just saw Seven Pounds this weekend. Talk about a deep movie. I’m not sure if I think it was a good movie, but it definitely got me to thinking.
**spoiler alert – if you haven’t seen this movie and plan to, just skip this post, go have a Coke and smile.**
Specifically about one thing…Tim Thomas (as played by Will Smith) gave Emily Posar (Rosario Dawson)his heart (she had congenital heart failure and needed a heart transplant from somebody with her rare blood type).
HIS HEART.
Not a heart-shaped locket with a picture of her dog and her printing press machine. His mothertrucking HEART! She was in love with him and until she dies, she’ll live because his heart is keeping her alive. That might be one of the most humanely beautiful things I’ve ever seen in my life. And mine eyes have seen the glory.
Well, being the deep brother that I am, the first thing that popped into my head after this was that ain’t nan’ ninja EVER gonna be able to give her a gift that’s gonna top that. I jokingly refer to things that people do for one another by saying, “now that’s love” – but what Will did?
That’s love.
Now, I’m guessing he was going to give it to her anyway, which is why he was trying to determine if she was a good person, but at the point where they developed feelings for one another (I mean, the brother “went on a date by himself” back to the spot where they sat and talked), the fact that this woman will live because the man she loved gave her his heart is just a love beyond a love.
Okay, that’s enough fluffery.
So like I said, he TOTALLY ruined her for other men out there.
“That all you got? In my chest right now is the heart of the man I loved. His heart and you come with this 3 ct. diamond engagement ring? What’d that cost you? 30? 40K dollars?? What I have hear is priceless. You’d better go on with that bullsh*t.”
Talk about the girl who’s got everything.
The point where she is in the bathtub and submerges so that she can hear his heart beating? Panama, in all of his gangstanificence, almost shed a tear. But I didn’t. I just pulled out the .45 and smacked a neighbor.
She might as well close up shop and put a “grand closing” sign on her goods because how do you live down the love and memory of man who you’re relying on to live? There’s no closure.
Ever.
Honestly, if I met this woman (and Rosario Dawson is hot) and we went out on a date and she told me about her “ex” boyfriend and his heart and all that, I’d pay for dinner, say thanks, and be out. I’m not even gonna TRY to find a way to fill the shoes of a dude who’s heart I’m going to have to hear when we try to bump uglies.
What…I’m deep like that. I listen for the heartbeat!
I’ve been racking my brain trying to think of a gift I’ve given ANYBODY that was even 1/10th as significant as what Will came off of. And I’m coming up with bupkus.
So, good people of VSB.com, would you be able to date somebody who’s living using the heart of the love of their life?!?! Or am I trippin’ by kicking her to the curb in favor of a strumpet who gives it up on the first night but has her own heart?! And just out of curiosity, what’s the best gift you’ve ever given or received? A brotha can use all the gift suggestions he can find!
-VSB P aka THE ARSONIST aka TANGLE JIG P aka GIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIRL, HE A 3
Fool, you gave your daughter life!
As for the best gift, that? I’ont know. Maybe tires. Nothing really sticks out.
@Hostess,
at least you used yours. my ex got me a nintendo ds (in pink) and a scooby doo game. i was 20, he was a few years older…like 24ish
i think i used it maybe twice? both the same night he gave me? does that count?
@VSM,
I’m from New Orleans, so the best gift i ever recieved was related to the events that took place in my life after Hurricaine Katrina. When Katrina came, I had 8K in the bank and one 2500 limit credit card that I never used, because it was supposed to be for “emergencies”. (pardon me for being broke.. I’m a single mother) Keep in mind, that when you have NOTHING, but the clothes on your back, a few in the suitcase, and a small child in tow, 8 stackks aint shyt! Now, me being the 6ft tall, size 16, thikkazz amazon that I am, could never find any underware my size ( that would be a 9 thank you very much) I must have gone to a million dollar stores and walmarts. I had to resort to buying extremely large drawz, and tying them on the sides with a rubberband. I was roaming around the south in my car, alone with my 4 yr old little girl, trying to figure out what to do. My daughter and I had been sleeping in my truck, outside of assistance centers, becasue i didnt want to spend on a hotel, and i didnt trust sleeping in the centers, because i was afraid of going to sleep, with all those people around my daughter. I felt safer in my truck, with the doors locked and alarm on. When Fema came, I decided to drive to Dallas, and register for Fema assistance in person at the Dallas convention center. When I got to Dallas, there were people, just normal American Citizens trying to help. They were offering their homes, food, clothing, hanging outside of the convention centers. I heard this lady scream at me “Miss!!! Hey Miss!!” I turned around, and she motioned for me to come to her. I approached her truck, and this wonderful woman, her husband, and beautiful children had a trunk full of random items. She said to me.. “You look like my size” This woman had 2 walmart bags full of brand new haynes her way size 9 drawz in the pack, and four 40C ( my size) bras! When I saw the underware, I just started crying. It was one of the most thankful, emotional moments in my life. I still have those bras. Its been 4 years, and they raggedy as heck, but i still wear them. I will NEVER forget that act of kindness.
@Laneianna,
This was a great story. Thank you for sharing.
@Laneianna,
Awwwwww. This just made my heart smile and weep.
@Laneianna,
This was a sad, but good story.
@Laneianna,
Wow. What an amazing story!!
@Laneianna,
Girl you make me drop a warm one
@Laneianna,
Girl you made me drop a warm one
@MilkandCookies,
Girl you made me drop a warm one
you took a sh*t?
