Observations About OKCupid’s Observations: VSB Style

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For those unfamiliar with OKCupid...google it.

Jokes. OKCupid is a free online dating service much like many of the others used by millions of people nationwide trying to find love over the Internets. The difference between OKCupid and the other sites however is that, the people who run the site often provide statistical analyses of the users based upon the profiles created by the individuals. Now the point isn’t to make some overarching statement about the community, but more or less to give some interesting pictures of the community at large. Thus finds this most recent article written by the staff entitled “The REAL Stuff White People Like”.

What follows are some really hilarious, but REALLY interesting tidbits about the various races, indicated by tag clouds to illustrate the tastes and preferences most commonly referenced for the different races. You should peep the article to read about white people, Asians, Latinos, etc but I’m going to focus on the Black men and women, since most of us here are Black men and women. I’m a rapper racist. Not sure what that means but Lil Wayne said it so it must be poignant.

Also, it will help if you are able to look at the tag clouds listed on OK Cupid in order to follow along with some of these observations. Further, every bullet point should be read as beginning with, “…according to OKCupid…”

Here’s the tag clouds for Black men:

and then the one for Black Women:

1. Black folks REALLY love them some soul food.

So much so that for whatever odd reason, men and women BOTH made mention of it on dating profiles. I’d like to say I understand that but unless its men saying they want a woman who cooks soul food and then women saying they can cook soul food, I’m at a loss. I mean, the tv show AND movie Soul Food both kind of blew a** so that can’t be the culprit. Then again, if all the men are talking about the Goodie Mob album it would make sense but not really. Basically, you ninjas eat too much. Stop being fat.

2. Women REALLY love The Color Purple and Alicia Keys…oh yeah, and God.

If you ask 10 women on the street to name their favorite movie, 9/10 will say TCP. This really isn’t a shocker and since we tie so much of our personality into our interests into our likes and dislikes it makes sense for that to be such a high trend. However, I am surprised by Alicia Keys. Then again I’m not at the same time. For some reason, women look to her as some sort of beacon of light in the R&B world despite her vapid ass music. Ironically however, Mary J doesn’t show up at all which I can only take to mean that everybody agrees that crackhead Mary was the best one, hands down. And wow do Black women love them some Jesus. In fact, if you’re a man looking for a woman, just run up on a chick and say that you love Jesus and based on these stats she should at least become interested. Throw in Alice Walker and Alicia Keys and you might get some chandelier sechs out of it. And a prayer.

3. Gucci Mane must be way more popular amongst the reading crowd than we ever imagined.

On this list of most popular terms for men, Gucci Mane is #12 right after Nas and right before The Roots and Kanye West. As Fantasia said while trying to read a book, WHAT THE F*CK? Given that its mostly reading in ninjas signing up for these services since you have to read to use the Internets, I’m amazed by this. What would compel somebody listing their interests to really mention Gucci Mane? Straight up? I feel sorry for their mothers.

4. Coming To America is more popular to women than it is to men.

This also amazes me as most men I know swear by this. But it didn’t make the men’s list of most frequent terms. Menace II Society did though. That’s not surprising. And here we are saying that women don’t have a good sense of humor (we didn’t say that but motherf*ckers who can’t read thought we did so what the h*ll) and more women know whats up. Who’d a thunk it.

5. India.Arie stays losing to Alicia Keys.

No surprise here. But does anybody else think India.Arie is getting some kind of sick joy out of Alicia’s “public disgrace” as tempered as it was/is?

6. Zane and Tyler Perry are popular amongst the boob set.

Fellas, never ever ask a woman to suggest a good book or movie.

7. Men love Trey Songz more than women.

This could also be written as “there are a lot of gay men out there.”

8. The men’s list reads like a Rock The Bells lineup.

This isn’t a bad thing. What it says is that while men might disagree on the order, we all generally agree on the best living rappers/groups.

9. ESPN reigns supreme.

Ladies, suck it up. We’re gonna watch the reruns of ESPN over and over because it matters to us more than you do.

10. The women’s list seems predictable but guys….we have issues.

Hitch? Trey Songz? Gucci Mane? Calling ourselves tall, dark, and handsome when most of us aren’t tall nor handsome? Men are liars with odd fetishes. Ladies? Watch it out there.

Those are some of my observations about this list. Are there any interesting observations you can make about these OKCupid stats? About any race?

Run tell that!

-VSB P aka THE ARSONIST aka TANGLE JIG P aka VITAMIN P aka GO KING BEEF aka GIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIRL HE A 3

289 thoughts on “Observations About OKCupid’s Observations: VSB Style”

  2. “ESPN reigns supreme.

    Ladies, suck it up. We’re gonna watch the reruns of ESPN over and over because it matters to us more than you do.”

    A-phucking-men!

    “Real Stuff White People like

    the hitchhiker’s guide to the galaxy”

    Y-phuckin-es!

    “Real Stuff Black People like
    Mos Def
    Nas
    The Roots
    ATCQ
    Talib Kweli”

    That looks like the workout playlist on my ipod touch

    “…whereas no foods are distinct for white people, unless you count diet coke.”

    Dave Chappelle was right, we don’t know what white people eat, I personally think its Macaroni and Cheese as a meal by itself.

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    • You might be right. There’s this place in the LES called “S’Mac” that serves nothing but mac n’ cheese in your very own cast-iron skillet, with sizes ranging from “nosh” to “mongo”. That place was FILLED with White people. There were even some that looked like they just got done backpacking and came in off the street looking any kinda way, with a Bud light in their backpack pocket. LOL.

      That place was hilarious, though. I went there with some non-White friends of mine, and we all LOVED the food and laughed at the fact that they provided Lactaid right next to the cash register….

      ….Then we got home and wished we’d bought some. Never again! LOL!

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  3. 1. Um…yeah.
    2. See #1.
    3. That is awful. Just awful.
    4. I have never liked Coming to America. I know men and women who swear by it, though.
    5. They don’t even need to keep score of that anymore.
    6. That lesson should have been learned long before now.
    7. What in the blue…this makes #3 look great in comparison. I can hardly tell the difference between him and Dream, much less actually like either of them.
    8. I wouldn’t imagine there being too much difference, unless maybe people went by region (especially when it comes to southern rappers not in OutKast).
    9. The only reprieve women would get from ESPN at my place is when I watch the news…but me watching Tamron Hall, Richelle Carey, Monica Bertran, Maryam Nemazee, or….well, y’all get the point…probably isn’t much better.
    10. Chris Rock ran everything down about men and women lying in a ~5 minute segment of Bigger and Blacker.

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  4. I used to go to thespark.com as a time-killer because their tests were pretty humorous, then one day that joint became OKCupid and I’ve never been back since.

    As far as sports go, e-Spin has been completely eliminated from my daily routine. I find everything I need to and in much more death since I stopped dealing with that channel’s repeated goonery several years ago. I get the message, though.

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  5. I peeped this earlier today. Reading that article made me chortle. Especially the part about inserting “f*cking” I between…well, I won’t rehash or spoil.

    wtf was up with “I am cool” though? For real? Say it enough and you’ll be it? Meh.

