Here we go yo, here we go yo, so what so what so what’s the scenario?
I thought you’d never ask.
So let’s say that you’re on a date. In fact, let’s say you and your significant other break the cardinal rule of dating:
You go to the club together.
Sidenote: I know some couples like to go to the club together. I do not understand this at all. Perhaps those of you that go to club as a tandem can shed some light on why this is a good idea. But I’ll let you know, if you have a jealous bone in your body, seeing some woman’s puppies all leashed and begging for emancipation is not something your man is going to be able to pretend doesn’t exist. It just isn’t.
So anyway, you’re at the club. So say you go to the bar to get a drink and the bartender starts flirting with you…in front of your S.O. But say said flirting gets you a free drink…for your S.O.
Hmm.
If you’re the S.O. would you be pissed? You know your man/woman doesn’t want anything to do with this bartender, but it got you a benefit. In fact, chances are that the flirting was only done because (especially with you in earshot) it was possible to get a drink for you. Now, it is a free drink which in some ways could just make them a cheap bastard…however…you’re out with them so unless you’re one of those folks who could only get a subprime mortgage I’ll assume that you have good taste (you probably don’t).
I guess my main question is this – is there ever any flirting that your S.O. could do that would be considered okay?
People flirt all the time and don’t even realize it. I’ve been told that I’m a flirt. I think I’m just nice and smile and speak to everybody. I’ll have a conversation with a tree.
Hmm….this also begs another question. If you flirt but you don’t realize it, can you get in trouble? I’m just a ball of questions right now. Kind of like a toddler, except totally older.
For instance, for my menfolks, how would you feel if a man offered to buy your woman a diamond necklace, no strings attached, because he was rich and dumb and was just feeling like being benevolent to a beautiful woman? Would you tell her to say hell no because you didn’t want no other man buying your woman anything? I suppose if its something she wanted you’d not want to feel inadequate by not being able to get your woman something she wants. But at the same time, it’s money you can spend on her in other ways. Right?
Right?
Or wrong?
I mean it benefits both of you all. She gets some jewelry she wants and you don’t have to spend any money and she doesn’t have to boink him. It’s like the perfect trifecta of the come up.
As a man, there’s no reason any woman would ever do you like that with no strings attached. If a woman gives you some expensive stuff, well you’re going to have to schlump her. Luckily she’ll probably be 90 and almost dead anyway so you won’t have to do it long.
I once made a joke to my girlfriend about knocking up one Russell’s nieces so that me and her could be set for life. Needless to say she was fervently against this (as any normal person should be), but the principle of perhaps doing something slightly wrong for the greater good of the couple…???
What say you? Discuss.
-VSB P aka THE ARSONIST
*Sigh* I waited so long for this
. Now its time to go to bed (or I will fall asleep in a mtng and I don’t want unemployment in my future). Will be back in morn.
ditto…
“*Sigh* I waited so long for this”
thats what she said
well done, Champie. *clap clap*
“thats what she said”
When you finally left her alone?
LMAO! I heart u 8th. I do.
I heart being hearted!
this was such a good comeback, that i have no comeback for it
*pops collar*
First I was a recipient of a subprime mortgage and I have excellent taste and good sense.. I also bought a house I could afford. got a FIXED rate 80/20 loan with low interest rates on both ends, I also do not have any aPMI nd my house note is cheaper than most people’s car note. so now because of that decision and the fact that I pay my bills on time I have an above average credit score and and a sound investment. but thats a whole other issue….
I totally dont agree with the flirting to benefit both of us. There are a lot of other things that a person can do to benefit “the couple”.. That shyt is a slippery slope to relationship destruction.. I mean just because you can justify it doesn’t make its right.. and honestly things like this are never for the betterment of the couple. Its purely selfish.. you want to show you can do it, you like to feel the power.. what you get for your partner is just a by product its not the reason because really if you wanted to get your SO a drink you would have just bought him one. To me a relationship should be able to fulfill enough of your basic needs and wants so that you are able to pass up on the ones that are not being met. If your SO provides you with enough love and affection then his kisses and cards should be worth more than the diamond necklace some random ninja bought you anyway.
“but thats a whole other issue…”
ummm…yeah it was, lol. that whole first paragraph put me through a loop and made me get extra toast.
and, ummm…
“If your SO provides you with enough love and affection then his kisses and cards should be worth more than the diamond necklace some random ninja bought you anyway.”
…i wonder how many women would honestly agree with this?
“…i wonder how many women would honestly agree with this?”
I do.
If I want diamonds I can save and buy my own or, more likely, wait for one of the older ladies in my family to pass on and will me theirs.
Real genuine love, support, comfort…you can’t buy that.
I’m real mad that you are waiting for Great Aunt Louvenia to go home to Glory so you can raid her jewelry box.
i agree too…
then again, i can’t sell kisses to pay rent unless i become a pimpess.
basically assuming all is well on the monetary front, i’d rather a warm body than cold rocks at night.
“i’d rather a warm body than cold rocks”
Isnt this crack love… you know the kind Halle Berry and Samuel L. Jackson had in Jungle fever, and of course Bobby and Whitney… and the original Diana Ross and Billy Dee Williams (Mahogany/Lady Sings the Blues)…
Oh wait! you mean the other rocks… my bad!
“…i wonder how many women would honestly agree with this?”
Good question in theory, but I think more women will SAY that they agree with this, but in reality, that number wouldn’t neccessarily hold true,
You’d be surprised at what a woman is willing to do without, if she has to, for a dude she really, really digs.
Any woman worth having will want his heart over his wallet.
And aren’t we too old to be expecting a ni99a to buy us stuff? The days of “let’s go to the mall and get you some new kicks, boo” should be long behind us.
Now, we all like gifts. But to sh!t on your man cuz he can’t get you something overpriced? That’s not cool. At all.
yeah me and you eye to eye on this one VEG
And so it is…. I too, have been called a flirt, and I’ll admit I talk and smile often… I generally have a sunny dispostion. My S.O. has called me out for what I thought was friendly, socially norm convo with the op. sex.
That said irregardless of benefit to self, I would take personal issue with S.O. flirting at all. In my face or behind my back…. Intellectual stimulation is worse than physical indescretion…..
“Intellectual stimulation is worse than physical indiscretion.”
That’s deep ::pause:: and so true. I just read an article about why men cheat. The biggest point was that sex/physicality isn’t usually the driving force but rather some type of emotional/intellectual connection he feels he isn’t getting at home. In a sense, the cheating begins way before anything physical happens…and that ish always starts with flirting. In essence, flirting leads to forking. Ok…perhaps that’s a stretch, but why allow the opportunity to present itself in the first place?
“I’ll admit I talk and smile often… I generally have a sunny dispostion. ”
and whats wrong with this?
btw, this “Intellectual stimulation is worse than physical indescretion” is bullsh*t, lol. i’m sorry.
it is.
“btw, this “Intellectual stimulation is worse than physical indescretion” is bullsh*t, lol. i’m sorry. ”
i disagree. An emotional connection sometimes can’t even be seen. many times it lacks reason. You can’t even prove it does or does not exist. However usually somebody knows when they just fycked somebody.
