Comments on: naked: chris brown and the sad plight of the scorned man http://verysmartbrothas.com/naked-chris-brown-and-the-sad-plight-of-the-scorned-man/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=naked-chris-brown-and-the-sad-plight-of-the-scorned-man Mon, 13 Feb 2012 07:49:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: WuDaManhttp://verysmartbrothas.com/naked-chris-brown-and-the-sad-plight-of-the-scorned-man/#comment-73955 WuDaMan Wed, 11 Feb 2009 19:31:08 +0000 http://www.verysmartbrothas.com/?p=1010#comment-73955 @pgh muse, & if your fam needs to fight people on your behalf. I'd like to suggest some other methods for the expresion of their love. Emphasizing on the ones that fall within the confines of the law. @pgh muse,
& if your fam needs to fight people on your behalf. I’d like to suggest some other methods for the expresion of their love. Emphasizing on the ones that fall within the confines of the law.

]]> By: WuDaManhttp://verysmartbrothas.com/naked-chris-brown-and-the-sad-plight-of-the-scorned-man/#comment-73953 WuDaMan Wed, 11 Feb 2009 19:28:25 +0000 http://www.verysmartbrothas.com/?p=1010#comment-73953 @pgh muse, I'm not contesting that he is wrong for putting his hands on her. Careful of if then statements. They are conditional and if your 'SELF RESPECT' is conditioned on someone else respecting what you wouldn't then good luck w/ that. Let this one marinate in what ever way you want. 'Obediance is better than sacrifice.' @pgh muse,
I’m not contesting that he is wrong for putting his hands on her. Careful of if then statements. They are conditional and if your ‘SELF RESPECT’ is conditioned on someone else respecting what you wouldn’t then good luck w/ that. Let this one marinate in what ever way you want. ‘Obediance is better than sacrifice.’

]]> By: pgh musehttp://verysmartbrothas.com/naked-chris-brown-and-the-sad-plight-of-the-scorned-man/#comment-73858 pgh muse Wed, 11 Feb 2009 16:07:09 +0000 http://www.verysmartbrothas.com/?p=1010#comment-73858 @Wu,I understand what you are saying about respecting the law and everything. Chris Brown is a grown man and he made a grown man decision to punch someone else's daughter in the face. Rihanna isn't his property. Respecting the law is all good, but I know myself and my family, and if I walked up in my house and my brother was present, or certain uncles I have were present and some dude blacked my eye... I could tell them all day long to wait for the courts or I called the police. And they might passify me and say ok... but does that mean that the person that punched me in the face wouldn't get the beat down? No it does not, and you know what, that is LOVE. I wish every female had men who had their backs like that in their lives because maybe they would have more respect for themselves. They would know that it's not a man's place to abuse them, period. If Rihanna was me or my daughter, Chris Brown would KNOW that if he beat on her there would be problems. Now if she chose to stay and they continued to fight then the fam may wash their hands of it because the family did it's part. But I stand on the ground that Domestic Violence is out. None of the women in my family stand for it. He needs to work out his anger more constructively. @Wu,

I understand what you are saying about respecting the law and everything. Chris Brown is a grown man and he made a grown man decision to punch someone else’s daughter in the face. Rihanna isn’t his property. Respecting the law is all good, but I know myself and my family, and if I walked up in my house and my brother was present, or certain uncles I have were present and some dude blacked my eye… I could tell them all day long to wait for the courts or I called the police. And they might passify me and say ok… but does that mean that the person that punched me in the face wouldn’t get the beat down? No it does not, and you know what, that is LOVE. I wish every female had men who had their backs like that in their lives because maybe they would have more respect for themselves. They would know that it’s not a man’s place to abuse them, period. If Rihanna was me or my daughter, Chris Brown would KNOW that if he beat on her there would be problems. Now if she chose to stay and they continued to fight then the fam may wash their hands of it because the family did it’s part. But I stand on the ground that Domestic Violence is out. None of the women in my family stand for it. He needs to work out his anger more constructively.

]]> By: Herbhttp://verysmartbrothas.com/naked-chris-brown-and-the-sad-plight-of-the-scorned-man/#comment-73795 Herb Wed, 11 Feb 2009 15:02:12 +0000 http://www.verysmartbrothas.com/?p=1010#comment-73795 @Voiceofreason,+20 lolsAnd I get it. Youre right. That IS what we think about people who dont chase the cat. @Voiceofreason,

+20 lols

And I get it. Youre right. That IS what we think about people who dont chase the cat.

]]> By: Herbhttp://verysmartbrothas.com/naked-chris-brown-and-the-sad-plight-of-the-scorned-man/#comment-73794 Herb Wed, 11 Feb 2009 14:59:30 +0000 http://www.verysmartbrothas.com/?p=1010#comment-73794 @Specialized Sula,Friends, how many of us have them? @Specialized Sula,

Friends, how many of us have them?

