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How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love Love Jones

Several months ago, I met with Shaunda Miles — the program director at the August Wilson Center for African American Culture — to discuss potential collaborations between VSB and the AWC. We didn’t make any formal plans at the time, but she did let me know that they were planning on having a “Love Jones Week” in February — a week of events centered around a Q&A with Ted Witcher (the writer and director of Love Jones) and a screening of the film — and wanted to have VSB involved in some way. Again, though, this conversation happened several months ago. And, with all the other VSB related stuff going on this year, I kind of forgot about it.

Fast forward to three weeks ago. Liz, Panama, and I had just decided to go ahead and try to pull off this nationwide VSB day thing, and I was exhausting all of my contact resources to find a Pittsburgh-area venue that would work. Just as I was thisclose to saying “f*ck it” and just having everyone meet at McDonald’s, I received a call from Shaunda, asking if I had any ideas for a possible Thursday, Feb 10th event to help kick off the Love Jones week. Talk about serendipity!

Anyway, after 15 or so minutes of conversation, they agreed to host a book launch party/mixer for me, and I agreed to help promote their Love Jones week and attend the Saturday evening screening of Love Jones, the pre-screening reception, and the post-screening Q&A session with Witcher.

Damn.” I thought to myself after realizing how serendipitous this series of events had been “I guess I should probably sit down and actually watch Love Jones now.

Yes. You read that correctly. I — a black man who co-founded a blog about dating, relationships, and pop culture and co-authored a book about dating, relationships, and pop culture — had never actually seen Love Jones — quite possibly the most iconic movie about black love and relationships ever made.

Sure, I knew who Darius Lovehall and Nina Mosley were and what they represented, I was acquainted with the oft-lauded premise, plot, setting, and soundtrack, I knew how influential this movie was to the slam/spoken word movement that seemed to capture America in the late nineties and early aughts, and I was even aware of the circumstances leading up to the film’s most cited line — “I love you. That’s urgent like a motherf*cker”

But, certain circumstances¹ made it so that I never actually watched the entire movie from beginning to end, a situation Netflix helped remedy the morning before the screening.

I guess this is where you’re probably expecting me to devote 200 to 400 words worth of snark to how cliche, dated, inane, and unrealistic Love Jones was. Sh*t, as soon as I knew I was going to be attending the screening, I expected that I would devote 200 to 400 words worth of snark the following Monday to how cliche, dated, inane, and unrealistic the movie was too.

This, this bit of art-induced learned helplessness, isn’t completely my fault though. Years of witnessing uninspired black cinema and listening to the perpetual deification of movies I thought were excessively “eh” (read: Best Man, The) has made me an active member of St. Wesley’s Church of The Perpetually Disappointed Negro Filmgoer.

But, something surprising happened while watching it Saturday morning. I liked, no, I loved this movie. I loved the very real chemistry between Nia Long and ²Larenz Tate. I loved the dialogue. I loved the fact that I genuinely laughed at sh*t that was supposed to be funny. I loved the Teenie Harris-esque feel of the opening black and white shots. I loved Lisa Nicole Carson’s Lisa Nicole Carson-ness. I loved the fact that the story centered around people I can imagine myself knowing and having drinks with. I loved that the movie was “grown and sexy” before the term “grown and sexy” became a euphemism for “immature and skanky.”

Most importantly, I loved how in love Ted Witcher was with everything he put into this movie. More than just a drama about a few people, Love Jones was an ode to black people, to Chicago, to music, to love, to words, to sex.

This doesn’t mean that the movie was without flaws. Darius and Nina faced some serious roadblocks that would have permanently derailed any couple’s attempt at romance. (Darius was a bit of a stalker. Also, there’s no way in hell that Nina goes to New York to stay with her lukewarm ex.) And, even though this movie was made 14 years ago, I just can’t believe that even in 1997 you’d find a clique of educated 20-something black people where each and every one of them smoked cigarettes.

