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The Best Dating Advice For a Man? “Never, Ever Listen To Women.”

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Would definitely fare better with the ladies if he drove a Prius

(The following is an abridged version of a great conversation that The Champ may have never actually had last weekend with a young man who might not actually exist. )

Young Man (“Tommy”): “That doesn’t make any sense.”

Champ: “Why not?”

Tommy: “You’re supposed to be giving me advice about how to be more attractive to women, and your first piece of advice is to ignore everything women say about what they find attractive.”

Champ: “And?”

Tommy: “Well, doesn’t it make sense to get it from the source? I mean, who better to ask about women’s wants and desires than other women?”

Champ: “Hmm. What we have here is a failure to understand basic human behavior. If you don’t retain anything else I tell you, please just remember this one fact: Women are the absolute last people you should be getting advice from about what women find attractive. Why? Well, they have no f*cking idea themselves! Seriously, you have a better chance of hearing a hot 16 from Wiz Khalifa than you do of meeting a woman who knows exactly what they want in a man. And, if you happen to find the one chick in a billion who knows exactly what she wants, good luck in getting her to actually articulate it. It’s like asking a gazelle why they love getting eaten by cheetahs.”

Tommy: “So, just don’t listen to women, ever?”

Champ: “I wouldn’t take it that far. You should probably listen to your mom and when female baristas tell you that your hot chocolate is, in fact, hot. Also, once you’re actually in a relationship, listening to your girlfriend/wife every once in a while isn’t the worst idea in the world.

That aside, life has shown me that the single worst dating mistake young (and old) men make is crafting their behavior around the “cacophony of completely arbitrary noise” that’s better known as “women’s professed wants and desires.

And, just so I don’t come off as a raging misogynist, “women” could very easily be replaced with “humans.” None of us — men, women, West Virginians — know what we want about anything. Sh*t, I can’t even tell you what I want for dinner tonight, so how the hell do you expect me to know exactly what I’d want from something as complex as a romantic relationship?”

Tommy: “So, um, why am I even listening to you?”

Champ: “Because.”

Tommy: “Okie dokie. So, since I’m not supposed to listen to women, ever, what should I do?”

Champ: “Pay attention. That’s it. Pay attention to what they respond to. Pay attention to who they say they need to stay away from. Pay attention to who makes them nervous.

And, if you want to get specific, if you’re interested in a particular type of women, pay attention to the type of men that those women always seem to date. For heaven’s sake, don’t ever f*cking listen to a word any of them say about what type of men they find attractive, but watch closely, read, observe, assess, and act.”

Tommy: “Anything else?”

Champ: “I’ve noticed that smelling good seems to really help. Seriously, I know some women who’d f*ck a Michelin snow tire if it smelled like Escada Sentiment. What’s weird is that once they start to actually like you, “smelling good” means “any smell you produce aside from a fart.” They’ll eventually become hooked on your everyday scent, but you need some artificial assistance to lure them in. Basically, cologne is to women what lacefront is to men.

Also, I’d advise you to introduce an element of surprise in your life.”

Tommy: “So, hide in shadows and sneak up on b*tches?”

Champ: “Um, not exactly. I’m trying to teach you how to attract women, not homicide detectives. By “surprise” I mean that it tends to intrigue women if they learn something about you that they really didn’t expect.

For instance, if you look like Kimbo Slice, the women you meet probably aren’t going to be very impressed by your collection of Smack DVD’s or your tendency to chase down and stab motorists who’ve cut you off. But, if you generally look, dress, and act like Carlton Banks, revealing a side that’s a bit more “hood” and aggressive than they’d expect from you will make them think “Hmmm. That’s interesting.” And, as we all know, “Hmmm. That’s interesting” is internal womenspeak for “Hmmm. My thighs just got 8.5% more damp.

Tommy: “I guess that makes sense. I think women would be more impressed by a linebacker at spoken word than some Frankie Lymon looking-ass n*gga.”

Champ: “Right! This is actually what women’s (and men’s) magazines always get wrong when they’re advising men. Women aren’t impressed by men who are well-read or work out regularly or can educate them about our foreign policy as much as they’re impressed when these tasks are done by men who they wouldn’t immediately associate those attributes too.

I mean, if you’re a f*cking accountant, of course you should be able to wax poetic about the economy and the deficit, and you showing off this knowledge on a date aint going to impress anyone. But, if you’re an accountant who plays semi-pro rugby and the drums for a local hip-hop band? Instant Irene.