“i disagree.”
this is gonna be presumptuous, but i think this is just a difference in the thought patterns of men and women
I think it is B.S. too. Lol. And I am a woman. I mean, you can have an emotional/intellectual connection with your platonic friend of the opposite sex.
What is dangerous is a physical interaction with a chick you also spend hours on the phone talking to /texting. That would get you cut. By some other chick who is not me.
i disagree with both yall (yes bof yall LOL)
i can explain away one physical indescretion. But i don’t think i could really wrap my mind around a mental connection that my man actively had with another woman. When shyt starts to get spiritual…thats when it has hit another dimension. And on many levels I think thats the best connection you could ever have. Se@x gets old. People get old.
but that mental stuff is …well..maybe I’ve been watching to many bridges/notebook type movies.
But if it is just talking?
I think sex WITH mental/intellectual is dangerous.
Otherwise, they are just talking. And it may be deep and ish, but it’s just talk.
“But if it is just talking?”
so talking, spending time together (everything BUT SEX) isn’t cheating, emotionally?
What could he/she possibly have to say that they couldn’t or shouldn’t share with their SO. To me you’re with the wrong person when you’re vibing on all different types of emotional levels.
I get you now.
I’d kick his arse.
i see neither of you have read vsb.com first ever entry.
allow me to introduce you to “emotional cheating: the ultimate oxymoron”
http://www.verysmartbrothas.com/emotional-cheating-the-ultimate-oxymoron-2/
“allow me to introduce you to “emotional cheating: the ultimate oxymoron””
i read it and I disagree
“btw, this “Intellectual stimulation is worse than physical indescretion” is bullsh*t,”
Ditto to Comeback Girl. Of what substance is a relationship if it lacks an emotional connection, or worse, if that connection is being fulfilled elsewhere? Yea you might be gettin it in real good late in the midnight hour, but if in the morning your girl is runnin to
Panamaanother dude to be intellectually/emotionally-stimulated, is that not a problem? Yea…I think it is.i agree its not about shootin the shyt with your cubicle buddy who happens to be a woman at work. Its not even really about a woman who you vibe with at your writer’s workshop. IT IS ABOUT THAT fine line. Those things that you are now disclosing that should be shared with your SO. I totally believe you can be more intimate with words and that mysterious “connection” than you can with a dyck and a vagi@na. And that i would totally have a problem with.
I agree with Champ on this one…..if its just talk I am going to be upset but I am not going to be MORE upset with him than I am if If he is f.*cking someone else. I dont have a monopoly on his friendship… but I do on his dyck ! Will I be upset to find him basically dating another woman? Yes, but I would probably kill my husband if I caught him dating and h aving s.e.x with a woman or just having s.e.x
Great minds, Shay-d. Great minds
Ok Champie… you disagree but think about it like this… eveybody has genitals…. what makes your S.O. different from all other ladies is (you know with similar body composition/hair/ or whatever physically floats your boat) is her personality, quick wit and (wait for it…………..) INTELLECT. I mean sure sure mens can stick it in warm apple pie and get off but really….. why dont you date an apple pie?!!? Cause it has the personality of an apple pie.
As Humans we need and crave the intellectul chemistry, challenge and stimulation. You may freak up on the big booty bimbo, but you wife the beauty and the brains! (no pun intended)
“why dont you date an apple pie?!!”
because apple pie cant squirt
you must be used to some dry apple pie
“because apple pie cant squirt”
This made me sad.
I also go to the club with my hubby on occasion I mean we are both young, like to dance and into music so it’s a given. . I have learned though to 1. Choose wisely. The type of club, the type of people attending and the age range is very important. 2 to go with others. It really cant be just you and him if its going to work unless its like a private party, it has to be a group with a couple other females and males because then you will expect to be joined at the hip and the moment he or she is stopped by someone they know or someone tries to pick them up and not you there is awkward tension there and that’s where the trouble starts. Also you cant be the type that gets mad if he/she dances with someone else, it’s a club its going to happen but on the flip side then he/she shouldnt be on the floor doing the lambada and shyt to plies “please excuse my hands” with some random ninja either…the hubby and I have had really good times and the added bonus is most of the times you are feeling uh.. in the mood for love when you leave the club so and your child is normally spending the night elsewhere so its perfect time for some wild raucous “quality time”….
interesting take on the couples at the club dynamic. personally, i never understood the motivation behind it, but you make a good case
This situation sounds like the optimum situation but all I have to say is why are you bring sand to a beach it just doesn’t make sense to me.
Well…I can’t speak for Shay-d, but if a couple likes music and likes to groove, why not go out? It’s kind of retarded, I mean special need-ish, for them to sit at home and shadow dance to a mix tape and drink home made hooch at the crib ALL THE TIME.
Besides, if the club is right – attractive people, great sounds, potent drinks – it can set the mood for some serious lovin’ later.
I am not saying that I am against it but all I am saying is why?
With all those people around you and your SO there will be temptation not say they will be acted upon but lets not think that the club is the perfect place to bring him/her for a good time.
I don’t think they go every weekend. lol.
And they are married. If you can’t trust your wife/husband one weekend a month in a club where you are at, then you got problems.
I would prefer not to go at all I don’t think I should be there to remind him he is married. If I do need to be there obviously he need not go at all.
I find it hard to believe people are so easily tempted. Just how weak are the VSB readers?
co-sign
The why is because we like to dance and listen to music.. I never understood the whole bringing sand to the beach line. Yeah you should not take a girl/guy with you if you are looking to hookup with someone but if you are not looking to get with someone and you want to just kick it the best person to kick it with and get your slow grind on is your SO. To me it makes the club more enjoyable. Your not on edge wondering if someone is going to dance with you, you dont have to keep up appearances you can truly enjoy being at the club, having a good time, and dancing.
From V.E.G.: “if the club is right – attractive people, great sounds, potent drinks – it can set the mood for some serious lovin’ later.”
So true, at least with nearly every S.O. and sorta-S.O. I’ve ever been with.
Word up: it makes a number of men hot when other men check out their date/woman, because he has her and they don’t.
It’s a little bit different for the women who tend to a little more insecure as a group, but if she’s secure and confident that their relationship is the real deal, it can make her hot too, ’cause she knows he’ll be horny as a mofo when they get home.
“Word up: it makes a number of men hot when other men check out their date/woman, because he has her and they don’t.”
Truth.
I’m one of those oblivious flirters, but it hasnt gotten me into trouble yet. my friends say im doing it, but i dont notice at all.
as for the greater good of the couple? im not sure about that…on paper it sounds okay, but i have a feeling that in action, it would feel all wrong. now, getting a free drink from a flirty bartender is one thing….but im not lookin to get into no “indecent proposal” style situation…
“on paper it sounds okay, but i have a feeling that in action, it would feel all wrong”
this is exactly how i feel when i think about having sex with solange.
“this is exactly how i feel when i think about having sex with solange.”
Wrong.
“this is exactly how i feel when i think about having sex with solange.”
I feel terrible today, but this made me laugh….lol
I happen to think sex with Solange would be interesting…but in a good way. Something about her screams that she’s a freak.
Maybe its the yellow lipsticks she insists on wearing, and the way she always standing like she bow-legged even tho she not.
Solange is president of the “im so different” club.