@The Champ, Dang. Why you gotta come in here and ruin a perfectly good warm and fuzzy moment with 12 yr old boy humor?
That was funny though.
@The Champ,
I was thinking the same thing. “Warm” what?
@Laneianna,
great story. and you seem to have such a great spirit. i pray things get better and better for you!
@Gem of the Ocean,
Thank you, You know… Katrina to me was a test. It definitly was a very humbling experience. it was the first time in my life, I felt like I had no where to go, and no one to turn to. You cant look for your family to support you, when they are in the same situation you are in. On the bright side, Im 28 years old, and my home is paid for ( Thanks to insurance and Katrina), I have a new car that is paid for .. actually it’s an 06(Thanks to insurance and Katrina), and I am in a better position now than I was before the storm. I was always taught, “you do good, and good comes back to you”.
@Laneianna, Dang. That is wonderful. Is it horrible that I want to get caught in a terrible storm now? **looking up for lightening bolts to strike me for my blasphemy**
@Laneianna,
well there ya go!!! i’m so happy to hear you are doing your thing–”get it squirrel” lol
@Laneianna,
wow. great story and sh*t
my first boyfriend was a really good kisser. and what not. i’ve found that nobody else can live up to that. does that count? nevermind.
@charli skipper,
does that count?
nope.
I hated seven pounds.. it was contrived and an obvious attempt at “deep” instead of just being deep and thought provoking.. and why he have to make that “im showing deep emotion on the verge of crying face the whole movie? and what the f!ck was the jellyfish about? I mean …..that shyt was ridiculous…
@shay_d_lady, ditto. It tried so hard to be a deep movie that I didn’t appreciate it.
@shay_d_lady, Me too. I have the bootleg on my computer right now. I think I watched about 1/3 of it and found it predictable.
@shay_d_lady,
I agree wholeheartedly (snerk!) The premise was interesting but the whole thing was so predictable and we were subjected to watching Will.Smith.Act! Dude was a good actor in things like Six Degrees so I’m going to blame the director.
but as far as thats concerned.. I mean I aint one to deal with additional baggage and issues anyway, I mean if I cant deal with a baby moma I dont want to deal with a dead chick that died to give you life.. thats just me….
@shay_d_lady,
I dont want to deal with a dead chick that died to give you life
you know, this was the original title of aaron hall’s “i miss you” before he decided it would be too morbid
@The Champ, yeah Aaron had a child a chick died to give him… he is definitely off the list..
I can just imagine the shrine a dude would have in the house under the guise of “he should no his mother”.. and dont get me wrong he should..but I want no parts of that
the best gifts Ihave ever gotten? My daughter first and foremost and unconditional love second….those are the best gifts I have ever received from a guy…and both happen to have come from my hubby!!!!…
Well a ex (eggs is the nickname) brought me a red/orange-ish pomeranian (her name was Bella). So yeah that was big and it was not a holiday either ppl lol
Dang, so much for not seeing the movie . Oh well
Um, best gift (to me “best means that which has the most thought behind it…usually those “best moments” are free, simple and sweet) that I’ve ever received came from my girlfriends in college….I lived on the 4th floor of dorm and had huge windows that were basically the size of one wall…anyhow, they left me a voicemail at 4am, that said “Maria look out your window”
So on the morning of my 20th b-day I looked out and saw
“HAPPY BIRTHDAY MARIA!” written in chalk across the parking lot, literally almost probably the length & width of 2 SUV’s. awwwww
same friend co-organized a surprise party at a bar for my 28th b-day, day after my actual birthday…I was visiting home and on my actual b-day everyone was working…sad. So following day a couple of my friends were like let’s just go chill at Louie’s…and I was all like, ‘ho-hum…I guess so” little did i know it was like a mini-reunion-party, EVERYONE came out, we were the bar. 40 deep, cupcakes, Kareoke, etc. another awwww moment!
Best Gift that shocked me…the guy I referenced in yesterday’s post (who I didn’t play, I did owned up to my shortcomings. I’m still really good friends with him. I recognized my emotional bailout, we talked and I apoloized for it. It hurt him, but it wouldn’t hurt more if I led him on instead of being honest.) Um, yeah…for my 30th b-day he rented a hotel for the weekned at the BlackStone in Chicago, and gave me a necklace/ear ring set that was made of diamonds/sapphires. It was a “wow” moment for me…
Best gift I’ve given…they were each purchased based on the likes of the guy I was dating…
1. My ex was still using a disc man in 2005. He loved music, he’s brother was a DJ, he walked around with too many cds…I ended up buying him an MP3 player..He *died* b/c he loved it.
2. Ex from post entries…is a beer connoisseur, always tries new beers wherever we go…knows about the different brews, light dark etc. So for his 29th b-day I purchased him a 6-month home delievery of “international beer of the month” selection… He didn’t know about it until they were delievered…I wasn’t able to include a note w/ the first delievery..I was the 3rd person he called to ask if I had sent him anything, smh…I was like yeah, “my boxes to move in, did they get there? I’m bouncing outta dc, lol… Yea I I sent you the beer.” He also loved the gift…
3. I bought my current guy…a DC Wizards packet to go to 3 games..seats weren’t the best…but hey…he likes b-ball, too bad the wizards suck…
@maria,
Best Gift that shocked me…the guy I referenced in yesterday’s post (who I didn’t play, I did owned up to my shortcomings. I’m still really good friends with him. I recognized my emotional bailout, we talked and I apoloized for it. It hurt him, but it wouldn’t hurt more if I led him on instead of being honest.) Um, yeah…for my 30th b-day he rented a hotel for the weekned at the BlackStone in Chicago, and gave me a necklace/ear ring set that was made of diamonds/sapphires. It was a “wow” moment for me…
vsb.com: where being made to feel guilty happens
@The Champ,
*soft, little kid voice* hhheeeyyy lol
touche
That is a good question that I cannot answer.
