More No Sh*t Sherlock PSAs from VSB: Why Hot Chicks Get Cheated On – The Christina Milian Edition

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By now it’s common knowledge that The-Dream and Christina Milian are headed towards splitsville. And why? Because Tubby Terius was caught out there cheating on Mrs. Dip It Low. And frankly, that is just baffling.

Except it isn’t. But I’ll get back to that.

I’d like to mention here how much of a crush I’ve had on Christina Milian for years. Everybody who knows me knows that I love her with the passion of Mel Gibson’s racist rants. When I found out she was engaged to The-Dream, a little piece of me died. Of course I then remembered that not only did I not know her but I also never had a chance with her. Womp womp. But another piece of me felt victorious. You see, Dream is a pretty fugly little rodent. If I’m a 3 he has to be lower than that, millions and celebrity aside, so it gave me hope. My point here is that Christina Milian is like my celeb crush numero uno. Just thought you might like to know that.

So it’s established that she’s hot AND had his baby and he still stepped out on her. Which is pretty interesting if you think about it. Why? Well, most men claim to REALLY want a fine ass woman to marry and date. So it stands to reason if that’s our goal that we’d be happy right?

Wrong. Unfortunately the novelty always wears off. Sure you know that you’re woman is beautiful, but at some point her beauty becomes more important to other people than it does to her man. Which sucks monkey nuts. Bubbles.

And yes, I realize how much that last paragraph f*cking sucked for women. However, it goes both ways. LL.

Here’s the thing, just like finding out that Lauren London got knocked up by Lil Wayne astounded us, hearing that The-Dream cheated on Christina Milian should have, but it didn’t. It seemed to almost make sense. And here’s why. Since so many of our VSS are indeed hot tamales, I felt like maybe you all could help enlighten. Here are the reasons I came up with:

1) Fame and celebrity really do put men in a position of power. Women like that. The-Dream is empirical proof.

Terius is not a hot dude. Period. Without his songs, money, and fame, very few women with esteem would be on his nuts. He’s from Atlanta so he’d pull more than the average, but still. Idris he ain’t. He’s living proof that if you add money and celebrity to anybody, they can go from being Steve Urkel with talent to Stephon Urquell and bone whoever you want. Enter Christina. So he’s got some power now and women are drawn to him so his pool of top shelf bangable women grows. He forgets he’s got a top shelf chick at home and deduces its worth it. Terrible.

2) Beauty only goes so far.

This is a lesson a lot of women could stand to learn. Being hot, while paramount to most men’s interest in you, only gets you into the game. Being smart and everything else keeps you on the court. I don’t know Christina Milian. But I do know they got married pretty quickly. Maybe neither of them explored that they just had nothing in common. He makes pop gold. She doesn’t. Maybe to him she was just hot and he realized it later. Doesn’t make it any less ridiculous. He’s still a douche. But maybe Christina brings nothing else to the table. I refuse to believe that. My baby is perfect in every way.

3) Men really do just suck.

While I don’t believe this one for two hangin, one swangin reasons, maybe Terius was just never a good dude in the first place and he married her despite planning on cheating…with his assistant. I’m guessing he was going to cheat on her anyway. I mean did you see the tails he got married in? He looked like a gay fairy standing next to a beautious queen. He never recognized that she was indeed a come up for him because he overstated his own self-worth. Unfortunatley, because of money and power, he wasn’t wrong. The ugliest man with a million dollars looks a lot better than an average looking brother with $1,000 to his name. Bet that.

4) She’s crazy

Never underestimate how unattractive crazy makes you. Never.

I wish I could say that Terius had no business cheating (he doesn’t in the marriage sense – but I mean in the practical application sense), but the truth is, even Beyonce could get cheated on. Hell, Halle Berry got cheated on…by a man who really used the excuse of being a sex addict. He didn’t even wear shoes. That would blow my self-esteem to get cheated on by a chick who doesn’t wear shoes.

Anyway, VSBers, why do hot chicks get cheated on? Is it just men being men? And more importantly, what the f*ck is wrong with The-Dream. Did he just not care that he was going to get found out? Love King, by the way, sucked.

-VSB P aka THE ARSONIST aka TANGLE JIG P aka VITAMIN P aka GIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIRL HE A 3

408 thoughts on “More No Sh*t Sherlock PSAs from VSB: Why Hot Chicks Get Cheated On – The Christina Milian Edition”

    • Reason #5 His a$$ is triflin. Point. Blank. Period.

      And I quote, “[Regarding] rais[ing] his newborn daughter. “I don’t because my “helping out” turns into expectations,” he said. I’ll get Violet on a late night maybe one or two times, but after that, no. If Christina’s tired, call the nanny, call Violet’s granny. We got people.”

      With this line of thinking, it was really inevitable…

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        • @Andi i read that too- I think it was next to some lame pics of them out and about, showing everyone they were happy. womp, ni99a, womp. why bother lying? No one cares enough-except PJ who clearly stalks Christina Milian- btw, i met her a couple years ago. We were at an event together-she’s really sweet.
          Anyway, back to my point- nobody cares about either of you enough to care if you broke up last week or in 1962. Lame. Seriously though, they have been separated since the end of 2009, which is dumbf*ck because they only got married in September of 2009! Why Did I Get Married Part Tres starring these schmuck bags.

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          • “Why Did I Get Married 3″ – The Publicity Stunt

            This thing has publicity stunt written all over it. Married in September, Married AGAIN in December, Separated in the same month of December, Photos leaking six months later…considering that neither has been cranking out hits as of recent, I think both parties saw how this whole ordeal could benefit their attention whorish needs. The public break up that we’re witnessing and talking about now just gives them a little bit more time to stretch out their moment in the spotlight. Sure they have a child, but a lot of people have children by mistake and figure, shiddd, guess we’ll just take care of ‘em…we can afford it (which is sad considering Dream’s attitude towards the youngin’).

            Oh yeah, just for the record, I think Dream is a talented dude when it comes to writing and producing with Tricky, but stepping out in front as an artist led to one of the most enflated egos in modern music history and his arrogance will be the death of him. That is all.

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      • “And I quote, “[Regarding] rais[ing] his newborn daughter. “I don’t because my “helping out” turns into expectations,” he said. I’ll get Violet on a late night maybe one or two times, but after that, no. If Christina’s tired, call the nanny, call Violet’s granny. We got people.””

        Yeah…I never really cared for this mofo in terms of anything (well, he writes catchy songs), but dayum is he trife. SMH..

        WTF, helping out? Help yourself to hell…a*sclown.

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  5. He cheated on Nivea too, and that was at the START of his fame. Smdh…ninjas get a little money and lose their minds. Jeezy.

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    • Word? I always thought Nivea cheated on him first. I actually thought that was the reason he’s so bitter in his, “Girl, I loved your ass and you dogged me out” songs.

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    • With the above mentioned comments, Dream makes Lil Wayne look like a come up. He at least attempts to take care of his kids. Mr. “We-got-people-for-that…call-the-nanny” is the absolute worst.

      This actually sheds light on why Nivea went the way she did. Not Lauren though…never her!

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      • It’s a sad day in Black history when Lil Wayne is the come up.

        Ladies, we all know there is only one Idris and one Shemar (before the ratty braids in Diary of Mad Black Woman), but stop giving it up to the Hamburglar, cretin-looking, Flava Flav like brothas. That species need to terminate immediately. Procreating with them is like unleashing biological weapons….

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  7. 1. he is not even human and aspires to be the next r kelly. this really should make you question her.

    2. she was desperate to get someone to make her hawt after a failed relationship with a low key more attractive producer didnt work and chose the dream…even after his situation with nivea

    3. He is ignant and wears saggy skinny jeans and she is a mofo that dates a ninja in saggy skinny jeans

    the only thing we can learn is not to f!ck with crazy no talent girls desperate for stardom or shawt a$$ “i use to be the singing no action getting ninja in highschool and now im on” muthaf!cka that wears baggy skinny jeans that wants to be the next r kelly.

    that is all

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    • @shay-d-lady – um, we will not be fully questioning her here. she is pure and beautiful as the freshly fallen snow.

      you ma’am are a hater and i challenge you to a duel.

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      • @Panama

        Christina Milian is your ultimate? Like, for real?

        Interesting…

        I love how these “non-stories” become “stories.” Both of these people are fantastically untalented and I’m still confused why Negronia hasn’t woken up to the fact that they 15 mins is long past up.

        That said, she coulda done better and as Bill Maher says “you are only as faithful as your options.” He had them. Sad but true. En Vogue.

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        • @Tyler -ultimate is a strong word. i just always had a crush on her. see, i think i transposed her personality from some movies into her real being thereby making her the ultimate bangin’ girl next door.

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          • I hope that movie wasn’t Love Don’t Cost a Thing. She was cute but the fact that she fell for Nick Cannon and his gross twist in both the movie and real life should have made you drop her down a notch on your desirable list.

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        • Both of these people are fantastically untalented

          And with that, I’m gone… :)

          I swear, my sister who is 23 has no idea who those 2 people are… Admittedly, it’s not her thing, but yeah… they are so irrelevant it’s not even funny.

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        • “Both of these people are fantastically untalented and I’m still confused why Negronia hasn’t woken up to the fact that they 15 mins is long past up. ”

          Dip-it-low, maybe, but The Dream? False. He’s not TABLOID-relevant, but that mofo throws out hit songs like a song baseball pitcher or some sh*t. Hell, that’s the main reason why folks are saying she got with him…so he can right her a hit track.

          I don’t even like The Dream much and thought his falsetto was a nawlsetto, but the mofo does write some catchy songs and I’ve found myself liking a lot of the songs he wrote for other folks.

          Songwriters ain’t that much in the spotlight (though, they are coming out in droves a la Ne-Yo and Miss Keri Baaaybeee), but irrelevant they are not. Especially considering they’ll earn way more money than the artist will ever see (save for tours, maybe) for that particular song.

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          • We should really be more vigilant about not equating commercial/financial success with talent, skill, or ability. The Dream is not, by any basic notions of songcraft, talented. Period.

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          • Also – not all producers are songwriters and vice versa. Nowadays it is probably more accurate to call these clowns beatmakers, The Dream always has a collaborator who does the actual song writing. That said, he has yet to make a single thing that is remotely clever, interesting, or … you know, based on basic music composition principles. I’m fine with breaking the rules, once you know them. Case in point, Teddy Riley was a natural but at some point in the early 90s (probably around the time he was working with Mike) he decided that he should, you know, learn how to read and write music so he could enhance the work. Then you get Blackstreet’s Another Level, which is both catchy and fun, but also superb songwriting and production.

            The point I make isn’t to say that we should only like the guys who know the rules and play by them, but to get us to be more thoughtful about not conflating in a messy blankey way what we like with talent. Because they are not the same. I like McDonalds, doesn’t mean it passes the basic test of being actual real food. Same here, The Dream makes “catchy” songs, that doesn’t make them well-made, so much as he’s hit on the zeitgeist (and that’s all about timing and a bunch of other things that can be best summed up as “chance”)

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          • @Tyler – gonnna have to disagree with you here. Dream is the actual songwriter whereas Tricky Stewart did the music. The-Dream has begun doing more production work but he’s primarily a songwriter.

            and while i understand your point, hate to say it but the-dream’s music is actually good on melody and construction. period. while it is extremely pop oriented, there is no denying a basic understanding of musical theory has to exist to craft his first album. shit, coltrane couldn’t read or write music but nobody is going to question his musicality.

            while his songwriting borders or r.kellian non-sense at times, the music he’s associated with is catchy b/c the music is good. period. hell, ive been saying for years that if Usher had the-dream’s first album music, he’d have avoided that post-confessions slump he hit.

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          • @Tyler,

            We should really be more vigilant about not equating commercial/financial success with talent, skill, or ability.

            This doesn’t get said often enough. Really.

            And I agree with your entire second paragraph/post.

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          • “We should really be more vigilant about not equating commercial/financial success with talent, skill, or ability. The Dream is not, by any basic notions of songcraft, talented. Period.”

            %#@%@%#

            Dag nabbit…

            Ya know, what…my bad.

            I meant to reply to another person in this thread who said he wasn’t relevant. Clicked on the wrong reply button and just highlighted a quote without looking at it. Effing 50-lem comments. Notice how my comment is about relevancy, not talent. So, yeah…that wasn’t to you. My sowwy.

            And hell naw I don’t believe that commercial success equates with talent. But I’m talmbout relevancy. And he is definitely relevant. Obviously (look at today’s music) talent doesn’t have Jack twist nasty sh*t to do with relevancy.

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          • @Cheekie,

            I am the person who mentioned him not being relevant… because in my world he absolutely is not… I would have a hard time picking him in a line-up or even telling you which song is his…. I am most likely an outlier though… so let the Dream show continue. :)

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          • @Sula,

            “I am the person who mentioned him not being relevant… because in my world he absolutely is not… I would have a hard time picking him in a line-up or even telling you which song is his…. I am most likely an outlier though… so let the Dream show continue”

            Yeah, it may have been you…but some other folks did too so Im not sure if yours was the one I saw or not…lol. Dayum, I can’t wait til this day is over.

