” in the sense of “I’m accepting of…”
I suspect a lot of the usage was from phrases like,”If a chick has a few kids,I’m cool with it”.
I dunno.
Imma beat it up! YUUUUUUUUUUUUUUP!
Its obvious why guys love Trey Songz.
And GUCCI burrrr, burrrr….
*sigh*
Anyway, I found this whole race thing interesting. >_< I've never seen the color purple all the way through. Oprah was a little TOOOO convincing in her role, but on the real…I just got bored and stopped watching it. I've tired multiple times, but it doesn't really do anything for me.
that’s cuz you watching it wrong. you need to watch it in a room full of ninjas who’ve seen it before AND realize its a comedy. THEN…just wait til Sug Avery tells her daddy that “i’se married nah”
its impossible not to act that scene out over and over again. hell, i’m about to say it in my office right now to somebody i Know hasn’t seen it.
i just need a ring.
“i just need a ring.”
And me.
http://bit.ly/EpvC
kinda off topic:
My roomie and I were walking to the metro station a few weekends ago and we came across a very friendly squirrel. Then the squirrel got overly friendly and came up on us and, I swear, he did that dramatic move!!!
O_O
THAT. IS. FANTASTIC.
I kinda wish that happened to me. Here’s to hoping.
Your list had me in stitches.
The religion piece is kinda weird. On the one hand, I feel like it’s a setup. One of the questions on the OKC profile is name six things you can’t live without. I am assuming this where all the Black people start giving honor to God, deacon, first lady, etc. But I wonder if on any other dating site where they wouldn’t ask this question, would Blacks be this vocal about their religion? More vocal than other races, sure. But THIS vocal?
I noticed Alicia Keys showed up and damn near all other races of women. It’s really strange actually. I mean the Middle Eastern women love her. The Asian women love her. What in the world is going on when every woman is shoutin out Alicia Keys? I guess this makes sense why she’s still selling. I personally like her music but it ain’t what it used to be.
on A.Keys yeah, i’m more surprised she’s still popular after the whole Mashonda-Swizz-Beats issue…
I suspect that Alicia Keys was at the top of the charts when many of them wrote their profile of what they like. I’m sure that if you had a website launch today asking those same questions, whomever is hot right now would be listed.
…you make a lot of sense…
And even less so after the recent news of her wanting Swizz Beatz other children (Mashonda’s and that other chick in London or something) to call her mommy. I mean… “umi.”
And no Beyonce… Shocking. Maybe there is hope for my people.
actually, now that you mention it, i am completely shocked that beyonce aint on the woman’s list.i have to wonder when these profiles were pulled or if recently, how long these profiles have sat stagnant bc india.arie? she aint done anything relevant in years but she’s on the list whereas beyonce is like the queen bee out this ho.
Right??? I’m just saying.
yea, I would have expected to see Bey over Alicia on EVERY list. especially after the whole homewrecking situation.
does that mean homewrecking is no longer passe’?
“But I wonder if on any other dating site where they wouldn’t ask this question, would Blacks be this vocal about their religion?”
The answer is YES. I’ve read profiles on plentyoffish, yahoo personals, and webdate. Damn near every other profile listed that her man MUST have a strong relationship with God, be God-fearing, must know Christ, or something along those lines. What I found more interesting is the number of them who contacted me in-spite of my profile indicating that I’m agnostic.
coughthatscuzwomenarefullofsh*tcough
even though I’m a woman…I cosign! Women have rules, until we meet the exception to the rule. And thats it.
@Cayenne
“Women have rules, until we meet the exception to the rule. And thats it.
“
The exceptions have girlfriends. The rules are single. Look around.
The non-religious chicks don’t do online dating, maybe? *smirks*
I noticed the East Indians and Asians had freakonomics, math, engineer and Bay Area.
I also noticed groups that weren’t white or black had more words to describe their ethnicity within their race. One is not only Latino or Asian but more specific about being Dominican, Cuban, Korean, or Taiwanese (Taiwan).
Another thing that struck me was the description that men had for themselves. Brothas frequently commented on being cool, Latinos on being funny, Asians, Middle Eastern, and Indian on being simple.
Asian Pacific Islanders and Brothas both said they were tall, dark, and handsome.
