Earlier today I read that men are three times as likely to be on that Jon Kerry sh*t change their mind about something than women are. I found this curious considering how often women are accused of being indecisive boobs.
As a man, I find this to be quite nonsensical. Or do I? I’m not sure. Ain’t I fresh as I can be?
It did however, get me to thinking about statements, decisions, or convictions that the Panamian one has declared and proclamated at various times, only to change my mind at a later time. Interestingly enough, me and my homeboys argue about so much random stuff that the stance I take is dependent on that day, position of the sun, and presence of spirits so half the time, I can’t remember 3/4 of what I decided 2 days ago. This often causes me a bit of dismay as I’ll get called out by somebody about some statement I made and I really have no clue if they’re quoting me or not, except I don’t remember NOT saying it.
Bottom line here people is that I’m a Gemini and hence way funner than you.
So, long unnecessary introduction aside, here are some things that I’ve constantly flip-flopped about or just changed my opinion on altogether, much to the dismay of the world:
-Jay Z or Biggie on “Brooklyn’s Finest”
Honestly, who I chose completely depends on the day you ask. Biggie hit him with the, “…if Faith had twins she’d probably have Tupac’s, get it two ‘Pacs…” or “…sprinkle drugs on the floor make it drug related…” Yet, Jay hit you with the, “…for 96, the only MC with a flu/yeah I rhyme sick,I be what you’re trynna do/ made a fortune off Peru, extradite China White, heron/ninja please like short sleeves I bear arms…”
Me no know.
-Teedra Moses’ Complex Simplicity
I realize that for a brief two-year period, Teedra Moses was like the new age Mary J. Blige. Her album spoke to so many different emotions and carried that hip-hop influenced sensibility with it and yet, I HATED that album the first time I heard it. And I don’t just skim, I’ll listen to a whole album to give it a chance. I even wrote a horrible review of it on a site that asked me to do a review for it. I called it a Mary knockoff parading as original garbage. I shelved it for a solid year and then one day I pulled it out, listened to it and thought to myself, this motherf*cking album is GREAT. Not sure what changed but I wrote a retraction, a year later. Love it.
-Mary J. Blige’s sanity
Call me fickle, but I quit listening to Mary when she got off the drugs and found her self-esteem – basically I haven’t copped a Mary album since Share My World. Quite the conundrum. You see, I want Mary to be happy, but I also want to slip her a rock and take her straight to the studio for like 2 hours to see if we can recreate My Life. I’m torn.
-Jesse Jackson
Most days I hate him but I recognize the good he (and Al Sharpton) bring to the community. Like, what’s Black America without Black people with microphones to call racism anytime somebody sneezes? I mean, sometimes they’re right, right?
-Oprah
I’m not a fan of Oprah at all, yet, without Oprah, little tiny brown people would have only Angelina Jolie to help them out in life. I think Oprah adds very little to Black America, but she does so much for Black World even though her schools are wrought with enough scandals to make R. Kelly jealous. Anybody else notice that she seems to hate rappers yet loves to promote liars who write fictitious accounts of their lives (i.e. most rappers).
-Red pill vs. Blue pill
To this day, I still don’t know which pill I would have chosen though I’ve run down the positive reasons for both of them. Jesus be a trick-coin.
-Kobe’s 4 Ring
Hate him or hate him, dude is an insanely talented ballplayer and on the one hand, I’d love for him to keep succeeding. Yet, he’s a total d-bag. Two weeks ago, I wanted him to lose to the Denver Nuggets. Now I want him to lose to the Magic. Oh, guess I’m not conflicted about that one at all, huh?
-This or That?
Ever since Dres asked, I haven’t been able to decide definitively. Somedays, I’m really feeling “this”, but every so often, I’m all about “that”. These things keep me awake at night.
So, good folks of the 10th Hemisphere (word to Dennis Rodman), what are some things you flip-flop on or have changed your mind about after being vehemently convicted about it?
Speak.
-VSB P aka THE ARSONIST aka TANGLE JIG P aka GIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIRL, HE A 3
To me:
There’s this falafel joint where they make them the way I like and have the bomb salads, but the place is owned by Israels (I’m not down with what Israel is doing with the Palestinians, and I don’t want my money going over there…but those falafels are the business!)
In junior high, new jack swing was for broads and too poppy…now it’s arguably the most genius R&B (and Hip-Hop) innovation of the past 30 years. Heavy D, Redhead Kingpin, Guy, and others came with bigger knockers than Carmen Hayes.
I had the Ice Cube vs. NWA conflict when he left. I sided with Cube and ignored NWA’s ’91 output. Years later I realized I shouldn’t have gone there and gripped efil4zaggin. I’ve since never taken sides in another rap feud.
I’m a bit schizophrenic about Toyota. Loved ‘em in the days of Supra, Celica, and MR2. The people slept on what kinda package their performance cars really were. I hated Toyota once all the performance fare was gone, but everyone acted like the Camry and Prius were the greatest things since slide bread. Thing is, currently, while I would much rather support American cars, I do dig lowered Scions and the Venza.
I do think MP3s of physically available songs is stealing music, but I’ve lately become satisfied with them over chasing down vinyl (frankly I’m not much for digging in crates right now).
And my ex versus new freaks leaves me eternally “torn between” every single day, but that subject isn’t for public consumption.
@Stuff Ghetto People Like,
In junior high, new jack swing was for broads and too poppy…now it’s arguably the most genius R&B (and Hip-Hop) innovation of the past 30 years. Heavy D, Redhead Kingpin, Guy, and others came with bigger knockers than Carmen Hayes.
the vsb analogy committee officially approves of this metaphor
I do it for the people, young, I do it for the people.
@Stuff Ghetto People Like, you know, i was initially on the other side of the NWA vs. Cube debate. NWA could do no wrong in my eyes and I didn’t even listen to AmeriKKKa’s Most Wanted until AFTER Death Certificate dropped.
but when I came to my senses I realized that Cube was arguably one of best rappers of the 90s (at least the early) and i was an idiot for taking sides.
btw, EFIL4ZAGGIN is one of the most well produced hip-hop albums of all time.
i’ll argue this point until i’m dead. it is also one of the most insanely ignorant, but that’s just splitting hairs.
See, that “insanely ignorant” part was also part of it…I felt like Cube was also a more civilized choice, I liked his views and ideas on those first two records. Thing is, while Cubeless NWA was saying rather foul things by comparison (since they no longer had him to balance it out), they were still sonically bringing the pain with the best of the best, and as a beat fiend, I couldn’t overlook that. Come on, fams, the Dirty Harry sample? Genius.
@Stuff Ghetto People Like, yeah, i’m a beat head myself and that’s what really had me on the NWA side. the music was just that good. and given that i was never a huge fan of the Bomb Squad (so sad but so true) i wasn’t excited for AmeriKKKa’s Most Wanted anyway.
and if you consider how “clean” it sounded (EFIL4ZAGGIN) in 1991? amazing.
@Stuff Ghetto People Like,
“There’s this falafel joint where they make them the way I like and have the bomb salads, but the place is owned by Israels (I’m not down with what Israel is doing with the Palestinians, and I don’t want my money going over there…but those falafels are the business!)”
“Supporting Terrorism One Falafel at a TIme!”
I kid.
I flip flop about
Drake..I like him and then I get all public enemy about it.. Imma wait till the album drop and see
Bill Cosby..you know I liked him much better as Cliff Huxtable..but I mean sometimes he makes a good point but most often I think he has totally forgotten that he is a COMEDIAN
Kettle Corn….it always smells good, and then I taste it and sometimes I am in the mood for sugar flavored popcorn but more often I am disgusted by it…which is weird since I love caramel coated popcorn..
@shay_d_lady, kettle corn is the truth give it another chance
@shay_d_lady, I meant to stop by here and mention something. Back when Panama wrote about why people (women) liked Drake, I had no idea who he was. This weekend, I found out a song I thought was Kanye is actually this Drake character. Go figure.
Unrelated tangent–END.
@Hostess,
“…this Drake character”
thats it. for now on, i’m officially referring to drake as “this (or that) drake character” or tdc for short. thanks and sh*t, hostess
@shay_d_lady, for one day last week, i thought i was about to make the flip flop on this drake character (hostess, 2009), then i realized, he’s STILL just a kanye knockoff without as much flair (not sure whether or not flair is a good or bad thing here)…so i’m back on the “i don’t get it” bandwagon.
i used to waffle on the cosby show. that might be Black Blasphemy but I never cared for that show until probably the last 5 years when i started watching re-runs and i found myself loving it.
could be b/c my dysfunctional arse family had NOTHING in common with them folks except for the size of the family. me no know.
@Panama Jackson,
My like of Drake has been on a steady decline. Which is a pity considering I want to like him. The hip hop stations up here play him so much, it’d work to my benefit.
But everytime I hear “Successful” I think what a waste of a beat. And anytime they play “Im Goin In” I get pissed off in anticipation of his verse. He ven ruined my fav current Trey Songz song “Invented Sex”.
I just can’t help but think “ya know what these songs could use? Less Drake.” I cram to understand how a single man can single-handedly ruin otherwise good songs. He’s like the rap Cassie.
@shay_d_lady,
“Bill Cosby..you know I liked him much better as Cliff Huxtable..but I mean sometimes he makes a good point but most often I think he has totally forgotten that he is a COMEDIAN”
Oooh, this is a good one. I hate his holier-than-thou self, but at the same time, the man has a special place in my jello heart.
@Cheekie,
4real he act like he aint the same dude with sidney doin those old skoo black movies in the 70′s. At least he aint turn white like mike.
@BLUNTBLAZER,
Haha, I forgot all about Uptown Saturday Night and all that.
I’m torn on the topic of lauryn hill’s sanity. Is she a nutjob, or a genius? The world may never know…
Is it ok to do ho sh*t in the name of revenge? I was all against ho sh*t til a relative did some that i actually agreed with. (almost shamed to admit that. Almost!)
@melekaj,
I was all against ho sh*t til a relative did some that i actually agreed with
ummm, please expound and sh*t
@melekaj, you know, i’m not sure that being a nutjob and being a genius are mutually exclusive.
however, in L-Boogie’s case, I’m calling nutjob.
@Panama Jackson,
Stamp of approval.
@melekaj,
“Is it ok to do ho sh*t in the name of revenge? I was all against ho sh*t til a relative did some that i actually agreed with. (almost shamed to admit that. Almost!)”
We the ppl of VSB gone need a back story…… real quick.
@mssmtaylor,
Yep…that way we can give you the straight dope.
C’mon with the story.
If it involves money, I have flip flopped like 10 times before I reach the register or press checkout. I have TERRIBLE buyers remorse and thus, have receipts and items in my house with tags from YEARS far gone. I JUST returned two blazers from 2 years ago last week. Untouched, still with tags, and still had the receipt. It’s bad.
I also waiver on hijacking the fanny on a regular basis. I know she’s down for it, but I’ll be like well…she does have to go to work in a few….or she’s sleeping so peacefully…..or, whatever. I know, I know.
*goes to sulk in receipts*
@Saule Wright,
If it involves money, I have flip flopped like 10 times before I reach the register or press checkout. I have TERRIBLE buyers remorse and thus, have receipts and items in my house with tags from YEARS far gone. I JUST returned two blazers from 2 years ago last week. Untouched, still with tags, and still had the receipt. It’s bad.
Dad, is that you? What are you doing trolling VSB?
@blackberry molasses,
lmao
@Saule Wright,
I also waiver on hijacking the fanny on a regular basis
this sentence would read ever better as a haiku.
@Saule Wright, i wish i had buyers remorse. i’m one of the worst impulse buyers i know. if i want something, i get it. problem is, most of the stuff i want tends to be more costly because its all music equipment and software stuff.
LMAO. Good post!
Kanye West’s 808s and Heartbreaks. First couple listens – hated it. Listened a couple months later… loved it.
