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Michael Sam and The Kiss Seen ‘Round the World

10football1-articleLargeMichael Sam, the Mizzou foootball player who came out as gay and attempted to become the first openly gay player in the NFL got his wish. He was drafted in the 7th round of the NFL draft and ESPN had the camera in what seemed like somebody else’s kitchen (turns out he was in San Diego at a draft party….7th round? Must have been the longest party ever) since nan person in his family was there for the reaction as history was being made.

Then it happened. Michael Sams, flanked by his who I’m guessing is his boyfriend (?), began to cry as many a man who has been drafted has done, and his boothang rubbed his arm, then they did a quick kiss that was almost perfectly made for television. It almost seemed too convenient. Now, I don’t doubt the sincerity of it all but I’m sure ESPN was very happy to have caught that on tape and stayed and returned as much as humanly possible to that home that belonged to somebody. See, since Sam came out there’s been a mad dash towards tolerance. Which is a good thing. And the sports world has more or less gone out of its way to claim that it his sexuality isn’t an issue. Of course there are some folks who took issue but those vocal numbers are becoming smaller and smaller. It’s one of those times are changing eras. You either accept it or get left behind. Daniel Snyder could stand to learn a lesson or two.

But that kiss. All 1 seconds of it seemed to have sent off a riptide of reactions from people. See it’s one thing for people to know that a man is gay. But seeing a man be gay is a whole different ball game. No pun intended. The words came swift and ferocious (and many ended up being deleted).

Switching gears for a minute…do you all remember Karamo Brown from Real World: Philadelphia? Karamo doesn’t get enough credit for introducing many of us to a “non-stereotypical black gay male”. When Karamo let his castmates (and the viewing audience) know that he was gay it was one of those, “wait…what?” moments. For one, he didn’t fit most stereotypes of what we thought gay Black men were like. He was, in effect, like 99 percent of “regular” Black dudes. Namely, you just couldn’t tell by looking. This caused many of us to have to deal with the fact that wow, this whole “gay” thing was more complex than we realized or wanted it to be. But even still, him saying it was still a layer away from witnessing it.

Until he went clubbing one night. I remember watching that scene and realizing that despite having many gay friends, that was the first time I’d ever seen a man be gay. Like the act of showing lust, love, and emotions towards another man in a romantic way (in that scene). I called one of my boys, who was gay, and was like, man…I just realized I’ve never seen this before and its thrown me all the way off. Now…that was the point I realized that it was about me…not anybody else. Me and the homey had a long talk about it that night and I checked myself. Boo.

Fast forward to a few days ago and folks reactions to seeing that kiss are all over the place. Shouts out to the Bible were made. Folks were claiming that the kids will suffer seeing that on ESPN. The same argument against gay marriage…think of the kids. I don’t begrudge anybody their opinion, but I do think that some people reeeeeeeeeeally need to be careful about that one.

There are people who absolutely attempt to live their life as biblically as possible. My next door neighbors in high school were those people. They were down right Puritan. All the kids went to Bible College type of family. Impressively holding steadfast. Now, that ain’t most people. The REST of us have our own issues and chose to view a grown man pecking another grown man on the lips as the visual manifestation of what they weren’t ready for. Sure, he can be gay in the league as long as he keeps that gay sh*t at home. But when its being broadcast (and admittedly it was a bit gratuitous on ESPN’s part as I said earlier) its a step too far.

I get why its uncomfortable for people; I do. I also think its something that folks need to get over. Much like all change, folks are okay with it on their own terms until they blink and the world is different. They never really come around but they also can’t fight it anymore. Except today, social media makes it easier to yell your opinion from a mountaintop. What I find most interesting is folks feeling such a strong need to voice said opinion.

This isn’t the first or last time that folks feel such a need. I can almost understand folks being upset with ESPN. But I do think the shots being taken at Michael Sam are a bit much. Let that man cook.