But, these are minor details that actually contribute the movie’s overall aesthetic, its cool. And, on this Valentine’s Day, I have to admit that Love Jones is a great gotdamn f*cking movie…even if I’m 14 years late in realizing it.

More VSB news and notes

1. While the brick cold weather and the time of the event — 5 to 7 pm, right when people were getting off work — made for a late arriving crowd, approximately 100 people showed up for Pittsburgh VSB day, and I was genuinely verklempt and sh*t from all the support. Also, along with the picture taking and book signing, I — with some crowd participation — read a few excerpts from chapter 3, “Men, Found in Translation: Decoding and Deciphering the Language of Man

Although the book launch party officially ended at 7:30, the night continued as Tamika “Love” Jones and Wes Felton performed in a room upstairs until midnight.

2. I got a chance to speak to Ted Witcher³ at the pre-screening reception, and we spoke about the rarity of small-scale adult romantic dramas. Basically, movies dealing with love and romance today tend to either be romantic comedies or sweeping period pictures, and he thinks that Hollywood feels that audiences just don’t want to see real people doing real romantic things without a joke every 0ther line. (Sounds familiar.)

Also, in probably the single most humbling sentence I’ve heard in at least a decade, while talking about writing, he casually mentioned that he wrote Love Jones when he was 24 years old. Twenty f*cking four years old!!!

3. If you have pictures from VSB day you’d like to post, please don’t hesitate to send them in to contact@verysmartbrothas.com.

We’re creating an album of all the VSB days from around the country, and we’ll post it later in the week. (Probably Friday.)

4. Panama and I were interviewed by Kellee Terrell (news editor of The Body) last week, and that interview should be up on The Root today. Don’t have a direct link to it yet, but check it out if you get a chance. (Update. Here’s the link)

5. I have a weekly feature at TheLoop21, “The Powerful Black Family Power Rankings.” I’ll also be writing about dating and relationships over there as well. “Beware The Butterflies” — an extended and fleshed out version of a blog about the whole love a first sight phenomenon I wrote about several months ago — is up today.

6. Lastly, although we all have mixed feelings about Valentine’s Day (and by “mixed” I mean “vomit-inducing”), check out Edge Magazine for a reminder of why we need it.

¹A) I was in college at the time the movie was released, and, aside from The Player’s Club, Jeepers Creepers, The Perfect Storm, and The Matrix (Yes. I know that’s a random-ass list. Thanks for asking, though.), I didn’t see any new movies in a 5 year span. This is either extremely positive or extremely depressing. I’m not exactly sure which, though. B) I was in a very unhealthy relationship in 1997, and this made me a bit of a hater of all things “black people in love and sh*t.” Because of this, I avoided Love Jones like the plague. And, even as the years passed, it still had that 1997 stink on it.

²Although he never seems to get any credit when discussing great actors, can you think of another actor that could have pulled off both O-Dog and Darius Lovehall — both iconic characters — so convincingly? Also between “urgent than a motherf*cker” and “these motherfuckers smoked your goddam cousin in front of you, nigga!” you gotta give him props for creative and believable use of “motherf*cker” too.

³He’s also from Pittsburgh, a fact which made me only the second most popular young black writer from Pittsburgh whenever he was in the room. Yes, I’m definitely hating. Thanks for asking.

—The Champ

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Damon Young

Damon Young is the editor-in-chief of VSB. He is also a contributing editor for EBONY.com. He resides in Pittsburgh, and he really likes pancakes.

  • Nike

    *Lurker Alert*
    I have never seen Love Jones, never really wanted to see it (don’t judge), but I am now putting it on my must see list.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      welcome and sh*t. and, welcome to the “late as sh*t” club. your membership dues are due at the beginning of the month, but since this is the “late as sh*t” club, don’t worry about sending them in until July of 2016

      • Nike

        Wow I got a “welcome and sh*t” and membership to a new club!!! I feel all warm and fuzzy and sh*t.