            Anyhow. On to your comment.

            Gotcha. Maybe there is a dichotomy here. The Dream, the person, versus The Dream…the musicmaker. Because as the former…I can see how irrelevant he could be. But as the latter…man half of the hit songs from the past few years has his name on it…and a bunch of folks don’t even know. lol

            That’s what I’m saying in terms of relevant. He’s relevant…pretty much every song he wrote/produced/whathaveyou were hits for those respective artists. They may have been ONE hit (wonder), but the deed was done.

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          • @Cheekie,

            Gotcha. But I’ll say it again… I may know his songs, it still doesn’t make him relevant to ME. His type of music is not the type I particularly care for or find relevant… So while he may be mainstream, or even relevant to the entire population… he is not to me. But it is what it is really… So let’s carry on.

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          • @Panama

            I stand corrected on The Dream/Tricky Stewart distinction. Thanks for that. In this case, I guess what I object to is Tricky Stewart. He is the one that sucks.

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    • 3. He is ignant and wears saggy skinny jeans and she is a mofo that dates a ninja in saggy skinny jeans

      *Dead*

      Saggy skinny jeans are the devil!

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  8. I think they just moved too fast. Christina does seem like the type that falls fast. Maybe he saw a beautiful girl that actually wanted to be with him and was like score! let me snatch her up. Christina had been in two long term relationships before him so she was probably more than happy to finally get a ring.

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  9. …but he couldn’t buy her a better swimsuit though? That’s the real travesty. 50 additional demerits for the titty bear known as The Dream.

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  10. I agree with all points. I don’t know why famous people even get married. Unlike us regular folks, they have basically unfettered access to millions of people at any point!

    I’ve known people that have had the “perfect” relationship until they let their genitalia do the thinking and they totally fucked the relationship up. One cat I knew had a girlfriend that was an RN. She was totally wifey material, ride or die til the end. He jacked it up by banging Boomquisha down the block. Now he’s stuck with Boomquisha and her 3 kids because the 3rd one is his. Just plain dumb, I swear!

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    • I always wondered to why famous people got married. With all that money and endless people to meet and do… why get married? I know it can be lonely not having one true mate, but if you can’t stay faithful, why drag someone else down with you?

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  11. Hot chicks get cheated on because the average man thinks to self “Self, if I could pull a Christina, well then by George, I can pull a Beyonce (or some other overrated celebrity… yes I’m a hater in this man’s thought bubble).”

    The Dream looks like the Hamburglar!! But somehow he pulled Nivea and Christina. IDK He’s supposed to be some super producer…. mad hits for J Holiday and RiRi, but the two women he was married to? When was their last hit?

    I have a LS that only dates ugly men, because she says they won’t cheat because they’re so excited to have her. I don’t think that solves the problem… but hey it might. What do I know? I only date overly arrogant men. Kanye Shrug

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    • IDK He’s supposed to be some super producer…. mad hits for J Holiday and RiRi, but the two women he was married to? When was their last hit?

      As a producer, I think The Dream promised Nivea and Milan that he would make them hits and get their careers going again if only they’d marry him…cuz I don’t know why else they fell for him

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    • “I have a LS that only dates ugly men, because she says they won’t cheat because they’re so excited to have her.”

      I doubt that is the way to go since she still has to look at them.

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    • I had a friend that would do the same (as your LS) but she realized when people see them together, other women will wonder what he has to make him a catch. so then of course they are interested–you know the whole you want what you can’t have, plus intrigue. next thing you know ol boy got a swarm of attention. LOL

      I think I agree with what Monk said earlier. Dream is cool as a producer; I even like his own music–I reviewed his latest cd shameless plug–but he’s an a$$, a jerk, and being in the spotlight has got his head super swole. He’s a hurt piece. But one with money and power. I guess.

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  12. i concur with all your points (gasp!)

    yesterday’s comments touched on this topic slightly (the why men cheat part, not your love for ms dip it low).

    if i’ve been learning my vsb correctly (and sometimes i dont think i do) – men cheat because they can. plain and simple. there is no logic, rhyme or reason. it has nothing to do with how hot the woman on his arm is (cuz his mistress is a CLEAR downgrade), it just boils down to him wanting to do it, having the opportunity to do it and the girl going along with it all.

    i read that there was no pre-nup, and since he already has other kids – this better prove to have been the best outside of marriage sex since tiger woods. cuz he’ll be paying for it.

    hell..they are probably still paying for the damn wedding! (and seriously…who let him out of the house like that?? didnt he have a best man? was it stevie wonder? jermaine jackson? fonzworth bentley? houston?) all im approving all wardrobes before spending money to have those memories captures on film FOREVER. #imjussayin.

    my last note is that we shouldnt underestimate post-partum depression. their daughter is only 8 months old. there is no timeline for when that goes away. not saying in any way shape or form that it’s a good reason to step out on your WIFE you made VOWS to, it would be justified in the head of many men.

    all i know is that if my dream job doesnt happen, i can make a killing doing celebrity weddings. and just making sure i get paid in full before they go on a honeymoon and sell the pics to US/People/Hello/National Geographic.

    moral of the story: these women need to stop being triflin hoes sleeping with married men. and broken hearts. alicia.

    off to bed! good night and good morning vsf (very smart fam)

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    • “moral of the story: these women need to stop being triflin hoes sleeping with married men. and broken hearts. alicia.”

      I had to put my head down on that… I like soror alici, but she’s wrong for that. And made an entire LP about it. SMH

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      • @PABP: trust me. own all cd’s. (well except last one), seen her live twice. had visions of her singing at my wedding someday. then she slept with a married man and had the nerve to drop a wicked tune about sleeping with a broken heart? and now she’s climbing on top of pianos while 5 months breed up??
        smh right along with you.

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        • Hmm…I am going to defend Alicia on this one. Everyone seems to criticize Alicia and sleeping with a married man isn’t alright, but shit I doubt she STOLE Swizz from Mashonda. Obviously they were problems in their marriage and Swizz Beat says they were separated at the time. People need to give Alicia some slack, this is like the Angelina-Brad thing, but Angelina didn’t even get this much heat.

          I don’t think cheating makes you a bad person, because everyone has their low moments. I think its worse if you continually cheat on someone and pretend everything is alright…until you get caught a la Eric Benet/Jesse James (we all know the real reason he was crying at the Oscars). I know plenty of people who’ve cheated knowing their relationship was gonna end anyway, sometimes its emotional and sometimes its physicall. If a relationship is doomed, its doomed and cheating is usually a symptom of larger problems….but then there are always those crazy mofos like Jesse James, who have Nazi fetishes. That is the exception though, not the rule.

          /endrant

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          • Disagree!! She AND Swiss are wrong. I probably could have left it go IF I didn’t feel like she was trying to rub it in “I got him I got him!”. I mean she made an whole album about love and they were parading at events together and know she’s just everywhere all pregnant. IDK I just think they should have a little shame, I mean they’re adulterers. Smh

            Diclaimer: I’m not trying to be judgmental but we’ve got to stop fefendingvthingd with the everybody else does it logic. I mean women (and men) need to stop messing with married people and ppl don’t need to marry if they don’t plan on using dome self control. There’s always gonna be an opportunity to cheat you need to be able to handle it.

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          • I’m with you there. Swizz and ol’ girl were done. People “move on” before the divorce is final all the time. In fact, I’d bet that most couples don’t push the divorce through UNTIL one of them has met someone else and it becomes pertinent that the split become more official. Folks are only mad because it’s Alicia.

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          • @TheTalentedMs.Fiasco

            i too disagree. cheating is cheating. emotional, physical or otherwise.

            not to get all jesse jackson, but i think angelina got a pass..well cuz she’s angelina and brad was at point considered by (not i) the sexiest man. so their pairing seemed inevitable. plus she gave him babies.

            even if the marriage was still completely over, they could have at least waited until it was finalized, so that all ppl would be saying is: damn swizzy rebounded fast. it’s the perception that bothers people. (and the subsequent parading)

            if akeys, gonzo and mashonda were 2 regular chicks and a dude, i’d like to hope/think no party except the wronged one would give her a pass. i dont hold celebs to a higher standards, but as an artist who i used to view as having self-respect and integrity (or at least present herself as such), it is at the very least a disapointment. i now have to separate the akeys the person that i was a fan of, to just akeys the music.

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          • While I feel bad for Alicia having to deal with such heavy public judgment, she knew what she was doing. She spent all this time creating this image, only to set it on fire. Sooo, yeah, sleep with that.

            As far as Angelina, imho we as brown women tend to view being the mistress in a diff light than our 2520 counterparts. In their world, it’s just a hostile takeover, may the baddest chick win. Licia, being mixed, went ahead and let that 2520 out, and took Mashonda’s man.

            His WIFE at the time, claimed they were not seperated when this affair began. Either way, marriages have problems, rough spells…for extended periods of time occasionally. Not a week, could be a year or two, where ya’ll aren’t especially feeling eachother. However, it’s a COMMITMENT!! Root word, COMMIT. Her role is unequivocally inexcusable. Period. We all make mistakes, we get caught up, we make errors in judgement, but she is parading it around. I’m tellin you, that’s that 2520 coming out. She ought to be shamed of herself. not so much. She STOLE him. Most men are as faithful as their options. I wish these chicks would stop giving these sorry suckas so many dern options.

            …While I really don’t care about Licia, or any of the other characters in this hip hopera, I do feel passionately about the sanctity of marriage. So I will go on record…*clearing thoat(yes)*

            PSA alert!!!
            LADIES, if you are entertaining a married man, in ANY way, you are playing a role in the downfall of his marriage. YOU are an option, even if you just answer the phone.

            I’m sure all the vss’s didn’t need to read that, but just in case, make better choices.

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          • good points, but people soon forget…Angelina Jolie DID NOT get a pass! Jennifer Aniston was america’s sweetheart. people still TO THIS DAY ask her about Brangelina! it has been YEARS. maybe if you don’t follow pop culture it seems that by now its over, but back then, they were on the cover of every trashy tabloid mag. and every other month they still are with rumors of “breakup and separation” Angie and Brad are both fine, but at the end of the day because of how they got together nobody really wants to see them last and be happy.

            except for me. I want em all to prove the naysayers wrong. Swizz and Cankle Keys too. lol

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          • I for one think cheating is wrong as HELL! I think Alicia is so much of a disappointment because of the “goody goody” image she put out there before, somewhat like what was mentioned up thread. She comes off as this woman upliftment advocate then turns around and makes a whole LOVE album above a relationship she has with a married man… on top of that (and a piano) she’s preggers by dude o_O… Angelina and Brad to me was whatever because Angelina’s a freak… she tongue kissed her brother, HER BROTHER… come on, who’s shocked she slept with a married dude.

            Moral of the story… perception matters and if you’re a ho3 type don’t be frontin like you ain’t

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          • I’m sorry, and I mean no disrespect, but I gotta call foul at this one, j.ivy:

            “imho we as brown women tend to view being the mistress in a diff light than our 2520 counterparts. In their world, it’s just a hostile takeover, may the baddest chick win. Licia, being mixed, went ahead and let that 2520 out, and took Mashonda’s man.”

            To be frank, I know waaay more sistas who are mistresses than white girls. And I know about equal numbers of both. Friends of mine and cousins have been the mistress. I definitely don’t think making the decision to be with another woman’s husband has anything to do with race but, because of the shortage of men in our community and so many sista’s desire to have SOMEBODY, ANYBODY I think ‘the chick on the side’ phenomena is far more prevalent in our communities than we care to admit.

            That said: Imma defend Alicia Keys (and Angelina, and Gabriel Union and Julia Roberts and Lisa Bonet (yea…her current man, her baby daddy? He was with someone when she met him). I do not condone being with another woman’s man while they are still together. BUT…you CANNOT steal someone’s spouse/fiance/boyfriend. Dude ain’t going no where he don’t wanna go.

            And – I’ve said this before – in the course of life, people sometime get hurt while we are trying to make ourselves happy. It’s not right and maybe they could have done things differently but it is what it is. It’s not like Alicia (or any of the others) are serial adulterers; maybe she believed in her soul that this was her “soul mate” and she made the decision to give in to her emotions (plus, we don’t know what Swizz was feeding her) and decided to deal with judgment when she went to meet her maker.

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        • in the course of life, people sometime get hurt while we are trying to make ourselves happy. It’s not right and maybe they could have done things differently but it is what it is. It’s not like Alicia (or any of the others) are serial adulterers; maybe she believed in her soul that this was her “soul mate” and she made the decision to give in to her emotions (plus, we don’t know what Swizz was feeding her) and decided to deal with judgment when she went to meet her maker .

          I agree with this whole thing rightchere!

          The whole mark Alicia Keys with a scarlett letter bugs the sh*t out of me. I try to stay out of these discussions, but this right here pretty much sums it up for me.

          Life isn’t always fair and that’s just the way it is. SorryMashonda#

          And you know what else, right or wrong, I like the fact that she made her decision and refuses to go into hiding. Don’t let them shame you A. Keys! Mashonda seems like she’s moving on, and has sat down and talked with the future mother of her son’s brother/sister and that’s that. I really wish people would move on.

