So I received this email from Wise Diva the other day with a few web-links in it and lo and behold I came across an article that I swear I’d write. Hell, it almost feels like its the article The Champ and I have been writing all along…
Sometimes folks just get it right.
CO-ED Magazine’s staff wrote an article entitled: 13 Facts About Women…Men Forget
Oh happy happy joy joy mothertruckers. Now, I know that we’ve written a blog before where we mentioned things that we wish the opposite sex realized so it just stands to reason that this article would be right along those lines of things that we support here at VSB.com. So I figured I’d share a few points that I think are particularly poignant, people. Ponder pontificatiously….
A Better Liar: When a man lies, he knows he’s doing something wrong. He’ll dart his eyes, mumble, change the subject and try to just get the hell out of the situation as fast as possible. When a woman lies, she can look the person she loves square in the eye and feed him the biggest load of bullsh*t ever, and make it seem like she’s being perfectly reasonable–more reasonable than usual! (That’s your first clue.) But pity the man who catches his woman in a lie; call her out on it, and she will drop her entire arsenal of your f**k-ups upon your quickly withering form. Forget that tactic; it’s better to just go get drunk and hit on other chicks out of spite.
Constantly Looks For Inner-Meaning: For men, saying exactly what you mean stands as a matter of pride. But no matter how straight your talk, women like to feel like they have more control over the situation by attempting to decode what you’re not saying, so they can guess how you’re feeling and what to do next. Here’s the thing, ladies: Men only talk to accomplish a goal of some type, like working out a business plan. You talk just to talk. It makes you feel better just to get everything out there. If talking isn’t for any reason other than to talk, he’d rather do anything else.
Ouch. But ouch so good.
And who could forget:
Crazy: We know this is cliche, but let’s get something straight: When chemical imbalances (i.e., changes in hormone levels) control your thoughts, words and actions–that’s called crazy. A “visit from aunt flow,” as they say, is enough to throw many women over the edge–at least for a couple of days. And while we will forever hold hope that there’s a reliably sane one amongst them, we are yet to even hear of her existence. In fact, most women admit their (temporary) insanity; you’d know if you listen to them. Don’t, and that’s some sh*t they’ll use against you, if you make the mistake of not knowing what the hell is going on.
And hey…if it’s on the internet, it must be true, right? Right????
And one for the road:
P.S. Women: Don’t believe anything Cosmo or any other “female-targeted publication” tells you about what guys like. Just keep it as close to BJs and BBQ as possible and you’re in the green.
Well I think they got it right…what say you?
-VSB P aka THE ARSONIST
*****editors note, 10:53am.*****
this comment was originally written as an entry by “brown sugar”. the entry can be found at:
http://brownsugar28.blogspot.com/2008/07/ladies-stop-playing-wife-if-your-mans.html
*****end of editors note*****
” Too many women out here will do whatever it takes to find, get and keep a man, turning the whole natural order of the dating world on its head. ”
***genuflects***
“I don’t play wife, unless you’re playing husband. ”
***work cited and duly noted..Praise God and good night***
“I don’t play wife unless you’re playing husband”
PREACH!
more generally, end the reign of the thirsty chicks.
and i still will never forgive beyonce, kelly and michelle for cater to you, that ish was garbage.
I actually love “cater to you”. What’s wrong with appreciating and catering to your man if he’s treating you the way a man should???
Some women need to come up out that mindset of thinking they are the only ones who should be pampered in a relationship.
I have to agree Ms. Freckles. I don’t think this song was written for the random dating envoirnment.
I certainly wont be giving back massages, cooking quiche from scratch, a making bubble baths with candles and glass of hawaiian punch kool aide on the side…after our 3rd date.
Its a process. And in that process he’s giving similiar to equal effort for the effort I provide. but apparently everyone wants the instant ready made boyfriend/husband and they just don’t exsist.
hawaiian punch kool aid?
I think I just caught tha diabeetus
No you didnt cause I put Splenda in it ***how you like me now***LOL
id rather catch the diabeetus than desecrate the hawaiian punch kool aid with that stuff
I’m loving the Hawaiian Kool-aid on the side
what about the splenda though??? see how I’m looking out for a man’s blood sugar situation??
if we’re married, sure i’ll cater to him cos i can be assured that he’s doing the same. but there was nothing on the track about the man doing anything but going to work and coming home. shiiiiiit if i’ve been at work all day, i’m not working an extra job massaging your stank ass feet just because.
“the man doing anything but going to work and coming home”
In some of our communities this is a BIG DEAL..sike let me stop.
But there are times in a relationship (not dating situation) where you just want to please the person you are with (go overboard even). Esp. if he’s doing the right thing. Why not make him feel special about it.
“but there was nothing on the track about the man doing anything but going to work and coming home.”
because…..
….its a song.
it really wasnt that serious, not all at.
lol, i know.
if the dude did something sweet like buy my groceries cos i was too busy studying or something, i’ll happily rub his cheesy ass feet… (okay, i lie, i can’t do feet, maybe a backrub and an amazing home-cooked african-style meal, with all the yams and pepper soup i can make).
the general sentiment of the song just doesn’t agree with me, plus i’m not a big fan of the r’n'b slow jam unless it’s d’angelo or donell jones singing, so i’m probably biased.
“yams and pepper soup” – this made me hungry. can you send me some? or send a recipe?
“i’ll happily rub his cheesy ass feet”
***flag on the play***
@Pattiecakes TY I’m glad it wasn’t just me n this crazy eating schedule the dietitian has me on.
@puff…that song was on point…it showed alot of women that were taking their man for granted, how to treat them…sad but true…it didn’t, however, draw a line in the sand that explained that every Tom, Dick, and Rasheed don’t get the catering…if you do it for everybody the shit ain’t special…but I love it…some women don’t so right by men that are good to them…they needed that anthem…let ‘em have it…
Live—LSA
have u ever shaved your eyebrows and painted them back on or driven a car somewhere and back with the parking break on?
“have u ever shaved your eyebrows and painted them back on ”
I did when I was 8 in my experimental adolescent tammy fae baker (rip) phase. So what is your point exactly?
…just wondering, Tammy Fae.
I did in 9th grade, I tried to arch them, but jacked one up and shaved them off…this boy used to sit behind me on the bus everyday and when I got off he would wipe the penciled in ones off my face, and proceed to call me “Naked Face Girl”.
This made me very sad.
Naked Face Girl: SHE REIGNS!
“To put simply: I give as good as I get. You wanna wife, you need to put a ring on my finger. I don’t play wife, unless you’re playing husband. A sentiment I wish more young women would take to heart.”
You know what? Your whole post is the MF’in truth.
Please post more often–I’m lovin’ it.