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    • all black men are cool. its part of our DNA. sh*t, even Steve Urkel found the cool jean. its just like the fact that all Black people can play bass.

      and yes, putting f*cking between nearly everything makes it sound better…as long as its like two words. if its three words, like say…very f*cking smart brothas it doesnt work so well.

      actually, that works just fine. i stand corrected.

      ooooops pow surprise.

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    • Re- “I’m cool”. They didn’t say the phrases were standalone,but that they were frequently occurring.So it doesn’t mean guys were describing themselves,they may have been using the phrase “I’m cool” in the sense of “I’m accepting of…”
      I suspect a lot of the usage was from phrases like,”If a chick has a few kids,I’m cool with it”.
      I dunno.

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  6. Imma beat it up! YUUUUUUUUUUUUUUP!

    Its obvious why guys love Trey Songz. :D And GUCCI burrrr, burrrr….
    *sigh*

    Anyway, I found this whole race thing interesting. >_< I've never seen the color purple all the way through. Oprah was a little TOOOO convincing in her role, but on the real…I just got bored and stopped watching it. I've tired multiple times, but it doesn't really do anything for me.

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    • that’s cuz you watching it wrong. you need to watch it in a room full of ninjas who’ve seen it before AND realize its a comedy. THEN…just wait til Sug Avery tells her daddy that “i’se married nah”

      its impossible not to act that scene out over and over again. hell, i’m about to say it in my office right now to somebody i Know hasn’t seen it.

      i just need a ring.

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  7. Your list had me in stitches.

    The religion piece is kinda weird. On the one hand, I feel like it’s a setup. One of the questions on the OKC profile is name six things you can’t live without. I am assuming this where all the Black people start giving honor to God, deacon, first lady, etc. But I wonder if on any other dating site where they wouldn’t ask this question, would Blacks be this vocal about their religion? More vocal than other races, sure. But THIS vocal?

    I noticed Alicia Keys showed up and damn near all other races of women. It’s really strange actually. I mean the Middle Eastern women love her. The Asian women love her. What in the world is going on when every woman is shoutin out Alicia Keys? I guess this makes sense why she’s still selling. I personally like her music but it ain’t what it used to be.

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    • on A.Keys yeah, i’m more surprised she’s still popular after the whole Mashonda-Swizz-Beats issue…

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      • I suspect that Alicia Keys was at the top of the charts when many of them wrote their profile of what they like. I’m sure that if you had a website launch today asking those same questions, whomever is hot right now would be listed.

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      • And even less so after the recent news of her wanting Swizz Beatz other children (Mashonda’s and that other chick in London or something) to call her mommy. I mean… “umi.”

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      • actually, now that you mention it, i am completely shocked that beyonce aint on the woman’s list.i have to wonder when these profiles were pulled or if recently, how long these profiles have sat stagnant bc india.arie? she aint done anything relevant in years but she’s on the list whereas beyonce is like the queen bee out this ho.

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    • yea, I would have expected to see Bey over Alicia on EVERY list. especially after the whole homewrecking situation.

      does that mean homewrecking is no longer passe’?

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    • “But I wonder if on any other dating site where they wouldn’t ask this question, would Blacks be this vocal about their religion?”

      The answer is YES. I’ve read profiles on plentyoffish, yahoo personals, and webdate. Damn near every other profile listed that her man MUST have a strong relationship with God, be God-fearing, must know Christ, or something along those lines. What I found more interesting is the number of them who contacted me in-spite of my profile indicating that I’m agnostic.

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  8. I noticed the East Indians and Asians had freakonomics, math, engineer and Bay Area.

    I also noticed groups that weren’t white or black had more words to describe their ethnicity within their race. One is not only Latino or Asian but more specific about being Dominican, Cuban, Korean, or Taiwanese (Taiwan).

    Another thing that struck me was the description that men had for themselves. Brothas frequently commented on being cool, Latinos on being funny, Asians, Middle Eastern, and Indian on being simple.

    Asian Pacific Islanders and Brothas both said they were tall, dark, and handsome.

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    • I feel like the men were trying to overcompensate for something with those descriptors? Like are black men insecure that they’re not seen as cool enough? asians think they should be simple to be attractive? It’s interesting that these lined up the way they did.

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      • I wonder. See, (for the brothas) I didn’t see it as over-compensation because “cool” is the description so many of mine use when describing a good personality. I also think it’s one of the few descriptors that is safe for a brotha to use without him being full of himself, a diva-dude, or a douche. It’s masculine and who doesn’t like folks that are cool people? Cool is a good median. That’s what I thought when I saw it…

        I with you in wondering if simple is attractive? Is it considered masculine? I wonder if the “simple” description might be attractive because it’s practical? Or is it attractive not to be becomplicated? Owno. I’m wondering about that one too. I can’t call it.

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        • I’m pretty sure I’ve told a woman that I’m a simple man when she’s asked me to describe myself before. Sh*t. My father’s default answer when you ask him to tell you about himself is that he’s a simple man.

          I have no clue why we say we’re simple. I think it’s our way of saying, for the most part, we’ve got our sh*t together. I think. I’ve never thought about it before.

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          • I have no clue why we say we’re simple.

            As a fan (and sometimey adherent) to Eastern Philosophies, I have to say that Humility is a BIG part of those ways of thinking… which is why it becomes a sought after quality… My dad is also into Eastern philosophies and Kung Fu (I’m serious, if he could become a shaolin, he would be. Lol) and the first word he’ll use to describe himself is simple… most people will tell you he is humble.

            And personally, I dig it.

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      • I think it’s more of what a culture deems important…

        Asian cultures usually emphasize simplicity and humbleness as qualities… while we all know that we (the black people) will do anything for “the cool in ya”… :)

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    • “I also noticed groups that weren’t white or black had more words to describe their ethnicity within their race. One is not only Latino or Asian but more specific”

      I think this is because Latino and Asian are so broad. When someone says they’re asian, I have to give the mental side eye like “where in asia?” Do you know how many countries/ethnicities are within asia? And Latino? They get real specific with this because in the Latin community, it’s all about culture not race. I could be wrong but I honestly think we’re the only ones who draw the black/white categories.

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      • right…plus, african was mentioned on the men and women’s list so if there was some direct africanness i’m guessing it was also pointed out.

        of course for most of us the most region specific we can get is..”i’m from the south, we got something to say”. saying, i’m from omaha doesnt really sound appealling so i’d probably leave that off too.

        no shots at omaha.

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      • @ SFG

        ‘When someone says they’re asian, I have to give the mental side eye like “where in asia?” Do you know how many countries/ethnicities are within asia?’

        i give you props for being American and asking this,sadly most Americans are very ignorant and don’t know which country is located where so it’s easier for someone to just say ‘I’m from Asia’. i remember when one of my friends first got here (foreign student ) she would tell people she was from Nepal and they would immediately ask ‘where is that?’ so now she just says she is from Asia.

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  9. Things that made me chuckle/ smh:

    -”Gucci Mane” coming before “2pac”
    -”Trey Songz” coming before “My man”
    -While I, a white female, could only relate to about 10% of the things typical of my gender/race, I find I relate to about 80% of that of black males.

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  10. 7. Men love Trey Songz more than women.

    This could also be written as “there are a lot of gay men out there.”
    ___________________________________________________________

    LOL! I guess a lot of men have man crushes on him? He’s handsome, but not all that, I have two songs by him on my ipod and don’t need anymore. If they want to take their man crushes a little further, there are apps for that :) .