          Oh and I was also TeamAngelina# *shrugs*

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          • I’m in the #SorryMashonda camp and a member of #TeamAngelina, too. Funny, because I don’t ‘do’ married men. Ever.
            But I realize sometimes this is how chips fall for folks.
            It is not for me to judge anyone’s decision (unless they decide to try meth).

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          • I’ve always had the philosophy that a man/woman is married until they are divorced. And when you add the fact that these men have kids with their wives, it just makes the situation even uglier and these women typically come out looking like Hester Prynne.
            My grandfathers always says if you wrestle with a turd you will get sh*t on you. A man and women going through a divorce is a shi**y situation that I don’t want to be in the middle of.

            I’ve had SEVERAL married/seperated men proposition me and I’ve told them ALL to call me once the divorce papers are signed. I don’t believe that what God has for me is still married to someone else.

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    • She had post-partum depression? Even if she did though, it is no excuse, and in fact makes the cheating worse.

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    • “(and seriously…who let him out of the house like that?? didnt he have a best man? was it stevie wonder? jermaine jackson? fonzworth bentley? houston?) all im approving all wardrobes before spending money to have those memories captures on film FOREVER. #imjussayin. ”

      ^ ” ‘Dem boots, ‘dem boots!” * said like Roscoe P. Coltrane in Dukes of Hazzard*

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    • “(and seriously…who let him out of the house like that?? didnt he have a best man? was it stevie wonder? jermaine jackson? fonzworth bentley? houston?)”

      Houston? Shots fired? Trying to start a war from Canada, eh?

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      • @Caballeroso:
        not Houston the city! lolll Houston the dude that poked his own eye out a few years back.
        Not trying to start wars… did you see G20 footage? clearly..we arms/military is NOT our strong suit.

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    • @keisha brown – apparently he put out press release that stated they had been separted long before their rumored issues arose in december. they’ve pretty much been rolling dolo.

      he said their marriage was unsuccessful. lol thats funny. they should listen to more drake.

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  13. Let me leave this gem here. A while back in an interview he was asked about taking care of his daughter:

    “Do you help Christina out when you’re home?

    I don’t because my “helping out” turns into expectations. I’ll get Violet on a late night maybe one or two times, but after that, no. If Christina’s tired, call the nanny, call Violet’s granny. We got people.
    ”

    Seriously, son. You can’t take care of your daughter because it turns into “expectations”. He might as well be a deadbeat dad in my opinion. Expectations are a given if you are a parent.

    Also he looks like a molerat and he should get a fitted glued to his head. “take that take that take that take that”

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    • “I don’t because my “helping out” turns into expectations.”

      0_0. Yeah his azz would have to go. Apparently this applies to being faithful too.

      Hell, I’ve seen him in shmedium shirts all the time, so I would EXPECT him to keep his clothes on and not bare his titty’s while frolicking on the beach. I guess that’s what I get for having expectations.

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  14. Sometimes I wonder why bother working on all this personality (and independence) when ya’ll don’t really seem to care for it anyway. I see ya’ll getting boo’d up with wack chicks (and when I say wack I mean boring, vapid, as opposed to ugly; they are not mutually exclusive though). Mayhap all this personality will help keep a man.

    I feel bad for Cmilly but it sounds like she suffers from Ugly Girl Problems.

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    • You voiced (typed) what I was thinking. Luckily, I work on me for me, anything that comes by way of that is just icing on the cake.

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    • “Sometimes I wonder why bother working on all this personality (and independence) when ya’ll don’t really seem to care for it anyway. I”

      Dear Liz,
      This comment warrants a co-sign in permanent marker.
      Signed
      Terrell Owens.

      CC: Keisha Brown.

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      • @Liz – So true! Between the likes of Halle Berry and CMilli getting cheated on, and seeing the types of chick guys go for on the likes of Basketball Wives, TO Show and Ocho Cinco’s circus, I’m losing faith that men want anything more than a vapid Barbie Doll/Real Doll to replace when ever he gets bored. I should probably quit watching Vh1 before I get to damn cynical *sets DVR*

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        • seems like most guys just care about looks, so why should I work on my personality being an independent woman etc, when all they care about is ASSlol seriously, I just saw ChadOchocinco on the Wendy Williams show, and she asked him why he only had 3 black girls on the show(whom where picked dead last) whom were picked dead last all the other chicks were nonblack, whoredashianesque, White and Spanish girls,, he stated thats his preference, however all his babymommmas are black… anywhoo..vh1coonery does have an impact on people…

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          • “…and she asked him why he only had 3 black girls on the show(whom where picked dead last) whom were picked dead last all the other chicks were nonblack, whoredashianesque, White and Spanish girls,, he stated thats his preference, however all his babymommmas are black…”

            I’m pretty sure this is the SADDEST ish I’m gonna read all day :( Seriously folks, will there BE Black FAMILIES a few years from now??? Gonna go hurl now…

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        • Yea, we def. shouldn’t take relationship tips from reality tv and hollywood. Everything is so shallow. It’s all about ratings and appearances, so I def. don’t get discouraged from watching basketball wives.

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          • “Yea, we def. shouldn’t take relationship tips from reality tv and hollywood.”

            Exactly. This segment of the thread seems to me to be the female version of the male complaint that women only want “bad boys” and “thugs.” You’re basing what you think men want on celebrities? With reality shows?

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          • “Yea, we def. shouldn’t take relationship tips from reality tv and hollywood.”

            I agree!! If I am going to refer to anyone, it’ll people in my real life. But I also think that whatever you’re looking for, you will find. So if you want evidence that everyone is cheating, look for it. You’ll find it. If you want evidence that there is real love/relationships, seek it out. You can/will find it.

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          • @Helagramki

            For the record, what I said above wasn’t in response to what I see in TV but in real life. That isn’t to say these individuals aren’t influenced by popular culture (because we don’t live in a vacuum), but to assume people here are taking love tips from dysfunctional reality stars would be flawed. Man men date wack chicks all the time, for various reasons, but usually it’s not because they have a riveting personality.

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          • @Liz,

            Fair enough, but I still think that the essence of my response holds true. For both the “women only like bad boys” claim, and yours that men “don’t really seem to care for [non-looks traits] anyway,” I suspect that there’s some selection bias going on. Perceptions are in part shaped by the things to which we pay attention. If I’m caught up in how Desmond Hatchett has only a minimum wage job but at least 20 children by at least 11 women before age 30, and I conclude from that that I’d get more play dropping out of school because “[Black] women would rather have a no-good dude than someone trying to do something positive in life,” I’d be coming to the wrong conclusion about women generally. This is true whether the conclusion is drawn from celebrities or non-celebrity observation.

            And similarly, to be sure, (hetero) men prefer more attractive women. But the overwhelming majority aren’t out trying to marry the dimingest dimepiece that they can pull, personality, character, intelligence, etc. be damned.

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          • Exactly. This segment of the thread seems to me to be the female version of the male complaint that women only want “bad boys” and “thugs.” You’re basing what you think men want on celebrities? With reality shows?

            good point and sh*t

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        • perhaps these beautiful celebs just have a bad case of sandy panties, or are extremely insecure, or needy…guy thought he was getting an aston martin, but the engine was missing…not a good look. Also, let’s pause to assess the likes of the men you mentioned…are any of them really a prize? Don’t seem to be the type that could engage in a rigorous debate about…ANYTHING! I’m good.

          ***I am extremely opposed to cheating. There is NO good reason to cheat. Period. message approved by j.ivy and paid for by, oh it was free****

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        • But do you date the likes of Terrell Owens, Ocho Cinco, The Dream?

          Gosh, I would have to live in a world where these numbnuts are my only options. Ick.

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          • Exactly, hence my comparison above. Who are the “y’all” wifing pretty women with no substance?

            Mr. Obama is perhaps atypical (in that there have only been so many [and no other Black men] who have risen to his current position), and Michelle isn’t bad looking (even if she probably wouldn’t have come out on top in my list if she had been included in last week’s ranking), but I don’t see in their relationship, or in the relationships of most similarly-situated* Black men/Black couples an example of a man seeking out the bangingest dime that he can find regardless of substance. If the “y’all” in question consists of men more like The Dream and Ocho Cinco than Obama, and this is giving these VSSs grief, then I can only SMH.

            * Similarly-situated at least from the perspective of their early interactions.

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    • “Sometimes I wonder why bother working on all this personality (and independence) when ya’ll don’t really seem to care for it anyway.”

      Girrrrl! Say that. It’s rough out here.

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    • I feel bad for Cmilly but it sounds like she suffers from Ugly Girl Problems.

      Very concise, succinct and accurate summary. :)

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  16. THis is one of those things that makes me think i’m in the Matrix..
    because this would ONLY make sense if there were pills involved and i took the wrong one..
    i mean… iCan’t… REALLY!?!?!
    THIS is who we doin!?!?!?
    I’m in a parallel universe…
    ok.. it’s like dude just yelled a big fat “EFF YOU!” to christina.. honestly!? i don’t even know what he was thinking.. but i’ve heard some of his music and we can all concur that his brain ain’t really intact anyway..
    i’m lookin at chick though and i’m thinking that Dream needed someone beneath him to make him feel like a man.. he already knew that he wasn’t supposed to end up with christina.. but HONESTLY, if you wish upon a star (no Disney) and end up with something you KNEW had to be sent from the heavens, then why OH WHY don’t you respect it and not fudge it up!?
    boy oh boy, common sense ain’t common..
    pure wretchedness dat!!
    i don’t truly want to believe that all men are dogs but D*MN if he didn’t just fudge it up for the “ugly men’s clubs..” i know several fat men wanna beat him to the white meat right now.. because for YEARS, women could at least rely on the fat ones to be faithful.. (and they benefitted from that) but he messed it up for them too and they gotta rebuild their rep from ground zero..
    travesty i tell you.. a travesty..

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    • Yes! and this: “but i’ve heard some of his music and we can all concur that his brain ain’t really intact anyway” I totally agree with…..His song “Make-Up Bag” e_O……A song that suggests a designer handbag makes up for his indiscretions. Da’ fugg….

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    • 1) @Nick, you are crazy but I co-sign this entire comment :)

      2) I feel horrible for anyone who is cheated on (man or woman) but it’s got to be especially hard when your business is splattered throughout the media. Divorce is ugly and sad enough without people picking your relationship apart and throwing pity and/or judgment at you. We all need to say a special prayer for married people.

      3) On a lighter note I’m not anti-Christina Milian but I’m not a fan. She’s a beautiful girl but has she even had more than 1 album?…it’s a serious question. However, I do love this!!: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yAFQlFN71T4

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      • I had an entrie conversation yesterday about how ugly people should not be able to cheat on beautiful people. It just doesn’t make sense. Ugh. Lol. Ignorant, yes. But I truly feel it in my soul.

        They’re doing you a favor.

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  17. Point number one definitely on point.

    In this case of cheating, in my opinion Dream has low-self esteem. To me, he is one of those dudes that didn’t get any play (as you mentioned) and now since he has money power he’s doing what he wants fearlessly. Because of this spectacle of a marriage only garners him more album sales from chicken head like women who are like his assistant. I hope Chrissy didn’t catch anything.

    Christina, she probably thought she found love and a resurfacing career. Just because she’s beautiful doesn’t mean she knows her own self worth because if she did she wouldn’t have married a man who had a previous failed marriage (less than 3 years) prior to theirs and three kids.

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  18. *Judging by this photo of The-Dream, not only did he cheat on C.Milli, he got pregnant.

    *Cheating is tuuurble (Charles Barkley accent) but I’m glad C.Milli’s getting out of this marriage. The-Dream said he doesn’t help with their baby because he doesn’t want to “create expectations.” And no woman wants a man with bigger breasts than she has.

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  19. Given both of their previous relationship patterns, i’m not shocked at the outcome. Pretty girls with no substance get cheated on. Same for cute not so smart guys. Cute/pretty don’t necessarily guarantee devotion and faithfulness. That wedding photo was the worst. He looked like he was forced into that attire. The song goes, “i don’t know how they treat cha, how they do it where YOU at.” all he was tryna say was she should know him like daaaaaat. I think she knew. It just looks like an arrangement. For him, no one knew him at all, so he snagged her and got major attention. And for her, love and if it failed, guaranteed security of current lifestyle. I mean, there isnt one photo or mention of him spending time with Christina or the baby. Looks may get you a man/married but thats it. You need more to make it lasting and worth it.. I definitely agree with P, B-ouncy is not exempt from getting cheated on.

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  20. The Nightmare, as I like to call him pretty much did the same thing to Nivea, except they were married longer and had more children. We all know where Nivea ended up…as one of Lil’ Wayne’s baby mamas. IDK C.Milli- the whole thing sound like a case of when “effing for tracks” goes terribly wrong. Also, it goes without saying that The Nightmare should keep them big azz shades on at all time. Kool Moe Dee game proper.

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    • **(Moe Dee Voice)** But How ya like him NOW!!**

      **Does side stepping dance from the Moe Dee video**

      Bond. Blkbond.

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    • Miss t-lee i’m dying laughin over here. I agree. I think Christina knew and is not surprised. He did it to his ex and he will do it to you. Many women know they’re being cheated on and stay for whatever reason. Maybe she has low self-esteem. They got together too quickly anyway.