    • Nerd Girl

      I watched it for the first time last night. Eh. I can see why all my friends were loopy for this movie a decade ago. Nothing about it really spoke to me – but I’m in a totally different place than the characters in the movie. Nia Long and Isaiah Washington have aged really well!

  • SouthernBelle

    So glad you’ve finally seen the light! :)

    And, I love Dub Ell, too!

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      dub ell?

      • Deviant

        W. Ellington Felton

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

      you do?

  • Cris Until I Find a Clever Name

    I have to say Love Jones is also one of my favorite movies. It spoke to my generation and the things we went through just to BE HAPPY-not necessarily find love.
    And after Loves Jones premiered EVERYONE thought they were poets! If you guys knew how many house parties were “Poetic Events”…ugh…and no one ever acknowledged the BAD POETRY,LOL.
    As long as people talked while someone beat a drum (badly I must add), the poem was automatically great-NOT!
    I miss seeing Lisa Nicole Carson in movies!!! :( I still lusted after Isiaiah Washington in this nerd role too!
    And Larenz officially became my “Short Man Fantasy Husband” after I saw Love Jones

    • http://twitter.com/SmartFoxGirl SmartFoxGirl

      “And after Loves Jones premiered EVERYONE thought they were poets!”

      Yas! lol I’m sorry, I love poetry and all but some of these guys were coooorrrrnnnnyyy. They would use that poetry vibe as pick up lines like “Say woman, etc” Ugh lol You have to be really good to pull of the poetry thing. Even to this day, I find alot of poets to be full of sh*t. Sorry, not all but it can def get bad and I’m not afraid to say it. :)

      • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

        “Even to this day, I find alot of poets to be full of sh*t. Sorry, not all but it can def get bad and I’m not afraid to say it. :)”

        lol, yeah i agree. but, you can find full of sh*t people in any venue. don’t know why poets are expected to be exempt.

        • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

          because poets expect you to take them very seriously, as they tend to take themselves very seriously. it makes it hard to not to be so uber critical of somebody who makes it a point to let you know that you just don’t get their depth.

          • http://twitter.com/SmartFoxGirl SmartFoxGirl

            Ding ding ding! Exactly.

      • V Renee

        <i. Even to this day, I find alot of poets to be full of sh*t. .

        Me too! I go to spoken word events just to drank and laugh. But then again, I just think the market is oversaturated with them. Nowadays it’s at least 2 different spoken word events every night.

        • http://twitter.com/SmartFoxGirl SmartFoxGirl

          It’s small but growing out here. I usually go to “support” a friend which ends up being me laughing in a corner. lol

        • http://www.pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

          I seriously think the most hilarious “spoken word” scene was in Madea’s Family Reunion when Boris’ love interest did her thang. I was like… “Really?! This simpleton sh*t?”

          • http://twitter.com/SmartFoxGirl SmartFoxGirl

            Lmaaaooooo….yes! I was clowning her for like 2 mins straight and him painting that god awful painting. wtf was that?! LOL

            • http://www.pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

              Right. Folks think that just because they put that affectation on some words, they figure we ain’t gon’ notice that sh*t. lol

      • Cris Until I Find a Clever Name

        ..and just because you have a book with words that rhyme; wear your hair in locs and smell like Egyptian Musk/Incense does NOT make you deep.
        And if you like a poem, just clap your hands…you dont have to snap your fingers like youre actually in Love Jones Part 2,LOL

  • http://pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

    “Just as I was thisclose to saying “f*ck it” and just having everyone meet at McDonald’s”

    I’m sure I laughed at this off-and-on for like 5 minutes.

    Mmmm, Larenz Tate.

    • j.ivy

      While of been a fan of LJ and Larenz since LJ and Larenze, I had to think, when is it cute for a lil dude, with no shape or at least some semblance of a line to stalk u??? Still love it, but I was really tripped Up by his lack of grooming.

      • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

        “While of been a fan of LJ and Larenz since LJ and Larenze, I had to think, when is it cute for a lil dude, with no shape or at least some semblance of a line to stalk u???”

        i think his size helped him. i mean, i think nina probably would have let darius in her crib if he was a big baby davis sized n*gga

      • http://www.pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

        Yeah, I’m with Champ. Nia, while petite herself, could take him.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      “Just as I was thisclose to saying “f*ck it” and just having everyone meet at McDonald’s”

      this, btw, was a lie. i actually would have just invited cats to my basement

      • http://www.pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

        With Mama Champ upstairs?

  • http://brotherspanky.bandcamp.com/track/365-valentines-day brotherspanky

    i too, had to succumb to the powers of ‘love jones.’ like ‘love and basketball,’ its equally-referenced follower, it may be easy to scoff at its predictable plot or archetypal characters, but at the end of the day, when compared to its white rom-com counterparts, it’s par for the course, if not better than.

    and valentines day? don’t get me started. my weblink has a better synopsis of my thoughts.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      “i too, had to succumb to the powers of ‘love jones.’ like ‘love and basketball,’ its equally-referenced follower, it may be easy to scoff at its predictable plot or archetypal characters, but at the end of the day, when compared to its white rom-com counterparts, it’s par for the course, if not better than.”

      see, while love and basketball is in the same category/genre, i don’t think it’s in the same class.

      • Lelechigyrl

        I agree.

      • kmplx

        someone please find me a black movie in the same class… love jones does me friggin’ proud. anytime i suffer through some tyler perry-esque ish, i have to scrub the memory out with love jones as confirmation that we do make some absolutely fantastic ish. and no-one died.

        on another note: are toasted oats really greater than cap’n crunch?

  • tgtaggie

    @Champ:

    You just gave me a good idea. I might need to re watch Love Jones. I just want Larenz Tate’s swag off that movie.lol.

    I am also a professional cynic when it comes to Valentine’s Day- the most overrated day of the year. Christmas and Thanksgiving is second and third respectfully. Ninjas jumping through hoops to impress/tell some girl that he loves her. What are you going to do for the other 364 days. #justkeepingitreal

    Finally, I am happy that TALENT (Esperanza Spalding) not hype won the best new artist category at the Grammy’s this year. I know Usher’s retirement check (Justin Bieber) and its followers are upset. I think she is one of the baddest chicks in the game right now. I think is the combination of her talent, style, ‘fro and sound that does it for me.

    • tezzybaby

      Cosign on the Esperanza Spalding!!!

    • whykendra

      “I am happy that TALENT (Esperanza Spalding) not hype won the best new artist category at the Grammy’s this year’
      i cheered for her too! (and not just for her beautiful natural hair)

      “the most overrated day of the year.”
      i think you always see more haters than lovers on and around v day.

      • Leonie UK

        I loved the Bruno/B.O.B/Janelle performance that should have been the opening act, not the one I switched off and made tea for. My favourite performance was & Mumford & sons with Bob Dylan awesome.

        • http://uphereoncloud9.com Wu Young, Agent of M.E.

          I liked the Mumford & Sons performance too. That was one of the few times other than the Carolina Chocolate Drops that the sound of banjos didn’t make me want to run through the swamp and hide from the dogs.

        • Sula

          I loved Mumford and Sons! I added their CD on my must-buy list… And The Avett Brothers did an awesome job too. But Bob Dylan is just that dude.

        • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

          dude, Mumford & Sons made such a fan out of me. that sh*t blew my mind. ive had “the cave” on repeat all morning.

          put it this way, i’d pay money to be the only black person in the audience to see them perform live now.

        • http://thisistip.wordpress.com/ ThisisTip

          I think the Bruno/B.o.B./Janelle performance was my favo of the night.

        • http://www.pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

          Mumford & Sons is dopeness. I love me some truly passionate singers. I can FEEL their songs.

        • tezzybaby

          Not to undermine Dylan’s talent at songwriting and all the other great contributions he has made to music but I just cannot get into his voice no matter how hard I try, that sandpaper-too many menthols-dry rub sound is not the bizness to me and its’s unfortunate b/c I can often see the beauty in the not “traditional” good tone singing voices. Other than that I think Mumford &sons and the Avett Bros. did a great job!!