And the best gift I was given by a S.O. (okay, so he’s not even my official boo…its a long, drawn out complicated mess that I have all intentions of fully cutting off by the next phone call…unless he does this again)….but yea…the best gift I couldn’t even use. He surprised me with Basketball tickets to see my favorite team.
Mind you, he lives in another state, and did this as a just because thing since he was going to be in town. Really sweet. And I kind of feel bad because I had to work, and I couldn’t get off, as hard as I tried.
@chaoticdiva,
hold up, are you a basketball fan? Or did he just use this as a decoy-sorta gift b/c he wanted to go the game himself and “since” he was gonna be in town? package it as a “just because I’m sweet”…
I mean, did he end up going so the “ticket’s wouldn’t go to waste” lol
@maria,
I am obsessed with basketball. Minorly. I did have a bedroom decorated in Pistons colors (yes, blue walls, white trim, Pistons posters everywhere) all throughout high school.
…I’m going to stop at this point before I jump back into stan mode…I have choice words for AI…
…but yea. The point is that he knew how much I liked them. Because when I couldn’t go, he ended up giving the tickets to someone else (I called while he should have been at the game to apologize on his voicemail, and he answered to a silent room…and I know there’s no quiet place at the Palace during a game).
strumpet????
how does one get to be a strumpet? LOL
@Selah,
how does one get to be a strumpet? LOL
easily
“and Rosario Dawson is hot”
I just had to dedicate an entire post to that sentiment, i sooo concur man i mean ever since she was on Sin City then Deathproof, my eyes moisten everytime she is on screen.
Personally i thought Seven Pounds to me wass like…A B-job on Sunday morning, really great but it’s what I’ve come to expect from Will Smith…
On the question at hand, don’t try to compete with the dude that gave your SO a heart, because trying to top that somehow doesn’t include you being alive either, and i still want to live. So rather do what he couldn’t do, be there for her….if for some reason she doesn’t apreciate that generosity, then convince her that it was her fault that her previous boyfriend is dead, but you don’t judge her at all
@sisanda, So rather do what he couldn’t do, be there for her,
I agree. Don’t be scurred to try and be her man. Dude is gone, in the ground. Yeah she has his heart in her chest, but ummmm… his heart will keep her alive but not warm @ night and eventually she’ll need another organ inserted lolol.
@sisanda,
So you just expect bj’s on sunday morning?…..
@The Dutchess, i was fittin to ask the same question
@The Dutchess,
Okay so maybe i worded it wrong….accustomed seems more fitting, how does that sound?
@sisanda,
although the analogy committee appreciates the effort, we request that you make an alteration, because right now it reads like you expect weekend bj’s from will smith, and we dont think thats the point you were aiming to convey
don’t try to compete with the dude that gave your SO a heart… So rather do what he couldn’t do, be there for her
this is a great response!!! i was thinking the same thing–be around to love her, which the dead & gone ex-SO can’t/couldn’t do.
but this one…
if for some reason she doesn’t apreciate that generosity, then convince her that it was her fault that her previous boyfriend is dead, but you don’t judge her at all
terrible… lmao
@sisanda, if for some reason she doesn’t apreciate that generosity, then convince her that it was her fault that her previous boyfriend is dead, but you don’t judge her at all.
the smell of sulfur should cinge your nose hairs due to your close up of hell for this comment! lmao!
I tell people if you don’t want to be depressed, don’t watch that movie.
It’s hard to pinpoint one particular gift I’ve received that stands out. I would say the best gift is those small things. When my man hears me say I want something or sees a need and he takes care of it without me having to ask–that means more to me than a big major purchase (although I wouldn’ t turn it down).
@Shelia G, i agree completely! especially when they’re unexpected, but you can see that your man’s studied you and bought you something he just KNOWS will bring you pleasure and joy! i get tingly just thinking about it!
i remember a few years ago, my (now late) fiance was meeting me and friends for early dinner, and he rocked up with 2 books he knew i’d love (I’m a real bookworm) and lauryn hill’s latest CD (which as it turns out wasn’t great – but he knew i was a fan, and i was thrilled to get it)
the naked and unexpected pleasure that ran through my body- to this day, my friends still talk about the expression on my face…
@Shelia G,
I tell people if you don’t want to be depressed, don’t watch that movie.
This is real talk. I left the movie like…dayum for real? That was sooo dayum depressing it wasn’t even funny.
@miss t-lee,
This movie sucked.
Figured out the entire plotline by the middle of the flick and almost made me wanna sit in my garage with the car running..
2hrs + of my life i can’t get back..smh
@Tx10inch,
“almost made me wanna sit in my garage with the car running..”
Dayum homie….lol
I liked Seven Pounds… except why was Will Smith’s face screwed up the whole movie like he had gas pains in his stomach or something? That was really annoying. My favorite part was the scene in the beginning w/ Woody Harrelson (i don’t know how to spell his name). That ish was crazy!
Ne who, at this stage in my existence the best gifts that I’ve received have been practical and hard labor related. Rooms gutted, a bathroom torn out and almost put back 2gether… a floor laid… and the topper is the roof, which will be attacked this weekend. Nothing says I love you more than tearing up old shingles and potentially being attacked by the swarms of bees that I know live in the rafters. I’m almost scared for him… but i’ve been told that I have to go up there too… we’ll see how much work actually gets done with that notion lol.