I’ve been told that I flirt all the damn time, and I don’t notice that I do it. I usually assume that my flirting is when I’m being overtly obnoxious about hitting on a guy to make him feel uncomfortable (my way of revenge after getting my ass grabbed by a random…this never works)…
Point: What constitutes flirting? Being nice to someone and smiling at them? In that case, every charitable worker who seems to poop out sunshine and rainbows is a flirt. That also means that nuns are flirts. And it also means your shrink is flirting with you as well (even though we all know they’re really just laughing at your problems internally and holding in the chuckles).
Look, all I’m saying is that, as long as my s.o. isn’t playing touchy grabby with booty or boobs, or playing kissy face, I could care less. After all, while they’re checking her cleavage for change with their eyes, I’m most likely eying the sexy bald man in the corner donning a suit.
So now the question remains: as a guy, would you get mad at your girlfriend for going to the strip club with her girls? (I’m talking about Chippendales, and not Deja Vu)
As for the greater good aspect: again, as long as complete and udder wh*ring isn’t being implemented (sexual acts for product), then its all gravy. No touchy, no problemo.
I have no problem with my lady going to a male strip club with her girls. It’s just entertainment. Hopefully, she’s smart enough to realize that most (read: all) them cats are gay or bi anyway. (Uhhh…not that anything is wrong with that)
“most (read: all) them cats are gay or bi anyway”
just curious…how do you know that?
I figure the dynamics would be similar to that of female strippers and most of them are lesbian or have had bi-sexual encounters. In many ways, it’s part of their lifestyle.
“I figure the dynamics would be similar to that of female strippers and most of them are lesbian or have had bi-sexual encounters. In many ways, it’s part of their lifestyle.”
i agree
as a woman who’s been to a male strip club, i agree.
except maybe for the ni99a with the dreads who gave me a free lapdance and was nibbling on my ear…
i should have gotten his damn number.
careful with that… i’ve known people who get too up close and personal with strippers and come home with *gifts*
I’ve heard that as well…
There’s this one “enchanting” story that includes, ahem, something that sounds like it could be seafood, but so isn’t.
” them cats are gay or bi anyway”
this is why i’ve never been able to go and really enjoy myself. My mind always goes to how he REALLY gets down (not that there is anything wrong with that NTTIAWWT). And really if you’ve seen one dyck in a sock…you’ve pretty much seen them all.
“And really if you’ve seen one dyck in a sock”
I actually prefer my dycks to be sockless.
“I actually prefer my dycks to be sockless.”
so male strippers don’t wear dyck socks anymore???
Girl. I think male strippers are nasty. I do.
A dyck in a sock? Not appealing. Some dude oiled up, pumping his bubble butt to the sounds of Luke?
I’ll pass.
Girl. I think male strippers are nasty. I do.
A dyck in a sock? Not appealing. Some dude oiled up, pumping his bubble butt to the sounds of Luke?
I’ll pass.
Me too.. I just got to the point where I like my own husband dyck in my face.. why would I want someone elses? and I dont know something about a man doing the beyonce uh oh or some other version of the booty pop is just not s.e.xy to me.. I am way more intrigued by a dude that wears his clothes well than I am a dude oiled up with a g string on….
“so male strippers don’t wear dyck socks anymore???”
The last one I saw didn’t.
It was lovely.
“I actually prefer my dycks to be sockless.”
this would be a great t-shirt, if it wasn’t gay as hell (not that theres anything wrong with that)
“A dyck in a sock? ….”I’ll pass.”
Me too Veggie… me too
It just looks right foolish…
What about a dyck in a box?
LMAO…sorry couldn’t pass that up.
that was funny. lol.
i think the consensus is… to loosley quote dr. suess..
we don;t really like a dyck in a sock. we don’t like a dyck in a box. We like the coc#k sans a sock or abox. And that really really rocks.
LMBAO ROTFL
CG~I heart you for the above.
Hahahahahahahaha Comeback girl gets best comment of the day!
In my mind, there is nothing worse than a male strip club. Women act like plumb monkey-a$$ fools in those places. Makes my vag wince in embarrassment.
Now, going to a female strip club w/your dude. Ahem…a very significant experience.
I should point out that I’ve never been to a strip club, and I have no intention of going.
“every charitable worker who seems to poop out sunshine and rainbows”
$17.50.
thats how much i would pay to watch someone do that
oh but you dont want us to be throwing glitter up in here… double standard and sh!t
I leave that to Tyler Perry.
This all depends on what your definition of flirting is I am a natural charmer, of both men and women (my disclosure: I am completely straight) . But there is a such thing, they taught me this when I did promo for Miller Lite a while ago.
Anyway, I dated a guy who was also a charmer, he talks to EVERYBODY… men and women. On our first date, it made me feel strange (read: a lil jealous) but I soon got used to it. It wasn’t that serious at that point.
To me, flirting is all in a girl’s personal space, touching her, any of that, which is cause for me to act a fool (in private, of course).
Once I went to see him in Baltimore (long distance thing) and he was doing too much to this girl, they were too damn close, all in my face and I saw red. I blew up once we got in the car. He insisted it was nothing but I have woman’s intuition and you can’t fool that.
Anyway, there is no such thing as flirting for the benefit of a relationship unless he is a pimp and you are his ho.
“I am a natural charmer, of both men and women”
lol…someone took their confidence pills this morning
LOL. Shut up!!!!
That did kinda come out conceited, didn’t it? I’m far from it though… Searching for better word and coming up blank. AGGGGHHHH!
just quota jada:
‘i’m not conceited, just confident/so when you tell me i’m the best, its a compliment”
That would make me blush saying that…. you forget, that whole late bloomer privilege we discussed last week.
And I’m gonna assume you meant “just quote jada.”
Okay, let me cut the shit. I’m pretty damn confident… I’m a good person, why not? LOL. I’m easy on the eyes… hell, I work hard at it.
I don’t find a need to declare my confidence because it shows in my walk.
Man, I just went off topic. LOL. (*oh, I’m trying to stop cursing, there’s my quota for the day!)
People flirt everyday so some flirting is expected, like with the bartender that you will forget about as soon as you have your drink. But if that flirting turns into a stalker or something then we have a problem.
Flirting or doing something for the greater good would never be allowed. The S.O. would go crazy and just might cut you.
-JM
MrSwagger.com
I agree, I know of men who feel you are attacking their manhood by accepting anything from another man, especially if he is someone with that breadwinner/protector mentality, and on the flipside women can’t deal with knowing another woman can do something for her man or woman. It is just a bad look all around and it is a battle I choose not to fight, ya dig?
i dig and sh*t. i dig
“For instance, for my menfolks, how would you feel if a man offered to buy your woman a diamond necklace, no strings attached, because he was rich and dumb and was just feeling like being benevolent to a beautiful woman? Would you tell her to say hell no because you didn’t want no other man buying your woman anything? I suppose if its something she wanted you’d not want to feel inadequate by not being able to get your woman something she wants. But at the same time, it’s money you can spend on her in other ways. Right”
I gotta call bullshyt on the premise. First of all EVERYTHING has a price. Relationships, which include platontic friendships, business, romantic aren’t free. One persons Quid is another’s Pro(fessional). There is ALWAYS an expectation with the exchange. And too me a random gift with “imaginary strings” should be too high of a price for all involved including the “innocent” spouse.