Tommy: “Irene?”

Champ: “Get it? Wetness? Moisture? Hurricane Irene?”

Tommy: “I see.”

—The Champ

Come and hang out with Panama Jackson this Saturday, September 3, 2011, as he throws the 2nd installment of Reminisce, a party dedicated to all 90′s everything. From 10-3pm, DJ Cuzzin B will be spinning nothing but the best of hip-hop, r&b, and dancehall from the 90′s. Best of all it’s FREE before 11pm ($10 after), there’s an OPEN BAR FROM 10-11PM and no dress code. It’s cheaper to party than it is to stay home. Oh, and no hurricane. So come party with VSB, Shine on Me, and Just Cause at Liv Nightclub, 2001 11th Street, NW, Washington, DC.

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Damon Young

Damon Young is the editor-in-chief of VSB. He is also a contributing editor for EBONY.com. He resides in Pittsburgh, and he really likes pancakes.

  • http://www.testorshia.blogspot.com Tes

    Since it matters not one way or another what I have to say about wants and desires, I’ll just sit back and listen closely.

    *pulls out notepad while pulling up a bean bag chair*

    • Corey

      You’ve been doing a lot of note taking Young Sweet Tes. You don’t have ANY thought on it??

      • http://www.testorshia.blogspot.com Tes

        Thoughts? Hmm…

        I just need comfort and companionship with a person. It seems to be so much harder to accomplish than it should be, and me being an old-fashioned girl puts me at a disadvantage for that sort of thing, but thats what I need. I’m not so sure what I want though, but I am positive of what I need. Does that make me an exception and not the rule?

        I think sometimes women confuse the two; we want the (__insert whatever the hell here__) type man but we really just need someone who understands us…and still choses to stay with us in spite of ourselves. :)

        • Corey

          Very good!! See was that so difficult? I tell you girl if I were 20 years younger…I would be in the bed by now!

          • http://www.testorshia.blogspot.com Tes

            Yours, mine or ours? o.O

            • Corey

              If I was 20 years younger I would probably be in yours cause I didn’t like storms when I was small!

        • Kidsister

          “…we really just need someone who understands us…and still choses to stay with us in spite of ourselves”

          Yes ma’am! I couldn’t have said it better.

        • Lurker In Transition

          Truth written

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      “Since it matters not one way or another what I have to say about wants and desires”

      i’m sure they matter…to somebody

    • Andi

      *Pulls the bean bag from underneath Pres*

      Girl get off your hiney and share!

  • tgtaggie

    All I want to know how old is “Tommy”? ‘Cause Nephew Tommy and his uncle got to be the same age.

    • CurlyTop

      Nephew Thomas also resembles a walking, talking pen.is.

      • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

        i actually think he favors a giant clit a bit more, but that’s just me

        • CurlyTop

          I’ve been slayed!
          R.I.P me

        • http://www.pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

          *PERISHED*

        • miss t-lee

          *muerte*

    • Beautiful

      I’m so happy you said that @ “tgtaggie”!!! .
      I was thinking the same thing!!!.. but it’s definitely possible, because I’m an Aunt and I’m only a few years older than all of my nephews and nieces. I’m able to understand and relate to their generation issues, but old enough to have figured many things out already. It’s possible!
      _____________________________
      As for my opinion on this creative writing..It’s creative! I honestly understand the satire in the title, but many won’t. It’s pretty much telling men to be themselves. You will attract some type of woman doing so. I’ve seen homeless couples. There is someone out there for anyone if they are seeking. You would stand a higher chance of attracting different varieties of woman if you broaden your personal horizons. Basically ..getting a life.

      • http://www.theleftsidepoets.wordpress.com MicTheMessenger

        And this should be found somewhere in sombody’s Bible…cuz this is straight TRUTH.
        You could be the QUIRKIEST dude on earth, and there is a woman who’ll find every quirk to be irresistable.

        I think it’s just something about being GENUINE that attracts humans period.

        • k-steez

          agreed.

        • A Woman’s Eyes

          Word!

        • http://www.ifiruled2011.wordpress.com Mahogany Princess

          Fo sho’

      • LSQ

        ****I’ve seen homeless couples.*****

        word!

  • The Other Jerome

    Huge lol at that pic!

    • kinnyb

      Seeing this at this time of day increases the laught factor.

  • E

    I’d say that women do know what they want (which may be in many cases what another woman has), but I do agree that paying attention to what women say is important.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      “I’d say that women do know what they want (which may be in many cases what another woman has”

      but, you could continue this statement by saying that the women who want what other women have didnt want it until it was had by someone else, which proves that they really dont know what they want, either

      • E

        Touche’, I can’t argue that.