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    • “Also, it goes without saying that The Nightmare should keep them big azz shades on at all time. Kool Moe Dee game proper”

      lmao

      Right?! I don’t endorse indoor sunglasses, but some folks seriously need ‘em. His face look constipated.

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  21. ??have a baby by me be a be a millionaire, thousandaire,–50cent plays in the background?…I’m Not really surprised, to me Christina Milian falls into the category of just bein pretty thats it, nothin’ else special, and in the list of fallen singers who pose in those Barbershop Magazines…we all know why she married him, especially a mu$cian(they are married to their music) nowdays I feel as if Some women in particular the Lauren Londons,Cassies and other females affiliated with Badboy, Tiny’s, Toya’s Basketball Jumpoff’s fiances of 10years>why buy the cow when u can get the milk for free…etc feel as if Marriage is Temporary but a Baby is forever (ie childsupport ’til 18) so whether drunk/hi/attention hungry etc I call h*eshid out. The def of marriage is soo effed up nowdays it’s like a publicity stunt contractual obligation, marriage is sacred, too many folks watch Bridezilla Platinum weddings, when they could go to marriage counseling etc

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    • I know this is random but these 2 songs stuck out like a sore thumb….?If you ever make yo girl feel bad drop drop 5 $tacks on the makeup bag–yeap?? –another catchy TheDream song feat.TI
      =====================================
      ??dip it low bring it up slow roll it all around poke it out like your back broke, pop, pop, pop that thang I’m show ya how to make Ya man say ohhh??-==Christina MIlian on hoeshid, effng 4 tracks/relevancy..(Tommy Matola.Mariah Carey)..who is now Married to Nick Cannon who Dated Christina MIlian and Selita Ebanks who is in The Makeup Bag…6 degrees of seperation..ok my random rant done

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  22. I think Christina is just too pretty for her own damn good. She felt she had to be with someone in a powerful position or she would waste her pretty! Christina and the Dream’s relationship was a joke. She clearly was screwing for tracks. Sorry Panama.

    Women like her are supposed to have it all. Thank GOD I know the truth, although it tough to see at times.

    Moral of the story: Sometimes real life is better than fiction!

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  23. Because I’m feeling especially discouraged about black-on-black relationships, I’ll take “Men really do just suck” for $50-11-thousand.

    At this point, I might just have to focus on the AARP set. Old men love me. I however do not like old men because old men gice you worms. I better start liking worms :(

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  24. I heard a theory once on celebrity infidelity that suggested some women go after the husbands of incredibly beautiful women as a boost to their own egos. Case in point: Halle and Eric Benet. I’m sure dude had a nice lil’ female following before Halle, but perhaps some of the women he fooled around with cared more about getting the “most beautiful woman in the world’s” man…even if for a night. Doesn’t absolve his guilt any, but I guess the “I had Halle’s man” mentality could’ve played a part…I don’t know…
    Regardless, it’s late and I’m going to bed…bed…bed….eh….eh..
    *Now ya’ll got that sh#t in my head…

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    • I don’t have any actual proof, but you cannot and will not convince me that Halle Berry isn’t crazy. Much as I love her, and as bad as she is and forever will be, she has “delayed headcase” written all over her. Of course that isn’t a reason to cheat on her and all her fineness, just making a point.

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      • Eric Benet made me believe there could be such a thing as a sex addict. He wasn’t cheating on Halle with side chicks – he was picking up hookers off the street. And crazy or not crazy, when you’re a D-List R&B singer, you don’t cheat on Halle’s millions *Cue Dave Chapelle’s married to Oprah sketch*

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      • agreed Halle Berry and Robin Givens and even Jlo–Boomergang…to me fall into the crazybeautiful category kinda like Lynn Whitfield in Thin Line Between Love and Hate, men get sooo caught up in their physical appeareance/abilities..but she could be Psycho..controlling..or a Beeyotch some symptoms of pretty girl syndrome, I’m cute you do what I say or else ya know what I mean

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  25. “Of course I then remembered that not only did I not know her but I also never had a chance with her.”

    Sometimes I feel like I’m the only dude who doesn’t have a celebrity crush. This is the reason why. Yeah, I think Alicia Keys and Beyonce and (insert hot celebrity girl here) look good, but at the end of the day, I don’t think any more of them than I do Sally From The Alley, so f*ck it.

    #2 is some truth though, on the real.

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  26. Sad state of affairs when anyone’s relationship breaks up. Any number reasons can lead to why hot people (or anyone) can get cheated on:

    1. They are human and pick the wrong people. Ex1. If they are hot, they are assumed to have their dance card filled when the opposite may be true. The same reason no one approaches them is the assumption that they are getting jocked or deemed out of a person’s league, so they may not be getting approached at all. Thus, a possible lack of experience or maturity relationship-wise can occur to pick the wrong one without knowing the signs or simply picking the people who had the gumption to holla.

    2. They are used to their looks making allowances for them and that mind-set can be hard to live with.

    3. They pick the wrong people for the wrong reasons. Ex. because they were bold enough to holla, in the same profession they are in, is successful (choosing someone exclusively because of their success and little else isn’t good).

    4. Like Panama stated, level of attractiveness does not matter in terms monogamy. For a cheater (and I mean serial cheaters), the thrill of new tail will always trump foine, known, and what might be considered “old” tail. The press release/statement expressing the demise of Christina and Dream’s relationship resembles the release/statement of his break-up with Nivea. Could he be a serial cheater? Just cause he wifes you doesn’t mean he isn’t. All this is hearsay, so owno.

    5. They can’t f— or the sexualy chemistry is wack or missing when you really get down to it. Perhaps separated and with other folks it’s all to the good, but together…No.

    6. After the shiny new feeling, you find personalities, maturity, and life priorities don’t mesh.

    7. Because the cheater could, had the opportunity, and didn’t care about risking the relationship to do so. That’s jacked up, but him in those pics with another woman and the Pap around obviously shows he didn’t give a fluggggggggggggg. He’s pretty brazen.

    8. The cheater may have low self-esteem or baggage to the point where they doubt they deserve a good thing or can’t believe they have such a good thing. Thus, they may test and sabotage their relationship.

    9. Lack of communication or simply lacking the courage the speak on what might be difficult, not nice, or not easy to admit or say.

    10. Selfishness. When it really comes down to it it’s some selfish greedy-azz ‘ish. A person is putting their jollies before their vows, honor, relationship, SO, in this case children, reputation, etc. etc.

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    • Yes LS. I think someone said Love is the only thing that keeps a man faithful. He has to love you. You don’t love looks, you love the person cause looks fade….especially when you see the person everyday. I like #8 because I’ve always said that…sabotage is more common than we think.

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      • I think someone said Love is the only thing that keeps a man faithful.

        eh. can’t agree with this. wanting to be faithful is really the only thing that keeps a man faithful. that’s it.

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        • Same thing Champ. If a man really loves you then he wants to be faithful. Raheem Davaughn told me so…he sang it in a song saying “she aint you”…don’t kill my dream.

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          • A man can be faithful without loving someone which means they aren’t really the same thing. I think people are faithful only if they want to be and that is independent of the other person is involved. An honest person will be honest no matter who is involved and how they feel towards them.

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          • A man can be faithful without loving someone which means they aren’t really the same thing. I think people are faithful only if they want to be and that is independent of the other person is involved

            ***nodding head***

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    • “2. They are used to their looks making allowances for them and that mind-set can be hard to live with.”

      YESS. Finding out that some nicca had the nerve to step out on a dime is like a slap to her face a la Rupaul slapping the other Tyra.

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  27. Maybe I’m just jaded and bitter but do we really think this “just happened”? Come on now. He was an a**hole when she decided to marry him and I bet you she herself aint even surprised. Not that I don’t think people can just up and change on you but this is not the case. Unfortunately, Christina could of saw this coming but decided to overlook all the signs. A foul us women tend to commit over and over again. Like the Panama says, ANYONE can get cheated on. Especially if the man thinks he can get away with it. CASE CLOSED.

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  28. Relationship killa … killa … killa.

    Here’s what happens when you get Tiger Woods type dudes (those people we laughed at in HS who turned out to be effin rich) with money and think they have game. As much simple minded R&B he’s made in the last four years, you’d think he’d listen to his own words.

    BTW, she should have asked for a divorce the moment he decided to dawn the Jack Sparrow tux for a wedding. And once she announced it, every man would have smiled and said they were taking their talents elsewhere in trying to nab her.

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  31. Wait, The Dream’s name is Terius? He sound like he went to University of Phoenix. Whatever the hell that means.

    Anyhow.

    “Since so many of our VSS are indeed hot tamales, I felt like maybe you all could help enlighten.”

    I’ve calculated ish and I’m a 3.2 so I’m more like a…chalupa.

    “I’d like to mention here how much of a crush I’ve had on Christina Milian for years. Everybody who knows me knows that I love her with the passion of Mel Gibson’s racist rants.”

    Her shape used to be what I aspired to get! And she is very pretty! Also — and I’m not sure you were intentionally going for this — but I sorta dig how you said “passion of” and “Mel Gibson” in the same sentence because ya know…Passion of the Christ. It was like a subliminal entendre. Ya know what…knowing you…it probably was intentional. You riddle, you. Sexxy.

    “Which sucks monkey nuts. Bubbles.”

    This cracked me up for two reasons. One, because of the actual drake sentence. It was a good one. Two, because it reminded me of the footage of that lady crying to an older Bubbles (around the time MJ left us…*sob*) and pouring her heart out to him through the cage, asking him heartfelt questions and ish and he basically just ignored her arse. It was HILARIOUS.

    “The ugliest man with a million dollars looks a lot better than an average looking brother with $1,000 to his name. Bet that.”

    Only if the ugliest man buries his face beneath the sea of dolla dolla bills…ya’ll.

    “Did he just not care that he was going to get found out?”

    I am flabbergasted how he has ZERO couth. He got, like, negative couth. Un-effing-couth. He is basically fronting off Dip-it-Low in front of millions of people tweeters by canoodling in the ocean with this chick like they’re peppy celeb newlyweds subtly posing for US Weekly. What is WRONG with folks?!

    Damn.

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    • awwww ,cheekie you aint a 3.2 not with those cheeks( you which ones) causing accidents and ish.

      in regard to the dreams and his negative couth, any dude who has the audacity to butcher an aaliyah song does not deserve christina milian. he still looks like a blowfish

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    • awwww ,cheekie you aint a 3.2 not with those cheeks( you which ones) causing accidents and ish.

      in regard to the dreams and his negative couth, any dude who has the audacity to butcher an aaliyah song does not deserve christina milian. he still looks like a blowfish

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    • @Cheekie

      “I’ve calculated ish and I’m a 3.2 so I’m more like a…chalupa.”

      As a 1.5 I rebuke your claim as a 3.2. You know you are not a 3.2. Leave us unsexy and sexy ugmo’s in our own group.

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    • “I am flabbergasted how he has ZERO couth. He got, like, negative couth. Un-effing-couth. He is basically fronting off Dip-it-Low in front of millions of people tweeters by canoodling in the ocean with this chick like they’re peppy celeb newlyweds subtly posing for US Weekly. What is WRONG with folks?!”

      Yeah. He doesn’t care. I actually saw him happily walking with this chick in the airport last month. And I thought to myself, “Hmm, that sho nuff is not C. Milli, so what’s happening here?” I figured she was probably just his assistant, and it turns out that she is, but she also assists him in catching his next nut.

      *shrug* At least she’s able to take on more responsibilities than what she was orginially hired for. That’s good on a resume, right?

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      • @8th wonder:
        I figured she was probably just his assistant, and it turns out that she is, but she also assists him in catching his next nut.

        *shrug* At least she’s able to take on more responsibilities than what she was orginially hired for. That’s good on a resume, right?

        LMAOOOO!!! I guess – jobs are hard to come by these days. well.. not in her case.

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      • “I figured she was probably just his assistant, and it turns out that she is, but she also assists him in catching his next nut.

        *shrug* At least she’s able to take on more responsibilities than what she was orginially hired for. That’s good on a resume, right?”

        LOL, I know, right? Dayum that’s effed up on beaucoup levels.

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    • “I’ve calculated ish and I’m a 3.2 so I’m more like a…chalupa.”
      you FULLY know that i was coming up with something..
      i’m an enchilada… (because i just LOVE the way it rolls off the tongue.. #OW!)
      and when did “let me beat the #1 spot become such sport?!”
      Love you babes!

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      • “and when did “let me beat the #1 spot become such sport?!””

        LOL, right?! Its like the World Cup of blogs. I want a vuvuzela.

        Love ya back, Nickerz!

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  32. I’d add a number 5 to your list: The thrill of the chase. I think for a lot of guys, especially those that are very successful and have worked hard to obtain that success, the same drive that got them to the top of their career fields also keep them chasing women and the adulation that comes with it.

    I guess that’s what you were implying in your number 1, which I interpreted as saying that cheating for these rich & famous dudes are just crimes of opportunity. I think it goes beyond that, to the point that some of these dudes are almost compulsive cheaters and nothing outside of a 9 figure divorce settlement can change that.