“As a man, there’s no reason any woman would ever do you like that with no strings attached. If a woman gives you some expensive stuff, well you’re going to have to schlump ”
why is the woman’s agenda less pure than the man in the same situation???
Getting back to your post generally and agreeing with Chaotic Diva, people FLIRT, they charm. Those that do it best on some levels are more successful. Be it product or service, the idea is to charm the pants off of the intended audience. The most successful leaders in business are (and I dont mean to be crass) modern day snake charmers. And when you fall in love, they make a sale.
So, that means if your married to a R&B pop star, who needs to maintain his “single” persona so that all the young women can imagine that they have a chance to sleep/marry/be his baby’s momma-he has to sell a pipe dream. That means if your man/woman is in pharmaceutical sales, he/she may need to flash those pearly whites too push a little more viagra than necessary. To that I say, make it do what it do–and be the best.
My problem is when boundaries get crossed. If you have to sleep with anybody to get anything, that means you aren’t very good at what you do.
I agree 1000%. Everything has a cost. I wish more people would realize this.
“I agree 1000%. Everything has a cost. I wish more people would realize this.”
one word: OJ. You ALWAYS have to pay the piper if not on the front end-you gotta do it on the backend.
“You ALWAYS have to pay the piper if not on the front end-you gotta do it on the backend.”
Exactly… once again Comeback, I’m over here cracking up. Very well stated.
do you think that OJ’s going to get… umm… backended now?
i hate to say it but yeah…his karmic justice has a due date of like December 08.
“One persons Quid is another’s Pro(fessional). ”
Hi-Yo. lol love that.
and so, so true.
i kind of adapted it from Champ’s: “one person’s intimacy is another person’s anal”.
very well articulated. my mama always told me growing up, esp when it came to boys/men, “nothing is free, a bill must be paid”.
A$$, Cash, or GAS nobody rides for free
so true, IH, so true.
That sounds more how my Mama put it. Truth was spoken, either way.
“First of all EVERYTHING has a price”
you included?
that would take another grande espresso to answer…i have to ponder that.
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why is the woman’s agenda less pure than the man in the same situation???
I dont think that the woman’s agenda is less pure, I think it has more to do with a woman’s expectation of a man. A woman is not going to up and give a man some expensive sh!t just so he can have it. That doesn’t even sound right. A man on the other hand would do something like this if he has the means, most of the time just waiting to be that shoulder (read: meatpole) to fall back on when the S.O. decides not to act right. . .just my two cents. (I read this site often but never write anything)
It aint tricking if u got it….
tricking = tricking
The only variable that you can throw in that would change it would be if it’s your S.O.. And I mean a very special S.O., not the S.O. of 1.5 months.
The most successful leaders in business are (and I dont mean to be crass) modern day snake charmers. And when you fall in love, they make a sale.
I agree and disagree with this. I agree that the most successful leaders are charismatic. I think there is a big difference between that and flirting.
it wasn’t exactly a literal interpretation. the idea was that things get done in this world based on cultivating relationships. Based upon using mirages that aren’t “real” to make a deal. The best car salesmen I’ve ever had, were those that made me feel like the car was made for me..
those type of people make lots of money, when it becomes less about the thing and more about the feeling, that is a byproduct of flirting. its the vehicle that usually gets you what you want esp. with the opposite sex.
Can’t say I was all too upset that my then-gf flirted with a paint and auto-body specialist that resulted in me saving about $3,500. It did feel uncomfortable, but after he gave her the price quote, he had to deal with me, so it wasn’t as if I was left in the dark.
for whatever reason, this sounded like a script for a geico ad or something
geico (and its commercials) are the shiznit.
Im in love with the gecko, he’s right up there with Panthro as far as mythical creatures I like
i love the gecko and his accent. i also appreciate the cavemen’s contributions.
Ehh, this can get messy. A nice double edge sword. Provided she’s never met the dude before, I might just say “go baby go”. However, if it’s a regular thing and I smell any type of history, he’ll probably get punched in the throat then asked to speak to me. I’m not much of a flirt monster, and I’m often oblivious to the signs. Sooo…..shorty will have no issues with me and reap no benefits of efforts.
“he’ll probably get punched in the throat then asked to speak to me”
wouldnt that make it hard for him to speak?
Indeed good sir, for that is the whole point.lol. I think Denzel punches someone in the throat in a movie then says “now what were you saying?” Or maybe that was Samuel L.
“Ehh, this can get messy.”
This is the working title of the Champ’s low-budget pron that he will be filming with Monica Calhoun of Player’s Club fame and Taraji Henson.
Good try. Next time, no need to explain that it will be low-budget.
Once you said Champ was starring, we’d naturally assume that it was going to be filmed in apartment complex basement on a beta cam.
in extremely low lights with lots of dark shadows…lots
Yeah lights on film sets are expensive. will def b in the dark
With Champ moaning,
“Oh yeahhhhh….right there and sh*t.”
Great Topic.
I flirt (whether I’m in a relationship or not) but it’s what I call ‘innocent flirting’. I like to make people feel good so a lot of times my flirting is way of me brightening up their day with a compliment, a flattering facial expression (smiling and shyt), or what have you. However, my intentions aren’t neccessarily to try to bag or even continue the flirty conversation any where past that. That makes it innocent.
When flirting leads to dates, calls, texts, and/or screwing while you’re in the confines of a relationship, that’s NOT innocent.
Back to the more important issue at hand…
If my lady ever THOUGHT about taking a fancy gift from some random dude like diamonds and shyt, that’s a GRAND violation of respect to me and our relationship. If she wants that Birkin bag that I can’t afford, she’ll have to suck that shyt up. Period, end of story. Just because I can’t get her something (material) is no excuse to accept it from another n*gga. That’s like me going out and f*ckin’ someone else just because my lady’s on her period or just gave birth to our child and can’t have sex.
Total Violation.
“Just because I can’t get her something (material) is no excuse to accept it from another n*gga. That’s like me going out and f*ckin’ someone else just because my lady’s on her period or just gave birth to our child and can’t have sex.”
good analogy and sh*t
So wait, whats the final verdict? We’re all clear on the f*cking during the period thing? Because we’ve been lobbying for that for decades now
“We’re all clear on the f*cking during the period thing? ”
Is this not done?
I mean…with your boyfriend? And it’s like, day 3 of flo, you’ll tell him ‘no’?
I need to hear from the ladies.
i think this might be a question for eff yo couch…he said that lots of couple’s run red lights…. Roxanne!!!!
And I died at Roxanne, lmao!
Yeah. I think if you lived with someone for a while (not talking bout your boo of 4 months) you are not trippin over a red light. But maybe I am wrong…
I need to check my life. lol.
its a no for me VEG..but then now I have an IUD so i have no flow to speak of….
I’m sorry I meant the f*cking other women during the period.
Also if its day anything of your period, count me out.
Whew.
You had me worried there for a sec, Dorian.
I’m sorry. The red Light means STOP. I’d feel gross freaking because it may look like a murder scene. You can wait 3 days, you horn toad!!
Ain’t my fault you flow heavy.