I’d be remiss if I didn’t mention the IDIOTIC “experiment” of Marshall Henderson, the Ole Miss basketball player who went full *CENSORED* on Twitter and then pretended he was just helping his homey out with a psychology experiment. Kids, you never go full *CENSORED*.

Anyway…thoughts? Reactions? Does it matter at all?

(Don’t worry, well get to Sterling’s trainwreck of an interview)

-VSB P

 

Panama Jackson

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  • veryaveragebrotha

    What I find funny is how many black people don’t realize that folks once made these same arguments about any black PDA and then any interracial PDA.
    But what really AMAZES me is how many people don’t realize how analogous their sentiments are to Donald Sterling’s. He was ‘ok’ with his chicks private interactions, he just didn’t want those relationships/interactions broadcast.
    It is far lass bigoted to state that you don’t want YOUR chick publicly broadcasting her relationships with members of group X, then to say you don’t want to EVER see ANY two members of group X display any sort of affection towards each other.

    The stupidity is terminal….

    • Val

      And if you try to show them how their behavior is analogous to that of bigots who hate Black folks then they go nuts and obfuscate by going off about how bigotry against Blacks and gays isn’t comparable.

      • veryaveragebrotha

        That’s why I call that brand of stupidity terminal. I understand bigotry from the white, heterosexual male. That individual has never experienced bigotry, so they really can’t relate to its effects….but when you have black people and other minority groups that have historically and currently suffer discrimination turn right around and do it to some other group while concurrently still complaining about their oppressed state….but of course, “it’s different”……blank stare……that’s terminal. How do you fix that?

      • or ignoring the fact that there are Black gay people who date other Black gay people who face homophobia.

    • PhlyyPhree

      You know what’s funny?
      That was/IS my argument.
      I don’t care what he does in his home, I’d really just rather not see it on TV…BUT at the same time, I’d rather not see heterochxual displays on TV either (Unless I’m watching pron)
      That is just a broad statement, the little peck that happened? I thought “aww cute” and kept it moving, however I have BEEN saying that I think our society and our media is overchexualized and I wish that EVERYONE would keep their relationships private. THAT is what I think of when I say “think of the children”. Now I have to contend with my daughter thinking it’s ok to create, produce and promote a sex tape as long as she gets a rapper fiance or at least a reality show out of it.

      • ForeverCC

        lol i feel the same way! i think there is too much kissing, fondling, caressing, etc. in public and in the media PERIOD. i don’t care who it’s between. but that little peck? whatever. didn’t even register as anything on my radar. i didn’t know it was an issue until i read vsb this morning. *shrug*

    • panamajackson

      That’s a very interesting argument and one I never even considered.

  • h.h.h.

    *plays online chess*

  • Trust and believe he probably isn’t the only gay Ram.

    I’m just ready to see if dude can play. I only saw him play against Carolina and Auburn and dude was disruptive as hell. On a defense with Howie and Animal’s kids, and Robert Quinn He may get the space to get after the quarterback.

    • Kozy

      I’m not sure he get’s space to get on the field. that D line is stacked. maybe he learns to play a 4-3 OLB? maybe?

      • Maybe there or blitz him off the edge. Long, Quinn, and Baby Animal are going to draw bodies so Sam against some running back might work. If he makes plays he’ll find a home.

  • Brendadc

    I had a long conversation with a fellow tv news producer about whether we should have aired video of the kiss in our respective newscasts. I did air it because I wouldn’t hesitate to air video of a kiss between a heterosexual couple, so why adopt a different standard for a gay couple? Love is love. Sadly, I learned a former colleague received an email at her station from a viewer, complaining about the station showing the kiss.

    • Aly

      This reminds me of something that happened when I was still working in news. Every year around the holidays the promotions department put together promos featuring our anchors and their families. Everyone around the Christmas tree, smiling and happy (barf). Well, one of our weather anchors happened to be gay. Guess who was left out of the promos? When I asked the promotions director about it, he just shrugged and said, “This is the South.” I always felt bad for that anchor.