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  11. This is a hood site. Cricket has allowed everyone internet access and cvs is giving away netbooks for 100
    So damn near every house in the hood got internet.
    I know its hood cause the womens site lists “in nursing”
    And everyone know nursing is the new “daycare center” come up for hood womens.. Lol

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    • @ shay-d-lady you are so right. A friend recommended the site to me and I gave it a chance for a week. Seriously approached by a dude quickly approaching 30 who lived with his grandma, no school, no job, no hopes, no dreams, no aspirations, nothing. And he had the nerve to tell me he was ready to settle down! I was like settle down with what?!? That was when I was through with OKCupid.

      I love how this is post that finally gets me from reader to commenter

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    • LOL. I caught that too. So we’re all going to school to get a degree in nursing huh?

      No judgment tho. My cousin’s a nurse!

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      • I know its hood cause the womens site lists “in nursing”
        And everyone know nursing is the new “daycare center” come up for hood womens.. Lol
        ______________________________________________________________

        I really dislike you…LOL.

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    • i ain’t gonna like (i’m not 50 tyson) but i almost looked into cricket. im like, man, this service is CHEAAAAAAAAP. but those phones look like straight a**. the TXT phone looks like a post-it note with buttons that got thrown up on by a garbage pail kid and two #gremlinsafterdark.

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      • WHAAAAAAAAAa?
        Nah man. Crcket internet bundled w/phone is $35 here and though you pay for the handsets, you can get some good ones. I even think they have Crackberries now. No way in hayull I’d pay full price for a phone for my kid,but $80 a month for unlimited phone,text,internet,and broadband?? No worries about kids usin up too many minutes,texting too much etc? Can’t beat it.

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  12. Dudes like Trey Songz? Like for real? Really? I thought his fan base was 18 year old girls and Drake. Who knew?! :-D

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  13. Seriously, if Zane is on your reading list and you’re over the age of 13 …. no. Just no.

    Do/did India.Arie & Alicia Keys have some beef in the past?

    Why, oh why are black people so obsessed with talking about God/Jesus/their church etc.
    I mean I get for some people that religion is a big part of their life but damn, really, you were in the club from Tuesday – Sunday, in a different apartment every night, haven’t been to church in a month and you’re gonna tell me you’re God-fearing and you need a SO that puts Jesus at the top of their list?

    GTFOH.

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      • I picked up one before. Scanned through in the bookstore. But actually slapped down some currency for it? Hells naw. I’m tryin to be ignant for free, folks.

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    • @juicyjui
      Ha-ha-ha-ha! I’m with you sistah. The hypocrisy of some folk is hilarious.
      And I’m lost on the whole Aicia/India beef thing as well. Whats that about?

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      • I believe it’s because the year Alicia Keys’ debut album came out and the year India.Arie’s debut came out, they were both up for a bunch of Grammy’s. Alicia Keys got FIVE Grammy’s (tying with Lauryn Hill’s, “The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill”, which I think is grade-A bologna), and India.Arie got ZERO. I was a bit heated that year, I must admit. But I don’t know if there’s STILL a beef…

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        • yeah it all stems from that to me seeing as how India.Arie had the better album and honestly more pivotal and substantive album. Alicia got beaucoup light skint points and India.Arie looks like herself. she should have won something. so she went back to the lab and started making music for our grandparents with jill scott.

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  14. Why does The Coldest Winter Ever have to be the female list?!?!?

    I used to like Alicia Keys, not sure how I feel about her now. She’s making beige women look bad. Unless, Mashonda is just plain crazy…

    The ‘no kids’ on the men’s list almost makes up for the Trey Songz…

    These lists aren’t very deep. I’m surprised I don’t see Obama or weed.

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    • The questions ( Do you have kids? How many kids do you have?) are amongst the first questions women ask me. These guys are just being proactive and answering the question before it is asked. This shows the abilities to learn from past experiences, look ahead and deal with situations before they arise, and an openness to reveal tidbits of their personal life in order to meet that special someone. From my vantage point those are admirable traits.

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      • There’s already an option to declare if you have kids or not on your profile. these guys are clearly trying to get over on not having knocked anybody up (yet).

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      • I’M often the one getting asked whether I have kids, ’cause I hang out with the bourgeoisie set from time to time and those dudes are not only wearing their childless state like a badge of honor, but they’re running from women with kids like they have the ebola virus. I’m surprised “no kids” wasn’t up their on the WOMEN’S pages.

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        • “but they’re running from women with kids like they have the ebola virus”

          Umm, yeah, pretty much, lol. I hate to admit it but that’s kind of what I do.

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      • The questions ( Do you have kids? How many kids do you have?) are amongst the first questions women ask me.

        Like it was very clearly documented last week in a post on this here VSB… I personally don’t ask the question, because I don’t encounter many single people with kids but It’s absolutely not strange that men describe themselves that way…

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    • “Why does The Coldest Winter Ever have to be the female list?!?!?”

      This is on EVERYONE’S Facebook book list. I was like…o_O. I felt less and less Black everytime I went to someone’s profile. Still haven’t mustered up the courage to read that joint.

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  15. Even as a wrestling fan, I’m surprised that WWE beat ‘more money’, all video game references, and all sports references outside of basketball.

    Cool, calm, chillin’, and laid-back guy? If you have to tell women that you are these things, then you’re not…and VSSs are smart enough to run for cover in such situations.

    Surprised soca is that higher than hip hop and R&B among women, even though I’m from South Florida. The fact that ‘The Coldest Winter Ever’ is that high…um, I don’t know. Then again, I’m not one for fiction to begin with.

    I started to wonder (okay, still wondering) about how representative the lists are, but there seems to be enough of a sample size to make some inferences.

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    • Cool, calm, chillin’, and laid-back guy? If you have to tell women that you are these things, then you’re not…and VSSs are smart enough to run for cover in such situations.

      we have about 100,000 comments that starkly contradict your last sentence.

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  16. #1 “Basically, you ninjas eat too much. Stop being fat.” The truth! This is how Big Mama died
    #2 TCP is the most quotable movie ever. I’m sure The Big Lebowski is on the Black list. Props, to God, the Lord AND Christ for making this list. Sorry Jesus.
    #3 0_______O
    #4 Ladies of a certain age like CTA because it came out before Eddie did. *giggles*
    #5 Well, AKeys is her hair. Didn’t VSB just have a post about this issue?
    #6 & #7 Zane and Trey Songz have figured out how to make sex boring. I’m really surprised more people haven’t joined the priesthood after reading/listening
    #8 It reads like a RTB lineup…other than Gucci mane. Burrrr.
    #9 Pleae – I’ve been watching ESPN2 24/7. Okay, it is the US Open, but still….
    #10 Try [not a typo] Songz and Denzel? How YOU doin?