@pgh muse,
Kanye West’s 808s and Heartbreaks. First couple listens – hated it. Listened a couple months later… loved it
what changed your mind and sh*t?
@pgh muse,
I was the same way about that album!!!! Now I LOVE that album.
I think I had to just forget it was Kanye and stop thinking, but this doesn’t sound like his other ish. I don’t even think you can compare it to his other albums because it’s like comparing apples and oranges.
@pgh muse, i still don’t care for it as a whole product. “welcome to heartbreak”, “amazing”, and “heartless” are good, but for the most part its bupkus. especially the new orchestral ass sandwich that is robocop on the album. the version i have minus all of the fluffery is like 12 times better.
808′s ain’t great.
this isn’t related to your comment, but you know one thing i hate? when folks refuse to acknowledge something is bad by saying that they can “appreciate” it. i HATE no opinion having ass monkeys.
@Panama Jackson,
But there’s a difference between liking something and appreciating it. There are a lot of things I don’t particularly like (therefore to me they are bad) but I can appreciate them for what they are. Saying something is bad is an outright dismissal of it’s value. When I first moved to the DC metro area I thought Go Go music was pretty bad but I developed an appreciation it’s home grown flavor and for the enthusiasm it inspired in the locals. Now I actually like some Go Go. Then again maybe there’s something in the tainted DC water that can inspire an appreciation for yelling over pots and pans, I don’t know.
@klysha, while i understand your point, appreciating something in that context has nothing to do with the actual output but more its impact or creation. just b/c something has an impact doesn’t make it good. and that’s what draws my pistols. folks who refuse to comment on the quality b/c they don’t want to say its bad, but instead, “appreciate what kanye was trying to do”
he was TRYING to make a hit album. he failed. because it isn’t good.
on a similar note, i used to hate gogo and now i’ve come to enjoy quite a bit of it. certain songs just get you hyped…
as was mentioned yesterday, “thug passion” gets me riled up everytime i hear it…
@Panama Jackson,
“he was TRYING to make a hit album. he failed. because it isn’t good. ”
Question of the day: Are “hits” necessarily good? I’m gonna vote: no.
@Cheekie, while all “hits” aren’t necessarily “good”, i still stand by my original point. i find it hard to appreciate some garbage just bc somebody put their heart and soul into it.
it still should be good. just b/c you put your all into doesnt mean i have to give it credit. i give YOU credit for trying. next time, try harder or just become a fan like the rest of us.
@Panama,
Yeah, my bad, I wasn’t necessarily arguing your original point. Because yeah, if you put your heart and soul into it, it should account for something. But, I guess that’s all relative…
I was just specifically discounting that he failed at making a hit. It was a hit. Case in point. Soulja Boy’s mess is trash. Even people who actively listen to his songs can admit that. But, his singles are “hits”, technically. It’s more in the sales, not the quality. Unfortunately.
@Panama Jackson,
Errr, this might be one of your flip-flopping issues dear Gemini… You were one of the champions of that CD when it came out….I remember because we were the only ones…
Dude, don’t make me dig the VSB crates now.
@Sula, could be. initially, i did like it b/c i was like Kanye’s being different. then i realized, that has jack sh*t to do with it being good. lol.
i think i may have been initially blinded by the sight of new Kanye which usually stays in rotation for a solid year.
808′s? not so much.
@pgh muse,
This was how I kinda felt when I first listened to Justin Timberlake’s Justified. I hated it at first then it grew on me.
@pgh muse,
no doubt, this album is the slow burn album of the decade. I don’t even remember how I got to the next few spins, or why I even tried.
@pgh muse,
My e-twin has finally come to the light…
It is a genius album…. and time will tell it.
I also flip-flop on Kobe. I have a love-hate relationship with him. I wanted the Lakers to lose to the Nuggets, but now I want them to win against the Magic so Kobe can finally prove that he can get a ring without Shaq.
Los Angeles – I don’t know if it’s being from NY, but I didn’t like LA for a lot of reasons. I thought it was the one of the most overrated cities in the US. After my last trip, I’ve grown to really like the city.
Chris Brown – no explanation needed
Relaxers – I relaxed my hair for a long time and then stopped 6 years ago and feel natural is the only way to go.
@Leila, Los Angeles – I don’t know if it’s being from NY, but I didn’t like LA for a lot of reasons. I thought it was the one of the most overrated cities in the US. After my last trip, I’ve grown to really like the city.
I hated L.A. the 6+ years I lived there, but found a slightly better appreciation for it after living in Alabama for a couple.
@maximillian, me and Tupac…we love LA.
Yeah, Leila, Los Angeles and NYC have this mean rivalry and appreciation for one another that even Chicago can’t come between.
@ maximillian, what the hell made you wanna live in Alabama?
@Leila,
“Relaxers – I relaxed my hair for a long time and then stopped 6 years ago and feel natural is the only way to go”
I approve this message
@Leila,
Relaxers – I relaxed my hair for a long time and then stopped 6 years ago and feel natural is the only way to go.
Natural is THE ONLY way to go. We must stop denying ourselves. I never knew my hair could be so beautiful and grow so fast for so little money until I stopped relaxing! FREEEEDOOOM! lol.
@Blue Skyez,
I support the natural movement. But sometimes it seems like y’all natural chicks are moving heroin.
“Just try it, just a little bit…It won’t hurt you, you’ll like it. Just start small and see.”
@Big Man,
“I support the natural movement. But sometimes it seems like y’all natural chicks are moving heroin”
HAHAHAH thats good stuff. Forreal… we do be pushing it like its crack.
KanYe West-sometimes there is a little too much estrogen in the dude system but when I hear him on tv or a song I have to literally drop everything and give full attention lol
I mean what do I say I love him and I think he is gorgeous lol
@Luckyred,
your name isn’t really “amber rose” is it?
@Luckyred,
KanYeezy needs to stop looking so crusty sometimes. Either he’s preppy and clean or he’s not. He’s the flip flopper.
@Cheekie, i’ll do you one better. Jay-Z needs to stop looking so doggone unkempt. i hate when rich people try to look like they’re not rich. get a haircut motherf*cker. you’re not deep b/c you spent 100 bucks to make your hair look like it ain’t did. its like he’s spitting in the face of little poor children who wish they had combs and clippers.
@Panama Jackson, its like he’s spitting in the face of little poor children who wish they had combs and clippers.
even i don’t think you meant for me to laugh at this…but i did. bey can’t even tell him to fix his hair?
@overit, i did mean for you to laugh at it. i’m sexxy like that. some of us 3′s are on top of our sexxy game.
@Panama Jackson, You are on a roll today! Earlier you said you hate people who are opinionless ass monkeys and now you are pissed at Jay for not fixing his hair. Tell us how you really feel today! LOL
@Panama Jackson,
his head is wonkier than a wolf’s butt in a snowstorm. nubbly game PROPER.
@blackberry molasses,
bee dee bees…
that’s alls I’m saying…lol
@miss t-lee,
HAAA! Perfect.
@Panama Jackson,
Co-signage. The homeless homie look ain’t the business, man. If he’s a business, man, then he needs to stop looking like a broke down corner store.
@Cheekie,
Kanye West is also a Gemini.
I also flip-flop on Oprah. I am not a fan but I can’t say anything bad about her.
I am rarely indecisive. I’m more often annoyed with people who can’t make up their mind. However I am torn on the-
marriage (with kids) vs. being single (and a fabulous single parent)
- issue. There are times when I think I’ll give up the notion of ever being married. And then there are times when my faith is renewed in the institution and the possibility of my one day joining it.
About the kids. I was raised by a single mother but I feel like it would be selfish to a child to shoulder them with the stigma of being raised by only one parent. Most single parents don’t choose to be single so why would I. But…I know I would be a good/responsible parent.
Alas, I still don’t know which way to go.
@Ms. Hall, I feel you on that marriage dichotomy
@Ms. Hall, i think being a good and responsible parent trumps all anyway, single or married. nobody wants to be a single parent (most folks anyway) but as long as you’re a good parent, the kids will be alright.
call me captain obvious.
@Ms. Hall,
I agree with you on the marriage thing also. Sometimes I’m for it since I was lucky enough to witness the very healthy, balanced, love and respect-filled almost 27 year marriage of my parents. Sometimes I’m against because it seems like people who respect the sanctity and commitment of marriage the way my parents and many of my other family members do have become a rapidly shrinking minority. And the fact that I’m a little pessimistic that I’ll find anyone to marry who is similar to my daddy/grandpa. *le sigh*
@Ms. Hall,
I also flip-flop on Oprah. I am not a fan but I can’t say anything bad about her.
That’s exactly how I feel about Oprah. I command the genius that is the woman. I respect and admire her
wealthintellect and authenticity, but I’m definitely not a fan.I can barely stomach her show but I want to be her. Odd, ain’t it?
Whether to live in a black/brown neighborhood or a white neighborhood
I love livin around black and hispanic people. throw in a few asians and europeans (they do not count as “regular” white) and i’m good
I mean colored folk got all sorts of flavor and are just beautiful to be around but damn white people know how to move in and really make a city hospitable (coffee shops, fly restaurants, parks, clean well kept housing) It makes me sick to wish for gentrification but I’ve lived in a few cities and it is too hard to teach folk to take care of their homes.
Just my opinion
@Blacklaw,
I from Detroit so I really can feel this diametrical opposition.
@Humble_One,
We feel this heavy in NYC too!
@Blacklaw, yeah broham, that is the unfortunate burden that most of us reading Black people encounter. i’m always about being around my people and will usually deal with less that perfect conditions to do so, however, as ive had a kid, i’ve found myself paying more attention to neighborhoods that are way more stable, which sad to say, usually are filled to the brim with other people like myself and mostly euros.
i love my people though. you know we got soul.
@Panama Jackson, why cant we ‘preciate ish before Mr. Charlie come in and raise the rent?
@Blacklaw,
*dead* @ Mr. Charlie
Hush up nah! Mr. Charlie is good white folks!!!
lol. I’m guilty of not missing my water til the well runs dry also
@Blacklaw,
“Whether to live in a black/brown neighborhood or a white neighborhood”
I too am battling this as we speak. I like being around my ppl but in my city “being around my ppl” usually means not the best neighborhoods, limited shopping experiences aside from the local walmart and fashion bug, no restaurants etc. Moving further south (upscale prodominently white area) seems like a better choice , but I’m not sure if I want my kids to be the minority.
Decisions Decisions
@mssmtaylor,
yea i dont hear gunshots at night anymore and im not mad about it
All I can say is THANK GOD you changed your mind about Teedra…love that woman and can’t wait for her new album, whenever it drops.
Complex Simplicity still is the dopeness
@Janday,
welcome and sh*t
@Janday, it is the dopeness and i met her a few times. i actually told her about my flip flop. she laughed at me and told me that its good that i got it right. lol.
she’s so tiny.
@Panama Jackson,
I loved Complex Simplicity ever since I first laid ears on it…last year! Her talent is so under-rated it’s totally unfair. How can she not be making a peep on the charts while non-singing people like Cassie, Ciara, and Rhianna get all the shine? Conspiracy!
@Blue Skyez, she’s been trying to put an album out. she even had a few singles. none of them stuck though so i’m guessing she got stuck in some kind of label hell.
that and having twins by a rapper babydaddy who can’t seem to stay out of prison for more than 2 weeks at a time.
@Panama Jackson,
Rass Kass, was a dope mc…I still don’t know why he keeps gettin’ locked the f*ck up. I guess props don’t pay the bills, though…might as well raw-dawg a R&B chick.
@Panama Jackson,
that and having twins by a rapper babydaddy who can’t seem to stay out of prison for more than 2 weeks at a time.
LOL, I could totally hear the baby daddy drama in her songs. Real life drama a good album does make! As you pointed out with Mary J.
@Panama Jackson,
Musta been something in his backstroke.