@pgh muse,
LOL I guarantee if you asked my marido what he feels is the greatest gift given to me he will say All that d*mn money I put out for her to have that master suite and freakin oversized closets to house 100 pairs of shoes and whole bunch of other crap that she hardly ever wears that I have been begging her to get rid of.
But yes you gotta love the ones that gets the labor work done.
@Raqi, seeing a man sweat (from actually WORKING!) is the best aphrodisiac.
@pgh muse,
I feel the same way about seeing a woman sweat while laying in bed after doing the do. Instant turn on.
@pgh muse,
“i don’t know how to spell his name” – i got the same thing, except i can’t spell sh*t all the time…wow, we should be friends
“best gifts that I’ve received have been practical and hard labor related” – …..wow, really? talk about high-mantainace sh*t!
@sisanda, lol. Not high maintenance, just grown
the best gift a woman has ever given me was her “thoughts”
@Carver The Great! (aka Cornell Westside),
LOL
@Carver The Great! (aka Cornell Westside),
Great way to put it…lol!!
@Monk,
Akinyele would concur.
@Carver The Great! (aka Cornell Westside),
Yes…he would. lol
When I was in college, I gave my woman the closest thing to a vital organ that you cannot get back. I gave my girlfriend my meal card. That, my good people, is love at its apex. She went on to marry a foot surgeon, so love sucks.
@DirtyJerz, Yeah food is life, right? LOL
@DirtyJerz,
thats crucial cuz!
@DirtyJerz,
LMAO! That’s why I’m glad I’m outta college. I went to school in a large city so there was always plenty of food around, but those people that went in the suburbs. Esp. if you aint have no car!…mmph, mmph, mmph She owe you!
@Me fail english?, So if I would asked u woulda given me some Dining Dollars?
LMAO i love it!!
I think I could date that person as long as they weren’t hung up & constantly spoke of the other person. State it and let it be.
The best gift I received was from an ex I dated in college. I was always very insecure about my breasts due to being a teen mom and the toll breastfeeding took on my already underdeveloped breast. I was planning on getting an augmentation after graduation with my sign on bonus. He said I didnt need it but would be supportive. He suggested a doc that was really good (he too is surgeon) so I took his advice went to see doc & got the ball rolling. Weeks later when the time to pay and schedule the procedure came the receptionist informed me that the balance had been paid in full and all I had to do was show up.
Fast forward three years, we break up (he cheated, constantly) this ninja shows up on my lawn in the middle of the night demanding a check from my new boyfriend for his T*TT*ES (his words) and threatening to sue me if I didn’t pay his money back…..
@Fivefivewithbrowneyes,
so did you at least flash him to appease his anger? i think he deserves that at a minimum…
@Carver The Great! (aka Cornell Westside),
LOL, he actually has a pic so he better cherish that muthasucka
@Fivefivewithbrowneyes,
so you didn’t flash him after he spent thousands to appease your insecurity and up your cuppage???
*grabs vocoder* how could ya be so heartless?!
I just died at the vocoder.
MEDIC!!
@Carver The Great! (aka Cornell Westside),
FUKCING HILARIOUS!!
@Carver The Great! (aka Cornell Westside),
*DEAD*
@Carver The Great! (aka Cornell Westside),
*grabs vocoder* how could ya be so heartless?!
iQuit you for that.
BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
@Carver The Great! (aka Cornell Westside),
ROFLMFAO!!!!
that was funny indeed sport
@Carver The Great! (aka Cornell Westside),
here lies Gem, in her Ocean grave…
@Carver The Great! (aka Cornell Westside),
Funniest shyt I’ve read all week…LOL!!
@Carver The Great! (aka Cornell Westside),
I am tearing up in laughter right now.
@Fivefivewithbrowneyes,
Fast forward three years, we break up (he cheated, constantly) this ninja shows up on my lawn in the middle of the night demanding a check from my new boyfriend for his T*TT*ES (his words) and threatening to sue me if I didn’t pay his money back…..
what manner of ridiculousness is this???? i saw on the net somewhere that some guy wanted his kidney back from his ex-wife, once their relationship had gone south…
bah! i say to such nonsense! ESPECIALLY after being such a horrible boyfriend! he should be glad that you (and your fab new breasts) gave him at least ONE redeeming factor, bloody cockroach!
@Fivefivewithbrowneyes,
I was watching one of the judge shows that come on a few years back where this guy had paid for his wife to have implants. After the divorced he wanted her to pay him back for the implants, else allow him visitation as needed.
But your ex wanting the new guy to pay for the boobies? Priceless. LOL
@Fivefivewithbrowneyes, ” that the balance had been paid in full and all I had to do was show up.”
Right here, I melted.
Fast forward three years, we break up (he cheated, constantly) this ninja shows up on my lawn in the middle of the night demanding a check from my new boyfriend for his T*TT*ES (his words) and threatening to sue me if I didn’t pay his money back…..”
And right here, my mouth is open in what the effe? Wow. Let me get a slushy and some Ju Je Bees What did the ex do- because this is made for tv?
@Fivefivewithbrowneyes,
What did the new man do, is the part im waiting for.
@The Dutchess,
He told him that he didn’t have a check, but he did have a cap for his ass; if he wanted it.(He’s just a little thuggish)
@FiveFivewithbrowneyes, LMAO. I love it.