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  17. I think I am one of the few Black females that DO NOT like the COLOR PURPLE, yes I get she overcame and after years of abuse, realized she was a powerful woman yada yada, the movie is depressing to me, I laugh at inapppriate things, liek Dayum I’m goin’ to hell for laughin’ but that ish was funny as hell, just like I hated the movie/book PRECIOUS, but some parts were funny as hell (Precious haulin’ ass out of the chicken spot, with the chicken bucket)..Lawd forgive me…
    –Also GAY Songz is lame ass hell, he was talkin’ ish about R.Kelly(musically wise) I’m like NInja you Cut your Braids off, got some tats, and everysong on your most recent album is About Effing not Love Making or Inspirational joints like bipolar Kells
    –I love Alicia & India, they came out around the same time early 00s,remember the Grammy’s Alicia won,,she got lightskinned points, and no matter the drama/opions about her in Swizzy/Mashonda, I still love her and India, they are 2 beautiful black women who can WRITE SING and PLAY INSTRUMENTS, Piano and Guitar..and will shidd on Rihanna etc any, also they give back to the community and Africa before it was the “Trend” thing to do

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    • –Also GAY Songz is lame ass hell, he was talkin’ ish about R.Kelly(musically wise) I’m like NInja you Cut your Braids off, got some tats, and everysong on your most recent album is About Effing not Love Making or Inspirational joints like bipolar Kells

      while i dont think he’s lame as hell, he is 100 percent doing r kelly’s steez. every song sounds like an r kelly song. EVERY.SONG. even the way he sings. his voice just isnt as heavy as Roberts.

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      • @PJ

        “his voice just isnt as heavy as Roberts”

        Just pointing out the fact that you referred to the “Arruh” as Robert (as if you two are boys). LOL!

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  18. Hilarious… idk if I’m laughing harder at the stuff on the mens lists or your post.

    I’m guessing men picked Trey Songz cause they think women will like that… at least I hope that’s it

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  19. These articles are super interesting and there are plenty of bad news in this article if you are a black male atheist or agnostic. Another article looked at the fact that even though black women are more likely to respond to a message they are the wet two-dollar bill of gender-race combo even when it comes to black men. My heart goes out to you ladies, it rough out there for y’all. And oh yeah white folx are racist as fuch! Especially white women, they ain’t feeling anyone but white men. Wow! Take some time and read some of these articles guys & gals interesting stuff!

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    • I was just about to comment saying that preferring your own race doesn’t make you racist, then I looked at the comment section in the article you mentioned and I think I may have changed my mind.

      I also found it strange that BW were more likely to respond to other races. I always had the impression that most black girls weren’t into NBG’s(non-blk guys).

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    • @Jaybilal

      ‘Another article looked at the fact that even though black women are more likely to respond to a message they are the wet two-dollar bill of gender-race combo even when it comes to black men. My heart goes out to you ladies, it rough out there for y’all.’

      i’ve read that article before ( the one talkambout black women get the least replies even from black men) but today i really took the time to read the comments and the posts from black women just broke my heart…

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    • These articles are super interesting and there are plenty of bad news in this article if you are a black male atheist or agnostic.

      i’d agree with this if i didnt believe that most of these women put all that jesus jonesin’ on the list b/c they think thats what men want to see and like. of course most black people love them some jesus but i’d bet money that the large majority of these women would date a dude who wasn’t on team hayseuss. all you have to do is hit them with the belief in a higher power or star trek and you’re good.

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      • When I was coming up in the church, I knew what everyone’s mother looked like, but thre were lots of kids whose father’s I’d never seen at church, even though their parents were married and dad was at home. If a dude comes along a girl really likes, she’ll put alot of that type of stuff to the side.

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  20. Ish like this makes me cringe. I hate it when other races put us under the microscope like we’re effing science projects or something. From studies pointing out wealth/education/prison/health gaps to manipulating statistics in order to make black women believe they are going to be single forever. It’s just TOO much. I’ve even seen articles with college professors doing dissertations on ‘how black people use twitter’. It just makes me feel uncomfortable reading them although I can’t help, but to read. All it does is reinforce stereotypes. Which might be cool for some, but sux for others like me. Out-liers. I swear this country is too damn race obsessed. I nv use to think about race this much until I started paying more attention to the news media with articles like this.

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      • Yes, I know they put everybody under the microscope, but I always get the feeling that everybody is mostly obsessed with us. I’d get into details, but… wellll… I’m just not gonna get into it right now.

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    • I swear this country is too damn race obsessed. I nv use to think about race this much until I started paying more attention to the news media with articles like this.

      well i’m completely race obsessed. it fascinates me. it makes me want to pick flowers and slap bunnies. it makes me smile and grimace. why did mcdonald’s name a character grimace? was he representative of indigestion you get from eating their food?

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      • well i’m completely race obsessed. it fascinates me. it makes me want to pick flowers and slap bunnies. it makes me smile and grimace. why did mcdonald’s name a character grimace? was he representative of indigestion you get from eating their food?

        Lmao. I admit, I’m quite race obsessed too now. Thing is I preferred it better when it really wasn’t important to me. Sometimes I guess when newspaper articles and college courses bludgeon you to death with ‘race’ the concept starts to infiltrate your mind more often. Before I used to wake up thinking I was just a man, now every morning I wake up and the first thing I think to myself is… I am a BLACK man.

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        • Considering how much we talk about it, sometimes you have to wonder how healthy it is for our society to remain so fixated on it….

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      • “it makes me smile and grimace. why did mcdonald’s name a character grimace? was he representative of indigestion you get from eating their food?”

        WHY did my mind go directly to McDonald’s Grimace before reading your next sentence…then when I read it. I cracked UP. But yeah, his character makes me uncomfortable. And not just because he’s a big purple blob, but because of his name. Just makes a ninja wanna cringe.

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  21. The guys just put Trey Songz to make the women interested. I’m wondering what Jamaican goes with. Food? I didn’t know lip gloss was popular enough to be mentioned on a dating profile. I mean I love it, but that was interesting.

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    • Yeah I thought that was very interesting actually. Black women emphasize their lips hence lip gloss and this is so true! I dont know any black woman whos just content with some lip stain, or just mascara when theyre getting dressed up. One of my girls repeatedly says she likes her lips to look like she just got done eating some fried chicken looll. A bit extreme but I think the moderate shine does look great on our lips generally. White women emphasize mainly their eyes with mascara, Latina women emphasize both and Asian women demonstrate practicality by lip balm being main makeup of choice which ties into their whole ‘I am a simple person’ deal. Who knows how accurate but interesting nevertheless

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      • One of my girls repeatedly says she likes her lips to look like she just got done eating some fried chicken looll.

        does she also walk out the house baby powdered up looking like she just rolled around in the flour she used to make the chicken that greased her lips all up?

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        • Hahaha..err….no. Shes what you would call a pretty solid 8 or 9, makeup done just right, all matte and s*** except with extra glossy lips.

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    • “The guys just put Trey Songz to make the women interested.”

      Yeah, that’s what I figured. I’m betting about 85.6% of the Trey mentions are about inventing sex in 1986 or something. The remaining percentage (14.4% for those without calculators), probably said “YUUUUP!!” after listing, “God is love.” at the end of their profile.

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    • One of the questions on the profile is ‘name 6 things you can’t live without’. I am assuming that’s where we put in lip gloss lol.

      Jamaican is probably going under favorite cuisine a lot.

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  22. I quickly noticed the BW love Color Purple trend when I first got onto Facebook and read a lot of friends interests. Damn near universal.