    I’ll let you guys know what the deal really is as soon as I get with one of my celebrity crushes…

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    • “The thrill of the chase. I think for a lot of guys, especially those that are very successful and have worked hard to obtain that success, the same drive that got them to the top of their career fields also keep them chasing women and the adulation that comes with it.”

      *nods*

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  33. ‘Which sucks monkey nuts. Bubbles’
    ‘However, it goes both ways. LL.’

    ROTFLMAO! XD
    Thats terrible! (wipes tears)
    funny ish!

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  34. lmao@ “But maybe Christina brings nothing else to the table. I refuse to believe that. My baby is perfect in every way.”

    Sorry but nobody’s perfect, and those 2 really made no sense to begin with. Christina in the end was just a beautiful, lukewarm pop star. She’s got no accomplishemenst and zero career to talk about. Ofcourse The Dream stepped out on her, if all that pulled him to her in the 1st place was her pretty face. The Dream also just seems like a conceited (for no reason)@$$ who’s only looking out for no.1. Dude really needs to keep his mouth shut and let his publicist do the talking for him. I could see this 1 coming a mile away, he just did not care. Straight constantly talking restless.

    Christina on the other hand, i dunno what that girl was thinking. Probably talked herself into believing he was this lovable teddy bear who’ll rescue her from her failed career, and D list life (no offence but it seems looks is all ole girl has going for her). I actually thought her and Nick Cannon made more sense, even though he did also end up messing up. Ah well, there are just too many women walking the streets. Especially beautiful ones, men have way too many options *shrug* so women really need to up their game.

    With that being said, show me a beautiful woman, and i’ll show u a man tired of ….o.k i’ll leave it at that. A wise man once said- don’t ask me who coz i don’t know- a man should marry for love, and a woman, well a woman should marry for security. While I don’t agree with this 100%, it does help being married to someone who believes he’s married his dream woman(no Dream pun intended).

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  35. Brings to mind the phrase ‘Behind every beautiful woman is a man tired of f***ing her’ or something along those lines anyway. Some hot chicks may have a tendency to rest on their beautiful laurels. They got so used to riding on their beauty and never developed a winsome personality, sense of humor etc. At the end of the day, when the honeymoon is over and you are both in stockinged feet, holey varsity tee-shirts and baggy pants chilling around the house you need a partner you can relate with intellectually. Some cute chicks are bleeding bor-ing! trust me.

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  36. Like P said, looks – and a big butt and a smile you can trust – will get you in the door. And that does go both ways.

    But, personality and a life/interests of your own go a looong way in keeping your mate engaged. Beauty is so subjective and fleeting that if there isn’t anything else there, any chick (guy) is gonna find themselves played and lonely.

    I’m sure CMilli is as pure and as perfect as winter’s first snow. But, what else was she doing besides being Dream’s wife? Not that there is anything wrong with being dedicated to your man but you have to find a balance between doing ish during the day (doesn’t necessarily have to be a ‘job’) so you can have some interesting stories to tell when he gets home and being uber-wife.

    Halle is perfection but TWO men we know of have cheated. I interviewed her once and she was sweet, but…boring. Not quite Beyonce boring, but still. (Now, to be fair, some women have TOO much personality. And that is as bad as having none at all).

    Case in point, two women with husbands who (appear) to be crazy in love with them:

    Jada Pinkett. Sure, she hasn’t acted much since they got married. But she’s doing her crazy music thing, etc. Though Will may o_O her for singing rock, at least she can tell an interesting story after a show. He doesn’t have to hear the same ish he’s been hearing for years.

    Michelle Obama. She had a career when she met him and kept a paying job until his run for the White House really ramped out. Now, as FLOTUS, she has her own issues she’s focusing on.

    If a woman (man) maintains a sense of self and personality AND makes sure she and her chosen man share common goals for what they want their relationship to be, the chances of anyone stepping out drop a bit. To really lower those chances, you have to make sure your partner isn’t easily tempted by fresh tail.

    My $2.00.

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    • I agree with you except for the Jada Pinkett reference. She has admitted that she and Will have an open marriage. People cheat for different reasons…you see men looking at their wives lovingly and they appear to be head over heels, but they will still be sleeping with other people (and vice verse to be fair). There is no need to cheat when you have your wife’s permission to screw someone else.

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        • I forgot about that show but it’s fairly recent.

          Re: the open marriage thing: Did she actually say that or is it urban myth?

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          • It’s urban myth… because nobody has been able to produce an article or a youtube clip.

            What they said (that I have read in an Essence article) is that, they acknowledge that they may be attracted to other people and say it to each other… Doesn’t mean they act on it.

            This whole “they have an open marriage” thing has been blown so friggin’ out of proportion, it’s bloody annoying.

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  38. While they may hold true, reasons 1,2, and 4 are all shitty, flimsy excuses that help deflect the blame from where it belongs: upon his ever-so-corny shoulders.

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  39. “He didn’t even wear shoes. That would blow my self-esteem to get cheated on by a chick who doesn’t wear shoes.”

    BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

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  40. bottomline: we dont know what happened between them and probably never will…

    the truth in these things with celebs rarely comes out…

    he’s married and being seen out with another woman is not a good look…but we have no idea what life was like for them behind closed doors

    im reserving judgement for now…

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    • Also…if they were separated – we don’t know when they split – when the pics were taken, then was he really, technically cheating?

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  41. I agree with the reasons stated. It doesn’t matter how beautiful, intelligent and just all-around wonderful you are, if a man wants to cheat, he will cheat. In regards to The Dream a.k.a The Hamburglar, I think he has the ugly man with money syndrome. Because of his money, beautiful women are giving him self-esteem. He thinks he can do better than what he has, which is why he divorced Nivea.

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  42. I’ve never paid attention to these two because they to me are the most irrelevant people. Never paid attention to CMilli cuz nothing she’s done has been interesting to me. Whatever she’s done has been very cookie cutter and boring. And the Dream, well aside from being tragic in the face, his music sucks too. I’ve never been like ooh, turn that Dream song up. I can be a fan of ugly celebrity’s, but they are usually talented and I appreciate them for their craft. So, two irrelevant people in my book getting together has always been just ehh.

    So, learning that he’s an a$$ and that they got married in September 2009 is new to me. But yea, he prob. just got tired of her cuz if she seems boring on screen then she might be at home too. Also, its like what Chris Rock said, a man is as faithful as his options. Dream obviously has a lot more options.

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  43. I’ve always been a low-key fan of C.Milli. I do think some of the “she married him for the money/fame/come-up/career” comments are kind of out of line. Granted she will never be ranked on the Fortune 500 next to Beyonce, homegirl was far from the welfare. Precious. A couple of movies here and there plus a few songs…maybe she was investing her money right? I do remember some random magazine doing a spread of her (possibly rented) home pre-Dream and she was comfortable. And if she really wanted to get in the tabloids, I think she already knew marrying Terius “White Folks Know My Music But Not My Name” was not the move. Maybe, just maybe, it was love.

    I do foresee a “Dancing With The Stars” appearance in her future, and possibly a tell-all in VIBE magazine in the coming weeks.

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    • @First time commenter, welcome and sh*t

      if i’m not mistaken, she was doing okay b/c despite her front of the house deficiency, she’s done songwriting for other people that has paid well.

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    • I love how your name leaves no doubt that you deserve a “welcome and sh*t”. Like sometimes Champers is not sure (and sh*t), so you’re helping out the community by just being direct. Props.

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  44. Fine girls get cheated on for the same reason anybody gets cheated on – the cheater is just on some greedy, selfish sh*t…Period. It’s NEVER the person’s fault who gets cheated on.

    Whether it’s a guy who’s cheating because he thinks the grass is greener or some other chick gives him the attention that he feels his wife/lady doesn’t give or a woman who cheats because she forms an emotional bond with or receives attention from a dude that her husband/man doesn’t give, the cheater lacks self-discipline and doesn’t govern themselves in the right way. Even if it’s a situation where one spouse stops having sex with the other, they need to work it out, get counseling, or separate if the other can’t deal with it.

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    • the root is selfishness all day!
      Such ugly traits, selfishness, greed, vanity = narcissism!

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    • “Fine girls get cheated on for the same reason anybody gets cheated on – the cheater is just on some greedy, selfish sh*t…Period. It’s NEVER the person’s fault who gets cheated on.”

      Even if the person getting cheated on is a proven donkey tail, there are always other options. Shanking, for one. Or you know, the legal one: leaving.

      Monk, you the bestest.

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  45. while i agree with the general sentiments of the post, i’m still convinced that this dude is gay and he’ll cheat on his next wife with evan ross. just saying.

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    • I’m gonna have to sit down to fully digest this comment. *cracking up, holding tummy in fit of giggles*

      I’m already sitting down, actually, but I’m gonna have to ease down a bit lower in my chair or something.

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  46. “I love her with the passion of Mel Gibson’s racist rants.”
    F*ck Mel Gibson and his passion! I’m done with Mel Gibson movies and shows.

    “However, it goes both ways. LL.”
    LL Cool J? Are you saying he’s bi? I didn’t hear about that one…but then again, I didn’t know Christina Milian was married to the Dream or had a kid. Hell, I just found out who the Dream was last month.

    “Hell, Halle Berry got cheated on…by a man who really used the excuse of being a sex addict. He didn’t even wear shoes.” Wearing shoes is SO overrated! Most mornings I don’t even put shoes on until I park here at work.

    What man under 60 isn’t a sex addict? It’s no secret that men like sex. Any normal man who’s had sex under normal circumstances will want to do it again, and again, and again, and again, and…you get my point. This whole sex addict excuse is a crock of crap in my humble opinion…but that’s just me.

    “Being hot…only gets you into the game. Being smart and everything else keeps you on the court.” Very well stated! This is what I’ve been telling folx for years, except not so eloquently. There’s a saying that I’ve heard over the years..”No matter how beautiful a chick is, somebody, somewhere, is sick of her sh*t. Rihanna.” (or should I have gone with Chris Brown on that Drake’ism?..oh well). For all we know, Christina could be bat sh*t crazy. Britney.

    “Terius was just never a good dude in the first place and he married her despite planning on cheating…with his assistant.” I was tempted to go with the Chris Rock saying that “A man is as faithful as his options.”, but then I realized it’s bullshit. I’ll go with “A man is as faithful as he wants to be, given his options.”

    Maybe Terius is a diva dude…never had options before…got money and fame (therefore got options)…saw Christina as a nice option and took advantage of it…then realized that, despite being married, he still had options that he could take advantage of. Perhaps he was bored and his assistant was convenient, willing, and available…who knows.

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    • @Cab
      “..”No matter how beautiful a chick is, somebody, somewhere, is sick of her sh*t.”
      Did you get that from me? I’ve said that a few times. It’s a great motto to live by when dating.

      But this:
      “saw Christina as a nice option and took advantage of it…then realized that, despite being married, he still had options that he could take advantage of.”
      I think you just answered why he cheated.

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    • “This whole sex addict excuse is a crock of crap in my humble opinion…but that’s just me.”

      I DO believe the addiction is real in general (that sh*t ain’t no joke!), but I do suspect a lot of celebs are using it as an easy way out.

      Also, I think you’re right about being a diva dude. In fact, he has a diva dude face. Ya’ll know how that look. Not all diva dudes are pretty by the way, but his face still screams wannabe diva to me.

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  47. Why do women get cheated on? A couple of things come to mind…

    1. A man is only as faithful as his options.

    2. Is it really realistic to think there’s only (1) person for you? A man or a woman?

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    • yeah its relaistic because some people don’t want to screw the world, truly loving and building with one person is more than enough.
      See the other way folks ain;t really loving no one. not even themselves in ALOT of cases.

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  48. I think she was tired of being treated badly by the good-looking dudes she was dating, so she decided to try dating a homely guy since the theory goes, an ugly man will worship you. But she didn’t take into account the fact his money and grammy(s) may have gassed his head up a little bit. He thinks he deserves a beautiful woman now just because he’s rich, so he takes her for granted. I’ve seen this happen before. Poor Christina.

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    • That theory is complete bullsh*t, thats why I said a long minute ago I will never try to work around luke warm barely there attractions ever again. they can be complete assh*les too AND ain’t even your type LLS, so you lose twice!

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  49. The Dream looks likes Foreskin/ Hemaphrodite( or combination of the two) ….her career was in the shitter so she probably fucked for tracks and he “miscalculated the next to the last pump” ( gotta love Outkast) … He will pay and she will hop next hot thing in the producing world….oh yeah and PJ I had to have a little moment of silence when I found out Lauren London was knocked up by Wayne….she was my prototype….now she’s just a hoe on Skype…makes no sense but fuck it who cares….you ladies and gents take it light ..lata

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  50. The Dream is an azz…I thought this before he even got with Christina. He can’t sing, he looks like a cross between the Hamburglar and Teddy Ruxpin and was too cocky for his own good.