I like him.
@FiveFivewithbrowneyes,
This whole damn comment is OUTTA ORDER! LMFAO!
Mariah sang…”You’ll always be a part of me”…Literally with your heart in my chest.
In the spirit of all things fluffy and fantastical…
I had always said the man that gets me will get me. This man really gets and understands me. That there is one of the greatest gifts. And he loves my kids. I could go on to say that this little bean sprouting in my ut is the greatest gift but since we haven’t used condoms in 7 years he has been giving that to me all the while. It is what I did on my end to bring about the life that grows in me. This is my greatest gift to him. Heck I already have two kids. This one is for you bud. LOL
Now as for all things practical one of the greatest gifts I have received thus far is a towel warmer. Yeah a towel warmer. If he heard me say this he would probably say “woman you mean to tell me of all the things I have done for and given you, all the money I have parted with so you can have the things you desire, all the money I put in that darn house to please you, a freaking towel warmer is the best to you?” Yes the towel warmer because is filled a “no big deal” need. That meant a whole lot to me.
Raqi WHYYYY. Your posts are like jack links (all jerkey[tear jerkey that is]). Now I got’s to put the angry black man’s mug on. n hum the I’m gonna whup somebody’s ssa song in cubeworld.
LOL.. Yes, you are a hot mess for peacing out bc she has the heart of another man. He is DECEASED NOW.
I sure as he!! ain’t leaving Reggie Bush if Kim K. left him her heart. Not.gonna.be.able.to.do.it.
Best gift I’ve ever gotten??? Let’s see:
The boyfriend before the current was the first man ever to peel on gifts… taking me shopping, purchasing a laptop, paying for my plane tickets, ipod, etc. But all those gifts always seemed to be a cover.
As corny as it sounds, the best gift I’ve ever gotten was genuine love and admiration or an “I love you T T,” from my baby girls. (my lil cousins!)
@Nicki Sunshine,
LOL.. Yes, you are a hot mess for peacing out bc she has the heart of another man. He is DECEASED NOW.
dead or not, we dont like to share. couldnt fully commit to someone if you know that you’ll never fully have their heart.
@The Champ, “dead or not, we dont like to share. couldnt fully commit to someone if you know that you’ll never fully have their heart.”
but he’s dead… lol.. What about if a girl was previously married and has been widowed?
Someone had her heart, right?
@Nicki Sunshine,
but he’s dead… lol.. What about if a girl was previously married and has been widowed?
Someone had her heart, right?
true, lol, which is why the same rule generally applies.
All I know is that if I end up dealing with another woman that dated a guy in the NBA or NFL it will be too soon. I don’t know how they find me. I’m not going to even attempt to do what those dudes did for you.
@Humble_One,
don’t move to pittsburgh then, lol. at least 70 percent of the women i’ve been with here have dated steelers.
@The Champ,
Dated??? Or were they jump offs?
Cause it aint tricking if you got it…..
@V Renee,
Good point. I don’t think there are too many women who’ve dated Steelers. The women they’re with are probably Black and Golddiggers and get disgarded after a short period of time.
well i know quite a few women who have actually DATED/been in relationships with Steelers and well known players at that. go to any Steeler fundraising event and you will see who the real girlfriends are.
@Gem of the Ocean,
True. Those are the ones they take to church too.
@Gem of the Ocean,
or the girlfriends that don’t care about the other jump offs. I’ve seen so many Bengal players with multiple “girlfriends/jump-offs” that it’s ridiculous.
(yeah Im talking about you Chad)….
well even chicks dating average negros get played for jump offs and multiple “girlfriends”. triflin men aren’t only found in the league
@V Renee,
“Dated??? Or were they jump offs?”
lol, if i knew how to do the line through thing in the comments i would have
@V Renee,
Yes. It is.
@Humble_One,
Like giving her Gonorrhea?
@Voiceofreason,
LOL. No not that. Although I do think they would be more willing to accept that from an athlete than me .
@Voiceofreason,
lol that’s a gift that keeps on giving, that and herpes!
@Humble_One,
Add to that rappers and producers and you definitely don’t wannna be in the ‘A’.
Once when I was an extremely broke law student, a close friend told me he wished he had money to give me because he hated to see me struggle. He is by far the greediest, stingiest man on the planet. He’s known amongst his friends for being a miser and we used to call him Ebeneezer Spooge. The fact that he even thought about giving me money brought me to tears.
And in high school, a guy told me I was the only girl in school he genuinely liked and had respect for and that he hoped someday I’d meet someone who’d treat me like royalty. The guy was known for being an @$$hole so when he randomly told me that I almost cried. But he told me not to start getting all girly on him or he’d never say anything nice to me again.
I don’t think I’ve ever received a tangible gift, but words can be better than anything money can buy.
@Voiceofreason,
damn, you’re easy to please, lol. if a guy you were dating was like “yanno, if i had the dough, i’d buy your a platinum engagement ring. since i don’t, though, i’m a need you to rock this invisible practice ring for the time being” would you still get engaged?
@The Champ,
The key is that he was a friend who had no reason to think about supporting me financially but he wanted to do it if he could. Though I am easy to please, (lol) a man I’m in a relationship with has to be willing to do more for me than a man I’m just friends with.
And if a man truly wants to spend the rest of his life with me and wants to get engaged ASAP, I MIGHT take an imaginary ring depending on the circumstances. But I’m attracted to the type of man who’d rather wait until his finances are straight before he would consider proposing to me.