          • Ms. My2Cents

            Wow…I didn’t see your reply prior to posting mine. Get out of my head!!! :)

          • http://www.pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

            Yup, I was definitely a fan of Dylan when he had the cuter, younger voice. I mean, I know he a legend and sh*t (and that they tend to revisit their hits when they get older), but he can stop singing now. He sounds like a Surgeon General’s warning.

            • Femster

              LMAO @ “He sounds like a Surgeon General’s warning.” Oh my gash buhaha.

              I missed this performance. If this performance was after Rihanna’s, I blame her. When I tuned in, she was singing and she scared me off.

              If it was before, I still blame her. And Jim Jones.

        • Ms. My2Cents

          Yeah, Mumford & Sons were the bizness last night! I had heard of them but not heard their music…needless to say I’m now a fan! The other dudes (Avrett Brothers or something) also weren’t bad. (Bob Dylan, on the other hand, needs to put down the mic for good! Shots fired.)

          @ PJ – I think it’s safe to say that, after last night, they may have more than one brown dot in the audience for their future shows! You shall not bear the burden alone. LOL

          Also, may I point out the rather unexpected and well-executed performance of “Jolene” by Norah Jones, John Mayer and Keith Urban. Me likey!

          That is all.

          • http://uphereoncloud9.com/ Wu Young, Agent of M.E.

            Jolene was dope too!

          • http://twitter.com/Phidelity15 Phidelity15

            cosign on the Jolene performance. It was a beautiful surprise

    • j.ivy

      @Tgtaggle,
      Well while you swagga jack, please maintain your relationship with your barber please.

    • WIP

      “Usher’s retirement check (Justin Bieber)”

      Nice.

    • Ivy St.

      “Finally, I am happy that TALENT (Esperanza Spalding) not hype won the best new artist category at the Grammy’s this year.”

      I really need to look her up. I never heard of her until last night.

    • Lelechigyrl

      @tgtaggie “Finally, I am happy that TALENT (Esperanza Spalding) not hype won the best new artist category at the Grammy’s this year.”

      I totally agree here! I am so happy to see that Esperanza won for Best New Artist category. I was suprised at the number of people who were not aware of her music.

    • http://thatdamnafrican.wordpress.com/ That Damn African

      Esperanza is the truth!! Been sweating her for a while. Glad she got some well deserved recognition (even though she isn’t new lol). I was kinda disappointed at how many people didn’t know who she was, but not surprised.

    • legitimate_soul

      Co-signing on Esperanza Spaulding. Her win gave me joy.

  • whykendra

    “And, even though this movie was made 14 years ago, I just can’t believe that even in 1997 you’d find a clique of educated 20-something black people where each and every one of them smoked cigarettes.”

    and he smokes wit cigawettes.

    i have some questions for you champ:

    the fact that darius was releasing his first book?…creepy timing huh?

    what did you think about the part when at the little dinner party scene at his friends house my brother pulled out a drum and dancing commenced??

    • http://twitter.com/SmartFoxGirl SmartFoxGirl

      “what did you think about the part when at the little dinner party scene at his friends house my brother pulled out a drum and dancing commenced??”

      Am I the only one who thought this part was corny? lolol

      • Leonie UK

        ” I need some food that had parents”
        one of he best line stealers was from that corny dinner scene.

        • http://twitter.com/SmartFoxGirl SmartFoxGirl

          Oh so THAT’s where I got it from. I say it all the time. lol

      • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

        lol. yeah, i did too. in fact, i might go buy a drum just to take with me places so i can pull out the drum and start playing it when ninjas start talking.

        come to think of it, that’s a great sketch idea.

        • Trouble

          Its kinda-sorta been done already. Do you remember when Chapelle did that skit with John Mayer/ Questlove about how different races react to different types of music?
          Hilarious!