I flip flop over whether I prefer the FRIENDLY NEIGHBORHOOD 3 or GIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIRL, HE A 3. Now that I see it’s been changed, I definitely prefer the latter!
Tupac vs. Biggie … I’m from Brooklyn and it’s only natural that I should love Biggie but Tupac? His music speaks to me! This is an ongoing inner conflict that I doubt I’ll get over anytime soon!
@Soulny,
since this is two separate people, i dont know if it qualifies as a flip-flop. i get your point and sh*t, though
@Soulny, GIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIRL, glad you like it.
@Soulny, lol, i love the giiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiirl, he a 3. it brings me joy.
@Soulny,
Oooh, GIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIL, he a 3 is back! Panama is, as always, a man of the people.
@Cheekie, i do it for my culture.
I flip on
-BET–my head tells me that its trash and is doing nothing positive for my peole. but after a long day of class/work on tuesday, my heart just wants to watch college hill on tuesday night…..
-thick vs. tight–sometimes i have the motivation to go an hour a day on the treadmill + the pilates so that i can get that tight, lean look. but then, i see a fly girl whose making her curves work and i look at myself and say, “hell. thighs are SUPPOSED to rub together! d*mn what the wh*te folks say.”
@charli skipper, “hell. thighs are SUPPOSED to rub together! d*mn what the wh*te folks say.””
LOL. I am with you on this statement.
@Nicki Sunshine,
“we like the girls who AIN’T on tv / cause they got mo’ azz than the models!” – yeezy
@Carver The Great!, True genius!
@Nicki Sunshine,
if i had a nickel for everytime someone told me that…haha
@Carver The Great!,
…you’d have 5 cents
@Carver The Great!,
“I dont wanna model, I want some stretch marks, 30 pound but cheeks ya gotta pull apart” -e-40
@charli skipper, Im with you too…
@charli skipper,
“hell. thighs are SUPPOSED to rub together! d*mn what the wh*te folks say.”
Haha! Per-reach!
How you gonna have a stick-thin thigh? You can’t even teach your kids proper body parts because they’re gonna think the thigh and leg are one and the same.
@charli skipper, re thick vs. tight…as long as you don’t start looking like Mel B. she’s getting a little bit TOO ripped.
ps im from down south. i love a lil thickness. i like my women 4 biscuits away from fat. not 1.
@Panama Jackson,
Mel B—dayum. You could wash clothes on her stomach…lol She was good like 3 months ago when she was doing that vegas show…now she is starting to look a bit scary.
@charli skipper
Shooot my thighs ain’t never NOT rubbed together…I wouldn’t even know how to deal with that if they didn’t…lol
@charli skipper,
thick vs. tight
I feel you on this. I love the way my tummy looks now but the azz is deflating!
. I do squats and steps and stuff so it still stands up but not nearly as meaty and ignant as before.
I need to join a track team!
@Me fail english?,
Yes running track works wonders for the women’s lower bodies! I wonder if I can join an intramural track team? hmmm…
@Me fail english?,
I don’t know what I like better…the mental image of a “meaty and ignant” @ss or the fact that a female described her pre-squat & steps @ss as “meaty and ignant”.
…ha-ha…meaty. That’s delightful.
@AkShone,
lol. I should’ve been born a male
@Me fail english?,
The StairMaster should be your friend. And take up biking. Your buttocks will thank you.
@charli skipper,
I have the same dilemma with the thick vs tight. Right now I’m aiming for the tight look since I’m closer to it than thick, but when I see a group of guys break their necks to look at some thickness walking down the street. I envy the thick look. Guys just say “Ay wassup slim!” I’ve never been called thick, but I do think I have a little something to work with.If only we all had Serena Williams’s genes then we could pull of the miraculous tight thickness look which only a small percentage of women are blessed with.
I’ve flip flopped what I wanted to be when I grow up more times than I can remember; I’ve gone from psychology, to criminal psychology, to DEA, to FBI, to school psychologist, etc.
And to think, at the time I change these things, I feel so passionately about all of them. I still don’t know what I want to be.
I’ve went from wanting to be like Terri of Soul Food (strong, career minded, no kids, late blossoming relationship) to wanting to be soft and pink and wifely. (I think I just made up a word)
@Nicki Sunshine,
aint nothing wrong with a little soft and pink and sh*t
@Nicki Sunshine, Pink and Wifely was the first name ethel came up with for her sorority before settling on AKA.
@Panama Jackson, LMAO!!!! Let’s hope not
@Nicki Sunshine, ooh, i’m so with you on this comment. i go between wanting to have a high powered career in law, to being a starving artist. i am somewhere between both with my thumb out hoping someone stops and takes me where i need to go, lol. i also wouldn’t mind the pink and wifely part…i’m so confused.
@overit, It IS confusing. Let’s drink to it.
***Pours an appletini***
Let’s see…I flip flop on lunch daily.
There are times when Im taking pictures…and I just know as soon as I take it that its like the best picture ever…but when I get to editing them..eehhhh…I tend to not even use said photo(s).
And more recently I’ll go from not wanting to be bothered with the female gender and then I see/converse with an amazing womanly specimen and all that shet goes out the car window doing 90.
@Mr. Mister,
“And more recently I’ll go from not wanting to be bothered with the female gender…”
***btw, this statement is also number 51 in the “101 things people say when theyre slowly turning gay” handbook***
@The Champ,
BWHAHAHAHAHA.
When I read, I was thinking the same thing, like if you don’t want to be bothered with women, does that mean you prefer men.
@V Renee,
*oh snap*
@miss t-lee,
Oh snap, indeed. Mr. Mister, there must be SOMEthing that makes dealing with us worth it. lol
@Cheekie, Vagina panties
@Mr. Mister,
lmfao…
STOP IT.
@Cheekie, HAHA why did I picture Reverend Leon Lonnie Love at the dinner table…”HaHAAAAAAAAAAAAA….Stop it….”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KD_QyWl2j58
@Mr. Mister,
*dying*
@The Champ,
“***btw, this statement is also number 51 in the “101 things people say when theyre slowly turning gay” handbook***
I just got fired from laughing at this statement
@Mr. Mister, i usually swear of relationships…then end up in a long distance 4 year on-again off-again love affair.
i’m a smooth operator. except i’m not.
@Panama Jackson,
I have the Sade song in my head now. Which is not a bad thing actually. I feel all zen at work now.
@Cheekie,
HA! I was thinkin Kane!
@Panama Jackson, i usually swear of relationships…then end up in a long distance 4 year on-again off-again love affair.
That’s pretty much my story.
Suburbs v. city: I wanted to live in the city when I was younger. Now, there’s no way I would. Not enough parking and grass, too much noise, and too expensive for a little space.
Getting married cus someone got pregnant: I used to be old school on this. But I’ve changed my mind. But I’m still very willing to push a chick down some steps. That ain’t gonna change.
@Hostess,
“But I’m still very willing to push a chick down some steps. That ain’t gonna change.”
i think you posted this on the wrong day. “signs you’re secretly 730″ isnt scheduled to post until next thursday
@The Champ, I don’t know what 730 means but ‘push a chick down some steps’ = ‘forced abortion’
No worry. It’s just jokes. I would never REALLY do this. But IF I did, I’m all prayed up and have just enough heaven points that I’d still get into heaven if I was ever forced to do such a thing.
@Hostess,
I agree. The city is for young folks who wanna live close to the action. When I get too old for the “action” I’d like to be FAR from it. Eff these high ass asthma rates and parking tickets
@Hostess, i quibble with the city vs. suburb thing. i’m a city cat thru and thru and want to live in the city at all times…except DC is so damn expensive i’m seriously considering living out in PG or something.
except, PG has as much crime and ignorance as the city does so am i really winning????
its like pay 600K to live in a decent spot in the city (and that DOES NOT include up-and-coming spots like Trinidad or as its called Capitol Hill North or East…gtfohwtbs) or pay 250 to live in Bowie next door to the same cats who got pushed out of DC and have to listen to gunshots and police all night.
i could always move to VA, but, ya know VA sucks.
@Panama Jackson, watch it, crystal city is dope, lol. i’ll bet your hatin arse you’ll be considering va when you decide to relocate.
@overit, i already have and it drives me nuts. i’ve considered shirlington and other areas close by over there like falls church. its so nice down there, its just in VA.
and VA is just so wrong on so many levels.
@Panama Jackson,
I’ve considered moving DMV. What’s bad about Virginia? I heard that northern Virginia was kind of urban and not country.
@Panama Jackson, Anne Arundel County. shhhhh. Don’t tell anyone.
I too flip flop on living in a black or white neighborhood. I seriously have issue with the fact that all the college educated young folks leave majority black neighborhoods; it’s one of the reasons – not the main- hoods are becoming what they are. BUT, the amenities of the majority white neighborhoods lure me. Interestingly enough, I cannot live in a bourgeois black neighborhood.
DON’T SHOOT: I flip flopped on the choice issue for years. I finally came to the decision that, whatever I feel personally, I do not want the government legislating morality in that way. A woman has to make that decision on her own and deal with her maker when that time comes.
I flip flop on organized religion a lot, too. I go to church but I see the divisions that are caused by organized religion and it makes my stomach turn.
I flip flop on marriage; it seems pointless at times.
@iloVEGrits,
“I flip flop on organized religion a lot, too. I go to church but I see the divisions that are caused by organized religion and it makes my stomach turn.
I flip flop on marriage; it seems pointless at times.”
amen!
@iloVEGrits, “I flip flop on marriage; it seems pointless at times.”
Word.
@iloVEGrits,
“I too flip flop on living in a black or white neighborhood. I seriously have issue with the fact that all the college educated young folks leave majority black neighborhoods; it’s one of the reasons – not the main- hoods are becoming what they are. BUT, the amenities of the majority white neighborhoods lure me. Interestingly enough, I cannot live in a bourgeois black neighborhood.”
What’s interesting about my neighborhood is that it is innately a 2520 neighborhood. My Ma bought the house there when I was a wee tot and it was probably majority salt with a bit of pepper in it. Being a single mother, I was sent to the grandma’s who lived in the hood, but then when I got in high school I went to live with the mom (brought the granny with me…aw). I love that neighborhood so much and it’s so nice and serene with manicured lawns and huge near-mansions down the street. Today, my entire block is black folks. And it’s STILL nice. So, they are probably bougie Black folks (some are still down, though which is good), but they’re my own. My hood is mostly Irish Catholic, but it’s just so funny how this one block ended up being like a mecca for Black folks. Anyhow, I love my neighborhood so much I bought a condo here. I’m right down the street from my mama. Sweet.
@iloVEGrits,
“I too flip flop on living in a black or white neighborhood. I seriously have issue with the fact that all the college educated young folks leave majority black neighborhoods; it’s one of the reasons – not the main- hoods are becoming what they are. BUT, the amenities of the majority white neighborhoods lure me. Interestingly enough, I cannot live in a bourgeois black neighborhood. ”
TELL IT! That’s one of the positives that gentrification brings (assuming the newbies make a committment to stay). They invest in the schools, businesses and aesthetics of the neighborhood and just the presence of middle classers in the hood can spur a more equitable dist. of wealth among the next generation. (shrinking digital, educational resource divide)
Too bad, a lot of the gentrifiers either have no plans to stay long-term or want to kick the natives out before the change comes!
@Me fail english?,
“Too bad, a lot of the gentrifiers either have no plans to stay long-term or want to kick the natives out before the change comes”
Here. Here.
@iloVEGrits, i pretty much flip flop on all those myself.
i will say though, its hard at times to move into less than stellar Black neighborhoods. especially if its not your native neighborhood b/c of the unfortunate crabs in a barrel mentality. that sh*t exists. plus, once you make dough, you want to live in better and safer surroundings by nature. now, if you live in Atlanta or DC or i’m guessing Chicago, etc, it’s possible to live in a working class, uppermiddle class, non-bougie majority Black neighborhood, like my current neighborhood in DC. they’re probably just few and far between.
then again, of the 6 houses and directly surround mine, 3 are white, one is mixed and 2 are Black.
diversity rules.