NOT practice ring lol
@Gem of the Ocean,
But it’s an “invisible” practice ring. That makes it that much special.
“Honestly, if I met this woman (and Rosario Dawson is hot) and we went out on a date and she told me about her “ex” boyfriend and his heart and all that, I’d pay for dinner, say thanks, and be out.”
And this, ladies AND gentlemen, is why you don’t tell strangers all of your business. Oh…and someone you’re on a new date with is really just a stranger.
I wouldn’t have a problem dating the person cuz I’m thinking…hey…his parents gave him life and he’s not trying to have them all up in betwix his life right?
The best gift I’ve ever given was a round of golf at Pebble Beach. The best gift I’ve ever received IN MY OPINION was one of those personalized picture calendars you get made at Ritz Cameras. The most expensive gift is in a safety deposit box and I never think about it.
You know CreoleInDC I’ve been thinking I was wrong about coming @chu when all you want to do is rid the world of Ho shyt. hmm I apolagize. What up w/ one of them rounds @ pebble beach??
Best gift I ever gave? Fixed my then husband’s credit. Dude couldn’t even get a credit card back in the early 2000′s when they were given ‘em away with toasters. Had bill collectors calling left and right. Ironically he wrecked my credit after we got divorced. He’s now got a new car and a new house and I’m renting again with a used car. Live and learn!
@luvtheshoes,
Wow. I wanna fight him for you.
@luvtheshoes, that BYTCH! I’d be pissed.
@luvtheshoes,
“no good deed goes unpunished”
Gifts? What are those?
“Well, being the deep brother that I am, the first thing that popped into my head after this was that ain’t nan’ ninja EVER gonna be able to give her a gift that’s gonna top that. I jokingly refer to things that people do for one another by saying, “now that’s love” – but what Will did?
That’s love.”
Yessir. I mean, after all those grand declarations of men figuratively giving his heart to a lady, Little Willie from Philly gon’ up and one-up all ya’ll. And of course, it took Will Smith box-office topping arse to do it. I can’t even tell you how floored I was when he gave her his heart. I was touched.
But, yeah, you raise a good point. I mean, think about it. It’s intimidating enough to top your boo’s first love, just imagine how it would be if their ex gave them something as Oprah segment-worthy as a real beating heart? I mean, even if she never brings it up, it’ll always be in her mind, which is probably worse as you’ll never know how deeply it is affecting her if she never speaks on it.
I think the best gifts are those that are personal. Like if I happen to mention liking something in a matter-a-fact way when out with the man and he up and surprises me with it after I had forgotten even mentioning it is super sweet and earns cool points. Even if it was something simple. Shows he was listening, cared enough to keep it in his memory bank and get it for me. Props.
@Cheekie,
I think the best gifts are those that are personal
i agree and sh*t
lol@ these comments. Maybe it’s cuz I’m a woman or maybe it’s cuz I have no soul but the heart thing really wouldn’t affect me. I mean she’s dead and I’m not. Sounds like no competition to me *shrugs*
Anyhow the best gift (since I have no soul) was a free trip to Cancun. It wasn’t really “thoughful” per se since he was already going, but it was a 4 night trip and I didn’t touch my purse. We were only together like 6 months but he was a flashy (read: reckless) type so I think it’d be dumb for guys to compare themselves to that.
The other best “gift” I got wasn’t a gift at all. I drank half a fifth of Patron, four beers, the better part of a bottle of chianti, a whiskey sour and a rum coke and smoked like two and a half blunts. So after I called Earl all over his apartment, hubby cleaned everything up, changed my clothes, and stayed awake all night listening to my breathing to make sure I wouldn’t choke on vomit in my sleep without a single complaint. THAT is love. He also made me breakfast the next morning.
@Me fail english?,
Oh and the best gift I gave was I paid for the ex’s TV. Eff him though. It was only 27 inches and we broke up like a month afterwards.
@Me fail english?,
ROFL!
@Me fail english?, LMAO!!!
That IS love!
@Me fail english?,
LMAO! Sounds like you had a heck of a party.
@Me fail english?,
Maybe it’s cuz I’m a woman or maybe it’s cuz I have no soul but the heart thing really wouldn’t affect me.
……….
Hmmmmm best gift I’ve ever gotten… hmmmmm. I think just being thought of and appreciated is enough for me. Paying attention to the things that I like and make me smile– and then brining them into my world is enough to keep me happy. I’ve gotten plenty of extravagant gifts and what not… and while they’re nice, I only really remember them if they had sentiment behind them.
From my father, I got a tahitian black pearl necklace one Christmas. I remember that not because it was expensive, but because he told me that I was his most precious treasure and he wanted to give me a precious treasure. I wear that necklace EVERY DAY, regardless of whether or not it matches my outfit.
My mom gives me the constant gift of her prayers for me. I believe that if she wasn’t praying for me, my behind would be 6 feet under by now. I live entirely too recklessly sometimes.
I think the best gift I ever gave was when I scoured the intrawebs to find the perfume that my grandmother (who died when my mom was 9) used to wear “Soir de Paris.” Its never been sold in the U.S. and you can only get it from Paris now. I had that overnight expressed to my mom for Christmas one year… she still has the bottle. She opens it to wear it only for REALLY important events when she wants to feel my Grandmother around her– so she will be wearing it at her PhD hooding ceremony in 2 weeks….
Now, I have NO IDEA how to top that. I peaked in my gift giving WAY too early. Now she expects gifts like “grandchildren”
@blackberry molasses,
That was a great gift you gave your mother…kudos!