      • http://www.twitter.com/alanatoolie Alana

        Honestly, the rest of the movie was so good to me and I feel that part was fairly insignificant, I will forgive it.

    • http://twitter.com/#!/NewYork2VA NY2VA

      As much as I love that movie, that ish was crazy and awkward as hell. Everytime I see it I want her to saddown somewhere lol!

      • Lelechigyrl

        Nah..its just how things were going on in Chicago at that time. I am from Chicago and we had a big “love your blackness movement” going on in Hyde Park at that time. If you are from Chicago and lived in Hyde Park, you will remember all the hip little get togethers where that kind of stuff randomly happened.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      “what did you think about the part when at the little dinner party scene at his friends house my brother pulled out a drum and dancing commenced??”

      i was going to say “easily the worst and most contrived part of the movie”…until i remember that my circle of friends tend to have freestyle battles, kid n play dance offs, and random male on female lapdances during our game nights too.

      • http://verysmartbrothas.com Panama Jackson

        all that sh*t makes sense though. we like rap, grew up on House Party, and have full fledge arguments about Bria Myles. all of that is normal.

        drums, my ninja?? drums????

      • http://twitter.com/SmartFoxGirl SmartFoxGirl

        Yeah, my house too except the drum…and good to know we’re not the only ones who have old-school dance offs. lol

  • tezzybaby

    I was thinking about being first but then I realized I dont have anything poignant to say on this love jones topic, So I decided to read all the other articles you linked;
    1. You’re a busy ninja
    2. Good job on all of them, this line in particular ““Here’s to Valentine’s Day. F*ck you. And, well, thank you.” resonates deep within my soul and is a much better than my previous motto “Yes, Valentine’s day deserves to die and I hope it burns in h*ll” but that’s not on a bitter tip or anything *clears throat*
    3. that was a great interview on theRoot
    4. I dont know why im typing numbers
    5. Happy Valentine’s day Heffreoples!!!

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      1. i am.
      2. i still think v-day deserves to die and burn in hell
      3. thanks and sh*t
      4. copycat
      5. ?

    • tezzybaby

      Heffas + Heffros = Heffreoples

  • @milesfan79

    Yea if you had to define black love in terms of cinema Love Jones would be the definition of it. It was pretty realistic interms of real life mid 20s-early 30s relationship: you meet, vibe is there, sex comes into play, honeymoon stage, guy fcuks up, things change and relationship is tested.

    There is/was a running gag in college that if you wanted to sex a girl you invite her to your dorm room/apt and watch love jones. Most times if yall watched LJ there was great possibility something would pop off** lol. So ninjas would always keep a copy of LJ on deck and dared not lend it out bc they knew they would never get it back(i had friend that buought abt 5 copies bc he kept lending it out or losing it)

    Like you said the characters were cool and had characteristic we all could(or wanted to) relate to: liked jazz, slam poetry, debating men/women relationships etc. MOst men to this date want to sex “love jones” Nia long, she was at her prime in the film. And most women wanted a “renaissance man” like darius, a brother that could discuss the arts, knew his music, wrote poetry and wasn’t gay. So yea whats not to love about the movie?

    So hands down LJ is the probably the #1 or 2(if not LJ, love and basketball and/or the best man) on the list of majority of blk ppls “black romance movies”.

    **i won;t say exactly how many times its worked for me, but I can confirm that love jones did indeed help “set the mood” for me 90% of the time in my younger days.

    • Mo-VSS

      I don’t know if it was a clear cut case of “dude f-ks up” cuz she wasn’t a prize on her actions either. That’s precisely why I liked the movie.

      What’s unrealistic is when one person is the hero and the other the villain of the relationship. Those movies are the worst, cuz they keep people (read, mostly women) in a perpetual state of “my sh*t don’t stink” and have them feeling like they can do anything to anyone without repercussion. Relationships in the real world are complex and I thought LJ did a good job of making that clear to the audience.

      • V Renee

        I don’t know if it was a clear cut case of “dude f-ks up” cuz she wasn’t a prize on her actions either. That’s precisely why I liked the movie. .