@Panama Jackson,
In Chicago, working class to uppermiddle class, non-bougie majority Black neighborhoods are full of old black folks. lol.
My parents live in one.
The up and coming black neighborhoods are pseudo bourgeois but are really just expensive condos in the ‘hood, full of negros who want to make you shoot somebody after a convo with tem.
@iloV.E.G.rits,
Haha. Sounds like NYC
@iloV.E.G.rits,
That sounds like Bronzeville…
@maximillian,
What you know bout some Bronzeville?
Where do you live?
Yeah, brain drain from the hood is a b*tch, but I can’t live among a bunch of complete snobs who don’t even have broad cultural tastes like I do. BBN’s tend to still be as culturally lacking as the hood, because these places still stock the same damn fast food joints and such and the ppl still otherwise take their money elsewhere. Nothing at all progressive about it.
I have a write-up in the works about that, be on the lookout.
i know that drizzy already told me that “pu**y’s only pu**y” and i should only get it when i need it but even with all the great life advice from rappers i listen to, the thing i flip/flop about the most about is whether to:
a) dedicate every ounce of my social fortitude and mental capacity to the “pursuit of happyness”…
or
b) take a page from the JM playbook and say “f*ck b*tches, get money”….knowing that i’d only be getting money to get more b*tches…
what a conundrum…
on another note
“Bottom line here people is that I’m a Gemini and hence way funner than you.”
i said the exact statement to my mother and both ex-girlfriends on separate occasions…and got slapped by each immediately after. fml.
@Carver The Great!,
b) take a page from the JM playbook and say “f*ck b*tches, get money”….knowing that i’d only be getting money to get more b*tches…
i read an article on psychology today a few months ago that stated that basically everything a man does is subconsciously done to increase their mating potential. this is why (with the exception of politicians) single men are typically the most ambitious.
i had a point 150 words ago. oh well
@The Champ,
“You see, life’s about marketing Pus*y Galore
Every time I turn around it’s more Pus*y Galore
Nations goin’ to war for the Pus*y Galore
Either the cash, the raw or the Pus*y Galore”
Black Thought
@The Champ,
i read an article on psychology today a few months ago that stated that basically everything a man does is subconsciously done to increase their mating potential. this is why (with the exception of politicians) single men are typically the most ambitious.
Just more proof that mainly women make the world go round. If it weren’t for us men would just plant their ashes on the couch, jerk off, sleep, jerk off, not bathe, jerk off, burp, jerk off, pass gas, jerk off, watch ESPN eating wings and sh&t until they die/kill each other.
@Blue Skyez,
Just more proof that mainly women make the world go round.
and y’all still don’t run the world…that either makes women really dumb, or men really smart. you choose.
@Blue Skyez,
That sounds about right.
@The Champ,
Yo, f*ck all that. I could see having more cream, and a certain place, and dressing some kinda way for the ladies, even getting in shape. But the car I want, records I listen to, technology I want, those are toys where the ultimate end is me enjoying them!
@Carver The Great!, Gemini’s run the world.
i have a get down or lay down mentality when it comes to my Gemininess.
Celib*cy or chex
Well, spiritually perhaps I should continue the attempt at waiting for marriage. No more sheets and all. However, the flesh is weak so at least for 8 days out of the month the desire is unreasonably insane and I’m totally considering hittin up an ex with the I think we should have chex, don’t you, or the Halle Berry “make me feel good” invitation. Ongoing…argh. Help me lord.
My most recent ex or starting over
Obviously the last relationship wasn’t perfect, hence the ex, but after all those years the options are lookin even less perfect. So do I patiently continue on the road of self development at an attempt to ignore the statistics, and trust that a more perfect mate is in the wings somewhere, OR do I clear the roster of mild disappointments(good guys just not enough of the “list”) develop a hostile takeover scheme to boot ex’s new random and pledge to be satisfied with the less disappointing imperfection that we had? Ionknow?
Natural or perm or weave? Being a pisces, diff forms of self expression make since at diff times. I was sincerely anti “extra” and then I tried it and founf the versatility pleasing. I absolutely loved being natural, my perm is truly appreciated when it comes to humidity.
The “boss” type man who works too much but has tons of swagg and I trust to provide great security or the guy who buys me roses from the grocery store for no reason and is ther at the end of every day to rub my feet? Given that I am one of a growing number of women who enjoy their space, even in a relationship, the busy boss makes since, however being that I am a woman I like a man who is accessible when I want him around…ionknow?
Berast implants or knee knockers? I have been blessed(cursed) with a great rack. Nice large pillowy still fluffy fun bags. However I know that when I finish having children my nips will most likely be neighbors to my belly button. Will I still care, will my husband, will being aesthetically sound be of enough importance to go under the knife, or will I continue to love my body, however it is and recognize it as the symbol of natural beauty and womanhood…ionknow?
Chinese or sushi??
@treble, I’d say look into breast augmentation instead of implants.
@Shaka Shaw,
I think those are the same thing. You mean a breast lift?
@ treble,
Before you go the surgery route you should look into doing exercises that work your pecs. Alot of women forget that there are muscles under there. If you keep them strong and tight, the pecs lift just like any other part of the body. Just gotta be careful not to do too much with your back and shoulders, lest you start resembling
StrongmadDwight Howard@treble,
Chinese or sushi??
Sushi hands down.
@Blue Skyez,
I vote for sushi as well. Unless, I’m in an authentic restaurant in Shanghai.
@Sula,
You know I don’t think I’ve ever tasted good, authentic Chinese food. I stay outta Chinatown (unless I’m catching the bus) because it smells like dying spirits. But the one time I went the food was bland. Since then I’ve stuck to the American Chinese stuff like General Tso’s, Eggdrop soup (that’s american, right?), etc.
@treble,
need visuals but i think females should be happy with what god gave um. Its weird girls that dont have um want um a girls that have um dont like um?
another one is to “fast-turn-ate” or not:
on one hand (no pun intended) if you’ve had a bad day because 5011 people have mad you mad enough to punch a baby, there’s no better release than a quick 3 minute kitten killing session…word to roxy reynolds’ ridin’ skillz.
on the other, NOT doing it makes me walk around with a loaded gun which is the most successful weaponry i can have when hunting for prey….but there’s NOTHING worse than aggressively mediocre buns/brains that make you yearn for a proper d0-over
@Carver The Great!,
actually, ive found that pastor racing helps with the hunt. it gives you a clearer head. otherwise, its like going grocery shopping on an empty stomach.
@The Champ,
a very good point and even better analogy haha.
for me, that only works for pre-coitus dates with girls i actually like…
Life’s a B***h – AZ and Nas
Me and my boys have had arguments over this song since 1994. I use to say AZ had the best verse then for a while I was on Nas’s verse now i’m back to thinking AZ had the best verse.
Big-Block vs. Small-Block
There is nothing like the sound, torque, and raw power of a big block engine. But then I like the higher revving and lower weight of a small-block. I always bounce b/w these two.
Thick women vs. Slim, fit, or average size women
When I look at Serena Williams or Deelishis from the waist down I get hypnotized. But when I think long term I am not confident that it will hold up. When I look at a woman like Rosa Acosta I appreciate the toned curves.
Organic vs. non-organic fruits and vegetables
Right now my pockets say non-organic but my health says organic. Since i’ve been laid-off the chemical laced food is seeming more appealing.
@Humble_One,
“Rosa Acosta”
…this woman has been my new crush for the past couple of weeks…very hot.
@AkShone, can’t lie Rosa is bad but she may be just a couple hamburgers from being a big girl too
them abs aint gonna look like that at 30 35 yrs old
@Blacklaw,
Dunno. I am 33…bout to hit 34…and my abs are looking ok. I no longer have a six pack (it’s more like a 2.5 pack) but my tummy is still flat. Muscle memory is great.
@Blacklaw,
You thinkin’ about the super-thick Brazilian chick (she’s bangin’ too)…peep Champ’s comment and then peep her workout regimen.
Word.
@Blacklaw,
I don’t think she is that thick. She ain’t that much on the borderline.
@Humble_One,
I wont google her for fear of looking like a perv to the IT dept. But if this the chick that was doing ballet in yellow spandex, she’s really not that thick. She has a nice shape, but not enough meat to be “thick”
@AkShone,
on a whim i youtubed her “workout” the other day, and i’m forever grateful for that whim
@The Champ,
That workout gave me a new appreciation for ballerinas. It also put me on a mission to find a ballerina with curves.
@Humble_One,
ballerina with curves *******heading to you tube
@Humble_One, the Nas vs. AZ debate is definitely one that rages on. hell AZ’s verse on “Life’s a B*tch” is the reason I own all of AZ’s albums despite them being largely not good (though I did like “S.O.S.A.”).
Nas just sounded so good on that joint…but AZ’s flow was meticulously perfect.
@Panama Jackson,
Other than Doe or Die I think his best album was Aziatic. He is one of my favorite rappers but dude cannot pick beats to save his career.
Electrik Red http://exclusiveaccess.net/main/wp-content/uploads/2008/12/l_e81bfdea9d2f88c56df1fb205b8309a7.jpg
v.
RichGirl http://meshlife.files.wordpress.com/2009/04/richgirl-01-big.jpg
“I love all y’all” – Hov
Electrik Red is like the new Vanity 6, and with The-Dream writing and producing for them, how could i not rock it? Joints like “So Good” and “We F*ck You” express the sentiments of the type of women i typically mess with
however
RichGirl just looks better and they sound like Beyonce…and we all know the effect that Bey has on any being with a p3nis….there’s a chick named Brave in the group and she is the definition of calipygian, not to mention her hips look like they are running away from each other…once again, proof that God is male.
i think a 9some is in order….
@Carver The Great!,
“there’s a chick named Brave in the group and she is the definition of calipygian”
**sprinting to google**
@The Champ, lmao, how does one sprint to google?
@overit,
LOL. Right. Like, I imagine him as a ninja late for an interview and stopping to ask folks directions on how to get to Google.
Make a left turn two blocks south of Yahoo Blvd…
@Carver The Great!,
“Electrik Red is like the new Vanity 6, and with The-Dream writing and producing for them, how could i not rock it? Joints like “So Good” and “We F*ck You” express the sentiments of the type of women i typically mess with”
I don’t like them at all…I made it through the album and that “We F You” song was the only one I liked…lol
Vanity 6? Um…I’m not so sure…
@miss t-lee, let’s not pretend that Vanity 6 was such a good musical group. were they fun to look at? hell yeah, Prince handpicked them chicks, but they had a total of ONE hit, “nasty girl”. hell, they only released one album.
them chicks weren’t meant to get along since Prince was probably banging all of them.
@Panama Jackson,
Are you saying the Dream is probably doing the same to Electrik Red? hahha
@miss t-lee,
Are you saying the Dream is probably doing the same to Electrik Red? hahha
If his thought process works as well as his song-writing pen then hell yea he will/is/was/should/could/wants to/should let me do it instead
@Carver The Great!,
You never fail to make me laugh.
@miss t-lee, gauging how my former potential-baby-momma is looking with that sateen shimmery hairdo of hers, i’d be looking elsewhere for bangage too.
guess she figured out the only way she’d ever go platinum. no blue notes.
@Panama Jackson,
Yep…poor Christina. She’s gone the way of Cassie and countless other chicks before her…lol
@Panama Jackson,
Was “Sex Shooter” not a hit? Wait…was that Vanity 6 or Apollonia 6?
@iloV.E.G.rits, that would be Apollonia 6…same thing yet oh so different.
@Carver The Great!,
From those 2 pics…. I’ll go with Elektric Red…
@Sula,
that’s because a woman sticking her azz out while blowing a kiss at you is much more appealing than her glaring at you with hands on hips haha.