    I point the finger at Christina too…she knew what the hell she was getting into when she started it off by fcuking him for tracks. I am sure he showed those tendancies before the baby and the wedding but she had an album to record(I bet you one will be out within the next couple of months). People have been noticing them out by themselves and have questioning the marriage from the job. Their marriage has been over so no surprise here. Definite downgrade if you talking about the fact that he dipped out publicly (i’m sure he did it before) with his assistant who is prbbably fcuking him for her cum up (pause) as well. Who knows, and really who cares… I don’t rock nor promote his (or Christina’s )stuff anyway.

    on to the topic…

    Looks get old real fast. I have been with some scrumptious men and I have been with some Sam Cassell looking ninjas. I have been treated well by the handsome men and I have been treated well by the gargoyles. I have been treated like shyt by the tastys and likewise by the garanimals. It all boils down to how a person treats you and how you treat them. A baby will not save a healthy relationship and neither will your looks.

    It always get me when people say ‘how could he cheat on Halle’…shyt she human. She may be a woman that needs her ego stroked 24 hours a day. She is in the spotlight, successful, and people love her…it takes a lot to deal with that everyday. Who knows, who cares…it does not impact my daily.

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  51. Seems like too many chicks are taking Fiddy’s song seriously. “Have a baby by me, be a millionaire.” Um, yeah, right, whatever.

    My question is – do you think she is going to get as much money as Ke.lis did from N.as?

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  52. wait is this post actually blaming women for why men cheat on them? Are we making excuses for asshole behavior?

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    • no not blaming women at all just trying to shed some light on the mindsets of these kind of men.

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      • I don’t see it that way. By saying oh she’s crazy or she doesn’t bring much to the table insinuates that some of the fault lies with her, and a lot of men use those very same excuses to justify their disgusting behavior. If a relationship isn’t working for whatever reason have some integrity and leave. Doggin’ out your wife and the mother of your child then blaming her – what a way to victimize the victim twice.

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        • She has some accountibility for phcuking with him, let alone marrying him, track record alone should have said something to her but then her track record says something too…..People have to take ownership for their part in things. that victim mentality serves no one well, be the victor, no the victim

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        • @nubiankween – I don’t think Panama is blaming CM. He is simply citing a myriad of reasons he feels infidelity occurs within relationships where a beautiful woman is violated. Afterall, one of his points was that “men suck”. It doesnt get anymore blaming than that.

          Anyway, I totally agree with you that blaming the victim is wrong.
          However, I think cheating women use the blaming tactic to “justify their disgusting behavior” moreso than men. Cheating men, once caught, are more prone to admit they cheated just ’cause. Cheating women, 99% of the time, cast blame on the men for their infidelity.

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          • “Cheating women, 99% of the time, cast blame on the men for their infidelity.”

            Cause most of the time that is the reason. When we meet a man who treats us right, we’re more often faithful out of love alone. Men just think about sex half the time.

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          • @SmartFoxGirl – LOL. in this case, yes, his cheating is his own doing.

            however, i love how women always blame the downfall of a relationship on the man. like women are these perfect creatures who just want to be treated right and men come in and f*ck it all up. let’s keep it real, women bring their OWN set of f*cked up issues to every relationship just like men do.

            i know we’re just talking about cheating in this post, but i could easily write an entire post about the fact that women generally feel that 99 percent of the time, if a relationship sours, its the man’s fault. fohwtbs.

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          • Pandy why you pickin on me today? I never said that. You did…the whole men suck and it’s the sex doesn’t ring a bell? I don’t blame men. No matter what happens to me in life, I try to see what I could have done differently. I know nobody likes a whiner so I try to self improve with my whining. You should write a post about that. Alot of women do blame men. I wonder why that is. Hmmmmm. (sarcasm) And can you write a blog about men being a little too greedy in life aka don’t know how to be happy with what they have? Just sayin.

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          • @Panama
            Took the words write out of my fingertips. I’ve thought about composing my own book on this ridiculous escapism. Women and their lack of accountability for anything. It’s like they don’t like to see themselves as the villain since society always treats them as victims in almost every situation.

            When a man cheats, he’s just a dirty dog that cant help himself.
            When a woman cheats, its something the man wasnt doing to keep her happy. Its never that she was just a dirty dog that cant help herself.

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          • Lmao I know you weren’t trying to be funny but it was funny. I agree but not all. Truth is most women aren’t slutty cheating whores like men try to make it seem. We’re actually 20 times more faithful than men. I even read some study that showed promiscuous women were hurt by their father or a man and acted out sexually. It’s science and ish. Not all but alot.

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          • Rubbish.
            Those studies are unreliable and are just more propaganda to perpetuate the myth that men are responsible for everything ‘bad’ and women can do no wrong. With as much negative stigma there is associated with ‘loose’ behavior, do you really think you can rely on candid, honest research participants? Most women dont even like to acknowledge their inner wh)re, much less admit it to someone else.

            For every cheating wife/girlfriend, the husband/boyfriend is to blame.
            For every promiscuous chick out there, the father is responsible.

            See the reoccuring theme?

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          • @Panama,

            “like women are these perfect creatures who just want to be treated right and men come in and f*ck it all up.”

            YES! You’re learn-ding.

            But, on the serious tip. Naw, I don’t subscribe to that “it’s always the man (or woman’s) fault.” Real life don’t work in black/white. There are many shades of gray…and boy is that gray a b*tch.

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          • @Sobo
            We always go back and forth but I like how you think. Yes and no. History depicted us as the first wrong doer and we get the bad wrap of being weak, inferior yada yada yada. I will say this though: I went out to dinner with some friends who were all dishing on some of their deepest to the grave dirt. (No joke I sat there like o_o which made me realize I aint got no d@mn secrets) but anywho, one of my friends said point blank “Never ever tell a man how many men you’ve slept with or what you’ve done with them. Always keep the number under 5 and most of what you’ve done don’t count so don’t count it”…and everyone agreed like it was some common law amongst women. True story. lol Inner wh()res are alive and well and these weren’t scumbag women either. *shivers as I plan a g@ng b@ng so I can have a secret*

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          • @SmartFoxGirl

            Either you are lying about your ignorance of this, or you are really a rareity. Lying about s*xual history is the code of women. This is common knowledge. As a man, it makes absolutely no sense to bother to ask because it is a guaranteed lie.
            I do, however, encourage ALL men to ask women they are interested in that question. Not with the interest in finding out about her past(because remember, she will lie). But instead, to determine her level of trustworthyness. See, the more outlandish the lie, the stronger the likelihood she will lie to you about many, if not everything…and also cheat.

            I have tested this, and so it is written.

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          • @Sobo
            Of course I’m not niave to this. I know women lie about the # of men they’ve slept with. Believe it or not my # is extremely low. (really don’t care cause ya don’t know me either way) and I assumed that when you are in that long term, in love relationship that you come clean about who you are or were. I was not shocked….like I said I knew this. I was more shocked at their real #s as I would have never guessed how many men my friends really had. Hence the reference to I need some d@mn secrets. I actually am known for my (brutal) honesty but I see why women keep it to themselves. I learned that lesson the hard way. It solves nothing and it really shouldn’t change how you see her anyway.

            I will explain: I left my ex for another man (didn’t cheat…i left) and when we got back together he wanted to know everything…and I mean everything. He got me weak one night and like an idiot I answered all of his questions. To this day he still throws it in my face. One time he was sitting next to me as I was giving a friend some advise to never do x, y and z to a man until yada yada yada and he gave me the side eye and said “but you did”…right in front of her.
            Never again.

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          • @SFG
            “he gave me the side eye and said “but you did”…right in front of her.”

            LMAO. Wow. I’m not laughing at you. Its just that I can totally envision that scenario. I cant even respond cause that sh*t is hilarious. But yep, thats us men for ya. Somethings are just hard pills to swallow. But I dont believe witholding and lying is the solution to avoid that. Being open and honest is the best option in my opinion. I found that I respect a woman more if she is candid about herself, even if some of her experiences are less than ‘glorious’. People who are evasive and dishonest about their past create an atmosphere of distrust within their relationships.
            But in terms of your situation, he shouldnt have came out his mouth like that.
            I mean, he chose to deal with you after you bounced on him for another. By remaining with you, he is knowingly accepting all your indescretions. Either deal with it and shut up, or walk and talk is my philosophy. He shouldnt have thrown it in your face. I know he was hurt, but that was b*tchism.

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          • well the reason we have to lie is because:
            1) if the number is higher than yours, we’ll be cast to play ‘ho’ in the next episode of your reality show
            2) MANY (not all) men won’t get past it, esp when getting busy
            3) that ish is the FIRST thing to be used against someone in an argument. Kinda like how ppl call booze truth serum? So is anger. See, Gibson, Mel. also see Dude from, Seinfeld.
            Words that come out in anger are the most honest.

            My answer to the question is: I will never give you a number, because there isn’t one that will satisfy you – but i will tell you that i’ve been tested and get tested before entering new sexual relationships. I’m clean, and have a wickedest slam – that’s all you need to know.

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          • @Sobo
            Boy I tell you when I get mad, my whole face turns beet red…even the whites around my eyes turn red. It looks like I’m crying but I’m really fuming. I could have killed him. I will never go into detail ever ever ever again. And you guys do care. He was all like a sheep, wide eyed saying “well we’re together now so” until our first arguement after we got back together…then it turned it “and you did bleepidy bleep with homeboy like a hooooeeeeeeee”. B*tchism!

            @Keisha
            I love this:
            “I’m clean, and have a wickedest slam ”
            A dat mi seh girl. That’s all they need to know.

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          • @Keisha Brown
            I like your response to such an inquiry. Very well done.
            But as far as the “wickedest slam”…*sigh*…if I had half a penny for everytime I heard a girl say that,….

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          • @SFG
            Awee. You shouldnt let him ruin your trait of honesty. Seriously, you should’nt. One bruised apple doesnt necessarily reflect the bunch.
            By the way, I got first dibs on your planned g@ng b@ng initiation. :-)

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          • @Sobo
            I was waiting for you to say something about the GB comment cause I knew your nasty behind would. lol. I was just kidding ;) Okay I know I’m not the only one who has had that fantasy. lol but the reality sounds painful. lmao. I don’t think I could ever stop being honest. It’s just who I am but it gets me into trouble.

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          • @SFG – Of course I know you were kidding. But why I gotta be the nasty one? I have a healthy appetite coupled with a healthy dose of adventure. Thats not nasty. Its delightful. :-)

            p.s. No pain, no gain. ;-)

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  53. Beauty alone doesn’t save you from anything, from heartbreak, mistreatment, none of that….the prettier you are the smarter you have to be.

    Like you said P beauty, smarts and self love serve you better but it is still not a guarantee, there are no gaurantees, just better odds and lesser chances of bullsh*t with smarter choices.
    Some men don’t care, no matter how smart , FLy, beautiful, sexy, skilled in the boudoir, all around dope you may be, they are selfish to the core and only live to please self, treating women like objects and toys, and we know new toys get old.

    On the Power thing, even dudes that are not rich, but have some coins(hood rich) and are fairly attractive, fionne, and highly sought after, don’t even have to be fionne these days. not unlike Dream LLS..have but a taste of power and glory and most let it go to both heads and misuse it in alot of cases..so this applies to ALOT of guys not just celebs. Not at all baffling, esp with the numbers thing being what they are…….

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  54. “Sure you know that you’re woman is beautiful, but at some point her beauty becomes more important to other people than it does to her man.”

    I couldn’t have said it better. And I felt this first hand being a beautiful woman. I’m gorgeous. I’m a knockout. Okay, maybe not all that but it still bothers the hell outta me when every man I know wants to date me and vows to treat me better than the man I’m actually with. In the beginning, when the relationship is fresh, new, men are full of compliments. But after a few months or a year, the compliments dwindle and he starts finding flaws. Tiny flaws. Flaws only he notices.

    In my last relationship, I couldn’t help but think if I tell him how much other men love me and wouldn’t mind the mole on my neck, maybe he’d be a little jealous and remember what drew him to me in the first place. But it doesn’t work. You’re right. he novelty does wear off and I’m just looking for a way to stop it from doing that.

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  55. I would like to see a post on why dudes get cheated on, for some reason I think the women would be nailed to the cross (no fault on the men of course)

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    • @nubiankween – somehow i feel like every woman would feel like a man got cheated on b/c he didnt treat a woman right. lol.

      men do it b/c we’re selfish. women cheat b/c men are selfish. seems like a really short post.

      chicks don’t like getting blamed.

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  56. Christina Milian is one of those Gorgeous-Cuban-Chicks-From-Jersey-City. I work in Jersey City and the Cosi on the first floor of my building employs nothing but those girls. She would totally fit in here.perfectly. I be imagining her puttng my asiagi bagel in the toaster jawn, then gently spreading the veggie cream cheese on, when she suddenly glances up at me and flashes a quick smile, then proceeds to wrap it up in foil, handing it to me and saying in her seductive way “Have a nice day…” Yeah.

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    • (puff voice) yeah…I like that…

      Took me away for a minute…

      **looks thru phone for people close to Jersey City to visit**

      Bond.

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    • lol Cosi is always in a corporate high-rise building. We have one downstairs, too. They make beaucoup bucks on the real. Had some for lunch yesterday, in fact.