“If that means cooking, cleaning, sexing, cow towing, begging, pleading, giving money to, letting live with, catching a case for (no lie) or just being a 21st century rendition of a Geisha with none of the perks who completely takes Destiny’s Child “Cater to You” to heart with little to no reciprocation, then so be it. If that’s what it takes to get and keep a man, then that is what too many women are willing do.”
No better truth has ever been spoken!
“To put simply: I give as good as I get. You wanna wife, you need to put a ring on my finger. I don’t play wife, unless you’re playing husband. A sentiment I wish more young women would take to heart.”
Thats some gospel right there! Must be in the bible cause I just want to say: AMEN!!!! (doing a praise dance at my desk while my boss looks on awkwardly)
Chile, I think we were separated at birth!!!
Tell’em Why You Mad S0N!
So what constitutes a “quality chick” ?
“So what constitutes a “quality chick” ?”
good question
forget about everything else, i’m just amazed that you were able to leave a 600 word comment at 12:04, 2 minutes after the entry was posted. i’m literally in awe of your comment posting abilities.
Hey Live-LSA are you Brown Sugar from brownsugar28.blogspot.com? Necole Bitchie was talking about this post that had the EXACT some comments that you posted on here…. A lot of peeps are stealing this chicks blog posts.
if this is true…thats not cool.. and if she is not Brown Sugar 28…LSA needed to attribute and workcite appropriately.
“LSA needed to attribute and workcite appropriately.”
Really.
Yeah LSA hopefully you are cause that’s lame… this chick has areally great blog… if you guys havent checked it out please go… I saw other posts this morning after replying where other people were giving the heads up that someone was stealing her posts.
“Yeah LSA hopefully you are cause that’s lame… this chick has areally great blog… if you guys havent checked it out please go… ”
she occasionally comments here. hopefully it was her under a different name. if not, then i’ll probably delete the comment. i’m super anal about people using others material without citing (especially 600 words worth)
I think (hope) that was the case…let’s not jump to conclsions people…if Live and Direct IS BrownSugar she probably read this and was like I JUST did something so relevant I am goign to share my rantings of a genius with the VSB-folk…it happens…
go Professor Champ!
are you able to keep the threads running below if you delete. I dropped some knowledge about Splenda in Kool aide.
actually on second though, instead of deleting it, theres an easier way to fix that.
UMMM, an IP address check by site admin (me) knows who posted (copied) this lol. I don’t think it was malicious, just an error in citation.
yeah. i made an edit in that comment a few minutes ago just in case
liz…you are my favorite!! all IP address checking and sh*t…smart chicks rock!
Good call champ
LOL.
No it wasn’t me.
But you did attribute it…so thanx.
Yeah this particular post (as well as some others) have been popping up all over the blogsphere. Most
have been attributed however.
And Necole Bitchie did a girl right as she contacted me first before she posted it.
But thanx for the link Chanp and all the outrage by the rest of the posters.
Makes a girl feel all warm and mushy inside:-)
LOVE YOUR BLOG JJ … especially the one for today about the white women bitching!! I also say enjoy the youngin
To kind of expound on what LSA has said here I believe that we as black men have dropped the ball in a lot of areas as it pertains to our women. Men are supposed to be leaders. We should lead in our communities, but most of all we should lead in our homes.
From my perspective I see a lot of black women getting hurt by boys claiming to be young men early in the game. We date these women and lie to them, cheat on them, and damage them mentally, spiritually and in some extreme cases even physically. Then we want to look dazed and confused when women are out here bruised and beat up.
A good woman will give a man she loves her all and unfortunately a lot of women have given their all to boys who were undeserving of it because of a cloud of lies and deception that a lot of these guys throw out there.
LSA you were correct in that a man should seek out a woman.
He who finds a wife finds what is good
and receives favor from the LORD.
Proverbs 18:22
To all of the men out here I challenge you all to be up front and honest with your intentions when you are courting, dating, or whatever you wish to call it.
To all of the women out here I challenge you to listen to a man’s actions moreso than his words. He can feed you all the ear candy in the world but if his actions are not backing it up then move on.
To all of the women out here I challenge you to listen to a man’s actions moreso than his words. He can feed you all the ear candy in the world but if his actions are not backing it up then move on
He who finds a wife finds what is good
and receives favor from the LORD.
Proverbs 18:22
::applause::
“A good woman will give a man she loves her all and unfortunately a lot of women have given their all to boys who were undeserving of it because of a cloud of lies and deception that a lot of these guys throw out there. ”
this is true…but dont women (and men) also need to be held accountable for making terrible choices?
“but dont women (and men) also need to be held accountable for making terrible choices?”
I just alluded to this somewhere else in the blogesphere. At some point you do have to have a come to Jesus with yourself about not listening to your innervoice, allowing youself to make excuses for poor behavior…
and then doing a touch down..when you finally heard the bell. Cause you ultimately “get it” when you “get it”.
Yes, 90% of relationship problem stems from bad choice(s) in mates that was obvious from the jump…. otherwise known as settling….
Of course but are we not all human. Do not all make mistakes. And if that mistake was made as a result of someone lying to you who is really at fault?
“who is really at fault?”
when you procced to choose the same people and blame the same people for victimizing you, at what point do YOU become just as much of the problem.
“to thine ownself be true”…i would like to workcite this, i heard it from my grandma..but Im sure she got it from the bible or something.
“Of course but are we not all human. Do not all make mistakes. And if that mistake was made as a result of someone lying to you who is really at fault?”
i agree that there are a few cases of people just being out right lied to and deceived, but the snake parable happens much more often than that.
@ Champ
I in no way am trying to to say that those who repeat the same mistakes over and over yet do the same thing are justified in crying foul when the same thing continues to happen. But let’s not blame the the rape victim for being raped either.
“But let’s not blame the the rape victim for being raped either.”
i’m not saying that. what i am saying is that if you walk around butt naked through the streets at night, sans a post-it attached to your butt cheeks with “rape me” written on them, and you happen to actually get raped, then maybe its time to reevaluate some of your wardrobe choices
@ Champ
No one is saying that people should not be accountable for their actions. I am just saying lets blame both parties. We have a tendancy to say “well you knew that ninja was not about anything so its your fault” I am saying lets hold the dude that aint about anything to a higher standard just as we tell the woman to make better decisions.
“I am saying lets hold the dude that aint about anything to a higher standard just as we tell the woman to make better decisions.”
i agree with this 100 percent.
Of course…which is why if you can SEE that you’re repeating a pattern…STOP immediately…pull yourself out of the pool…and work on that sh*t. Do society a favor…and stop subjecting others to your madness.
“this is true…but don’t women (and men) also need to be held accountable for making terrible choices?”