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  23. I just wanted to point out that in the commentary they mention that black women are the only ones who specifically mention a non black in their words (justin timberlake) but the middle eastern women do too. In their frequency list Nina Simone AND Billie Holiday appear, both Black. and also, almost every group seems to mention alicia keys so does she not count because she is half white/half black so they didnt know what category to put her in? ( as far one ethnic group specifically mentioning someone who is not of that group)

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  24. 1. According to the Wiki, OkCupid got started right around the time Soul Food (the series) was hitting popularity, so I could see that on a lot of the older, non-updated profiles of the ladies, because I hardly know any women that can actually cook whose job didn’t require it.
    As for the Goodie Mob album, yeah, that was great…

    2. I BEEN saying that crackhead Mary was better than HGH-enhanced, technically more sound Mary, but now I have blogological proof. Thanks, P! And it’s funny how women love TCP even though Alice Walker herself is not even in love with the movie.

    3. Gucci Mane huh? Welp…

    4. Yeah, though I’m a little surprised Scarface didn’t show up on the man side.

    5. Like someone said earlier, this game was over a long time ago.

    6. I’ve banned myself from speaking on Tyler Perry anymore. Or Zane.

    7. I don’t know what to make of that, so I won’t try.

    8. Yup. No Lauryn Hill though, huh?

    9. Is it 6:45 AM? Yes. Am I watching SportsCenter? Yes, as well.

    10. Hm, I’m not dark, Hitch was trash, and the whole trey songz thing puzzles me.

    Notice how the woman list includes ‘nursing’ and ‘i attend’ and the dude list has ‘rapping’ and ‘making music.’

    But I think what happened here is not a single dating/social media site phenomenon for us. I think what a lot of us do is look at the profiles around in the same age group and put what we think is popular and will attract more visitors, like glitter dolls and ‘Phenominal Woman.’

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  25. I can’t stand trey songz argghhh so surprising the men love it?
    you know what iv have always found the colour purple boring yes i said it i don’t know why it just not my list of favourite movies.

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  26. “Basically, you ninjas eat too much. Stop being fat.”

    You are really, un-American, P. Being fat is being American. We all get skinty? Then the terrorists win.

    “Ladies, suck it up. We’re gonna watch the reruns of ESPN over and over because it matters to us more than you do.”

    Dayum, ESPN must have that good p*ssy then, huh?

    Also, you know how you feel sorry for the mothers of the ninjas that listed Gucci Mane? I feel sorry for the mothers of the ninjettes that listed “Zane.” Unless the name was followed by “I do not and will never read…”

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      • Since their names rhyme, I’m kinda hoping for the next Gucci Mane song to featured some spoken word intro by Zane.

        LOL @ you being offended just by meeting Zane.

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      • Being “offended” is hilarious. Also, when using “offended” in this case I say it in a way where I fully pronounce the “O” so it’s “O-ffended”.

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  27. If you have to say that you have no kids or that youre tall dark and handsome…you a loser… this aint Waiting to Exhale.

    Trey Songs and Gucci?..you just have poor taste. Same thing goes chicks who like Ms.Perry and Zane’s non writing ass.

    And Im a black woman…favorite movie: Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind , no one and I mean NO ONE can eff with Lauryn Noel Hill (FOH Alicia and India) and I eat all kinds of food….this list is bootleg.

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    • Co-sign no one can eff with lauryn hill simply the best i was listening to her last night thinking can’t wait for her to come back to give Beyonce and rhianna a run for their money

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    • Eternal Sunshine is def one of my favorite movies. its hard for me to watch over and over though b/c its way too deep. first time i watched it, it f*cked me up for a few days. cuz i had some chicks i KNEW i wanted to erase…then i thought about it…

      so i erased them anyway but it was still deep.

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  28. TCP is actually funny as hayell and as someone pointed out above, it’s very quotable.

    I tried okcupid and plentyoffish but I wasn’t satisfied. I liked pof better though.

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      • “does the online dating thing really work for women? have you met quality dudes on those sites?”

        no no and h*lls to the naw. last dude i met online wanted to get married on the first date, had a strange attachment to his mother, and danced like a jigaboo whenever Bmore club music played…no matter where it was playing. did i mention he led droves of people in cupid shuffling every.d*mn.weekend?

        smdh…but I did get some fly Beats by Dre headphones out of it.

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  29. “As Fantasia said while trying to read a book, WHAT THE F*CK?”

    Will laugh all day long now. Thank you.

    Alicia Keys is the prettiest woman in show biz (when she listens to her stylist), don’t hate.

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    • she is? i didnt even know she was pretty until Smoking Aces. okay, thats a lie, i knew she was “pretty” cuz she was light with long hair blah blah. she was stereotypical. but i never thought of her as being very attractive.

      nope, i’m partial to whoopi goldberg.

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      • Whoopi needs love too. I can see how Alicia would not impress everyone. But I wouldn’t just box her in as a typical light skinned chic. Her facial features stop me dead in my tracks. For what it’s worth, I find Beyonce silly and blah.

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  30. not into zane’s smut
    not an a keys fan at all….
    lip stick/stain girl
    I think TCP was a great movie but it wouldn’t make my fav list
    I love the LORD but organized religion is another question…
    Not a law and order fan

    LLS and your #7 P, but um a lot of truth in that statement

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    • on the lipstain, noticed you’ve mentioned it before, been meaning to try it but don’t know if it looks good on women of color (esp those with dark lips like mwa), do you really like it? does it stay on very long? which brand would you recommend?

      hope you see this…

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      • I actually use lip stain more often than I use lip gloss. My combo is lip balm/lip stain and then if I fill extra frilly lip gloss. I am dark skinned and I usually use reds in the wine/burgundy family…

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  31. Justin Timberlake? those have got to come from zombie profiles….Isn’t Robin Thicke the white soul brother nowadays?

    I like OkCupid, but the boys on OkCupid don’t like me :-(

    I;m agnostic, saw Soul Food once. I’m not sure if I ‘like’ The Color Purple, or just ‘know’ it….

    I do love lip gloss, though, but I’m moving to lipstick….

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    • I agree with you on Justin Timberlake. I thought he lost mad points after he let Janet face the brunt of the backlash when he’s the one that ripped the bustier off to expose the bitty. D*ck in the box was funny, and other SNL stuff was funny, but it ain’t squashed.

      I don’t dislike Robin Thicke, but I get the feeling he can’t sing live. Am I wrong? Is he blowin’ and I have no idea?

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  32. really? im supposed to like color purple that much?
    i think i’ve seen the movie once. i know i read the book.
    *kanyeshrug

    i see the jamaicans are reppin hard.. usain bolt to di worrrrrld!!!

    this post made me laugh and do the complete opposite of yesterdays post. lol.

    all i know is, my profile would likely read more like the dudes than the ladies. i would have to post a pic just to prove im a chick. and since we dont have ESPN..i’ll be on my NFL NETWORK all day/erry-day. Please and thanks.

    HAPPY NFL KICKOFF DAY!!!
    *does the dougie after PJ teaches me.

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    • Damn, no ESPN in the T Dot? That’s crazy. NFL Network is better anyway. I stopped watching ESPN on Sunday morning last season. NFL GameDay is a hell of a lot better.