@blackberry molasses,
Congrats to your mom! I’m one of those people who has flashbacks when I smell certain sents, so this sounds like the perfect gift to me. Whenever I smell someone wearing my moms perfume I always feel relaxed and calm.
Ohhhh! I didn’t share the best gift that I’ve given. That would definitely have to be (besides myself
) driving to the middle of Ohio @ the buttcrack of dawn to post bail for his black a$$… he got a dui in the middle of the night… and of course called me (where’s your mama and that other chick @ NOW?!?) I was pissed, but when in love u do what you do.
@pgh muse,
“driving to the middle of Ohio @ the buttcrack of dawn to post bail for his black a$$”
when exactly is the buttcrack of dawn? i’m thinking 5:45-ish
@The Champ, lol. eh. 5:ooam i guess… it’s been a few months, but anytime is too early for a jail run.
The best gift I ever gave a man was about 2 months after we started dating. He wrecked his car… because he had no transportation, he lost his job….. So I took him to the dealership, and bought him a used hoopty for 3700 bukks, and supported him until he found another job…. This same guy is still giving me me the best gift I ever recieved from a man, and we have been broken up for 2 years. He pays my daughters school tuition, and has been paying for it since she started Kindergarten (she’s in the 2nd grade now). He promised me when we first started dating that he would do what ever it took for him to make sure she recieved a proper education. He has stuck to that promise, I dont have to ask him, I dont have to look for him, the tuition loan is not even in my name. I will always be grateful to him for this gift. And believe it or not, there are NO stings attached.
@Laneianna, i believe u and that is AWESOME!
@Laneianna,
Damn. Not to get in your biz, but you guys haven’t considered getting back together? I mean two people who genuinely have each other’s best interests at heart and the integrity to follow through on that? A rare match.
@Me fail english?,
Naw, he has a girlfriend, and we were not……ummmmm how do you say….. “Physically compatible” But hands down, outside of my father and grandfather, he is one of the best men I have ever known. I guess, when he was down, and on the verge of losing his home, and not being able to pay his bills, me being there for him ment a lot to him. He always tells me if it were not for me, he wouldn’t be where he is today. I heart him, but more than that, I just think that we have a great mutual respect for each other.
@Laneianna, It is interesting that you say that, cuz that is where I think me and the man in my life are in our relationship. Not 2 be putting all my business on VSB… but, I feel u on this. We have never had a problem being physically compatible, but we do have some other hurdles that I dont’ know if I’m willing to try to surmount anymore. But we still love and respect each other and want the best for our kids…
@Laneianna,
you got a nucca paying tuition? your poon must be so good it tickles your legs when you walk
@Carver The Great! (aka Cornell Westside), u are stoopid. that was funny.
@Carver The Great! (aka Cornell Westside),
You are so silly! LOL! Well I dont mean to too my own horn, but TOOOOOOOOOOT TOOOOOOOOOOT!!!!!!!!!!!! As much coochie power I believe I have, I dont think it was the poon! Honestly, the sex was the reason we “drifted” apart. He thought it was GREAT, I thought it was HORRIBLE. He was a great man, but he was wayyyy too “small” for me to spend the rest of my life with. But on the flipp side was the best bf i ever had. I know it was shallow, but i had to be real with myself.
@Laneianna,
I think you just are a great person and anybody who comes in contact with you will appreciate and respect you.
@Laneianna,
“He thought it was GREAT, I thought it was HORRIBLE. He was a great man, but he was wayyyy too “small” for me to spend the rest of my life with. But on the flipp side was the best bf i ever had. I know it was shallow, but i had to be real with myself.
”
apparrently you’re not as shallow as you thought….i couldn’t resist.
“…ladies tired of being ripped off by guys like this / and giving he@d is like a whale that’s using a toothpick…” – Kanye on “Breath In Breath Out”
@Carver The Great! (aka Cornell Westside),
how many times a day do I need to QUIT yo IGnant azz?
@Carver The Great! (aka Cornell Westside),
You are in rare form today, aren’t you?
@Ms. Sula,
naw this is me everyday…i finally got good at my new job (week 3) and acclaimated to my new city (Atlanta) so i can get back to my regularly scheduled program of shyt talkin’
@miss t-lee,
see my above comment for your rap trivia of the day…can you guess which rapper that line came from…bonus points if you can name the song…and don’t even think about googling it….
@Carver The Great! (aka Cornell Westside),
Aw mayne. I’m seriously stumped on this one. I wasn’t gonna cheat and google it neither.
*shakes fist*
@miss t-lee,
Redman – Superman Lover from the Dare Iz A Darkside album
i don’t even know you anymore, haha
@Carver The Great! (aka Cornell Westside),
Aw Cletus…don’t be like that.
I have a headache today…I’m not exactly 100%.
*sniggling*
On a side note: ladies in NYC: Jimmy Choo is having a Sample Sale!!!
They’re selling some VERY recent styles … and they’ll have hundreds (and possibly thousands) of pairs.
WHAT: Jimmy Choo Sample Sale
WHY: Shoes starting from $75 and bags starting from $150
WHEN: April 30, 2009 (Thursday) @ 1pm-7pm
WHERE: The Metropolitan Pavilion, 18th Street (btwn 6th & 7th Aves), 4th floor, NYC
@PrincesMo,
Good lookin out. Not too far from the J-O either. *rubs mitts together*
@PrincesMo,
Times like this I wish I never left NY.