*still hangs head in shame*
Who said all that?? Dont make me put u on blast on ye old VSB!! DONT MAKE ME, BETTY CROCKER!!
Fux wit it if you feel like
I am with you 100% monk.. I might even stop using the term video h*…LMAO..maybe
Eh depends on the woman and the dude in question. If I totally believe that she is completely into me, and dudes know when a woman is 100% in to them, then hey baby go get us both a drink. Also if the flirt is some sort of Kimbo Slice face with Steve Urkel’s body, I again will feel no threat.
My insecurities might start showing though if my girl was ever like, “I saw/hung out with Tyrese this morning AND he’s SO FUNNY!!!!!”
Nah i’ve seen that ni**as movies, he ain’t THAT funny.
“Nah i’ve seen that ni**as movies, he ain’t THAT funny.”
**chuckling**
I’m a flirt too. I didn’t know it until a few of my female [and male] friends told me. I will flirt with anyone who looks good to me or has a nice personality, male or female [that's how I roll]. Not to get things that I want, but just because that’s how I make conversation. I do extra things like, laughs, cheesy smiles and stuff and [evidently] that’s called flirting. I’ve really just been calling it conversationall these years.
I think it’s harmless, especially in situations like the one at the club. If the SO is benefitting, how can they be upset? It’s not like you were talking about humping them afterwards or anything. But, if your SO is that jealous to where you can’t even talk to someone, then maybe you need to leave that beep-d-beep at home.
The jewelry situation would never happen. The SO would always be suspicious…
“I do extra things like, laughs, cheesy smiles and stuff and [evidently] that’s called flirting”
“stuff” translated: “hand jobs”
Erm….I was thinking more along the lines of hair flipping and popping bubble gum.
I’m not much for the “hands on” stuff…
LOL the popping bubble gum made me think of “Baby Boy” for some odd reason.
“I HATE U JODY!!”
or ol’ girl from Belly that was like, “Me and Tommy are like best friends….”
The Scenario Remix was much better.
There is so such thing as “no strings attached”. The strings maybe invisible, but they’re always there.
“The strings maybe invisible, but they’re always there.”
just like the elephant. and a fart
This made me cackle
Stop it.
“The strings maybe invisible, but they’re always there.”
This is true whether people admit it or not.
P, a drink or even two is fine, but damn the bartender, my woman better know where to draw the line! I shouldn’t have to be regulating up in the club, nor should she. A woman that doesn’t know how and when to say no is a woman that you don’t go to the club with, let alone be your S.O. If youre in a serious relationship, you need to have discussions and a clear understanding of where that line is waaaaay before you’re going out to Club Paradise, or Club Mirage, or Club 1345873—every city in the US had a club with at least one of those names!LOL
Couples going to the club is nothing more than two people trying to convince themselves that they have it. Go to the bootleg man and get you a house music CD and get it crackin’ at the crib! Couples have ALWAYS looked outta place in the club, young and old. Sh*t yall see them damn cruise brochures with the grown ass couple in the club…just always looks outta order! You know what? I think that MAY be the only club that couples can go to—on the cruise ship!LOL
“just always looks outta order!”
you used my favorite phrase–”outta order”. 5 cool points for you
“Club 1345873″
theres like 6 of them in the burgh, and each of them is hoodrat central
“theres like 6 of them in the burgh, and each of them is hoodrat central”
So you hit one 2,3 times a week?
“So you hit one 2,3 times a week?”
basically
i think i drove past one of those clubs last weekend and you were standing in line. black guy with glasses wearing a “Very Smart Brothas .com” shirt?? maybe it was some one else…
of course that was me. remember, you asked me to hold your spot in line?
duh.
noooo i was warning you “that ho3′s got a nine”–referring to the chick in front of you with the neon green dress and white go-go boots, i.e. the typical pgh hoodrat club outfit. just lookin out for you, homie.
CTFU
LOL!Thanks, Gem…..Word Champ!…and theres always that corner in every one of those clubs, where they have the BMW, Moet and Diamond backdrop, so you can get your hoodrat jail pose on. Ha!
ahh yes, the infamous airbrushed bedsheet backdrops. *smh*
“Couples have ALWAYS looked outta place in the club, young and old”
Yep…I saw a 40 yr old couple at the club one time and I was like…let it go!!! Shouldn’t ya’ll be at the Elks Lodge or something…lol
or at least at the liquor house….
There should be an age limit for couples. I think the age limit sould be lower than the age limit for a single person going to the club
Just wanted to shed light on tandem clubbing. My ex and I loved clubbing together. In fact, we’re still friends and will occasionally club together when in the same city. Anyway, I’ve tried it with other dudes and it did not work. I think it worked with the ex because we’re both pretty confident and extroverted – which is often mistaken for being flirtatious, imo – so we were used to and comfortable with the other person respectfully interacting with members of the opposite sex. It was also very obvious that we were “together” so no one ever crossed the line, although you could tell by the stares that they sometimes wanted to. That actually made for some hot times when we got back to the crib.
interesting story and sh*t
“That actually made for some hot times when we got back to the crib.”
Sooooo true. I’ve been to the club with my SO and it never caused a problem. At least not between us. I think it depends on your relationship. We both love music and dancing and we had a great time. No problems. He knows people are going to look at me and I know the same. People are gonna ask you to dance, buy you a drink, whatever, you just keep it moving. It’s when people start getting out of line that you have to act.
One time we were out with a bunch of friends and for some reason I went up to the bar, I don’t remember why and some random white guy (not that there’s anything wrong with that) starts dancing behind me. At first it was whatever, smile, act nice but uninterested, and my SO didn’t think anything of it because he knows he didn’t have anything to worry about. He kept an eye on the situation but he wasn’t trippin’. Anyway, white boy starts getting happy with it and starts pushing up on me despite me saying I had a man, didn’t want to dance, etc. and I’m about to get stank and then he smacked my ass and then SO had to step in.
As for being a flirt, I have gotten in trouble with that before. Especially back in high school. But I didn’t know I was doing it or intend it that way. Most of the time anyway. In my head there is a difference between me just being the affectionate person I am around anybody and the way that gets elevated when I actually like the person. But then again some folks will take anything you throw at them, even when it really is just a smile or a nod hello or engaging in polite convo or giving someone a compliment because you really did like their shirt, not because you wanted to bang. Nowadays, I’ve got a hold on it, or so I think.
how much do drinks cost nowadays? are they really worth disrespecting your significant other to get one for free? nah, it’s isn’t that serious.
accepting gifts from random dudes, let alone while you’re in a relationship is a no-no. no dude is offering up valuables w/o strings attached point.blank.period. or at least don’t be dumb enough to let your S.O. find out, lol.
“are they really worth disrespecting your significant other to get one for free?”
i dont know about drinks, but i’d definitely disrespect someone for a free coldstone shake
I’ve gone clubbin with most guys that I dated/was in a relationship with. It’s never been a problem even though some girls try to get disrespectful but they were put into check really quick. I’ve been to many clubs where guys would approach me to offer me a drink. I would say no out of respect for my b/f, but he would joke that I should have gotten the drink for him….A necklace is out of question though. I would never accept an expensive gift from another guy. It’s just not right.