Yes and no. I think there’s a period in everyone’s life when those bad choices are made because the person doesn’t know any better. Because they haven’t been given the opportunity or taken the initiative to self-reflect. However, once that tool [of self-reflection] is gained I think it’s perfectly acceptable to hold either gender accountable for their continual bad choices.
“Yes and no. I think there’s a period in everyone’s life when those bad choices are made because the person doesn’t know any better”
ignorance or lack of experience is still no excuse. in my opinion, the earlier you start holding yourself accountable for bad choices, the better your life will eventually be
Easier said than done. The earlier you start is also
is directly proportional to your education of self-improvement. For those of who have poor parental examples it may take a little longer to realize that our choices not only mimic theirs but are leading us down the same destructive paths. That being said the earlier the better is always the ‘preferred’ objective. It’s just that for some of us ignorance can slow down this process.
Hmph…need a few mo’ brothas to read this right here…read AND internalize it.
***slow clap to a standing ovation***
singing…”let me cater to YOU..cuz baby this is your day…”
nah but for real…this made me smile…I say everyday…I can show you better than I can tell you…I know my man will be able to do that to…good looking out there CON-SCIENCE!
I go by this simple plan when it comes to dating. One of my good friends laid it out and it makes so much sense I decided to borrow it. Shot out to DP. In courting these are the steps I follow.
1. Find a beautiful black woman
2. Befriend her
3. Love her
4. Marry her
5. Teach your children to do the same
To me the equation is simple. We tend to mess it up along the way. We also tend to do things out of order. If we stick to the script life would be a much smoother process.
Women know who you are and respect yourself enough to know what you desearve and NEVER SETTLE.
Men be a MAN and know with the rights that come with being a man comes a whole lot of responsibility. Embrace that responsibility and simply man-up.
*stepping down from soap box*
@conscience…sounds like you are spitting more from experience than a soap box… living it and learning from it trumps high horses and soap boxes any day… dropping science… speak easy!
*hosanna in the highest*
I just got shivers from your post.
Thank you.
I believe most of us guilty of making the process to complex.
Fantastico.
Conscience when you say at #:
5. Teach your children to do the same
of course you don’t mean “marry her” (the chidren’s mother) which was #4 on ur list. (cause that would be incest) LOL!
Conscience moralizes: “Men be a MAN and know with the rights that come with being a man comes a whole lot of responsibility.”
im sure many men thru experience know the responsibilities of being a man whether they own up to them or no and if they dont i do believe that they are more familliar with presumed responsibilities than their “RIGHTS” as a man.
so kindly sir, since you made the statement and seem so well versed on what a man’s reponsibilities are to a woman, please bless us with ur beneficence and provide us with a list of a mans “rights” i’m just imagining that with a whole lot of responsibility” also comes a “whole lot” of rights.
oh wise and rightful Conscience i supplicate thee, bless us with your treatise.
khan
Lol. Now I am not sure if you really want to know what I think a mans rights are or are you just being facetious. But since you asked let me me answer the question in two parts. I will start by stating what I feel a man’s responsibilities are.
1. Believe in and follow God (regardless of your denomination or religion I hope you believe in a higher order. If not you can stop reading here)
2. Respect yourself
3. Respect others as you do yourself
4. Be a man of your word. Do not speak it unless you mean it.
5. Be true to who you are regardless of what others may do. (i.e. if you are a faithful person in a relationship and your woman cheats on you know that it is not right to cheat just because she did. Stick to your moral code.)
6. Service. If you love your significant other serve her selflessly. In this servitude you will experience a fruitful relationship. Love = service.
Rights may be a poor term to use. In my experience those who follow what is above will be blessed with the following.
1. Favor in God’s eyes
2. The respect and admiration of your family, friends and community.
3. For your girlfriend/wife to cerish, adore and respect you.
4. No Drama. If you are doing what you are supposed to be doing and holding true to it Life will be a lot more smooth. True storms may come but if you hold steadfast and do what is right you will reap the benefits of sewing the good seed.
5. Your daughter to grow up and realize what a man is because she saw the epitome of it everyday in her household. She will know if you teach her by word and action who she is and what she deserves
Your son will know how much of a blessing a woman can be and will treat women who he comes into contact with, with respect.
6. The seeds you sew now will have an affect on your family for generations to come. Make that be a positive one.
“Listen to your woman/wife, love her, respect her, and you will earn the right to lead her” – Dexter Yager
thankyou. i did want a genuine answer, as facetious as i may have asked for it. …and you’re right that maybe “rights” may have been a poor term [for you]to use. (IF you can’t explain or believe that men have rights that go along with their responsibilities towards women dating and the like…)
i read at this site today and on many others what women feel they are entitled to from a man [dating, marriage wise, generally] and what men are not entitled to from women. [evidenced today] i wonder from a rightful conscience like yours who has reinforced some of those beliefs; (noticing your backslaps and amens from the ladies) what “rights” does a man have that go along with all his responsibilities? from what i read in your answer is that a mans right is to more responsibility.
responsibility – Something for which one is responsible; a duty, obligation, or burden.
rights – That which is due to anyone by just claim; usually a benefit of some kind.
Boy do i get a lesson of what womens rights are in regards to dating marriage and in general but very seldom what her responsibilities are. [and you can be sure they let you know who and what comes first and takes priority] if you do this then i might do that and so forth…
…begs the question what are mens rights and what are womens responsibilities in the dating-marriage and related realm and what and who comes 1st.
heh, heh, heh (inhales) whoooo!
@ Khan
Not sure where you got that it yields more responsibility. I read a the comments left here and most of them have to do with the very tangible side of relationships. Women will post that they shouldn’t wash a man’s clothes, cook dinner every night, give him s3x on the regular, etc. I guess I am trying to convey a message that is multiple levels above this. I am a 28 year old single man and have never asked a woman to do any of those things although I have dated a couple that did those things out of love and admiration for me and the relationship.
I think both men and women get caught up in this selfishness of “what have you done for me lately” as opposed to choosing a mate who is worthy of service because he/she serves you selflessly. Not because you asked or demanded. This can only be born out of a mutual respect for yourself and the person you are with.
Of course everyone’s opinion about a man and woman’s rights while dating differs. That is why we should all find a partner whose thoughts about it align with our own.
Conscience i believe i can sign off on your statement:
“That is why we should all find a partner whose thoughts about it [marriage & dating roles/responsibilities/rights] align with our own.”
if my inserts [---] are correct?
the first list in your answer i see now are more responsibilities than rights of a man from a woman.
after reading your answer again i see where you have explained the rights a man from a woman [in ref to dating and marriage etc.] i get it now so from women in dating marriage and such, a man HAS THE RIGHT TO “Favor from God, gf or wife [who] will cherish, adore and respect you, no drama [in ur relationship or handling drama better], the joy [i guess u mean] of having children who grow up doing it the same way u did etc. etc…
many of your answers are not rights due a man directly from a woman and if i didn’t ask or explain it that way it is what i meant because:
women claim RIGHTS TO from men not necessarily God, like doors being opened for them, men paying for dates, men displaying chivalry towards them, etc… [i can send you to their vsb posts if you don't already know]
so if you have not grown weary of me, give me some rights due a man directly from women in getting to know u’s, dating, marriage and the like?