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      • i’m sure on satellite or extra extra premium. but we have TSN (the sports network..not even close to ESPN) and the Score (24 hrs sports news network).
        NFL Final with Deion, Rich and Mooch makes me happy after a long day of the football.

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  33. I have a dating profile on pof.com. It’s up there in my top 10 things I should have never done but def a guilty pleasure. You get messages from all sorts of crazies and I never respond which makes the crazies send more messages. It’s good…for research and ish. lol

    My fav movie isn’t even a black film. It’s 9 1/2 Weeks. (I know) I think many black people feel like there are certain things we have to love in order to feel black, like: soul food (the worst food for your health), black films, rappers, basketball, etc. I was proud to see Jamaica in there…who doesn’t love Jamaica?

    I personally came to love Zhane when my single journey started. Makes for a good fictional read. I actually like some Gucci Man. Trey Songz mix tapes are the ish. Alicia Keys is annoying. Jay-Z is overrated…and No not all men are cool. Is Tryna on there? smh

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      • Like what if Mickey got close to your face? Or what if he was chasing you down a dark alley? That’s one scary lookin dude. I’d pee myself.

        Btw, I thought he was so fine until I grew a few years and saw more and more black people. He turned into a skinny white man in 2 years flat.

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    • girl!
      the msgs on POF are sometimes downright HI-LARITY!!!!
      why am i NOT surprised by your fave movie??
      LMAOOOO!!!

      and this:
      I think many black people feel like there are certain things we have to love in order to feel black
      co-sign to the 100000000000th degree.

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      • This is my funny one of the day:
        “girl yuo pics is whassup im be in south beach for october. you shud come see ya boy”
        (no reply)
        “u got me message?”
        (no reply)
        “u make me mad act like u too good for a n*gga dats why i’m good on you”
        (no reply)
        “hey boo how was your day?”

        o_O

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    • I feel you on the movie thing. My all time favorite movie is Enter the Dragon with Bruce Lee. Watching it does take me back to happier times in my life. When my older sister was in high school, she would come home from her job on Friday nights and we would watch badly dubbed kung fu movies while everyone else was asleep.

      I’m like KB. 9 1/2 Weeks: Why I am NOT surprised.

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      • Yeah, like why am I not surprised either.
        Actually, I guess I should be. A part of me expected her favorite movie to be P0RN. Doesnt matter which one, just P0RN.

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      • Old school kung fu flicks are the best! I’m diff so my taste is all over the place. Sobo is right that I do love p0rn but my fav p0rn flick doesn’t even have actual sex in it. lol

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          • LOL ;) I can’t post the link, I’m at work.
            I’ll say it’s a man performing oral on a woman in a very hard core way and what she does to him after makes her my hero. I’ll find a way to share through twitter tonight. lol Sharing is caring.

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            • I am intrigued yet incredibly scared. Especially since you said this woman is your hero, if that is even possible.

              What’s even scarier is that I think I may know what you are talking about. SMH

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            • i would be lying if i said im not arouselycurious. hahahaha.

              yours truly is going to the opening night movie and gala party for the Toronto International Film Festival. I’ll be stalking celebs in my fabulous dress and red shoes. ;)

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            • Psst…lean close cause I don’t want anyone to hear me…one thing she does is squirts all over that man and I never knew women can do this. Is that real? Part of me wants to think it’s pee but I guess it’s not. I don’t know what it is but it’s effing awesome and gross at the same time.

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              • Whoa whoa whoa wait. The resident pervert didn’t know about squirters? You serious? Squirters are a Godsend, as blasphemous as that sounds. Seeing a pron with a woman, especially a black woman squirt, is just a thing of beauty. Reminds me of a joke by Patrice O’Neal.

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              • Actually, SFG, it is called female ejaculation.

                Female ejaculation (commonly known as squirting, gushing and cumming[1]) refers to the expulsion of noticeable amounts of clear fluid by human females from the paraurethral ducts through and around the urethra during or before orgasm. The exact source and nature of the fluid continues to be a topic of debate among medical professionals and is related to doubts over the existence of the G-Spot.

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              • Haha… I thought the same thing like “what is this magnificent glory and how do I do this??” 3 packs of batteries and a calloused finger later and I can’t do it! I like the ones where the guy lays on the floor and all these women squirt on him. I wanna throw up in my mouth wondering what kind of liquid could come out so forceful and not be pee. And this guy was drinking it up too. Ewww!

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    • “I think many black people feel like there are certain things we have to love in order to feel black, like: soul food (the worst food for your health), black films, rappers, basketball, etc.”

      You forgot the “Lord”/Religion/Church.

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    • “I personally came to love Zhane when my single journey started”

      *scrunched up confused face*
      You talking about Zane the author, or Zhane, the 90′s r&b group?

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      • WOW wtf?! That hurts my heart. I think a nurturing black woman by culture makes a great partner. You know when I signed up on pof, i put my race as black not even thinking about it (i almost never mark other) and I put my ethnicity in my about me section. I got about 40ish views a day. Someone told me I should change my race to “biracial”. I did and my views jumped to over 100 a day. I realized that men were searching by race and obviously not searching heavily under “black”. That’s really sad. I hear so many men talking bad about black women. It seems like no one wants to date us. I especially hurt for my dark skin friends who have it really bad. Well it’s their loss because I recently read a “poll” where “they” interviewed 10,000 MEN (not women) from equal # of races and found that more men claimed to have been cheated on by white and hispanic women than black women. So that leads me to believe that we are the most faithful. I dunno but it’s sad we get dogged so much. On the flip side, we’re known for having a bad attitude so I think that plays a part.

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  34. this was very interesting. No Jay-Z? no Beyonce? I’m appalled. LMAO.

    seriously I like Alicia Keys but her music hasn’t been great to me since Diary. I can’t believe there’s no Mary as well! I loves ALL versions of Mary! (well maybe not the Stronger with each tear Mary)

    not surprised by the Gucci Mane or the soul food or Jesus—but Trey Songz for the men? wowzers.

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  35. these tag clouds have only shown me that i am really an Indian man (see original post).

    …oh and , how in the heck do i get my pic up?…i didn’t see it anywhere in the admin part.

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  36. I’ve never watched the color purple. I must be the 1 out of the 10 ur referring to lol. Men prolly like trey cuz when they bump that music while at home with their ladies, it sets the mood right for some touch-the-peepee action.

    And my country of choice is Haiti. If anyone on here has ever been to Haiti during the ‘good years’, they know what Im talking about. Sure you had some mess going on, but, overall, it’s a gorgeous mountain country with amazing beaches.

    A Keys, schmeh. I believe in a Higher Power but I don’t believe in Jesus.

    I would recommend a zane book to a sexy ass man in the hopes we can have a private bookclub session once he’s done reading the book : )

    One of my fave movies: city of god. It messes me up every time I watch it.

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  37. I want to see what kind of tags there’d be if this was done on Black Planet. Whoooweee that site has issues. I had to take down my profile on there, forreal. “When I became a woman, I put away childish things…”

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    • i’m sorry, but i’m afraid of what black planet would show and how it would be used in the national media.

      Study Shows that According to Popular Social Network Site Black Planet, 100 Percent of All Black People Have Tatoos of AT LEAST One Family Member on Their Body. Speech By Obama at 12.

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      • DEAD!!!