“It’s never been a problem even though some girls try to get disrespectful but they were put into check really quick”
lol…isnt that (the disrespect) a problem?
lol! I meant to write that I have fun clubbin with boyfriends/dates and that’s never been a problem. But some women try to get disrespectful by being aggressive and then the guy that I’m with will let them know that he’s with me.
Or a Swingers’ Club.
This was in reference to DirtyJerz’s:
“I think that MAY be the only club that couples can go to—on the cruise ship!LOL”
I have been to the club with guys – boyfriends and dudes I am just dating – and those nights have never, ever ended well. Unless it was a concert, there was always at best, a side crack, or, at the worst, some drama.
Inevitably I’d run into a dude I used to date (I really need to not date men I meet at the reggae club…) and that would set some ish off. I don’t think I am a flirt, though I have been accused of it. I have never tried to score free drinks with my man there. I mean…really? lol.
Now at a concert, I never had those issues though darn near every dude I dated would show up for a big act. I think that in the bigger venue, with more people around, it’s easier to ‘hide’.
you must date alot and sh*t. and by “date” i mean, ummm, nevermind, lol
KNOW YOU DIDN’T!
you must want to fight…
NO YOU DIDN’T.
lmao. correcting myself before typo cop shows up…
Glad u know!
My apologies, typo cop.
LMAO. And yes V. U must stop dating the men that go to that club. We walk in there on any given nite and we could run into bout 3-4 of ur exes. :-p
Well. I can’t date a guy who doesn’t like reggae and who doesn’t like live music. If I meet him there, I know we have at least those two things in common.
Besides, I have met some of my greatest romances there. And you know this. lol.
“Besides, I have met some of my greatest romances there”
by “met” you meant” had”, right?
Ummm…no met. and then had. But met.
I see you still cruisin for that bruisin.
Keep testing me, Champ
“by “met” you meant” had”, right?”
*chuckling*
What’s so funny????????
“People flirt all the time and don’t even realize it. I’ve been told that I’m a flirt. I think I’m just nice and smile and speak to everybody. I’ll have a conversation with a tree.”
I’m in this boat too.
What I have realized is that it is very difficult to be nice to young ladies today. I have gotten in trouble with many an ex for flirting when in fact I was doing nothing. As a guy, when you’re nice to a lady they almost automatically think that you’re feeling them and then they go back and tell their girls that you was flirting with them when in fact you were just being nice just like you were to everyone else. This sh*t always gets me in trouble.
I also have a bad habit of calling just about every girl I know beautiful, regardless of if she’s beautiful or not. e.g. “Hey beautiful, how are you beautiful etc”
“Hey beautiful, how are you beautiful etc”
Ok…that’s just wrong. lol.
“As a guy, when you’re nice to a lady they almost automatically think that you’re feeling them”
Most women with any sense can tell the difference between pleasantries and flirting. Some guys are hard to read as far as flirting goes but I think that most are not.
““Hey beautiful, how are you beautiful etc”
Ok…that’s just wrong. lol.”
i agree. LOL…i mean are you doing it to boost a woman’s self-esteem. I mean why????
““Hey beautiful, how are you beautiful etc”
my dad is notorious for doing this when he can’t remember a womans name.
i think i do it cuz im bad with names
it also works if you blank on someones name while in bed. in fact, it might even get you points.
Naw. I wanna hear my name…
Bet not!!!
My father is notorious for this, he refers to all my girlfriends, sorors, their moms as such (not their mom’s, well some of their mom’s). It rubbed off on me, there are many a man I refer to as sweetie, or honey and I don’t mean it in a romantic way at all ever.
Roo
Astro? is that you?
LMAO. This was the funniest thing posted today.
Thanks V dot E dot G dot ~ and Champ said I wasn’t funny
If I go to the club with my S.O. .. I don’t mind flirting for a free drink. The main issue for me is, does it stop with just a flirt. If you’re and your S.O. are close, flirting is the only thing that will happen. I’m saying this with the idea that the flirt wasn’t disrespectful.
Over the years, I’ve flirted for everything from a discount on cars, cloths, and even a simple drink. If your flirting is done right, it’s the ultimate compliment. Just because I flirt with someone doesn’t mean I want to get with them.
Yeah. Folks need to realize the difference between the meanings behind innocent flirting and the kind of flirting that comes with deep stares and half grins. lol.
i’ll take my girl to a bar or lounge, but not the club! the club?! nothing good can come of that. they might as well give me a pair of handcuffs for her when we get in. i’ll pass.
there’s a big difference between being friendly and flirting. there’s a certain vibe that goes along with flirting, and a big part of it is non-verbal communication. think about it: eye f*cking, hand on the small of the back, etc. it’s like you’re complimenting that person w/o actually saying it. it’s bad enough what might go on when you’re not around your s/o, but blatant flirting is a no-no. gotta show respect.
“i’ll take my girl to a bar or lounge, but not the club! the club?! ”
Exactly.
“i’ll take my girl to a bar or lounge, but not the club! the club?! ”
Exactly.
i agree and sh*t. i agree
Um whats the difference?
So its cool to walk into Republic Gardens with your girl, yet Liv is out of the question? Thats a ridiculous notion.
Agreed.
“Um whats the difference? ”
you named exceptions. the typical lounge spot is more laidback… subtlely promoting social interaction, while at the same time providing an intimate setting. the typical club is like the movie, “I Am Legend,” where you and your girl are the last two left on Earth… and all the zombies are thirsty, heterosexual males.
LOL thats completely untrue. The only difference between a lounge and a club is a lounge has a few sofas/chairs, and possibly valet parking.
Besides that there is no difference. They play the same music, ni99as wear the same button-up and jeans combo, mixed drinks are $9-12 depending on your city, and the skirts and heels are just as high.
i’d agree with you on this, SC. that club vs. lounge distinction is very apparent in many of the cities i’ve lived and visited. note: i’m speakin from a singles standpoint. i like lounge spots becuz i can SIT, have a glass of wine w/o lookin outta place, and kick back with my friends and/or shake my tailfeather. i def think these spots are more intimate and accomodating to a “chillaxin” mood. clubs are generally for the purpose of drunken dancing and after-hour hook-ups becuz they’re sweatboxes with nowhere to sit (unless you pay for VIP), bars and dance floors. basically limiting you to drinking, dancing, and sweating–rendering you less likely to make appropriate decisions about with whom you exchange numbers or go home to shag… which is all fine if thats what you want to do.
Ok maybe we should start from the beginning. What cities do y’all live in? Maybe in the midwest and the south (of course) there are these cut and dry distinctions between the two.
i currently live in Steeler country. but i have seen the club/lounge distinction in various locations i frequent–socal (s.d. & l.a.), dc, chicago, atlanta, philly.
I challenge your DC and Philly theory. What were the names of clubs and lounges?
Yo P, how my post just came up missing?
it was probably moderated for bad english.
So you’re saying that all the rap songs I listen to are grammatically incorrect? I scoff at that notion.
I love the word scoff…. sorry, back to regularly scheduled programming.
I’m not understanding the clubbing with your s/o. Isn’t that like taking sand to the beach?
No its actually the opposite. For most guys the only reason to go to the club is to bag a chick. Other than that you’re wasting time and money. If you have an SO that means that either A. your clubbing days are done, or B. you go with them since thats who you’re going home with anyway, or C. You go without them and go bag something anyway.
