“-A man will treat a woman well if she insists on it. Yes. But only if she leads by example: treating herself well. And dressing fly and keeping your hair done does not necessarily mean you treat yourself well. I challenge any attractive woman who can’t keep a ‘good man’ (key word ‘keep’) to look within and fix the cracks in her spiritual and emotional foundation.”

***peeps out from under lurking covers***

waving embroidered hankie while yelling YOU BETTA PREACH GURL!!!

my mother always taught my sisters and I that while what is on the outside may initially catch their eye, what is on the inside is what will steal their heart.

this weather will give you an instant attitude. today the weather is -17 in Chicago and with the winchill it is -30

Wow, thank you Sula for reiterating what Champ already said. Much appreciation.

1. A woman they respect (this does not mean some ole church girl but just someone that particular man respect for whatever reason)

2. Someone who likes them but does not need them. (Men like you to call them Daddy but they don’t want to play your daddy)

3. Someone who they can see mothering their offspring (just cuz you happen to mother his offspring does not mean you met this. He has to have seen you as someone he wanted to do this, not someone who happened to do this)

4. Someone who is loyal and trustworthy (men place loyalty in high regard. that’s why so many of them like dogs as pets for pete’s sake)

5. Someone who is passionate (this translates beyond the bedroom) – passionate about life (men don’t want to be the center of your universe) AND in bed is a plus (men have a fear post marriage or post kids they will never have sex with you again. You have to prove them wrong to keep them)

6. Someone who works at maintaining the same physical appearance they nabbed their man with originally. However you man likes em – skinny, slim, thick, etc…he wants you to remain the way you were when he fell for you. He needs to see throughout your dating that you have not slipped. (I know dudes who met what would otherwise be the perfect woman but in the course of dating she gained 10 lbs. Now she could have been borderline anorexic but to him, she is changing and men don’t like that. They fear once they marry their wife will blow up, especially after kids

Correction. Deviant is not a dude.

Your very being is what lets me know that I am not going wrong in my refusal to settle.

I will be just fine up on this porch in my rocking chair, snapping beans and talking to my 3 cats until the right Sweater Vest comes up in the yard.

What is Diva Dust…sounds like something a drag queen would say.