@Voiceofreason,
How could you ever leave the city?
what about wack gifts? i messed with a girl who made me dread christmas and my own bday to the point where i would tell her that “thinking more” would suffice as a gift just to avoid having to fake my enthusiasm…
more fried chicken? @pgh_muse
@Carver The Great! (aka Cornell Westside),
**side eyeing Carver The Great!** Why didn’t u just tell her what u wanted! I do it all the time. Don’t waste ur money buying me something useless… I’ll tell u what I want. If we can’t afford it then we can do something cheap. Cookout on the grill, get some wine and kick it. It doesn’t have to always be spectacular. Communication is the key, Mr. Westside.
@pgh muse,
yes, communication is key, but i think my way is more fun(ny)
@Carver The Great! (aka Cornell Westside), lmao… ok… u just keep getting more “thoughts” in ur empty stocking then. Do people smell the chicken when u walk past them? Do they ever ask u for a biscuit?
This is a good one! I havent seen Seven Pounds but now I feel like I have to!
Okay, the best gift I have ever recieved wasnt really a gift. I woke up one random Wednesday morning and my bf at the time had two cards and flowers sitting on the couch for me. The first card just said “Good Morning Baby” and wished me a good day. The second card was handwritten with a poem from him telling me how much I mean to him. It was the sweetest thing ever!
The best gift I have ever given was to a guy I dated in the past but hadnt seen in a while. He’s really in to Batman, loves the cartoon, all the movies and stuff. Since he’s such a fan I knew he already had all the movies, and he complained about his mom giving away his comic books when he moved out. So, I found a Batman comic from the exact month and year her was born and sent it to him.
I think the best gifts are the random sweet ones.
@Dom,
So, I found a Batman comic from the exact month and year her was born and sent it to him.
That was awesome! Comic lovers are the best people to gift for.
Hmmm.. Mrs. Officer took me for lunch n sh*t. Not just anywhere, but it was somewhere. There was just something about her broke college student self that made her treating me to lunch that more special. I guess it’s the fact that my income generating behind was holding it down for the longest, she just surprised me when she took care of your boy. No budgets… just HAVE.
That was the business.
I don’t know what was the best one. I have done the equivelant of baking a cake and putting they name on it. & had it done for me too.
I 100% co-sign this post. I think I even said the same thing to the girl who had drug me to go see the movie.
I’m thinking a kidney is the closest someone can do without killing himself in the process. And that listening to her (really his) heartbeat is a mean one.
@Single Black Male, And that listening to her (really his) heartbeat is a mean one.
oh the male ego is so FRAGILE. Jesus Cristo! Why can’t he just be happy her a$$ is alive?! If she’s tryna give him the business, what difference does it make that another man donated his heart to keep her alive. That should signify to you that she is a quality female. Why on earth would a man try to compete w/ someone who’s DEAD?
Best gift given. Probably the summer before freshmanb year in college. Me and my at the time girlfriend were shaky because of me having too much fun at orientation so I suprised her in bk with roses and flowers, I opened her car door to see a pair of black knee high boots I remembered she sed she liked a couple months before, took her out to eat at some spanish restuarnt on 14th st and she came home to a multipage letter (that I had her brother put on her pillow when we left) after a couple of hours of “baby come back” sex, she drops da bomb on me dat she’s still n2 da dude dat she cheated on me with n dat dey were bout 2 get 2getha
That was da end of my extravagant gift days. Now a girl gotta b wifey just for me 2 get her hot wings
Best gift I ever received?
My mom paying for my ticket to go to ghana last year. My life has never been the same since (except for the hot wings. U gotta have a mouth that cleans up better den sham-wow)
@rockstar718,
“That was da end of my extravagant gift days”
I don’t blame you son.
the best gift ive ever received was indirectly given to me by my ex-fiancee…two months after we broke up.
i felt so guilty about ending the relationship that i was physically sick, and hearing through the wind that she had dated again made me feel 100 times better. it was literally like i was a diabetic, and that knowledge was an insulin shake.
@The Champ, why did u break up w/ her?
@pgh muse,
Potential vsb topic?
First time poster, longtime stalker here. I heart vsb.
The best gift I’ve ever gotten was from my ex boyfriend…when he dumped me. LOL. If we had stayed together I would have never grown into the bad bish I’ve become. I was also one “but I don’t really feel like we’re making love if we use a condom,” from me being a baby mama. Thank ya lawd!
@Queensqrd, yay for de-lurking!!!
“Honestly, if I met this woman (and Rosario Dawson is hot) and we went out on a date and she told me about her “ex” boyfriend and his heart and all that, I’d pay for dinner, say thanks, and be out. I’m not even gonna TRY to find a way to fill the shoes of a dude who’s heart I’m going to have to hear when we try to bump uglies.
What…I’m deep like that. I listen for the heartbeat!”
For some reason I think Im in love. LOOLOLOLOLOL
The best gift:
in july 05 ago I took off work early to surprise my ex-fiance with a romantic dinner and such. When I got on the porch I heard scrambling in the house and walk in and this ninja had on a wife beater and no draws and it was a pair of men’s airforce ones in the floor (he never wore sneakers and kept his room immaculate)and the condom was still stuck to his arse. I lost it. ….When the police officer came , he took me to the hospital to get stitches( I cut my hand on the lamp I broke ) ,stayed with me the entire time ,listened to me cry about my ex being gay, bought me dinner and paid for my hotel room for the weekend .
@loveone,
“..and the condom was still stuck to his arse. ”
DAMN! Just.Damn.
Loved this friggin post- I was thinking the same exact thought when I saw the film myself!!
Mimi
xx