As a female which one would you rather your man do?
I chose B. you go with them since thats who you’re going home with anyway,
I always wondered why my boyfriends would be irritated about me going to the club with my girls. Then I realized that men go out to meet chicks and assume women are doing the same thing. I coulda saved myself some drama if I learned this earlier.
A.
The way I look at it is if I have a SO he should not be in the club. I wouldn’t be in the club either. I’m kinda old-fashioned like that, the club is for single folks. We all know why we go to the club.
Nights on the town with you SO are different. You’d go to a lounge or chill spot.
I know I wouldn’t wanna go to a booty shaking club spot with my dude. That’s just me.
“For most guys the only reason to go to the club is to bag a chick.”
this is the truth. unless they receive some type of income from a club, men in relationships who go out just as much as they did when they were single are on the ky lubricated cheating slope, if theyre not already in the pool of ky.
I choose B, for $500 Alex
Or in the words of Martin: “Why go get hotdogs, when you got Steakums at home?”, lol (But remember when Martin and Gina went to the club though???)
Or Swingers’ Clubs.
I see you Panama. Trying to get these fees on the path to pulling tricks.
“just flirt with him”
“just talk to him”
“just dance with him”
b4 these broads know it, you got em in the trunk and taking them to “dates”.
Keep it pimpin (c) T.I.
this was very entertaining.
thanks
I am a big flirt, but most times I’m not aware that I’m flirting. It doesn’t really matter because when I’m with you, I am soooo with you, and would never cross the line so there’s never anything for you to worry about.
I’ve gone out with boyfriends to clubs and lounges before and had a blast (Shay-D’s right, its definitely an aphrodisiac of sorts, all that dancing and stuff). Its pretty clear we’re together, so I’ve never been disrespected. The one time that even came close, my ex made it clear to shorty real quick who was the queen of that castle.
And as far as flirting in order to get something for you and your significant other, eh..that’s a slippery slope. And you may get cut.
its funny how many women say this is cool, but most men think its stupid and pointless. i wonder why this is?
actually, i know why this is, but i just dont feel like typing it
Because as many of you have said, you only go to clubs to get a chick.
As a woman, I go out to clubs to dance, and have a good time, AND look/talk to a guy. Its not the first or only priority, though.
Evolutionary Psychology.
It’s in a woman’s gene’s best interest to “flirt” and not be cognizant of it.
You know what I’m not a big flirter but I do get flirted with a lot…My S.O is the jealous type, so I do not take him to clubs with me. We’ve only been to a club together twice. Since I know how he gets I just made it a point to not dance with anyone else and stay extra close to him while we were there so that he could feel “secure” and to prevent any men from thinking they could try their luck with me…
I don’t think that innocent flirtation is wrong however you have to suppress it out of consideration for your relationship; depending on what type of relationship you are in or what type of person you are with…This may sound vague but: “Some flirting is good/ works for some people sometimes.”
Flirting or accepting flirtation from another person is not always about your S.O. It is something that tweaks your self esteem/ ego…We all like and need a little boost from an outside source everyone once in awhile. As long as you do what you do respectfully, there should be no problem…I mean just because you’re in a relationship does not mean that you suddenly become invisible to others. And it also does not extinguish the fire of your carnal desires…One just has to be responsible and respectful and your S.O has to be realistic. Someone besides them will want your a** …It’s a compliment really. Who the hell wants a person that no one else does?
“Who the hell wants a person that no one else does?”
the rule of bandwagon attraction strikes again!
Wait, why is it that another person’s generosity to me exclude my man from hooking me up, too? That’s right, I want it ALL. You can’t transfer credit like that. If I *ahem* hustled something from a guy for us to come up, my man can’t sit on his ass like it’s a wrap. Nah duke, what YOU got for me? LOL
of course it works both ways, I would have to keep spoiling my dude, even when he has managed to get some chick to hook him up with some perk
“Wait, why is it that another person’s generosity to me exclude my man from hooking me up, too? That’s right, I want it ALL. You can’t transfer credit like that. If I *ahem* hustled something from a guy for us to come up, my man can’t sit on his ass like it’s a wrap. Nah duke, what YOU got for me? LOL”
**reminding self to never date the wise diva**
**reminding self to whip The Champ into submission**
I have never understood women who can’t stand to see their men flirting.
LET HIM FLIRT. Flirting is a basic social/networking skill. People do it all the time. It’s how you make people like you…by making them feel attractive. I flirt with men all the time. Constantly. It never ends. “How’s my handsome Mr. _________?” is as common a salutation from me as “Hello.”
And I would not care if my baby flirted with a busty bartender and got me a free bottle of water or…if I’m feeling risque…Malibu and pineapple. Oh, I’m a bad girl, sometimes.
Also, strangers have bought me things on quite a number of occasions (from dinners to dresses) because they thought I was pretty, and my ex never was up in arms. That would be stupid. I only had eyes for him, so he may as well have enjoyed the way I look in my free dress. I don’t think anybody ever did it in front of him though. I think that would be crossing a line…sort of implying he couldn’t take care of me.
So much about this post was great.
“Also, strangers have bought me things on quite a number of occasions (from dinners to dresses)”
can you start a class on: “how to get a stranger to buy you a dress”. I want to go for the “reasonable” gusto. Like a DVF or something.
I collect DVF and would love to be able to get some for free.
Please, Jen. Teach us.
Both times it happened, the dresses were purchased by an older man who just disappeared.
First time it happened, I was in my late teens, and I was trying on dresses with a girlfriend for a party. We were going in and out of the dressing room with the dresses and being young and obnoxious. This very flashy dude who was in his mid-thirties stopped me at some point and asked why I didn’t buy a certain dress because the color would be very striking on me and I told him it was way too expensive and I was a poor college student. I went back into the dressing rooms to try on some cheaper dresses, and when I came back, the lady at the counter told me the dude had purchased the dress for me. I literally never saw him again.
Last time it happened, I helped this middle-aged white man “buy a dress for his niece.” He told me his niece was “about my size” and asked what size I wore and which dresses were in style and what girls my age liked and etc. He bought two dresses and gave me one as a “thank you for your time.”
I will be at Nordstorms this weekend, trying on dresses and smiling at older men. Do you think it would help if I put my hair in two ponytails?
OMG!! V, go SAT DOWN!!! lmao And people… she s serious. She would do it. Puss in Boots eyes and errthang
Don’t hate. Don’t hate.
*looking for baby doll tee*
YES. lol
You should probably also wear a baby doll t-shirt branded with the name of your local state university.
Men are such creepy losers.
“Do you think it would help if I put my hair in two ponytails?”
LOL…so you’re going for the pedofille angle. Old men tryna holla disgust me….i try not to even make eye contact with their @zz.
But these men my age put me through too many changes.
I am going to find a nice, wealthy, elderly man with no children who is tired, impotent, wheelchair-bound and just wants a massage and some gumbo now and then.
Then, he can bequeath me all his sh!t. I am pretty sure it would be worth it.
