I’m definitely a cute chick but I don’t do ultra fem makeup and heels and stuff most of the time.

One summer I was single and I was determined to meet someone. I glammed up — makeup, brought sexy clothing (nothing tasteless, but just not the real me), and got my hair did every couple of days (the Dominican specials….LOL).

Anyway, I looked better than ever, but I lost my swag because I was not myself. (I don’t like heels and extra girly stuff.)

I attracted lots more dudes, but they were not my type. They were guys who looked good (and were superficial and materialistic) and who liked women who looked good, but that was it. They had no substance.

Anyway, the high maintenance route took up way too much time and energy and I reverted back to my own cute, comfortable yet stylish swag.

However, I did learn that putting forth a little extra effort can go a long way. (I now wear make up more.)

YES…swagger can be learned, and IT IS learned. Show me a newborn infant w/ swagger, and I’ll show you a gas station in teh U.S. w/ regular unleaded $3.00.

Notwithstanding what me & my fellas call “The Trinity of Attraction (TOA)…

1) “Cute” (head to neck)
2) “Fine” (shoulder to feet)
3) “Sexy” (your gray matter)

…the concept of swagger is actually the learning and adaptation the EACH PERSON attempts to master, working w/ the TOA that they are dealt. You may be hella-cute, but could use a little road work (gym). You might be hella-fine, but your Wunderlich score (educate the ladies, VSB) could be pathetic! What swagger does is seek to compensate for the TOA imbalance that EVERYBODY has, and bring out the best in what you got.

Now, like I said at the beginning…it’s learned. A lot of it is based on exposure, and trial and error. As young people, we’re all mostly naive, brutally honest, and complete corny. While we may carry some of the character traits of our parentals. You only learn and develop swagger through interaction. The more you develop it the better is usually gets, that also means not doing the same B.S. repetitively. Swagger is also a quality of versatility, because one of its signs is also being able to use it with different people, and different environments. Just ’cause you’re a Fonzie/Fonzette in your hometown doesn’t mean you have it…buy a plane ticket, or get some bus fare, and see if your rap works elsewhere…and I mean out-of-state or country.

The cool thing about swagger is when you see a person that society might normally dub as “undesirable”, and you see their swagger give ‘em pull. Or even better, when you have a friend who you knew way back who was swagger-LESS…you watch them come up over the years…then you reminisce w/ ‘em on how cornball they were back-in-the-day. And AGAIN, we all were.

This is why the words “grown & sexy” are put together so d@mn often…’cause by the time you’re supposed to be “grown”, you just might have developed some swagger, which will afford you the luxury of “sexy”.

If more people where just themselves and worked with what they had rather than trying to “swagger jack” to be like someone else, people would be more receptive to them.

They wouldn’t appear to be fake or like someone who is trying too hard.

Everyone has a certain swagger. They just have to embrace themselves.

now with all homo sh*t aside…..what could possibly be so sexy about him?? i’ve tried to figure that out many times before!! is it the fact that he will perpetually shed a tear for you whenever you need a man to cry with you, or is it that he will always keep you safe at night, warding off evil spirits by standing outside looking like a gargoyle??

but the little guy is confident!! plus he has money!! does that make him have swagger?? or is that a part of his swagger?? or does it have nothing to do with it??