      • SuperStrings

        Wow, that sucks.

        • panamajackson

          Sucks major.

      • Yea. The southern ideologies/values are probably some of the strongest in the country. It’s hard to sway “self proclaimed religious zealots” on anything that isn’t in the “Bible”.

        • SuperStrings

          “”It’s hard to sway “self proclaimed religious zealots” on anything that isn’t in the “Bible”.
          Which is funny since the Bible, as we know it, was aggregated according to politics.

          • No one from the South who was raised in the church can be told that the Bible wasn’t brought to them by God herself and hand delivered.

            • SuperStrings

              The current cannon of the Bible was hand delivered by the Council of Nicea, God had nothing to do with it. And you KNOW southern baptists and pentecostals wouldn’t be caught dead referring to God as “herself”. lol

              • Epsilonicus

                And that Council did more than choose Bible books. It essentially set church dogma and orthodoxy. The Trinity was decided. And what folks really do not understand is that the Trinity is a Greek concept not meant to be taken literally. It was a paradox to demonstrate the inability of people to understand God. SMH…

              • I am adamant about using female pronouns to refer to God now.

                • SuperStrings

                  You sound like Johnnetta Cole.

              • NomadaNare

                Been saying that for years. The word most of y’all swear is the word of god was written by a bunch of brown men and curated by a bunch of white men thousands and hundreds of years ago.

                • SuperStrings

                  “curated by a bunch of white men thousands and hundreds of years ago.”
                  Yep, and they intentionally didn’t invite certain Christians to the council to vote or plead their case. The Eastern Orthodox Church is still salty about that, and they openly challenge the veracity of the translation of the current cannon.

                  • Epsilonicus

                    Yuuuuuuuuppp!!!!

            • Michelle

              Every time I hear a person (usually it is a woman.. in her “later years”) speak about the Bible as being “God’s rule book”, this one thought always pops up in my mind:
              That book was created by human beings. Human beings with their own opinions/feelings/moral codes, etc. And you’re going to take their word, when they say that this is God’s word?
              In modern times, if a man tried to murder his son because he said that God had told him to do it, you would think that he is a f8cking nutcase.

      • Considering how much shade Mr. Sam got from New Yorkers, I’m not surprised the gay dude got it like that down South. It’s sad, but it’s real.

  • It is neither surprising that his family wasn’t there or that his boyfriend is white. At least he doesn’t have to worry about family begging for money all the time.

    • I do remember his family didn’t spend much time with him, but that was more because they were in and out of jail that an issues with his sexuality. Jail don’t care about that, especially in Texas, where he’s originally from.

      • miss t-lee

        Yeah, he’s from Texas.
        His family sitch was all the way messed up from the jump. Research.

        • panamajackson

          I do remember reading a profile on his family and how in the town their from they were all basically considered the worst of the worst.

          • miss t-lee

            Yeah. It’s a small town outside of Houston. And yeah–they had quite the reputation.

    • IcePrincess

      We’ll see about that….

    • Why won’t they beg for money because he’s gay? If they were grimey enough to cut him off they’re grimey enough to try and hit him up for ends after the fact.

    • PivotTable

      Doubt it…

  • When I saw the kiss, I had two thoughts. First, the people in my FB sports group were going to wild the F out, and I was going to have to check some fools on their BS. Two, why is his boyfriend some random White guy? Granted, Columbia, Missouri, isn’t exactly a gay mecca, but it is a college town. Dude had a few more options, right? LOL

    I am more interested in dude as a football story. I was wondering if he was going to end up on the Jets, because based on the footage, he seemed like he would be a good fit scheme-wise for what the Jets were trying to do: have high-motor linebackers take care of the dirty work after the Sons of Anarchy wreaked havoc on the offensive line. It looks like he’ll do well in St. Louis too, since they are trying to run a similar scheme. What also helps is that playing there, a good chunk of the fan base will be familiar with him from his days at Missouri, so people will already know him on a football level first. They’re more likely to b*tch at him from a pure football perspective than on some homophobic ish.