]]> By: WuDaManhttp://verysmartbrothas.com/naked-chris-brown-and-the-sad-plight-of-the-scorned-man/#comment-73754 WuDaMan Wed, 11 Feb 2009 13:48:46 +0000 http://www.verysmartbrothas.com/?p=1010#comment-73754 Okay real answer here. Dudes got to find themselves a 'cookie' person. Someone that they can talk to about stuff. Talk to em and stall out the ill feelings. Deal w/ the woman on her shadyness and leave her alone (she may just be a level of shady you can't and don't want to deal w/). Should the break up come out then hey morne that and keep it moving. The getting over it is very important as to keep you from being that bitter brother w/ packs to move (never a good look in a new relationship). Don't project this shady woman's deportment onto the unsuspecting new broad. 1. she doesn't deserve that 2. she isn't that until she shows you she is that w/ you. Okay real answer here. Dudes got to find themselves a ‘cookie’ person. Someone that they can talk to about stuff. Talk to em and stall out the ill feelings. Deal w/ the woman on her shadyness and leave her alone (she may just be a level of shady you can’t and don’t want to deal w/). Should the break up come out then hey morne that and keep it moving. The getting over it is very important as to keep you from being that bitter brother w/ packs to move (never a good look in a new relationship). Don’t project this shady woman’s deportment onto the unsuspecting new broad. 1. she doesn’t deserve that 2. she isn’t that until she shows you she is that w/ you.

]]> By: WuDaManhttp://verysmartbrothas.com/naked-chris-brown-and-the-sad-plight-of-the-scorned-man/#comment-73749 WuDaMan Wed, 11 Feb 2009 13:33:14 +0000 http://www.verysmartbrothas.com/?p=1010#comment-73749 @kamakula, That's just how men are. Men want to get to the point (end point in particular). Women want to see smell and collect the flowers along the way. And dealing with feelings is complicated tedious and can be drawn out. Simply put no quick fix for hurt feelings. Or they are subjective. Real talk in today's society there is no serious incentive for a man to get married these days. Almost everything you can get from a woman while being married she is already giving while dating... @kamakula,
That’s just how men are. Men want to get to the point (end point in particular). Women want to see smell and collect the flowers along the way. And dealing with feelings is complicated tedious and can be drawn out. Simply put no quick fix for hurt feelings. Or they are subjective. Real talk in today’s society there is no serious incentive for a man to get married these days. Almost everything you can get from a woman while being married she is already giving while dating…

]]> By: kamakulahttp://verysmartbrothas.com/naked-chris-brown-and-the-sad-plight-of-the-scorned-man/#comment-73723 kamakula Tue, 10 Feb 2009 23:49:26 +0000 http://www.verysmartbrothas.com/?p=1010#comment-73723 What are men "supposed" to do? Nothing. Suck it up. Move on. What actually happens is different. Men are socialized to keep emotions to themselves. To present a strong well-together front. Plus, in many ways, we are just as repressed sexually as women. This is because so much of the definition of manhood or being a good man is directly tied to a man's sexual performance and ability to satisfy a female partner.We've discussed this a while back. But there was a study I linked to that showed after a divorce, men were more likely to kill themselves than women. There were a couple theories why - that women have more support groups, that men tend to "lose" more when a relationship ends (emotionally, children, "financial investments"). But there was also the implication that when it comes to killing oneself, men tend to be more successful than women. Why? Because when we decide to do something, we go out and do it. We swallow a shotgun. Women tend to take ways out that really are cries of help, they slit wrists, attempt to overdose on pills, all of which are easier to botch and have someone come "save" you than pulling the trigger on a large gauge in your mouth.I think the same applies here. A man's reaction goes one of two ways. He's either able to bottle it up or he reacts violently. Either way, it's a decisive action. What are men “supposed” to do? Nothing. Suck it up. Move on. What actually happens is different. Men are socialized to keep emotions to themselves. To present a strong well-together front. Plus, in many ways, we are just as repressed sexually as women. This is because so much of the definition of manhood or being a good man is directly tied to a man’s sexual performance and ability to satisfy a female partner.

We’ve discussed this a while back. But there was a study I linked to that showed after a divorce, men were more likely to kill themselves than women. There were a couple theories why – that women have more support groups, that men tend to “lose” more when a relationship ends (emotionally, children, “financial investments”). But there was also the implication that when it comes to killing oneself, men tend to be more successful than women. Why? Because when we decide to do something, we go out and do it. We swallow a shotgun. Women tend to take ways out that really are cries of help, they slit wrists, attempt to overdose on pills, all of which are easier to botch and have someone come “save” you than pulling the trigger on a large gauge in your mouth.

I think the same applies here. A man’s reaction goes one of two ways. He’s either able to bottle it up or he reacts violently. Either way, it’s a decisive action.

]]> By: kamakulahttp://verysmartbrothas.com/naked-chris-brown-and-the-sad-plight-of-the-scorned-man/#comment-73722 kamakula Tue, 10 Feb 2009 23:42:27 +0000 http://www.verysmartbrothas.com/?p=1010#comment-73722 @Miss Patterson,Perhaps you've not noticed what the guys here have NOT been saying about said brothas. . . @Miss Patterson,

Perhaps you’ve not noticed what the guys here have NOT been saying about said brothas. . .

]]> By: Slim Jacksonhttp://verysmartbrothas.com/naked-chris-brown-and-the-sad-plight-of-the-scorned-man/#comment-73721 Slim Jackson Tue, 10 Feb 2009 23:14:54 +0000 http://www.verysmartbrothas.com/?p=1010#comment-73721 @Specialized Sula,You realllly don't like violence do you?lol. Any siblings? @Specialized Sula,

You realllly don’t like violence do you?lol. Any siblings?

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