        Jan: Also, 88% of Black females have what is being called “junk in their trunk”. Steve, do you know anything about that?

        Steve: Not unless they’re talking about an old Toyota Turcel, in which case, I have junk in MY trunk too!

        Jan: Ha ha ha ha! Oh, we’ve all been there.

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  38. I wonder if “Pretty Woman” made the list for black females because women were using the phase to describe themselves or because the black woman on this site are fascinated by the story of the Ultimate Captain save a *&?

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        • “I do not believe in anything”

          mmmmm interesting statement, but you know some things do not require your belief to be real, realest in fact.

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        • I’ve gotten to the point now that when I’m asked if I believe in God I can say yes. They don’t typically ask much beyond that so usually I don’t have to tell them that I believe in God as being a concept in the mind of Christians.

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        • One of my best friends is a hard-core Atheist… Like if Atheists had conventions and sh!t, she would attend and pay good money to do so… :)

          Her signature on our Alumni website (we went to High-School together) is this:
          “Gods are fragile things; they may be killed by a whiff of science or a dose of common sense.”
          – Chapman Cohen

          I kid you not, :) . And yes she is 100% black. They are out there…

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    • looks like. according to this site.
      even within the comments of this thread – not every woman likes/has seen the color purple, read Zane books and some watch ESPN.
      i can’t tell you who and what to date, but if you start discounting people based off skin-colour – you might miss out on what is meant for you. im sure there is more than 1 female out there that might fit your needs. she may be white. chinese. but she may also be black.

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    • Dash you always make me laugh!! You are hilarious. I don’t believe in organized religion and I haven’t stepped foot in a church in over 10 years. I do believe in God and Jesus. I read the bible and feel that my relationship with God should be a personal one and don’t want any greedy preacher damning me to hell. Keep doing you.

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    • Yeah I feel you on that one. While reading the article I was thinkin maybe I should reconsider my position on IR. I think some girls will let the whole, “I’m not religious, but I believe in God” thing slide, but my beliefs have shifted over the years. I admit I cannot prove God doesn’t exist, however, I highly doubt it. I don’t even believe in an afterlife.

      I really want to marry a black woman and be on some perfect black family Cosby type ish when I get older, but I don’t think I can compromise on religion.I’m just a simple agnostic(I find militant atheist just as annoying as fundies), but I prefer raising my children with similar beliefs. Marrying a woman that will settle for a non-God fearing dude just SCREAMS problems in the future.

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      • I have been fortunate enough to meet Christians who accept my Pragmatic Agnosticism as being something that I have to live with and be accountable for. They have respected it without trying to convert me. When I did meet a fellow agnostic, she was nuttier than squirrel sh*t. I’m not anti-Christian and do not have a problem with dating one. The Christians I’ve met do some agnostic things so it was all good, besides, I recognize that a lot of people want or even need something to believe in.

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    • Welcome to the club. I’m in the Bible Belt so a Dune loving,HHGG fan,totally atheist,has no idea what this Coldest Winter thing is,semi-vegetarian,anti-capitalism,composting,recycling, soapmaking,Camus reading girl like me is Sht theF.U.C.K. Out of Luck.

      ON THE GOOD SIDE,white boys FIX STUFF!!!!! Im sayin, a man who promotes and advertises that he is USEFUL! A man who realizes he has to bring somethin to the table! I am All.Over.That.

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    • Being Black and indifferent to religion looks like a deal breaker.

      Or like I said above, the chicks not into it are not online dating…

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  40. wait, so men actually do like trey songz? if i was a guy, i think i’d hate him. i kinda hate him as it is, and i’m a 24-year-old woman (unheard of, i know).

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  41. on black men’s behalf, i will say that i just discovered the remix that gucci man did with mariah carey for “obsessed.” um…..it’s magical. it’s like he’s so ignorant that he cancels himself out and it’s okay.

    as for alicia keys, yuckie. i have no explanation for that.

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    • gucci is def a guilty pleasure of mine but i cant see him showing up on a personality profile thing that i’d draft. mostly cuz i cant see how gucci mane gets you points. i’d figure he’d LOSE you points

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      • you know what? you’re right about that. there is definitely a difference between listening to him through earphones in your office while you grin at the yt people cuz they have no idea and assume you’re listening to archives of committee meetings and you find that sh*t amusing and introducing yourself to a group of strangers talmbout, “hi. i’m charli, and my favorite artist is gucci mane.” lol. so regarding my previous statement: um…………disregard.

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  42. 2. Women REALLY love The Color Purple and Alicia Keys…oh yeah, and God.

    I think you really downplayed the most startling difference between black men and black women, G-O-D. While black men have only three references to God/religion/Church, black women have 15. This reminds me of a article I read a month ago on CNN.com “Does the black church keep black women single?”

    http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/08/10/black.church.women.single/index.html

    What usually determines long-term relationship compatibility? Shared values and beliefs, which obviously includes religious practice. It appears that the average black man is much, much less religious than the average black woman, so you can see the potential for a black woman to determine that the majority of black men are on average not evenly yoked with her and thus not a suitable life partners. On the flipside, the average black man may determine that the average black woman is too religious for him and thus not compatible with his Sunday Funday lifestyle.

    I didn’t see any other races so divided on such a fundamental issue that is key to sustaining a successful relationship leading to marriage…

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    • IDK, I think there may be some validity to what you’re saying, but at the same time, I think you’re reading too much into things. It didn’t say that the average Black woman mentions God/Religion 15 times in their profile. There are just 15 different phrases that BW use to refer to their spirituality. If anything, it shows that BW have wider vocabularies.

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      • I see what you’re saying, but the mere fact that it is so prevalent throughout the women’s profile clouds than the men’s indicate that one group is more God-focused than the other.

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  43. Panama, you acting like you don’t know what time it is. It’s Gucci Time! I don’t know what it is but Gucci is getting major love everywhere especially up North. Kay Slay, Whoo-Kid, DJ Scream have been showing him some major love on the radio.

    Random thoughts/responses to post

    I’m not a big soul food eater, but there are things that I can’t go without: fried chicken, collard greens and fried catfish. I loved the Color Purple, one of my favorite Speilberg movies. Surprising to see that Coming to America is more popular with women. I could quote that movie all day long. That was a good one about India Arie and Alicia Keys. Boy, Tyler Perry gets no love on this site, ever. F**k Trey Songz. He annoys me like Ludacris does. All that musical talent and all you can talk about is f**king? Just wasted talent. And yes, those are shots fired. I always wish I could go to Rock the Bells or the Coachella Music Festival every year. *sigh* Not surprised about ESPN, but now that football begins tonight, I’ll be glued to the NFL Network. Better coverage and better commentators. They need to hire Kurt Warner now. He was born to be a football commentator. If that list is an indication of the type of black men on OKCupid, you ladies may want to stay away. Ni**as got some issues.

    It is interesting to see the VSSs that break the stereotype of the typical educated black woman, especially the ones that don’t believe in organized religion. Makes for interesting conversations. Will could have kept “Hitch”. It would have worked in his Fresh Prince days, but we know that Jada has him whipped like a rented mule now. Then again, it’s Jada, so I probably would be, too.

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    • lol @ you not being a big soul food eater but saying you can’t go without collard greens. collard greens are the cornerstone of soul food!