    From the homophobic perspective, well, that’s on them. Welcome to the New America, deal. I remember some gay blog got on Asante Samuel for flaunting his heterosexuality in public, kissing up on his wife, after he threw shade at gay people for doing likewise. Personally, IDGAF. Heck, considering the outright boo-hooing I’ve seen around the draft over the years, the fact he was able to kiss his boyfriend was relatively composed of him. Plus, looking at my rap sheet and that I’ve had sex in public REPEATEDLY, I’m the last dude to criticize someone for making out in public.

    • My Facebook sports group went all the way off, i just AI stepped over it all

      • Nah, I went hard in the paint, and got accused of child abuse because I had no beef with my daughter seeing anything like that. And these were the same ninjas that had been with Donald Sterling. GTFOHWTBS

  • Caballeroso

    I didn’t see the kiss, thankfully. I’m not interested in seeing the kiss. I’m not homophobic. What two consenting adults do behind closed doors is their business…just keep it behind closed doors. For example, I have no problem with humans defecating. I have no problem with geriatric lovemaking. These things are simply things I’d rather not see. That doesn’t make me intorelant, it makes me a human with a preference…and I have that right.

    • Sigma_Since 93

      Does this mean that all of your PDA will occur behind closed doors?

      • Rachmo

        Beat me to it

      • He might stiff arm his lady if she tries to grab his hand in the mall lol

        • Sigma_Since 93

          Straight Heisman style

      • Caballeroso

        My issue is not with PDA, my issue is with having to watch two men kissing. As much as they have the right to kiss, I have the right to not be forced to see it.

        • Sigma_Since 93

          Then you need to begin to work to get a morality clause passed banning PDA for all.

    • Why do the most mundane forms of human affection have to be behind closed doors when it’s two people of the same gender? Does this same repulsion transfer over when it’s two women?

      • That last question has gotten me into some arguments over the years. The male gaze is REAL, y’all.

      • Rachmo

        Mundane like all get out. It was a peck geesh

      • LehcarB

        Does this same repulsion transfer over when it’s two women?

        Question of the day

      • Tentpole

        Yes, unless it chex on video then it is Ok

      • We know it doesn’t transfer to women unless the women in question aren’t “femme”. Men don’t want to see a butch woman engaging in that behavior either.

  • Sigma_Since 93

    In the last three years we’ve offended everyone:

    Folks miffed at Tim Tebow for his Christianity
    Folks miffed at RG3 and Russell Wilson for kissing on white women
    Folks miffed at Michael Sam for kissing a man

    Yeah the system is working as it should.

    • So all kisses should be intra-racial, heterosexual and secular. Got it! LOL

      • I love how the “excuse” is always ESPN manufacturing the moment

        • Sigma_Since 93

          So you don’t think another broadcast agency wouldn’t have done the same thing?

          • Of course they would, its why the cut to crying fans at games, show owners after big wins, the media loves capturing moments but because its a man kissing a man or a black man kissing his white wife people find issue

            • Sigma_Since 93

              We’ve come full circle in offending everyone. The twitta was buzzing when RG3 and Russell were kissing on they woman. There were some trolls that have something smart to say when some black dude kisses his momma, big momma, and baby’s momma. In the land of “equal” opportunity, let the man kiss his partner.

        • panamajackson

          I don’t even think ESPN manufactured the moment as much as got a little too gluttonous with their milking of it.

  • Rachmo

    Panama good piece and it said everything I was thinking.

    • panamajackson

      Thanks.

  • The Champ

    Just wanted to say that I knew Karamo was gay when he said he likes to “play basketball” in his character intro, and they showed him actually playing basketball, and he caught the ball like he was catching a loose loaf of bread on fire. I thought “This dude has never hooped a day in his life. If he’s lying about this, he must be hiding something.”

    • miss t-lee

      Well dayum.

    • IcePrincess

      Bwahahaaaaa

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