My bf and I was discussing this the other day. I am exactly 5′ tall now. Took me 24.5 years but Mama I made it!!!!

Last time I weighed myself, I was sitting at 174.8 lbs. For me, that’s over my limit by like 20 lbs.

I like working out. Hell I have no problem sweating, what I absolutely hate is working out alone. I joined a class or two and the people there were so stuck on themselves like talking to me would somehow ruin their whole work out experience. My bad becky for having bigger boobs then you…. you mad?

I have the P90X and I do them when I remember to… which is where the bf comes in….b/c he sends me these lovingly annoying texts asking if/when I am going to work out for the day.

For me, managing my weight has nothing to do with what other people think. For me, I can’t be too heavy cuz the sh&t hurts my ankles. I know when I’m too heavy cuz standing up literally hurts my ankles and my heels and I have too many pairs of hand crafted sexiness with 2,3,4 & 5 inches in my closet for me not to be able to walk in them. It has nothing to do with the fact that diabetes, HBP, Heart disease, cancer, high cholesterol, and other diseases run on both sides of my family. Nope, not at all.

I am healthy and manage my weight for the kids and by kids I mean my shoes. But I also know that I will never be a certain size…not in the genes and these tigo’s and random arse (I say random cuz I swear it used to be bigger and rounder but apparently I’m the only one who sees it.) will not go any where and I am not one to shy away from letting the “girls” come out to play. That’s what good support, cleavage bearing bras are for!!

food is my kryptonite. It makes it worse that I know how to cook and bake and keep all basics in my cabinet for those times when I want/need a quick batch of cookies or some butter rolls or sweet biscuits with jam/preserves…w/e. I bakes. It’s what I do.

But I also know that high blood pressure, diabetes, heart disease, high cholesterol, obesity, and all other kinds of diseases run in my family.

So I do all things in moderation. Hell, my lil brother loves & hates when I’m in a baking mood. Cuz he will eat every cookie, cake, cheesecake, pie, dessert in my fridge and curse me out the next day at the gym like I forced him to eat them all in one sitting!!!

Like someone said in a comment above…. all things in moderation.

I think if he suggests you do it as a couple then it will go over way better than him just making a simple suggestion.

I hate how some black women like me, who know they are fat/morbidly obese and think they are just “thick.” No, we are not! We are unhealthy and need to do something about before diabetes, heart disease, and Breast Cancer- yes, that’s right, the Big C is more prevalent in obese women and Black women are usually diagnosed with a particularly intense (for lack of a better word) form than 2520 women and other races( read this in the latest issue of Essence) does.

The truth is: I’d say 40% of black women just need to watch what they eat and maybe loose a coupla lbs. no and then and %60 of us are IN DENIAL! Being obese is not fuggin cute, it is KILLING US!

I can only speak for myself so I’ll just end with this:
I have never been 100% comfortable being obese cuz I always thought I could look better- however, I wanted to portray what [strike]THE BLACK COMMUNITY[/strike]society says a black woman should look like but not looking at the big picture/perspective that we come in all shapes and sizes. Basically, I just need to do me cuz what is in my heart is what matters more than having ass-appeal to dudes (even though I have lost weight in the past and the booty/tig ol’ H cups have never gone away). I also think we get too comfortable and are afraid of change (goes for both black women+men) but as long as this country still sees women’s bodies as a commodity- body image affects women more.

Real Talk: I am tired of seeing images of obese, black women on TV/Film. I too don’t like Mo’nique’s image and I swear to the creator of “PHAT GIRLZ” that fat chicks making fun of thin chicks trying to use that whole “turn the tables”-reverse discrimination psychology is DUMB LAME! Mo’nique is a [strike]Fat Ass[/strike] obese woman that knows deep her heart she’d rather be a 6 than a 16. That Fat bytch talking loud about skinniness is just a hustle that made her reach. I ain’t buying that bullsheet from her @ ALL! I also [strike]Hate[/strike] dislike Tyler Perry for this same damn reason, almost 75% of the women in his films/tv shows are obese- like the mother on “House of Payne,” she has no neck and her body looks like a ten million Hershey Kisses melted @ the same time. That is not a good look! ( Makes me wish “Girlfriends” was still on, they were annoying sometimes but at least they were in shape).

Overall, being an obese black woman is not a comedic matter anymore and it really never was. I know for sure I’m no longer laughing [strike]Especially @ Mo’nique’s Lame, FAT ASS JOKES and Tyler Perry’s cornholio TV SHOWS![/strike].

Oh yeah it can go down like that

Great Post Champ!!