      • Be On It

        Have you not been paying attention? When women “want” something another woman has, it’s not about sincere desire, but either spite/oneupmanship or needing validation by proving that you’re better than that particular woman by taking something of hers that she values. Has very little to do with the dude in question.

        As for the phenomenon of women being more attracted to men who are taken, when out & about, those men are usually 1) being themselves; 2) not being a douche. And they tend to dress & smell nicer.

        • http://www.theleftsidepoets.wordpress.com MicTheMessenger

          “When women “want” something another woman has, it’s not about sincere desire, but either spite/oneupmanship or needing validation by proving that you’re better than that particular woman by taking something of hers that she values. Has very little to do with the dude in question.”

          ^^^^Why it gotta be like this? Methinks women go HARD on competition whether its with outfits, hair, or armpieces…can’t we all just have what we have?

          WAIT…men do too. Please disregard.

          • Justmetheguy

            This post was great. Especially the Kimbo Slice pic lol. This line was so true though

            ” And, as we all know, “Hmmm. That’s interesting” is internal womenspeak for “Hmmm. My thighs just got 8.5% more damp.””

            Classic. Yeah, I agree with the advice (pay attention to what they respond to) and I’ll have to co-sign the fact that women are generally attracted to a guy that comes off as genuine and someone who comes off as atypical. I wish I had a nickel for every time I heard a woman say how she wanted something conflicting like ” A nerd/intellectual with that aggressive swag like Tupac” or some other rare oddity. Be a conflicting figure that doesn’t fall into one box and women will think you’re…interesting ;)

  • CurlyTop

    I really don’t think gazelles like being eat by cheetahs. But this statment
    “Basically, cologne is to women what lacefront is to men.” is TRUTH! Smelling like you bathed in Aqua Velva or Sean John’s Own the Night makes you the anti-Irene.

    • DG

      “I really don’t think gazelles like being eat(en) by cheetahs”

      As a fan of Wild Kingdom, I would generally agree with you. But, substitute women for “gazelles” and men for “cheetahs,” and see if doesn’t make a lil’ more sense.

      • A Woman’s Eyes

        But DG, as a fan of the wild kingdom of humans, if I substitute women for gazelles and men for cheetahs in that sentence, that’s a scenario that many VSBs have enjoyed with VSSs. Just sayin’

      • CurlyTop

        Thanks for that correction. I be typing wrong sometimes. As for that women, men thing I need to rest on and come back bro.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      “Smelling like you bathed in Aqua Velva or Sean John’s Own the Night makes you the anti-Irene.”

      i do think that some women somewhere should make a list of scents not to rock. or — re-reading my post again — maybe not

      • http://pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

        #1 Not To Wear: Preferred Stock.

        Fin.

        • kinnyb

          #2 not to wear Grey Flannel

          • Kema

            #3 Old spice = Stuff my dad wears

          • http://www.theleftsidepoets.wordpress.com MicTheMessenger

            Man i had an older uncle who wore Grey Flannel. It smelled God-awful. Like, it just smells like old guys. It sounds like something worn in the late 1800s during the Industrial Revolution. Figured it would’ve phased out with sleeve garters…

            • kinnyb

              Grey Flannel smells like Steel dust and transmission fluid.

              • miss t-lee

                *cackles*

              • xLadyTx

                LOL!

      • miss t-lee

        Drakkar Noir, CK One or any other scent that made it’s debut when I was in HS from ’92-’96.

        • Sweet Sass

          Hugo Boss. Giorgio Armani. Burberry.

      • http://www.mysixcents.wordpress.com K. LySha

        Smelling like too much of anything is an instant turnoff…I was once sitting on a bench at least 8 feet from a vehicle that appeared to have an attractive driver. But I swear to goodness that when that dude opened that door it smelled like I walked directly into a Perfumania for men. I was overwhelmed by the cologneyness eminating from his vehicle from 8 feet away! I instantly imagined myself suffocating if I ever accepted a ride in said vehicle with dude and all of Irene’s storm surge buildup was immediately replaced by a drought.

  • shortydoowop

    What?? Me? A lurker? FIRST?!

    HHHNGGGG!! *thats a heartattack ya’ll*

    • shortydoowop

      wow 7th?! what happened in those few seconds!