…and too, what sir are some of the responsibilities of women towards men in ref to getting to know u’s, dating, relationship marriage and the like?
@ Kahn
Well I am old school so in my opinion a woman need not do a whole lot when it comes to tangible things.
Women are to be pursued by men but a woman needs to have due diligence in being a little pro-active in the dating process. (i.e. understanding that just because the guy she is dating is going to pay for dates everytime being considerate to sincerly offer from time to time)
A woman should not hold the past transgressions of previous boyfriends/guys she dated against the new guy.
A woman should never ask a man to pay bills (i.e. car note, insurance, mortgage, rent, etc.)
A woman should do things sincerely and without the thought of being “paid back” such as cooking dinner, picking up a few things around his crib. If she does not really want to do them she should not especially if she is just doing it to gain favor and win him over. That is manipulative and wrong.
***jumping and waving hands***
glow-ray!!! fawthuh gawt!!
@ Live and direct from LSA…I think I just got the ghost up in here…you better TYPE THAT SH!T GIRL!!!
down with thirsty b*tches!!
I wouldn’t be jumping to high… cause she didnt write it… the post belongs to Brown Sugar 28…
I just checked Brown Sugar’s blog and indeed it is.
So the person who posted this didn’t attribute to the rightful author…utterly lame and wack. Plagarism is NOT the business, folk.
I concur JBoogie! The funny thing is I read the post on Monday after Necole Bitchie giving the original author and shout outs!!!
damn…that’s jacked up…I feel so misled…well then, I am jumping for BrownSuga..and going to check out her blog to give her some e-love…
“glow-ray!!! fawthuh gawt!!”
your phonetics always kill me
“glow-ray!!! fawthuh gawt!!”
http://wwwyoutube.com/watch?v=fS95Z5ZFJfM&eurl=
Total agree.
Men today expect a women to do any and everything for them because the past chick was doing it all. I get so tired of men expecting the next chick to do the same thing.
I am a independent woman and I will not be breaking my back to make you stay with me, if you want to go, I will show you to the door.
Women need to remember that its the man who chooses the woman, not the other way around. I like being chased, because I have learned no one appreciates anything that comes too easy to them.
“Women need to remember that its the man who chooses the woman, not the other way around. I like being chased, because I have learned no one appreciates anything that comes too easy to them.”
Truth right here! I’ve found in my experience that when a woman chases, the man doesn’t appreciate her as much. Pattern is set…for another bad experience. A woman’s job is show reciprocal interest, set boundaries, and get to know the guy within the context of said boundaries before she decides whether he’s a keeper or not. Simple, no?
Very simple.
Wish more lady folk (and men) would listen.
“Women need to remember that its the man who chooses the woman, not the other way around. I like being chased, because I have learned no one appreciates anything that comes too easy to them.”
so, you don’t appreciate being chased, i mean, since noone appreciates anything that comes too easy?
I have actually entertained the thought of moving to Japan and becoming a Geisha.
well Hedo before u entertain the thought of going to Japan and becoming a Geisha be sure to attend my Geisha-esque training camp. with a good attitude, you could realize your wildest wettest dreams. now cinch up your waist, paint your face and reach out to me. kiss urself.
@ genius- ***bowing down before him*** where do I sign up?
I disagree with the list but agree that too many men want a woman to perform wife duties when she’s not his wife.
Amen and Hallelujah!
Can the ladies define wife duties? I am wondering if we are all thinking the same thing…
Wife duties…
Washing his clothes
Cooking his meals
Taking care of his kids that are not yours
Being his bank
Satin Doll summed it up nicely.
“Being his bank”
HOLY HELL NAH BATMAN!!!
whoa whoa whoa… I am thumbing through WIFE handbook here… and maybe I am looking at an old copy (since I was married in 03) but ummm…. “being his bank”?? really ni99a?? really??? who does that??? I dont’ think nuptials (or lack thereof) transfer sole fiduciary responsibility…I mean maybe I missed it…but… I will KEEP missing that one!
‘being his bank’ i took to mean sharing the account. My old pastor used to say when you get married, you marry the bank accounts too. he was real big on that or rather against the idea of folks keeping things separate. it’s almost like preparing an exit strategy in advance.
I believe in joint accounts for houselhold stuff and things you do together…but I think it’s paramount to maintain our own independent account too…It’s not like you are making a declaration of your mistrust in your ability to keep things together…you are sharing a life, after all…but, there is a sweet and sour side for my support of separately together money, hunny…
SWEET – he surprises you with a sweet, thought ful gift…or sends you flowers for the sake of Tuesday…you don’t want to know what your gifts cost…and vice versa…and our joint account tells you just that…you will know when, where, how much, etc…or if you go shopping and he bought concert tickets…and the account got overdrawn due to miscommunication…isht happens
SOUR – having made the mistake of not maintaining both sets of books…”our” money got eff’d up when my (now ex) husband decided to take is latest trick on holiday in Dubai!… had he had his own account…”our” mortgage check wouldn’t have bounced…oh wait…ummmm….(biting bottom lip)
bottom line, with isht like this…experience is the best teacher…
damn boo…i’m sorry, but glad you found out that ninja was foul…experience really IS the best teacher.
i hear ya goodie. but damn, the sour sucks.
frequent sex, massages and foot rubs too.
EXACTLY!
I can’t tell you how many dudes have suggested that I do any or all of the above while we were just CASUALLY DATING!
One guy said to me one day, while he was at my house, that I shouldn’t be stressing him (we had a minor disagreement)…that when he was there I needed to care for and cater to him…lol
He wasn’t my man. We were just dating.
Let’s just say he didn’t last too long after that.
LOL…he’d have been put on my DNA list after that nonsense. But see, some other chick had done exactly that before you dated him…so he just knew you’d do the same…fool.
“I can’t tell you how many dudes have suggested that I do any or all of the above while we were just CASUALLY DATING!”
Unfortunately, too many guys expect it because too many of us have obliged them.
Proverbs 31
Epehesians 4
Let me say that for those who follow the teachings of Jesus, and idolize his ways, the only gray areas that are evident are the ones that we create to satisfy our selfish desires. I am not looking for anyone to poke holes in this theory, simply stating this for fellow follower’s of Christ’s Way. Marriage and roles of husbands and wives are clearly defined in the bible. Carry on!
Pretty much…and it’s not difficult to understand.