I suppose my biggest flip-flop is still on the flop side of flip, but sometimes I have days where I think: “hmmm…”
I speak to you about doing everything over the internet.
Dating, ordering, everything is available over the net. hell, you don’t even have to watch network TV anymore. I teeter on the edge of this every time I’m too lazy to want to be placed on hold for 10 minutes when I call Papa Johns. So I go to the Net.
However I’m way on the other end of the spectrum for Internet Dating… usually. I still have this idea that’s its all beefy women and Stanley Spedowski lookin dudes trying to create alternate personas via the net, and tossing out “can I hit it loser?” to the first person to Poke them Back on Facebook or friend request them on Myspace. I won’t start on Twitter, because I neither know what Twitter is, nor do I want to absorb Twitter or tweet into my everyday lexicon.
I’ve met exactly one chick over the internet, and I bagged her three years earlier at a drunken house party. So I don’t count it.
@Dante_Alexander,
“I won’t start on Twitter, because I neither know what Twitter is, nor do I want to absorb Twitter or tweet into my everyday lexicon.”
LOL!!!! I concur.
@Dante_Alexander,
“However I’m way on the other end of the spectrum for Internet Dating… usually. I still have this idea that’s its all beefy women and Stanley Spedowski lookin dudes trying to create alternate personas via the net, and tossing out “can I hit it loser?”’
I had this talk with a male friend of mine years back when he was baggin nice young ladies from MySpace. And while he made a few good points about your odds being not much better dating people you meet in the bar, I’m still biased to believe the least socially awkward, best looking folks are not looking for love on the net.
@Dante_Alexander,
welcome and sh*t (i think)
@Dante_Alexander, you know, there’s this chick i know in DC who’s a dime by most dude’s account. i found out one day that she was trying to find men on freakin’ match.com. i couldn’t believe it. i’m like, “there are chicks like you online trying to find dates??”
trust me broham, they’re not all busted.
@Panama Jackson,
match.com is a good look if you put in the time, in this new age of chicks with jobs that require lots of travel, match.com is more efficient than speeddating.
@Carver The Great!, et al
Thanks for having me. The tacos were outstanding.
I said I teeter and totter… That doesn’t mean I haven’t seriously thought about climbing the monkey bars.
That pun was totally inadvertent, but completely hilarious AND functional. Sweet.
Anyway, everytime I think I may want to try it, I get this image of my Pops looking at me in the way only a former Motown Musician can look at you when you say you wanna bag chicks from the internet… The look that says:
“Boy WHAT is your damage?!?
I just can’t get past that. I feel dirty, like truly Coyote Ugly dirty. Like “2000 Dante drunk and fighting depression due to everyone else seemingly cleaning up in the boonks department so I went at the lonely doe eyed beefy chick in the corner at the DKE house and boosted my own self esteem” dirty.
With everything being on the net though, these days, walking on the edge is not as dangerous as I once felt. Considering I’m in Baltimore now, and I can’t stand the pretentiousness and taking out of a knot of cheese for a $7 drink just to impress the rats (only rats are attracted to knots of cheese that come out of pockets) that has been DC so far, I’m thinking, as a relatively attractive male, I could do great things. And by great I mean evil.
You see my dilemma…
@Dante_Alexander,
The tacos were outstanding.
*giggling*
@Me fail english?,
I don’t even mean to. It’s all natural, baby.
@Dante_Alexander,
sun, i look at it like this: any place i spend an inordinate amount of time is only useful if it can be used as a vehicle for baggeration.
hence my disdain for being an engineer…45+ hours a week and no women here??? blasphemy!
i use a computer for EV-ER-EE-THANG (c) Katt Williams, might as well get babes too, right?
@Carver The Great!,
I always knew the engineering students were in prison in college, just by the sheer look of defeat in their eyes after each CSE test. I had no idea engineers were so opressed at the workplace, though.
I guess it makes sense. If theres a string of commercials pointing out the fact that there are no women interested in math and science… it stands to reason that oppressed individuals like yourself raised money to increase their numbers for later generations.
You all are so considerate of the plight of the future. On behalf of everyone who will never know your struggle, I thank and salute you.
I work at a University, though. So I quietly laugh and cry on the inside at/for you.
Ghostface or Raekwon? – Rae usually wins just based on the fact that I understand what the f*** dude is talking about more than I do for Ghost, but then I put on that Fishscale CD and I realize I’m still waiting on Cuban Linx 2…
@Shaka Shaw,
This is a good one. I will say Ghostface but Raekwon has been putting out FIRE lately. But the two of them together are almost the ultimate duo.
@Humble_One, why won’t they just make another purple tape? why we gotta get a lil from each….damn are they that dumb they cant see what kinda love they’d get at this f’d up moment in hip hop?
@Blacklaw,
I sooooo wish they’d make another purple tape. They were both at their finest on that jump.
@Shaka Shaw
Which one will come out first Detox or Cuban Linx 2?
*sniggling*
@miss t-lee,
I’m going with Cuban Linx 2…although I heard Detox was coming out soon, I believe the release date is Neverary 32nd of this year.
@AkShone,
Both are coming out the same day. The 12th of Never.
@Shaka Shaw,
rae has one of the best pure “flows” in hip-hop. his voice always “fits” for lack of a better term. still, its ghostface, and its not even close
@Shaka Shaw, yeah, i’m gonna say its Ghostface hands down. he makes everything sound good.
on a side note, if you had to guess like 12 years ago who the most successful wu-member would be, would ghost have been anybody’s pick??
@Panama Jackson,
9 out of 10 would have picked Method Man. He was the media darling weather he liked it or not. Although he was never my favorite. I was into GZA, Rae & Ghost, U-God, ODB, and Inspectah Deck.
@Panama Jackson,
I know 12 yrs ago, I would probably woulda picked Meth, Dirt Dog, and then maybe GZA.
Ghost wasn’t my fave until Iron Man, but then after Supreme I was definitely a believer.
I often flip flop on what is and what is not selfish. Is not wanting to have kids selfish? Is having a destination wedding selfish?
Most times I think that Jesse Jackson and Al Sharpton are out for publicity but then again, are they really looking out for the good of black people.
Are some people fake or is faken- like qualities just their personality?
@Ms. T,
“Are some people fake or is faken- like qualities just their personality?”
Good one this sounds like the pride vs. self-preservation battle that goes on in my head daily. Esp, in these TET’s!
@Ms. T,
“Are some people fake or is faken- like qualities just their personality?”
Oooh, things that make you go hmm.
@Ms. T, destination weddings are definitely selfish. but its your wedding, f*ck em.
@Panama Jackson,
That ‘s the answer to 90% of life’s deep questions: “Fcuk’em”
@Panama Jackson, But what if you are cheap and just rather spend the money on you and your husband instead of feeding everyone you know so they can talk about your wedding…. heck you’re right just selfish!
NYC : to love the transplants or hate the transplants….that is the question. Growing up here, NYC was a dirty, dangerous place. Trash used to literally swirl around in the air. Times Square was full of angry hookers and EVERYONE was a criminal. Forget all the dealers having shootouts and dropping bodies off of rooves, our effin sanitation department was contracted out to the mafia! (which would probably explain the trash monsoons…). The trains were covered in graffiti, people got mugged like clockwork and half the buildings were burnt to a crisp for insurance. It was effed the eff up!
You’d think that now that it’s safe (I think we’re a top 25 safest big city in the country!) and clean and gentrified we’d all be happy. But alas, the rent’s gone sky high, most of the natives have been pushed out and its more crowded than ever with yuppies doing their best SATC imitation. Little Italy has all but disappeared and for that matter, none of the neighborhoods have retained their distinctive cultures. What’s the difference between Harlem, Brooklyn Heights and the Village? I could’ve told you in the early 90s. Now, I’m not so sure. The city has lost all character and identity! Manhattan and Brooklyn especially are shells of their former selves.
It may sound silly, but I feel like Rothstein at the end of Casino waxing poetic on the decline of Vegas. Dude, all your friends got murked there! Thank your lucky stars its full of old people now! I could say that, but I’d be a hypocrite, cuz damn if I dont miss the old NYC. RIP my old friend.
@Me fail english?, Preach!
@Me fail english?, that my dear, is definitely an interesting conundrum. lol.
double-edged swords make for the best thought fodder.
@Me fail english?,
“Growing up here, NYC was a dirty, dangerous place. Trash used to literally swirl around in the air”
I didn’t realize how clean Detroit was until I went to New York. I could not understand why I always felt something falling on me when I was in Manhattan.
@Humble_One,
lmao! Well if you’ve been here in the last 14 years, you came during our clean years.
I went to Chicago and was telling the natives how impressed i was with their sparkling clean river and transit system. They laughed til they cried
@Me fail english?,
“lmao! Well if you’ve been here in the last 14 years, you came during our clean years.”
This was in 1991.
@Me fail english?,
Chicago is the clean New York, they say. lol
@Cheekie,
The clean and laid-back and fun New York.
“I love this city”.
@Sula,
Hey! We’re nothing if not fun. You just need to hang out with me
@Sula,
Some NY-ers that come over here say the people are nicer. Or people who have been to both cities.
Chi City, my city… I have a love/hate relationship with it.
@Cheekie,
That was another thing that made me fall in love! I didn’t realize how cool it was to have ppl look in your face and speak to you til I came there. Even on the train. It’s like yall are just happier with your lives. I thought “oh NYers arent mean, we’re just in a rush”. But by George, we ARE kinda stank acting.
Sidenote: PGH ppl were surprisingly stank acting too. My girlfriend from NY noticed it too. WTF?! Champ, I demand answers!
@Cheekie,
nah. thats toronto
@The Champ,
Tim Gunn called the Chi “the clean NY” because our fashion game is on point (in the loop, specifically). And Tim Gunn’s word is final.
@The Champ,
**big ole cheesin grin**
@Me fail english?,
“I went to Chicago and was telling the natives how impressed i was with their sparkling clean river and transit system. They laughed til they cried”
Lawd, chile. The River is FILTHY and public trans is nasty. But…I have been to NY so I can see how you thought this ish was clean. LMAO.
@Me fail english?,
Wow you make NYC sound like some kind of post-apocalyptic Mad Max/Blade Runner ish. It sounds like it was a really exciting place to live! I’m so bored of living in a spotless subrubia where all the lawns look like golf courses and all the houses are cookie cutter and it’s safe to take a walk outside after 9:00pm. Boring! Lol.
@Blue Skyez,
“Wow you make NYC sound like some kind of post-apocalyptic Mad Max/Blade Runner ish.”
Most New Yorkers make it seem like that when it’s my city that is actually like that.
@Humble_One,
My thinking is that with urban decay being what it was from the lat 70s up until the mid 90s, most cities were on some Thunderdome ish back then. I’ve never spent more than a week in Detroit and my most recent visit was in 2005 but I never got that impression from the D (in its more recent state).
Oooh, flippy floppies (I’m on a BOAT, MF!). I’ve had my share of those:
1. Texting. I used to say I’d never be the drone that’ll text. I refused to do it before they came out with Qwerty keypads on phones and even a little after I still refused. Then came folks that I could never talk with because all they did was text. So, now I’m texting. It’s in small doses, though. I can control it now. But, I’m beginning to feel the ecstacy of the convenience so…I’ll be far gone soon enough.