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  57. I agree with you for the most part. To your question, honestly, I think the reasoning is 2-fold.

    The first thing at work here is the female’s personality. There are two types of “hot” women: those who have been highly sought after by boys/men their entire lives because they’ve always been attractive, and those who are new hotties (basically, they are the regular chick who suddenly became fly as hell post-high school). Both scenarios tend to result in certain personalities.

    The chick that has always been hot is likely used to men yielding to her. And while a sub-3-azz-nucca like The Dream might be able to kiss her azz for a while, eventually that sh*t probably gets old. In the other scenario, the chick has somewhat of a new found power. She gets access to a lot of guys, but doesn’t really know how to work the situation. I’ve found that this girl ends up being “too nice”, and well…cats step out on her.

    The second thing at work is the nature of men. Being faithful is difficult. Being faithful to an attractive woman is even more difficult. Here’s why.

    Every guy sees women all the time that interst him physically and mentally. But for the most part, it’s a background thought. But on occasion, some chick shows up that really grabs his attention…and this ho is persistent. In such cases, men who aren’t smart enough to remove themselves from the situation find themselves having to kinda pep-talk themselves out of sleeping with this chick. And every guy has his go-to rationalizations that he uses to discourage or encourage cheating. With some men it’s the guilt. For others it’s thoughts of their family, pity, morals etc. Well, I think that when the woman a guy is with is exceptionally hot, it’s oddly more difficult to discourage infidelity, and easier to encourage it. Maybe he thinks that because she’s so attractive, she has probably already cheated on him. Or maybe he is envious of her because physical attraction is an area in their lives together where he will always be outmatched. Ego. Maybe he flat out can’t believe that this hot chick chose to be with him, and somehow cheating becomes the psychological equivalent of him punching himself to make sure the dream is real.

    So, combine those two things and you get Halle Berry’s fine azz being eternally cheated on or left.

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  58. I hate reading the comments so late because everyone has said everything I’ve already thought of. Drat.

    Once I heard of Christina and Terius getting married, I knew it was a matter of time before the baby announcement. CMilli, as a DMV native (Waldorf, MD), I have to ask you: chica, WTF were you thinking??!! You couldn’t see he was a bamma?! A bamma with money, and a tiny bit of clout, but a bamma nonetheless.

    To Terius: dude, do erryone a favor and get a trainer and get rid of those boobies. UNSEXY.

    To assistant: girl, you STOOPID. Enjoy the VD that will come with your new “man”.

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    • Pretty girls can be bamas too, there are tons of them..the mentality makes one a bama! She always struck me as a bama ass chic…

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      • *sidenote* that area Charles county is notorious for some vicious ass bamas, both male and female LLS. sorry but it is what it is.

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  60. I get irritated at all of the stereotypes about beautiful women. They’re stupid, air heads, no personality, shallow, groupies, sluts, crazy etc. I think it’s things people tell themselves to feel better about themselves. Where’s the statistics that pretty women are more stupid than less attractive women? Or pretty women are crazy? Do you know how many ugly groupies I have met? Alot. It just gets under my skin sometimes.

    I’m going to keep it 100% like I always do. Quit with that “she’s pretty but” statements or thinking that pretty women should have all the glitter and gold in life and when they don’t it’s sooooo shocking. Yes, I’m what society would deem beautiful and I know I am. No I’m not conceited and no I don’t think I’m better. I’m just aware of what I look like as I’ve looked this way my whole life…and it has not affected what I have achieved in life or my life’s choices. We get hurt, cheated on etc just like everybody else. Men get sick of us like everybody else. We can be just as smart as everybody else or just as stupid as everybody else. You get my point? We are regular people. My ex cheated on me with a 5…I got over it. That’s life. People do what they want. Was there something I didn’t do? Yep as I still think about it til this day but I’ve learned from it. It just made me a better girlfriend.

    I’m not shocked over Christina. She’s just like any other woman except she has money. I bet she wakes up ugly in the morning with stanky breath just like the rest of us. The Dream thinks he’s the sh*t because people tell him he is. She probably even told him he is. So he did what he did. He probably saw the assistant more than her and there lies why many men cheat. I don’t think Christina, Halle or anyone else is a nice person just because they’re pretty. And Fyi, good looks isn’t always a blessing. I’ve had much drama in my life simply because of the way I look. After Eric cheated on Halle, I think we can all be non shocked over stories like this. I’ve rambled enough. Good morn-ting

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    • *waves good morning to SFG and passes cup of coffee.

      i think SFG, the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. while you are TOTALLy right (beauty does not equal or unequal smarts), there are instances where good looks can get you things in life that not-so-hot people cant. there are definitely studies on this and such, which lead people to perpetuate the pretty girl theory.

      it’s truly no different than people assuming that rich people dont have problems. EVERYONE has problems.

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      • it’s truly no different than people assuming that rich people dont have problems. EVERYONE has problems.

        Rich people have rich people problems. To the rest of us, they’re non-issues.

        I hope to turn these rich people problems into my bread and butter once I have my own practice, so I can provide pro bono/sliding scale services to the other folk.

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        • @Shay: Rich people have rich people problems. To the rest of us, they’re non-issues.

          I hear ya. but after reading about Snoop’s daughter being FINALLY diagnosed with Lupus and Derek Fisher’s daughter with eye cancer..you realize that all the money in the world couldn’t stop their children from being affected by these things. And if God forbid, they died..all the zeros on their bank statements would provide no solace.

          I have a friend who comes from money, married well and complains to me about working 3 days a week and having to clean a townhome after herself, her hubby and 2 yr old daughter. It’s sometimes hard to listen to when I have to make some really hard decisions. But she almost died when she caught ecoli in her kidneys and had a hard pregnancy and eventually had part of one of them removed. So for all her money, I’d rather have the good health I’ve been blessed with. Riches will come later.

          But yes! Get your Robin Hood on!

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        • “Rich people have rich people problems. To the rest of us, they’re non-issues.”

          They do, but they ain’t the only problems they have. I know it’s hard to believe, but folks like Oprah are human first. She is just as likely to deal with non-money issues as a person with non-money. lol

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          • I agree mental illness knows no bounds, but well-to-do folks have a tendency to take every day things for granted.

            And sometimes the well-to-do just confuse the hell out of me. You moved out…but you ain’t pack? You just threw everything away? Really?

            Beamer, Benz, or Bentley, I guess. If my kids ever do that they’re gettin’ beat.

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      • Thanks Keish oooh I read my comment. I need to drink my tea/coffee before posting. Dang I sound angry. Yes, everyone got problems and everyone ish stinks. lol I actually saw Christina in Macy’s at PP mall once and didn’t even know it was her until my friend pointed it out. She’s was mega short (no offense to anyone) she looked like a 13 year old kid and used “like” and “omg” in every sentence with her friend. She’s a regular person.

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        • GYAL!!! yu KNOW yu nuh supposed to write a TING til yu have sinting hot!!
          mummy is di same way.. a PURE evil look she a give anyhow yu speak to ar before di coffee..
          boat a unnu horrible!!

          OH!! and i was gonna call you on sunday to get a slice of pizza or something in the Young Circle (cheap and informal)!! look out for me this weekend!! I’m callin (if the weather holds up..)

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    • Quit with that “she’s pretty but” statements or thinking that pretty women should have all the glitter and gold in life and when they don’t it’s sooooo shocking. .

      I agree wholeheartedly. I wonder how many people have even heard C. Mill speak to make such “she’s pretty but probably boring/unintelligent” remarks. I mean at least with Beyonce we’ve heard her speak. And her speaking speaks for itself. Lol

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      • LOL VRenee Beyonce does soung ignorant than a mofo. Sorry but I think it’s safe to assume the personality isn’t all that great. Maybe Jay-z is perfect for her. The world may never know.

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    • You know that I always like what you have to say so I will say this: you, as well as many on the VSSs, are pretty women and that does not equal craziness, kookiness, arrogance or bi**hiness. In some of our experiences as men, those traits do come up when it comes to some pretty women but not all. I feel one trait that can lead to those other negative traits for a pretty woman is when she feels that your beauty and everything she does to maintain that beauty is their primary source of self-worth. If you project to the world that being beautiful is the only thing that makes worth something to the world, to a man, to yourself, then that brings about the idea of something must be wrong with a pretty woman. If a man sees you only for your beauty because you make him see you only for your beauty and not anything else that makes you who you are, then don’t be surprised if that man moves on to someone younger and “better” as time goes by. On the other hand, some men are just @$$holes that just want to stick their d**k in anything like a hummingbird sticks its beak in flowers, no matter what. A man (or woman) cheating on you should not be an hit against your self-worth if you had your self worth already intact before you met that person. But I know you already knew that. You’re SmartFoxGirl for a reason. That’s all I got today. The J has been kicking my @$$ all week.

      *drops some yellow roses and a bag of Ethiopia Sidamo coffee on SFG’s doorstep and walks off*

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      • Daaaaammmmmn, you went in. Thanks CBG. I agree with everything you said. I’ve met pretty women with the “you better adore me” attitude just like I’ve met not so pretty women with the “i’m going to be a b*tch and sabatoge cause I don’t think you really like me” attitude. Most women have some sort of hang up or baggage. It’s all relative. I don’t blame myself for my ex cheating but I am fully aware of what I wasn’t bringing to the table which may have caused the lack of love to do so. I think at the end of the day we all need to be honest with ourselves, our flaws and work on them. You know I miss all that knowledge you be droppin but make that dolla. lol…and if you eva come to my doorstep and walk off, we havin problems. You know me and my club stay ready.

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        • I was trying to avoid the club and the possibility of getting hit with a blow dart. Those things leave my head hurting about as much as when I drink with my dad and my cousins in the country. Hope the coffee made ya feel better.

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    • @SFG yes, you do sound angry. but if it makes you feel better, i dont think smart women aren’t as smart as other women. or anything like that.

      and i’ll amend this…pretty chicks arent crazy…ALL WOMEN ARE CRAZY.

      that better?

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      • Of course it makes me feel better. All my ish talkin makes me feel better…that’s why I come to your rinky dink spot every day…cause I lubs it.
        Is yo mamma or sista crazy? Then fall back homie. Don’t make me key your car and bleach your clothes.

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    • @SmartFox Girl

      CO-SIGN, CO-SIGN, CO-SIGN

      The hate towards pretty girls have to stop.

      Life for me ain’t been no crystal stairs.#Langston

      I’ve educated myself, traveled the world, got a shoe and purse game that’s fierce and was voted “Most Fun to be Around” when I was in highschool. But I still have to wear my hair in a bun, put on a Hillary Clinton-type pant suit on with no make-up on the first month on a new job because of the hate and stereotyping that I get from co-workers when I start a new job. I’ve worked hard as the next person to get mine.

      A selfish, insecure, poorly-developed-character person is going to cheat, period. That’s why I stay in my lane. No more dating 2′s – cuz they will make you pay for the fact that they got no play from pretty women when they were in high school

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      • Oh yes Frog Princess you nailed it. I’m sick of the hate too and general assumptions. Also, most of these rapper singer songwriter celebrities are highly paid 2′s who now have all this new attention and don’t know how to act. Late bloomers are the worst. I just axed a man because he’s trying to be a player at 36….36! I guess he just got fine or something. Ugh…keep being fierce girl. You need haters, that’s their job to hate. lol

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        • OK SMG I’m going to continue with the Pretty Girl Rant…

          … why did this tall, fine (body wise) 7 (who makes 6 figures) and I went to dinner on Sunday night (first date) and he asked me point blank, and I quote; “Are men often intimidated by you?. You have a lot on the ball and you’re beautiful so I can imagine it’s hard for you to be in a relationship?”

          My answer was, “I don’t wear my accomplishments or independence on my sleeves so I don’t see why men would be intimidated. Plus I cook, clean and …”

          Well after a 3 hour dinner date in which he clearly enjoyed the coversation he walked me to my car – and he remarked how he’s always wanted my type of car :-( . Nevertheless, I haven’t heard from him since….

          Damned if you do, damned if you don’t!

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          • Do you care if he call you back…that is the big question. Fine w/ 6 figures are nice, but means nothing if there is no chemistry or connection. Pretty is as pretty does. In all of my 32 years, I have learned that looks mean absolutely nothing if you and the person are not vibing.

            I have dated some successful people in their own right,but if I would rather be at home watching paint dry than be in his company then, his looks and money mean nothing.

            I have had men compliment me on my looks and physical attributes but never has one asked if I intimidated men because of them. I probably would have gave him the wtf face asked if I intimidated him.

            If you were feeling him, call him…he may be waiting on you to call (he may have been busy, or not sure if you were feeling him). If he doesn’t respond, then on to the next.