“One guy said to me one day, while he was at my house, that I shouldn’t be stressing him (we had a minor disagreement)…that when he was there I needed to care for and cater to him…lol”
Wow. He probably had his feet all up on your couch too huh?
Throat punch for him!!
“When a man lies, he knows he’s doing something wrong. He’ll dart his eyes, mumble, change the subject and try to just get the hell out of the situation as fast as possible. When a woman lies, she can look the person she loves square in the eye and feed him the biggest load of bullsh*t ever”
Men are the worst liars! They’re so easy to catch in a lie and the worst is when you try to get your boys to cover up for you. I caught an ex of mine in a big lie when I called his house and his roommate at the time was trying to cover up for him about where he was, but he just muttered the whole time and was making no sense whatsoever and finally just blurted out the truth about what he really was up to…..
would it be better if some men did strive to be good liars? be careful what you ask for
“would it be better if some men did strive to be good liars? be careful what you ask for”
good point
Not at all, but I don’t understand why men just don’t tell the truth considering how bad they are at lying.
really? you really dont understand why people tell lies? cmon when you were little did you tell your parents the complete truth about all the dirt you did? you have had to have done somethign shitty at least once in your life and felt it was easier to jus lie and cover it up instead of being truthful. I dont get why people are all confused about the motivation behind lying. Plus regardless of what most may think you can’t handle the truth.
COMPLETE honesty is not a good thing…(ignoring e-glares from the ladies) no good can come from it… absolute transparency can (and will) unltimately lead to the slow and painful destruction of even the most powerful dynamic… be careful what you ask for indeed!
exactly. You cant handle the truth
(smirk) and neither can you…
it’s a sex-less concept…nobody can handle the complete, unbridled, unedited truth… vagi-mony aside…it it what it is…
“vagi-mony aside”
That is hillarious!
I know. I enjoy living within the fantasy that I have created for myself.
No you’re right. Honesty has its place. So does lying.
who writes this crap? i mean the entire ‘co-ed’ article…i felt the author’s tone was a bit sexist and condescending. and i really didn’t care for the author’s tone. it makes us (women) sound like we’re one big f*cking headache that should just be tolerated so that you guys won’t mess up your chances of getting more p***sy.
First of all women are NOT created equal. there are just some people that have personality disorders and they should just be avoided at all cost- male or female. so, i disagree with the crazy rule. [but if you bleed for 4 days straight once a month wouldn't you be a little on edge too? sheeeeeeeeeeeeet.] and yeah we’re complicated but i think men are complicated too. no lie. don’t get them, and probably never will. the inner meaning business… if you didn’t answer us in three word sentences maybe we wouldn’t require so much elaboration and “decoding”. for example:
miss p- “so honey, ever since that summer with my uncle i was never allowed to see him unchaperoned again”
dude- “wow. that’s deep”
-i’m sorry, but miss p needs a little more dialog/feedback than that.
And finally, what i found most peculiar about this article was that amidst their ranting about women needing compliments & being self-conscious was a plethora of half naked women on the right column of their website. see, this is what i don’t get…these women get constant praise and we’re supposed to be satisfied with the fact that you givin’ it to us once a week says we’re hot? i’m sorry, but until it’s M-Sa, twice on Sunday and you’re j*cking off to me on the internet, i’m gonna need words (yes, compliments) about my body, my outfits, my talents to come out of your mouth.
And on top of all of this ranting about CO-ED magazine, I just got rerouted to spank bank and spent the last half hour wondering how Esther Baxter’s 34DDD-24-40 a$$ has not one dimple and praying and voodooing all kinds of unplanned pregnancies on her ass. (oops, that was mean.) damn…is that my moon calling me? gotta go. (i know, i’m a hater. hate deez.)
[but if you bleed for 4 days straight once a month wouldn't you be a little on edge too? sheeeeeeeeeeeeet.]
They couldn’t do it. If they saw what going on the inside they would fall out and die (shouts to GFK Black Jesus)…lol
“If they saw what going on the inside they would fall out and die” – they surely would.
“I just got rerouted to spank bank and spent the last half hour wondering how Esther Baxter’s 34DDD-24-40 a$$ has not one dimple and praying and voodooing all kinds of unplanned pregnancies on her ass”
its too late for that, lol. she just had a kid a couple months ago
oh yeah? IDK she had a hatching.
“she just had a kid a couple months ago”
yes!!!!!!!!! i mean…that’s great; i’m so happy for her
“yes!!!!!!!!! i mean…that’s great; i’m so happy for her”
lol, ok
and she still killin em
“miss p- “so honey, ever since that summer with my uncle i was never allowed to see him unchaperoned again”
dude- “wow. that’s deep””
i’m sorry, this made me laugh aloud.
wait, i’m not sorry. why did i even say that?
it made me laugh too. why do you need more feedback than that? why is it necessary to get in a long discussion?
“why is it necessary to get in a long discussion?”
Because your reaction to something heavy like this might determine if you’re the kind of person I can be with. Plain and simple.
in that particular instance when you brought that up a dude may not have been at a point where he wanted to get in a drawn out discussion such as this. There are times where I just dont feel like talking I dont care whats being said to me. Also sometimes you dont need alot fo words to convey a point. One of my mantras is if it cant be spelled out in one sentence it doesn’t need to be said. Also a cat probly wasn’t listening. I say things like “thats deep” just to be polite cause I know you’re testing me for some reason and I feel that aribitrary tests are bullshit.
@ deviant. your reply alone was 5 sentences. does that mean i should have tuned out after the first one?
yep. summary – keep it short as possible. the extra is for those that need more detail.
Uh… If I am not mistaking that conversation refers to sexual abuse, no? Now if the only response I get is “Wow, that’s deep”… Then yeah, makes me wonder…
Also, to assume that the girl would not know what is a “good” moment to talk is a tad condescending, no?
@ msSula – exactly. I’m not talking about having a deep conversation in the middle of the drive thru at mcDonald’s. Btw….love the name mostly because Sula is one of my favorite novels.
glad you cleared that up Pattiecakes cuz I was having flashbacks of Sarah Silverman in The Aristocrats.
@WuDaMan-omg! you’ve seen that aristocrats joke by sarah silverman? i was just telling a friend of mine about her ‘version’. that sh*t is so hilarious. as you can tell, my sense of humor is a little inappropriate at times. man…now i wanna watch that again.
don’t worry it’s a joke. laugh on.
[but if you bleed for 4 days straight once a month wouldn't you be a little on edge too? sheeeeeeeeeeeeet.]
Regardless of the reason or cause, crazy is crazy.