      *retreats to the FAIL corner*

      • Yoles

        come back… no more lurking.. and no more “thirsty firsty” (c) my e-sis TheAnti-Cool

        stay and comment and join the fray…. :D

        • http://twitter.com/kjnetic peter parker

          psst…Excuse me Miss…

          but is there a “first Saturdays” at BK Museum?

          • Yoles

            There will be no Target First Saturday @ BK Museum in September due to the West Indian–American Day Parade. Please join us again in October.

            on a lighter note i’ll be in Uniondale wed-fri this week ;)

            • http://twitter.com/kjnetic peter parker

              oh nice…i’m in uniondale sunday-saturday…lmao

              • Yoles

                so stop hiding peter… lets mini vsb meetup …. ;)

                • kickandasnare

                  let’s start a new support group….
                  #refugeesfromwestindiandayparade
                  : )

                  • Todd

                    Screw you. I’m a Windie and PROUD!

                    • Kema

                      @Yoles @Todd @whomever!!!

                      I’m coming to NY for my b-day and for the parade. I wanna meet up!!!

                    • Yoles

                      @Kema and whomever!!!!

                      email me: ImYolie226@gmail.com
                      put your name & vsb in the subject

                      for example…

                      it’s Yoles from VSB….

                      @Todd what’s a Windie??

                      YAY i love meeting people :D

                • http://twitter.com/kjnetic peter parker

                  it’s not that i’m hiding…it’s that i’m sleeping..lol

                  who else is in the island?

                  • kickandasnare

                    lol!
                    no one can sleep through that much soca.

                  • Todd

                    I’m about a half-hour from you. Holla!

            • Cayenne

              LOL! I’m mad Yoles got the whole calendar of events down!

              • Yoles

                Cayenne!!! email me!!

      • The Other Jerome

        Nice try though. I tried to de-lurk yesterday for that same reason. So close, and yet so far…….

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      “What?? Me? A lurker? FIRST?!”

      nope.

  • Brickhouse817

    My biggest pet peeve is when a man asks me what do I want our relationship to be like, aka:what do you want from me! It drives me nuts! Fool, I dont know how you are within a damn relationship. Act normal and I’ll tell you whether or not I like it!!! *stomps off angrily*

    BTW, lol at the pic and Amen to this subject. I dont what I want but when I see it I’ll take a picture.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      “Act normal and I’ll tell you whether or not I like it!!! *stomps off angrily*”

      does this apply to the bedroom as well?

    • Classy6ft5

      Please! This is my FAVORITE question to ask a man I just met!

      I usually ask it around the 2nd or 3rd conversation; no matter what the answer is, you can ALWAYS use it against them later on.

      Ex.

      “What do you want from me?”
      “An opportunity.”
      *smiling over the phone…this one will be TOO easy!*
      I gave him the pleasure of having the “opportunity” to take me out 3 times and decide I was done.

      A common answer is “I don’t know yet.” That’s a lie. Men (just like women) know what they want from you when they meet you. I allow them to take me out until they figure it out.

      Some will say “I’m just looking for a friend to kick it with” (i.e. FWB). At least you know where they stand.

      That one question has never failed me.

      • nillalatte

        Interesting. I had a man ask me why I thought we were friends? I was sort of stunned with this question. I never really think of why I’m friends with someone, we just are. He hugged me, wouldn’t let go, and then told me I smelled good. I told him my thought was “What does he want?” His response was, “Are you serious? We’re just friends.” Okaaay. Then confusion set in. And, men complain women?! Ha!

        • kickandasnare

          ^^^^That is shady!
          Note to nillalatte: Check if ‘friend’ is trying to gaslight you.

        • Classy6ft5

          Yeah, this is kinda crazy. I agree w/ kickandasnare.

          I only use the things men say in their exact context, I’m not in the business of manipulation.

        • http://www.wildcougarconfessions.com Wild Cougar

          Translation: I need you to express romantic feelings for me. You are a woman, so your failure to do this makes me feel like you don’t want my wang. But as soon as you declare these feelings, I will tell you I don’t want anything serious. I just want you to want it.

          • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

            you need a hug? that sounds like you need a hug.

            for the record, i had a chick do that to me. it goes both ways, oh ye cougar.

            • http://www.wildcougarconfessions.com Wild Cougar

              As a matter of fact, Ye Panama, I could use a hug. You giving free hugs now? Where do I get in line? I had a dude do this to me last week. Never saw it coming. I should have and that pisses me off.

              • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

                *Hug*

                If you come thru on Saturday and stop me, I’ll give you a real one. I consider it my civic duty.