“I am going to find a nice, wealthy, elderly man with no children who is tired, impotent, wheelchair-bound and just wants a massage and some gumbo now and then. ”
LOL….**im am typing this from the floor***
my vag@ina weeps for you, Anna Nicole..now you know that story does not have a happy ending!!!
“I am going to find a nice, wealthy, elderly man with no children who is tired, impotent, wheelchair-bound and just wants a massage and some gumbo now and then.”
Not if I get him first. Do you think there are two out there?
LMAO.
VEG
“Not if I get him first. Do you think there are two out there? ”
oh my God…are yall serious…those men are a dying breed..ive heard through the grapevine (ok while reading Delta Airline Sky magazine advertisements) ALOT OF old men are taking HGH (hormone type stuff) and news flash…they become very virile again. These men now want to have se#x. These old J. Howard Marshall type men..now want their knobs slobbed too. And then you end up with “the worms” (like they say in the country)…and you’ll be wishin a few DVF dresses was all you had.
“These old J. Howard Marshall type men..now want their knobs slobbed. And they want se@x too.”
I threw up a little.
Impotent and tired are required–not optional!!!!
DVF. DVF. DVF. DVF.
I will keep chanting that.
thats indeed a science to get them to go away…but at least for the last scenario you provided more of a service. Technically im not sure if the dress was “free”.
Yes Jen. Can I be ur student? Teach me ur ways, sensei!
“I don’t think anybody ever did it in front of him though. I think that would be crossing a line…sort of implying he couldn’t take care of me.”
something here doesnt fit with the rest of the comment
Well, I just think it would be clearly disrespectful to come up to a couple at dinner and be like “Hey, your girlfriend is beautiful. Can I pick up her dinner tab?”
I can’t imagine anybody having the cohones to do this. But people do this with women who are alone or out with their girlfriends all the time.
“I can’t imagine anybody having the cohones to do this. ”
I can’t either. If they did they did they’d probably be doing a lot of coughing…on the rug…(shouts out to the Game).
I have never understood women who can’t stand to see their men flirting.
my man is a flirt I dont have a problem with that. Its part of what attracted me to him and I dont want him to change. However I dont want him to trade the promise of s.e.x to get me anything. Can he hustle and use networking ability to get shyt for the low? yes, and so can I. I got him a brand new Iphone recently for the extra low with no new contract based on who I know and being able to trade favors.. an interview for a friend here.. a resume hook up here.. reference etc and lets be truthful here. you might get a drink at the club but just batting your eyelashes rarely gets you big ticket items. I dont want my husband having to befriend a bytch to get me shyt. you are playing poker with s.e.x and sooner or later someone is going to pull your card and I dont need or want my SO in that situation…
“I have never understood women who can’t stand to see their men flirting.”
Real Talk, I’m jealous. That’s why I have a problem with it…lol
word my bf is a fine piece of a** and it just does not sit well with me imagining what girl thinks she has a chance with him…
I have shamelessly pimped my man out for the greater good. He did it willingly. When my time came around where a sweet smile, a nod could get US what WE wanted, I did it gladly. Eff that. We’re a team. Sometimes you have to take a L for the team. Then we walk away laughing.
this is taking an l?
Depending on how she looked, you know it very well could have been a St. Louis Ram sized L.
Yes. That’s a wasted smile or Palin-esque wink.
“Palin-esque wink”
oh hell, i almost swallowed my gum. lol.
“Palin-esque wink”
I spit out my tonsils…. OMG, I will be back after I have them surgically implanted again
I say “use what you got to get what you want” (c) Ronnie.
I don’t really believe that though. Its deceitful and ill intentioned. Now way. No how. No flirting.
thanks teech clinton
ahhh, the ronnie-ho quote strikes again…
my s.o is only allowed to flirt with frail old ladies who need their day brightening. any other circumstance will land in an ironballgrip!
A few years ago I was in Atlanta for the Classic, (go FAMU), and I took my girl to Glady’s Knight Chicken and Waffles on Peachtree, and low and behold Emmit Smith and a bunch of NFL players were seated close by. I wanted to get an autograph from Emmit but I didn’t want to be the dick riding dude that interrupted them while they ate, so I did the next best thing, I sent my big bootied, smooth skinned, good smelling, lip glossed, 20 year old girlfriend over their to get the signature for me. When she got to their table it dawned on me that I could have possibly set myself up for failure, as even one of the bench warmer dudes chillin at the table with Emmit made more money and was in much better shape than me. It struck me then that I might be paying for two meals yet leaving the restaurant by myself. I heard one of the players ask her where she was from, it was Sean King formally of the Tampa Bay Buccaneers, and guess where she’s from? You guessed right Tampa, Florida. I was like damn I might as well eat what’s on her plate because she damn sure ain’t coming back to this table. But alas she cut the conversation short, got the graph and walked back to our table happy she could do something for her man. She could’ve bounced on me with the quickness with any of those dudes and I would’ve understood where she was coming from. So the moral of the story is that flirting for favors is cool, but sending your girl to talk to big, hulking rich dudes for the sake of any favor is is not something you should press your luck with.
This was a great story.
She was a good girl…lol
I agree with V – this is a good one! And yeah – sounds kind of like sending a McRib to Overeaters Anonymous to retrieve a stick of gum you left….gotta ask yourself if it’s worth it.
LOL! I love that analogy!
great story!
i wonder what the outcome would be if you kept the same people but added music, a dim-lit setting, and some alcohol…
She woula been outta there! lol
hmm I dont know about this one.. I would feel better about it if you would have told your girl that you wanted the autograph but were a little embarrassed and she volunteered to go and get it….the fact that you talked her into using her “feminine wiles” into getting it makes me uncomfortable.. to close to being pimped out to me….
I generally don’t go clubbing, since its not really my nor my husband’s scene (with the rare exception of Fluid on the nights that ?uestlove spins) so I can’t really comment on clubbing with the S.O.
You could say that flirting is my natural state of being if you take ‘flirting’ to mean being friendly, smiling, complimenting people and taking compliments graciously and having a good conversation. I call it being a nice, happy person.
Has the world gotten to be such a nasty place that someone who behaves like me is seen as the constant flirt? That’s a shame.
If said ‘flirting’ gets me free stuff (like today… free appetizers, soup AND dessert) then so be it. I’ll call it a reward for being nice to people.
I have been known to use my feminine wiles in certain situations, I just won’t do it in front of my man. No matter how much free sh*t it gets US. Its disrespectful to him. And Lord knows I disrespect him enough (I keed, I keed.)
“If flirting was a sport, id be a gold medalist!”
~ New VSB t-shirt ~
For awhile i was addicted to flirting til it got me in a relationship and then i had to quit it cold turkey. (one of the hardest things i’ve ever done.) lol Then i saved the flirting for the S.O. til he got boring and then i had to let him go..lol
I guess it is the rush of banter between me n a guy..seeing how far it would go that got me hooked. Flirting really tells you about what kind of person your dealing with within the first few minutes of speaking with them. If you can keep up with my quick wit..then u might get a cookie..lol
And if you get free stuff from flirting in the process..flirt on playa! You just have to know how far your willing to go with it.
Every time I’ve gone to the club w/a S.O., there was role play involved. All the flirting that went on in the midst of that has been nothing more than part of the extended foreplay.
Wowsers. I think I just turned myself on.
lol.