I’m just saying
Ok, before you ask..no i didnt read the link. I dont feel i need to…lol
1. A Better Liar: Yes women are better at bending the truth…face it its a gift and dont hate..just observe..u might learn something..lol
2. Constantly Looks For Inner Meaning: Not all women want to go “deep”. Depending on how much they are into you determines how “deep” they want to go. I am a pick-your-brain type of girl, so I will try and find out how sick n twisted you are before I decide on how much time I want to spend with you..lol Because my twistedness might not be compatable with your twistedness..and we’ll both end up in a hospital somewhere..lol(i know thats probably not a word..but whatever..lol)
3. Craziness: Crazy is..as Crazy does. This applies to both men and women. I truly believe men do have a “period” time of the month where they truly lose their minds for about 2 days..saying off the wall shii and acting confused as all hell..lol
Ladies..can i get a Amen?
Amen!
“Yes women are better at bending the truth…”
…and crafting euphemisms to stand in place of “lying out of our asses”
we dont lie Champ..we just avoid the truth..lol
you mean women are better at being deceitful..is that something you really wanna broadcast? I would think that is something you wanna deny.
I’m going to deny this. For all of us women.
i think women can lie better than men can. but unlike the article suggests i’m not the kind of woman who’s gonna lie about meeting up with my ex- matter of fact, if i’m dating a man exclusively why the hell am i meeting up with my ex? but now, our sex# is something that the brothas said we should lie about.
@ aja and miss p –
i so agree with everything y’all said. the article is kinda sexist, and makes generalisations about women that seem more apt for a chick flick than real life. the only point i will agree on is the lying… i can lie without blinking an eyelid, but i don’t think that has anything to do with me being a woman, i’ve just had practice mainly because being brought up by a strict catholic, you have to perfect the art unless you want to end up in a nunnery.
i also really want to know what women believe cosmo/glamour/marie claire’s analysis of “what men are like”. that extra p.s. at the end seems to me to be suggesting, “hey ladies! as long as you give it up and can make a good ass sandwich afterwards, you’ll get a man!” – basically taking us back to the caveman days. i know we’re products of our instincts, but i like to think our species has evolved to the point where guides like this aren’t necessary… shit, cavewomen didn’t have cosmo and they got on alright. i know my argument just went circular, but it’s too early in the morning for me to care.
basically want i’m trying to say is, women aren’t as cookie-cutter in their approach to the dating game as this article suggests, and at least aren’t any more so than men. nor are we all crazy and enjoy playing mind games. the only reason said mind-games are talked about is because of the whole “men are hunters” theory that has women, presumably the prey, feeling like they need get ahead and outrun the hunter.
fuck it, this’ll make more sense when i’ve eaten.
Nah, boo, this made perfect sense. I HATE these types of articles…they are cookie cutter AND I believe they directly contribute to a lot of the confusion between men and women. Da fugg I’mma believe a one page article in a chick rag about how to get men? Especially when it’s in there every other month? If they were helpful in any way, men and women would be running around skipping and holding hands and sh*t, smelling the roses.
“fuck it, this’ll make more sense when i’ve eaten.”
i’m gonna start concluding each of my entries with this sentence
yo, i’m going to trademark that shit… don’t even try or i’ll put some african voodoo on you.
i kid, go on ahead. this job’s making me overly aggressive today. s’all good, i just got paaaaaaaid!
“hey ladies! as long as you give it up and can make a good ass sandwich afterwards, you’ll get a man!”
Sigh. Just when I thought my husband married me for my ambition. D’oh!
“basically want i’m trying to say is, women aren’t as cookie-cutter in their approach to the dating game as this article suggests, and at least aren’t any more so than men. nor are we all crazy and enjoy playing mind games.”
I totally agree on you with this one. Its kind of tiring and annoying when men say that women are the only ones who have mental issues..lol Because some men KNOW they need to see a therapist on a regular basis..but just wont go..lol
@AJA – “Craziness: Crazy is..as Crazy does. This applies to both men and women” I totally concur here!
Someone that commented earlier said it best “I will play wife when you are playing husband”. Amen!
P.S. — I agree with the list above. I think it’s actually on point.
I agree with a lot of what the article tried to illustrate. Some of it was a little extreme and couple just plain stupid but still pretty on target.
However, that’s doesn’t mean that I don’t feel that it can all me applied to men just the same.
But all in all we (men and women) love each. And some for those very reasons mentioned in the article.
“But all in all we (men and women) love each other. And some for those very reasons mentioned in the article.”
you know, honestly, for all the shit we talk, i like women the way that they are.
i might complain about chick logic and everything else, but, realistically speaking, i wouldnt want to approach, court, date, f*ck, and eventually wife someone who acted and thought exactly like me.
“i wouldnt want to approach, court, date, f*ck, and eventually wife someone who acted and thought exactly like me.”
Champ, you’re so damn eloquent…lol.
“Champ, you’re so damn eloquent…lol.”
i try and shit
i might complain about chick logic and everything else, but, realistically speaking, i wouldnt want to approach, court, date, f*ck, and eventually wife someone who acted and thought exactly like me.
this was beautiful and shit!
Champ wanting to fu**, court… (probably more in that order) someone that does NOT act and think like YOU doesn’t necessarily mean that they would act or think like women recounted in the article either. …or would it?
heh, heh, heh (inhales) whoooo!
“you know, honestly, for all the shit we talk, i like women the way that they are”
‘preciate the honesty, son…
“you know, honestly, for all the shit we talk, i like women the way that they are. ”
I’m actually surprised to read this.
“you know, honestly, for all the shit we talk, i like women the way that they are.”
Yeah…I knew.
Ya’ll like our crazy azzes like they we are.
It’s what makes the world go ’round.
“Yeah…I knew.
Ya’ll like our crazy azzes like they we are.”
wait, dont get it twisted. i’m not suggesting that women have carte blanche to act an emotional fool and be relationship terrorists, but, admittedly, i like my women to be…women, and i run from the women who (try to) act and think “like men”. that shit aint sexy at all.
right…so you appreciate the dichotomy. good stuff…
well J Boogz, being a man I appreciate the dichotomy you believe Champ speaks of as well but i also appreciate a woman taking on some of the more natural and classical roles that are also very woman like and effeminate like household administration, secretary of sinks and bathtubs, house minority leader, chairman [excuse me chairperson] of stoves, chefs and menus, chief of household staff, majority whip, [of children]
cause i don’t expect that women will be chief of grounds and security, [you see the picture]
say hello to the Commander in Chief. (Me, Mr. Man)
now where’s my tea and paper?
heh, heh, heh (inhales) whooooo!
LOL…then we’d be on the same page then, GK. I’m all for fairness…
I am of the belief that it takes some mutual interest to have a good relationship. But we ain’t got to have all things in common.
I don’t want to be another ninja in my man’s life. I’m fine with being his a geisha. In so many words that is.