I feel like the men were trying to overcompensate for something with those descriptors? Like are black men insecure that they’re not seen as cool enough? asians think they should be simple to be attractive? It’s interesting that these lined up the way they did.
I wonder. See, (for the brothas) I didn’t see it as over-compensation because “cool” is the description so many of mine use when describing a good personality. I also think it’s one of the few descriptors that is safe for a brotha to use without him being full of himself, a diva-dude, or a douche. It’s masculine and who doesn’t like folks that are cool people? Cool is a good median. That’s what I thought when I saw it…
I with you in wondering if simple is attractive? Is it considered masculine? I wonder if the “simple” description might be attractive because it’s practical? Or is it attractive not to be becomplicated? Owno. I’m wondering about that one too. I can’t call it.
I’m pretty sure I’ve told a woman that I’m a simple man when she’s asked me to describe myself before. Sh*t. My father’s default answer when you ask him to tell you about himself is that he’s a simple man.
I have no clue why we say we’re simple. I think it’s our way of saying, for the most part, we’ve got our sh*t together. I think. I’ve never thought about it before.
I have no clue why we say we’re simple.
As a fan (and sometimey adherent) to Eastern Philosophies, I have to say that Humility is a BIG part of those ways of thinking… which is why it becomes a sought after quality… My dad is also into Eastern philosophies and Kung Fu (I’m serious, if he could become a shaolin, he would be. Lol) and the first word he’ll use to describe himself is simple… most people will tell you he is humble.
And personally, I dig it.
i dig it too. i like you Sula…no homo…
I like you too Yayer!!!
Dead @ no homo.
I think you said what I felt, but I couldn’t articulate at the moment. Classes, practicum and research have had me ripping and running all week.
I think it’s more of what a culture deems important…
Asian cultures usually emphasize simplicity and humbleness as qualities… while we all know that we (the black people) will do anything for “the cool in ya”…
“I also noticed groups that weren’t white or black had more words to describe their ethnicity within their race. One is not only Latino or Asian but more specific”
I think this is because Latino and Asian are so broad. When someone says they’re asian, I have to give the mental side eye like “where in asia?” Do you know how many countries/ethnicities are within asia? And Latino? They get real specific with this because in the Latin community, it’s all about culture not race. I could be wrong but I honestly think we’re the only ones who draw the black/white categories.
right…plus, african was mentioned on the men and women’s list so if there was some direct africanness i’m guessing it was also pointed out.
of course for most of us the most region specific we can get is..”i’m from the south, we got something to say”. saying, i’m from omaha doesnt really sound appealling so i’d probably leave that off too.
no shots at omaha.
@ SFG
‘When someone says they’re asian, I have to give the mental side eye like “where in asia?” Do you know how many countries/ethnicities are within asia?’
i give you props for being American and asking this,sadly most Americans are very ignorant and don’t know which country is located where so it’s easier for someone to just say ‘I’m from Asia’. i remember when one of my friends first got here (foreign student ) she would tell people she was from Nepal and they would immediately ask ‘where is that?’ so now she just says she is from Asia.
Things that made me chuckle/ smh:
-”Gucci Mane” coming before “2pac”
-”Trey Songz” coming before “My man”
-While I, a white female, could only relate to about 10% of the things typical of my gender/race, I find I relate to about 80% of that of black males.
well i heard somebody say recently that white chick is the new black man so it makes sense.
…?
exactly.
7. Men love Trey Songz more than women.
This could also be written as “there are a lot of gay men out there.”
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LOL! I guess a lot of men have man crushes on him? He’s handsome, but not all that, I have two songs by him on my ipod and don’t need anymore. If they want to take their man crushes a little further, there are apps for that
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I can’t get down with any man who Stans for Trey Songz. Trey is ridiculous enough as it is, I don’t need to know about his man Stans either.
Yep Liz, agreed.
Ridiculously annoying? Agreed squared.
Haters.
yep… that all I got.
Man crush is just a euphemism for I will touch my toes for (insert name of male here). The Trey inclusion may just be a hook to get women to land on your profile when they search for Mr. Songz.
Trey Songz is probably the hoodrat lure. I’d guess that a dude trying to lure a reading chick would put poetry or alicia keys or india.arie.
trey songz reaches a much wider demographic of women that i’d assume be willing to play naked games quicker.