2. DVDs. I don’t know why I refused it so. Oh wait, it was because I thought they wouldn’t explode. Everyone was talking about their dolby digital and their special features and I was grumbling on the side lines rewinding my VHS for a second viewing. I was all, “The Man has you bamboozled! Hoodwinked!” Needless to say, it has completely wiped out VHS so much that there’s probably one VHS player per Walmart, if that. Now comes that pesky Bluray…
3. Justin Timberlake. Yeah, I’m one of the millions of people that hated him before his foray into SNL. I ain’t gonna lie. My hate for him was kinda irrational, though. Well, not irrational if you were a BSB stan. But there was no real reason to hate him other than his taco meat hair, booty chin, annoying baby voice, and all-denim suit during the N-STINK (yeah, AND WHAT) days. Actually, I started diggin’ him a bit before SNL. When he left those other irrelevant band-members and effing exploded into a near musical genius. Then when SNL came, I fell in love him. He and Andy Samberg should have a baby, they’re so raw.
@Cheekie, J TImberlake is freakin hilarious and when I saw him cry when his house was gettin taken on “Punked” I was like you lil bit** but I can’t front dude hang with some pretty fly ppl and if I was datin white chicks he and I would have made similar moves (C Diaz while she was still cute, Jennifer Biel, Scarlett J)
@Cheekie, i think “d*ck in a box” made everybody a fan of justin timberlake. so much so we forget he dropped janet jackson off a ledge after the superbowl.
i mean, “d*ck in a box” is such a good song.
@Panama Jackson,
“so much so we forget he dropped janet jackson off a ledge after the superbowl.”
I actually did forget about that wow. I was so mad at him. The power of a Kwanzaa d*ck in the box.
@Panama Jackson,
d*ck in a box was greatness… then he produced the following with Andy Samberg (and had a cameo!) and my respect for the man just went loco
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4pXfHLUlZf4
@blackberry molasses,
I sing that to myself on the daily.
Andy Samberg and his crew are really genius lyricists.
But, yeah, I think my love for Justin was cemented because he doesn’t take himself seriously. That turns me on. lol
@Cheekie,
“I don’t know why I refused it so. Oh wait, it was because I thought they wouldn’t explode. Everyone was talking about their dolby digital and their special features and I was grumbling on the side lines rewinding my VHS for a second viewing. I was all, “The Man has you bamboozled! Hoodwinked!” Needless to say, it has completely wiped out VHS so much that there’s probably one VHS player per Walmart, if that. Now comes that pesky Bluray…”
Does Blockbuster and Netflix rent VHS?
@Humble_One,
I think I saw something about Netflix renting VHS for films that didn’t have DVD when I first joined. Haven’t really looked into it. That’s how completely not relevant VHS is now. I forgot to even look into it. I do know that a lot of those classic films that may or may not be on DVD, they have the watch instantly feature.
Since early yesterday morning I’ve been torn about liking/disliking Jay’s new D.O.A. (death of auto-tune).
I love the beat but…the jury is still out on the lyrics though.
@miss t-lee,
i think the terrible, terrible, terrible, terrible, terrible hook ruins the song
@The Champ,
I think you’re right…I’m loving that guitar…yet…the hook is like he just phoned that ish in.
@miss t-lee, im with you. and i think the champ is right…the hook is bupkus.
i may have to d apost on this, but i’m starting to think jay gets too much credit as a trendsetter in some regards, but not enough in the right areas. i’ll mull this over.
@Panama Jackson,
I think that will be a good post.
Go for it.
kanye west: i’ve never seen a person more intent on alienating his base fanbase. its almost like he’s trying his hardest for dudes like me not to want to f*ck with him anymore
gentrification: i know its been mentioned a few times upthread, but it bears repeating. as much as i hate the concept of that term, i can’t help but notice the overwhelmingly positive changes in my community, east liberty specifically.
http://www.post-gazette.com/pg/09159/975799-53.stm?cmpid=localstate.xml
just fifteen years ago, i had to buy clothes devoid of certain colors just to give myself a better chance of not getting shot. now, the only crew conflict there is trader joes vs whole foods
@The Champ, is it me or is everyone at trader joes just happy and a tad quirky? the folks at the trader joes near me pounce on you if you even look confused about where the salsa is. just eager, and i love it.
@overit, i dont feel safe in trader joes. i feel like i look like an outsider and somebody who drives a Prius knows that i drive a gas guzzling magnum and wants my soul.
@Panama Jackson,
yea hella berkinstocks everywhere and i have a gass guzzler to 5.7 liter v8 buick american muscle baby whoooooohoooooo. sorry. but i feel like yellin that at those electric cars think they special shiiiiiiii lets go grill to grill
@Panama Jackson, I too am in love w/ amerikuhn muscle. I test drove a challenger *insert war cry* lets just say they won’t like the 12mpg city 15 hwy
@overit,
It’s not just you. They are. And I think it’s creepy. lol.
@iloV.E.G.rits, it’s like they david coresh or should I say trader joe *twilight theme song*
@The Champ, gentrification: i know its been mentioned a few times upthread, but it bears repeating. as much as i hate the concept of that term, i can’t help but notice the overwhelmingly positive changes in my community, east liberty specifically.
As u know Champ, we are practically neighbors, and the problem I have with this is the total lack of involvement of these developers with the folks in the community. It’s good for me, cuz my property value will increase (bad if my taxes do) but from what I know of this (and I could be wrong 10 years ago I wasn’t trying to get some developer money) but they are kinda just bulldozing over the people who won’t be able to afford to live in this neighborhood eventually… why not invest in some apprenticeships… or some ish like that. Give back to the place u are taking from.
Wow on the celebrity mole yucatan reference. I thought I was the only one watching
T or A – depends on the girl, season, the price of tea in china, the weight of 4 ghanian children and the running price of sour diesel in ireland. But I love it all. It also Depends on skin complexion. Theirs a soft spot in my heart for a lightskinned girl with tatas n a dark skinned mami with a dinosaur on her back.
Hip hop – depends on if dilla or 9th wonder produced it. If not its a good chance its trash. I may be biased because I’m an 80s baby who was blessed to bypass the b*llsh!t of modern times.
Knicks thought on making playoffs – my slightly obsessive fanhood of the knicks never waivers even though the knicks haven’t been to the playoffs since the invention of heely’s, pink berry and sham-wow, but depending on the tine of season I’ll tell anyone who would listen that we still have a chance.
Light skinned/dark skinned girls – I switch on this subject more than anything else. It depends on the time of day in most cases but its widely believed (or just has become my reality since me and others believe it so its our own private reality) that dark skinned woman have the prettiest women but they have more homely women than their light skinned counter parts. Its harder for light skinned women to stand out because most of them are pretty and the ugly light skinned girls just look like thhad hard lives growing up.
Mcdonalds – sometimes you just get tired of the white faced clown with red hair and rather go to five guys for a bacon cheeseburger with grilled onions mushrooms lettuce tomato and a-1 sauce with cajun fries. But sometimes you just get that crave for a big mac/mc chicken/ fish filet mickey d’s fries.
@rockstar718,
I used to OD on Mickey D’s in college (surprisingly enough I was thinner then…probably because it was basically my only meal of the day being poor and all. lol) and got so tired of it. Then I saw Super Size Me in a documentary class, and swore of it for a while because it grossed me out so. Then I had the craving for some MD fries. Dag nabbit…
Today, I still try to do it in moderation. There is a MD joint right across the street from my job (who DOESN’T this apply to…that effing restaurant has a monopoly on Earth) but I still manage to avoid it most of the time. I’s proud.
@rockstar718, you know..i’m gonna go ahead and commit hiphop suicide, but i honestly think Dilla is overrated as a producer. granted, dude had some hits but the more i hear, the less impressed i am.
now, that’s not to say that i dont love some of his stuff. Dilla at his best is probably one of the best at it…but his output (possibly do to SO much of it being out there) is largely just okay to me. same with 9th wonder. when The Listening hit, i was all about 9th, but the more music he put out, the more his stuff started to sound the exact same (it really does) and the novelty wore off. of course, he comes thru with a straight banger every now and then (Murs 3:16: the 9 wonder edition comes to mind, i love that whole album except for “animal” with phonte).
with that said, Dilla is responsible for one of my favorite beats of all time, “fall in love” off of the fantastic voyage, vol 2 album.
trivia: “fall in love” inspired D’Angelo’s Voodoo album which is why it has such a stripped down and bottom heavy feel.
@Panama Jackson,
Know what’s funny about Dilla. Up until his death, he was severely underrated. Then all of a sudden, post-mortem we discovered he was the son of God and the one true king and isht (I probably shouldnt have used those two words in the same sentence)
@Me fail english?, yeah i think that’s my beef, and it’s not his fault at all. like all of a sudden, in death, Dilla became the best thing since sliced bread. like i said, dude had some bangers, clearly, and he’s responsible for songs folks don’t even know he did, erykah badu’s “didntcha know” comes to mind immediately, but man, everything he touched wasn’t gold.
i do love Donuts though as well. i listen to that all the time.
…that Jay Stay Paid is raw, though.
@rockstar718
“but its widely believed (or just has become my reality since me and others believe it so its our own private reality) that dark skinned woman have the prettiest women but they have more homely women than their light skinned counter parts”
That’s such a true statement! I’m of the brown skinned genre, but chocolate women have some of the prettiest, smoothest skin I’ve seen (no homo). Light skinned women are pretty by default…you know, long hair, pretty eyes, but they tend to lack true beauty. Beyonce is one of the few light women on my list that holds true beauty, but it still doesn’t compare to that of Naomi Campbell or Alek Wek…in my opinion.
@Ashley Neicole,
Alek Wek: http://www.hellomagazine.ca/profiles/alekwek/alek-wek-pb.jpg
@Ashley Neicole,
Co-sign on darker women having the prettiest and smoothest skin. Alek Wek’s skin is flawless, and even scary folks like Grace Jones gets my envy in terms of skin smoothness.
@Ashley Neicole,
That’s true. When’s the last time you saw a dark person with acne? Pimples?
Sluts!
@Me fail english?,
“Sluts!”
*chortles*
@rockstar718,
Light skinned/dark skinned girls – I switch on this subject more than anything else. It depends on the time of day in most cases but its widely believed (or just has become my reality since me and others believe it so its our own private reality) that dark skinned woman have the prettiest women but they have more homely women than their light skinned counter parts. Its harder for light skinned women to stand out because most of them are pretty and the ugly light skinned girls just look like thhad hard lives growing up.”
I officially luv you at this moment for this statement.
Gemini woman here
and I overstand darling….. we have the ability to see both sides of a coin simutanelously and can argue either side truthfully.
Who esle in the zodiac can size it up from the side, front. and back then move on to the next thought while most are still forming an initial one???….Gemini Rocks!!!!!
@OrangeStar616, yes, we are great.
and are better than everybody else.
@Panama Jackson,
Not better than Cancers.
@Ashley Neicole,
Yep…Cancers…all day!!!
@Ashley Neicole, not sure about you, but i dont want the cancer.
@OrangeStar616 and Panama,
Ya’ll need to flip flop and realize that Leos run this…and that.
@Cheekie,
Ya’ll need to flip flop and realize that Leos run this…and that
Say it one mo time!
King of the Jungle, King of the Zodiac. lol.
@iloV.E.G.rits,
Hear us roar. Eff you, pay me.
@Cheekie,
Leo’s 4sho it bout ta be summa summa summa time we own the summer learn about it
@Cheekie,
Leo’s own all!
We got Obama and Clinton (even though I’m not even feeling him anymore).
Who they got? Tupac and Biggie? Them ninjas just got shot! (c) Chris Rock
@Me fail english?,
*flatline*
@Me fail english?,
“Who they got? Tupac and Biggie? Them ninjas just got shot! (c) Chris Rock”
*DEAD* at the thought of a zodiac sign determining if you get shot.
@OrangeStar616,
I’m an aquarius and I have a strange attraction to all geminis non-gender specific.
@Blue Skyez,
*pssst* [hot breath whisper] According to my sister I’m a “Gemini rising” so I guess I’m supposed to like them too. But dont tell nobody.