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    • Try catfish deep fried in zatarrins fish fry batter…you’ll thank me. Collard greens and catfish is where my love for soul food ends. No, sweet potatoe pie and cornbread and baked mac and cheese…okay i guess i love soul food but we shouldn’t eat it often. You cuss? That was hawt. I love a gentlemen with sailor tendencies. I break all stereotypes so it is what it is. We all aint the same dammit. I’m smart but I can also be indignant. I think that’s what makes us real people…except for hoes. lol

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      • I got one better. Try Louisiana fish fry mixed with Slap Ya Mama Seasoning. Damn good fish. I don’t do cornbread or mac and cheese either. I’ll have sweet potato pie once in a blue moon. Despite the fact my mom grew up on a farm, she didn’t cook a lot of soul food growing up. My grandmother was an excellent cook, like restaurant quality food so my mom have really diverse tastes in food. I’m a Texas boy so give a medium cooked Ribeye steak and I am as happy as a pig in mud. Yeah, I cuss, but I try not to do it too much in front of ladies until I get to know them. Y’all are family so it’s all good. lol

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      • Where dey at? Where dey at? Where dey at? Where dey at?
        There he go. There he go. There he go. There he go.

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  44. Because “black man on a dating site” is still somewhat taboo (or at least more taboo than any other demographic) i’m not surprised to see sh*t like “i am cool”, “playing basketball”, and “tall dark and handsome” listed so frequently. It seems to be a form of overcompensation, like they’re saying “I know you might think I’m lame because I’m on a dating site, but trust me: I play basketball and i have a big d*ck too.”

    And, while I don’t think there’s a correlation between “church going black woman” and “perpetual singledom”, after seeing church and God listed so often in the women’s profiles, you really have to wonder if there is some truth to that theory.

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    • And, while I don’t think there’s a correlation between “church going black woman” and “perpetual singledom”, after seeing church and God listed so often in the women’s profiles, you really have to wonder if there is some truth to that theory.

      Yes, there is a a strong correlation…I just posted above on this topic

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    • Yes! Someone else thinks this too. I hardly ever see quality black men on dating sites. It’s like all the ones have gold teeth or mega nerds. I think all the good black men are in the streets fighting off sistas and sexual advances from white women. Ya’ll are in demand now. I dunno.

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      • You should check out AlexMachala on pof. Be sure to let me..er, him know that it’s you. :) (And no, that’s not his government name.)

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        • Oooohhh mama meeaaa papa peeaaa…I finally get a sneak peak into a vsb? I’m gonna hunt you down on pof Cab! lol It’s blocked at work but I will check it out later at home and def send you a note.

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  45. Did anyone else notice the “stationed” all the way down there? If this is a reference to the military (honestly, is “stationed” part of anyone’s everyday vocabulary?) It seems many more of our brothers are in the armed services than I thought. This greatly displeases me.

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  46. After looking at this list, I hate all of you black folks.

    Just kidding…
    I think you could probably come up with the same batch of words looking through BPM, BP, BV or any other site where black people get to self-promote themselves. Most of these answers seem so cliche and well…predictable.

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  48. YESSSSS to #7. I just went to the Trey Songz show in Baltimore and I was thinking “There are a lot of men taking pictures of Trey” and the guy behind me was screaming and spray sweat all over the place.

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  50. I read this yesterday and have been on the site just looking at all the statistical analysis since. I have nothing else to say and will reserve my witty comments for future posts.

    LAST!

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  52. Oh, & I definitely identify w/ more stuff on the men’s list than I do the women’s, but don’t try to take my lip gloss or I’ll get’ta cuttin’! :)

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  53. I wonder what you guys (the regs as well as The Champ and Panama) think about the Ashleymadison.com website.
    For those who aren’t aware: AshleyMadison is a “dating” website that helps married people find other people (married or not) to have affairs.
    The ‘kicker’ for me about this website is that the creator of the website claims that he is “happily married man” who has never cheated on his wife.

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      • There used to be commercials advertising for the website, but I think the commercials (same premise: attractive man with attractive woman, then there is the unattractive man’s wife…blah blah blah) were pulled, due to backlash.

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        • I always thought that site was ridiculous. I remember reading about it, it even has a panic button so if your spouse is about to catch you creeping on the site you will be sent to Google or some other safe site.

          People really have no respect for marriage whatsoever.

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  55. You know what would be fun? For VSB to have an analysis tool thingamagig like OKCupid… Now the trends would be quite interesting… and hilarious too. I think?

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  56. Looking at the montage of things black folks like on OK Cupid, I just realized that it’s probably not sistah’s who just LOVE “The Color Purple”. It’s just he!!a sistah’s that LOVE the color purple. I know several women who are purple-holics. That could be part of it because the purple-holics I know are very vocal and passionate!

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  57. There’s some truth in the chart. I’m Jamaican and I absolutely loooove soca!! I HATE the Color Purple and India Arie beats Alicia any day to me. I don’t eat Soul Food. I mean I’ll eat it but it’s not my favorite. I don’t like Tyler Perry. I love watching ESPN and reading Zane. Number 7 is just creepy lol. My boyfriend hates Trey Songz lol.

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  58. I found it most interesting that black men were the only group with no books listed. Every other group had at least one or two books, not black men. That was truly sad.

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    • actually,the okcupid post does not say these terms are the most prevalent terms used by members of each group. what it says is that these terms are ones that consistently used by only one particular race. so if there are 5 races being studied and 5% of the men from each race have the phrase “new york times” on their profile,it is ignored. there is no statistical difference in usage patterns.

      things that are common to all groups studied and used with similar frequency,are not on the list.

      if,however,90% of the women of one race use a term and only 1,3,7, and 12 percent respectively,of the other 4 races studied use this phrase,then this term would be included as it is almost unique to this particular group. this list isn’t the most common stuff,its the outliers so to speak

      for example,if the list were baby names shaniqua and latravion may be on the black list,cody and dreama on the white list. this does not mean that these names occur frequently in these populations or that they do not occur at all in the other populations.nor does it mean that there are no names that both populations use with similar frequency, in fact the pool of shared names may be 99% of all names listed,this list is only counting the ones almost unique to these groups.

      so this does not imply that black men have no books mentioned on their profiles,it may simply be that the books they list do not differ from those mentioned by men of other races whereas these particular books black women mention are ones that few, if any, non-black women have mentioned

      thank you for allowing me to be pedantic

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  60. @big man

    Black men read the sports section of the newspaper…..thats as far as it gets when it comes to the average brotha’s reading taste or perhaps reading appetite…steorotypical much? truthful nonetheless!

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  61. Ummm, I’ve been on OKCupid and there are only 12 black people there anyway (at least in the Cali bay area). Seriously. And who knew they were all church going, bible slangin, soca knockin, Jamaicans? And why are so many Jamaicans on OK cupid?

    ….and apparently, according to this, I’m no longer black cause not a single of these criteria would ever make it in an online dating profile of mine. Who mentions the Color purple, soft rock or god’s plan in a profile? Whoa.

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  62. I’m late and possibly redundant, but I am think it is hilarious that one of the consistently used labels in Black Men’s tag cloud is …”tryin’ to” LOL! Does anybody else notice this?

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