        I share the same sentiments. I love that neither of them was perfect in the relationship.

        • http://www.pinchmycheekie.wordpress.com Cheekie

          Same.

      • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

        “I don’t know if it was a clear cut case of “dude f-ks up” cuz she wasn’t a prize on her actions either. That’s precisely why I liked the movie.”

        i’d agree with this

    • j.ivy

      AND he could cook!! Do not overlook the power of a man makin an omelet….hmmm chees omelets sound pretty good right now.

      • Leonie UK

        After Gaga’s Egg image no dairy for a week.

        • MsMelissa!

          ROFL

      • Ivy St.

        He doesn’t look like he can cook in real life. The way he slipped the omlette out of the pan, made me think it was his first time picking up a pan.
        I did laugh at the part when he was explaining how her chex was so good he woke up and cooked the next morning. lol!

    • http://twitter.com/SmartFoxGirl SmartFoxGirl

      You hit the nail on the head. I remember watching the movie and wondering where all the Darius Lovehall’s were at. lol

      • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

        lol, in the same fantasy universe where the ninas exist.

        • http://twitter.com/SmartFoxGirl SmartFoxGirl

          lol wait I know some Ninas though.

  • Be On It

    I heart Love Jones. It’s sad that back then, truly horrific black movies were as widespread as they are now, so a lot of people took it for granted. I liked how real it was, even with the unrealistic smoking.

    Anywho, Valentine’s Day haters need to get off that. You let one day a year get your knickers in a twist? Not that serious. But then again, as long as the SO pulls out all the stops for my bday in Jan, I’m a happy camper. Valentine’s day is jsut not worth worrying over.

    • Mo-VSS

      Thank you. It’s not really that serious.

    • Be On It

      ^^^ “ruly horrific black movies were not as widespread…”

      ^^ “Just”

      Whew, I think that’s the last time I try to post a little after midnight. I’ll just be super late and post after the comments have blown up.

    • V Renee

      “Not that serious. ”

      Agree! No one acts like this on Mother’s Day! I was going to include Father’s Day, but after the atrocities I witnessed last year on FB, I can’t quite say that.

      What about Sweetest Day….oh wait, I forgot it’s a Midwest holiday. Ha!

      • k-steez

        Oh. My. Goodness. Father’s Day on facebook is utter ridiculousness!! Just ’cause u let some broke, no-job having, girlfriend beating, wasn’t-taking-care-of-the-kids-he-already-had ninja bust in you, don’t mean u have the right to mess up everybody else’s day. What about the gazillion men that take great care of their children? You think they wanna see your “Happy Father’s Day to me cuz my baby father ain’t sh!t and I do all the work” status? And those fake well wishes…”Happy Fathers Day to all the REAL fathers and not to my baby daddy” …sheesh. Saddown somewhere. Nobody’s blowing up your newsfeed on Mother’s Day with stories of crazy, trifling-@ss women….phew. Ok. #rantover

        • Mo-VSS

          “Just ’cause u let some broke, no-job having, girlfriend beating, wasn’t-taking-care-of-the-kids-he-already-had ninja bust in you…”

          LMAO at work and they are looking at me like I’m crazy. Thanks for the laugh. Also, I had to block and/or un-friend some folks on father’s day last year because it was just that damn bad. Sheesh!

        • http://twitter.com/#!/NewYork2VA NY2VA

          DEAD at your soap box rant. I love it!

        • V Renee

          Bwhahahahahaha!

          But we are ><. The sh*t was flat out phuckery at it's finest.

    • http://verysmartbrothas.com The Champ

      ‘It’s sad that back then, truly horrific black movies were as widespread as they are now, so a lot of people took it for granted.”

      i think that they might have been. we just tend to remember the good movies.

      • Be On It

        Maybe so. Or maybe they were confined to straight to VHS (or DVD) and only on sale at your local barbershop. Nowadays straight f@ckery gets mainstream promotion and distribution.