“wait, dont get it twisted. i’m not suggesting that women have carte blanche to act an emotional fool and be relationship terrorists, but, admittedly, i like my women to be…women, and i run from the women who (try to) act and think “like men”. that shit aint sexy at all”
I’m not saying everything per se, I’m just saying that you like the differences and the similarities, not maybe equally, but they need to be there. I gotcha.
I wouldnt want to approach, court, date, f*ck, and eventually wife someone who acted and thought exactly like me.
Why does this give me annoying flashbacks? Ugh!
Rubbing my silky smoothness up against a man’s rough edged-ness just makes for some good living. The vast distinctions of the complexities fuse into a true euphoric balance.
We were created different for a reason. And a good one that is.
I think I’m gonna write a poem now titled “rough edged-ness” LOL
“Rubbing my silky smoothness up against a man’s rough edged-ness just makes for some good living.”
I like this.
It sounds like a sentence from a Terry McMillan novel. lol
hahh!!! ( i literally just LOL)
Maybe that’s why I liked it.
…and heeeeere’s Raqui!: “I am of the belief that it takes some mutual interest to have a good relationship. But we ain’t got to have all things in common.”
“I don’t want to be another ninja in my man’s life. I’m fine with being his a geisha. In so many words that is.”
“Rubbing my silky smoothness up against a man’s rough edged-ness just makes for some good living. The vast distinctions of the complexities fuse into a true euphoric balance.”
“We were created different for a reason. And a good one that is.”
now Raq you SEEM like the kind of woman that has no problem embracing some of the more classical and feminine charachteristics of a womans ROLE in marriage realtionship etc. [i know you're married, no need to remind] …furthermore, i feel you would gladly do so [especially if you're gonna be more than plutonic friends] without undue pressure and requirements on the man you’ve chosen. [i.e a man has to do this for me everytime, take me here, buy me there etc.]
im not sure you really exist but if you do, don’t let this “new style civilization/woman/construct” sully your environment.
enjoy!
So basically this post confirms my whole theory that we spend more time trying to figure out eachother on our own than actually communicating with eachother….it is what it is.
Oh, and I fully second the fact that dating in general has gone all kinds of sideways and is completely out of order…but I’ve also noticed that when a brother is really interested all that old-fashionedness comes right back.
Yep, it does…which is why I REFUSE to chase. If he’s interested…he’ll do what he has to do to capture your attention and your heart…this applies to even the shyest guy.
“. If he’s interested…he’ll do what he has to do to capture your attention and your heart…this applies to even the shyest guy.”
Yes and Yes. Which is why I don’t understand why a woman justifies chasing a man because he’s shy. Trust and believe shy men have their M.O. They may be slow as all hell…but sometimes the tortoise wins the race.
I’m going to disagree with this. Someone who lacks assertiveness is not going to put themselves out ahead of some alpha. If they see an attractive guy chatting with you and you having a good time, they’re going to back off.
The only time a “shy” guy makes a move on you is when you make yourself available by being consistently single (so he thinks that maybe you’re not attracted to all those other guys who seem to have such and easy time walking up to you out of the blue and making you laugh and shit) and consistently in his presence (so he figures out that there is something about him that you actually like) where you two have enough private time together that he can make a move without feeling like an idiot.
Shy my azz…
I’m not working that hard. If you want me, you put in the effort.
“Shy my azz…”
is this an order?
hah!!! no. I guess I should have inserted a comma, or a period, or an exclamation point –oh hell. You know what I meant.
applies with specific caveats and conditions
Kamilah says: “…but I’ve also noticed that when a brother is really interested all that old-fashionedness comes right back.
…really interested in what exactly?
pus** perhaps. he’s probably trying to buy some pu***. he probably doesn’t know enough yet about what else he MIGHT be interested in. FOH!
Khan you are ridiculous!
You knew exactly what I was talking about…see once again, we’re making it too complicated…you’re sounding like the women mentioned in the blog…over-analyzing again are we?
LOL
“but I’ve also noticed that when a brother is really interested all that old-fashionedness comes right back.”
‘Nanny’ used to always tell me “let that n*gga chase you!” My grandmother was a eloquent woman too. damn, i miss her.
I can’t read the article because the site is blocked, but judging from a few of the tidbits…I don’t know if I completely agree.
I don’t blame my craziness on my PMS either. I’m like at least 18 days outta the month.
I meant —
I’m like that at least 18 days outta the month.
“I don’t blame my craziness on my PMS either. I’m like that at least 18 days outta the month.”
………
What? Just being honest.
miss t-lee SALUTE for being honest even at the cost of punching holes in the defense offered by most of your sistren here, who don’t agree with the commonalities described in the article.
hug yourself. (i pet thee)
Thank you. I think…lol
Constantly Looks For Inner-Meaning: For men, saying exactly what you mean stands as a matter of pride. But no matter how straight your talk, women like to feel like they have more control over the situation by attempting to decode what you’re not saying, so they can guess how you’re feeling and what to do next. Here’s the thing, ladies: Men only talk to accomplish a goal of some type, like working out a business plan. You talk just to talk. It makes you feel better just to get everything out there. If talking isn’t for any reason other than to talk, he’d rather do anything else”"
lol….look, this shit right here…this shit right here…..GOSPEL. I sweahtagawd.
I plead da fif on the others…..
but that lying thing, yeah, we suck. Have you other guys ever told a lie so long, YOU started to believe it happened? I know I did. I had to check myself on that tip before.
“Have you other guys ever told a lie so long, YOU started to believe it happened? I know I did. I had to check myself on that tip before.”
i remember back in high school while i was a virgin, i’d lie and tell people i wasn’t. the lie was so consistent that when i finally did get around to having sex, it didnt dawn on me until months later that when i would talk about sex then, i actually was telling the truth, lol. like “oh shit…i guess this isnt a lie anymore”
damn, that sucks. you never got a chance to brag about the fact that your first time was ‘the hour chili dog’?
I agree not to listen to magazines, because who writes those??? Single, bitter, freelancing, women detatched from reality…..
Exactly. Espcially Cosmo & Essence. The absolute worst!!!
wait! but this month they publish the results of
Cosmo’s big juicy sex poll: Men reveal their favorite positions, phrases and mattress moves!
(I swear I just googled this to make a joke…)
LOL!!! You know erry (yes I typed erry) month Cosmo has some s3x article you just can’t resist reading in the checkout line.
(at least I can’t)
what the hell is a “mattress move”?
@ Champ
You don’t read nearly enough women’s mags if you’ve never heard this term.
Would that be akin to an elderly woman giving good sex advice?
Nah…I take advice from my Granny…she knows what she’s talkin’ bout. She’s a G.
I’d take advice from an elder person all day long…wisdom right there.