@Me fail english?,
” [hot breath whisper] ”
It’s hilarious how I (and I’m sure a lot of other folks), know exactly how this sounds. *snickers*
@Blue Skyez,
I’m an Aquarius too, and a lot of my very good friends are Geminis. Aquarians are supposed to be compatible with Libra, Sagittarius, Gemini and other Aquarians. I find this is true.
Hooray for Air signs!
@WordSmith, oh and don’t forget them aries hot shyt.
Aquarius checkin in
Censorship for kids: I grew up in a house where nothing was off-limits…at all. Right down to the story of how I was conceived. (yeah, you read that right). And for all the sex, drugs and violence I was exposed to as a tot I think Im more responsible and respectful than most ppl I know. So it’s been smthg of a dilemma dealing watching my neices grow.
Should I shield them from their crazy family and the outside world and preserve their innocence? Childhood is so short. What’s the rush to grow up? And to this day I resent that I had so much grown stuff to worry about as kid.
On the other hand, I’ve been ready for life since I was a youngster and feel that maybe sheltering the youngins is really doing a great disservice, in that the “competition” (as my father likes to refer to other children…smh) is gonna be built Ford-tough and in the know while my princesses are gonna be lookin like lunch. Add to this, I think lil black kids are forced to grow up quicker than all others and Im really mad about that.
What to do?!
Where I’m from vs. Where I’m at (I promise this isn’t another gentrification spiel!!):
I’m the first generation of my fam on both sides not raised in the projects. I grew up thinking I should, I could, I would do better than my parents. Unlike them, I not only had the intellect and ability, I had the resources to succeed in every way. My house, my husband, my job everything should be a cut above what my mama did. Right?
But I find myself wrestling with the definition of progress.
Do I really want to buy a house in the burbs even though it’s very important to me that my children know and have close relationships with kids with similar backgrounds? (It used to make me cringe to see buppie kids talk about the hood and “ghetto ppl” with disdain that betrayed their own parents’ project upbringing.)
Should I really be limiting my dating pool to dudes with a college degree, good azz job, etc. when I was raised by and around “blue collar” (read: hood) dudes? That’s who I’m used to and that’s been my metric for masculinity, so why do I feel like I’m reinforcing a stereotype by dating my “own”? And are they my own? Or are men who’ve been similarly educated and groomed for professional success (usually a more white collar, middle class group) more, my peers?
BTW, if you pay attn to my posts you probably figured out these are old dilemmas. I already made up my mind about these!
Should I really be limiting my dating pool to dudes with a college degree, good azz job, etc. when I was raised by and around “blue collar” (read: hood) dudes?
I was watching that Erv Gotti reality TV show on VH1 this past weekend and further cemented why I think a degree requirement is the way to go. Erv’s wife wants their daughter Angie to go to college but Erv thinks college is a waste of time. I never ever ever want to have that argument with my husband. I believe a B.A. is a necessity for survival, and my husband needs to feel the same way. And have PROOVED IT by getting a degree himself.
Also, I don’t know how limiting it is. Dudes with degrees are becoming much more commonplace. In Boston it seems like many have advanced degrees even.
@Dom,
When I was single, they didn’t seem rare but they were def less common than their less formally educated counterparts.
I caught the Gotti show too and Irv sounded ignorant as hell. My pop isn’t a college graduate nor are my grandpas but all encouraged and approved of my higher education. I really wanted to slap the dog piss outta Irv for that ignorant siht. Being from the hood, you should know how much MORE effed up life can get when you dont have the degree.
@Me fail english?,
Thats all everyone was trying to tell him! I was so MAD he heard the same exact thing from Russel Simmons, but didnt believe it till the white dude at Fila said it. I cant stand Erv Gotti. I gotta catch the nbext one where his wife leaves his ignant as* just so I can laugh.
@Dom,
And is it just me, or was the Fila dude’s office kinda looking worse than mine?!
I know Fila aint doin numbers anymore and only members of Mobb Deep still rock em…but damn. You’re not even CEO of your own existence with an office like that. I’d just quit.
@Me fail english?,
LMFAO! Dam* Thats tuff! I did notice it looked a little….plain.
@Me fail english?, “so why do I feel like I’m reinforcing a stereotype by dating my “own”? And are they my own?”
I steer clear of women with degrees. I like em with like 8-12 credits left to go. They tend to be more level headed. I’m kind of kidding.
@Mr. Mister,
lol @ “kind of kidding”
@Mr. Mister,
No you’re not…lol!!!
@Me fail english?,
I feel you. It’s funny, but the more options you have, the more you realize that only a small number of things make you happy (and usually your parents already have those things and passed that interest/love down to you).
Also, it’s taken me over 30 years, but the one thing I’ve found is you have to live the life you want, not the life other people wanted to live themselves and now try to live through you. Seems basic, but I feel 80% of the people I know are chasing big money, but hate their lives.
@An Island,
I feel the same way. I used to have battle royales with Pops over career direction. Not much a dropout from the projects can tell me to begin with, but add to that he has a surly, aggressive demeanor that makes me wanna fight fire with fire. Can you say blowouts?
He and my uncle have always been exceptionally intelligent but weren’t challenged and sometimes discouraged from their ambitions (think two little black boys whose parents were from the Jim Crow South. You can imagine the humiliating talks Pop pop had with them when either expressed interest in being anything more than an X Ray tech).
So he’s had endless hope for what I could become and used to resent the fact that I didn’t want to be an actuary, radiologist, hematologist or any of the other stuff I talked about being when I was little.
I think he assumes I’m being lazy when in reality I just want to be happy and I didn’t believe I’d find happiness there. All things considered, I want a decent life/work balance, low stress job. So I chose what I chose and he’s forgiven me for it. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t feel guilty sometimes on some “dream deferred” type ish
@Me fail english?,
I feel you, except I went for it all, got it, and hate it (and myself?). But I STILL feel that doing what I’ve wanted to do since high school would convert infinite potential to infinite waste. Parents and pressure, I tell you bwoy. Ah well.
My Back & Forths:
- Reality TV: Sometimes the ish is just great, but sometimes I feel like I’m getting dumber every second of a VH1 show I watch. And is it really “reality” anymore?
- Chicken or the Egg: I’ve resigned this debate. I’ll just ask God once I get to heaven.
- Jay-Z and Beyonce: Probably the best economic move in R&B/Hip-Hop history and it seems like they’ve avoided the drama filled gossip world but damn sometimes I’m just sick of seeing their faces!
-Vodka or Rum: LOL this all depends on whichever one I last got sick off of!
@Ashley Neicole, on the liquor tip, i’m really a light vs dark kind of guy.
though i pretty much stopped drink dark liquor since everytime i drink a lot of browns, i end up asleep somewhere and cant remember the last evening’s events.
especially GM. i motherf*cking hate GM.
@Panama Jackson,
Used to have that battle. Had to give up the dark for exactly the same reasons lol.
@Panama Jackson, wait have you gotten up on their navan?
@Ashley Neicole,
“Reality TV: Sometimes the ish is just great, but sometimes I feel like I’m getting dumber every second of a VH1 show I watch. And is it really “reality” anymore?”
Yeah, I usually flip-flop between pointing out every fake aspect of the show or just enjoying it and going for the ride.
@Ashley Neicole,
“Vodka or Rum: ”
I have this dilemma too often.
@Ashley Neicole,
Vodka. Its that simple!
@Dom,
Rum cant drink the clear
Eddie Murphy’s Raw vs. Delirious: One gave us the Goonie Goo Goos, but the other gave us Dexter St. Jock. Purple suit or Red suit?
French Toast vs. Waffles: And is it wrong that I make the bf order whichever one I didn’t order so I can eat off of his plate???
Laid back, reserved, mature friends vs. Life of the party, make you feel like a kid again friends: Should this really ever be solved?
Salsa verde vs. Pico: Mmmmmmm
@Me fail english?,
“French Toast vs. Waffles: And is it wrong that I make the bf order whichever one I didn’t order so I can eat off of his plate???”
This is totally rational. And, frankly, genius. lol
@Cheekie,
me and the man do this on PURPOSE. More variety!
@blackberry molasses,
That’s love, mayne.
@blackberry molasses,
A couple after my own heart
@Me fail english?, French Toast vs. Waffles: And is it wrong that I make the bf order whichever one I didn’t order so I can eat off of his plate???
hell yeah it’s wrong. me and you’d never work out. i’m highly opposed to people taking food off of my plate. i do not like sharing my food for some reason. lol.
i’ve gotten into actual arguments about this with girlfriends.
@Panama Jackson,
I also do not share food. EVER.
I sadly admit I was one half of the “ghettoest couple in Applebees” award for smacking the hand of my lady friend when she tried to snag a fajita from me, and the subsequent altercation that led to the bartender actually saying “leave that b**ch, and give me a call”. It was reflex… I didn’t do it knowingly. I have two brothers. True story. No police were involved.
@Dante_Alexander, I like to share and quiet is kept I will eat all the food off a chick’s plate if she aint careful
yall got oldest child syndrome
lol at “smacking the hand of my lady friend”
@Blacklaw,
Lol. That always make me laugh how territorial ppl get with food! Like we’re animals and might have to fight to the death for this last morsel. My dad feeds these kittens that hang out in his yard and one kitten mushed his little brother/sister in the face with his paw for tryna eat outta the bowl with him/her. wtf?
Dante, Panama and the kitten will die of hypertension and loneliness.
@Blacklaw,
yall got oldest child syndrome
I’ll think they have youngest child syndrome… where they are not used to sharing anything at all.
With my sisters, if I had a piece of candy, I had to split it 4 ways. Sharing my food is really, really not a big deal… and I’m an oldest child.
@Sula,
Yeah, the youngest children tend to be far more selfish with the food. I stuck my fork in my little bros cake last week and he refused to touch it after that. He got a whole new slice!
@Sula,
Yeah, I’m the youngest and I don’t have a problem saharing the food, but NOT BEFORE YOU ASK/I OFFER IT. Only a select few may be an exception to this rule…it depends on my mood. Hell, I’ll slap my mama’s hand if she reached over and she’s my world.
I’m very territorial over pretty much everything deemed mine, though. I’m sort of a youngest child/only child hybrid because my older sisters are each 14 years older than me.
@Panama Jackson, OMG! My ex went off on me the first time I tried to cop a french fry off his plate and he immediately got 2 strikes on his evaluation. I thought he must be the most selfish person on the planet…..(actually I think I might have been slightly on point with that one but it went deeper than food) I had never dated a dude who wouldn’t share his food before him….now I see there are others….
It wasn’t about the food it was the principle! I don’t even particularly enjoy eating so there was no risk that I was gonna try to clean his plate.
@Me fail english?,
My food is my food unless I offer it. Putting your hand near my plate might result in a fork in your palm.
@Ashley Neicole,
4 sho.
You better ask before you reach in my plate, or you might draw back a nub.
@Ashley Neicole,
I wouldn’t reach in without asking. That’s just some ignorant, you gon eat yo’ co’nbread?, jailhouse type ish.
@Me fail english?,
I’m neither the oldest, nor the youngest.
I just don’t like to share food. Everything else? You can have whatever you want. In fact, I encourage it.
But food? you might as well ask to “borrow” my girlfriend for the night while you experiment with roofies and ecstasy.
I’m just joking. I don’t have a girlfriend.
I’m all around indecisive person (I’m trying to work on it) so this list could be endless but here are my top 3:
1) Continue my progress toward medical school to become a MD with a stable, possible 6 figure income, recession proof career and live with the regret of never following my true passion or follow my passion to become a fashion designer and possible fail then end up in a dead end job as a department store sales rep? hmmm….
2) To be a good parent pleasing daughter or to be a no holds barred do what ever I want kind of woman?
3) Casual sex or wait for a stable long-term relationship?
These are the dilemmas of my life. LOL.
@Blue Skyez,
Damn. That first one is tough. Having a friend in med school and another one trying to design, I know there isn’t a “do both” option.
Sorry, I have no advice …sucks to be you!