          • nillalatte

            @Wild Cougar… Truth.com right there! My thoughts exactly. He is actually the one that I told him I didn’t want to sleep with him. Getting pannies is too easy for him. I think he needed someone to show him ‘love’ in a different way. Now seems we’re back to Lil Wayne’s “how to love” only this time it is the dude that got jacked.

          • Sweet Sass

            OMG THiS!!!! THIS THIS THIS THIS!!! Shi…. if this hasn’t happen to me about a million times.

      • http://www.theleftsidepoets.wordpress.com MicTheMessenger

        I usually ask it around the 2nd or 3rd conversation; no matter what the answer is, you can ALWAYS use it against them later on.

        Sheesh, Classy 6ft5, why you gotta use it against them? This ain’t the court of law…and i would think you’d have enough leverage on ppl already, being 6ft5.

        And why does your avi look like a shadow ninja?

        I’s scared of you.

      • http://www.wildcougarconfessions.com Wild Cougar

        That ish right there is funny cause dudes will trap themselves telling you what want. Back in college, I used to do that game, too. When a guy would tell me he wanted to be friends, I would say, that’s cool, I’m glad were on the same page. You remind me of my brother. I don’t have a lot of male friends, most guys just want sex. I’m so glad you’re different. What a relief. Wanna go to the movies?

        • Sweet Sass

          You are sly. I’ve done the same thing b4. They don’t know what to do after that.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

      Women ask that question a lot too. Between that and “where is this going?” two dates in, I think the Internet has ruined dating b/c every wants too much information.

      I miss the good ole days when you could date somebody for years in limbo where nobody knew where you were going or why. That’s what made for hte best episodes of Jerry Springer and Maury Povich.

      all jokes aside, a dude asking what you want from him is smart money on his part b/c he can figure out what it is that you’re aiming for. Some women will say, “i’m looking to get into a relationship” and if he’s not, he’ll know to try as hard as he can to hit within the next 2 dates b/c once she figures out that he isn’t, she’ll bounce (which never happens…women, what masochists)

      • Birdsofafeather

        “I think the Internet has ruined dating b/c every wants too much information”

        The internet gives way too much information (screw this information age bull crap). I can find out how old you are, your astrological sign, where you currently live, your hometown, where you went to school, that you are missing your pinky toe on your right foot, your favorite artist, where you work, the fact that you watch “Coming to America” everytime it comes on, your last girlfriend/boyfriend, your current girlfriend/boyfriend, if you have kids, how many kids, what you had for lunch, what you wore to your spring ball sophomore year, the fact that you lied about where you were last weekend, the magazine you read while taking a donk on the toilet, and I could go on and on… and this is listed without me even having to ask you one single question (I just ask out of common courtesy, helps the conversation flow n sh*t)

        Just in that alone I could sum up if we would be compatible or not. Sad but true.

      • kickandasnare

        Idk…
        I get the whole idea of ‘being upfront’ w/ someone but doesn’t asking the question “what do you want” all out in front like that seem kinda corporate? I’m not even sure thats the right word, but its like we”re in the middle of a business discussion not one based in affection (hopefully!). Where’s the romance?

        • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

          it’s semantics…you could easily ask, “what are you looking for right now?” and its the same thing. to me anyway.

          • kickandasnare

            meh. I think its more about intent than semantics That seems like the kind of thing you would find out (to get back to Champs post) in the course of spending time w/ someone. In fact, as is so very often pointedly pointed out (by vsbs) (wo)men say one thing but mean or really want another thing entirely. Not sure why I want people to be saving their breath and all and just show me what they want… maybe its the eco-sensitive in me… stop spewing CO2 people!
            #Itsgettinghotinhere
            no really, on earth : )

  • Andi

    I agree. I think this definitely applies to people in general. Folks are full of sh!t. Nobody really knows what they’re doing. And a lot of “I always” and “I nevers” can be nuetralized by the right place/time/person.

    As far as what people want, it’s kind of like Potter Stewart trying to define p0rn0graphy, “I know it when I see it.” For me personally, I know myself, I have a good idea of what my needs are, and I know what I want out of life. So it’s not so much that a man needs to have x,y, and z, but whatever his letters are they need to fit mine. I have a good guess as to what he might be like, but I’ll know it when I see it.

    I also agree about complexity being a turn on. I like having to figure someone out. Unless I don’t like what I’m seeing, then he goes back in the box and I take out a new puzzle.