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        • Cosign. They always ask if men are intimidated. The reason they ask that is because that’s what they are thinking. Men can be see through sometimes. I’ve had men point blank tell me they weren’t good enough or they don’t think they can compete with my standards (and I haven’t asked a thing of them) I’ve said it on here many times: men can be intimidated by a beautiful woman who doesn’t need them. So they sabotage, cheat, etc

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  62. New reader here so hello everyone…..currently LMAO @ ” and he didn’t even wear shoes”……WOW.Glad I stumbled upon your site :)

    But seriously ,I, much like a lot of women would like to hate the “Dream” (more like a nightmare) for his adulterous ways, however the fundamental reason I can’t is: I wasn’t there.I don’t know the dynamics of their relationship. Yes, he could just be a jerk, but did Christina demonstrate good judgment in marrying a man she couldn’t have known more than 3 mins? Especially since he also had a tumultuous marriage with Nivea which produced 3 kids who he had no qualms about deserting? The answer is no and there are two sides to every story so let’s leave this alone…

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  63. I wonder how a celebrity can be so out in the open with his ish? It’s like Dream had no inkling he could get caught. Dude is mad wrong for cheating on his wife it’s even worse b/c she is pregnant. At the same time I wouldn’t be surprised if Christina Milian has the ‘pretty girl’ issues i.e princess syndrome, lack of personality, men kissing her @ss since birth. I still don’t get how some men take these women seriously. If there is anything I’ve learned after dealing with ‘pretty girls’ is that they are more form than function.

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    • “If there is anything I’ve learned after dealing with ‘pretty girls’ is that they are more form than function.”

      There it is.

      I would date a 3 if I thought she was smarter than me.

      No Bullsh*t

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    • Yeah. Pretty much this.

      A pretty girl who’s developed a personality and has cultivated a depth to her character is no longer a ‘pretty girl’.

      She’s a beautiful woman.

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      • Point of clarification: Depth of character is far beyond the superficial complexity that people try to put on, like an outfit, for the benefit of other folk.

        I’m talking about a depth that’s cultivated simply through honest expression of one’s self and one’s experiences.

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        • isn’t fashion and having a great killah sense of personal style, self expression?
          I’m not talking about lables per say, but folk that really use fashion as personal artistic statements daily!
          what else is that if that isn;t a form of true self expression….

          Pretty girl, beautiful woman, beautiful girl woman, gorgeous etc is all semantics LOL

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          • Semantics can land your a*s in jail.

            I date women not girls.

            There’s a difference between a chick who’s a fashionista and a chick who’s a label wh*re

            Completely different motivations on why they acted the way they did.

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          • NOT semantics but breaking laws can LOL and yes I totally agree with dstinguishing a fashionista versus a lable whore, who happen to be devoid of any personal style what-so-ever honey……they are funny though, they try so hard, always looking outwardly, instead owning whats inward!

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          • @ Shay some will always have the frosted side to their shredded wheat and that’s a GOOD thing..always a bit of the playful girl within the grown a$$ woman!

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          • Of course, of course, the frosting is the sweet side, anyway.

            So long as it’s a woman in touch with her inner child and not a girl with grown woman tendencies, we’re good…

            I know some 30 year old girls, SMH.

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      • A pretty girl who’s developed a personality and has cultivated a depth to her character is no longer a ‘pretty girl’.

        She’s a beautiful woman.

        Too long for a tee-shirt? :)

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    • “If there is anything I’ve learned after dealing with ‘pretty girls’ is that they are more form than function.”

      Really Humble_One? You’re wrong. I meet normal, functioning pretty girls every day.

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    • @Orangestar Happy Hunting & SmartFoxGirl

      I figured I didn’t have to put a disclaimer stating that every single highly physical attractive woman on earth is not like this. I’ve met cool ‘pretty girls’. From experiences, my friends experiences relationships and marriages this holds true. Some of these women have had their @ss kissed since childhood because of how they look. If people spoil you, give you your way, and define you by your looks for almost your whole life what do you expect. I dated and was in a 5 year relationship with one of these chics so I know I speak the truth. Plus I’m sure the VSB will cosign from their own experiences. You two are different but there are A LOT of women just as fine as you two and they are MONSTERS as far as personality.

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      • @humble_one
        If people spoil you, give you your way, and define you by your looks for almost your whole life what do you expect.

        i think you also just describe lebron james.
        zing!

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      • Any woman has this capability. Like I said, I’ve met some NASTY mean not so pretty women. I do agree that they are many conceited and princess like women out there…but many people generalize all attractive women to be this way. Plus your ex aint everybody boo but I get what you’re sayin.

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      • @Humble_One
        I couldn’t agree with you more. I’ve shared similar experiences and observation while being involved with an extremely beautiful young woman. Surprisingly, she was also extremely personable(a social butterfly), full of life and domestic. Yes, domestic. A rare combination indeed.
        However, I noticed I had a difficult time taking her seriously simply because she really and truly did not know how to appreciate anything. She had gone through her entire life being catered to, getting her @ss kissed etc, that it became a basic expectation for her. Even though she could acknowledge nice things done for her, she didnt know how to appreciate them or the people they came from.

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        • A thank you goes a long way but you can tell if a person is saying out of habit or because they are sincere about it.

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        • @Mr. SoBo
          “She had gone through her entire life being catered to, getting her @ss kissed etc, that it became a basic expectation for her. Even though she could acknowledge nice things done for her, she didnt know how to appreciate them or the people they”

          And this is a HUGE problem I have with some women. The entitlement mentality. They take you going out of your way for them as you ‘doing your job’.

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          • The entitlement mentality in general, not just in womenfolk irks the sh*t outta me. I wanna slap the dude who dubbed my generation “generation me”.

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  64. Somewhere in America there are two dudes who are laughing their butts off, i nominate Nick Cannon and music producer Dre( nothing to do with Dr DRE)

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        • “mariah looks like the-dream right now. ”

          This was HILARIOUS without the follow-up sentence. I didn’t even make the “looks like they expecting” connect until I read the next sentence. With the follow-up sentence, it’s still funny, but I choked laughing reading the first one alone.

          Because saying she looks like The Dream is so random. lol

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  65. With all the fictional bear comparisons to Terius, I’m surprised that no one (on this post) has mentioned the Berenstains yet.

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  66. Correct me if i’m wrong (that certainly isn’t unheard of when it comes to love and relationships) but…is this not an example of man marrying for love woman marrying for security FAILING?? Or now that I think about it, man marrying for lust and woman marrying for stability failing…does it not work when you substitute love for lust?

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    • I don’t think its an example of any of those things,
      poor judgement with a healthy dose of media whoring sprinkled with screwball intentions on both parts, maybe!!!!

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  69. Sigh, I need to get to work but before I do…

    What I get out of this post: Don’t trust your seemly devoted/low self-esteem man to be faithful just because you are you. From here on out I’m employing the scare/crazy girl tactics. Picture this:

    Wedding night, bomb honeymoon suite. He’s in the bathroom getting fresh n chexy, then he hears the smoke detector go off. Comes out, I’m standing in front of the burning bed with lighter fluid in my hand. Serious face. Sprinklers come on, no facial changes or movement. Tells hubby if he ever cheats, next time he’ll be in the bed. Pull out some brownies and demands he call to get a new room.

    I see this as nothing but a win-win. I should be a screenwriter btw….

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  70. ” Being hot, while paramount to most men’s interest in you, only gets you into the game. Being smart and everything else keeps you on the court.”

    this is the realest part of this post. i promise a lot of women and men don’t realized this. i actually wrote a post about this very thing. i’m too lazy to find a link though.

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  72. I’m sorry, when did Christina Milian become a Top Shelf Chick? Was that on Concrete Loop or YBF?

    The Dream is a dwarf. Christina Milian is regular.

    Why do hot chicks get cheated on? Because most chicks get cheated on. For all we know, she could have been cheating as well.

    *shrugs*

    She bored me anyways. She looks like a doormat. Sweet. No fire. No passion. No attitude. No personality. Blah.

    She probably put holes in the condoms or “forgot” to take her pill so she could have a dwarf baby for future financial security. Women know when their relationship is headed to splitsville.

    I take that back. Maybe she’s sweet and smart.

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      • *hands Panama a band-aid*

        Hey, the truth hurts.

        So, now that Milian is “back on the market”, where does she rank on your crush-o-meter after her “life experiences”.

        I assume the life experiences would make her more regular and more attainable. Yet, somehow less appealing…

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        • @M. Shavonne – naw, she’s still good in my book. hell lauren got knocked buy a person who calls himself a martian with like 12 other women. she’s still no more attainable than before. and she’s still banging. just seems to make bad decisions.

          hell, cmilli was married to a douche. i assume at some point they were in “love”. cant be mad really.

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          • Hmmmmm…. I see.

            If I had to choose who to be knocked up by, I’d logically pick Wayne.

            He will die first.

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    • “No passion. ”

      This reminded me of Norman Whitfield what to Dennis in The Temptations as to the reason he was a total douche and cited the actual day Dennis’ daddy died in Papa Was a Rolling Stone.

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  73. *looks up from newspaper*

    I just wanted to say…..The Dream….looks like the Hamburgler.

    *sips coffee, shuffles paper and continues reading*

    Carry on.

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  74. “The ugliest man with a million dollars looks a lot better than an average looking brother with $1,000 to his name. Bet that.”

    I disagree. He may have better clothes & grooming, but if he showwww izzzz ugggglyyyyy he gets to watch me walk past him…

    Some other thoughts:

    – Anyone cocky enough to call themselves “The Dream” needs immediate reform, & possibly an a** whoopin’.

    - I’m proud to be completely unaware of this dude’s songs, & Christina’s for that matter.

    - I forget who said it, but Shemar Moore does NOT belong in the same breath w/ Idris, who is divine, while Shemar looks like a baby cheetah cub. Google it.

    That is all, on you carry…

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    • @Cali – I’m proud to be completely unaware of this dude’s songs, & Christina’s for that matter.

      i dont care where you live, you’ve heard Rihanna’s “umbrella”. and thus you’ve heard his songs.

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    • Wait…who the fluck said Shemar Moore (aka “copy and pasted cornrows in Tyler Perry film”) was in the same league as Idris?

      *grabs torch and gathers mob*

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      • Don’t kill me. I was merely stating that before Idris popped up in the fantasies of all chocolate lovers, women were watching Young and the Restless just to throw their panties at Shemar (which they picked up an hour later and added to the wash before the hubby got home). Shemar may have fell off but he was a cutie back in the day. Unlike The-Dream who always looked like a hunk of rolls.

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        • Shemar was foine back in the day. Cheekie may be too young to remember his toni braxton video days. I don’t know what happened to Shemar (because he looks exactly the same) but something is off. He just got weird to me. i dunno.

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        • “Don’t kill me. I was merely stating that before Idris popped up in the fantasies of all chocolate lovers, women were watching Young and the Restless just to throw their panties at Shemar (which they picked up an hour later and added to the wash before the hubby got home). ”

          Ya know…as much as I’m “meh” about Shemar (Now, Boris?! #%%#%#%#%), I have to acknowledge this is true.

          *slowly blows out fire in torch*
          *tells mob they don’t have to go home, but get the hell out of here*

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        • I know, I’m in the minority – probably the only chick on the planet that doesn’t go for Shemar. He’s always looked smooshy in the face, like a little furry creature, & he’s soooooooo fake & actor-y its painful. He could have been cute but something went askew in the making. His body has always been insanity though, no question. I’d say he could hit it from the back (so I wouldn’t have to look @ that face) but I doubt we’d make it past the conversation stage (as if he’d even look my way, LOLOL)… just sayin’!

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  76. I’m not defending The Dream but did I miss something? Aside from the fact that he’s still married and carrying on a relationship with another woman currently…what’s the proof that he cheated on Christina initially. They could have mutually agreed to separate a long time before he even began a relationship with this other woman. Apparently, there is rumor that they did not announce the separation a while back in order to protect their baby. I’m still fuzzy on how that protects the baby though.

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  77. So not only is the Nightmare responsible for making at least 30% of the songs I currently hate…he’s an unattractive, cheating, deadbeat dad….all of this is why I could never marry for money. … but I’d also never marry a dude who calls himself The Dream

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  78. Why am I thinking he married Nivea? And I didn’t realize we weren’t talking about Nivea till about half way thru..

    I agree with everything u said, especially the part about women focusing too much on beauty. These young girls have no clue. They care more about being bad bitches than sweethearts, respectable young ladies, or anything positive that a woman should want to grow up to be. I personally am glad I’m not in the field because of this. U chicks should be f*kin ashamed.

    As for The-Dream.. he better keep makin’ hits or he gon be back on the bottom of the food chain

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  81. What I take away from this piece is that we should just use men. After all you can be the epitome of anything but this doesn’t prohibit cheating. If they are going to get tired and wander anyway why not just use them and be done?

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  82. Ok. I wholeheartedly agree with you on most of the article. It may also be that Christina Milian is my dream woman and I plan on marrying her one day but I can’t shake the fact that she has been continuously cheated on. First the douchebag Nick Cannon goes and fucks it up and now this asshole does the same. It is true that MOST guys are assholes but it seems like she is the type of woman to attract assholes which sucks because I’m sure that there are other celebrities and even regular guys (UMMM ME!!!) that are truly great guys and treat females the way they deserve to be treated. I am in love with her (And I have a step up on u having met her on 12/11/08 in Dayton, OH [I live in NYC]) so I am hoping and praying that the next time I meet her, I’ll make sure that my rehearsed lines are used as opposed to being struck in silence from the awe of her beauty. BTW Great writing keep up the awesome articles.

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