(Don’t you hate when ppl do that?)
@Blue Skyez,
Yes.
@Blue Skyez,
My advice on your Number 1.
Get the hard stuff out of the way when you are young. It’s technically easier to become a fashion designer later in life than it is to become an MD. But by the same token, being an MD is a vocation and would need you to be dedicated to some extent.
Here are the questions you should ask yourself: do you absolutely hate doing anything medically related? Do you have a solid business plan as far as what your designing businesss would be?
I’ll see a medical education as an insurance against your Fashion career later on. It’s there, and if all else fails, you can dust off that degree and go back to it. If med school seems too overwhelming, go for something simpler/shorter/easier that would still insure you a nice living if the fashion thing failed down the road.
If you were my sister, this is what I would have told you to do.
One major flip flop I’ve noticed lately:
VSB and its commentors. Sometimes I want to quit ya’ll for giving me tummy aches from laughing so hard and having to be all paranoid by rapidly switching to actual work via my multi-windows, and then the next second I’m coming for more and can never have enough. Ya’ll are a blessing a curse.
@Cheekie,
Hellz yeahz…I dipped out for most of last week but damzit all, I’m addicted to yallz!
@Ashley Neicole,
I know, I’m starting to experience the shakes when I can’t stop through here.
My hair… (please no comments from the Luvvie peanut gallery) When I had locs, I didn’t want locs/long hair… I cut them off then I missed having locs, twisted them this week and wanted my afro back… the f*ck?
Sisters are too schizophrenic and bipolar about hair, so I don’t tell them anything….I let them spin their own heads about it. besides, they ain’t interested in what a guy thinks anyway, even when they ask, so what’s the point?
@Naturally Alise, I’ma tell you like the gorillaz *hot breathed whisper* It’s all in your head.
The Max B verdict: I’m mainly torn cuz I wasn’t following the case too tough. I thought it sounded like he was in on it. And if that’s true he deserves whatever he gets. On the other hand, he had a base and sucks to see a dude blow trial when he had potential…
On a separate note, fire Saluti!
The Low End Theory or Midnight Marauders
I just cant’ even decide. There are days I think MM is marginally better and more cohesive and then there are days when I think LET is the best damn album I’ve ever heard. Torn, yo.
Liquid Swords or Only Built 4 Cuban Linx
In some ways, I think this comparison is totally unfair to both records as they are completely different pieces of music. Today – it is Liquid Swords, but tomorrow it’ll be Cuban.
@Tyler,
I switch back and forth on Tribe too and I’m not even a Tribe head. I’ll take Low End Theory though.
And OB4CL. No contest!
@Tyler,
Liquid Swords or Only Built 4 Cuban Linx
Oh man…this one IS difficult.
@miss t-lee,
WHAT?!
Verbal Intercourse? Criminology? All So Simple?
*brain explodes*
@Me fail english?,
lol– I love B.I.B.L.E., Cold World, 4th chamber, and Investigative Reports too.
I’m torn…I love both them albums…lol
@Me fail english?,
Yea exactly. I honestly call it a tie. Same with Tribe, folks.
That’s a punk move though, huh lol
@Tyler, yes it is. for one, Midnight Marauders is clearly the superior album. period. in fact, i’ve never understood why folks thought low end theory was better than midnight marauders. i think it comes down to personal preference. but the beats were more crisp and palatable…phife finally got a chance to shine…
its just a better album.
oh…and liquid swords.
@Tyler, If I had to choose between the two (Tribe) I’d go with “People s Instinctive Travels and the Paths of Rhythm “…oh wait
@Mr. Mister,
See, I am right there with you Mr. Mister… I don’t know why it never makes it to the conversation…
It’s my favorite (tribe). Even the title is “it”!
@Mr. Mister,
Fair point. I think there is an argument to be made that all three are brilliant with negligible differences between them, making it hard to choose. That said, I do feel like with LET, it just crystallized and made more vivid what worked on People’s. And I feel like MM is just the smoothest, which makes it the most memorable for me (though I’m not always sure that translates to “best”)
I usually have an
unsollicitedopinion on things, but there are a couple of issues I constantly go back and forth on, and it drives me nuts because I should be able to make my mind dangnabitt!1. Euthanasia: on one hand, it’s the right of a person to decide how they want to go and for the people to indulge that wish… On the other hand, when making these statements one is not sick, so it’s hardly an informed decision… Is it selfish for the onlookers to want to keep them alive and hoping? Or is the selfishness wanting to let them go and not picture them sick? One day, I am all for it, the next day I am all against it… It grinds my gears, and I am waiting for a very compelling argument to sway me one way or the other.
2. Capitalism (in its current form): I really think capitalism makes good business sense. Let the (stronger) product sell itself and the weaker ones fall by the wayside. Let people pull themselves up by their boot straps and make something out of themselves with no (apparent) handouts…. but that’s making too many assumptions. It’s sating that everybody wants/needs success, or that everybody starts on the same starting line… but the (extreme) alternative Communism also denies a fundamental of human nature: Survival Instinct…. So I am still pondering on what the ideal regime should be… and with the time and effort I have spent debating this in my head, I could have written a dissertation on it…. sadly, I still don’t know where I stand. Ugh.
Taqueria Arandas tres leches cake (all leches no fruit) or Bakery Andrades tres leches with layers of fruits? This is a debate that pops up anytime I have to buy a cake for entertainment purposes. And whichever cake I buy, I prefer the one I didn’t get that day… I guess I need to start buying both.
@Sula,
I agree communism effs up the game, no for denying a self-preservation instinct, but for disrupting the profit motive. On the other hand, aside from the reasons you stated, I’d surmise that purely capitalist systems wouldn’t be able to sustain themselves. History considered, I think we’re doing not bad (domestically, at least) with our quasi-capitalist system and the representative oligarchy democracy running interference.
On euthanasia…
I’m all in. You can argue that nobody makes informed decisions on death since we’ve never been dead long enought to get a good grasp of it. In a vegetative state, I’d hope someone would just kill me rather than doing the Terry Schiavo to me, but I understand if my mother couldn’t bring herself to kill me. But she and I disagree on a few things. One being, I believe there are several fates worse than death.
@Me fail english?,
luckily, if you’re made such a decision and put it in a legal document, such as a living will, your mother will not have to face that decision since it will be inevitable.
I disagree with the premise that most people making the decision are uninformed or not in a position to make a good decision on that topic. Sure, if we talk about it now, yes – it is all very theoretical. And if I get hit by a bus that puts me in a persistent vegetative state a few minutes later, it would be quite a dicey situation to then expect my opinions to suddenly have a legal and imperative force.
However, most people in this situation, who have either clearly articulated what is incontrovertibly their wish or will to someone whom they expect to carry out their wishes or they feel a need to inform of their wishes (which they may have outlined elsewhere in legal form) do so while they are in the less terminal but likely still inevitable phase of their condition. And unlike now, when I could make statements about what I want done (given that I’m in perfect health) without considering that if I should be so incapacitated, there will be no chance to change my mind or consider potential future cures or something, those people are facing their own mortality and I expect do not make or take their decisions lightly.
Perspective can be a b*tch
@kamakula,
“those people are facing their own mortality and I expect do not make or take their decisions lightly.”
I’d maintain that hardly anyone makes decisions regarding their own mortality flippantly, terminal or not. In fact, you could make the argument that a terminally ill person’s thoughts could potentially be so clouded with fear, hoeplessness, angst (or whatever strange, existential stuff dying authors write about) that they’d be less capable of making rational (however you’d like to define that) decisions.
@Me fail english?,
People always make decisions under some emotion. Who says a decision made when happy is rational. Besides, by with that argument, one could never make such a decision since it would be suspect if they were hale and suspect if they were sick.
@Sula,
“Taqueria Arandas ”
dayum it…now I want a torta. LOL
@miss t-lee, w/ a side of iced cold cocoanut cinamon horchata n some rice n beans and chips w/ assada on em w/ the crumbly white cheese uh
@Sula, We got’s to pick the ones w/ the fruit. got to geth them fruit servings in.
Apparently this topic raises many questions that assault my belief system… or lack thereof.
I am also on the fence about the age of women I decide to–ahem–pursue.
I’m 27, so the rule says I can get at a lady 20 1/2 (My age divided by 2, add 7). but I find I feel wrong about that, mainly because that is about the age of my sister, and I can’t help but see that same look of innocence in most (most, believe me, MOST, not all) of them.
My ex girl was 23, and after the aforementioned fajita incident and other tales of youthful indiscretion, we parted ways.
Anyway, lately I seem to get pissed when I find out a chick I might have an interest in is below 25. But I want it anyway. It’s like forbidden fruit. The crack-filled kind. And I’m Pookie Apple Seed. The closing in on 30 guy in me wants to settle, but the baby-faced assassin that still gets carded going into R-Rated movies and buying Lottery Tickets (Really.) wants to stay with the young, nubile women freed from the constraints of dormitory life and closing in on graduation, and therefore legal in all 50 states.
@Dante_Alexander,
Oooh, this is the same for me. I am mature for my age as is, and it is difficult trying to date someone the same age as me. However, with the dating pool for a single black 24 yr. old being what is, I keep being told to keep an open mind towards the 21-24 yr. olds. So, I try not to judge someone by their age. Then I am reminded of why I stay away from men my age or younger once I actually try to get to know one.
A couple of quickstrikes:
Swearing off porn vs. happily enjoying it:
Let’s face it, porn is quite dumb, quite racist, very lowbrow, often disgusting (gagging and bukkake) , does desensitize sex, is addictive, and a lot of that stuff simply ain’t that easy to pull off in the real world if you don’t do coke. But dammit, the memories ain’t that reliable anymore, and it is something inspiring when you come across a Stacie Lane or Italia Blue. Even if you feel like a creepy, filthy pud when you’re done and have to run away screaming and click on the news or something.
Deleting all the numbers and starting over vs. continuing to work them:
A brother gets sick of striking out, going to voicemail, and much of the other sometimey, confidence-killing gayness associated with the current roster…but sometimes it pans out and makes me hold out hope. And the issue might not be that she lost interest so much as timing. But above all, I’LL BE DAMNED if I look like THAT guy, which is why wiping it clean, closing the book forever, and going on a new bagging mission is tempting.
I just go back and forth on them monkeys. I don’t even know. Anual review comin up. gotta holla. Peace
@WuDaMan, pending the position… knooomean
Looks like I missed one heck of a pawty…. d@mned publication deadlines… D’ah well!
@blackberry molasses,
We missed ya!
Men with kids. Already having planted your seed somewhere else used to mean an automatic DQ from me. Notsomuch anymore. I’m not sure why, though. Single at 28 might have something to do with it. But it just doesn’t seem to be as big of a deal as it used to be.
@GiGi,
The older we get, the less likely we’ll see and meet people with no kids. Not unlikely by any means, but I know many a person who’s already been married, had kids, and gotten divorced. Sad, but true…
@Dante_Alexander AND GIGI,
I’m that dude whose cut-off point is one child. I’m only slightly amending that to if it’s two, that they’re by the same father. I’m not tryna be the “third baby daddy,” as the idea of that makes me feels some kinda way since I’ve never had children and my parents were always together. Besides the fact that so many single mothers pack big time bitterness anyway, I just always thought having children by multiple people and you’re still single means something’s off with you.
@Stuff Ghetto People Like,
I hear you, and completely agree. If they are all by the same person, or if they were married, I tend not to be as apprehensive about things.
I look at my Pops who’s damn near 60 now (damn, time flies), and I remember him going after chicks that were like in their mid to late 30′s and had already been through family life for a while almost exclusively. I asked why, and he said “Son, they don’t play no games”.
Cougars, Milfs and Former Desperate Housewives were the way to go, let him tell it.I’m slowly wrapping my mind around that one.
i love teedra moses. =) she’s so underrated. “life is just complex simplicity… thug it out”