    But back to the original topic, I’m with you Champ. Never listen to (wo)men about what they want in a partner. This is why as much as I love the e-fam in the comments section, I take everything everyone says with a Costco sized vat of salt….

    Corporate thug…? -_-

    • xLadyTx

      +me

      • Andi

        Thank you Lady :)

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      “I’m with you Champ.”

      this’ll get you far in life

    • http://pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

      Or a goon businessman? lol

    • http://naturallyalise.com/blog/ Naturally Alise

      “And a lot of “I always” and “I nevers” can be nuetralized by the right place/time/person.”

      This is why I have given up on having “a type.” There is so much complexity that goes into attraction and retention of a mate. Not an exact science at all.

      • http://www.pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

        Andi – ““And a lot of “I always” and “I nevers” can be nuetralized by the right place/time/person.””

        Alise – “There is so much complexity that goes into attraction and retention of a mate. Not an exact science at all.”

        These two statements need to be signed, sealed, and delivered to the world. Or at least a lounge on Thursday nights.

        • http://naturallyalise.com/blog/ Naturally Alise

          Roger, go home.

    • Rewind

      I’m glad someone has the ovaries to say stuff like this. I hate the notion that all of my life, I’ve been going about this the wrong way, trying to respect women’s feelings and needs, only to realize they have no clue what’s going on.

      It is ok to just say, “I’m not sure, but I’ll let you know when I get there”.

    • Cayenne

      Yes! eggsactly Andi!!

    • http://www.theleftsidepoets.wordpress.com MicTheMessenger

      I also agree about complexity being a turn on. I like having to figure someone out. Unless I don’t like what I’m seeing, then he goes back in the box and I take out a new puzzle.

      …well dang, what happens when you figure them out? Do you frame them and hang them on the wall as a reminder that you’re good at figuring ish out? Do they sit on your dining room table for eons cuz youre too lazy too frame them? Do you break them down and put them back in the box, losing interest for all eternity?

      I’m curious as to why i asked myself these same questions as i typed them…

      • Andi

        LOL! You definitely took the metaphor and ran with it.

        If I figure it out and I like it, I enjoy it.

        I think that’s what everyone does. You get to know a person, you see if they are a good fit, and if so – you move forward. The puzzle imagery takes it way deeper than I intended.

        • http://www.theleftsidepoets.wordpress.com MicTheMessenger

          i know, but sometimes its fun to steal ppl’s words and run with them. metaphors make for great hobbies.

          and i STILL haven’t answered those questions for myself.

  • Corey

    While I personally agree with the sentiment here, you do realize that every woman in this hemisphere that has electricity is going to vehemently disagree with you right? Or maybe that further proves the point….hmmmmm…..

    • CurlyTop

      Off topic:
      How long have you had your locs?

      • Corey

        7 1/2 years strong!!

        • CurlyTop

          Teach me thine ways! I just started my second set and need blessings and assistance.

          • Corey

            Inbox me on the book of faces and ish. I’m Corey Stovall. It’s public as far as I know so you should be all good.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      “While I personally agree with the sentiment here, you do realize that every woman in this hemisphere that has electricity is going to vehemently disagree with you right?”

      not the smart ones

    • http://pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

      “you do realize that every woman in this hemisphere that has electricity is going to vehemently disagree with you right?”

      Probably not. In fact, what I find hilariously interesting is the frustration that men express when women EXPLICITLY say they want a corporate man with a little hood in him. We want it all apparently. lol

      • http://www.wildcougarconfessions.com Wild Cougar

        Nah, I want a brilliant burly blue collar guy who makes six figures with his hands and writes poetry and html code

        • Fivegirl

          mmmm html. now that’s sexy

          • http://www.pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

            Yeah, if a dude wrote a love letter to me in only HTML code, I’m pretty sure there would be a Hurricane Cheeks.

        • http://www.pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

          *falls out*

          • http://www.theleftsidepoets.wordpress.com MicTheMessenger

            This whole everything is FUGAZI. That dude only exists in the land of Tyler Perry.

            Otherwise, there’d be alot more drug dealers who managed to make it out.

            You see what happened to Stringer Bell?

  • El T LOVE!

    Man that’s so real it’s unreal. Women will tell you what they like and date the exact opposite every time. My dad sprinkled me a long time ago. Never had a problem with the ladies.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      “My dad sprinkled me a long time ago.”

      that sounds painful

    • dos pesos

      Is your dad R, Kelly?

      • Kidsister

        *in tears*