WORD!!! I read Essence for the sheer comedic value…other than the interviews…oh yeah and the clothes and shit…it’s shiny toilet paper!
Their clothes and beauty/makeup section is good. That’s about it though, I used to subscribe, but I ended that ish years ago…the best they get now is me thumbing through it while I’m in line at the grocery store.
Essence…glossy, little substance anymore. I flip through it at my mama’s house.
someone should “cut and paste” for ya people on the other side of the firewall.
I’ll give you some of that internet money for your trouble, guy…
Oh yeah, P, we fux with Ren & Stimpy!
Whats ironic about the comments today is the women saying that the article is sexist and full of ridiculous generalizations, while praising the first comment which was, well sexist and full of ridiculous generalizations.
DG, you beat me to it! I was reading that and was thinking the same thing, but I digress.
Congrats VSB Champ and P, on the nods for Black Web Awards!
as for this womenthink, you know what it is. (for the overwhelming majority) ….their own lil world of denial and delusion full of self entitlement and lust for attention.
i said it. what r ye gonna do stop signing my checks.
FOH!
i said it. what r ye gonna do stop signing my checks.
this is funny as hell and I will be saying to a mutha-fudge-cake very soon!
I think ya’ll are thinking on this way too hard. It’s lighthearted and facetious. It’s Link of the Week Thursdays! Live a litte!
LIZ….thank you JEEZUS!! I thought it was light too…I mean I enjoyed the first rant from Live and Direct…(that isht was FIRE) but I really don’t understand all the eye rolling, neck swinging, lip smacking typing that I KNOW is going on…it’s funny and not so funny…the reaction is exactly what the authors were writing about…so…I can only comment on comments…not the post cuz it was entertaining for what it was…lighten up…
Liz and Goody, you can always tell when somebody’s toes have been stepped on. listen for the squealing. the louder and longer the squeals the more they’ve been stepped on. it’s steam coming off of some of these replies and its so satisfying to me. squeal bit*h SQUEAL!
“squeal bit*h SQUEAL!”
*Thinking of ways I can work this into a convo soon*
“squeal bit*h SQUEAL!”
Yeah…this is classic.
become a hit man or a mercinary
Like throwing a rock into a pack of dogs. The only one that squeels is the one that got hit.
i’m lighthearted, i’m facetious…but really even the link of the week thursdays are fuel for deeper conversations. Matter of fact, the article and many of its sentiments reminded me of conversations (read: arguments & debates) i’ve had with my male friends. so, in the end it’s good exercise, ya know? i still love my vsb!
I didn’t think it was getting all that heated in here.
Maybe it just me.
I love all ya’ll.
LOL! i lubbs u 2 t-lee but if you listen (not too closely) you can tell whose belly is aching.
Gotcha.
Miss P, I really believe people will tell you “it’s not that serious” or “it was just a joke” when they don’t want to deal with the consequences of what they just said or they simply don’t care to hear you.
@Precious…I can see how that could be the case..but somtimes things really are just meant to be taken with a grain of salt…I can get with some of th comments made in response to this post and some of them I have a hard time making a correlation between the post and the response…but, truthfully none of this stuff is cut and dried…it doesn’t have to be so deep either…there’s got to be a happy medium…that’s all I’m saying..
ah touche! I take full responsibility for everything i typed in my first comment. all that was meant here is that (and I could be wrong) most of what i said was delivered in a lighthearted & facetious tone. c’mon i don’t even know voodoo, all i got is candle magic. (that was for you gigi). i mean if all we did was say LOL/LMAO/GTFOH in response to this post, would it be nearly as thought provoking? nah, it wouldn’t. more truth, more hits= best blog on the net. riiiiight?
“Just keep it as close to BJs and BBQ as possible and you’re in the green. ”
Two of the three B’s that keep my life in balance.
BJs, BBQ, and Beer!
that’s how we do it in TEXAS!!
*high fives my girl GOODENess*
H-Town stand up!
She Reigns–you from the H?
I didn’t know.
ATX ( I just had to rep as well).
That’s right…Screwston, Texas, by way of Mississippi. Home of David Banner. And pickled pig ear andwhiches from Mr. Boler’s shop on MLK. *shudder*
Aww, now I feel like we all homey and stuff.
*high fives my homegirl SheReigns* H-Town born and raised, baby!
MIC CITY (Dallas) rep-ree-zint!!
but I got mad love for Screw-ston too…still got an 832 cell phone number bay-bee!!!
TEXAS is the best-est…save a horse ride a cowboy!
Ha Goodeness! And thank you…I love your blog, love your fro and it led me back to Jeremy Biggers…I’ve spent the past year trying to remember his blog name. I love DFW, went to UNT there and the husband is from Oak Cliff. Small web world!
One hour left at the ‘j’…let me crank up the Estelle and get cracking…”American Booooooooooooooooooooooooy”
thanks luv…for the luv…lol…JBIGG (and ABCDE) led me here…to the magical land of VSB…and although I already e-loved him…his art…and his blog…now I also have him to thank for hooking me on this e-crack…he’s my pusher-man…LOL
Sounds like Nirvana to me
What the Kung Fu Panda does “FOH” mean?
Fuc* outta here. FOH!
Thank you. I never would have thunk it.
What the Kung Fu Panda…
oh yeah…I been working on pseudo-cuss words to say in front of the offspring…this is DEFINITELY going int the arsenal..thanks! SheReigns!
as the resident young buck its funny how i learned this lesson relatively early in the game: dont ever be a housewife to a nukka that aint payin yo bills… i think this was the exact reason my first long-term relationship ended (which began my sprial into dead-insideness); he would always betch and moan about me not coming over to cook for him and “take care of” him, yet he was giving me 7 lame minutes in the sack and borrowing money from me. weekly. when he made like 4 times as much as i did. and i was a broke mofo in college. the next (and last) negro to taste my home cooking and get his credit score upped 100+ (young buck knows a few things and got plenty good habits) left, came back dazed and confused, and got the coldest shoulder ever.
since then i been sayin “fawk effort” but for more reasons than stated above.
i have noticed that some men dont understand the strength that goes into being a woman today; you need to go for your own (due to the possibility of you getting left out in the cold should he get “bored”) and still hold him down (so he doesnt get bored and leave you out in the cold). its a dirty job and can wear even the best of us out…
i forgot where i was going with that but im sure i raised a good point in there somewhere.
I don’t do men that actually ask to borrow money…tells me something ain’t right in his world.
Shay…no matter what you do…if it is meant to b it will be…and if not…regardless…he will “bored and leave you out in the cold”…so just get a bad ass coat, some banging boots, and a fly hat to weather the winter…cuz when he’s for you…he will be for YOU…
BJs and BBQ, huh?
Ok, Ill try to keep ribs and whip cream in the house.